I remember doing a presentation on healthy risk in one of my early child development classes. There is such thing as healthy risk and doing carefully! I love this so much! You’re doing great you two!

@jenniferperrault9836

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! Do you have any good resources to read on this by chance?

@CraftyNessi

Жыл бұрын

@@jenniferperrault9836 Hm, I’ll have to find the original presentation (it was like 6 years ago) and see what I used there but I’ll look at it and come back here!

@august8094

Жыл бұрын

Really interesting topic

@funsizedi88

Жыл бұрын

@@CraftyNessi yes pls! Mama of a 3 yr old who is turning into a mini me on risk taking. I want to have a healthy balance. My parents didn't so I pushed boundaries and ended up with mental rods, plates and screws. I'd like her to be able to push boundaries safely, I'm actively working towards being able to let her do that. Any help is appreciated

@emma_luce_0623

Жыл бұрын

Woah! 😂 I didn't expect to see you outside of the Unapologetic server!

This is true! I used to try to keep up with my older brothers. My favorite brother would climb a massive Oak tree to the top. My parents didn't even pay attention. I finally made it all the way to where my brother was, he cheered and promptly went back down. It took me an hour to get back down as I didn't have the span he did to reach one of the lower branches. I begged him to come help, he just said 'you got up there, you can get back down'. I finally got my toe on that branch and got down to both my brothers cheering for me. I was so proud of myself! I've never forgotten how incredible it was and that my brothers ran to our parents and told them the blow by blow story! It was awesome!

@adrianaavila8853

Жыл бұрын

Aww thats so sweet of a story. And look at you now! Continuing to tell it

@micheledimond

Жыл бұрын

@@adrianaavila8853 Thank you! I'm the only one left now of my family. I loved my brothers very much and miss them all the time.

@Jojo-pv3uf

Жыл бұрын

I love everything about this story!!!

@SgwiggleMonSquiggles

Жыл бұрын

That's so amazing

@marianaamor6319

Жыл бұрын

@@micheledimond I'm so sorry for your losses 💔

My confidence raised when I went into the military and had to jump off a cliff.

@nicolemartin8737

Жыл бұрын

I agree. The fear of the rappelling tower was definitely something I had to overcome. It was so fun when I finally did it!

@unicornpizza9875

Жыл бұрын

@@nicolemartin8737 thank you for your service 🙏 ❤️

@no-xx1hl

Жыл бұрын

what an exaggeration lol

@unicornpizza9875

Жыл бұрын

@@no-xx1hl bro sthu and leave. We don't need bozos like you.

@AravaxElvor

Жыл бұрын

@@no-xx1hl it probably seemed like a cliff at the time. I’m not afraid of heights at all but the high ropes course we all had to do in training scared a lot of people because they had that specific fear. I was looking forward to it personally, but everyone has their own cliff in life 🤓

I'm all for this! Everyone needs to know their own kid! My son was doing things as a 3 yo that made other moms panic and look at me sideways like I was a bad mom. My son has always had the capability and coordination. He is now 21. He has survived! 🤣🤣🤣🙌🙌🙌

@amy_janedoe2486

Жыл бұрын

I love this!!! My grandbaby who is not even 2 loves to climb my sofa and walk the back of it and then slide down the back on his belly, hang off and land on both feet on the ground..AND LANDS IT PERFECTLY EVERYTIME... I'll stand there and watch him from afar... If he falls it isn't that far and it is carpeted. He is always very careful and will only try it maybe 3 times max. I let him 🤷🏽‍♀️ he has survived every time 😉

@ShelleyFayles

Жыл бұрын

@@amy_janedoe2486 I love that! Exactly what I'm talking about!

@amy_janedoe2486

Жыл бұрын

@@ShelleyFayles we have got to let those babies figure out how to human no matter what they want to do( with in reason 🤣) no need to helicopter mom them ya know

@mb8219

Жыл бұрын

😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

@jessidurmis

Жыл бұрын

Yep you understand! Little ones are extremely capable if you let them! I have my 2 year old daughter say affirmations..one is “I am capable”

this was the biggest mistake my parents made with me, especially my mother (being so afraid for me). I'm the first child and my mom always tells stories that she wouldn't let me walk alone, it took me a while to learn how to walk, she wouldn't let me down on the floor and stuff like that. Today I'm 20 yo and I'm scared to death of stupid things, like walking down the street without my parents, if I'm with my siblings, cousins, uncles or friends, I'll feel in constant danger, if I'm with my parents I feel like they are there to protect me, I'm afraid of heights and of venturing into "dangerous" things. I don't go out of my comfort zone (dancing ballet), I don't eat anything other than what I ate when I was a child/ teenager bc I'm afraid to try new things (not only with foods), and I know it's not completely my parents' fault, in the sense that they didn't want to do this but just protect their little daughter, my mother feels terrible today seeing how I am but I'm trying to get better

@violetmyer9078

Жыл бұрын

I'm in the exact same boat, except I'm the baby. 21 and still can't drive bc I was afraid to do it til I was 20 (now I've been pushing my parents for the last year to help me get my license. Though nothing's happened). Jumping from a height taller than 1 and a half feet makes me anxious, I can't even ride a bike because my mom wouldn't let my dad try to teach me, i just started learning 2 months ago. I also feel like I cant walk outside by myself even though I live in low crime rate suburbia. I know they (mostly my mom) weren't trying to stunt my growth as an independent person (they feel bad about it now, my older brother is way worse than me), but I feel like I cant do anything by myself. I need someone to tell me what to do. It's awful. But I've been trying to push myself this last year, jumping from those short heights, climbing those trees that I never climbed as a kid(well, holding onto the truck or hanging from a low branch). It's frustrating to watch everyone your age become their own person and not be afraid to be a self-sufficient adult and you still feel like a child. But you have to be the person that pushes yourself to conquer those things because we're past the age that someone will help us take those steps. Take a swimming or cooking class if you need it, take those walks if you can. Do what you gotta do to be the person you want to be, teach yourself to be brave step-by-step

@yoface9079

Жыл бұрын

You should maybe write about your experience? It could help alot of people. Best of luck to you in learning to trust your intuition

@Bamboo_Roche

Жыл бұрын

Im the same! I’m 19 and I realized recently the reason why I’m so scared of everything. I thought it was because of a lack of motivation to « just get up and do things », a lack of effort, of willpower, of willingness to experience things. I’ve been taught (also especially by my mother) to fear the world and to be overly cautious about everything. My parents are the reason why I’m like this, it’s « their fault » for a lack of better words. It also took me a while to understand why, as an adult, it’s my responsibility to better myself, and not my parent’s, because they’re the ones that taught me everything. I’m an adult, therefore I’m responsible for my wellbeing, and it just sucks that I’ve been given shittier cards than what would be considered normal. The damage has been done, and I now have to fix it. I don’t blame them though. My parents always try their best, and what they did was the best they could do. I feel like simply realizing the reason we are like this is a huge first step to getting better. I wish you luck on your recovery and hopefully we both get to eventually experience life with less fear :)

@MeltingHeartsWaxMelts

Жыл бұрын

Hi, I’m the boomer raised 35 year old only child, that was born 7 years after the child that died and I was doubly blessed with Spina Bifida….don’t let anyone make you feel stupid for not “getting over it at ‘this age’”, ok? Idk when it ends but keep trying!

@thebigcheese5642

Жыл бұрын

My mom was the same. She made me terrified of swimming. I can still remember her telling me that if I’m not carful I’ll drown. Swimming still terrifies me to this day (unless I can stand in the pool), and it was embarrassing when I went to the pool with my friends when I was little and they asked me why I didn’t want to go in the deep end. I’m working on it though.

So so true. I hate when parents are terrified of everything. you climb with them to the highest playground thing and spot them

@JaneDoe-ip5yl

Жыл бұрын

@Nouveaux clearly I'm talking about a no issues child. A parent would know.

@brianneh1547

Жыл бұрын

@@JaneDoe-ip5yl And she’s saying don’t judge because just seeing a parent being protective doesn’t tell you everything about that child or the parent. What if that child has had a serious accident in the past, what if they have a learning disability, what if they have an illness you can’t see? You don’t know everything about everyone.

@Pinkalooo

Жыл бұрын

@@brianneh1547 They're not judging, they're saying when parents who don't need to be so protective are helicopter parents. Obviously it makes sense for a kid that has a disability or isn't as careful to be watched a little more closely, but they're not talking about those kids.

I love how you squeezed that “USEFULLY NEGLECTFUL” sound bit in the end 🤣👌👌👌👌🤣🤷‍♂️🧠

Oooh this is important! My mom was always afraid that I would hurt myself and when I did she would get all worked up! I would go out of my way to do dangerous things (carefully) and wouldn't tell her if I got hurt in the process unless it was stitch worthy 😭🤣 she'd find a bruise and be piiiisssed

@peacelovetennis10

Жыл бұрын

Haha kids are always covered in random bruises. Heck I’m still always covered in random bruises and I’m almost 30 😂

@jenivettebigham7060

Жыл бұрын

I was raised by my grandma and she sheltered me so much. I wasn't even allowed to mop when I was 10 she was scared I would slip. I'm such a worrier as an adult. But I do try and let my kids do a bit more adventurous things safely!

@ladyrayylin3268

Жыл бұрын

My whole life my parents would keep me inside away from anything too dangerous because I was “a young little lady”. Honestly, I was 20 before my first car because my dad drilled into my head that a lady shouldn’t be able to drive because it’s too dangerous. She needs a chauffeur and should have to ask her husband if he would accompany her wherever she was going. Let’s just say I’m still adjusting lol it was so bad that I was afraid to even pump gas alone because they taught me I wouldn’t be okay. We made it though! Now I do everything I possibly can to avoid asking for help… ever. Which is probably equally as unhealthy 😂

@jrbabae

Жыл бұрын

This was exactly me growing up, bruised, bandaged myself, monkey bar fingers. Unless I needed real stitches, it happened due to being stubborn not playing around tho.

Drew will be an athlete like her parents!!

@justmemandalee

Жыл бұрын

We never really know- honestly. I raised two with this same approach, 1 went in the athletic direction and 1 was not into it at all- didnt even like team sports- 🤷🏼‍♀️

@drewyflynn6778

Жыл бұрын

My parents were in fact not athletes

@that_wierd1619

Жыл бұрын

​@@drewyflynn6778 lol

@geekchick4859

Жыл бұрын

Drew will grow up to be who SHE wants to be.

@alivy149

8 ай бұрын

The great thing about Shawn and Andrew is they let their kids try things but they're not the type of parents who would force their kids to do something.

love this voice over. definitely needed to hear it. and i SWEAR baby girls are absolutely fearless

Absolute truth. I also love that baby girl in the pool taking that step off the edge.

I saw another mom on KZread call her toddlers “little suicidal ninjas” and as a mom of three that couldn’t be more true. 😂 Thankfully we never had any ER trips but man kids keep you on your toes.

@hannav6989

Жыл бұрын

I follow her and those exact words have been in my mind lately, my 2-year old twins fit into that description 1000% 🤣🤣🤣

Me thinking that one guy dropped his kid when she was just sliding across the floor 😂😂😂😂

My ex military dad taught all the grandkids to climb very early, but telling them to keep 3 points of contact. My small 2 yr old daughter Rose could be heard half way up a ladder saying "fwee points of contact, Wose-Wose." She doesnt need to fear it, she has a plan. Its marvelous.

I love the Haha picture behind the crib. So important, laughter is VERY healing for the owies and booboos. ❤🥰

Yes! This is so healthy for children. And talk about a confidence building way to raise a child. You guys rock parenting!

"Doing dangerous things carefully." Love that!! I'm such a worrier when it comes to my niece and nephew. I need to learn to let go if they're being careful!!

Very thought provoking and interesting! Not always easy to do as a parent but remembering my childhood, there is some definite logic behind what they said.

I was taught to tell children to "be safe" instead of "be careful". Being careful was seen as a hindrance and studies show kids are more likely to get injured when told "be careful" because they now know that the caregiver views what they are doing as unsafe. By telling them to "be safe", they get to define what feels safe for themselves, ask for help when they begin to feel unsafe and push their own comfort zones while building confidence. It makes a huge difference for little kids to know what makes them feel safe and how to safely navigate the world with confidence.

She is a force to be reckoned with ♥️

She’s fearless! So awesome. That little half flip into the pool! Awesome!

@missylewis1453

11 ай бұрын

😮😊😎🤩

Love this! Seeing that No Lifeguard on Duty sign made me think ‘but daddy IS on duty’. That’s the difference! When we don’t outsource our parenting, our kids can feel safe when they fail and get hurt.

Love it. I let my 12 year old cut her own pumpkin 🎃 fully unassisted the other day. I watched and mentioned some safer ways to do some things, but SHE did it. And her pumpkin won the family carving contest out of 6. 😊 so proud….

That's great parenting, teaching them while they're young! Awesome job Mom and Dad! ❤️

This is so true!!! My perfect niece is so freaking fearless, it's terrifying! But, she's gotta learn.

Wow this was eye opening. I didn’t know how to feel about this issue before. I’ve felt conflicted and confused about it for a while. But it’s brilliant and sage advice. Be there to spot them and observe and ready to intervene if they need it, but do t actually intervene as long as they’re being careful. Why? Because it’s how they expand their competence, develop self mastery, confidence, skills and hone their risk assessment, style assessment and skills of judgment and discernment. Truly eye opening. Thank you for this. Shawn. Andrew. And Jordan Peterson (whom I don’t always agree with but whose crusade against censorship and against the fascist cancel culture and silencing tactics myopic wokeism I totally agree with and support, and who I believe has demonstrated immense courage in taking on such issues.❤) . (Edit to fix an autocorrect error which turned “sage” into “safe”. I didn’t ask you to do that, Autocorrect! )

I love that my mom let us explore, play in the mud, climb trees, run around with no shoes on (in our yard) and just do things. So many kids today just grow up with a tablet in front of them. While technology can be helpful for some while learning I think the first years of a child’s life should just be playing outside and learning hands on.

I struggle with this. I’m a worry wart. I fear so much for my kids safety.

@PatLund

Жыл бұрын

They'll be fine. Kids are durable.

@krisdiane

Жыл бұрын

I have no idea how old your kids are, but I have four of them from 10-20 and I have terrible anxiety as well as ocd. I tried to let my kids do things, but I was always afraid and there was a lot that I could not tolerate and would stop them from. Even when I didn't stop them I would be so afraid at times it felt like it would kill me. I'm talking tunnel vision, forgetting how to breathe, tears in my eyes, unable to pretend to be normal. Now none of them trust themselves and their own abilities, and it even extends beyond physical abilities though I always encouraged and supported those other things. I fully blame myself for this. If your fear is this extreme, please seek therapy, if you can, to move past this. They'll pick up on your fear and internalize it as a lack of confidence in their abilities. 💗

@CWall-tv7gm

Жыл бұрын

@@krisdiane you are the kindest and bravest to tell me that. I really appreciate that. That took courage. I too have 4, I don’t have anxiety to that extreme and don’t prevent my kids from trying things like you mentioned. I do let them play, cautiously I let them explore the world, not to the level that the east family does and I envy them for that. Thank you for your kind words and I wish you all the best in life❤️❤️ Edit: my kids are 11 months to 12 years old:)

@lunabelletheinsane

Жыл бұрын

And that's okay - but if they are okay - just watch them carefully and only interfere if it's gonna lead to a pretty bad accident. Bruises that are small are okay - it's part of growing up!

@amandamills6181

Жыл бұрын

@@krisdiane Don't beat yourself up too much. Maya Angelou once said "You can only do the best you know how to do at the time." Present-day you can't go back in time & do things differently, so just move forward doing the best you can now. You obviously love your kids, & intend to do right by them, & that's the best anyone can do. They're loved, & that's the most important thing. My mom always feared she'd screwed us up, but all we feel is that she was a wonderful, beautiful blessing! Take care of yourself, so you can be even better for them! I don't know u, but I wish I could give u a hug right now.

Yes! Let them climb trees, fall off a bike and investigate the backyard.

I fell approx 2-3 metres onto concrete from the side of a pool when my friends Mum yelled my name and startled me as a child.

This mom. Needed this.

My parents let me climb to my hearts content as a kid and it was the funnest thing. My mum said one time I was right up high on a spider web play equipment and a mother next to her said "omg! Someone's let their child up there" and my mum was like 👀

Love this family. I love how big you make your kids look next to you then dad comes in and makes them tiny again 😂💖

*Kid on the roof* “You just gotta let them do dangerous things confidently”

Its so cool to see 2 parents who are athletically gifted teach it to their children. And it looks so natural for all 3 of them. Awesome stuff ❤

This is the most truest thing I’ve heard yet. Trust me I was one of those hawk eye moms. I swear my kids said I knew what was going to happen before it actually happened lol. But even though I was on top of my kids ALL THE TIME I still allowed them to do dangerous things carefully

Rescuing. That's a hard one. I think we think we're being helpful and keeping them safe. ❤️

I’m gonna have to incorporate this into my daily routine because I’m sooooo terrible 😫😫 I’m the one who’s hovering round the kid so they won’t fall 😫

@museobettywhatley8705

Жыл бұрын

I know it's really hard to feel so scared, but my mom always said kids are more likely to fall off a cliff if they've never fallen off a swing (both physically and metaphorically).

@meera2531

11 ай бұрын

​@@museobettywhatley8705Those are wise words!

I had to put foam mats, mattresses, bean bags, bumpers, basically child proof everything in my living room because my youngest (second child) doesn't care at all and would climb, jump, run all over the place. He still get bruises from other people house when he fall and hit his forehead on the floor. He's still the same at 4 years old but he's better at balancing and climbing compared to his eldest brother who's 8 and scared of everything. He's a risk taker and very brave boy. Completely opposite from my angel like eldest boy. Kids are so cute with their different personalities 😄

Perfect message with Perfect examples. 👏

Providing and Teaching safety are extremely important

This is a powerfull parenting message.

So true 👏👏👏 it irks me to no end to see parents reprimanding their kids for taking careful risks

I agree! Challenges builds Their character! ❤

100% agree with this -when I was child I was encouraged to climb trees, go on my bikes, go swimming in the deep end. Now I work on childcare we have Forest school sessions where the children are allowed to explore the forest (safely) and the amount of parents who say to us but you dont let them climb trees do you ? Or they dont go out if it's raining right ? Errrr yup we do 😅😅 if they hurt themselves they hurt themselves it's apart of life growing up and getting hurt but getting back up no matter what. It builds their self-confidence, resilience, the need to explore, problem solving skills, etc... Cant stand when parents molly coddle their kids-where there not even allowed to play in their own back garden because they could hurt themselves 😅😅

I love this so much! Her confidence and self esteem are growing by the second!

"Just afraid to be afraid for them." 👏🏽👏🏽

Drew reminds me of shawn! Little girl has no fear

Why no one told me this when my child was baby? I was too careful and now my child is afraid of everything and it breaks my heart. This is the best advice for every parent.

Not only are you teaching your kids to be brave you’re teaching them how to navigate safely in this dangerous world. They are their with their parents to catch them. Also teaching them that mom and dad are their safety nets. This is so beautiful and important. Thank you. ❤

That’s why I love the Montessori philosophy of education. Don’t do with the child can do for her/himself.

This was my college presentation on taking risks vs not allowing risk taking. Taking risks is mandatory. My only rule was if it required climbing, they had to climb up by theirselves (think trees and monkey bars). If they wanted to hang or do a pull up, I’d spot them. My kids also would use hammers and nails to “build” things at 2&3. By the time they were 8, they could use any power tool we had. We always supervised, especially with saws. Young kids are capable of so much more than most parents give kids credit for.

When the parent slid her on the ground the phone was angled so it looked like threw her off a cliff. My heart DROPPED *The first time*

One of the best parental advice I've ever heard.

these two are awesome parents. an inspiration.

I knew I liked you guys and this has absolutely cemented that for me, God bless! ❤️

This is so true! 💗 You are doing an incredible job raising your two amazing children.

Soo true We raised a kid that got his solo pilot license before his drivers license. He’s flying for United now. That was so scary letting him do dangerous stuff safely.

Thank you for sharing this 👍🏽👌🏽

My parents were like this and more, dad being an ex army raider and paratrooper helped a lot probably. Thanks to him/them, i did a lot of things since i was little (and they're continuing now, like parachuting etc), i worked a lot on my endurance and well being overall and i'm always experimenting. We can't teach our kids to fear everything without letting them know what things there are out there. We can be cautious, while still being able to enjoy life and its many experiences.

Love this!!!❤ It truely does teach them how to be confident in themselves and to learn what THEIR comfort limits are. They can also learn a lot more problem solving skills when they do things on their own when faced with challenging situation that pushes them.

Amen!!! Good thing and thoughts to put into the world. Good job mom and dad!!!

So true! if parents cannot create a safe place for kids to take risks, many will grow up to be afraid of taking them. (I also love how you can tell this child is being raised by athletes, especially the couch walk with Shawn. That is precious.)

Amen ur so right. My parents did just that for my brother, my self and our sister and now those two have kids of there own and well my sister not so much but my brother is keep it going. But with me as the uncle to all six kids I’m helping them. Haha. Xx

This is so true ...I have 3 boys and for sure this is so true...they are so strong and independent.....

Jordan and Theo are both gems of our time

I love this so much! My 5 children are 30-41 years old now, this is exactly how we raised our kids and they are all now 5 highly educated, highly qualified, highly functioning humans and I couldn’t be more proud!

"Usefully neglectful" 😅 I like that.

Its actually really good for kids brain and physical development to be upside down, tumble around, jump etc. That Dad urge to yeet your kid in the air or onto soft surfaces is actually doing them a solid 👌🏼👌🏼

Wisest words from an elderly lady to me while sons climbing up a tall metal slide. Wave when they get to the top & look at something away from them so they don't see your fear. I have difficulties climbing more than two rings up a ladder. She was a stranger & I thank her for her wisdom. My now grown sons can do anything they have an interest in.

Brilliant work guys!! You are raising resilient, confident kids who will know themselves beautifully. Awesome.

Yup this is my favorite time with my kids. It builds a bond of trust and confidence. They know I’m there when they fall and they know they can build the confidence to accomplish the task on their own once they figured it out

That little blue maxi skirt and top outfit is adorably CUTE!!!

this is literally my favorite thing about Shawn and Andrew's parenting. Shes done this from the very beginning and I remember thinking she handled that so well (kid almost doing something that could have ended badly) she didn't panic, she didn't get loud. She didn't make drew think whatever thing that just happened was bad or scary or fearful. Its a much less anxiety filled childhood for the kiddos.

I saw a huge difference in parenting styles between my 4 kids. There’s 10 years between my eldest son & youngest daughter. My sons were always outside playing, riding bikes, exploring, etc. . I did the same with my youngest two… BUT the gossip and side eye I received from the younger helicopter parents was unnerving! Apparently I was a terrible mother! My kids were taught how to swim as babies, and now ski, wake surf, rock climb, ride motorcycles, etc … and my eldest son is a helicopter pilot & instructor at Southern Utah University. Yup… terrible mom here. 🙋‍♀️😅

Being the oldest, my favorite one was the crawling under the table thing for my siblings. My step mom would try to tell them to stop climbing under the table before they bumped their heads and my dad would tell her "Don't say nothing to him, once he bumps his head I bet you he'll never go under the table again".. and what do you know, they all bumped their head and never went under the table again. Cried their eyes out😂

This is very true! Unless of course it's life-threatening or they're going to break a bone leave them alone to learn!

Being a gymnist will come naturally 😊

When I was 3 I taught myself how to swim 🏊‍♀️. I some how managed to get to the backyard and form a plan… in a hand I had mittens that were connected with yarn string and in the other hand a plan. Step 1- tie the mittens around the metal pool handle bars in the shallow end. Step 2- once in place hold the mitten free mitten (keep in mind they are connect by a string and I was doing this right next to the pool stairs) and Jump into pool Step 3- learn to tread water (but in case of drowning pull my self out of water.) I LITERALLY THOUGHT THIS THROUGH AND DID IT BY MY SELF… learned to tread water and was so excited I ran into the house and pulled my parents out side to show them my ‘plan’… my mom almost had a heart attack. And the reason for my determination to learn to swim… we had a pool party days prior and 7 years old could swim and I was in a floaty and couldn’t play with them… that’s the reason… I couldn’t join the 7 year olds… 😶‍🌫️. I also learned how to climb a tree around this age because my dad believes in “I’m not letting you win, you have to earn it.”… so for hind and seek he’d climb the tree in the front yard. I found a LOW handling branch (nearly touching the ground) and would shimmy up the branch… then dad would jump down 😤.

I teach horseback riding lessons. I always tell the parents to NOT get involved in the case of a fall until I say (usually if the student gets hurt). If the student is ok and just needs a breather before remounting, a over-coddling parents makes the situation into a chaotic mess rather than a learning experience.

I work with kids, and the amount of times I've seen them do something I believed to be dangerous, I was terrified. But my coworker said "unless you outright know they will be injured don't interfere" and they were correct. Most of the kids I know now a days are coddled by they're parents, and don't understand that not everything in the world will hurt them intentionally. If a child is allowed to grow on they're own, in certain situations, they become accustomed to what is truly a danger to them and what isn't.

When I was around 5, my daddy took me to Chimney rock. We went to the highest point of the mountain, so high they put bars up so that people wouldn’t fall off. It’s still like that today and I’m pretty sure they don’t let ppl go up their anymore, but anyhow, I climbed up on those bars so I could see the ground better. My daddy said he was scared to say anything from where he was bc he was afraid he may startle me and I would fall.He came over to me, then grabbed me from behind. He then told me, you shouldn’t have done that, you could’ve fell. “ it’s dangerous”. He approached the situation accordingly and I’m grateful . I’m still alive! Lol

I'm a younger first time mother to a 9 month old and I'm so happy I saw this I really needed to know this. I wish there was more honest parenting advice likes this

I work in an infant room at a daycare, ages 6 weeks to 16 months, the older kiddos are always climbing and doing crazy things, if I discover them doing something dangerous (one loves to climb into our baby swings on their own) I slowly move towards them and repeat “pay attention to what you’re doing” as I creep towards them to get them out of the situation. Instead of freaking out and freaking them out. That’s when they get hurt.

yeah my little cousin is afraid of nearly everything. slides, swings, stairs, jumping, falling, climbing, etc etc. i feel like some of it is natural because even as a toddler she was afraid of walking without holding onto something but it doesn’t help that her parents freak out whenever there’s a possibility of her getting hurt. it’s sad to see her miss out on the things all the other kids her age love doing

Shawn johnson using a jordan peterson audio? My two favorite legends ❤

Love it!! My boys do some crazy dangerous stuff especially at parks. I usually just look away. They are supervised. When I get nervous though I know it will make them lose concentration. When I am watching them I see such intense concentration, it's fascinating scary but fascinating

Finally! Someone said in a way my parents may understand. Because telling them “you’re boomers..leave my kids and their playing alone” isn’t doing it.

Excellent Narration.

Very smart man!! I just love listening to him. ❤

JP 🙌🏼

My parents always tell me stories of how when i was little i would climb on top of the kitchen counters to grab staff from the cabinets and to get off all on my own i would lower one leg at a time instead of just jumping off (probably because i'd seen people in movies do the same thing) They never stopped me I never got hurt Worked out great

I don't necessarily like JBP and I certainly don't agree with everything he has to say, but I really do think this is a valuable raising method. My sister was a force of nature, no matter how worried my parents were, she WOULD do back handsprings off of our trampoline. She'd run, flip, dance and rollerblade until something got broken, and then do it again, no one could stop her, and she's now a confident, bright professional dancer. Now, then there was me, I was always much calmer and more prone to anxiety and fear, but I wanted to do the things my sister did, and given the chance, she would teach me, slow and steady. But as soon as my mom saw her teaching me how to do simple flips on our trampoline (she was already old enough to have started helping out with the small kids in her gymnastics, so she really was so careful with me), she'd freak out and project all of her fears on me, and by god I TOTALLY get it. My sweet, sweet mother knew I wasn't as stubborn as my sister, and she knew I'd probably be completely freaked out if I ever got injured, but I never got a chance to conquer those fears, and that makes me kind of sad. I never got confident in my body, I never trusted it or got to really know what it could do, I stopped gymnastics early and never thought my body was made for doing dance or sports. Sure, as my mother, my soul has always been in arts, books and music, but yeah, I wish I would've gotten the chance to move and experience with my body more. I got my first cast at 24 (when my drunk friend had ran with me in his arms and tripped on his own foot lmao), and it didn't kill me. Wish I had known that as a kid.

This is such a great and important lesson. I’ll definitely use it later on in the future if I’m a parent.

My son is a skateboarder & always doing dangerous tricks. I tried to keep him safe but it didn’t work. The best thing I did was teach him how to fall in the safest way possible. Now that my kids are young adults, this is the best lesson I have taught them and has become a metaphor for how My husband and I parent all of my fearless and hard headed children. But man, as a parent this is so hard to do! I want so bad to stop them from falling …

I was in a design class, with a project to make a kitchen tool for kids. Someone presented a very conservative design since “I would never let my baby sister be in any danger”. The professor then pointed out that children need to be exposed to a level of danger in order to grow, hence why he made us design kitchen tools and not toys. He was right; it was our job to think of ways where a 6 yo could learn blade safety and other such skills without giving them a giant knife. It’s a fine line to walk, but that’s our job as the adults.

That first clip is absolutely hilarious 😂

She will ace those hold bar contests!

Kudos to her confidence I pray she never loses that

So precious! Looks like Drew is having a ball!🫶🏻💔🙌🏻