Narcissistic marriages will fail not from the spouse that is enduring the abuse but ultimately the Narcissistic spouse will discard and monkey branch. Ultimately you can show them grace,empathy, unconditional love, support etc and it will never be enough to fill the void with in them and they will seek new supply in another partner. This also leads to limerence and that dopamine fix from another partner.

I loved for 25 years ~ I became very ill. He wasn’t open to therapy and we couldn’t get NOWHERE in conversation ~ nowhere! Jesus is there only true help

My wife was married to me and I was the narcissist. Or at keast I had the behaviors as one and for so long I wouldn't recognize or admit my own narcissistic ways. Can't get help if you can't take accountability

@beautifullybliss

17 күн бұрын

Hey can you expound on how you started to become self aware. Are you still married and what can I do as a wife married to a man that has these behaviors but no accountability? I appreciate you for being vulnerable to share.❤

My wife called me a narc and told me to look up the word. I did. I found lots of irony in that.

Most people will never meet or even recognize a real diagnosed narcissist.

Kimberly I would like to suggest you do a interview with Dr Ramani on this subject.

@Dupra1980

Ай бұрын

I was coming to say this! There are so many subcategories.

@hereim5648

Ай бұрын

Dr. Ramani will not approve Kimberly.

@timothytrudgen8881

Ай бұрын

​@hereim5648 I reckon she will she is also pretty understanding of those with narcissistic pd.

@tasnuvazarinmou9827

Ай бұрын

you are right. this colab can clarify a lot of queries I blv

People don't go to evaluate themselves if they're narcissist or not. Marriage Helper always don't emphasize the abuse narcissist brings to the relationship. MH always say you can overcome them with love. Sure. But how long? Until you became insane and mentally crippled? You should be very very patient with narcissist but if they don't take responsibility for years then do something, set boundaries, save yourself. If you don't do any of these, then the phase comes when narcissist will discard you. Narcissist does love bombing (gains trust), then devaluing and then discarding you.

Nope. Tried that. He cheated for years and then he left overnight.

@Broke.But.Handsome

2 ай бұрын

Whoa. Sorry to hear that

Feeling like I was confident and strong prior to betrayal of my spouse. Now, after listening I think I have falling into the Vulnerable narcissism category as the betrayal left me questioning everything.

Such great advice on this episode! Too many people just want to monetize off of the feel-good trend of labeling someone a 'narcissist' so that in your HURT, you can justify doing terrible things to HARM your spouse, your children, and ultimately yourself.... but very few people will help you to understand WHAT is happening and help you to HEAL a broken marriage like you do. Thank you for all that you do!!!

@timothytrudgen8881

Ай бұрын

Labelling people is actually a sign of shame wounding (low self-esteem). Those who want to label are the ones who need to be watched. Healthy people look at the traits in themselves. There is a line that is crossed though when Labelling is needed. Once real abuse is identified so that we protect ourselves appropriately. Problem is seeing abuse everywhere can be a trap. You need experienced advisors to help decernment. People who will report your own faults as well as the abuse you may be experiencing.

I ❤ Dr. Beams. He is so good and trust what he says. I listen to all of his vides.

I kind of do think this. But I also think a majority of the American population leans in this direction as well.

Satan is a narcissist

I thank you so much I've tried to understand the complexity of narcissism in my life. Your podcast has been really really good for me. There is hope. You have made it easier to relate this in my life. Again thanks for doing the show.

They know how to manipulate others, including psychologists so many will not be diagnosed, and even if u stay and they do therapy, they will always hurt u, because in the end, they won't actually do therapy 😢😢😢😢

@timothytrudgen8881

Ай бұрын

True. A very good psychologist is needed and the psychologist must interview the spouse and preferably other trusted family members. The reality of lies and abuse has to come to light.

@tamradawnhyderamblintam

23 күн бұрын

Therapy, relationship books, and especially this channel, only made him more sophisticated at deniability, blame shifting and appearing innocent and even victimized to others. Initially he was unconscientious and unskilled in relationships. It actually got worse when he was unconscientious and knowledgeable. He learned how to say the right things in the right way while doing the same or worse damage. Everything, even good counsel, was weaponized.

You are assuming that the partner hasn’t tried to “love” in every way possible to reach an emotionally immature, empathy lacking, spouse for decades! and unless that narcissistic person wants to take responsibility for their own abusive ways and relational neglect, all you get is two sick people.

In short narcissism is a type of person always think their self better than others. They never acknowledge mistakes. Yong sabihan ko na sa amin walang word na sorry. ang tataas ng mga pride. What I say is what I said, period. Napaka superior. Akala mo perfect hindi nagkamali. Kailangan lumuhod ka at dapat ako ang masunod wala kang say. At bakit. Hindi ba ako tao noong una kaming nagkita. Ano ang laki ng nagbago yong pera sa wala pang pera kilalang kilaka ka ngayon na may pera na aba..parang ang liit na ng tingin sayo. Tandaan mo kahit kelan hindi ako nagmanakaawa para asawahin ako hindi rin napikot kasi na buntis. We both make a decision and start everything. Napa consuderate ako sa lahat ng bahay pero wag nma akong apakan kasi pareho tayong wala at pareho tayong umangat. Sabihin nlang mas marami kang nagawa kasi sigaw ka ng sigaw pero tumulong ako sa lahat.

sometimes kem is not practical

The evils spewed and the constant sabatage, no thank you. Better off alone.