Do’s and Don’ts - Talking to a Cancer Patient
Let me help you find the right things to say when someone you know has cancer.
As an active person in the cancer community, I've learned a lot about the good and bad ways to talk with someone that has cancer. I start out with the helpful things to say and do, then talk about the stuff that isn't helpful and explain why. I'm not ashamed to admit that I'm guilty of having said some of the things on the "Don't say" list, but I've learned from my mistakes and hopefully am better at trying to help others. Let's help a cancer patient feel a little more understood!
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0:00 Intro
0:48 Things to say to a cancer patient
3:30 What NOT to say to a cancer patient
6:35 DO NOT EVER say this one!
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I actually would rather cancer not be mentioned at all in conversation...albeit positive. I could be having a total outrageously awesome day and run into someone who may say something to me from the “what to say list” and it brings me right into the world that I may be experiencing some freedom from at that moment. I feel singled out and different. My favorite is “Hey Donelle, it’s so good to see you. I’m so happy l ran into you today.”..or something to that effect. That is empowering for me because it is a normal thing to say when you see someone. I feel my best when I am treated and talked to like anyone else. 🌺🥰
@SurvivorJelena
3 жыл бұрын
Very true. Being treated like everyone else is nice.
I found it hard to deal with other people's emotions when I had cancer. A friend told me that they kept waiting for me to cry. I didn't cry because I was too focused on doing what I could because my oldest child was 9.
Always enjoy your videos, Jelena, thanks for sharing! The one I really hate is:"Oh, that's OK, your hair will grow back." That doesn't help me NOW, when my head is freezing under my scarf, cap or wig, or that most people assume scarves are something religious, that they themselves don't get stared at every day, especially on days where one just wants to blend in, etc.
Thank you so much, I have heard most on both lists. I have advanced cancer and heard 2 more that do not feel good 1. You are strong and you’ve got this. - this is not a challenge I signed up for and I feel drained not strong and my prognosis is uncertain. 2. At least you know and can prepare ( for my death) . I think that goes with the at least but leaves me especially speechless.
@SurvivorJelena
7 ай бұрын
Oh jeez, #2 🤨🙄
At one of my appointments i talked to a woman who said better a bag on the abdomen than a name notice on your toe!!!!my kind of humor..😂
@SurvivorJelena
3 жыл бұрын
So true!
Thank you so much for this video!!! I was just diagnosed with CML, and while everyone means well, I hear a lot of the “don’ts”. I shared your video with my support people and it definitely has helped everyone. Be well You are loved 🌻❤️🌻
@SurvivorJelena
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome! Hearing this makes me so happy 😀 Hopefully your support people feel much more confident now in how to help and talk to you 💙
@jackstevens585
3 жыл бұрын
@@SurvivorJelena it definitely went a long way in their understanding!!! Again thank you for sharing your courage. You are inspiring ❤️❤️❤️
Waiting for my first ct scan. 30 years old sigmoid colon cancer. Your videos really help me.
@SurvivorJelena
3 жыл бұрын
The waiting game is no fun. I'm so glad to hear my videos have been helpful for you.
Happy New Year! Really good advice for family and friends!
@SurvivorJelena
3 жыл бұрын
Happy New Year to you too!
I hope you are well. Happy New Year to you and your husband and daughter 💖💖💖
@SurvivorJelena
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I am! Happy New Year to you too.
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