What do y’all think of the new on-screen citations? Helpful? 👍 Superfluous? 🙈

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Each video I try something new with the goal to make the videos even better. This one has more infographics, but also the on-screen citations, and (some) visual chapter headings (which were also in the last video)

@JustOverTheHorizon

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez I like them!

@KW-vy1rf

2 жыл бұрын

I like them! I think it's a really fun effect.

@KalebSmart

2 жыл бұрын

I really like on-screen citations. A lot the video essayists I watch do this, and the visual queue helps remind me to check the description for the sources after the video

@Rabbit-the-One

2 жыл бұрын

I also like them

Loved the video. I grew up with an absent father and a mother who passed when I was 16. I now have 3 boys and a step daughter of my own. I can’t even describe the difference in their mental and emotional health compared to my own at that age. My hope is that I am the root of a new, healthy, family tree that will have changed for generations to come. Ps: congrats on becoming a father Trace!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

This comment 😭💖 thank you for sharing

@Berxwedan.

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing and I wish your children’s a great future.

My dad at 25 passed away when I was 2, my sister was 2 months. My mom was both, was it perfect?, no but we both turned out pretty good. I'm 28 now two weeks, engaged, with a job I love. I owe my mom my life. I hope to one day be even half the parent she was.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Amazing 💖

Present. Involved. Engaged. Dads, be P.I.E.!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

YESSSS

@frumSrelliK_TV

2 жыл бұрын

I support P.I.E. !

I will definitely raise my kids, I am very science and engineering oriented because I see the importance in those fields and want to make sure that I will educate them in those fields

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Present! Involved! Engaged! 💖🙌

My father passed away when I was 15, now I'm 21. When I had my dad with me, I was fearless, I did things most teens do, without major fear of getting injured. I traveled out of, town, out of state. After that, I'm not so open anymore, more like a cat in a box. I don't feel confident even when leaving my village. My mom is strong and protecting, but my thinking and feelings are not like that time anymore.

@joythought

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing that. You obviously loved your father and miss him a lot. I am a father of two kids. One is 13 and the other is 6. I have been their primary carer nearly all their lives and I worry how they would go if I died before they both reach adulthood. I would want them to always know how proud of them I am and how much I believe that they can work it out in the end. I believe in them and I bet your dad felt something like that also about you. I wish you the best and thanks again for sharing your experience. Every day is a new opportunity. Some days we are able to grasp that opportunity and some days we can't. That's ok. I wish you well.

@parveshkhatri1027

2 жыл бұрын

@@joythought ❤️

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Y’all 😭 this interaction is beautiful

@justanotherperson2960

2 жыл бұрын

@@joythought Thank you sir for your statements. I lost my dad at 14 and it's been 13 years now. Very difficult times and I believe a father's role is irreplaceable for most situations in a family structure. Your comment made me feel a bit relaxed. So a heartfelt thank you. Your children are lucky to have a father like you.

@justanotherperson2960

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez Congratulations on becoming a dad, Trace!! Thank you for making this video.

Oh man, I missed your content :) Congratulations on becoming a father! I need to admit though, watching this as a kid who had alcoholic, abusive father this hits hard :(

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry about that and thank you for sharing 🥺 We can only control ourselves. We have addiction in my family as well. If you choose to have a family, hopefully you (we!) can make different choices ❤️

Im not thinking about children that often but watching this video just put a flame into me. To be a good dad one day. To be there. No matter how hard it will be

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Nice!!

Just signed up for Curiosity Stream bud. Thanks for the promo. Also congrats on becoming a dad!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome aboard, and thank you! Hopefully I'll get sleep again someday

Congratulations on the new offspring! I'm sure you're going to be really fun, science based parents.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I hope so. thank you!!

Congratulations Trace! Sorry, I'm trying to think of something sincere to say about you becoming a father, but all I can think of are dad jokes.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

PLEASE SHARE ALL DAD JOKES

Congratulation Dad. I think this will be your best Christmas yet, with better ones to come. I'm not a dad, but I'm grandfathered in by marrying a mom. You know that expression "If I had known how much fun grandkids were I'd have had them first"? That's me!!!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Bahahahha 1. Congrats on marrying into a family and 2. I love that saying, and hadn’t heard it so thanks for teaching me something new! 💖

This video makes me wanna be a better dad. Which, as a single lady, might be kinda hard.... Good job Trace and congrats on the kid!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Just beeeee yourself 🐝

@emceeboogieboots1608

2 жыл бұрын

Well it's all about parenting I guess. Keep being a great one and your kids should be great💛

Thank goodness we have the hero trace to tell us everything he does right.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

HA not even a little

Congratulations Trace!! Your kids would be lucky to have you as a father.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you

Congratulations to you and your growing family! Parenting is the greatest experience if you do it right, and I can tell you're determined to do it right! Also, your birth story sounds hilarious. Is there somewhere we can here that other story?

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Great Q! I’ll have to think where makes sense… maybe a short? I dunno

Yes...As I pay bills at 12am PST..After splitting wood all weekend and trimming trees in prep of new roof on the house....Congrats on being in the crew Trace!...Its challenging and amazing on all levels...Just enjoy all of it!!! (for reference daughter is almost 8yrs old) She was even out helping and loves running the wood splitter 😀

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I loved when we rented the wood chippers; it smelled so good!!

My father was literally a absent father.I feel really sad about it.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry about that. Hopefully you’ve found ways to cope and friends and family (even family you’ve made for yourself) to give you comfort 💖 thanks for sharing

Congrats! Awesome video and been a subscriber to Curiosity and Nebula for a bit. I miss the description/comments available on KZread when I watch videos there.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

It's definitely something we've talked about adding to Nebula -- but right now we're thinking of it as more of a streaming service than a social platform. I'll make a mental note! 👍

@JonathanBates

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez Definitely understand trying to keep it clean and easy to use!

I'm so glad to see one of my fave peoples before the holidays! Now I know what or whom has been keeping you busy. :) Congrats!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Ha! Thank you and happy holidays!

Great video Trace!

Great vid! I’ve loved ur vids since I was 8

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

That's awesome! I feel old (Even more so now that I have a bay-bay)

How do you do all the things you claim to do, especially with the ADHD you claim to have? Do you not require sleep or something? Was it all before you became a parent?

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

What is sleep

Congratulations on your new dadship... dadness... dadhood... Oh yes, fatherhood!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

“I'll tell you what I am? I'm the damn paterfamilias.” - Everett Ulysses McGill

One of the wonderful things about birth control is that you can limit your children to a number that you can do a good job of raising.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Family planning is a huge huge benefit of birth control! Unfortunately, I’m in the US where certain religious groups prefer people who don’t share their beliefs should still be unable to family plan in this way. Lots of people are working to provide birth control for free; which makes the most sense to me.

@qwertyuiopgarth

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez Birth control should be free, period. It is simply too important to have access financially restricted or means-tested. My basic guideline is that if it is good for you and good for society it should generally be free. If we want people to 'make good choices' we need it to be easy and affordable to make those choices. (This is why the instructions for pouring water out of a boot are written on the bootheel.)

Trace, excellent as always. Forever a fan my man!

Congrats Trace! I bet you'll do it grate.

Thanks for this, and congrats on your newfound fatherhood!!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

YaY! A new Uno Dos of Trace Series! I've missed these, Thank You Trace. Congratulations on the baby. I'm sure you'll be a great Father. Loved that "Men, Hey..." sidebar. Me, while listening to you list off the benefits of a Dad being Present: **Screaming Internally** Having an "Absent" Father, since before I was 6 or so... man did you list a lot of issues I'm still trying to cope with. I Really need to see a Psychologist or Therapist. This video made that abundantly clear... I mean I'm sure its not all on my Father, who I haven't heard from since I graduated High School in 2006, when I tried to make a connection with him. Oh on rereading that, I sound salty still... 😅

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing Boose 💙 that sounds really tough. There were bits here that spoke to me and my own family issues too! I think my main takeaway is everyone is just out here doing our best, but we’re all affecting each other. Therapy is always helpful!

Hello Mr Trace. I'm glad to find your channel

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Me too Matt!

Hold on, hold on... you FLEW an F-18?!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Yep! Back in the DNews days. I rode in it and when we were up he asked if I wanted to take the stick. I didn’t get to do barrel rolls or anything, but it was WILD.

@GaviLazan

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez whoa, that's awesome

I WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND! Seriously we share so many interests! 😂🥰 and you have a ton of amazing unique experiences that I don't think many people would associate with the same person. I'm watching the video on Nebula (:

Did you really fly an F18? Badass!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I THREW UP SO MUCH

We'll check back with you in a year to see how many diapers you've changed, 2am feedings you've done or delivered baby to mom, baths you've given... Congrats on the new human you created.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve already lost track 🥺😆

Awesome vid! I’m curious about how the gender of the parents plays into things, e.g. a mom & dad vs two moms or two dads.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

That’s the Next video!!! 💖

@emceeboogieboots1608

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez Very good. Very interesting. Look forward to it

Do you really do all of that? Can you make a video about time management? please and thank you...

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

It’s really about doing your best!

2:00 Jeez how do you have time for all these things?

Congratulations!!! i didn't know you had ADHD! i do to, maybe that's why i love your videos so much!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Ha! Maybe ! 🤔

Is it specifically a dad? or just both parents (eg same sex couples)?

Engagement for the engagement god!

oh boy, some people in the comments here are pressed.... i guess they don't wanna be present, involved and engaged dads. i would say their loss, but unfortuately it will also be their children's and the other parent's. oh well, let's hope they don't procreate.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Don’t say that. They might be salty here, and can also go on to be great dads! No one is perfect. (Plus, If we’re looking for perfect in the KZread comment section, I think we’re all doomed for our children lol)

Without disagreeing with the overall sentiment, there's a lot of 'correlation' mentioned here when all I can think of is the 'causality'. (Some dude on youtube taught us to note the difference ;-). ) So, if the parent is a screw-up, it is very likely that the kid is also a screw up. And that that screw-up parent will also more likely be an absent parent. And of course the other way around. Not done any research, but it correlates well to what I've sampled from my surroundings for decades, as well as with the overall message of the here quoted research.

Congratulations 🎊

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

☺️❣️👍

Do I have to shoot a gun? Or play spin the bottle?

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Not if you don’t want to

@emceeboogieboots1608

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez Hooray, I am still on team Trace! To much work to get a gun in Australia And my wife would kill me if I played spin the bottle with girls and mock me mercilessly if I played with boys😁

I remember when I first became a single mom, I worried a lot about how it would affect my child. The findings from studies like the ones mentioned here helped me be aware of what I needed to pay extra attention to. I am grateful for this research. Congratulations on your new baby Trace!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I am sure you're doing your best! Next video I'm going to talk about how "dad" doesn't mean "person with a penis" but rather a set of traits

Uno dose of Trace :)

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Dats me!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Well almost. The “Dos” makes it a double pun.

👋 @Trace Dominguez Nice video!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Trace! Hello!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

@rabbit the one HELLO!

This could be some kind of evolutionary thing, but I find kind and nurturing men very attractive!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

🥰🥰🥰

err how fact that women are majority of workforce, university students, etc are anyway connected to fact that women do more household work? I don't actually see any connection between these two

Why are you so focused on present fathers if the kids of lesbian parents are just as well off as heterosexual parents?

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Whats a father but a set of traits that we associate with them? Those moms have to be Present Engaged and involved toooo

Before I watch this video I just wanna say it sounds like some propaganda to even pose this question. However, I'm sure there's a twist to it. I'll update my comment after watching the video probably over 12 hours from now.

@lyledal

2 жыл бұрын

🤣

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

There is a twist to it, which I figured was pretty clear from the thumb+title combo! I’m a new dad, and wanted to know how much dads matter 😎

@lyledal

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez I was definitely not paying attention lately, so CONGRATS to mom, you, and the new baby!

You did this to prove a point to your wife didn't you.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Ha! More to myself. She already thinks I’m a great dad (I’m scared and not so sure)

@hrithiksharma2047

2 жыл бұрын

Well, congrats for becoming dad

I'm trying to figure out who your audience is.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Me, mostly

@WalterBurton

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez: Ha. Fair. I don't feel compelled to unsubscribe. That's something, right?

No it can’t bye

First!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I’m also an oldest

wumen go to school more. outnumber men in the workforce. have more phds and masters. they are also oppressed.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

They are indeed. Good to recognize that. Often, it seems, people who are forced to struggle for their dreams work very hard to achieve them. Let’s hope we can all struggle to achieve more equitable society

If you are Uno Dos of Trace, I came here from nebula to dislike your content!

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Sorry Trace. When you became a Father, you became a sucker. When you became an "Involved Dad", you became an object of ridicule. The life results of kids with Dads came from Dads of years ago. There is no data on the results produced by the ineffectual clowns that we call Dads today. I do understand that this is political and YT would censor you, if you were frank about it. You have to say, only, what they allow or be banned.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t even know what this means?

@richbarron764

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez Simply that fatherhood is a raw deal and that you are setting yourself up to be replaced by the ever popular "male role model" as soon as your wife decides. There is NO evidence that an alienated, discarded Dad is of any benefit to a kid.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry that you feel that way. Where does that feeling come from? Did something happen to you?

@richbarron764

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez Not me exactly my Dad but it did affect me greatly. Still, I have reconsidered what I said. Being what used to be called a Dad is out of the question. Something else is needed and maybe you can found a new way. We don't even know what a successful upbringing is looks like anymore. What works for the future is likely to be very different from success now. Who can say? Good luck Trace. With your skills, you have a better chance of doing something special than almost anyone I can think of.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

We’re all doing our best out here Rich. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment 💙

What is the goal of this video? I agree about the general thoughts that you are presenting, but the way you´re doing it seems very sensational, preachy and unlikable. Just look at the title. It creates a divide right from the get go.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Sensational: thank you. That’s the goal. Do you know how to get people to watch your video on KZread? 400+ hours are uploaded every minute. Preachy: yeah that’s something I’m working on. It’s hard to make a video by myself that informs my in experience that doesn’t come off a little. Unlikeable: good thing that dislike button doesn’t work then! Lol

@Elaiden

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez My advice is to try to take a step back and figure out what the purpose of your videos are, and the impact that they will have on people. I usually like your videos, but to me, this one felt like you were actively trying as hard as possible to make people upset.

Well, this is awkwardly biased and full of loaded questions...

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Which part?

The presentation of scientific findings is so not scientific. More words does not prove a point more. On the contrary, there were so many biases and a priori opinions mixed in between the long lists, that I'd argue it would have been far better to leave "the science" out of this video all together. Or focus on a few papers and discuss correlation/causation or show meta studies to prove wider scientific consensus. Not all studies are equal and shouldn't be treated as such.

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

I’m not presenting things scientifically, because I’m not at a scientific conference. I’m presenting things with on-screen citation, and a whole section about longitudinal studies (which is where most people seem to drop out of the video btw). Did you go read the papers I cited? Which ones to you disagree with? Why ? Is it the methods? A couple have smaller n but generally speaking I’m pretty clear about where the science came from to make the conclusions that “having two parents matters” “and dads can be one of them”

@benjif2424

2 жыл бұрын

@@TraceDominguez I'm absolutely on your side of the argument, I just didn't see the point of an endless list, mixed with personal opinions /refuting felt public opinions. It just feels like it wasn't simplified, but rather an overbearing of scientific findings. As a psychologist I am all too aware of bad papers and where it's important to not just throw adjectives out there. What is shown usually has a poor link to practical life, or it's more observational than experimental, which opens up a world of convoluting factors.

nope

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your opinion 👏

unsub because of title

@retsej515

2 жыл бұрын

I think the title is click bait but who needs fickle subscribers?

@TraceDominguez

2 жыл бұрын

Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee *takes breath* just kidding I don’t care