In a corrupted unfair society, people would be heartless to the others to gain max benefits for themselves. It's not about women or Chinese, the same happens in Russia, north Korea

@christopherarmstrong2710

Жыл бұрын

Good point.

@misterhill5598

Жыл бұрын

what if I told you the most corrupted, the most unfair society is America.

@mikelloyd520

Жыл бұрын

From David Vine’s The United States at War: 1941-1945 World War II (Europe, North Africa, Asia/Pacific) 1946 Trieste 1947-1949 Greece 1948-1949 Berlin, Germany 1950 Formosa (Taiwan) 1950-1953 Korea 1953-1954 Formosa (Taiwan) 1955-1975 Vietnam 1956 Egypt 1958 Lebanon 1962 Cuba 1962 Thailand 1962-1975 Laos 1964 Congo (Zaire) 1965 Dominican Republic 1965-1973 Cambodia 1967 Congo (Zaire) 1976 Korea 1978 Congo (Zaire) 1980 Iran 1981 El Salvador 1981 Libya 1981-1989 Nicaragua 1982-1983 Egypt 1982-1983 Lebanon 1983 Chad 1983 Grenada 1986 Bolivia 1986 Libya 1987-1988 Iran 1988 Panama 1989 Bolivia 1989 Colombia 1989 Libya 1989 Peru 1989 Philippines 1989-1990 Panama 1990 Saudi Arabia 1991 Congo (Zaire) 1991-1992 Kuwait 1991-1993 Iraq 1992-1994 Somalia 1993-1994 Macedonia 1993-1996 Haiti 1993-2005 Bosnia 1995 Serbia 1996 Liberia 1996 Rwanda 1997-2003 Iraq 1998 Afghanistan 1998 Sudan 1999-2000 Kosovo 1999-2000 Montenegro 1999-2000 Serbia 2000 Yemen 2000-2002 East Timor 2000-2016 Colombia 2001 - Afghanistan 2001- Pakistan 2001- Somalia 2002-2015 Philippines 2002- Yemen 2003-2011 Iraq 2004 Haiti c2004- Kenya 2011 Democratic Republic of the Congo 2011-2017 Uganda 2011- Libya c2012- Central African Republic c2012- Mali c2013-2016 South Sudan c2013- Burkina Faso c2013- Chad c2013- Mauritania c2013- Niger c2013- Nigeria 2014 Democratic Republic of the Congo 2014- Iraq 2014- Syria 2015 Democratic Republic of the Congo c2015- Cameroon 2016 Democratic Republic of the Congo 2017- Saudi Arabia c2017 Tunisia 2019- Philippines

@gawdsuniverse3282

Жыл бұрын

@@mikelloyd520 all you have done is illustrated that the US is willing to aid the downtrodden.

@Margatatials

3 ай бұрын

The common denominator is communism, and communist governments actively destroying the trad optional culture and it's values

I'm English and have been married to a Chinese woman for 37 years. She was born and raised in Beijing under Mao, and agrees with all of this. But she must be the export model, as she is the politest person I've ever known and is very good-hearted. She has raised our five boys very well, and they have all turned out to be exceptional young men.

@theyarewhowethoughttheywere

Жыл бұрын

I was with a Korean chick for 6 years and she was batshit crazy! 😂 She once got ahold of my phone and found some titties that I was clearly not supposed to be looking at and when I attempted to retrieve my phone from her, she took a bite out of my hand that was so bad, I had to go to the hospital and the doctors were convinced that my hand had been mauled by some type of animal. We're obviously no longer together but I still love those asian women! 😅

@tuber6382

Жыл бұрын

Once you take someone out from under the control of an oppressive regime they revert to their original good nature

@ankursahu5193

Жыл бұрын

Yes..that's true. If you can provide wealth security and a permanent visa in first world country. My friends in Australia lost everything to Chinese women unfortunately. Didn't feel sorry for the man at all. No emotions and ruthless. You must be lucky one..just like my Chinese girl is great..and very open minded. But most of them destroy many many men's life 😢😢😢

@mickey1849

Жыл бұрын

The current generation are total losers

@narmortein537

Жыл бұрын

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you are a good person, Lei! the world needs more of this.

@LeisRealTalk

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@mickey1849

Жыл бұрын

Only God is good.

@mickey1849

Жыл бұрын

@@KukuBirdLoveMusic1168A "like" for being so easily duped! She's probably thinking, "This tool has no idea of how difficult and hard to get along with I am!" 🤣😂

@mickey1849

Жыл бұрын

@@KukuBirdLoveMusic1168 You can be sure they don't like her either. 😐

@narmortein537

Жыл бұрын

​@@LeisRealTalk, This channel must be funded by the Authoritarian, Autocracy, Dictatorship regime that practices oppression, sanction, embargo, and anti human rights. Don't think so? Go ask those 15,000 Americans that were "stuck" at Sudan waiting for evacuation. See how a democratic country that valued Human rights and Freedom of speech was treating her own citizens. No matter who you voted, the result is the same, because both Republican and Democrat are controlled by the Illuminati, that is to oppress, to sanction, to ban any person, any organization, any country that is doing _better_ that this Authoritarian, Autocracy, Dictatorship regime. In other words, No one could challenge her Supremacy and you are doomed if you are going to overtake this Regime. Don't think so, Go ask Huawei, Sadam Hussein, Gaddafi and all those people, organization and country that were oppressed. A truely democratic regime will put priority to improve the standard of living and the well being of the people. And allow all to progress, to compete, and Not by means of ignoring the poor. Don't think so? Look around you the homeless people, drug addicts, in the streets of LA, SFO, NY. Are the numbers increasing or decreasing ? 👉And go ask Elon Musk, what is his view about China. How can you be a better person if you chop the legs of your competitor just to make you look taller ?

So the switch from Traditional to Simplified really is a kind of Newspeak.

@StephenGillie

Жыл бұрын

@@dondrumpfy8057 Words might be water to you, but others paint with all of the colors of the wind.

@Lawofimprobability

Жыл бұрын

@@dondrumpfy8057 The words people use convey ideas in subtle ways. "In order to" conveys a different spirit than "to". Chinese is a language with a lot of complexity nestled in the vocabulary that allows for nested layers of meaning. Any time the vocabulary is changed, it changes that which depends on it.

@charlesfavell3350

Жыл бұрын

​@@dondrumpfy8057 Why don't you go back to Trolling Wion and the other Indian Channels Wu Mao

@MarkMark-xz4ff

Жыл бұрын

@@charlesfavell3350 @Don Drumpfy this WuMao is on so many China channels and never has anything intelligent to say. He just says his “hahhahahaha” he needs a job. He’s very sensitive about anything negative about China. Or this is his pathetic job.

I have had several Chinese Students and found many engaging and interesting. I did notice, a few years back, a division between those who were scholarship students and struggled to get into an American University and those who were CCP Princes. The latter were always well dressed; had extremely expensive cars and no curiosity or a sense of interest in the subjects they were studying. Like rich American kids, their wealth came at a terrible price to their character. The scholarship students were a delight.

@ecommerceltd

Жыл бұрын

@@dondrumpfy8057 be a brain wumao

@craigshagin5506

Жыл бұрын

@@dondrumpfy8057 no not at all. First, I am speaking only about perceived motivation of students. Kindness, charity, and other attributes of decency are not always perceived in class. Moreover, this is a generalization. Their are self motivated people of all economic backgrounds. I was more addressing the “heartless” question in the video. To be clear I do not find Chinese students to be heartless; I do notice, however, a dichotomy in their motivation. Those who worked hard to get into an American University are well motivated; those that had every expectation of coming and did not have to work so hard are often largely unexcited by the opportunity.

I am Indian. I sincerely hope the Chinese people get back with their great history & culture. It should once again be taught in schools without any corruption.

@narmortein537

Жыл бұрын

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@70newlife

Жыл бұрын

So if your mother had option of saving you or your father you would have been ok with you being sacrificed?

@krishnalikhit5124

Жыл бұрын

@@70newlife r u insane or chinese or both?

@TheSoLuna2

Жыл бұрын

@@70newlife I don't think you actually understood the video. The old Chinese ways were much better. Compassionate.

@mRRandak

7 ай бұрын

@@70newlife While that's not the point, yes, essentially!

I had an ex-girlfriend from Beijing who presented the dilemma, and when I said I'd choose her over my mother with the reasoning that my mother is old and we have our lives ahead of us, she shouted at me and said the only answer in China is to save my mother and die together with my girlfriend.

@pathoflight1156

Жыл бұрын

Holy hell my ex from Shanghai said the same thing. Crazy.

@johnc2956

Жыл бұрын

@@pathoflight1156 It is a societal thing that screws with their minds and "values". Looks like we have shared exactly the same bullshit and the resulting consequences that arise from that. You have my empathy, dude.

@marcomongke3116

Жыл бұрын

She couldnt have been serious. I mean really? Now i am curious ask this from more Chinese girls.

@johnc2956

Жыл бұрын

@@marcomongke3116 If you have dated a mainlander before (and it looks like you haven't), then you wouldn't be asking this question.

@marcomongke3116

Жыл бұрын

@@johnc2956 i will take your word for it. Do you think her answer will change if she was the wife not a girlfriend?

Chinese women are told 'marry for money and find love later' by family who are a powerful influence. 😊

@joseph3036

Жыл бұрын

There's a saying in China, 'An intelligent girl marries a rich man'.

@abzcabz9211

Жыл бұрын

Then Saving mother makes 100% sensible , because she brought to you in this world and the death at birth is could kill her on the birth just as you could die but because your brought to this world you have to save you mother while your wife came in to your life because of your wealth that’s not true wealth , your health is the true wealth wow this education I’d really something

@paulfri1569

Жыл бұрын

Explains everything

@TheBillaro

Жыл бұрын

@@joseph3036 sad

@TheBillaro

Жыл бұрын

@@abzcabz9211 you what?

My wife is Chinese and I come from Greece. I would say it very much depends from person to person. There are loving and cold hearted people in every country in the world.

@jokh9992

Жыл бұрын

True, there are good and bad people everywhere. But it's a fact that most Chinese women in China are heartless. You are a lucky guy and I'm happy for you.

@nachoconazodiablo1234

6 ай бұрын

@@jokh9992 You have met most Chinese woman? That's impressive! China has a big population which also means more of a certain kind of everything. Also bad traits generally get more attention than good traits all over the world. Chinese habits ofc differentiating vastly from western habits, which in turn may seem more prominent to people from outside. Although in China itself there is a rise in improving manners amongst the young adults now. Another real problem as well which can influence manners of both sexes is being raised as kings and queens, which was often done during the one child policy for the Han ethnics, nowadays as well one error that is often being made is having the grandparents raise the child, who then often spoil the child, just like during the one child era. (btw Winston is a very bad source, hilariously bad source)

@korranis1

2 ай бұрын

Does she cook moussaka with soy sauce?

@FransceneJK98

2 ай бұрын

That’s such a shallow way to look at cultural anthropology and cultural development and changes of a particular nation. Don’t discredit what lei said just cuz YOUR wife is a peach. Use some critical thinking and analytical skills if you have any. 🙄

My wife is only been in the US for five years. she's Chinese, I've seen this in her. [I don't know how a country could survive under these ruthless beliefs.}

@merlingeikie

Жыл бұрын

Exactly....none...watch the CCP crash and burn

@24X7CARZ

Жыл бұрын

What’s your plan?

@mikelloyd520

Жыл бұрын

Easy compared with the devils behaviour of USA since 1776. From David Vine’s The United States at War: 1941-1945 World War II (Europe, North Africa, Asia/Pacific) 1946 Trieste 1947-1949 Greece 1948-1949 Berlin, Germany 1950 Formosa (Taiwan) 1950-1953 Korea 1953-1954 Formosa (Taiwan) 1955-1975 Vietnam 1956 Egypt 1958 Lebanon 1962 Cuba 1962 Thailand 1962-1975 Laos 1964 Congo (Zaire) 1965 Dominican Republic 1965-1973 Cambodia 1967 Congo (Zaire) 1976 Korea 1978 Congo (Zaire) 1980 Iran 1981 El Salvador 1981 Libya 1981-1989 Nicaragua 1982-1983 Egypt 1982-1983 Lebanon 1983 Chad 1983 Grenada 1986 Bolivia 1986 Libya 1987-1988 Iran 1988 Panama 1989 Bolivia 1989 Colombia 1989 Libya 1989 Peru 1989 Philippines 1989-1990 Panama 1990 Saudi Arabia 1991 Congo (Zaire) 1991-1992 Kuwait 1991-1993 Iraq 1992-1994 Somalia 1993-1994 Macedonia 1993-1996 Haiti 1993-2005 Bosnia 1995 Serbia 1996 Liberia 1996 Rwanda 1997-2003 Iraq 1998 Afghanistan 1998 Sudan 1999-2000 Kosovo 1999-2000 Montenegro 1999-2000 Serbia 2000 Yemen 2000-2002 East Timor 2000-2016 Colombia 2001 - Afghanistan 2001- Pakistan 2001- Somalia 2002-2015 Philippines 2002- Yemen 2003-2011 Iraq 2004 Haiti c2004- Kenya 2011 Democratic Republic of the Congo 2011-2017 Uganda 2011- Libya c2012- Central African Republic c2012- Mali c2013-2016 South Sudan c2013- Burkina Faso c2013- Chad c2013- Mauritania c2013- Niger c2013- Nigeria 2014 Democratic Republic of the Congo 2014- Iraq 2014- Syria 2015 Democratic Republic of the Congo c2015- Cameroon 2016 Democratic Republic of the Congo 2017- Saudi Arabia c2017 Tunisia 2019- Philippines USA is devils spawn.

Thank you for this video. As a non Chinese I experienced exact same stuff with my ex Chinese girlfriend. She was so rude, inconsiderate, and always talked about money. And asked me this exact question, who I save first. That’s why I will never date any Chinese woman again, they’re not for me 😅

@abzcabz9211

Жыл бұрын

It’s Same with any woman even the mother but she does it with the husband

@thebranch3874

Жыл бұрын

Chinese women's are almost the same rude and inconsiderate only her and mother...nd money very uncultured

@maymei6742

Жыл бұрын

You are a wise man as in not dating a Chinese woman . Chinese are fairly messed up as since young were not taught compassion and spirituality. Chinese adults, except those that being brought up in a western culture and has been embracing it , NEVER hugs or/and kiss each others unless they are drunk 😅😅😅😅... In general is incapable of showing affection and disassociated with their emotion except anger.... I am a Chinese woman and know where you coming from.... choose not to be in any relationship but to work on myself in this lifetime

@davidhynes

Жыл бұрын

Chinese women are all greed and money.

@Pedrooe2iq

Жыл бұрын

I have couple Chinese woman friends for many years, every time we get together all they talk is about money, money. One day I went with one of my female friends to eat and I ask her: could you please not talk about money? She look at me like I was kind of crazy and ask me. What is there else to talk about? I gave up since then

Lei, I think this is one of your best most personal look into true Chinese Character and language. Thank you very much as you added much to my understanding of Chinese.

@LeisRealTalk

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! 😃

@maymei6742

Жыл бұрын

@@LeisRealTalk Please make a clear statement that is your personal opinion ... Another Chinese woman that has no basic spiritual back ground trying to reduce a severe problem to characters and CCP

@70newlife

Жыл бұрын

​@@maymei6742finally a person with some sense in the comments section.

My teenage son heard part of the video about choosing between the girl or the mother and asked, So what was the right answer? I said, choose the girl; that is my gift to you as a mother.

@chloescat

Жыл бұрын

Naw, sweet!

@mrblobby6284

Жыл бұрын

thats the right answer!

@albajgurd

Жыл бұрын

Right, choose the one who will betray you as soon as she decides she's fed up with you or that you don't provide her with enough money; and let the one who gave you life and will never betray you die. Good advice. You seem to be a 'wise' woman.

@alloutofsatay

Жыл бұрын

@@albajgurd Aiya! You are missing my point: to release a person from obligation to me. That is all. Whether or not the other person makes poor choices, is up to the other person, and separate from my decision to release a (feeling of) obligation to me by my child.

@robman2095

Жыл бұрын

Rescue your mother as she will never leave you and her love is permanent and real. The test of real love is unquestioning self sacrifice of her very life when necessary. Only the mother passes this test

My wife and I lived with a 27yr old woman from China as a housemate for a year while we all had a work gig in the Caribbean. She was shamelessly cheating on her USA husband the entire time and actually openly stated that she didn't feel bad about it and "didn't believe in morality". She also came from Urumqi and called a certain group there "all terrorists".

@We_Want_It_All

Жыл бұрын

I hope the guy dumped her a$$

@crhu319

Жыл бұрын

Well in fairness her husband was American so that's capitalism.

@julienrocher1

Жыл бұрын

Han Chinese often think they are above and better than east Turkic people. Some Han believe they are the best race in the world far better than others. It is obvious in the way they treat Tibetans, Turkics, and Hong Kongese. If they succeed in conquering most neighbours, how do you think they will treat the Taiwanese, Filipinos, Japanese, Vietnamese, Malaysians, Indonesians and all South Pacific sea islanders. Seems easy to conger a south Sea Island. Just bribe the ruler and the island is controlled by China. It is obvious China has a voracious appetite. The army and navy they have already built up is aimed to take control of the first and possibly the second island chain. Fortunately China is critically dependent upon imports and exports. They are trying to reduce this dependency by building pipelines to Russia and will buy grain from them too. They are critically dependent upon US dollars and being part of a recognised world payment system. China also wants to fully control a large slide of the Arctic. It would not surprise me now that Russia is severely weakened, that the Chinese don’t suddenly attack and take control of eastern Siberia. It is a perfect opportunity for them. They can then control the oils and gas.

@shawnhennity1769

Жыл бұрын

@@julienrocher1 How do white people in the US treat black, brown, and yellow people? You know very little about racial issues.

@maymei6742

Жыл бұрын

@@julienrocher1 Good observation... but Chinese in general irregarless where they being displaced around the world has an innate rudeness in them just like the Brits... It's because Chinese ethnic in general since a toddler is not taught on compassion , love and spirituality.... Adult Chinese ethnic in general never hugs and kiss each other... Hence the disconnection with self and other

Another example, of traditional Chinese culture. In Taiwan, there is a higher level, of trust, and communal concern. It's not all about, me, me, me. Advantage over others.

@astrahcat1212

Жыл бұрын

It's funny, we realize that everything culture, from writing, books, media like film, tv shows, comics, really does have a deep effect and influence on how human being act and interact within a society.

@ecommerceltd

Жыл бұрын

@@dondrumpfy8057 you still didn’t get your brain implant!

@ecommerceltd

Жыл бұрын

@@dondrumpfy8057 mainlander IQ at full display here 😂😂

@silverchairsg

Жыл бұрын

Taiwan kept the good parts, added a leavening of Japanese influence, and left the bad parts behind in the mainland.

@peterlongland6862

Жыл бұрын

@@dondrumpfy8057 ah the lack of knowledge of Don drumpfy. Drumphy fails to understand that democracy is 2000 year old and still going fine while communism is less than a century old and struggling. Xi always talks about the ccp being communist with Chinese characteristics which of course is a total lie. In fact it's an unfinished german philosophy, corrupted by the soviets and copied by china. If you want proof of this just search for the animations "Animal Farm"!

For the record, Filipino Chinese or pure Chinese that are born and lived in the Philippines are not rude nor wild as tourists. The Bible has an answer for the 'wife or mother' question. You must save your wife first because the man LEAVES his Mama or parents to live with his wife. Wife and husband has become ONE body just like a key and a padlock is one mechanism. A key or padlock is useless if one of them is missing.

@dstnrunner

Жыл бұрын

There are many Chinese who have emigrated to SE Asia and you're right, they're much less predatory. China is a dog-eat-dog society where every inch of space is contested; which is why they're always cutting in front and trying to take advantage of any circumstance.

@anwa6169

Жыл бұрын

That is quite interesting. But Chinese men do not really leave their mothers/parents traditionally. So ...

@mickey1849

Жыл бұрын

@@anwa6169In addition, Filipino wives are a dime a dozen

I like your way of approaching truly sensitive topics, always with a good portion of carefulness, humor, ethics and compassion. We cannot defend freedom by falling into the trap of anger and division as well. Thank you.

@maymei6742

Жыл бұрын

All those good attributes are very low in Chinese ethnicity...with very low consciousness.... Consciousness as in used by Ekhart Tolle, the contemporary spiritual teacher

@FransceneJK98

2 ай бұрын

People need to stop getting triggered just cuz it’s a sensitive topic. The truth hurts and we need to have more conversations about things if we wanna live in a better world and society

I could imagine that your insight could change the course of modern Chinese history. I was married to a Chinese woman for 9 years and lived in China. This makes those time make more sense.

My limited experience with Asian cultures suggests that family, especially the parents, take precedence over a spouse. In China, I met a woman who was very nice and cultured in many ways. While eating oxtail soup at a restaurant, the woman began spitting the bones out on the table. Trying to overcome my culture shock, I asked her why she was doing this. Her answer was that they didn't bring her a bowl for the bones.🤔 It seems that one way to speed up a Chinese divorce is to throw your wife in the water. Even though I have been to China several times, I still haven't been able to completely understand the culture.

@ianshaver8954

Жыл бұрын

I think throwing your wife into water would speed up your divorce in most cultures.

@mickey1849

Жыл бұрын

The vast majority of them cannot swim

@jackspence625

Жыл бұрын

​@@mickey1849 It makes sense. My Asian wife also can't swim. As far as I'm aware, neither can her family members.

@mickey1849

Жыл бұрын

@@jackspence625 I'm from Florida, full of swimming pools and surrounded by oceans on two sides. First thing we do is get our kids swimming lessons at age 4

@jackspence625

Жыл бұрын

@@mickey1849 I think that's a good idea. It will help your kids not to be afraid of water when they're older. I was born in Florida also. I don't remember swimming lessons but I was swimming before I could talk.

I find your videos are very educational as well as interesting. It’s American I’ve been going to China for about 20 years and I have lived there consistently for about three. And videos like these answers some of the questions that sometimes I don’t understand culturally. keep up the good work!

After watching this video I subscribed and retweeted the video. You are a very special person who keeps the world informed of the true Chinese culture. Keep up the good work Lei. 😍💝

Thank you Lei. I've been unable to find Return to Dust streaming but will watch for it.

Your explanation of this question truly enlightened me to better understand why my Chinese wife is always so brutal to me. Understanding leads to healing. Thanks.

Every religion or philosophy has its own way of teaching somebody how to be a good person. Buddhism helps people to be calm by detaching from their emotions. Taoism helps people to integrate with nature. Confucianism helps strengthen social ties so that families and communities can thrive. These are great things that sustained China for thousands of years.

Oh! One anecdote from when I lived in Asia, please do not feel offended is just a silly story: While walking in the street I used to say to friends "I can tell you if a woman is chinese or not just by looking her walk from afar, and from the back" When we then passed by the woman, I was almost always correct. they asked me how do you know? Well, usually chinese women have a very "aggressive" and strong walk, almost masculine... after watching this video I feel it was connected to personality.

@lamentate07

7 ай бұрын

Are you referring to mainlanders?

Lei, all your videos are such good value . Thanks for doing this .

This is one of the most interesting videos I’ve watched in a long time!! I really enjoyed the background explanation.

Wow what a great explanation! Thank you Lei 😁

Dear Lei, Thank you for having answered the question I was left with after watching Winston's/SerpentZA's video on this topic. I already guessed that it had to be due to the CCP, but I had never imagined that simplified Chinese characters would play such a big role in this. Until now I had thought that this was one of the few positive things that had come out of the CCP, namely facilitating literacy, because I remembered how my migrant Chinese classmate had sighed about how difficult the (traditional) Chinese writing was as taught by his mother. Now I see the CCP's simplification of the Chinese alphabet as an advanced and very subtle form of wokeism avant la lettre. It could come straight out of Aldous Huxley's classic 'Brave New World'. This video will make me even more attentive and grateful for the root meaning(s) of the (complex) words we have in Dutch, English, German and French. I wonder how prone we are for the messages they send to our unconscious. Something to observe in myself. On a final note, I loved it how you went back to your language lessons for us, but this time you've integrated that lesson seamlessly into the video's topic and theme. Keep doing this. Best wishes from Flanders, Belgium.

@LeisRealTalk

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for letting me know your thoughts.

@mickey1849

Жыл бұрын

@@LeisRealTalkPerhaps you missed your true calling as a teacher of Chinese language to non-native speakers🧐

@GlobalMechanix

Жыл бұрын

Core issue here is 'taoist' belief of non-action. Honestly if you think you should do something, you should probably do it, not wait around for other countries to take advantage of your culture.

As a mother it is simple. Save the girlfriend/wife. I have lived my life, she may be your companion for the rest of your life.

@aoeu256

3 ай бұрын

Some gfs will eventually leave you though

@dennythedavinchi3832

28 күн бұрын

Gfs are like just acquitances. A person meets and goes. If you fall into a love trap, you don't face the relationship reality. I wouldn't rely everything even if I marry and make wife, she is just separate part entity, just decided each other take advantage for some aspects.

@dendi1076

20 күн бұрын

a man of quality and options can find a new gf anytime to replace his previous gf. so always choose the mum. cos you never know when the gf gets tired of u too...but if u are a peasant. just save the gf and pray that she wont leave u

@paddycraig

7 күн бұрын

​@@dennythedavinchi3832you've clearly never loved or been loved

Wonderful Lei. Much obliged for sharing and explaining to all of us. Good on ya pard 👍

@LeisRealTalk

6 ай бұрын

Thanks 👍

Thank you for sharing this information. It is quite helpful and healing as I was married to a woman from Mainland. I thought the issues were mostly based on socio-economic differences, and parental interference. I really appreciate and am grateful for your sharing of this additional information.

Thank you Lei. Hoping your work and voice grows larger and reach the heart and minds of the Chinese people.

I like your translations of traditional Chinese characters. Thank you

Great insight, Thank you Lei.

Thanks for sharing Miss Lei 🙏

Thank you much for all this info, thoughtfully presented! I have seen this movie… how sad, but inspiring!

We may not always agree but you are definitely one of the most intelligent people on this app and on this topic we agree. Thank you for your content

The problem with the girl friend - mother dilemma is that it codifies a decision that is exclusive to each one's conscious and/or situation. It really depends on the love for each person and on the convenience of each (it might be easier and less dangerous to save one). One can set up many similar situations: Which children do you want to save if only one can be saved, or which 2 out of 5 or which 3 out of 4? Some might know, some might not dare to think about. In the West, this sort of problems do not have a right answer, but they might be proposed as a way to get insight on the way of thinking of the person, the way of arguing or even the way of prioritizing problem solving. It is the argument what would be of interest, not so much the choice. But under Confucianism and more Chinese thinking, the proper choice and/or order might look more as established procedures based on obligation, seniority and past debts. I am surprised that for the CCP, Mother was the "correct" choice, as that seems to be more in tune with traditional filial obligations.... ....If I wanted to argue for Girld friend, I think saying "my girl friend can provide valuable members to the country and party. Not so my mom, anymore." But of course, one will never know.

@junacebedo888

Жыл бұрын

The Bible has the right answer: Save you wife first because she and you are one body and soul. The husband and his mother or father are NOT one body. (To emphasize this more; the newly married couple MUST LEAVE their parents home to make a home of their own.) This is for the husband's reputation. If he chose to save his mother first (letting his wife die); what will the neighbors say the about action of the husband who remarries?

@itsMartinzito

Жыл бұрын

I'm not surprised, most in the ccp are older, vain, and selfish so they want their kid(s) to save them first above all else.

@upthedown1

Жыл бұрын

RPang under Christianity the husband once married is to cleave to his wife and the wife to her husband. However part of the ten commandments is to honor your mother and your father. Your spouse comes first and you find a way to honor your parents but not by throwing your wife or husband under the bus.

@thatswhoiam2735

4 ай бұрын

@@junacebedo888 who cares “what will the neighbors say”

@nt3352

2 ай бұрын

The child also knows which sibling the parent is going to save, sad but true ....

Thank you again for an insightful video !! Very interesting !! Great explanation of the difference between the characters and meanings in traditional mandarin and simplified mandarin, as well as the whole situation at hand with communism !! 謝謝你老師，我愛學中文，繁體的！！

Awesome subject and discussion. Absolutely brilliant 👏

In India we have the epic Ramayana where the protagonist Rama leaves his kingdom on the order of his father and step-mother, and then fights a mighty king to rescue his kidnapped wife Seeta. Mother and wife, both are important.

Thanks so much for creating and sharing this informative and timely video. Great job. Keep it up.

@LeisRealTalk

4 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Really love it when you cover the same topic as someone like Winston who also does an amazing job covering China topics. It really helps to get two high quality perspectives on a subject. There are always great high quality follow up questions when a topic is well covered, and it is always extremely helpful to hear two well informed opinions on any subject. I really would appreciate more videos like this one, as I found your nuanced opinion really answered several of the questions I wanted to ask Winston for clarification on, and you did just that, along with answering questions I didn’t even know I needed to ask! Thanks again, I really enjoyed this! Thanks to Winston and Laowhy86 as well, those two also do an amazing job covering a wide range of topics on China. Would love to see a collaboration or better yet an interview with all three of you!

@pierresaelen3097

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. This video complements Winston's interesting video perfectly. I'll go back to that video and post a link with the comment that after viewers have watched the one by SerpentZA, they should watch Lei's. Besides that, I would love to hear Lei and Winston make a video where they discuss various topics about China and the Chinese. It would be really interesting to listen to.

@zettarance4173

Жыл бұрын

@@pierresaelen3097 kzread.info/dash/bejne/dKCFrcaoh6bMcco.html

Thank you for your work and your channel. You help to restore my faith in humanity. Even though I have superficial knowledge about China at best, I am fascinated by (old/ancient) Chinese culture, but I despise the CCP and what they have turned China into. Unfortunately, I have run into Chinese people with the bad manners you mentioned, more than I like (of course not all of my experiences have been like that). You opened up a whole new perspective for me. Thank you!

Such an important and insightful video as always. Hope you get more views and subs!

Wow Lei! I like your videos on current events, but this particular video about the meaning of old & simplified Chinese characters and the philosophical/judicial attitudes is MOST interesting! Please make more videos of this type!! Thanks.

@LeisRealTalk

3 ай бұрын

Noted!

Words are important, Relationships are complicated, Culture is but a reflection on the lake of experience. .A most insightful and well thought-out presentation. Thank you Lei.

Always interesting.

Very educational. Thank you.

Very insightful.

I do love the captions have the simplified.

Thanks for video was dope 🙌🏼

Great insight and honesty. Keep it up! 💪

Lai, Thank You! Now I understand is not their fault! I appreciate Chinese women more now and you opened up my eyes even wider! Love your Channel! 👏😊👍

Wow, very intersting... Thanks.

Personally, I doubt that a person's comprehension of the symbol for love (In whatever language) is influenced by the symbol itself. Instead of the symbol informing the comprehension, the comprehension (acquired by experience) is carried over to the symbol.

Thank for enlightening us! 谢谢您。

Thank you Lei

@LeisRealTalk

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome

This is my analysis as well,CCP erased ancient culture,problem was moral values were derived from it,so now moral values are lost by removing ancient culture,its like moral values were tied with a string to ancient culture. Another thing is urbanisation,imo poor ppl stay away from parents go to cities,so they miss the culture part,moreover,staying in cities means that urban moral values result in villagers forsaking village morals,but the new morals dont get fully ingrained either,causing no moral compass to guide them.

There was 5 ladies beating up, kicking and shouting like pariah animals on another lady in the middle of the road for good 30minutes. Completely change the respect for China ladies since then. I will never include or associate Lei as one of them. Thanks for sharing the truth

I just wanted to say that your videos are very eye-opening when it comes to Chinese culture. You're doing an amazing job and I hope you keep it up. I have strong opinions about the CCP and I have had people say it's not right for me to judge the Chinese people. It's not the people I'm judging it's the CCP.

Heard somewhere: Girlfriend, we could always find another; mother, we have only one.😊

Hello Lei, thank you for giving people like me an honest and transparent perspective into Chinese thinking and mindsets. Your statement "robots or individuals with no common sense or judgment" hit the nail on the head! I can now better understand my Chinese wife.

@GlobalMechanix

Жыл бұрын

The Taoist rule of in-action is precisely why China has been taken advantage of, and why love was stolen from Chinese character. To feel the need or appropriateness to do something, but think it's an appropriate solution to do nothing.

Truly - you are a Beacon of Common Sense for ALL Chinese.

Hello Lei, I have recently discovered your channel, and have found a great common sense and intelligent Explainer in yourself to unravel the mysteries of Chinese culture and life. Thank you from Australia.

@LeisRealTalk

4 ай бұрын

Thanks and welcome

Your channel is bith informative and enlightening. Thank you ans beat wishes to all. Thank you

I think everyone has missed a very important lesson the ccp's justice department is teaching you with this question. Let me reword the mother/girlfriend question this way: Question: From the ccp judicial standpoint, what is the correct answer for an impossible question? Answer: Whatever the ccp deems correct 🪦😇

@merlingeikie

Жыл бұрын

Bad answer as it doesn't actually adjudicate but leaves the question untouched. Btw There is no CCP as such, it is necessarily comprised of individuals. If not then they may be bots, like you.

@mickey1849

Жыл бұрын

In the U.S. you have no legal duty to rescue either person. It's up to you. But you're not a criminal if you save no one

Having married a Chinese woman 7 years ago, (she is from Shenyang), I can attest to the truth of both materialism AND, abject rudeness. My wife, when she worked in China (full time..50+ hours/wk), earned the approx equivalent of $300/m. Yet when I got her here inb the states, if I didnt buy her a $700 handbag, she was NOT goinbg to be happy abouot it and make damn sure I was aware of her disatisfaction. NONE of this attitude of entitlement showed during our courtship. None ofit showed during the 1 1/2 years it took to get her VISA to the US. But within a couple of months of her arrival, it was made unmistakenly plain. Re Shen Yun Performing Arts: About 5 years ago, they were in Sacramento and I took my wife and her duaghter. My wife was angry, and I did not understand. My daughter, whose English is quite good, explained to me about the conflict between the gropup and the CCP. She then went to tell me how vile the group was and how they deserved to be impprisoned etc. (She was in 6th grade at the time..her 1st full school year here) My daughter has since changed her mnind about the groupp and recognizes the persecution by the CCP for what it is. A power play, through force and intimidation. My wife however, still "worships" the CCP.

Love your content.

Based on my experience..yesss many of them are since I lived n Hongkong for many years. Many of those I know work with Chinese families. They usually complain about the Chinese women's attitude compared to men. Men are more considerate and kind.

Thanks Lei and thank you for the recommendations. Do you know of any other means to watch “Return to Dust?”

@LeisRealTalk

Жыл бұрын

I watched it while it was available. The link no longer works.

Very informative. Thank you for helping us to understand Chinese culture.

Love your videos. You mentioned Shen Yun...please clarify your relationship with Falungong. Thanks.

You are right on point Lei. In the US, a lot of all they talk about is money. Most always looking for a way up. Three of they women I dated were just like this. Money, money, and money!

@chloescat

Жыл бұрын

That's a a human trait, not an American trait. I've expierenced that here in China and in my own country.

@Kemet3.0

Жыл бұрын

@@chloescat Yes and No, Chinese girls were really aggressive in the way they look at money.

@thebranch3874

Жыл бұрын

Money money money can't get enough very greedy Chinese women's

This is important to get out in the world, thank you for your insights

Hi Lei. I like your videos and your approach to each subject. Just one small remark. That movie Dust is actually viewable on China TV channels. We watched less than a month ago. Good movie.

@LeisRealTalk

Жыл бұрын

It was viewable then but is banned now.

@brucehobday

Жыл бұрын

@@LeisRealTalk correct. I wanted to see the ending which we missed. Can’t find it any longer.. Anyway Real Talk is Real Information.

very good insight.

Interesting insight on how changing a language can create changes in attitude and culture, particularly given how much meaning is in the characters. Thank you for this.

@70newlife

Жыл бұрын

So I guess westerners have the symbol of heart in the word for love in your languages that you are so loving that you go through dozens of girlfriends and multiple wifes. It must be the language that makes you so loving that you see your mother's once or twice a year when they are old. 😂

Very educational and I subscribed. Thank you......😎🙏✌️

In my experience they are very competitive..even if they dont know u personally. And there seems to be an issue w not knowing the difference between their job and another person's personal life and free-will. Often times they dont want something or someone till i might want it. As a culture they might need to lead more from the heart.🙏🏼

I think heartlessness depends on upbringing. People who grow up in tough environment can be more heartless due to tough competitive environment. Chinese women, most of them grew up when China was still very poor with one-child restriction, could be heartless; now the environment is different, it has become very materialistic and carreer oriented, which doesn't help. But, if you don't want to take risk, marry your own kind, that's the safest.

Thank you for sharing your knowledge and producung your videos. They are enlightening. I have long wondered this. Vietnamese women are the same for the most part.

Thank you!

This video left me in tears. It is so sad to see the damage the CCP has done to culture in China. Fortunately, humanity prevails. I very much love your work, Lei. I also have great respect for Winston Sterzil. He too, has given me a greater understanding of Chinese culture.

@tangcheesum5418

Жыл бұрын

That is what the out of reality leftists are doing to all western countries now. Damaging western civilization by putting critical race rubbish in schools, destroying the economy and putting strains on the basic goods and many other atrocities rubbish just to stay in power and control the population.

@arnoldsaunders6073

Жыл бұрын

The CCP was a movement that was supported by those who made up the majority in China. The hundred years of shame, then the waring factions after the fall of the Xing dynasty, killed millions. The CCP has lifted 800 million people out of poverty, and now the Chinese economy challenges that of the US. The West's Society is in moral decay. The Chinese society is in an upward development.

Thanks!

Lei: What a delightful and informative video - Thank you. I subscribe to both your Real Talk and Serpentzeda, as well as Laowhy86.

I'm in an oversea Chinese family. We moved to another country for more than nine decades now (before the cultural revolution), but we still maintain some of strong Chinese moral, like working hard, being grateful, etc. I think one of the reasons Chinese mainland nowadays are "heartless" like you talked is a materialistic life China has become.

Southern Wisconsin and the area around it has a lot of Hmong and I believe they're originally from the mountains around Wuhan but then ended up in the mountains of Vietnam and Loas. There happens to be among a Hmong village at Ramsey county jail which is very sad. Did they originate around Wuhan?

Agree totally.

I can see how people in the comments just don’t know how to study a culture, history, and mentality over time. Can’t turn off their feelings and look at a topic objectively and use the information presented to do a proper study. Ugh common sense really isn’t common anymore and critical thinking and reasoning skills seem to be dead too 😒 thank you For this video!! I love the breakdown of the kanji and differences because omitting certain radicals does affect the language and language affects peoples behavior and thinking. I’d love to see more on this topic. ❤

I used to think that many Chinese society ills were due to CCP rule but I have seen the same behaviour in Singapore, Bangkok and other “traditional” Chinese societies where Confucian values supposedly have been maintained. Same Han supremacy, racism, xenophobia, authoritarian rule where the triads operate with impunity. So the problems are more just deeper than just the CCP’s rule. I think because Chinese are like this, thugs have taken over. In Singapore, Lee Kuan Yew was a prominent member of the triads

I have met many South Korean and Japanese people. Most of them were well educated, polite and had a very good attitude. But the Chinese were not like that.

Excellent. I consider my self schooled. Many thanks.

Never in a million years did I think China would have their own version of the trolley problem.

Thank you.

Of course, casually socializing and marriage are two different animals. With that said, I have interacted with several Chinese woman, a mother and daughter are actually friends of mine, who I spent quality time with while I was on vacation. They been in my life for four years now, and we spend the day together at an amusement park. We all had fun, especially the little one. Afterwards, I took them to dinner. With all that said, my personal experience has always been positive and we learn about the other's culture and are free and open to ask questions about anything. It's truly been a rewarding experience and I look forward to being in their lives for years and watch the little one grow up. She starts fourth grade this year 😊

Love your videos

A great brazilian poet called Augusto dos Anjos once wrote: "He who lives among beasts feels an unavoidable need to become a beast himself". Guess it's true...

@joaopedrobaggio4475

2 ай бұрын

Bom ver um compatriota que gosta desse canal.

Excellent video!

@LeisRealTalk

Жыл бұрын

Thank you very much!