Wait until I tell you, they often don't have changing tables in the men's bathrooms as if single dads or any male carers that change diapers don't exist.

@FullmoonPhantom-dn2sr

2 жыл бұрын

Does the UK have changing tables in the men's restrooms though? Asking because I'm American and if they do, I wouldn't know.

@mandywaynick8725

2 жыл бұрын

I've always wondered about this, cause like I'm a woman but I've been in the men's restrooms where I know the ladies restroom where iim at does have changing table and I wondered why the men's don't. I guess it just goes back to gender roles. Oh and BTW I mean I've been in the men's restroom in that I worked there and was cleaning the bathroom, usually after the store closed.

@FrostedGalaxies

2 жыл бұрын

This is so stupid. I get that not all places have spots to change babies but if you are going to and are going to gender your bathrooms, why not just have a change table in each?

@nothanks1239

2 жыл бұрын

@@FullmoonPhantom-dn2sr We usually have separate baby changing bathrooms. As far as I'm aware, there are no baby changing facilities in either womens or men's bathrooms.

@incognito9313

2 жыл бұрын

Men shouldn't be allowed near children anyways, good thing theyre discouraging fatherhood.

I went to a concert not too long ago, and they only had male and female. A girl my age was with her caretaker, and she was blind. Her caretaker was a man, and they wouldn't let either of them in there. Me and my friend ended up taking her in with us, and blocking the door for her, we reported the staff to the manager, and apparently they did that to a lot of disabled people who had opposite sex caretakers. I was so mad.

@KillTheCupcakes

2 жыл бұрын

This is why gendering bathrooms makes no sense.

@PriyaPans

2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you and your friends were there for herm it's worth reporting the establishment and posting about it on social media, especially for disabled people, to ensure they can make arrangements if they ever have to visit that establishment

@cremebrulee4759

2 жыл бұрын

Huge thanks to you and your friend for helping her.

@southaussiegarbo2054

2 жыл бұрын

Wow

@yourmother2425

2 жыл бұрын

@@southaussiegarbo2054 I know how it must sound, you'd think that in 2022, things would be different, but this actually happened.

As someone who works as a caregiver in the US for a wheelchair user who needs help transferring to toilet, US bathrooms are notoriously inaccessible. More than once we’ve encountered disabled stalls where there’s not space for a wheelchair or where the door can’t close w the chair inside. I’ve literally had to guard the stall w the door open before bc there’s no way to close the stall door. It’s ridiculous.

@sweetluvgurl

2 жыл бұрын

I know! I’m a wheelchair user, and it’s frustrating. More need to speak up about this.

@Mini-wd7qz

2 жыл бұрын

And most of the time they’re very dirty and aren’t cleaned often

@mcrchickenluvr

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of older buildings that weren’t initially built to be ADA standard were or are minimally modified as such. Just enough that it shut the ADA up. Even apartment complexes fall under that. They call it being grandfathered in. I call it BS. I’d like to know what idiot ok’s these changes, or lack thereof. Because clearly their standards and reality don’t work together.

@piaaadah

2 жыл бұрын

And it's always occupied by someone who's not disabled.

@Jay-cs9uq

2 жыл бұрын

and the "disabled" stalls toilets are so HIGH that if you arent that tall (or a child or elderly) and have certain disabilities, you have to CLIMB ONTO the toilet...touching it in gross places and not being able to reach the floor. "dismounting" from one of these can be dangerous for those with disabilities!

"we're in the us and the braille is spelt wrong" Of course it is, lmao.

@shantelwoods9064

2 жыл бұрын

Spelled not spelt

@MC-fv9no

2 жыл бұрын

@@shantelwoods9064 it’s only “spelled” in American English

@HollowG_

2 жыл бұрын

@@MC-fv9no so the correct way.

@LOhaha94

2 жыл бұрын

@@HollowG_ No, British English is the original English and much older than American English lol.

@cephalopod7300

2 жыл бұрын

@@LOhaha94 They diverged when people from England settled in North America, but British English has continued changing substantially since then, so it's pointless to argue which variety of English in 2022 is the 'original'.

The only place in the UK where I've seen a family toilet is a Debenham's.

@millielaxton3306

2 жыл бұрын

Or some John Lewis but not all of them :)

@nah3418

2 жыл бұрын

Yea

@morganwilson4682

2 жыл бұрын

YESS 🤣

@katie6171

2 жыл бұрын

Most shops, cafés, restaurants and pretty much most public services have them lol

@Gamper1

2 жыл бұрын

I think the only one ive seen in the UK was in a mall

Wheelchair user here. Disability stalls are everywhere where I live in the American Midwest, BUT, most people see them as "the big fancy stall", so, I always have to wait outside the door even though the bathroom is mostly empty. 95% of the time the person looks at me so guilty, like they accidentally kicked my puppy or something.

@piaaadah

2 жыл бұрын

Lmao yes!! The always look down and go "uh.. Sorry.." 🤣 I make sure to park my wheelchair right outside their stall so they can see my wheels under their door 🤣

@theconfusedvampire

2 жыл бұрын

@@piaaadah Me, too! 🤣👏🏻

@andieallison6792

2 жыл бұрын

Because disabled stalls are not reserved for disabled people.

@r.taylor8836

2 жыл бұрын

@@andieallison6792 but should be reserved for people with disabilities or small children, or if it’s the only stall available

@FennekinBraixen

2 жыл бұрын

@@andieallison6792 Okay so women arent allowed in mens stalls, men not in womens but for some reason disabled stalls are not only for disabled people??

At my old school, the disabled stall in the girl's bathroom on the floor where I had most of my classes didn't even have a door. I either had to use the toilet wide in the open, jam my wheelchair into one of the regular stalls/leave it outside and risk someone stealing it (happened once & I was stuck there for ages since I could only walk a few steps without assistance), or go down three floors to use the teacher's bathroom in the office. Worse was that the elevator at that school was unreliable at the best of times and made me late to class more often than I can count, including once breaking down entirely and leaving me and a now friend stuck in the office for 3 days with nothing to do because they still insisted on us coming to school even if neither of us could attend any of our classes. Those aren't even the worst experiences I had at that hell hole of a school, but they really highlight how the lack of accessibility for disabled people really threatens the ability to get an equal education in America.

@MutantRobot602

Жыл бұрын

In my country we’re lucky if we have a functioning toilet at the disabled stall, and if they happen to have an accessible washbasin it won’t have water, so pointless to have them. And also, most trash cans can only be opened with your foot

@watsonwrote

Жыл бұрын

They likely made you and your friend sit in the office because they needed you on campus for the headcount, so they could be paid for you attending. I had some severe medical issues in my teens that made attending class very difficult, so they just had me come to campus, sit in the art basement for a few hours, then go home. My family found out they did this so they would get paid for my attendance.

@NoThankUBeQuiet

9 ай бұрын

In my HS none of the stalls had doors. It's called being in a poor school.

It’s crazy that some places don’t take the time to spell the brain correctly. I mean I assume you must be fluent with braille and know what they mean, but we in America really need to put more effort into helping people with disabilities in public settings.

@official_aperson

2 жыл бұрын

This isn't to be mean I just wanted you to know but I think it's autocorrected braille to brain in your first sentence

@8unnylover

2 жыл бұрын

@@official_aperson kinda hilarious considering the grievance is about misspelling lolol!! Autocorrect really wanted to mess with this very important point

@official_aperson

2 жыл бұрын

@@8unnylover that's what I was thinking

@BrokebutCreative

2 жыл бұрын

Now that's a self own.

@Atlanta543

2 жыл бұрын

Lol thanks. The irony is real

I'm from the US and live in the UK and I remember how excited I was for the disabled toilets here. Privacy, space, emergency pull tab, easy to use handles on toilets, sinks and doors. It gives me such a sense of security as I tend to faint upon standing and the extra space means I'm less likely to hit my head, plus the pull tab can be reached from the ground just in case I do. I'll definitely be more nervous going back to the US after getting used to it.

@sammykenny

2 жыл бұрын

@A Kasp Have I misunderstood you or did you dismiss the ability to live safely as just another thing people complain about?

@elokin300

2 жыл бұрын

@A Kasp well what have you done, since you’re clearly such an upstanding person?

@sammykenny

2 жыл бұрын

@A Kasp Okay so you just want disabled people to suffer. Got it. It’s not easy as pie to get into government, you know? When you grow up you’ll understand better.

@MrEsphoenix

2 жыл бұрын

@A Kasp Jesus, does a disabled person wanting quality of life features in a toilet really offend you that much? I think you need to get your priorities strait.

@nootnootimaboot8798

Жыл бұрын

omg that sounds wonderful :0 i've only ever seen a pull tab outside the hospital in the US in one VEry fancy hotel

You can really tell accessibility wasn't made by/for disabled people in America. It's awful

@nillyk5671

2 жыл бұрын

It's not surprising. Eugenics started in the US.

@DivineLightPaladin

2 жыл бұрын

@@nillyk5671 you sure it wasn't Germany brought it?

@spacedude5208

2 жыл бұрын

@@DivineLightPaladin America did try eugenics at one point it was mostly just how white can we get people to be didn’t go anywhere tho

@bluedragon3657

2 жыл бұрын

Looked it up on Wikipedia: "While eugenic principles have been practiced as early as ancient Greece, the contemporary history of eugenics began in the late 19th century, when a popular eugenics movement emerged in the United Kingdom,[7] and then spread to many countries, including the United States, Canada, Australia,[8] and most European countries."

@hithere7080

2 жыл бұрын

@@DivineLightPaladin the concept of eugenics originates in greece, and was first put into practice in the first decade of the 20th century, in new york city. Fun fact: bad things happened before nazis, usually because of america

I’ve never thought about the problem a different sex carer would have in choosing a restroom, that’s a good point. America also has a problem with baby diaper changing tables only being in the women’s room. Which sucks for men with children.

@KB-ct7th

2 жыл бұрын

I remember actor Ashton Kutcher trying to bring that issue to light when his kids were in diapers. Although if the changing station in the Men’s looks as disgusting as in the women’s, I would hesitate to change a babe.

@isyoursheepwireless

2 жыл бұрын

Sadly the baby changing thing is also a common problem in the UK

@KB-ct7th

2 жыл бұрын

@@isyoursheepwireless That’s a true shame. If there are people responsible for cleaning the bathrooms, I would think that keeping the babies changing station clean would be less repulsive than the toilets and urinals. Truly though, if I were a mom or dad and my child needed a diaper change, I think I would have an oilcloth to lay over the table/sink top and baby would lay on that. Too many people who should clean up after themselves, don’t.

@marshmallowloaf

2 жыл бұрын

@@KB-ct7th What places are we talking about? I work as a janitor in a commissary and our men's restrooms DO have changing stations. Truth be told, where I work the women's restrooms are always far more dirty than the men's. If anything, women restrooms are more prone to pissed on toilet paper being strung about then a men's restroom. Which those if anything just have piss in the urinals

@beepboop5491

Жыл бұрын

@@isyoursheepwireless Well, in my city, most places have a disabled toilet that also has a baby changing station. Women's & mens toilets don't usually have them, but still

thank you for mentioning people with carers of a different sex! when i was a kid, many places didn’t have unisex disabled bathrooms. if i was with my dad we had to choose between him going into the women’s bathroom (obviously not gonna happen haha) or me, a little girl, going into the men’s bathroom :/ i was told to cover my eyes and hope i didn’t see anything!

@lisaw150

2 жыл бұрын

Stupid question: would it have been a huge issue with other people if your dad had gone into the women's bathroom with you? Like, do you think anyone wohld have said something? (I don't know if you have a visible disability, but even if it's invisible, I don't think there'd be an issue where I live if a dad accompanied his daughter into the women's bathroom. Because you can't see anything private in a women's bathroom, after all.)

@natreeves1111

2 жыл бұрын

@@lisaw150 yeah you’d think that because women’s bathrooms are all private that it wouldn’t really matter haha. but people were veryyyy uncomfortable with a grown man in a women’s bathroom. the one time he did go in the girl’s bathroom with me someone did complain and say he shouldn’t be in there. he politely explained that he was taking me to the toilet, and i am visibly disabled so it was obvious why i needed him, but a woman in the bathroom was still not happy with it at all. maybe that was just a karen and it was a once off, or maybe it was because this was 15 odd years ago. then again, the US has many states crafting entire (very transphobic) bills to keep males out of women’s bathrooms, so it definitely is something that a lot of people are strict about, whyever that may be ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

@lisaw150

2 жыл бұрын

@@natreeves1111 some people are a mystery to me... sorry you had to go through that!

@stephanief5794

2 жыл бұрын

@@lisaw150 people would be calling the police. they get real fucked up about it for no reason.

@AliceAmane

2 жыл бұрын

@@natreeves1111 that definitely was a Karen, no sane human would deny a father to help his disabled daughter to use the bathroom. Even if she felt uncomfortable, it's not all about her. I mean it's not like you two would've started camping in there. I'm really sorry you and your dad had to experience that, hopefully one day people will stop being so selfish!

I moved to Japan last year, I was surprised the first time I went to the station next to my home: in front of the bathroom, there was a map and everything was written in braille on it. Never saw that in my birth country.

@stormyalice

Жыл бұрын

Modern, good countries with a healthcare system that cares, usually have a higher standard. The US? Ha. They don't care and the standard is on the floor.

How hard would it have been for them to spell a 6 letter word correctly. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Tell me you don’t GAF about your job without actually telling me. 🙄

@plebiansociety

2 жыл бұрын

On that type of sign it's laminate laser cutting glued to laminate. Braille L is three dots in a column, semicolon is 2 dots. It just means the top dot fell off or was left on the sheet when they did the transfer.

@nikkiisrael2708

2 жыл бұрын

Hello, LOL I agree with you. It’s ridiculous!

@MrCOLBSTAH

Жыл бұрын

I think it's just more often that people don't consider blind people or disabled people in general. And not only to mention, it's a huge minority at least when it comes to bigger cities in the US anyway.

And I can’t tell you how often the “accessible” stall in bathrooms is out of order!

@Og-Judy

2 жыл бұрын

Or an able-bodied person was using it. As a senior with physical issues, using a "regular" stall feels like I'm sitting too low on a standard height toilet as the accessible toilets are higher.

@downhomesunset

2 жыл бұрын

@@Og-Judy you probably benefit from the grab bars too; like me.

@skullsnbones_

2 жыл бұрын

@@Og-Judy that pisses me off, and i hate how as a child i used to use those without knowledge. nobody ever told me not to go in there, but i know now not too- and guess what, i learned that on my own, not from any adults or role models of mine.

@aff77141

Жыл бұрын

or just plain filthy

@KyleEvra

Жыл бұрын

@@Og-Judy Looks like someone is jealous that person don't have a disability.

"We're the greatest country in the world!" Bitch... where

@LifeIsAHighwayIAmACarCrash

2 жыл бұрын

That's code for 'We're the richest country in the world, and we know how to flaunt it in irresponsible ways'.

@Schnort

2 жыл бұрын

We're the greatest country in the world unless you are: -A woman -Trans -Not white -Disabled (physically or mentally) -Not Christian -Not financially stable -More that I can't think of off the top of my head

@jamie6506

2 жыл бұрын

Yes and yes to you both

@Dimplez271

2 жыл бұрын

I feel that way when ppl say Canadians are polite 🤣 maybe to tourists but to each other its a passive aggressive overly entitled ego control freak blood bath yeah so polite that some one could start a KZread channel abt how ignorant and rude Canadians are 🙄

@jaymercer4692

2 жыл бұрын

@@LifeIsAHighwayIAmACarCrash The US isn’t really the richest country in the world. It just has some stupidly rich people but also a huge amounts of poverty.

I always try to use the family bathroom with my guide dog, Maui is a standard poodle and she barely fits in what we as Americans call the accessible toilet stall in a regular restroom. It’s crazy most of the stalls are too small I use the family bathroom but according ot people I am with I get stinky looks from people because I use the family toilet over a standard one. Well if my guide dog doesn’t fit where am I supposed to go. Yah its nuts how much we have come forward but like at a lot of malls I go to the stores aren’t even wheelchair accessible they maybe on the ground floor so wheelchairs or guides can go in but the way the shelves and things are situated you can’t move through the store.

I'm disabled and when I went to the UK and saw how good the disabled toilets were I was absolutely shocked. Happy for the UK and hope we can get them here eventually.

New Zealand is like that with non-standardised accessible bathrooms. So I've often come across ones where there is no where near enough room to turn the wheelchair or they've used doors that are too heavy to open or the handle is too high up etc.

@daisysparkles6937

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah nah from nz too and like how can they and why do they have the layout like that

@QueerCripple

2 жыл бұрын

The door being too heavy to open is the issue I constantly have. How dare people call them accessible bathrooms when myself and my wheelchair take like 10 minutes of struggling and sweating to just keep the door open without it slamming onto me? If the door isn't automatic I don't consider it accessible. I'm not talking about the stall doors by the way I mean the main door to get in-and-out of the bathroom

@cosmicmuffin322

2 жыл бұрын

I didn't realise they were so bad here. We should copy the UK design

where i live there are “accessible” toilets in a lot of places usually its for people in wheelchairs, and just a bigger stall, some of them are a separate little room(common in rest stops)

@SandrA-hr5zk

2 жыл бұрын

But I doesn’t prevent each restroom from being different in design from one place to the next. Some chains are good about having the same layout from one location to the next. But they often don’t remodel older stores. The way she makes it sound, there is a disabled bathroom that is individual of the gendered bathrooms. One toilet; one sink. And enough room for a wheelchair user and another person to enter. Growing up and helping various family members with various disabilities, really lets you see the insight between what is “accessible” by gov definition and what is user friendly by the actual person.

@humanvalesoot9666

2 жыл бұрын

@@SandrA-hr5zk yea

@Alex-cw3rz

2 жыл бұрын

@@humanvalesoot9666 yeah in the UK that would be illegal (if the place is over a certain size) as a disabled bathroom needs to be seperate unisex, needs to have emergency pull cords, handles to hold onto enough space for a wheelchair and a care giver to move freely etc.

@humanvalesoot9666

2 жыл бұрын

@@Alex-cw3rz what can i say America sucks rn

@nobodyanon

2 жыл бұрын

Most of the ones I've seen (western US) are like this but also with handles

That is a huge issue here in the US, thank you for using your platform to bring attention to it!!

As a Canadian who was a carer for a bit, I would bring my client (M) into the women's bathroom with me and use the wheelchair accessible stall. Luckily, he was cool with it and these days there is a bit more openness with genders of people using different bathrooms. But yeah its not ideal.

@cottoncandyjellybean8539

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I’m sorry but as a woman, it I ever saw a man in the woman’s restroom I wouldn’t be comfortable with that.

@AliceAmane

2 жыл бұрын

@@cottoncandyjellybean8539 sorry but it's not all about you in life. Disabled people have to use the bathroom too, it's not like they're doing this to have fun or make others uncomfortable. They wouldn't do it like that if there was another option. Put yourself in their position.

@gaynebula6439

2 жыл бұрын

@@cottoncandyjellybean8539 grow up, would be my advice. With a side order of get over yourself. Disabled people needing to LIVE is more important than your primary school relic of a mindset.

@genroa3881

2 жыл бұрын

@@cottoncandyjellybean8539 live in a society that is made to accept them, or deal with it.

@SDayle

2 жыл бұрын

@@cottoncandyjellybean8539 You think some poor chap who can't even use the toilet without help has any interest in you? Just how self-centered are you?

I'm so glad you shared this. We need world wide respect and consideration on disabled individuals. A universal bathroom setup all the same is excellent!

I guess since I grew up in Ireland that the idea of having a standard bathroom layout for disabled bathrooms was just the norm for me. I never realised, but probably should have, that the US doesn’t have a standard bathroom for disabled people.

oh no I can't imagine blind people during Covid!

@kawaiidere1023

2 жыл бұрын

Imagine warning signs in braille being like “Do not touch” ❌👆 They closed the library nearby during COVID, I can’t imagine having to deal with stuff like that without sight. They don’t even put up anything tactile or audible, just a piece of paper saying reduced hours

@Joce-bl7qi

2 жыл бұрын

@ Kawaii Dere I’m sure if the library location was called a recording of the updated hours could be heard, or an employee could explain the new schedule.

@kenzieandrewsarm4849

2 жыл бұрын

@s m No Covid can be transmitted by touching surfaces that have been touched by other infected people

@enbyfrogz6766

2 жыл бұрын

@s m tell me, how is covid contracted then? also, monkey pox is typically contracted when having sex with men, so it's much less of an issue for the wider public edit: its come to my attention that monkey pox isn't an STD, despite what people around me have told me. i was stupid and didn't do research, but i just assumed that it was another aids situation and that people were targeting gay people, specifically gay men for having sex and spreading monkey pox. that's my bad, and i apologize for spreading misinformation. please read WhiteEgretOrchid's comment below mine, they know more than me about it. i deleted the part where i implied it was an STD as to not spread more misinformation, and again i apologize for doing this.

@whiteegretorchids8234

2 жыл бұрын

@@enbyfrogz6766 It’s not just from “sexually active men”, it can be spread through touching of the scabs, rashes or sores as well as body fluids (including things like sweat, tears, and respiratory droplets which are produced from breathing, talking, etc) and things that have touched the sores/body fluids (such as clothes) from someone who is infected. These things make it easier for it to be spread during sex obviously but it shouldn’t be treated as just the have sex with men infection like it has been treated.

Oh yeah, gotta love my "fami,y"

I’ve never even thought of that. Wow very insightful Edit: this was not a joke lmaoooo y’all sick🤣🤣🤣

@Autchoiiy

2 жыл бұрын

You did not just-

@localchibigameuser9732

2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha

@skullsnbones_

2 жыл бұрын

the genuinely deadpan users strike again, this is why tone tags should be more widespread lol

@zanzaboonda

2 жыл бұрын

There's nothing wrong with using commonly used words and sayings.

@SparkyForce

2 жыл бұрын

LMAO

My sister Amelia was in a wheelchair chair her whole life, sadly she passed away, but I know what you mean. My dad and mom would have to take her into the family bathroom. It was a struggle.

@-starry-8569

2 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️

@penelopew705

2 жыл бұрын

@@-starry-8569 thank you.

@kelsey2333

2 жыл бұрын

Amelia is my middle name!! It was my great grandmother's name. It's a beautiful name. I'm sorry for your loss, you sound like you have a beautiful soul

I can't be the only one who's never seen pad/tampon machines in public bathrooms. My school has one but I've never seen one outside of that.

@KillTheCupcakes

2 жыл бұрын

You must live in one of the poorer states.

@nat6303

2 жыл бұрын

@@KillTheCupcakes maybe, im in az

@ElpSmith

2 жыл бұрын

They’re normally only in places that have a lot of traffic like a tourist hotspot, sports arena, movie theatre, etc.

@nootnootimaboot8798

Жыл бұрын

or like, if i see one it's visibly broken or hasn't been restocked in decades

@cxffaye

Жыл бұрын

I’ve only ever seen it ince

I just realized what a unsanitized mess it must be to use a _public_ toilet when you have to rely on touch

The answer about the carer is that most of the handicap stalls in the large restroom are big enough to accommodate 2 people. Unfortunately that's also where they often put the changing tables making it obvious that that's the place to take your small children who are potty training. So while I grew up being taught to leave that stall for someone who needs it they've now made it something that I probably need and more people having to wait to use it.

it’s RARE that i go somewhere that has a “family bathroom.” even then, bc i do see people mentioning male BR not having changing tables, not all womens do either!! that will probably shock you, but i can’t remember the last time i went into a BR and saw a changing table 🤷🏼

@DualKeys

Жыл бұрын

A cousin of mine used to frequent a particular local restaurant until she had a baby and realized there was nowhere for her to change her diaper. The business ended up losing a regular customer.

That pause between “tampon” and “machine” was perfect. Hilarious

By ADA laws all public businesses must have a disability stall, that’s usually the size of 2-3 regular stalls and has a handlebar.

@ExElliexE

2 жыл бұрын

Did you not hear their problems with that though? Don’t want to go touching everything to find the specific stall - which is usually all the way at the end, and not always after the same # of stalls - and wouldn’t have been able to have a carer of a different gender helping them. edit: why do people think this comment is angry? lol maybe don't read everything in an angry tone, and it won't sound that way 🤷

@8unnylover

2 жыл бұрын

And also disabled bathrooms in the UK have an emergency help lever for if they need assistance, which is something I've never seen at all in America. In Canada I've seen emergency buttons only a handful of times and buttons would be much harder for many disabilities than a pull string, and again because of the lack of a standardized layout it'd be hard for those with vision impairments to find said emergency button.

@Alyssamariem3

2 жыл бұрын

@@8unnylover yeah I’ve only seen emergency pull cords in nursing homes/ hospitals/ medical offices in America, never at a public place or business

@vomitthrowupandpuke496

2 жыл бұрын

do you know how to listen theodosia

@MariaAbrams

2 жыл бұрын

@@Alyssamariem3 because those businesses would have to employ someone to respond to those emergency bathroom calls, which nobody is going to do. Also, that could be a liability for a business. If they were to put a help button in a bathroom and someone used it to request help, whoever responds to help that person, is opening themselves up to a possible lawsuit (or worse) if something were to happen, or say that person doesn't like them for whatever reason, they could say or accuse that person of anything then possibly sue them even. Also, the person responding would have to be a trained medical professional and who's gonna waste their education to work what would be a part time and low paying job. But I do think there need to be more family or disabled bathrooms. We've come a long way in the last 40/50yrs or so when it comes to the rights for disabled people, but we could still be doing better. Not enough is done to help the blind and deaf especially.

america could definitely be way more disability friendly

@patriciawei9575

2 жыл бұрын

They're busy creating genderneutral bathrooms,..... Who needs accessible toilets for disabled people, when there are people with real problems?

@RaMZes9722

2 жыл бұрын

Why? Whole country is disabled. Just look at them, they voted for Biden with dementia

@Hobo_X

2 жыл бұрын

No other country comes close to disability accomodations actually, but yes that doesn't mean we shouldn't be always improving.

@GrubbySalad

2 жыл бұрын

It should since most are mentally disabled

@rotisseriepossum

2 жыл бұрын

@@Hobo_X Tldr: idk where you got that idea but actually the system is designed to kill us and federal progress is slow. Disabled ppl do not have marriage equality in the US even tho technically we’ve been generally able to marry nationwide since 1980 (when Missouri changed its law on epileptics marrying). I say this because if we manage to get SSI, you’ll most likely lose it upon getting married (especially if your spouse isn’t also on SSI). You need 5 years of work before qualifying for SSDI, so many many disabled ppl can’t even get the aid that’s supposedly meant for us in particular because we can’t get said experience. really? Because everything I’ve heard about Europe’s health/disability services sounds almost utopian to me. Obviously it varies by country (i think I’ve mostly heard the best about Sweden or thereabouts), but even if it were just universal healthcare, that already puts other countries ahead of us. I’m pretty sure Sweden even has decent Universal Basic Income, if I remember correctly. Even if the US’s services themselves are top-notch in spite of our broken healthcare system and crippled social safety nets (pun not intended), there’s still the issue of all the hoops we have to jump through. I was born disabled (autism and adhd are the most debilitating). Despite all the obvious signs, my parents/my concerns weren’t taken seriously until I was 25. By then I had already developed a history of anxiety, depression, and CPTSD. Even if the autism/adhd didn’t render me unable to work, the CPTSD is the final nail in the coffin given that my trauma is rooted in work/productivity. I can’t get SSDI because I don’t have enough work experience (i have 3 years, you need at least 5). SSDI won’t put you on easy street, but you are allowed to earn/save money while using it. I can’t get SSI simply because I’m married to a non-disabled person and he earns too much per month (we’re still scraping by). I would need to get divorced, sell most of my stuff, and move back with my parents to get SSI, which offers as little money as possible. The income per month limit has been stagnant at $2000 since 1989. $2000 back then is worth almost $5000 now. $2000 now is worth almost $400 back then. And this is for one person. There’s programs to help you work while on SSI, but you’re still punished if you ‘earn too much.’ You can only keep $2000 in your bank account/assets at any time. There’s the income limit and a resource limit (your savings). Money spent by others for you (such as someone buying you food with their own money) counts toward your ‘income’ and reduces your SSI earnings for month. I’ve worked in different disability-related jobs (direct support for an adult and a teacher’s aide/proxy teacher for disabled children), I am disabled, and I have disabled family; i know what it’s like from just about every angle. Burnout is a major issue among care workers and training is all but nonexistent. Bear in mind I’ve worked with non-speaking ppl: family/workers gossip about their clients right in front of them. family/workers ignore a client’s needs or refuse to try understanding said needs to begin with. family/workers assume intent or emotion through a non-disabled lens, etc.

Most bathrooms also don’t have a changing table for an infant either. Something I learned after becoming a mom.

If I learned anything by living in the US, the standard is, any idea to standardize something to be helpful to others, is viciously met with opposition.

I love how much I learn from your channel. It's amazing the little things that can be done to help others if nondisabled persons would just listen. Thanks for teaching those of us that are just ignorant to your personal struggle of daily life because people don't even think enough of your potential struggle.

I absolutely adore these videos! I've seen a few of them now, and I've only just realized that what you are doing is such a great service to help those with disabilities better understand your needs. Even though my mom has been handicapped for a decade now, I hadn't thought of those with carers needing assistance and how larger, more private bathrooms aren't available everywhere. I just think you're educating, opening minds, and sparking change and that awesome

Thanks for the informative blogs Lucy

"Every tampon..." 😳 "Machine" 😅phew

Hear me out. Why don't we get rid of gendered bathrooms? Also it's horrible there isn't disability friendly bathrooms mandated.

@adventurtle2533

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I'm with you on that one but also the idea of sexual assault is still a problem. I'm not saying it will happen but I think It can make women feel uncomfortable being the less physically stronger sex

@oomphdooph

2 жыл бұрын

That's a terrible idea, I refuse to share a bathroom with a male who has a penis

@tori8247

2 жыл бұрын

@@adventurtle2533 I gotta say...if someone wants to SA you, it doesn't matter if you flee to a women's bathroom or are already in a women's bathroom. So idk.

@adventurtle2533

2 жыл бұрын

@@tori8247 yeah I know but still it seems more unsafe and making people more uncomfortable having ungendered bathrooms. But if it was a single bathroom with a locking door then I am completely on board

@genroa3881

2 жыл бұрын

@@adventurtle2533 honestly, once non gendered bathrooms are in place, people don't seem to care anymore. At least that's what I saw where I live.

There's a disability stall in every bathroom, I think it's a requirement

@FrostedGalaxies

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, the problem here is that the layouts are all different and they are usually in gendered bathrooms.

@wafflez4456

2 жыл бұрын

@@FrostedGalaxiesfair enough, tbh the disabled stall is always the farthest one, in my experiences at least

@ElpSmith

2 жыл бұрын

@@wafflez4456 Some of the comments here mentioned that they aren’t always big enough, there’s a changing table in there, no emergency lever, the fact the bathrooms are gendered, etc.

I wish we had disabled toilets. As a wheelchair user it can be incredibly difficult to use the "disabled stalls".

@piaaadah

2 жыл бұрын

And it's always occupied by non-wheelchair users

It’s insane that this isn’t standard all across the world. How can you even consider your country to be a developed nation if you can’t provide something as basic as access for disabled people?!

"Every tampon... *pause* machine" 😂

I love her “woo!” At the beginning! So sweet! Beautiful smiles!

I can't tell you how much it pisses me off when I go to use the disabled stall in my wheelchair and it's occupied by someone not disabled!!

@theparanoidandroid3583

2 жыл бұрын

To be fair, not every disability is visible. But yes I would guess a lot of the time they probably weren't.

@cottoncandyjellybean8539

2 жыл бұрын

I hate tight cramped bathroom stalls so I use the big stall. That or of every other stall is taken I’m just going to take the bi in one wether it’s empty or not. I really don’t want to sound rude but sometimes you just have to wait like everyone else.

@ElpSmith

2 жыл бұрын

@@cottoncandyjellybean8539 You still sound rude and entitled though

@HyperWolf

Жыл бұрын

I have used disabled stalls in the past because regular stalls are sometimes too small to close the door while I’m in there since I’m kind of tall and clumsy (and claustrophobic)… or because it was an emergency. Other than that I try to avoid them. Although, you never really know if someone is disabled just by looking at them. A friend got yelled at by a guy in a wheelchair for using a disabled bathroom because he looked fine, but he couldn’t stand up without the support bar. So I don’t assume someone isn’t supposed to be in there if they are.

But how do you find the sign on the wall??

I'm learning braille just for fun and I'm confused by the translation "Fami,y". Doesn't it say familY?

@thomasmathew13

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I noticed it too. It does indeed say "familY"

@elinhulldin5926

2 жыл бұрын

@@thomasmathew13 Thank you

As a Landscape Architecture student, your videos really help me in terms of layout and other design elements to make it accessible to anyone ❤️

To be fair, almost every store, mall, restaurant, and other places I've been have family bathrooms and I live in the US. Maybe my state has implemented them more than the rest of the country, but we have quite a lot of them here where I live. I thought it was the same for other state, but maybe I'm wrong.

@aidenwestdahl1255

2 жыл бұрын

Your state seems to be the opposite of mine! I think me and my friends/family have seen a collective total of 10 family restrooms. And my coworkers have seen maybe 7. We only have them in high amounts in places like the airport

A few years ago, my partner and I were traveling. Since we were together, he didn't have a cane with him, which turned out to be a mistake. Terminal 4 of the Atlanta airport did not have a separate toilet for people with disabilities or family bathroom - just a slightly larger stall within the separate men's and women's restrooms. The restroom was one of the ones without a door, where you essentially go around a mini-maze to get to the toilets and urinals. All of the gate staff was female. We had to page a male staff member to take my partner to the toilet. On top of that, when I tried to explain the situation (English is my first language but not my partner's), I was initially shut down - "We can't help someone use the bathroom." "He doesn't need help TOILETING. He just needs someone to walk him to the toilet and then back due to the lousy design here at the airport!"

@jersey282

Жыл бұрын

They probably thought you literally needed help using the toilet since you call the restroom/bathroom (the place with a toilet in it), the toilet. We all speak English but it's not the same English.

@yomintyfresh

Жыл бұрын

​@@jersey282 I am a native speaker of American English, work as an EFL lecturer in central Europe, and spend about a month a year in the UK. I am very aware of all of the linguistic differences. :) In US English, if you are an adult and need assistance while disposing of your personal waste, you typically say that you need help toileting/ using the bathroom/ using the toilet ("using the toilet" would be my last choice of vocabulary, since the word "toilet" is typically avoided in polite American English unless you're discussing plumbing; I was surprised the first time I went to the UK and heard people asking, "Where is the toilet?"). An adult requiring help with toileting from a person who is not their caregiver would not merely ask to be taken to the bathroom. I very clearly stated to airport staff that someone needed to take my partner into the bathroom and did not need help toileting. The airport staff chose to speak over me instead when I started to request help. The problem was significant enough that we filed complaints with the airline we flew with, as well as the airport.

Hey, if I was taking care of someone or needed someone to take care of me, and the person wasn't a matching gender...i-d-g-a EFFFF!!! 🎵 😆 Let a Karen or Kevin try and stop us!! It will be their dirtiest mistake of the day. lol but even on the other end, as a lady, if I saw like, a full on man, in the ladies room WITH a lady needing assistance, (those of us who don't need assistance, should use our common sense and pay attention to our surroundings as well as the intuition God gave us) UNLESS that man is abusing someone, or actively being inappropriate to his disabled person or the other people in the bathroom, I would let him alone. He can cover his eyes or look at his phone or even say something along the lines "sorry! My lady needs some assistance time to time. I'm not trying to startle you" if he doesn't need to be directly INSIDE the toilet with her. Just don't be creepy and myob! 😁

@solsystem1342

2 жыл бұрын

It's almost like gendered bathrooms are a stupid idea that doesn't make any sense

@King_Cori

2 жыл бұрын

@@solsystem1342 it’s really not my guy. It’s a good thing to have.

@solsystem1342

2 жыл бұрын

@@King_Cori because?

@King_Cori

2 жыл бұрын

@@solsystem1342 idk what gender you are, so.. I’m just gonna do it from female perspective, but it could always be the other way. Say you’re a woman, in the woman’s bathrooms you should be able to feel safer. But if there’s no specific bathrooms, any man could walk in. A creepy man, normal man, or worse. First, some women would feel uncomfortable. 2, things could actually happen, a lot. R@p£, @ss@ult, kidnapping, etc. It’s a good thing to have gender specific bathrooms. To keep people comfortable and safe. I’d say they should add more “family bathrooms” everywhere so that people can always have their assistants. Plus, honestly any assistant of a different gender can go into the opposite gender bathroom if they are helping their person. They just have to clarify that to anyone that walks in and it’ll be fine. Simple.

@waffles3629

2 жыл бұрын

@@King_Cori you realize creeps can walk into a bathroom they shouldn't be in because the sign isn't a magical force field? People breaking the law don't care about breaking the law.

I’m a caregiver with a son (10) who requires toileting assistance. I am for going into whichever bathroom is cleanest upon inspection or has the largest stalls if a family/unisex bathroom is unavailable. There are times I have to remove his shoes to change a pull-up or change his bottoms and the largest, least filthy floor gets my pick.

Her: Wooho American: Wouo-

This is so true when I use the public restroom it is so hard to find where everything is

"Touching every tampon.....machine." Lol! Yes, because we here are NASTY & don't know how to use the trashcans.

@mylifeafterbreakfast

2 жыл бұрын

Tampon machine might mean the tampon dispenser. The machine that spits out tampons/pads for $0.25. I think that makes more sense to me.

@mynewyork165

2 жыл бұрын

@@mylifeafterbreakfast I was joking. Duh!!

@lilywest9552

2 жыл бұрын

I In New York you could use tone indicators as not everyone understands how the message is supposed to be read :) Like you can add /j at the end and everyone will understand that it is a joke

@mynewyork165

2 жыл бұрын

@@lilywest9552 Or, you could just use your common sense, which the other user didn't do.

@lilywest9552

2 жыл бұрын

I In New York many people don’t have that common sense due to things such as autism. It was just a suggestion

This is great!well done spreading awareness on this!👏👏👏👏👏thank u

Lov you Lucy! Great videos!! Keep it up!!

Sounds like someone was typing family and had a typo fami,y

UK: 1 pound to use restroom 💀

@MsBabylove11

Жыл бұрын

It used to be a penny..... Hence the saying "I need to go spend a penny" 😂... I guess inflation is the problem? .... Although that's mostly in central London and more touristy places I think? 🤔

Here in the USA a standard fpr any bathroom is to have a bigger one at the end or front for people with wheelchairs

I love learning from your experience. Please keep sharing it’s making me more insightful

usually what most people, at least those i know, refer to disabled toilets as the biggest stall in the bathroom. though, everyone can use those and a lot prefer to use those because of how big they are.

@piaaadah

2 жыл бұрын

Yep I'm a wheelchair user and have to constantly wait for non-wheelchair user to finish so I can go to the bathroom. People need to stop doing this, we don't have the luxury of using the normal stalls like they do.

@CrowJoestar

Жыл бұрын

I’d wish they just made normal stalls bigger, it’s incredibly claustrophobic. I always feel bad for using those stalls but most of the other stalls are so small that the door pins me in and I can’t leave.

omg she was in Reno and I didn’t know 😔😔😔😔😔😔

Thank you for sticking up for us! I love your work.

@lucyedwards

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!and thank you😊

Lol there was something so fierce about the nail tapping. "This right here? This is wrong mama." - for real tho, thank you for these videos, they're enlightening and much appreciated

Lol i live in reno funny to see a video about our airport😅💀

@briteskylar

2 жыл бұрын

Lol. I was looking for a comment like this! I’m from Reno as well. Lmao.

thats bc the USA gvnt sees disabled ppl as lesser and doesnt want to put money or time into accomodations :,( we are an extremely ableist nation and its really sad. so many ppl need these bathrooms and i wish we had the UK disabled bathrooms everywhere!!! the consequence of no accessible bathrooms is that disabled ppl wont be able to stay in public for long if they worry they wont be able to use a bathroom. i agree we need wide-sweeping infrastructure changes to completely remodel our country and CENTER accessibility in our designs

Hi love ❤️ Reno Native here!! I’m so glad you have our lil arm pit a stop on your trip wether you had to or not 😂 just happy you’re here lol

Thanks bringing this to attention. It is not something I was aware of but totally makes sense for all to be laid out the same for those with vision challenges.

Okay but did you know you're really pretty

This is such a drastic change; and something I've thought they've needed to upgrade for some time. I'm going to assume the braille in the UK is different.

@esteeeela

2 жыл бұрын

Braille is an alphabet, not a language

@jboj8430

2 жыл бұрын

@@esteeeela I mean, there is such a thing as Japanese braille, and considering how awful Americans already are about accepting universal standards and units it's not an unreasonable assumption to make.

@anushkachauhann

2 жыл бұрын

braille is universal

The frustrating thing with family bathrooms is that often at stores, gas stations, etc. Employees use them and sit in there forever, making it difficult for people that actually need them to use them. I have three young girls and when I'm out by myself, I love using family bathrooms but often can't because they're occupied by employees.

I love this this is so amazing explaining absoulety everything to people . 🌹💜

Every stalled bathroom on America always has this stall that’s bigger than the rest. This stall is supposed to be used for those in wheelchairs, but a lot of non-disabled people like to use these. Shamefully including me 😅

@piaaadah

2 жыл бұрын

Please stop. It's very irritating when I have to pee really bad but I have to wait for non-wheelchair user to finish in the wheelchair accessible stall. I don't have the luxury of be able to use another stall.

@funtimefoxyfan8309

2 жыл бұрын

@@piaaadah don’t worry, I usually don’t. I’ve seen some videos online with non-wheelchair users who record them selves in the stall with a wheelchair user waiting outside. I felt enough second hand shame that I only use it when all the stalls are taken up

Lucy do u think u could do one called how does a blind girl deals with rude people especially going to a restaurant as an example

I think the standard disability bathrooms are all around europe. I've found the same layouts in the disability bathrooms in: Denmark, Germany, Poland, Norway and Iceland. I tend to use them if they're free since it's a single stall and my anxiety gets pretty bad if there are other people around. After I had my child I've needed to use those to use the changing tables as well

It makes total sense to have the bathrooms be the exact same layout every time, that seems like a no brainer

It is because, sadly, the US is the country of " F you, i got mine."

What am I missing? It looks like the Braille says "familY" to me. A bit odd but technically spelt correctly

I completely understand what’s being said here. It’s very important and we should change a lot of how bathrooms are structured. Although inside most public restrooms they have stalls for disabled people, and no one is going to care if A man brings a women in a wheelchair into the bathroom. Either that’s the female or male bathrooms, no one will care. I think bathrooms are incredibly flawed but care givers will not be questioned or weirdly look at going into a bathroom.

Most accessible stalls in the US don't even have room for a wheelchair. They're just a few inches longer and have a bar on the wall.

Oh gods! I never realized that you would have to do that, and every time- feel around for the toilet! 😣 I want to apologize to the blind population of the US on behalf of the rest of us idiots…

@zerotodona1495

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t apologize because it’s not my problem. I don’t own a business and it’s not my issue.

Meanwhile: America slowly but surely no longer considering disabled people when building/rebuilding things.

I’m sorry your experience in the USA is crappy. I’m so glad to hear your experience as a foreign person with a disability though! It gives lots of perspective on WHAT we should be considerate of! Thank you for continuing to advocate for your needs 💕

You make a very valid point and in va(virginia) I've haven't seen many if any public disability restrooms and my grandparents where disabled so living in va is hard that way

They really should learn to spell the Braille correctly here in America. I don’t know if I’m just looking over the Braille but I don’t see any Braille on the bathrooms where I’m from in America as a sighted person. That is terrible the Braille is spelled correctly.

Thank you for pointing out places where accessibility can be improved.

Wow! I never thought about this. How cool! :)

The US does generally have fairly standard restrooms especially within states because of the ADA and state Architecture Boards. However, this doesn't apply to older restrooms and the layout isn't the exact same. There's 2 main types of setups I've found in my research. So it definitely can be rough here. Rule of thumb: Toilet is almost always in a corner. And it's usually the corner opposite the door to maximize turning space. The toilet paper is usually just below or just above the grab bars to the side of the toilet.

I didn't not know about it. Thank you for brining the awareness

That was super interesting and informative ! Thanks you ❤

I'm in canada and in my city most malls have a extra seperare room for disabled that you go push a button to get access to it. I think parents use it for changing tables too.

Wow. I had no idea a out this. And I never thought about it. Im so privileged to have the use of my eyes. Thanks for bringing this to my attention.

I never thought about that!! Would be nice if it was standard for a braille bathroom layout to be to the immediate right of the door above the light switch.

In Australia we have disabled toilets plus access toilets which have handrails but not wheelchair accessible

My father in law is blind! I love your videos helps me pick up tips I always use when I’m with him!!!

There are “family” washrooms all over here in Canada. They need to fix this issue for sure!

@ElpSmith

2 жыл бұрын

I also live in Canada and unfortunately, many places lack the family washroom and proper accessibility.