My brother won his domestic violence hearing by himself. I am a family law lawyer and advised him to do so and I was available on the sidelines. If a lawyer had represented him, he would have lost. You have to know your jurisdiction, the judge, and be able to understand human nature and read the room. Much more goes into it than simply black letter law and attempting to win on a technicality.

@basicprogrammer6147

Жыл бұрын

One of the single biggest mistakes in my life was hiring a lawyer to "help" me against bogus OP charges she trumped up to "get the house" in the divorce. I lost. Ejected for 1 year. Now, the year is almost up, her lawyer already threatened my via email that they are going for another 2 years, and that hearing is in less than a month. I am a nervous wreck. The police, lawyers, courts, and judges have one goal in mind: Money. And they'll destroy every family on earth to get it.

@brnt034

Жыл бұрын

@@basicprogrammer6147 men get destroyed in divorces, my brother did not escape the inevitable. Judges always defer to the woman and doubly so if she cries, which happens in every hearing. Don't get married!!

7:10 Child Abuse/Neglect and Drug/Alcohol Use 18:20 Limiting Custody & Contact with the kids 19:00 Hiding Income, underemployment 36:40 Racking up Credit Card Debt

This makes people look like dirtbags in general 😅 Like. Seriously...Getting a new partner before the divorce/custody hearings are even over, running up debt right when a divorce process begins, fighting over how to screw the other person financially, because, you couldn't just let the other parent live and move on, right!

@tribblegirl2

2 жыл бұрын

Divorce brings out the worst in people!

@MWolfe1080

2 жыл бұрын

People are dirt bags. I wish your philosophy was accepted by more people, but divorce is such a vindictive and adversarial process that one party is almost guaranteed to attempt one of these aforementioned “tricks” or as I call it the standard divorce playbook.

@MWolfe1080

2 жыл бұрын

Think about this anecdote. You and another person (In this case will say it’s a stranger and that they have no reason to be vindictive) have the chance to win $1 million each but if just one of you decides they don’t want to share it that individual can win 2 million. Just knowing this little fact right here, will that change your assumption of whether or not they will share or be greedy? The following is not necessarily a ominous characteristic of humanity. It’s just a fundamental aspect of human nature to be cautious. That caution becomes suspicion only after nefarious attributes have been allocated to the concept in retrospect. This is more instinctual than an actual nefarious action Consequently when you add the vindictiveness of a divorce, the suspect/suspicion of human nature, and the greed that accompanies most humans.

@MrDuckskin

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what is happening to me right now.... I'm so broken hearted I can't believe she went from friendly to Adolf hitler.

@danettewilliams351

Жыл бұрын

this is disgusting! But these guys use these tactics first hand themselves..do not be fooled!

It’s absolutely horrific. The initial DV discussion explains my case to the T.

"you can't afford not to hire an attorney" i.e. in "family" (civil) court a pro SE party (not represented) really has no rights if the other party is represented by an attorney. The Court must defer to the party represented by an officer of the Court and should "liberally construe" (disregard) a pro SE litigants motions, testimony, etc. Rule number one: file an objection to referees.

I wish I knew these before my divorce. Things would have been better.

@ernestovaldez4123

2 жыл бұрын

That’s why I’m investigating all this before filling for divorce

@aarongarcia1101

Ай бұрын

its best to keep quiet and just stay your road

Just give the kids to the one who actually loves them, come on...

Very informative. Thank you!

A guardian ad litem or amicus attorney is an informant for the Court. Like criminal informants and cops, they absolutely do not care about the "truth" or justice. If you choose to cooperate with them you do so at your own peril.

You haven’t heard it all until you hear mine. It will blow you away.

"avoid conflict" If there is a huge disparity in income or resources, the party with more resources will frequently use "conflict" as a weapon. Everything will be grounds for "conflict". The case will be designated "high conflict", the Court will automatically defer to the party with more money using "best interest" factors.

I can’t imagine how having an unrelated live in boyfriend or girlfriend would affect child support!?

Would i be correct if i said that in a family law court, men have to prove their case beyond reasonable doubt and women only have to prove their case on a balance of probabilities.

In a divorce, rental property obtained with a 1031 exchange, are future tax consequences considered in decreasing value of property?

What do you call 1000 ded lawyers laying in a pile? Answer: A good start. The system is designed by lawyers, for lawyers, to extract money from people during the most difficult times of their lives.

spouse left a year and half ago due to my substance abuse. There are no children involved. i've been to a few treatment programs and continue to relapse. Both spouse and I had property prior to marriage. How much will my problem weigh on judges decision in regards to property division and spousal maintenance?

Child Services and Family Court are an industry where children are the currency, and taking children is extraordinarily lucrative. Mother’s have a higher percentage of children in their care than fathers. Hence so many more single mothers are targeted by Child Services and Family Court as the single mothers are deemed easy pickings. When it’s a Family Court dispute between parents the game is set against the concerned parent because that makes the concerned parent fight harder, which entangles the parties in court battles that will drag out for years guaranteeing all the gamers have another stream of income set. Most concerned parents will be the mothers because generally it’s seen that males are often the physical abuser in relationships and so mothers file the concerns. The players turn on the concerned parent. That makes the concerned parent (often the mother) fight harder to prove their case. Hence the legal fight has had petrol thrown on it by the industry gamers. The Family Court has been Hijacked, and the Family Court Judges whom previously were Family Court lawyers playing the same scam are now the Mafioso Dons at the head of the Cartel. The custody switch, by targeting the concerned parent, banks on the protective/concerned parent most likely willing to spend any amount of money to continue fighting for the safety of their child while the Family Court players and scammers rake in the cash. Without a doubt the Family Court has been hijacked by an orchestrated Family Court Cartel, whom are committing corrupt commercial domestic terrorism through the use and abuse of law for pecuniary gain. In the Family Court and Child Services children are a commodity. They are withheld so the legal fight will drag on and keep their industry healthily employed and their coffers full. Families and the wider community need to understand the alienated parent is most often not the abuser! The Family Court can be a toxic environment that entraps parents in a web of entanglement. In most businesses, you want to harvest the low hanging fruit, as it is cost effective, requires minimal output, and generates good income. Lawyers know this, its their bread and butter. Family Court lawyers have mastered the Art of gaslighting the parties once in the Family Court. They then create a legal entanglement, and milk the parents in a web that will often drag proceedings out for 2-5+ years. By the end of it one if not both parents will have lost most of their accumulated wealth, and at least one is likely to have lost a home. The lawyers will have moved the wealth to them via streams of Court filings, and applications. Often the concerned parent will be targeted with accusations of malicious notifications, and "emotional" abuse. Lawyers will even run "Potential emotional abuse", they don't even have to prove it in the Family Court. It's enough that they raise it as a possible risk. Not probable, nor likely, but "possible". These lawyers, and the parent not being targeted can even accuse the other parent of mental illness, and the Court will act on that concern. Then Specialist report writers will come in and often back up that concern and rubber stamp it for the majority group targeting the sole parent. Why do they do this? If you target a genuine concerned parent, and disbelieve their concern for a child's safety that will cause the concerned parent to try harder to prove the concerns are valid and real. The lawyers, Child Services, Specialist report writers and Judges then often push back harder on the sole parent defending the safety of their child. Eventually they push the parent into supervised contact, or no contact at all. That causes the parent to fight even harder for the child, and meanwhile the cash registers keep ringing. Its an evil system that is abused by those on the gravy train. They hold children for ransom over the heads of parents that will spend every last dollar they have attempting to save their children. Many of these parents run out of finances in the first 1-3 years, and then if lucky they secure Legal Aid, but either end up with a junior lawyer, or if they are lucky to have a senior lawyer, that lawyer often wont put the necessary hours in that the web of entanglement requires. Your legal aid becomes depleted before you get to the substantive Hearing. Your lawyer becomes difficult and you are pushed until you remove your file from the firm and look for another lawyer. Because your legal aid is now gone, you have to prove further legal aid is warranted and justified. It is at this stage you will struggle to get a lawyer, because you had one, they didn't do the work they should have, and a new lawyer will be reluctant to pick up the file left over from a previous lawyer. These lawyers prefer fresh picking$... So, you self represent. At this point the lawyers and Judge's whom were previously senior Family Court lawyers playing the game, see you as a hopeless case that hasn't come to accept you have lost. You are now bumped around in the court with numerous judicial conferences and round table meetings, reports undertaken, and pressure put on you. You either break, and then they gleefully say "see, we called it right early on, they have mental issues...", or you give up and walk away from your child, or at worst, take your life. If you survive, they will beat you down with an award against you for Legal costs, which they will throw on you now you aren’t protected by legal aid. That is the sad reality of the destruction caused by Child Services and the Family Court gravy train Rort where children are the currency.

@user-go8ey6gp8b

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this.

@scootypuffjr.

Жыл бұрын

Amen

Very informative

In Ga. I became a victim of their outdated divorce laws and I am trying to change them through legislation but don't really know how to start. I was thrown out of my house and the business that I own by meritless claims of physical abuse . I contacted most of my state representatives about introducing fair and nonsexist legislation and have gotten no response.

Omg- I was just watching because I was curious..I am the mother that had to move out from an extremely toxic marriage to a narcissist…I suffered 19years of emotional abuse-coercion, manipulation, gaslighting, belittling…I am suffering from PTSD now and trembling at the thought of having to go up against him in mediation..in Canada divorce court is NO FAULT!! Totally supports the abuser and continues to abuse the victim… Now my ex, who used to make an amazing income has manipulated the healthcare system into granting him LONGTERM DISABILITY!!! So the alimony that is supposed to help pay for my health care will be cut in half… My therapist’s bills are going to bankrupt me😢😢

I'd like proof of first marriage and proof of second divorce if finalized on paper it's portant to know I'm not divorcinbmy children but spouce I've changed addresses so need concrete proof by the courtship thx

James A Wilson. From Phoenix AZ

I’m in Nashville Tennessee

@ogechifaith4466

2 жыл бұрын

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Could you do a conversation on suing your soon to be ex wife for paternity fraud?

Do you have an office in Dallas, TX

What are my options if she abandoned the marriage and I’ve been left at the home we reside it’s been almost 3 years?

@northwestgardener5076

2 жыл бұрын

File for divorce as fast as possible.

@ogechifaith4466

2 жыл бұрын

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@tribblegirl2

2 жыл бұрын

marital assets are marital assets are marital assets. Get a lawyer.

Hello, live in Dallas Tx, started living with my husband since 1999, “we” purchased a house in 2000, we filed for an informal marriage in 2011, however someway somehow, he wrote on the license that we have been living together since 2006, since he didn’t add me to the title when the house was purchased, how can I prove to the court that we have been in a common law marriage when the house was bought??

@shaunhuguley8127

3 жыл бұрын

You don’t. It’s our turn to piss on y’all like y’all piss on us. Pack your bags and start over.

@universalservicetechust3578

3 жыл бұрын

Shaun Huguley lol

@69unlocker_0n_ig

3 жыл бұрын

The evidence I got by spying on my partner's phone with the help of a genius without any trace was enough for me to proof to court and claim all that belongs to me all thanks to him

@InvictumLupus

3 жыл бұрын

Start looking for a paper trail. There's always a paper trail through discovery.

@brnt034

Жыл бұрын

It's not your house if you aren't on the deed, especially if purchased many years before the marriage. You are a dishonest thief!

Start at 10:46

@JamesG800

3 ай бұрын

Thank you, I couldn't believe how long winded this started out being. I didn't click on this video to get 5 different resumes. I just wanted to know some facts about divorce, geez..

My question is some 25 years ago the wife filed for divorce is that a binding date of separation

@brnt034

Жыл бұрын

Nope

This is an infomercial. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

JFC, it would be easier to just vanish & leave the country.

here in SC, my lawyer filed under one year legal separation right before I had a PI show proof of adultery. now my lawyer will not change the grounds for divorce to adultery he wants me to keep it as one year legal separation. ----------------------- also, how can I get a mediation agreement changed. My lawyer and mediator practically begged me not to be demanding on my wife.

Why the colloquial "guys"?

I DONOT even Know if my marriage was a legal one or scret service and I suspect there is a 2nd one behind my back

I believe my fathers ex wife victimized him before/during/after marriage, and took advantage of him in both his Will and divorce. I need help please. Thank you. LWS

@KreeAtionz14

3 жыл бұрын

The highest level of abuse I am initially concerned with is the amount of financial gain in her ultimate favor.

@69unlocker_0n_ig

3 жыл бұрын

The evidence I got by spying on my partner's phone with the help of a genius without any trace was enough for me to proof to court and claim all that belongs to me all thanks to him

@tribblegirl2

2 жыл бұрын

@@69unlocker_0n_ig you presented illegal phone tap evidence in a court?

My sister is going thru a divorce and the guy wants her to pay his attorney fees and he lied in his statement where it says during marriage was there domestic violence he said no when that’s a lie!

@tribblegirl2

2 жыл бұрын

Does she make more than he does?

I'm so sorry I'm Danny from California

Child Support open case in Ohio, but kids have been with Mom for 2 years, CPS case in Ohio, where child in an altercation with dads new wife..so now dad will not reverse or transfer, close the child support in Ohio. Kids live with Mom in PA. & Ohio Child support coming after mom for arrears..which do not owe, since kids with Mom. What is the best way or what to do.

MR Cordell QUIT SAYING MOM DID THIS OR THAT !!!IT GOES BOTH WAYS ! MY EX HUSBAND DID THIS TO ME AND DAMAGED OUR KIDS !!! As. child myself my Dad abandoned me and I wanted my kids to have. after QUIT SAYING MOM DID THIS AN THAT IN MY CASE MY NARCISSISTIC HUSBAND HURT MY AND MY KIDS THROUGH ALIENATION ! 2 Marriage my husband beat me nearly every day so I'm not crying wold about anything I NEED to PROTECT MY CHILD AGINST THIS crazy PSYCHOPATH !

@katiebethwilson

7 ай бұрын

They have psychologically damaged our child. Cordell & Cordell is a blight on family law because they favor one parent over the other.

Hiding income is also guilty from the male person who does odd jobs for cash.

@louwiz2422

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!! I'm fighting that now. It's horrible. Thanks for posting this

Can someone please tell me if I need an attorney. I’m the male, married to the same woman for 45 years, she’s never worked, 2 grown kids and we are now getting a divorce. We’re both 67, she automatically gets 1/2 of my retired military pay

@dennisa4092

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry, accidentally hit send, and 1/2 of my social security amount. I’m not concerned about possessions, but I want to sell the house and split the proceeds. Is there anyway I wouldn’t get 1/2 the house proceeds?

@tribblegirl2

2 жыл бұрын

@@dennisa4092 if you are in a state with equitable distribution, you could get much less than half. IF she is 67 years old and has never worked, but you have social security income, the courts could give her more of the house and other assets to make it equitable (i.e. fair).

@tribblegirl2

2 жыл бұрын

and YES, you most certainly do need an attorney. I am a woman going through this and I would never try to do it by myself --- even if I wanted to. The stress is something worth paying a professional to handle.

@thebackyardhomestead1510

2 жыл бұрын

Shes gonna get at least half. You need an attourney

@AngelGonzalez-pd4cn

2 жыл бұрын

If it was me me being 67, my solution to that shit is me grabbing my .45 sig sauer putting couple hollow points inside her fucking head, at 67 I will be done in life no one will get and enjoy what I have worked for all my life!

My wife is trying to take out a mortgage loan with my name attached, we have been separated for almost a year and are in the process of divorce. I have not given her power of attorney and was not present for the application process. We are in Nebraska and I would like to know if this is legally possible.

@ted2136

Жыл бұрын

My W wants separation and wants to use our joint funds to buy another house in her name only. Waht Hppened your situation. @john byrd

@johnbyrd7400

Жыл бұрын

@@ted2136 I just let her do her. My name isn't on the new one and I can't be held liable. I signed a document saying such. I'd say get the divorce over and done to cut your losses. It's always funny to me that they claim to be strong and independent but want the money someone else worked for. Don't try to hide money or anything when you go to court. The more honest you are the better it is to the judge.

@ted2136

Жыл бұрын

@@johnbyrd7400 tks. That is my plan but I am not financially ready. I want to leave on my terms not to be dictated my her.but but could mean saving for 6 months +. Just have to keep things amicable while still living together for kids and all.

@johnbyrd7400

Жыл бұрын

@@ted2136 true. Make them more of what you consider. Document everything, especially expenditures on the kids. Keep track of all your financial statements, dates and times, and above all else don't do anything that gives her the excuse to call the police. Don't even tell yourself it's not my fault. In the eyes of the law it is.

@dmahloch3367

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing.

Here is how my ex kept my kids from me after divorce. 1) she says the kids are both sick this week. And next week too. 2) the kids do not want to go on visitation this month. 3) says the kids now hate you. The courts will not do a thing about these. You can fight in court if you have another $30,000. I did not have it because the courts already gave her the house, alimony and child support. Guys think they are starting a long, loyal family. It's probably not going to work out that way because the man was her last pick, not the first.

@tribblegirl2

2 жыл бұрын

You can do a lot of things in court on your own without an attorney. If you've spent that much (or more) already, hopefully you've learned a little bit about the process.

@harleyfsbo3027

2 жыл бұрын

‘The man was her last pick, not the first’ ~ Can you explain that? Why did she want to divorce you? I’m sure you are a very mature and responsible husband and father, kind, affectionate, not abusive in any way, and you not only payed the bills, you were loyal yo your wife, supportive of her and very involved in your children’s life. Right? So why then did she leave you AND took the kids with her?

@vanessaphilpott5506

Жыл бұрын

@@harleyfsbo3027 I am not fond of placing labels but this is the quickest way to explain what may be at play here. It’s he said she said we don’t know what’s going on but from what he wrote those are classic signs. Look up narcissistic abuse, and parental alienation.

1. Wife wants husband kicked out so she can divorce him and live in the house, so she files for an OP, and at the hearing, her attorney submits texts showing the husband calling her a b i tch and an a ss h ole the night before she files, ie. this is the last straw! Hearing is held via zoom. Wife's attorney surprised the court with the texts. For some reason, the texts are allowed as an exhibit. 2. Judge ejects husband for 1 year. Immediately after the hearing, the husband's attorney asks opposing counsel for a copy of the texts. 3. After 4 months of asking for the texts so an appeal could be filed, wife's attorney finally gives husband a copy of the texts. 4. Problem is, the texts were fabricated and it can be proven. 5. Question: at the appeal hearing, if all parties agree the texts were fabricated by the wife, will the judge overturn the OP?

Palitha from Srilanka

The guy gets screwed over

@msab657

3 жыл бұрын

Not in my county

@coreyanderson1457

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, like, computed income. Wtf!

@tribblegirl2

2 жыл бұрын

@@coreyanderson1457 imputed, and women also (and often do) have theirs imputed as well. If you are voluntarily under- or un-employed, you probably should have income imputed. This goes for both parties imho.

@georgesontag2192

Жыл бұрын

One thing for sure, if your a married man with children, you will become homeless. Your going to pay 33 % of your take home pay, your going to pay her alimony for years..... in other words. Your going to lose everything, including children. Men should never marry. Women should marry the richest guy they can get to marry them.

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Snakes!!!!

Women, don't wonder why men will no longer marrying the future. This is why.

So much microw radiation in this mobile Nd vid as I watch yr vid

I love the fact that these guys are actually admitting that they are a huge part of the problem as to why there is such disparity in the courts and the reason why most of DV goes undocumented. And then one of these guys admits to that by saying , if there is merit to the claim then we get in front of it by making him look good to the judge. Making claims that women largely make false claims and it it is the most abused statute….Where is the source on that? I can point you to studies that say otherwise. Really? I love how there is so much evidence that counters what is being said here. ‘We don’t want the ‘boys’ to be on the defensive…’ what a joke. Instead of talking about abuses of court system regardless of gender, you are making some pretty baseless claims against women as a whole. If someone says ‘I’m going to kill you’. Who says that anyway? This video is a JOKE and minimizes what is a glaring problem

@harleyfsbo3027

2 жыл бұрын

@ K Michel - you are very right! This is all meant to take ACCOUNTABILITY away from ABUSIVE MEN who abuse day and night in the private where no one is looking and then put on a clean facade to look good outside the home - it’s disgusting how DV victims are first abused by these monsters and then a 2nd time by the system. I’ve got Good News for these A$$h@le$: The days of these covert, two-faced criminals are numbered. There is no crook or tyrant who lives forever. Go put the judges in your pocket here but who’s going to save you from the Judge of all Judges? No one. Not even your own mother. Good Luck. You’ll need it.

@danettewilliams351

Жыл бұрын

oh my!God Bless You the voice of reason! I am so happy I am not the only one who sees this!

@butch19826

Жыл бұрын

Half truths and contradictions but points made and new information absorbed. From my prospective anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️ I'm here mostly for the comments 🤓

@housekeeping3561

Жыл бұрын

@@danettewilliams351 Oh my goodness gracious sakes alive! You have nailed it!

@alltheworldsastage4785

9 ай бұрын

Most times women do in fact make false claims of domestic violence, it's a tactic used often by women to win divorce battles.

Mr Trout I love you guys your amazing but no representation in WA STATE xD

Why are you not for the family and try to heal the family ?

This is why you should not get a divorce and try to work it out. This is not of our Heavenly Father. He is about peace and love.

@harleyfsbo3027

2 жыл бұрын

@Linda Smith - How do you ‘work it out’ with an ABUSER? By letting him game the system and abuse you more?

@leevigil2396

Жыл бұрын

@Linda thank you for sentiments, of which I agree. Please pray for me as I am standing for my marriage.

@barnabybones2393

Жыл бұрын

If you know your spouse is going to file. File first. Always.

Fabulous Friday. Elated I was led here. Resources awesome. I'll email you. Thanks again for your support 💪🏾

Nahh this is a commercial don't waste your time all theses guy want is your money and they are putting fear in you to pay.....hmm reminds me of someone... NEVER HIRE THESE GUYS HORRIBLE READ REVIEW'S

@JeepCherokeeful

Ай бұрын

Given the fact they don’t operate in my state that thought didn’t even cross my mind..but I did hire another lawyer