Wow!! How brave of you! Almost felt like you were telling my story. Thank you for sharing your story. My therapist recognized it in me a few months ago but I haven’t been tested yet. I just turned 65. I’m kind of freaked out but I am working on wrapping my head around it all.

This is very relatable. I've not seen much content from men with the inattentive representation of ADHD, and I identify with so much of this! Probably the biggest difference was that I actually did quite well with math, but I've always been terrible in doing math in my head, even quite simple calculations, and I'm pretty sure that's because of low working memory (I can easily remember only 5 digits, wherease the average is 7 - but my long term memory is good, I can easily remember all my friends' phone numbers from childhood, even though the numbers haven't been valid in decades). Thank you for sharing the video!

I almost cried when you talked about being hard on yourself for not being capable of doing simple tasks. Because I relate to it so much. I lived my whole life telling myself that I was stupid or worthless when I made simple mistakes or was incapable of doing simple tasks that were assigned to me. I'm currently doing research about ADHD to see whether I need to see a specialist to diagnose me or not. Right now my mind is telling me that I'm currently looking for an excuse for all my mistakes and incapability of mine. But I just know that I have to look further into ADHD because I've watched many videos and done many tests online and ended up with moderate ADHD inattention type. Your experience is the closest to what I've been dealing with my whole life. It's hard for me to accept this because I've tried so hard and so much to be the best that I can be for my family, wife(29), workplace, and our upcoming son. Only for me to be hard on myself when I did the same mistakes over and over again. It was so exhausting and stressful. I kept all this to myself. I don't want my wife to look at me as a failure if I open up my thoughts to her about this. I felt like I was not the right person for her. I can't make her happy with my stupidity. I'm 23 and I've decided right now to seek specialist help thanks to you. After this, I wish I can be easier on myself, take my time slowly and try my best to fix what I'm lacking. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video. It really helps me to understand what I've been through all this time. Peace from Malaysia.✌ Sorry if my writing is all scrambled up or something.

@NouranKhattab

3 ай бұрын

I hope things have become better now

@dougaddiction3966

23 күн бұрын

Thanks for your comment. I really hope you find something that works for you friend ❤.

I suspected/realized I had ADHD at the age of 36 - Procrastinated at getting diagnosed, so only officially diagnosed during COVID at 44yrs of age. It was a relief to know that I wasn't to blame for all my 'faults' - stuff that surprised me as being part of ADHD were procrastination, immaturity, irritability. All these things have caused me some problems. Glad it's not my fault, but good that I can now do something about it. It's frustrating though when I'm telling people WHY I am the way I am and they dismiss it with comments like "Oh I also forget things" or "I get distracted too" - But hey! What can you do LOL Another thing was that I could see all these things in my father's behavior, so I know he isn't to blame for his faults...helped me understand why he does certain things...I have more empathy towards him.

Exactly me! I just discovered at age 54 when I started seeing things with my daughter with ADHD past couple years. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you for sharing your story. How you describe your experiences is uncannily similar to what I've gone throughout my life! Only I'm not so fortunate with having any success at all. I've been diagnosed with ASD back when I was a kid. It wasn't until just last month that I fully realized it was ADHD that was wrecking my life. Not the ASD (though I do have a little bit of it; that was confirmed in an evaluation). I'm closing in on 36 now. I missed out on a lot of opportunities and been confused by for a long time why I can't seem to get anywhere. I'm making up for lost time by learning as much as I can about ADHD and I'll be talking with my psychiatrist soon to see if I can get tested.

Wow. The things you say about intermittent fasting are really interesting. I feel mentally clear when I am fasting. And I often avoid eating in the mornings if I know I have something important to do. Thanks for sharing

As for being late I set both my schedule and my brain 15-20 mins earlier and forget the actual time. If people ask what time it's at I say my changed time. I also think of when I need to leave get there for my modified time and make my leaving time 10-15 mins earlier to that. (If I figure I can make it in 15 mins I'll leave 25 min before) So if I have a 10:00AM appointment that I think i can get to if i leave at 9:45. Instead on my schedule and in my head I make the appointment time 9:45, and my leaving time 9:20-9:25 as if I'm trying to make the 9:45 time. Not only helps a lot for showing up on time, but cuts down on that terrible "lateness-stress" by a ton, especially when driving there. Also preparing everything I'll need for the next day the night before, from clothing, paperwork, phone, wallet etc... all in one spot can cut down on getting-ready time. These 3 things help me showing up, lookong good, and lowers my stress 100x, and makes me feel in CONTROL! Also never give in to "Well I KNOW it's at 10:00AM so I can slow down". That type of thinking is how you became a chronic late-person to begin with! You gotta stick to the idea that it's 15-20 mins earlier and act accordingly.

@SoCalG310

2 ай бұрын

Thank you. Extremely helpful. I appreciate you sharing actual strategies that have worked for you. I can't recall EVER being on time. I was just tested and diagnosed with ADHD as an adult -- but it was obvious all along. My mom used to have to chase the school bus to catch it 'cause she couldn't get me out the door to get to the bus stop on time. One time, I was in my PJs, dressing in the car!

This has really helped. I'm 52 and just diagnosed with ADHD. Starting meds in the next couple of weeks. So many things you said have resonated and many that I hadn't realised before. Really hoping the meds change my life.

@pamallen859

3 ай бұрын

Have you started meds?? How is it going?

@dougaddiction3966

23 күн бұрын

I'm very happy this video was helpful. I hope meds work for you as well 👊

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you for sharing. I was diagnosed autistic two years ago and am just about to take my theory and online ADHD testing paperwork to my doctor. Even now at 66, I want to know and understand myself better. 😊

Thanks for sharing, we share a lot of the same traits :) I was diagnosed with predominantly inattentive type yesterday. Just subbed- looking forward to more videos from you! :)

@dougaddiction3966

2 жыл бұрын

That's wonderful to hear Katie 😊. It's an amazing thing getting that diagnosis because it allows us to understand ourselves so much better and give ourselves some grace with our known struggles. It's also so nice to realize there are many other adults struggling with the exact same things and you're not alone. Thanks ❤️

Great video thank you 👍

What you said about the late development in the adhd mind and about how we finish developing our minds in our mid to late twenties has me worried that I just missed my chance. I’m 31 but I’m scared I’ll be this way forever.

Lots in common with you; time issues, social anxiety, having to return home for things I forgot, forgetting names after introduction or any time really, easily distracted, cluttered thinking, bad at math, great with words/spelling/grammar. Definite spacial issues with directions, can't close a folding box without really working on it. Just diagnosed two weeks ago, age 68. Doc didn't prescribe me a med and I wish he would have. I can't make even small decisions without becoming anxious and overwhelmed. It's become worse as I have aged.

@dougaddiction3966

2 жыл бұрын

Wow yes much in common! I also replied to your comment on another video. I suggested maybe asking for a referral to a psychiatrist if you haven't yet. They will likely be better able to set you up with a med that will work for you. Hang in there! 😊

@Rollwithit699

2 жыл бұрын

@@dougaddiction3966 Thanks, Doug. I'm trying to get referral now.

You must have really loved what you were studying because as a music major in classical guitar it was all I wanted to do…. Although I have always been tech savvy and tried to be a computer science major I just couldn’t get into it.. basic and c++ combined with geeky teacher and nerdy students with no girls.. just couldn’t do it.. now age 47 I have a doctorate in music but have had trouble getting to the next stage of my career and making some money 💰. I do however live a millionaires lifestyle as in I workout 6 days a week, live in Irvine, drive a 3 series bmw, attend a class at UCLA, and live rent free at home with my parents who I take care of as they are seniors.. It’s an odd life but many work there as off to one day live the way i live right now.. I am going to see my first pschology appointment after being asssessd to maybe have adhd by the psychiatrist. I really hope to get adderall beacuse I have tried it a few times (stealing pills) and it’s nice.. I love coffee and drink 10 shots a day but also smoke sativa vape and sative gummies…. I hate alcohol and haven’t touched it since June ‘22…. Anyways good luck to all y’all.. Hmm I wonder if I’ll open those envelopes on my desk today.. gotta practice first fuck everything else!

Hey Doug, hope the Concerta helps. I just started on a low dose two weeks ago. I'm noticing a positive difference already.

@dougaddiction3966

2 жыл бұрын

Great to here! Thanks. I've made a couple updates on med progress if you are interested in checking out those videos 😊

@finity9316

2 жыл бұрын

How’s it going I’m going on concerta XL this week what positives did you notice ?

@terrilikens4975

2 жыл бұрын

I just went up from 18 to 27. It's really improving my focus and ability to stay on task. I still struggle with overwhelm, though.

Hmmm. I can't drown out this background music while you are talking. I have to get me some meds.

Thanks for sharing! I have a lot in common with what you described. Like, just about everything... I've been on a waiting list to get assessed for ADHD since January (when I got a referral). I have a first intake appointment this week, so... next step I guess. I've been trying to learn about the topic and it does seem now like it would explain a lot even though, of course, I have no idea how the assessment will turn out. I'm 52 now, so... of course there's that voice that's still saying, "Really?"

@dougaddiction3966

Жыл бұрын

Hey better late than never haha! Thank you so much for commenting. Ya it's a strange feeling to receive that diagnosis later in life. But if anything it helps us better understand ourselves and treat ourselves more gently when we struggle. After all, we've had the deck stacked against us our entire lives! 🙄

How did you make it through University?😮

Hi, I you mention a lot of sensory issues and I think that you should check out if you aren't on autism spectrum. Adhd and Autism are comorbid and until very recently psychiatrists thought you can't have both, so some autistic traits are usually mixed with adhd (especially sensory issues)

@dougaddiction3966

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your comment Margo! You're totally right about that overlap in symptoms and comorbid diagnosis. I don't think I myself am on the spectrum but who knows, it is a spectrum after all! In doing some research I've found that many people with ADHD are typically highly sensitive to all incoming stimuli (auditory, tactile, visual, olfactory etc.) and struggle to filter out the important information from the irrelevant stimuli. There's a really fascinating book called 'ADHD: A hunter in a farmers world' by Thom Hartman that explores how this 'hunter' gene, or set of traits, would have been valuable to our hunter ancestors but is now rather debilitating in our modern society. It's a super interesting and empowering theory about ADHD. I plan to discuss it in a future video! Thanks again! 😊

Funny you talk about being distracted by background noises/music as you have background music playing.

@dougaddiction3966

23 күн бұрын

Good call! However, there was no actual music playing while I recordthe video. I add the music after I edit the video to make viewing it more enjoyable. I definitely couldn't gather my thoughts had there been music playing at the time 😉.

@amoxzi

8 күн бұрын

Bear in mind, most of your audience are probably people with ADHD or people who suspect they have it, so the music is distracting your main viewers!!!

Too long. Top much talk.