“You got at attached to the love that they were giving you, that you weren’t giving yourself”

@heyjavonnejay

Жыл бұрын

I had to run that part back!

@f8hmida

Жыл бұрын

thats so good

@inflames2070

Жыл бұрын

Bullshit

@jamalydude

Жыл бұрын

Dude it’s so true. I’ve been broken for so long and this hit me deep

@thediynetwork11

Жыл бұрын

i needed to hear this right now

Honestly, in my short experience living in this world, I have come to the point of remaining detached to everything, or at least doing my best to. The thing is, when we become attached to things, we are giving our power away. For example, if we're attached to something and we get it, but then we lose it, then we also lose ourselves in the process. I think it's important we learn to be happy just as we are because when we are able to do that, no matter what happens in our world, nothing will phase us. Part of it is also learning not to take anything personally, even the perceived good. I'm still learning to let go of trying to control things. As someone who dealt with an eating disorder, which is a lot of wanting to have control, learning to let go of control doesn't feel easy, but the more we do it the better we become. That's with anything in life

@nessalight8681

Жыл бұрын

Amazing comment

@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment

@elalala576

Жыл бұрын

sorry unsolicited opinion warning I think you not wanting to "give your power away" in those ways is also a way you are trying to control things,true letting go of control is when you aren't afraid to love and live deeply,just because things might end badly or not last.

@misswomble

Жыл бұрын

Love your comment ❤️

@spirituality5272

Жыл бұрын

Spot on!

"Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed that is. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose." -someone wise

@Juicyfruit12345

Жыл бұрын

“Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose” i can disagree. Only on some things

@roachmonk

Жыл бұрын

@@Juicyfruit12345 like what? What is an example of something you agree with and what is an example of something you disagree with?

@OGStarlightKY

Жыл бұрын

Master Yoda

@thewheelsonthebus-i4x

5 ай бұрын

@@roachmonk a loved one...

I swear, I’m done with ”trying to manifest“. I feel like the law of assumption and techniques have got me into a rabbit hole at some point. Now I’m just back to how I lived my life before knowing anything about manifestation - I’m just more mindful and focus on my well-being and confidence more! Detaching and just going with the flow whilst doing my best to stay happy and relaxed is the way I do it now. Love your video! ❤

@ijwd424

Жыл бұрын

Ironically, that's exactly what the law of assumption is

@abar612

Жыл бұрын

I am exactly there. Like, I'm done doing techniques and trying to achieve something, now it's just I have desires and let them come to me and I'm content with my self and life. It feels like a big victory. I'm glad you're feeling something similar too

@jillkx

Жыл бұрын

@@ijwd424 didn’t realise. I always assumed that the law of assumption requires persisting on your desires, saying affirmations etc.

@ijwd424

Жыл бұрын

@@jillkx Probably because tiktok and most youtube coaches ruined law of assumption. Neville Goddard put it in terms as simple as possible (which is why he's most people's go-to): you basically just have to believe you already have your desires or that they're already promised to you and that's it. After that, you get out of your own way and go with the flow. You technically don't have to do anything else. Techniques are just things that help you, not everything will work for everyone. Tiktok made persisting out to be forced affirmations while you're crying in the bathroom lol, that won't do anything but make you feel like shit. Persistance just means that you don't fall back into a story you don't like (such as "I'm unloveable") and when you do, you take yourself out of it. Tiktok also made techniques the most important thing in manifesting when they're not even that important.

@yng27

Жыл бұрын

@@jillkx “I Am” and your imagination is the most powerful. Like IJ WD wrote, unfortunately this practice has gotten muddied and flooded by people on social media who either turned this into a business by selling classes/coaching or those who swear they’ve made a breakthrough and claim that their method is the way the works best. even Neville wasn’t the end all be all, you are. If you decide that you need 1 or 100 affirmations a day then that’s what it is, you’re the creator and you’re the one who chooses. techniques and methods are absolutely not necessary (nothing wrong with them at all i love them!) , imagination is

“Being attached to nothing yet connected to everything “❤

I finally decided to "let go" and finally began manifesting what I had been trying to manifest for MONTHS. I was affirming, scripting, attempting to visualize...many different things. Instead of helping my situation, I feel like what I wanted was getting pushed away and I became more obsessed with getting a specific situation. I eventually just prayed to the universe and said I trusted the universe with bettering my situation and then a few days later, things started to fall into place. 💕

@nataliejo336

Жыл бұрын

This really speaks to me. Thank you for sharing.

@doloresdaphne8541

Жыл бұрын

✝️🙏🙏⭐️⭐️⭐️

@regancambridge3413

Жыл бұрын

Me too

@smartypants6198

Жыл бұрын

If you see this, what is scripting

@EMPANAO321

Жыл бұрын

Hippie crap, people will believe what they want to believe

'You are the sky, everything else is just the weather,' LOVE THIS. ❤️

@questforwholeness

Жыл бұрын

huge

@CAL-of9mu

Жыл бұрын

That is quoted from a lady named Peema Chaudron, a bouddhist monk.

@spmoran4703

Жыл бұрын

So do I.

@spmoran4703

Жыл бұрын

@@CAL-of9mu I have read some of her books . I reccomend them.

@millylagat

Жыл бұрын

oh yes!

"What if things don't work out exactly the way you picture it, but work out even better".

@GiveHerFlowers

Жыл бұрын

Love this ❤❤❤

@drmosaddegh

Жыл бұрын

"A believer never despairs of relief from God". It's the same for me. I literally tell myself I entrust my life in the (metaphorical) palm of God's hand. And that God knows infinitely better than you and I know. And that we will recieve blessings when God wills it is right.

@chanellove3482

Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🏾

This is legit how I got through cancer treatment and loosing a breast. Especially at age 27. It helped so deeply to loose the detachment.

@nessalight8681

Жыл бұрын

Amazing

@Dreamsareareality

Жыл бұрын

We are together I was 36. One survivor to the other you are amazing. 💜

@siranul

Жыл бұрын

That's amazing❤️ can you please share your process or mindset of detatchment?

@vsperatos

Жыл бұрын

Girl what? You're very strong for real

@K_i_tofficial

Жыл бұрын

@@Dreamsareareality Awee thank you beautiful 💖🥰

When you let go is when things start floating in your life. When you look for a remote you miss placed, you find it when you’re not even looking for it. The same thing ESPECIALLY applies with the dating scene. When you go out there and approach women, most of the time you’ll get rejected. When you’re minding your own business, focused on doing other things, they come. Even in a relationship, the more you care the worse you make it. Be detached from trying to “make things” work because it is, what it is!

@archie444s

3 ай бұрын

"The more you care the more you make it worse" What would be the ideal thing to do, at this point i'm interested in a relationships but still.

To love is to attach. To be broken or hurt is to detach. Never subject yourself to unnecessary war and pain. You sound like you love extremely hard. That love can never be replaced and some people will long to have such love and affection in their lives. Stay strong and "protect your energy"

Thanks. I’m a control freak. I didn’t know it until recently. I have a tendency to hold onto things and people far longer then I should but more importantly I try to control the outcome.

@theblackphoenix447

8 ай бұрын

Me too! It stems from somewhere & at least you realize it!❤

I am detached. After heartbreak in a marriage that led to a divorce process due to infidelity, narcissism, and constant lies, I detached to pour that same love into myself. One thing that requires BOLDNESS is to admit when we as ppl individually lack self love, and being with ppl who want validation and love from everywhere else will damage you the longer you stay. I am using this time to get to know myself more, be with God 100%, and continue healing, especially as a mom. I pray to come to this comment a time from now and be like, “Wow, this aged well! 😊”. Until then, I have work to do.

@reneef.874

9 ай бұрын

Troll comments will get deleted.

I'm so so sensitive and have so many internal highs and lows... it's hard for me to detach. Coming from religion too (who no longer is) I feel this sense of good and bad, high and low, this or that. I really lean deeply into every emotion and its ingrained in me to rely on external source. I work on it, but it can be quite difficult!

@kirky3051

Жыл бұрын

I am with you. I’m hypersensitive and I attach very easily to people, things, thoughts. But I’m working at detaching it’s tough and it takes practice. You got this!

@rebeccassofa

Жыл бұрын

I could have written this comment. I totally understand 🙏💕

@ralph7053

Жыл бұрын

The fact that you are working on it is improvment already! I used to be this same exact way, it was torturous and i had no idea until one day I had just had enough!!! Its a consistent project that has bought me so much joy love and balance. You got this!

@GeminiDream65

Жыл бұрын

I have the same difficulty.

@thesevenkingswelove9554

Жыл бұрын

Same here. I try detaching so much but I am very sensitive and it doesn't happen at all

i attach myself out of fear of losing control, im scared of feeling myself and this world at its full potential. i need to learn to let go and just accept things the way the are, im so used to holding on and it builds so much tension. i’ve been blocking my love and my blessings. i really needed to hear this because a lot of it resonates at the moment.

@thesevenkingswelove9554

Жыл бұрын

You can't control anyone or anything. Just yourself, and heck even sometimes controlling ourselves is extremely hard. So controlling other situations or people should be out of question. It's difficult to detach but it's not impossible, it takes practice

When you let go, you feel relax & that's when your manifestation comes true. That means , if you're tension free in a wish fulfillment stage, you will see it soon.

“You’re above it all and if you’re above it all anyways then why be attached” SKCWJCKAXMQKD!!!! ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥🎯

I feel Like I've disociated so much that I've finally become apathetic to my former expectations in relationships and I feel actually happier. You become so less needy and chill.

As someone with BPD & Hypersensitive Personality, I have MAJOR attachment issues to basically everything and everyone, if they’re super important to me. It’s a beautiful thing, and it probably makes me more empathetic than maybe an average person would be, but that also causes a lot of pain when you can’t detach from things or people that you know you need to get away from. I’m 21 years old and I feel like one day, if I work hard enough, I’ll really be able to know how to detach. But for now it’s definitely a work in progress, and that’s ok. 🦋

Last year i entered a new journey, it all started with affirmations to become more confident and slowly turned into something bigger, the universe has delivered so much to me, taught me so much and i am so grateful for all of it, i can affirm that it took a big amount of tears to get here, but i feel like i’m starting to understand the purpose of a lot of things, it’s more than my words can explain, but i can say that i’m experiencing detachment and it is a true blessing. To trust yourself and the universe is the best thing one can do.

"You are the sky, everything else is the weather". It's temporary. Thank you.❤

I think some people didn’t understand the essence of eypo. “If everyone is me, then I can control THEM”. But the point of the quote is the opposite, it’s not about them, it’s about youu . “No one to change but self”. It’s literally so self explanatory. You don’t get to change or control anything except for yourself. When you are giving yourself love, and you are becoming the most “connected to your soul needs” version of yourself, life and “them” will reflect that

You’re voice is so therapeutic. I’m an auditory learner. This for sure could be a guided meditation for me. You dropped so many gems 🥹❤️ Thank you.

I needed this so bad. I been a 6 year relationship which was off and on and we was so toxic for each other but we couldn't let go of each other but recently he jumped in a relationship with another person and i was so attach to him. i couldn't let go but i;m learn to be independent without anyone around , i know he will come back but I want to be healed and able to tell let him know in the proper way how everything we have done to each other fucked me up.

Thanks for this! I was getting so sick of setting timers to affirm or making tapes. No more sticking to rigid schedules that have been ingrained into me from LOA communities on Twitter or YT. I’m just living. It’ll come to me, as Neville said it’s already done.

@maleekaismyguardianangel

Жыл бұрын

You got this💗

@NoToYellowpigs

Жыл бұрын

was thinking that way too. It's already done to me. With prayers, it manifest.. I'm dependent to God.

@dr.m6152

Жыл бұрын

Oh no no that's really too much girl!

This is just a venting comment: I cut off my friends and it's been really painful... I did it because i've been disrespected way too many times, i told them that it hurts me and i don't like it but they kept pushing and pushing until i cut them all off. I sit alone at uni while seeing them have fun in front of me, i feel kinda uncomfortble being alone in such a crowded place but at least i don't feel drained like i did with them.

@ashleyd7447

Жыл бұрын

I'm proud of you. It wasn't easy but in the long run you'll see that you're life is better without them. Keep putting yourself and your needs first, uphold strong boundaries, and focus on yourself

@DepecheMode5

Жыл бұрын

It's gon get better, trust me

@flamingaish

Жыл бұрын

you're very brave and you'll be alright soon, i promise. you're loved and i genuinely appreciate you for making that move

@coderlicious6565

Жыл бұрын

I had to cut off 2 siblings due to that. I'm fine with it. I feel great.

@IAMGEORGE415

Жыл бұрын

Letting go - david Hawkins

I’ve learned that I need to do what I need to do to detach (yell, curse them out, write it down, etc). It might not be the most mature way but it allows me to easily get over things and detach ASAP

thank you so, so much for this

Detachment is hard because everuthing demands intimacy. Friends, work, family....they all want extreme intimacy in return and when they notice you are detached they can feel hurt. This tends to be the root of many problems

I detached myself to almost everything in my surroundings. I even detached myself from my friends; now when they ignore me it feels normal back then when they do that it messes my mind. So detaching and not controlling the uncontrollable give me peace.

@Juicyfruit12345

Жыл бұрын

How about you get some new friends instead of settling for ones that ignore you

I think an important point about love is that the more you can also love without expecting it in return will give you so much peace and freedom. that is truly abundant.

This was meant for me today. I’m SOOO attached specifically to my sp and I can worry easily if things contradict my plan. Today I was heading down that path but I stopped and reminded myself the lesson I’ve been learning recently-my source has always worked everything out in my life better than I could’ve imagined it. It helped my heart rest. Then I saw you uploaded this. You are truly an angel. Thank you for being my calm in a storm.

“ you are the weather “- whenever shifts in the weather happens, it’s always to help out the earth in some way. and that’s how i like to view it. my storms, cold days, etc are helping me for the other seasons in my life ✨. Everything works out even if you don’t see it, like the weather

this really resonates with me. i started my neville journey 6 months ago, and after forcing myself into the feeling of the wish fulfilled with obsessive affirmations and thoughts, i’m so exhausted. i’m finally seeing how peaceful letting go and detaching can be. to those who have successfully detached, what do you do to relax your mind when you find yourself thinking of your manifestation?

@dr.m6152

Жыл бұрын

Well first of all if I feel good thinking about it I'll allow myself to think about it for a minute or two. However if I start going in full on day dream mode I try to stop myself. Or if I start to imagine how it'll happen I stop myself and tell myself that it doesn't matter how it happened because it has ALREADY happened. I say that the universe brings it to me in the best way possible. I also do not say specific affirmations like - he's always texting me or something like that. Because that kinda keeps you attached to the outcome. I'm at a stage where I just don't care about getting a call/text or anything from him really, because in my mind I've got it all. Hope this helps. Also it's totally okay to take time to understand the law better so don't feel too stressed about it

@paolarcano

Жыл бұрын

@@dr.m6152 thank you sm, your advice really helps! i’m definitely going to tell myself, “the universe always brings it to me in the best way possible,” cause it’s a really good reminder. plus, you’re so right! if he’s already mine, why would i be worried about specific things, like a call or a text? and yes, thank you :,) i try to remind myself that the law is a learning process that takes time. i’m really just trying to stick with what works for me, instead of being swayed and confused with all these different techniques you read/hear about. since i wrote my comment, i’ve done a bit of inner work and i’ve really felt a shift in my state. i feel more relaxed than ever bc i know my sp is mine, no matter what i feel or do. ofc i slip in and out of it bc i’m human, but for the most part, i’m happy and calm. not sure if that’s detachment, but i do feel good :)

Practicing self love and following what feels good without trying to control others or the outcome. Radically accepting what you can’t control and focusing on what you can control that makes you happy

What I got from this video: Don't react to the 3D because it can be only temporary.

Napolean Bonaparte used to detached himself and thus elevated himself above the battlefield in order to conquer. Thanks for the upload.

I just wanted to say, that this video reflects exactly what I'm going through right now. I know I'm just one of many with romance problems and nothing is new under the sun about this. but I just wanted to share here, that right now I'm actively trying to detach myself from a situation where I find that who I love doesn't seem to be a good match for me and for my future plans. it is very hard. it is very hard admitting that no matter how much I wanted this person to be the love of my life, years and years what always comes up is that I'm in love with his potential and not the real, current him. and finally I've had enough, because I don't even like myself like this. it took a long time, but I realized that I want to and need to detach from everything I thought about us and my mindset, because it never lead to where I wanted to be and how I wanted to feel. I still don't know how it will go, because I was the type of person who wanted to control the story, but I just don't want to be like this anymore, no matter how much I love this person

Apart from the great manifestation knowledge that she provides. I really love the overall vibe of your videos. The lighting, the music, the colour grading etc is just so minimal and sophisticated. This is what seperates you from other creators. Keep up the great work

I'm telling you, two important keys to manifesting are 1) detach from the outcome of what you desire and 2) try as best you can to visualize your desire as the best for everyone or other people specifically how it will benefit them (not just yourself). I worked specifically on doing those two things, and I was very worried about having to find a new apartment with the very high prices in this city and I found the perfect most beautiful apartment for literally what I'm paying now and it's better.... I am blown away by how smooth and fast the process went! Thank you to the most high, GOD ❤❤❤❤

you make me feel so delicate, you’re such an angel ☺️

I like what you say here and how freely you admit having a tendency to control your world and yet it doesn't diminish you one bit, on the contrary it makes you shine brighter! Your energy inspires and you provided me with a visual and audible model of the self-confident calmness I see is my own best self. Thank you 😊

your video’s always show up when i need them most. thank you ❤

2 minutes in and I am loving this. You’ve got such a great way of communicating your points. congrats on gaining so much self awareness and owning it and sharing it. It’s hard to accept those “negative” parts of you and meet them with compassion

Every time you post, it’s a banger!❤ Detachment is SUPER important. You can only control the things in your power, not the things that aren’t in your power

"what they bring to the table that's already full"🍃❤️loved it

i really needed this reminder ❤ thank you, i am letting myself be pleasantly surprised by how life turns out

I've watched a couple of videos about this, but yours is literally word from word, how it is, before you can detach and what you need to get there. I'm glad I came across this video.

I'm older than this young woman and I've learned (and forgotten) many valuable lessons that life has taught me.... I thank her words for getting my train back on track. Every single word she spoke was deadly accurate & correct. Well done, and well said...

This really came at a time when I'm working on this the most. Thank you ❤

i’ve never been touched so deeply by another’s words this is a subject i find myself struggling with putting in work from several months to years to still find myself working on it, her humility to even admit that this is something she’s still working on speaks volumes & i connected with each & every message that was meant for me to hear , thank you.

Everything you said hit so hard. I’ve grown up so hyper independent because I’ve been neglected and invalidated and basically hated by my own family growing up. So any form of love or affection from someone else, I would be so quick to attach. I’m learning to detach now and it’s been helping so much. Handling my emotions after the detachment is something i need to still keep working on

This was my feeling for the past two day. Thank you for your perfectly timed video. It was so needed!

Thank you for this. I have been trying to learn this and embed this in my life.

Your reflections and philosophies are amazing and always helps me learn something about myself

Your message came in such a critical time for me! Thank you for vocalizing what I've been experiencing for the past couple of months. Detachment to negative associations has been something I have struggled with for as long as I remembered. I heard this with so much clarity.

the timing of this video is absolutely perfect😭😭😭!!!! thank you so much Maleeka ❤

Love this concept and never really learned about it until now . I am also someone who tends to have a controlling attitude towards my own circumstances and the people I involve myself with. But again, that seriously takes the fun out of life I just realized . so what if this guy was meant for you. Maybe he is or maybe he isn’t . If he isn’t it’s still okay because he just ISNT. If he is that’s okay too because HE IS . If we just stopped stressing about everything being in perfect order according to plan. There’s nothing wrong with having a schedule or a routine or an envision for your life . But when we are so hard on ourselves because we aren’t producing at the level we expect than that can seriously deter you from accomplishing ANY sort of goals . I think the art of detachment also allows you to be kinder to yourself . To realize that you legit can’t control if someone likes you or not . That you can do a lot of different jobs probably well, and EspeicAlly if you enjoy what you’re doing . If you focus on yourself and a little less on what others are doing as well, and even detaching yourself from what other people are up to around you. It’s not about not caring it’s more like simply being and being okay with having dreams but realizing having dreams and accomplishing a dream is only a subset to the experience of life .

I’ve been really struggling with things like this lately so thank you for this, it came to me at the perfect time ❤️

I think alot of us needed this one lol ❤

this video is so wise, i’ve been watching it all day

I needed to hear this because i was so out of it today, tears just streamed down from my eyes whole day long when i contemplated my life, where I want to be and where I am now. It hurts so much that I cried involuntarily I think I needed that, I knew I can’t do anything to change it right now but the pain was real.

This made me feel good and at peace, thank you so much for this wonderful video!

I just got off the phone with my therapist where I literally was feeling everything you were saying💖 thank you! I love your flow & I most definitely thumbs up this video & subscribed to you!☺️💛

I’m really trying to implement this into my life, starting from this moment on I will. Thank youuuu sm❤

This showed up right on time. I needed this reminder to get back in alignment with my most loving self. Thank you.

This is exactly what I need right now, thank you for this video.

Ohhhh Girl. I had to go get a notebook and a pen before I watched this a second time. Gems! Much love and many thanks

Had re-subscribed. Originally was clearing my subscriptions that I wasn't viewing. But your last several videos really hit home for me. Thank you for this one. Makes perfect sense 😇🙏

The weather and sky explanation was a great analogy!

Saw this, right at the moment I really needed it. Thank you for posting it. Love and Light🙏🏾♥

its crazy how personal this message felt, thank you

Thank you so much, I really needed this 💕🥺

Thank you for this. I would love more videos like this. I wish you had a podcast, I would listen all day ❤

so glad u were suggested to me. absolutely love the way you communicate and i needed this rn.

OOh I needed this one today. Thank you. I would love to see a new video from you on revision (or a link to older ones you think I may like)

This thumbnail looks amaaaazing, you're stunning! Thanks for the video, it was a great reminder to release control

Thank you. I feel like I needed to hear this. You’re very well spoken

you killed this I love everything and agree with everything you said because I started to do that on me own without anyone telling me I had to learn alot on my own thank you so much because this also has helped and now I dont feel alone and the same view thank you once again

Thank you for this video, and honestly your whole channel. I just had a really bad friendship breakup and your videos are helping me re-ground myself ❤️

Your videos have a really magical and poetic quality to them that makes them so wonderful to watch. Detachment is so important and something I need to stop being so afraid of.

I was always in touch with my thoughts, goals and feelings until I entered an abusive relationship and it eroded all sense of self. It’s so important to remain anchored into yourself. I am now slowly after 2 years returning to my body (not just running on stress and autopilot) and its really knocked my self confidence. Beautiful and calming video, thank you 🙏

10000% needed to hear this ❤️

It’s your vibe for me and all of this is so powerful and true if you decide to study it deeply❤ thanks for keeping it real!

This really helped me a lot. Been going through somethings that in a way kind of just made me become more attached than I normally am. With some reflection I looked back at myself when I was younger and I had a lot more control of myself and letting go was easier. Now I am going back and revisiting those roots minus the bad habits. Thank you for providing us with this video. It’s been a breath of fresh air.

Woof this came at the right time for me. Ur energy and words really grounded me. I will continue to form my habit of detachment

This was exactly what I needed at the exact time. 🙏🏾❤️

Loved this video about detachment. First video that I didn’t feel attacked or made out to feel shame for needing to practice detachment ❤. Keep inspiring.

Detachment can be balanced with gratitude and appreciation, for me. I love how you explained other elements of this topic as well, Chelsea 👊🏼

This came through my feed for a reason. Detachment from the outcome. Enjoy the experience of getting to know yourself. Good stuff. Thank you.

Your video came up on my for you page, I’m grateful that I found it! I needed it.

Love your saying in attachment. I needed to hear it so bad and it complemented what I learn in therapy. Thanks a lot ❤

So blessed to hear a like minded evolving soul today. Thank you universe for this video and the sharer 💛🌻✌🏾

Your voice is so comforting and your message is spot on-Succinct and easy to understand. Keep going! I loved it! So helpful!

This woman is getting in my spirit, and I need it.

this video is everything i needed. thank you. also you have a very soothing presence.

Thank you for this. I appreciate your communicated wisdom. Having a family history of hoarding embeds the yearn for attachment, so this is one challenge I am choosing to overcome in this stage of my life. Detachment is the key.❤

This video is absolutely wonderful, and I'm so glad it found me at this time. Thank you for your words of wisdom.

Man your voice is so soothing and this is some great stuff

You’re voice has a very calming effect on me I can literally feel it as you speak