Dementia Diagnosis Sparks House Hunt - Location Location Location - Real Estate TV
Location Location Location - S18 E13
Join us as we follow two couples on their house-hunting journey in the East Midlands. In one story, Nigel and Jane search for a suitable home after Nigel's dementia diagnosis, while in the other, Sam and Becky aim to find their dream home to start a flower farming business. Watch as they face challenges and make tough decisions in the competitive property market.
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Jane saying that the house "Is all I'll have left after going through everything..." is her failing to see that it's NOT all she'll have left. Once her caregiver duties are over she can find that perfect house for her new life. She is not wanting to separate now from the future. Having been a caregiver myself I can say, with confidence, that things will change for her in ways she isn't seeing now. Refusing to compromise at all, on a really good house that was perfectly set up for what they needed now, isn't good. The garden, which wasn't at all bad, and the fact that nothing needed doing, when that was what she asked for, isn't something that anyone can help her with. Some people just have to make their own mistakes. There would always be something wrong, for Jane. By failing to see that she ended up with something less than what she turned down.
@jillsmiley7701
8 ай бұрын
They speak in front of husband like he is not present
@bjbrown
8 ай бұрын
Is Jane going to run the mower and plant the flowers in the garden? Why does she have such high expectations when the homes on offer were perfectly lovely homes. I hope she has found her happiness.
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
Those duties could go on for many years, and she does need to be content with her home in the mean time, not just waiting for her 'new life' to begin. The feel for a house is what she was looking for, and it seems she eventually found it. She maybe just needed a little more time to come to terms with things. This way, she won't be left wondering if she should have done something different...
@margaretsmith2792
5 ай бұрын
I liked the fact that this episode tells us that Jane did find a place where her ideas could come to the surface and she could feel comfortable. She has/had a huge lot to deal with.
The poor lady, Jane, is completely overwhelmed with her life situation. My heart goes out to her.
@FigaroHey
8 ай бұрын
Yes, she needs someone to explain to her how to adapt a house to aging in place, like building a ramp to the front door (easy - two planks of wood and done) or putting a gate across the drive. Her husband is still able to manage stairs and doesn't go wandering. She has time to adapt the house. I've been around old people with limited ability, and I can tell you, they barely walk 100 feet a day most of them. Bed to table to chair to toilet to bed seems to be the daily route. They don't 'live' in a lot of space unless they are really active, totally mentally with it, involved, social, still driving and out of the house a lot, etc. Then they might use an entire house and the rooms for various hobbies and activities. But old people in a big house tend to be like two dried peas rattling around in a breadbox. They probably don't need to worry about elderly mum taking up a lot of space. Give her her chair in the lounge and she'll probably live 95% of her remaining years sitting in it.
@nancyn347
8 ай бұрын
@@FigaroHey all very good points. You've described my husband, who is 68, and dying very quickly of an aggressive cancer, and his world has shrunk to exactly what you described: bed to table to chair to toilet to bed. The only time he leaves home is for his medical appointments, so yeah, you don't need a big house for an infirm loved one.
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
I do think it's different with dementia, though. That's why they have secure areas in care homes. My mom had limited mobility, but a very strong desire to get out, and frequently did - despite multiple security features - and made it some distance on her own. @@nancyn347
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
Looking after two... not easy. I hope the family is really able to be there for them.
@roslyndrake6702
8 ай бұрын
Yes. My heart breaks for her as I’ve been in her shoes and completely understand where she is coming from. I wish I could be there to help her.
The older Kirstie gets, the more I love her!
@FigaroHey
8 ай бұрын
She has just always been adorable. I think she's the only person on the planet who could make me enjoy a shopping trip (not for shoes; not even Kirstie could make me like that, but any other kind of shopping).
@HenHo90
8 ай бұрын
@@FigaroHey Completely agree with you. She's very charming with what she does!
@mom-ys9sb
7 ай бұрын
She's adorable isn't she ?! Can you imagine her as a teenager - energy dynamo i'd bet !!
@juliansydney9819
5 ай бұрын
I find her rude and judgemental. I still enjoy the show but she can be revolting - imagine calling the flower business “batty”. They’re her clients
@HenHo90
5 ай бұрын
@@juliansydney9819 She was very judgemental in the earlier series, but I find her much more pleasant nowadays. I think it's all down to her background and upbringing. Her father is a hereditary Lord or something of the sort.
Jane is crazy for passing up those gorgeous homes with zero-threshold shower ensuites! Being a caregiver for TWO declining people is no walk in the park, everyone I know who has cared for 1 dying person has moved immediately afterward. They don't want to stay in a big house with bad memories.
@marywise3175
7 ай бұрын
Think unless someone has been a carer of a terminally ill partner (as I have) you won’t realise how fussy, angry, uncertain, confused, stressed, overwhelmed and frantic it makes you. Yes others can say she’s being crazy and doesn’t have to stay there but in the moment of worrying about the future you certainly do not and cannot see this. AND you fixate on physical things such as a house or possessions as ‘all you’ll have left’. I was exactly the same, nearly 5 years later I can look back and almost (!) smile at myself but in the moment you make no good ideas, accept little help and that’s just how it is. Go through it and then judge others is all I’ll say…
@hollywebster6844
6 ай бұрын
I completely agree with you. Jane has suddenly had her life turned inside out. The reality for her is that her life is going to only get more painful and difficult. I'm sure that trying to come to terms with her new reality, moving across the world and not being able to afford the type of home they had in Australia is overwhelming. Plus, this is a new reality for her and issues come up that she hadn't yet considered. My heart goes out to her and I hope her sons are loving and helpful.
@anglophils645
3 ай бұрын
I hope this is not Jane's normal personality, because I find her very annoying. I couldn't live with her in ANY house. She's picky, negative,and whiny. She's a downer. Instead of focussing on how lucky she is to have a mother who is living still, at age 95, and how many wonderful years she's had with a very pleasant husband, she's feeling so sorry for herself. She grates on my nerves. And yes, I have taken care of multiple aging parents and parents-in-law. I never turned into an irritating mess like Jane.
@valynteena
Ай бұрын
Me too, I loved the 1st house. One of the bedrooms had an ensuite and there was also a family bathroom.
@lugubrioz
Ай бұрын
crazy and stupid
Having a husband with young onset Parkinson's, I feel she is still deep in the grieving stage ...Losing him, losing her life in Australia, and that is why she is struggling to make the decisions and compromise. I really feel for them, but am glad they found their home eventually
@cfgrain
8 ай бұрын
He does not have Parkinson's disease, it's dementia due to the onset of Alzheimer's diagnosis. There is a huge difference.
@janemitchell576
8 ай бұрын
There is no difference to the grieving process that the wife will be going through, as she loves him and is losing him, which is why I believe she is struggling to make decisions.
@roslyndrake6702
8 ай бұрын
It does not matter the diagnosis they both are grieving which makes decisions even more difficult.
@mom-ys9sb
7 ай бұрын
I think you are right ! She'll be on her own basically altho' she has family it's the day to day survival that takes it's toll. As an only child I dealt with my Mom who aged pretty normally , but it's still an emotional roller coaster everyday when you are the only one "holding the fort" Wish her the best !!@@janemitchell576
@juliansydney9819
5 ай бұрын
@@janemitchell576The average life span for people with Alzheimers is 10 years from diagnosis. It’s usually not the dementia, but another condition that causes death. This woman shouldn’t reject a house because of a few steps - ramps and grab rails can be installed.
My heart goes out to this couple as I understand their concerns first-hand. I have experienced much the same situation. in 2018 my husband and I sold our rural home of over 20 years where we thought we would live out the rest of our life. My husband was diagnosed with cognitive decline and Charcot Marie Tooth Disease which is a neurological condition that effects his mobility. We too have to move to a new community and into a ground floor condo. Our priority was a community with good senior services, a good local hospital and a bus system so that my husband who no longer drives can take the bus. It was very difficult to adjust to the strict and limited rules and regulations of a condo community. I ADMIRE THat Jane thinks she is going to be able to carry for her husband and her mom. I feel for her future.
@lovelyskull3483
8 ай бұрын
May all the Gods bless this couple. I wish you the best.
@susanhuntley9262
8 ай бұрын
Youre lucky. We had such a plan but then my husband died. Don't wait. Oh yes, then my mom died. Looking for some dream is not in your best interests
SO much sympathy! I wish there had been a kind way to tell Jane she could always find her dream home after...so, for now, let the dream go and just take care of needs.
Fantastic episode, thank you. Real people with real budgets and definite needs and wants. Phil and Kristy both did a super job.
As somebody else pointed out; in a finite amount of time Jane will be on her own without her husband or elderly mother. Wouldn't that then be the perfect time to leave a house that will, by then, contain painful memories of the decline of her loved ones and move on to a house, just for her, that she really loves? Phil showed her several properties far better suited to their actual needs than the one they ended up buying. It's a pity, but she couldn't see it. A much happier new start of course for the young couple.
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
Jane may not have much time on her own in the end. None of us can guarantee tomorrow.
I know nothing about growing flowers BUT I assume you would need quite a bit of land to yield enough flowers to sustain a business.
@elizzy8754
2 ай бұрын
True. I think I would have been inclined to purchase a small flat and rent land.
The flower girl... get the dimensions of the garden, because there are a lot of overgrown shrubs that could be removed and give you much more growing space. You can grow up - sweet peas and other climbers - in arches between beds. And if there's space out front, there's nothing stopping you from putting in some beds there. Be creative. Look into growing much from a compact space. But she doesn't sound like she has anything more than a vague idea of messing about with flowers.
@feewaybilz
8 ай бұрын
What do these two couples have in common? Unrealistic expectations
@thehungrygoldfish
8 ай бұрын
@@feewaybilzTo be fair, I don’t think anyone who wanted to have a business at home that wasn’t already existing ever succeeded. Not the 4x4 guy. Not the brother sister bakery. Unless you’re already doing it, there’s just no motivation to actually do it.
It is true that Jane had to give up much. She had to give up her dreams of a peaceful retirement with Nigel, traveling, leisure, all of that. All of a sudden she has become a caretaker, no doubt something she had not foreseen. She probably had not planned to leave Australia either. This being said (and I'm not in her shoes), I think her expectations were unrealistic, or maybe she is just too depressed to find anything that will make her happy. Garden too big, garden too small, open area but separate dining room, kitchen somehow wrong, and this and that wrong and she likes a particular property that has everything she said she needed and wanted but she wanted something in move-in condition and this house is wrong because no alterations can be done to it and the garden is a few square yards too small so that in and of itself is wrong and makes the whole house wrong, something is always wrong, and wrong, and wrong, and wrong... Finally she picked a smallish property much less suitable for what she stated she needed to accommodate her mother, Nigel and herself. The only condition it meets is that it has three bedrooms. It doesn't even seem to have more than a single bathroom and It isn't in move-in condition, which were two of the essential criteria. She says at the end she is happy or at least satisfied with it (even though, you know, the garden is too small so it is wrong), but I suspect she chose the house because it had become impossible to delay purchasing _something_ any longer. She saw and rejected 24 properties in short order, after all, including the four Phil found for her and Nigel. I would be surprised if she is happy living in it. My read of all this is that she's looking for a house that will make her happy again. No house can make her happy, no house can be _not_ wrong when it's her life that has gone wrong in ways that have overwhelmed her and crushed her spirit. There was nothing Phil could could do to fix that when this episode was filmed, so he was bound to fail.
@virginiaaransevia4823
8 ай бұрын
You nailed it. I kept thinking "trauma response" as she continually found fault - esp the way she shared her displeasure. No gate - unacceptable! What if Nigel's condition gets worse and he could wander out to the road, how dare you suggest THIS place! Uhm, lady, there's posts at either end of the drive. IF that becomes a concern, install gates. A 3" step made her not want to even enter the property and in her frazzled state, installing a simple ramp equaled an insurmountable task, yet more problems with no solutions in her life filled with problems. She couldn't see anything OTHER than problems because she's been dealing with them for so long that she's convinced herself no solutions exist outside of miracles. If she didn't walk in and FEEL the feels and everything wasn't 110% perfect as is, it was 1000% wrong, just more problems for her! The house they bought was definitely a last resort.
@maida_vale
8 ай бұрын
I see a serious clinical depression. She needed help and seems the family (kids) didn't help at all. . I wonder why but not our business. Have to say I found Phil very understanding and patient, great.
@lysem4392
8 ай бұрын
@@maida_valeI don't know whether the sons helped or not. It just wasn't part of the video; extended families do not often figure in "Location Location Location". I did find it significant that it was Nigel who insisted on moving near to the children, or as Jane says, puzzlingly, _his_ children; this is not something I would expect to hear from a mother with a tight bond with her offspring. I sense that if it had been up to her they would not have left Australia. It might be that the sons are estranged from their mother. I would not be surprised if she moved back to Australia eventually. There might be some weird family dynamics going on, I don't know. This is all speculative of course, but still it definitely was Nigel and not Jane who wanted to be near the sons. Jane was clear about that.
@lindap8101
8 ай бұрын
@@lysem4392 I felt the way she talked about the future she was, knowingly or not, piling some guilt on him.
@wackthegood8884
8 ай бұрын
Jane was a very intransigent woman. It's possible that the children had offered to help or given advice but it had been rejected. She seemed too lost in her unhappiness to think rationally, and would likely have pushed any suggestions away, even from her family. @@maida_vale
I feel for the couple looking for a property where Nigel can comfortably spend his last years while battling dementia. Jane may have a caring heart that is bigger than any one person can manage without losing herself. Adding the care for her aging mom will do her in! I want to care for family and friends but the truth is I have to also take care of myself or I would be no good for others. I pray Jane will have a lot of help from their family!🙏🏻❤️
Oh my, I can't imagine leaving 3 children, grandchildren and mother to move to the other side of the world. I hope now they've finally found somewhere they can settle, but saying that it's all she has left after all she's given up, without considering all her family around her, is a concerning thing to say - it's all about family surely.
@BritGirlJay
8 ай бұрын
She's about to go from carefree retired to double caregiver to 2 people; one who may live quite a lot longer but in heavily reduced circumstances. I feel for her - the stress must be immense. Having her way on the house is likely the only 'control' left in her life for a while.
@lysem4392
8 ай бұрын
I sense this wasn't a close family. This is why it was easy for Jane and Nigel to pull up stakes and move to Australia, and why Jane did not seem enthusiastic _at all_ about moving back close to her family.
Oooh, boy, Jane is just a little too indecisive. Buy a bungalow that suits her mom and husband, then when they're no longer around, look for a house that suits just her. I must admit, though, that the house they eventually bought looked pretty good. Love the new episode, thanks for the upload.
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
Stress can do that to you.
Oh, how difficult. Jane was clearly in too much shock and bewilderment to be making sensible decisions, she really needed sons or daughters-in-law along and helping out, and possibly having camera crews around wasn't what they needed, either.
@JVSwailesBoudicca
8 ай бұрын
But they chose to be on the programme....they must have known that there would be cameras and a crew ?
@lysem4392
8 ай бұрын
My little finger tells me that any advice coming from her sons or daughters-in-law would have been rejected, possibly with much resentment. She was much too brittle.
@lindap8101
8 ай бұрын
I suspect one of their sons or daughters-in-law might have said something about her fussiness re garden sizes. I know I would have. Too big, too small…
@lysem4392
8 ай бұрын
@@lindap8101If they are wise they would have kept their lips sealed. If they aren't wise, they probably had their heads bitten off. I don't see Jane being ready to accept anything having even a vague resemblance to criticism. She has too much on her plate already.
@lindap8101
8 ай бұрын
@@lysem4392 She didn’t need criticism but she did need some gentle second opinions on what she was criticizing. Other than the yard size she wanted an open kitchen but, of course, the next kitchen was too open. Yes, she has a lot on her plate but she wasn’t doing herself or her husband or Phil for that matter any favours with her own confusion.
Im not a grumpy old man, but i am 71. I remember when people didnt have a bathroom at all. We never had a bathroom until i was 11. But now it seems everyone needs an ensuite bathroom.
@bjbrown
8 ай бұрын
I am 65 and we had one bathroom for all of us. After dinner mom set me to do the dishes and dad camped in the only bathroom to read for an hour. I don't need to tell you that running water make one think of a comfort place. I now live alone and one bathroom is fine but I still remember the days of running out to the garden for a wee.
@bbgunn917
8 ай бұрын
I'm not as old as you but growing up, our house in London had no central heating in the bedrooms. People now are just off the charts entitled.
@marthab.higgins149
8 ай бұрын
@bjbrown I am in my late middle seventies and just got a bathroom and running water in my house about 17 years ago. Until then I carried water in six gallon jugs and used a porta-potty. Not ideal, certainly, but doable. It does make one very appreciative of the conveniences we mostly take for granted. Every time I get in the shower, I am so thankful!
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
:)
Jane ended up with a lovely home. I hope it served her well as she cared for her mother and husband. ❤
Kristie and Phill have the patience of Job. Many times I could see myself walking away .... thinking.... If they don't want it. I'll gladly take it!
@KimberlyLester-cx7wr
8 ай бұрын
I know Kirsty and Phil couldn't ask this but how much longer do they expect a 95 year old woman to live? Do you turn down a house because it might seem too small for three when her mother probably won't live there more than several years?
I'd love to see what the architect and the gardener do with their new home! Please catch us up on that when you can! As for the rest: I almost couldn't watch, it was so depressing.
@thehungrygoldfish
8 ай бұрын
Sure. Can you wait 15 years?
I'm glad it worked out for both couples. Would like to see Becky and Sam's house now, if they still live in it. Probably not though, after 8 years... What a painful time for Nigel and Jane. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, but it still happens to so many!😔 May God bless them with strength, support and comfort.🙏 Phil and Kirstie were amazing once again!🎉
This is just the beginning for Jane she’ll need time and patience and a lot of help. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from professional caregivers and community resources. It’s the loving thing to do for them and yourself. You don’t need to do it all❤
How big a garden does Jane need? She has a small dog, and she's not getting any younger.
@HenHo90
8 ай бұрын
I was thinking the same. How would she manage everything whilst taking care of two people as well!
How is she going to have a flower business on a small city plot? Most have many acres and equipment with out buildings to accommodate people and plants.
@HenHo90
8 ай бұрын
People with plant businesses usually use their gardens at home as a testing site before committing to a bigger plot elsewhere for larger quantities. The mentioned couple was renting at the time and there are usually limitations to what you can do in the garden if you don't own the property.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!!!! These make my day!!!! (I'm so grateful!).
Anyone else have the idea that Phil is far more concerned than Jane with the urgency of getting Jane and her husband out of expensive rental and into a home SOON? She is acting like she's 30 years old with an infinite budget and no need to settle for anything less than the house she's built in her head. Get a GOOD ENOUGH HOUSE for your husband's health and get on with it, woman! When Phil says, 'I'm not saying I've found the perfect house; I am saying I'm showing you the best of what's available right now,' I wish he had a bit more Kirstie in him and said, 'I'm showing you the all there is. Shit or get off the pot already.' The notion that 'I've given up so much' and 'I'll have to give up so much' so I want a house I'm 'in love with' is well and good. But there's a little thing called REALITY: you are NOT building your dream house; you ARE shovelling money out the door living in a rental (is THAT perfect?) and need not to keep eating up your budget while you wait for the 'dream home' that doesn't exist in the UK. I'm surprised that she doesn't say with the house with the alzheimer's annex, 'Oh, there's a doorsill at the patio doors. What about a wheelchair?'
@nancyn347
8 ай бұрын
And, really, why does it have to be her dream house from the get-go? Get a house that suits her husband and mother, and then, when they're gone (or hubby has had to be admitted to a secure long-term care home), she could look for something that is just for her.
31:11 yeah, it’s unfortunate, she has a lot of pressure and I don’t think she’s used to making decisions on her own.
The older couple are quite difficult. Wouldn’t want to be in Phil’s shoes.
@thehungrygoldfish
8 ай бұрын
Jane was difficult.
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
They are in a difficult situation. That's different.
Jane the professional victim - he needs 'routine' but she's going to start building works while caretaking two old people - total lunatic. And they came all the way back for family that can't even put them up for a couple of months?
@mom-ys9sb
7 ай бұрын
Family should have helped out or maybe Jane's too proud or depressed to share !!
@juliansydney9819
5 ай бұрын
Well said
@juliansydney9819
5 ай бұрын
@@mom-ys9sbif she’s too proud, then why did she move all the way back to the UK? For family!!
@readMEinkbooks
20 күн бұрын
Wow. A professional victim? Have you ever been in her situation? Have you any idea how hard it is to make decisions when you are overwhelmed by the fact that you are going to watch both your mother and husband slowly die in front of you and forget who you even are? Of course Jane's not thinking straight. Show her a bit of grace.
I can't believe you came to my town , Eastwood and I missed you both 😮😮😮
(15:02) "Plus ça change... " (...the more it changes, the more it remains the same...).
@debbiericker8223
Ай бұрын
Merci.
@andreaandrea6716
Ай бұрын
@@debbiericker8223 Je vous en prie.
people like Jane are best left to their own devices. You can never please people like her 😎
@remishero8702
8 ай бұрын
She will be the sole caretaker of her husband and her mother. She'll watch them decline and die and she'll be often exhausted and lonely, knowing she left the country she loved and felt at home in to grant her husband his wish. She just wants to feel at home and she deserves it.
@thehungrygoldfish
8 ай бұрын
It’s more that she doesn’t know what she wants, Which makes sense because she’s trying to plan for a life that she’s currently not living yet. I feel like she was better off renting first so she can get a better idea of what she needs/wants.
@seaside2001
8 ай бұрын
She should put them both in a home and buy the house she wants. She can visit them. I get the impression this house search is all about her and not her husband & mother. @@remishero8702
@ThisPaintingLife
8 ай бұрын
@@remishero8702 Yes! Plus, notice that they went to Adelaide to fulfill his dream and then came home because of his dream. When does Jane get her turn? And the answer is never now.
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
harsh.
Boy you said it perfectly
Jane seems tottaly lost, she really did not know what she wants, bless her...
@sjefhendrickx2257
2 ай бұрын
Bless?why? For being a fool
@readMEinkbooks
20 күн бұрын
@@sjefhendrickx2257 What an ugly comment. Showing zero compassion for a woman in grief says more about you than her. And what it says about you isn't complimentary. And yes, grief. She knows full well what her future holds. She's grieving for the future she thought was going to have with the man she loves, but now she's going to have to watch him die slowly and soon forget even her name, let alone that she's his wife. And she's going to care for her mother at the same time. That's a huge emotional toll. It's incredibly hard to make sensible decisions when you're overwhelmed like that.
Jane is wrong to think that she will be able to take care of her husband and the old woman because she is also old and also not very good in her decisions. Where are the children? I think that many children distance themselves from their parents because of that attitude that old people take, thank God my mother who died at 97, she was always happy with what she gave her, she was always in my house and she died here.
While Jane was a bit maddening, I did feel for her. Caring for a person who will be declining quickly in health and mental capacity is a stressful, terrifying prospect, and adding an elderly person to care for into the mix can double that (though I can understand why she's doing it). She didn't seem able to nail down her actual biggest want, outside of needs, which was a certain type of kitchen; that meant Phil wasn't necessarily looking specifically for it. And, yes, it was obviously the kitchen which was her focal point, since she gave up a large garden and an en suite in order to have the kitchen she wanted. I hope both couples are able to enjoy their homes and their new neighborhoods, and are able to have happy times and create happy memories.
Jane could always find her more desired house when circumstances change.
Poor Jane...she gas to deal with so many things ,while is shock and not fully comprehending what lues ahead...hope she is doing well and that the kids assist her when time comes to get a place just for herself....it is such a sad situation...
So sad for Aussie lady. Property is the LAST thing she has left. Grieving?
Good episode
“Your needs are different!”
Jane’s husband can live for years yet. She’s not about to lose him unless he develops another medical condition. The average lifespan of an Alzheimer’s patient is 10 years from diagnosis. Yes, he’ll decline mentally but that can be slow too
@dgcaz1
Ай бұрын
My grandmother went in a year. She was physically healthy but the dementia progressed very rapidly. Very sad.
Jane is still overwhelmed by the changes in her life, and perhaps her children and their spouses need to step up and help. Nigel needs to be in a stable living situation, and Jane is unable to make a decision. It can't be put off! Phil and Kirstie need to give their kids a phone call.
Sorry, but to tell someone in a wheelchair they have go into the house through the back door is appalling! That person is just as valuable as members of the family who are not in a wheelchair, but sending them round the back means you think they aren't. It's also a safety hazard. What if there is a fire in the house, and the back door is unreachable, and the person in the wheelchair is alone? How are they going to get out of the house? What you should have said, Phil, is that all entrances including the front entrance steps can be rebuilt to give easy access for a wheelchair, even one operated by the person in the wheelchair. I have a family member in a wheelchair, and the whole house is built so that if he is in his wheelchair he can get out of every door that leads outside. Front, back and side entrances. Another thing you need to think about is width of all doorways, internal and external, can a battery-powered wheelchair easily fit through them?
I think Jane is scared for the future, and I don’t blame her …worried for her finding a house though.
Perhaps these couples should have provided specific lists of their needs in advance instead of wasting everyone's time.
@juliansydney9819
5 ай бұрын
They do exactly that! Don’t you hear the buyers in every episode mention, ‘but we asked for…” of “I know a fish pond wasn’t on our list, but…”
@thehungrygoldfish
4 ай бұрын
The problem is you’re not going to know what you want or don’t want with certainty until you see it. Becky isn’t going to know how much space she needs until she sees it in person.
Jane is desperate to put everything she can think of in her house demands. Of course, until one is in the middle of the journey, necessities don't make themselves known. You can demand one level, walk in showers, open dining/kitchen, big bedrooms etc. However does one consider width of doors, height of counters, access to closets, parking close to doors etc. There is no way to know until it becomes a problem. I ache for Jane. Her family will be her strength.
Wow, throwing handicap accessible into the list is hardly fair, you are going to have to overcome some obstacles and having ramps installed is not insurmountable!
I feel for Jane, I really do, but man, she is extremely fussy and wishy washy... 😢
That older couple are living in fairy land
@lysem4392
8 ай бұрын
She's living in deep depression land. She is in no fit psychological state to be able to sort out her actual wants and needs right now, so yes she is at least temporarily in fairyland. This being said, she is the one making all the demands. Nigel's only negative comment is that the kitchen of the first house looked small. Otherwise he sermed to have no objection to anything; he just wants to settle down.
Jane is INSANE !!!
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
Really not an appropriate comment. She is fragile, because she is dealing with an overwhelming situation. Grieving while having to be strong for those around her. Let's hope you never have to experience that kind of anxiety and heartbreak.
@kenscales4992
13 күн бұрын
@@jhutch1681 Oh Please get a life.
It would be easy to build a ramp at the first house and why not put a couple stools by the island in the kitchen ??
Jane is not making smart decisions at all. She says she’s under pressure but is acting as if following a dream is all that counts
O , the garden is smalll ……ahhhhhh
@sjefhendrickx2257
2 ай бұрын
And again a small garden!dear Jane you have no time for a big garden!
Jane is difficult.................
I don't think Jane is ready to make this step.
The first house was ideal, with small adjustments it would be perfect. People are so silly.
Wondering what year this u r looking??
@jillsmiley7701
8 ай бұрын
Sept 2015
3 tiny mini-steps into the house can be overcome with a gradual ramp(purpose built for wheelchairs and what hwve you's) , i don't think the elderly couple can see the woods before the trees, is a tiny disadvantage to rule out the 1st house.
I'm pretty sure Phil was glad when this episode was over. Jane was delaying buying a house because she didn't want to settle into the reality of getting on with the rest of her life. Frustrating.
If someone wants an open plan house and is handed it on a plate, they dont want that any more. If someone wants a medium house with big garden, then when shown one the garden will be too big and the house too small 🤷😤
They're draining money by the week he needs to get in a place and she's acting like a fussy diva
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
Not kind. You have no idea what she goes through or how she feels.
@feewaybilz
8 ай бұрын
@@jhutch1681 This isn't a show about feelings and pity party. It's about buying a house you need right away. If that's what you think it should be then go watch doctor phil
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
Then comment about the real estate, and keep your personal opinions about the individuals out of it. Just because you don't understand, it doesn't give you the right to be hurtful. @@feewaybilz
Jane needed to give her head a shake. Her mother looks pretty old and her husband, sadly, will also probably not pass before long. She really should have had a child with her.
She neede her sons to be with her in the search.
I think she needs an apartment. She changes her mind all the time.
There we go again, the kitchen is small,,,come on!
Jane was awkward and anoying. In the end (although she kept mentioning the needs of her mum and husband) she was only really thinking of herself...............
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
You have no idea how it is to be the one who has to think of everything for everyone. If it doesn't work, she is the one who will struggle. She is responsible for getting it right and she only had one chance.
Lady Has too many boxes. She’s looking for too much. Loads of houses make theirs wheel chair safe. Etc.,etc
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
Have you ever needed one? Lived in a house that accommodates one? I have, and I have not found it to be that easy.
Fussy IS the word….it’s all about everything SHEs given up….wow sounds bitter….life goes on….pity party….the husband has liked all the effort Phil has made…wants to be settled. Jeez.
@annieearle962
8 ай бұрын
All that family so close.? Where’s the help…?
@annieearle962
8 ай бұрын
Why if you’re feeling overwhelmed do you want a massive garden…she’s a contradiction. Jane is stuck. Phil you tried.
@lysem4392
8 ай бұрын
She drove me nuts too, thinking the perfect house would do something to alleviate her misery. No house could be perfect enough for that. I do give her a break in that her future looks bleak for years to come, caring for a mother who statistically can't have long to live at age 96, and a husband who has already started a long slow decline into eventually not even knowing who she is. Alzheimer's has been described as those affected being already dead while their bodies live on.
@VIncentSunflowers
8 ай бұрын
Jane had the weight of the god damn world on her shoulders.
@elizzy8754
8 ай бұрын
@@annieearle962True. I don't understand why they left Australia where they would have a network of friends, and assistance under Medicare and other programmes to call on for help with Nigel's condition, plus doctors they already know, etc.
Theres definetly something wrong with Jane and not her husband,she will never be happy
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
I suspect you have never walked in her shoes.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that Jane doesn't do yard work. And complains about the garden size.
She says there is no potential/growth to fix the property and Phil says “why is this a problem” ….omg I hate realtors ….such liars!!!
@jhutch1681
8 ай бұрын
but we love Phil 💜
@kunalsen2123
7 ай бұрын
Why? They said they wanted a forever home, not a project or an investment vessel. Phil's clarifying the brief.
Wow Phil scare tactics to the extreme….NOT PROFESSIONAL or looking out for your client vs your pay cheque!
@ThisPaintingLife
8 ай бұрын
Phil doesn't make his money from selling houses! He's a TV presenter not a realtor
Not the smartest !
Shes a weird one
Jane is selfish. Period!
Phil showed Jane several really good properties that she turned down. In the end, she chose a home that was no where near as nice AND required many changes (all while caring for two loved ones with ever increasing needs). Poor lady! She just wasn’t making sense.