I wish you could help me. My husband of 32 years died and I swim in a sea of guilt and regret. I wish I had done everything differently. I'd give anything to see him again. Nothing helps. I love him and miss him deeply daily.

Thank you Melanie, my husband passed few weeks ago..i could not slept since then. Living with regrets, guilts, sadness, disbelief, loss…thank you so much for your comfort 🙏💖and guidances to all of us about facing the darkness days of our life😢😢😢

@MelanieTheMedium

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ All of the things you're feeling are normal, but they aren't necessary. I hope this video helped. I'm sure your husband would say to comfort yourself and release the guilt.

Hello Melanie. I live in the U.K. and lost my wife this March 2023. We had been arguing a few days before and I never took the initiative to apologise. We went out one evening and she collapsed and died of a pulmonary embolism. The guilt and grief I feel is beyond measure. Your video has given me comfort. Thank you. Richard

@MelanieTheMedium

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. Everyone has arguments. What's remembered are all the moments of love you shared. You feel guilt and grief because of how much you love her. She knows the love you feel. That's all that matters. I'm sure she would tell you that she's fine and that she loves you. Take care of yourself. Your wife has already heard your apology. You can let it go and focus on your healing ❤️

My beloved mother passed away in August from cancer..l have so much hurt in my heart and feel alone..l have a brother who is my only family left we find it hard to go on..especially myself l feel like l should have done more..but after watching this Melanie you are the only person who has made the pain a little lighter..thank you.

@MelanieTheMedium

9 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. I am glad that these messages have helped to bring some amount of peace and relief during such a difficult time. Your mom is well now. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to feel guilty, although it's an understandable and common feeling. I hope you are able to focus on giving yourself the love and compassion you need as you move through your grief. Sending love ❤️

Your words are so comforting and profound. I lost my beautiful wife Lyndy on July 23rd 2023 after a long illness. She was 49.I was with her at home with her when she passed. I feel such intense guilt over so many things. Lyndy helped me through stage 3 colon cancer although things were hard. I was giving the all clear just two months before she died. During my treatment I was still trying to hold my business together part time while caring for her. There were times when I was so tired and feeling ill due to the chemotherapy that i sometimes got irritable with her and occasionally said hurtful things. Now she has gone those moments keep popping into my mind like a jack in the box. The pain I feel that I must have hurt her is unbearable. I love her so much and I know that i can never turn back the clock. I truly hope that she knows how much I love her despite all my flaws. Your words have had me in floods of tears, but I hope that in time I can let them go. Thank you and God bless ❤🙏Vince

@MelanieTheMedium

10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss, Vince. It's clear that you and your wife had a special relationship. Now that she's passed, do you keep thinking of hurtful things she said to you over the years? Do you think about the times she annoyed you or was snarky? It sounds like your focus is on the love you shared, and that's all she's thinking about too! It sounds like you were dealing with a lot of stress and heartache, trying to heal yourself, hoping your wife would heal, and keeping your business going. I feel so much compassion for you and what you both were going through. I hope you can see objectively that you both were doing your best under very difficult circumstances. What stands out to me is the strength you both shared, encouraging each other as you both dealt with such difficult circumstances. Your wife is no longer struggling. She has relief from struggling with her body, even though I'm sure she'd rather still be with you if she could. But I know she's still with you in spirit, and I bet you feel her. As I read your message, I hear a woman's laughter. I feel a personality that's like sunlight. Your wife is with you. She knows you love her. Let go of the guilt. She's not thinking about those little moments of frustration, just like you aren't thinking of her moments of frustration. We can have love and compassion for what you were both going through, and we can appreciate the love and strength and connection you both maintained through many different struggles over the years. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know she's still with you and loves you. ❤️

Thank you I lost the love of my life 2 weeks ago. I feel so much guilt and I'm so wishing I knew something was wrong with him. I'm just so sad.

I took care of my 84 year father for five years, admitted him to hospital many times .. but in his last six months when he was bed ridden, i didn't took him to hospital as I thought it's just weakness and he will be ok ..but he died.. really hard to cope with guilt

@MelanieTheMedium

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. It sounds like you took very good care of him. Most people do not want to die in a hospital. Your father was able to be at home when he passed, and I bet that's what he would prefer. The thing about guilt is that it's not about what actually happened. You just miss your dad. If you would have taken him to the hospital, you would be feeling guilty because he was poked and prodded, on machines, and you would have worried that you should have let him pass at home. There is no winning when it comes to guilt because you always wonder, "What if...?" The bottom line is, your dad felt your love as you took care of him for 5 years of your life. You put many aspects of your life aside to make sure he was taken care of. He knows you wish he could have been here longer, but you did everything humanly possible for him and made the best decisions you could make based on what you knew at the time. I hope you can let go of this guilt and remember how much you cared for your father when he needed your care. You were there for him, and that's what he remembers. He's doing fine now. He certainly wouldn't want you to feel guilty. Show love and compassion for yourself. You are the one who needs special care and love right now. I'm so sorry for your loss

I can absolutely confirm with you that those that have passed know our thoughts (concerning them)...every thought. After my daughter passed earlier this year, I kept getting this thought that I wish I had asked for a lock of her hair. Who do I call (she had not been cremated yet) etc. The thought would come and go for a few days and then one morning (when I was not thinking about it)...I went into the garage and starting moving things around. I cleaned out so much and it was in the garage for sorting (and because flooring was going in). Without any particular thought, I picked up a box and some stuff in it. The moment I picked it up something flew out the side of it and landed on the garage floor. Only this ONE THING. I said to myself, "what's that? as I reached down to pick it up. I totally lost it when I realized it was a lock of Stephanie's hair from childhood that was safely tucked into a baggie and stored away. I had forgotten about it but Stephanie knew my wish/thought and knew where it was and led me directly to it! I've had some amazing things happen since her transition through the veil but this one erased any side belief that they are not still LIVING but in a different frequency our 5 senses cannot pick up. They LIVE and they do hear us. (The wonderful ending to this story is that if I had called and asked for a lock of her hair it would have been full of chemicals because she was a hairstylist and colored her hair! The lock I received from her personally was perfect! No chemicals, just pure Stephanie. I cherish this gift like no other.) I love your channel as I am an immortalist and metaphysician so our beliefs align nicely. I hope you do readings soon as I would sign up. I have been feeling her asking me to do a reading with someone, possibly she has something important to say? To clarify a bit about our background, Stephanie is the baby of three children. When I divorced, she was 12. We lived together (mostly alone) for 25 years in this house. Mother and daughter. We even worked together in the fragrance and beauty industry. Point is we were very, very close. She passed at 38 and know she is watching over me closely...until I heal enough to support myself. I am so grateful for the knowledge that I have gained in the past 50 years studying the spiritual side of life. This and Stephanie's so obvious support/connection is what is carrying me through. Thank you for all you do to help those going through the tremendous growth of grief. 💞

@yvonneshanson1525

9 ай бұрын

What a great story..! Thank you!

Thank you for this video, Melanie. I live in another country, & I lost my mom 2mos ago and I haven't seen her for 7yrs. because of Covid and some life's circumstances. She died in her sleep but, she lost her leg 10yrs ago because of diabetes. I went back home to pay my last respect, but until now I can't beleve she's gone.Everytime I think about her or see photos of her, I feel so guilty that I haven't done enough to make her feel how much I love her...or at least tried to visit and be with her. It hurts so much! This video gave me some comfort, knowing what it's like for her on the other side, thank you so much!

@MelanieTheMedium

Жыл бұрын

Your mom knows you love her and that you wish you could have been with her more. The good news is that now she can come to you! She's not in any pain. She can travel for free. Anytime you talk to her, she can hear you. She doesn't want you to feel guilty. She wants you to enjoy life. ❤️

Thank you . I have been struggling for a month with guilt after my mom’s passing, this is the first helpful video I discovered

@MelanieTheMedium

Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad this helped. Your mom knows what you've been thinking. She doesn't want you to feel guilty. Let that go so you can comfort yourself while you're grieving. ❤️

@chinabill379

Жыл бұрын

@@MelanieTheMediumappreciate your help and expertise so much ❤

I buried my 21 year old last week, I suspect that he might have committed suicide, while still waiting foe the report, I feel so guilty for pushing him to school when he was not coping or interested. I have said words that must have hurt him, guilt and pain are eating me up, don't know what else to do.

@MelanieTheMedium

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. What a devastating loss. No matter how he passed, he's okay now. He has conversations with you. You talk to him in your mind, and you know what he says back. You're not imagining those conversations. He's still with you. He's sorry he's not with you in person, and he loves you. You did everything a loving mother would. You had no way of knowing he would pass. You are innocent in his passing. The last thing you need is to pile on guilt. You loved and supported your son. He knows you love him. He loves you too ❤️

My husband died 03 months ago infront of eyes and I was helpless and missed his symptoms of heart attack. Feel guilty.

I have experienced some of these myself, so I know it's true. Thanks!🙏😊🙏😊

@MelanieTheMedium

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed the video.Thank you for letting me know!

I love your gentle manner.

The enemy keeps reminding about a medical decision that was made, and at the time, I thought it was the best decision, and it only made it worse. I am trying to forgive myself but I am having a hard time. I know better, but I can't seem to shake it. Please help me God.

@shiksha5287

Жыл бұрын

Please help me out how to deal with it. The guilt of making wrong decision, wrong treatment. Not being able to see things clearly at that time. I'm dying inside. I'm sinking. I'm not able to cope. I don't feel like doing anything. How could I make such huge mistake. The hospital did the mistake. I trusted them. I couldn't see it at that time. I hate myself fir this. Want to come out of this guilt. I can't sleep

@miradasknowledgeseries

10 ай бұрын

I am going through the same

@yvonneshanson1525

9 ай бұрын

​@shiksha5287 omg, that's exactly what happened to me with my mom..! I cant believe I made the decision that sent her to death, although I knew better and, like you, I can't figure out how tf my mind stuck.. 😢 most heartbreaking thing is she knew this hospital was wrong and she was begging me to get her out of there 😔 .. now nothing can help me get over this...

@satyam219

8 ай бұрын

Going through the same thoughts everyday . Thinking I should have not done this my would be here . Blaming my dad for not spending enough money on her treatment but I know he did his best . She had 3rd stage oral cancer .

I always feel guilty about my wife's cancer and death from it nearly 5 years ago. It was my fault I failed and let down my wife. My only prayer is that she will forgive me for my horrible deed. I will never forgive myself I should have stopped it it was my job to protect her from the horrors of this world. Some husband I turned out to be

@MelanieTheMedium

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your wife's passing. Cancer is horrible, and sometimes no matter how much treatment is given, there's nothing more to do. Your wife is free from cancer and pain now. She has energy again. She is fine. You are the only one suffering now. I hope this video helped you get more insight into death and release some of the guilt you've been holding onto. ❤️

Thank you for this 😢🙏. My beloved 87 year old Mother passed away this Sunday. I’m having a hard time because she seemed to be choking on the breathing tube until they took it out. She seemed to be choking & pointed at it. That’s burned in my mind. I would like to think she wasn’t in pain & maybe was already halfway out of her body. But I don’t know. I feel so bad thinking about her in that way.

@MelanieTheMedium

11 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. It's understandable that worries about her pain or discomfort would stand out to you. When I talk with spirits, how they passed and the events leading up to it are not as important to them as they are to us. They always feel fine now. The ending seems inconsequential... A little moment in a full life of memories. I guarantee that your mom isn't concerned about discomfort at the end. She no longer feels it. She's thinking about times of love and laughter, feeling your love, her family... And I bet she's also feeling relief from not being in a body that wasn't working as well anymore. She can be herself now, without any discomfort from her body. It's normal to worry about the end and if you could have done things differently. But you loved your mom, and she felt it. She still feels it. That's what matters. Don't layer guilt on top of your grief. Your mom loves you, and she would want you to remember the happy times together. She is okay.

@user-gj6xf3xl4u

11 ай бұрын

@@MelanieTheMedium Thank you so much 🙏 this really is comforting.

@yvonneshanson1525

9 ай бұрын

Omg, thank both of you, I've had similar devastation feelings and guilt because of making a mistake and letting my mom in a later proven horrible hospital with awful personnel that took all the wrong steps after an accident she had, along with heart disease.. I feel a bit better after reading this, i wish you the best and I'm sending you a big hug🌹🌬

@yvonneshanson1525

9 ай бұрын

​@MelanieTheMedium thank you so much 🙏🌸

My mother recently passed away. Granted my mother had a lot of health issues, But I used to get in to political arguments with my brother. And this would stress her out. One time I could not bite my tongue and swallow my pride and I had to respond back and add a few oppinions. The timing was right there when she started decliining. She was having trouble sleeping and her blood pressure was out of control. I can't help but think that if I had just swallowed my pride, she would not have declined like that. I took for granted that time was limited. I should have swallowed my pride for her sake.

@MelanieTheMedium

10 ай бұрын

It's common for us to find ways to blame ourselves for things out of our control. We want to think maybe something could have changed the outcome. Objectively, you cannot cause someone's death by arguing. Even if you and your brother always spoke kindly to one another, your mom's health would still have declined. Biological reasons caused her passing. Think about how many times you and your brother must have argued as children. Your mother didn't pass then. People pass when they pass, and unfortunately, nothing you could have said or done could have changed the outcome. Show yourself compassion. I guarantee she's not thinking about that argument with your brother. She's thinking about the love you all shared. She's thinking of how much she loves her children. She's probably laughing at the ways you and your brother would disagree. Without the stress of poor health, she's probably remembering a family road trip or reconnecting with loved ones who passed before her. It seems simple, but when you hear that voice of blame on your head, you might remind yourself, "I can't cause someone's death by arguing. I love my mom. I wish things were different, but now I'm going to take care of myself as I deal with this grief." Sending love, and I'm so sorry for your loss.

@MORCOPOLO0817

10 ай бұрын

@@MelanieTheMedium Thank you!

Can't tell you how much this video has helped me...THANKYOU 😊

@MelanieTheMedium

9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for letting me know. ❤️

thank you so much, just what I needed to hear

My father passed away Sept 2nd 2022 my husband passed on September 18 2018

@MelanieTheMedium

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss

Thank you very much, Melanie

😢suddenly lost my step son ,he just trun 25yrs old , collapse from playing basketball ..

THANK YOU THIS WAS COMFORTING THANK YOU MELANIE..

Thanks, Melanie!🙏😊🙏

Love you Melanie. But I just don't want to lead a normal life after my mom's passing

@MelanieTheMedium

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. When you lose someone you love so much, like your mom, life changes dramatically. What you're feeling is normal and okay. I hope you know that your mom is still with you and watching over you. She sees what's happening in your life, and she knows how you feel. You might even hear her in your thoughts sometimes. I'm so sorry you're going through this. ❤️

Thank you❤

Melanie, I lost my mother last year to Covid and I still haven't been able to overcome the grief. Your video gave me a lot of comfort. Any amount of words are less to express. Thank you! I would need some help to cope up with my loss and I would be indebted to you if you could give me an appointment for a video session with you. Tried your website but it shows unavailable. Could you please reach out to me for extending a session to me?

@MelanieTheMedium

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss, Praveen. I'm writing you an email now. I will have appointments available again soon, and that will be announced in my newsletter eepurl.com/hcWoV1. I'm glad this video were helpful for you as you're dealing with your grief. It's such a difficult journey

I msged him telling him his uncle was bashing him on a livestream... he went to confront his uncle to defend himself... and his uncle shot and killed him...

God bless God speed.

Thanx 4 doing this

@MelanieTheMedium

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome! This is something most people deal with after a loved one passes. I'm so glad it helped you

@rocithebest6520

2 жыл бұрын

@@MelanieTheMedium yeah my dad died 10 days ago = (

@MelanieTheMedium

2 жыл бұрын

@@rocithebest6520 I'm so sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to you

@rocithebest6520

2 жыл бұрын

@@MelanieTheMedium i still blame myself for so many things, for not doing more for him, but he used to tell me to keep studying keep going on but i dont know

@MelanieTheMedium

2 жыл бұрын

@@rocithebest6520 Those feelings are normal after a loved one passes. We wonder if we should have done or said things differently. But we do the best we can in each moment with the knowledge we have. Instead of feeling guilty or judging yourself, have compassion for yourself. You are grieving, and you deserve love. I'm sure your dad knows what you're feeling and how much you love him ❤️

😢 I wish I didn’t care. it hurts too much to care. but the universe it telling me to let go. I can’t save her from death. it’s all in Gods hands. :(

Me and my husband passed away behind the wheel

I yet couldn’t forgive myself for my cat's death. It has been 9 months. He was only 11 years old. He was misdiagnosed by vets but I also didn’t understand so many things and took wrong decisions. I can't imagine that I also took the decision of euthanizing him. I could save him if I was in my right mind that time. I fell in great depression sometimes and want to commit suicide. I don’t know how to end this suffering.

@MelanieTheMedium

Жыл бұрын

I hope this video helped you recognize that there's no need to feel guilt. If trained vets couldn't figure out what was wrong with your cat, there was no way you could have. And I'm sure if you made the difficult decision to euthanize, you had very good reason to do that. That's not a decision you would make lightly. It's common to second-guess yourself after the passing and wonder if things could have been different. But the reality is that you had guidance from experts, you didn't want your cat to suffer, and you made the best decision with the information you had. Your cat is just fine. Your cat didn't suffer and isn't suffering. He's still hanging around you, except now he feels fine. You don't need to hold onto guilt. Your cat knows you love him, he knows you miss him, and he knows you did everything you could to make him feel better. The biggest issue now, because your cat is doing great, is that you are having thoughts of self-harm. That is a serious cause for concern. Please call a crisis line like 988, your medical doctor, and your family right away to get help. There are many times in life when a situation feels overwhelming and hopeless, but it always eventually becomes easier because life is always changing. Your thoughts might be telling you that you will always be suffering, but those are just thoughts. That's not reality. Reality is that suffering and grief eases over time. Please get help for your mental health right away.

Can you do reading for me wih no charge thank you

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