So true. Eye contact shows the amount of self/depth a person has understood and resolved within themselves, enough to share with another. And hides those depths a person is not comfortable with.

@angieandrewseyesight222

6 ай бұрын

Agree 100%

Can I share another perspective? The man you dated reminds me of myself. I'm often avoiding eye contact and struggle to connect with people emotions. I'm also aware that I may seem very dismissive to people. But it's not because I try to take advantage of anyone. I'm Christian, all I want in my life is to love God and to love people. It's just that I'm terrified. I really am. Too many times in my childhood I felt judged for having needs and feelings so that I've learned to hide them. And each time I would like to share them with someone I feel panic attack. Trust me, it's not some evil, well thought strategy to take advantage of women. It's just that some people want intimacy so badly and yet they are afraid too much. And I must say I disagree with the statemant that "narcs make more narcs". It's a well known fact that in their romantic life people unconciously seek similar dynamics that they experienced in childhood. Even if it was toxic, it's familiar, it's what they are used to, and that's how they feel safe. For a men that means we're going to be attracted to women who are reminding us of our mothers. Honestly I don't know anything about the man you dated but it's probable that he was simply expecting that he would be treated by you in the same manner as he was treated by his mother. Of course it's something that we need to work on. We have to bear our own crosses. It wouldn't be fair to burden anyone else with it. Noone should and noone can do the healing for us. Judging our mothers is also no help. I know it form my experience. We need to forgive and replace judgments with compassion. We need to focus more on others. But eventually it's just what we really want. And please, don't understand me wrong. You have every right to lead a happy life you long for. You should never ever under no circumstances be with someone out of pity or whatsoever. That would be a terrible relationship. You deserve everything you need. Just please remeber that we don't want your harm. God created every single one of us out of love and for love. We people are just sometimes very sick not evil. We are all in deep need of Jesus and his salvation. That's simply how I look at it. I respect if you disagree. I wish you the best.

@angieandrewseyesight222

Жыл бұрын

This was so transparent and thoughtful, thank you for sharing your perspective. I have learned much since the posting of this video and find reading your comment now to be very helpful.

@Destassan

Жыл бұрын

@@angieandrewseyesight222 Thank you, it feels very good to read that from you. It means a lot to me

Ily sm thank you for this video. You are so wise and so beautiful. This message couldn't have come at a better moment. Wishing u thee best

@angieandrewseyesight222

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, I appreciate it

Wow, just had this experience last week. Thank you 😊

@angieandrewseyesight222

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes it helps to get confirmation.

Absolutely, I can't think of a bigger warning sign that a man who hates his mother. I can't even fathom it.

@scproductions9878

Жыл бұрын

Shit I am one of em and got no problem saying to women at all. Those that stay around always baffle me and then sabotaging train begins choo!! Choo!! All aboard to the North Pole Express🚂🚂

@angieandrewseyesight222

Жыл бұрын

And yet, it can change, happened in many lives that I know.

@angieandrewseyesight222

Жыл бұрын

@@scproductions9878 well at least you’re honest

Mommy issues are THE worst. They get so disturbed they cannot function. Had two exes with it and one of them was murdered 2018 at a party, we all expected him to die young bc he was so distrubed it was a matter of time. The other is now psychotic and nonfunctioning. My heart bleeds for them.

@TTTT-oc4eb

3 жыл бұрын

Angry, critical mothers are one of the main reasons for developing Schizophrenia.

@Vixinaful

3 жыл бұрын

@@TTTT-oc4eb Interesting..that fits the second. Who btw also fits covert narcissism perfectly. He says she says everything he does is wrong and calls him a mentally ill druggie but I agree with her; he is. I talked to her a couple of times myself and she sounded perfectly normal to me but ofc I dont know her.

@TTTT-oc4eb

3 жыл бұрын

@@Vixinaful Sounds like my own mother. She is a covert narcissist, extremely hostile. The word "covert" says it all - they are experts in cover up their image to the outside world - it is their nearest that gets all the abuse. When your own mother is your worst enemy you are in for a miserable ride.

@Vixinaful

3 жыл бұрын

@@TTTT-oc4eb I can only imagine..And now as an adult he seeks out middle aged women like me and the ex to destoy us completely and hes doing one hell of a job at it, the ex iscompletely destroyed and physically sick and I nearly died, lost 8kg and half my hair but have recovered. This guys like a serial killer except he does emotional damage that kills you physically. The eeriest fukn thing I've ever encountered.

@TTTT-oc4eb

3 жыл бұрын

@@Vixinaful Sounds like he is an sociopath, or even malignant narcissist - in addition to being psychotic. It is mothers like this that creates serial killers. They utterly destroy the soul and self image of the child, and stops his mental delopment at an age of 2-4. So when this boy grows up he is a very angry 2-4 year old in an adult body. It is impossible for people who had normal, loving mothers to understand that people like this exist. If you have a narcisstic mother, you grow up thinking all women are like that and out to screw you - so you counter by screwing them before they screw you. It is in the genes and gets worse for each generation - until it crashes.

I would've sunk into your heart so deeply that the title of this video would be entirely different :)

@Vixinaful

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah shes gorgeous.

Maybe he doesn’t like his Mum because his Mum treats him badly? What if he was abused by his Mum?

@angieandrewseyesight222

Жыл бұрын

That is the source of his pain, for sure! But as an adult he can re-parent himself and walk out free from the abusive emotional entanglement. But it does take connection to many parts within.

😂...4:19... If you're dating a guy who doesn't like his mom... Oh! Boy. That's me! Yeah i had a lot of issues with my mom. ...my dad too. Anyway. Im gonna sub to your channel for a bit. ...i saw this vid first and then i watched the foot washing one. Interesting stuff. Thank you ma'am.

@dougarnold7955

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the heart! ❤️

Most women pigeonhole men if they have issues with their mother. Its sick if you ask me. I would never pigeonhole someone on their upbringing if they worked to overcome it.

@angieandrewseyesight222

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed, but it is easy to observe those who are progressing forward in their healing or denying that they need too.

@angieandrewseyesight222

Жыл бұрын

Well those women may have mommy issues too, everyone is responsible for their own inner healing.

@vince4213

Жыл бұрын

@@angieandrewseyesight222 👍🥰

Too much Karen energy here. Maybe they only want to be polite. Anyway, peace 🌱

@angieandrewseyesight222

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, it’s just years of experience seeing the same thing, but then again the spiritual aspect wasn’t defined here

yeeeeee welp................................................................................

I wouldn’t lead with the Jesus thing. It scares perfectly good men away and also attracts the crazies. Hope you’re doing better. You’re a advice is just not for me.

@angieandrewseyesight222

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your view. I drop the name of Jesus on purpose because I ONLY want a man who is in Love with Him.