Anyone else catch that his inability to help her with homework was translated in her mind to not caring about her life in general?😢

@Amethyst454

Ай бұрын

I can see why. The dad brushes her off all the time since he cannot help her with homework anymore.

@delphinidin

26 күн бұрын

@@Amethyst454 Agreed. If that was the only way they ever talked about her life, and now it's gone, his brushing her off would feel pretty big.

@JuzNicky

22 күн бұрын

Sometimes it has to be communicated. Ok dad can't help u out but dad will still be here for anything else? It doesn't mean dad can't help with this stage of her life doesn't mean dad can't dad. Or mom for that matter or. It's just what has been edited to show what has been perceived by some may be different from others. But I can see he does care he just doesn't know how to support her and she needs to also tell what dad can do to help. No ?

@Barak_Allahu_Fikum

16 күн бұрын

Yeah it was weird, but she’s a child so of course sometimes her thoughts will be illogical

@barcelonachair6487

12 күн бұрын

I used to feel the same way. It was a combination of not taking an interest either.

The fact that her PARENTS are the ones begging her to go to bed and not the other way around says how hard she works.

@yeetzabois3582

Ай бұрын

how dat work?

@user-vp4sf8ej4e

Ай бұрын

She wants to keep working but parents in society want their kids to work hard as they worked hard - common in households They see her working too much and want her to sleep cause they worry for her health- not as common in households@@yeetzabois3582

@prinzexisalowqualityytber

Ай бұрын

yeah this is pretty common within asians

@yeetzabois3582

Ай бұрын

@@prinzexisalowqualityytber im asian and i don't beg my parents? neither do my friends? idk

@yeetzabois3582

Ай бұрын

i thought most kids(in all races) want to stay up later and parents want to sleep earlier.

i feel stressed just hearing her say the word "portfolio"

@russiasucks7170

Ай бұрын

IKR… she mentioned it a lot of times. Just by hearing it , it makes one stress !!!

@sgamingandmore12

Ай бұрын

thats so real

@sanamalik7396

Ай бұрын

​@@russiasucks7170Agree

@sanamalik7396

Ай бұрын

​@@russiasucks7170me too lol

@sanamalik7396

Ай бұрын

​@@sgamingandmore12right

having one of my parents come to school to see why I’m stressed would just make me even more stressed

@-P3NGU1N

28 күн бұрын

especially since my parents are kinda toxic

@varena04

11 күн бұрын

reallll

Bruh, seeing this just opened my eyes about how stressful is singapore education system. Imagine primary school pupils already worried about so called portofolio 😭

@lingyuhenglucas4579

Ай бұрын

they didn't even show you the real bad stressful part lol.

@PurpleDoritos666

28 күн бұрын

This is the same throughout China, Korea, Japan, and Taiwan as well which is the suicide rates are so high and birth rates so low

@delphinidin

26 күн бұрын

@@PurpleDoritos666 Yeah, I saw a video on what Korean high school students go through, and bruh. I didn't work that hard in GRAD SCHOOL.

@anandasatria7734

8 күн бұрын

​@@delphinidinTbf, I feel like primary education (up to high school) is much more stressful than college. The one that makes college so stressful is money tbh, never the activity itself

@delphinidin

8 күн бұрын

@anandasatria7734 yeah but grad school isnt college. Grad school is the actual worst. Total mental breakdowns left and right. I stg its just academic hazing. The more awful, the better.

Father dropped the ball when he invalidated her crying. You don't talk to women like that either. It's not about solving. It's about listening and embracing. It's patronising without knowing it.

@mariam6799

Ай бұрын

You don't talk to ANYONE like that period. Crying infront of someone requires another level of vulnerability, but the father is ruining this

@Nick-pc9tf

Ай бұрын

@@iamjaydennn Totally agree. And I also understand that social cues like this wasn't a priority back in the old days. From the brief video, he does seem like a good dad. Seems like a single parent too which is wow hard.

@XC-Z-cv8qw

Ай бұрын

​@@iamjaydennn Haha lol when these same parents come crying for attention when they're old, slap them back with the "I can't understand"

@victorvictor4235

Ай бұрын

No la don’t like that take revenge. Sometimes be frank will be ease communication with his father. He and maybe us can’t read people minds even family ones.

@firelunamoon

Ай бұрын

It's not the right way to talk to anyone, male or female, adult or child. The father lacks emotional intelligence, unfortunately.

This girl has an incredible work ethic. I hope she is able to balance her mental well-being alongside all her other endeavors.

@evan4192

Ай бұрын

Exactly! Mental health is just as important

@johntan4997

11 күн бұрын

She seems stubborn at her age, hopeful she grows wiser that not everything is a race all the time. Either that or we should build more mental-wellness centers for the new generations.

"Go and ask your friends. Go and ask your teacher. Why are you so scared?" This part i related to.

First impression is Dad seems like a simple guy that can be fine with a modest lifestyle. Daughter looks like she's hyper competitive and looking to get somewhere. Totally different types of people. Dad would think "how can my daughter do well in school" but the daughter is already doing very well and is thinking "how can I boost my rankings higher for X".

She's so responsible, friendly, courageous and mature. But she's still a kid who needs alot of support. She's kinda a perfectionist in a high competition society and that's really hard.

Basically lack of communication. This also happens to me. When I was in 7th grade, I kinda kept my distance from my parents, I didn’t talk to them much. Only to realise how important they’re to me. At the end of the semester, school was horribly stressful preparing for the final test, I almost got into depression. Then my parents step in and talk me out (I’ll spare the details) and then ask the school for literally a week off. After that my mental health improved a lot. Saved me from jumping off a building 😅

@dawsie

Ай бұрын

I’m glad your parents stepped in, parents are good at this, I was lucky in that I was homeschooled for the first 6 years of my schooling, though we did not know about it at the time I suffer from dyslexia, some things were simple for me where as other things were difficult by the time I got to Junior High School I was able to not only keep up but was moved up a year, I started High School at the age of 10 instead of 11. This was all,because my parents helped. My Dad I went to for help with math issues and me Mom for English, if Gran was visiting she was the one to help as she was on of the top 10 students in Scotland 😹😹she could run rings around both my parents on their good days😹😹 Always talk to your parents they are your best defender all through your years at school and even collage and UNI. Stay strong the world is not going anywhere without you coming along for the ride of your life. I am now 61 and because of my parents I had one heck of a ride through this life of mine. I hope you will have the best ride of your life 🤗🤗🤗

@yuiitodoro7791

10 күн бұрын

Man u parents did good with that last decision

@yeoniedollie

9 күн бұрын

You are so lucky to have your parents' support through that! 😭💜 I have anxiety (social+general) and OCD, thought I was just shy until it was SEVERE in middle school, e.g. froze and always on the verge of crying when called to answer questions, couldn't read out loud in class, intrusive thoughts when looking at sharp objects. Told mum, begged her to read articles about my conditions - she said I was crazy, she didn't have time, "you read it, why do I have to?". Love her, but to her this is a taboo. She thinks I can control it... I forced myself to face the fears, did self-therapy, got better. I'm 20 now, and mum's the same after almost 10 years, a bit better as she doesn't get too mad when somehow my mental health is brought up. Conversations will turn into lectures. We never had comfortable serious talks 😭😭 I'd love to go therapy when I'm older and maybe shove diagnosis in to her face lmao 😅 ...So I'm very happy to see these stories of people being comfortable with their parents 💜 Love that you guys are treasuring them 💜💜

Bro, if this kid don't get some extra support, or at the very least a day off, she's gonna be burnt out by the time she's twenty. I hope she's taking care of, not just her portfolio, but herself as well. And hopefully, her father will step up to the plate to support her better in the future.

Poor girl, when she's working on homework she should mark the places that cause her trouble and come back to them later. That way she at least has most of her homework done if she cannot complete it in time... I remember how hard it was to stay up late doing homework.

@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138

14 күн бұрын

i agree! Though i've heared that working on whats hardest can benefit by making it easier to go through whats easy faster In a crunch time that's not so helpful though- i think she got a mentality of being a perfectionist when in reality excellence is just as valuable for what she wants to achieve

@uroborous1660

8 күн бұрын

This technique stressed me even more. Most of the time, I could only solve 2 or 3 when i had 7 to 10 problems to solve. I felt like a failure. Doing it sequentially made me feel more in control, even though it took more time.

honestly, i think secondary school time is when you have to enjoy and not build up your portfolio, portfolio buildup mostly starts in your post secondary school days. the fact that education system has changed drastically from our parents time and the huge changes of modules and system infrastrutre baffles me . As a uni student, my parents always mention that uni was not that tough in their time, but time has changed and we need to know that we aint living in the past anymore.

@ahahaha239

Ай бұрын

Lol do your research they see your profolio for 15-18…. 17 is too late to start if u are trying to get into a super good uni overseas etc….

@flaminhotakis

Ай бұрын

not for asian kids. Nowadays you have to start in middle school if you want to get into a good college. especially in asia.

@PhrontDoor

Ай бұрын

In America, haven't secondary school always had college-admission profiles as a strong priority? It's why you have intramural and afterschool and extracurricular activities like 'debate club' and 'french club' or math olympics, football, young business leaders and so on? I know it's been that way since the 1980s. If parents said uni wasn't tough, then they didn't take weed-out courses like thermodynamics, real-analysis, o-chem, discrete math, statistics, or calc-II. In simpler terms, the parents basically admitted that they majored in crayon-chewing.

@laeticialana

Ай бұрын

I’m in secondary school and my parents talk about this with me all the time and it’s so stressful 😭

@ahahaha239

Ай бұрын

@@laeticialana yea but u need to learn...

Shan Ni, if you're reading this, it's okay to cry! Especially when you're feeling stressed and too tired to explain your feeling, cry your heart out 😭

“This is because education is not about competition with one’s classmates but learning through collaboration and teamwork with one’s peers,” he noted.

@fialee8

Ай бұрын

Except it is a competition. There are only so many seats open in the top schools... and coming in 2nd means they go to a 2nd Tier school full of lower performers.

@user-he6un6sj3c

9 күн бұрын

Even in other countries it's a competition. Where I am, the total points for your final exams is what will decide how high you're going to be on the list of enrollment into university and there are only so many of those and just a few at the top get to not worry about paying a fortune for each half a year of studies. 16 "free" spots in my discipline, I was 17th.

Hope this girl enjoys what she chose to be involved with instead of merely for the sake of "portfolio"

@alekvillarreal3470

10 күн бұрын

Honestly 😢

In all honestly i feel envy with how her father able to emphatize and atleast learn about her struggle in her life. Yes all parents has their own struggles too, but its really rare to see a parents actually think just how much pressure their kids having. I hope she can have a better life now with no mental health issue because her parents should have understand what kind of hell their daughter been living on.

@gardenjoy5223

26 күн бұрын

A hell she created for herself! She takes on way too many activities and because of that lost the joy in life and will be average is them.

@veenibik336

26 күн бұрын

@@gardenjoy5223 sometimes its not our choice, its our environment that push us. If she do it, she will be stressfull, but if she dont, she will be left behind.

She is trying her best to exploit whatever available around her. All the best, and also enjoy your life, girl...

Loved the delicate Chinese dance they did. I feel the young daughter is stretching herself too thin with just too many activities & is burning herself out. This is why some youths end their lives from being too stressed out

kids should remain kids and enjoy their precious time, all this portfolio sh*t comes after school in college and if you have chosen stem field no one cares how much you danced in the school

@acoverdc9272

Ай бұрын

this could apply if you weren't aiming for a top college.

The father looking at the math work is every parent fr 🤣💀

kind of sad when girl that age keep saying about building portfolio multiple times

@ColouredPixels

Ай бұрын

lol and when she turns 25, the term portfolio would be about her investment sigh. rat race

@user-oz8kz1we5y

Ай бұрын

These are the people who will make it in life while everybody else complains about being poor and living on subsidies.

@aliono

Ай бұрын

@@user-oz8kz1we5y higher chance to does not equal to absolute probability. also do not forget the stress and lack of sleep that comes with it that lower quality of life and even longevity

@Joy45s

Ай бұрын

@@user-oz8kz1we5y its wrong to judge how others live their life but do you think she wants to do this or that she feels that she needs to do this? The burnout in these kind of people is very real. While she may "make it" would it be worth it for her? i've heard this story before and often it ends in people taking their own life i hope what she is doing is from her own will and not because she feels she needs to live up to standards. the same standard you're talking about.

@SpikoDreams

Ай бұрын

@@user-oz8kz1we5yYour ignorance is hilarious. I’ve known numerous high-achieving individuals in school who have fallen low in life for being socially inept or offing themselves. This girl is on the path to either one. The most successful individuals are not academically-inclined; they are business savvy and have shocking social skills.

Take some time to rest when you can as getting burned out in this phase of life is very common. All the best to your future.

Being featured in CNA will be her latest PORTFOLIO *Edited: Being

I'm in secondary school. This girl makes it look like I'm wasting my life 😂 She will get into the best universities for sure!👏

@gardenjoy5223

26 күн бұрын

And she'll be stressed out an feel incompetent for the rest of her life too. This time is for developing social contacts. Not for learning some silly, ugly dancing.

@PregnantWAwkwardness

25 күн бұрын

@@gardenjoy5223 She is developing social contacts, she just said she can make friends and learn from them. Joining clubs is one way to make friends.

@haerinsbbg

19 күн бұрын

@@gardenjoy5223 who are you to call her dancing ugly??

@gardenjoy5223

19 күн бұрын

@@haerinsbbg Someone with taste.

@haerinsbbg

19 күн бұрын

@@gardenjoy5223 so disrespecting other cultures is "someone with taste"

I remembered being a secondary school student and heading multiple CCAs. I had so much fun but the stress is soo real! I'm happy this girl knows what she wants & is working hard to get it. Just a kind reminder to rest, take breaks & enjoy school life. Her parents are actually v supportive. It's just sometimes hard for parents to see their kids struggle. JY! ❤

I love how she dances to super shy by newjeans in her dance class!

@begezet9380

Ай бұрын

They change the lyrics into I m a superstress superstress LMAO

@laeticialana

Ай бұрын

@@begezet9380 lol

My school is the worst the quiz and exam doesn't have dates so you don't even know you already fail it. And they add charge money for no reason. Sometimes after answering all quiz and exams if you don't have screenshot of proof you answered it. If their system have error and the whole quizzes exams refreshed you need to answer it all over again.

@qmqmqm

Ай бұрын

where are yo from? that sounds so unfair.

What a great father who spends time with his kid. The problem I see here is that they need to prioritize on what is the most impactful to her portfolio. If grades represent 80% of admissions, 15% leadership, and 5% extra curccular activities such as recitals. It's best to focus on academics at all costs, then keep the leadership positions but maybe not as active... and cut out the extra curricular activates since that will have a minimal impact on selection. It won't do anyone any good if she gets 60% on academics, 15% on leadership, and 5% on recitals (totaling 80%) vs getting 80% on academics and 10% on leadership, and 0% on extra curriculars (totaling 90%).

@thebionicvet8674

Ай бұрын

That may work for less prestigious colleges, but of your planning on going to the best in your country, you better do those extracurriculars, or else they'll accept someone else who did. 95% isnt always enough

@fialee8

29 күн бұрын

@@thebionicvet8674 I'm not saying they don't do the best in all areas... but if they had to prioritize, then focus on the most important first. It's poor thinking to say, do everything... and end up doing everything mediocrely, vs doing the most important thing absolutely the best. That said, there's always someone smarter, and better... and some kids will never match those with natural 0.1% talent. Some people are destined to washing dishes, and others medical doctors.

@dees3179

28 күн бұрын

Extra curricular activity is compulsory for any higher institution unfortunately. It’s not all about quoted percentages. Partly I think they want to know your brain can adapt to doing more than one thing at a high level and be able to communicate about it. They don’t just want someone who can do nothing but memorise texts on chemistry for example. But they also want to know you’re going to handle pressure. Top institutions are at the top because their (surviving) graduates can do more than one thing. It’s not enough to just have one focus. They might talk the talk about being well rounded individuals and finding healthy balance…possibly there is an element. But it’s also a stress test, because in the real world things don’t go to plan and they want people who can be a bit adaptable. Otherwise no graduate/employee would be of any use.

focusing on the right things and proper time management is important for the long run. One will appreciate sleep as you age.

I hope this student comes to the realisation that the portfolio means nothing in the end. All the schools want to see are your grades, and maybe just 1 extracuricular skill you excel in. Nothing else. Don't stress so much about all these school portfolio nonsense, kid. Just be a kid.

Them: Where's your portfolio. Me: What does that even mean 😎.

@kylieharrison3782

28 күн бұрын

Resume is probably another similar word. Nowadays you need to prove you are lifelong learner, willing to grow and adaptable. As the focus is now upon being a global citizen, not the citizen of one of one small geographical location, individuals who demonstrate the skill of social mobility are most recognised and valued. Particularly as all economies in the global society are reliant on capitalism and as such humans are viewed as a resource. So be resourceful! 😊

@endone3661

28 күн бұрын

@@kylieharrison3782 yah 😎 but I need a guide and money like they guiding me while they give me money as my monthly income. Meaning I'm working as they guide me and I'm earning...

Sometimes we should pull back on the structure and let the kids choose.

Can't believe she didn't have any mental breakdown from all this activities.

I really appreciate and looks up to her will and effort at such -a young age. I didn't even think about portfolio until I was about to finish my undergrad school. She has her dreams and visions about her future and that's actually good for her. I kind of envious because I didn't plan that hard for my future back in my high school days and now I'm kinda regretting it

Wow what an incredible girl. Like her, I do many activities and hold leadership positions but this makes me feel bad for stressing about American school when it's not nearly as intensive. I wish her the best of luck.

Sorry, but from what was being shown, Shan Ni is more focused on extracurricular activities for her “portfolio.” That is why she struggles with the main subjects. She overachieves on the things I consider optional. She feels differently though.

@miat1329

11 күн бұрын

to be honest most schools in recent times no matter how great your grades r if u don't take enough clubs, sports, etc... they will not except u, They want "well rounded individuals" but yea this is way too much in general she needs a break

@Amtcboy

11 күн бұрын

@@miat1329 That’s sad. Glad it’s not the way schools/students do it in our locality.

my dad would've been like "you don't have to do all that"

@Devi_Seona

28 күн бұрын

And now you have no career and no future…..

@stantubatunow

11 күн бұрын

​@Devi_Seona that's not how life really works😂 my older sister got in Harvard with 2.9 GPA and only 2 years in the student council..

i remember shan ni from the my parent, my classmate series!

She's a perfectionist. She's going to have a hard time in adulthood. She should just chill. Most of the time those chill students are more successful in life. Maybe she'll get a high paying job, but she'll have mental or emotional issues to face.

Why are people making their lives so difficult and stressful with so much work and study? When do we have time to enjoy our lives on the Earth?

@areumpark9233

Ай бұрын

That's why people said. Every generation there will be different difficulties, and turns out now it's this one.

@nigellei8591

Ай бұрын

Some people enjoy working a minimum wage jobs and some people doesn't.

@Devi_Seona

28 күн бұрын

Enjoy your poor life and unsuccessful career…..

Yup 90s where got DSA what not at least she seems like she understands how to game the system. Study smart not just hard.

As a university student with a heavy schedule (if you factor in work, research and clubs) I think I understand my parents better after watching this video.

Go gurl! But rmb that your identity isn’t based on your achievements👍🏻 I think doing so much for portfolio at sec sch lvl is a bit too much😅 when you come out into working world, ppl ask more about you poly/JC/Uni activities rather than sec sch haha but jiayou

@iamjaydennn

Ай бұрын

She's preparing her portfolio for JC DSA not for employers. For JC DSA interview, where got poly/JC/uni activities yet?

Her English is bussin!👏😌

To much enjoy some family time you can't get that back❤

She is doing so much and i feel like i am not even studying enough, and participating in clubs and extracurricular activities - i am already in college! 😭😭

Nah Singapore is mad crazy on education, you get 99.9 and your considered a failure

Unnecessary to go through all this to do well in life

you achieve only when you sacrifice more, and thats a fact

*"Life has been very fulfilling, until I turned Grade 6..."*

She's so cute being so determined 😭😹😹😹 At that age, i wasn't even thinking about my future 😭

@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138

14 күн бұрын

Better time now than ever especially since we'll live double the time we've had with a few more prep skills ;D And people are living much longer than before

And, very humbly, I want to state that, all this portfolio making process, does not guarantee success in life. Life is too uncertain. !

I Was like her, but, guys......don't stresssss out because you have to increase your portafolio. I'm not saying it's not important, but is good to relax and take one thing at time. I'm still learning to not get stressed because of my future. Things like crying in my room all night, not able to get enough sleep, throwing up almost everyday because of the stress, getting headaches, being angry, not eating well and more stuff like this at the time I was a bomb 'bout to explode, make me see things with other angle, visión, perspective, etc. Im still learning and im a person who regrets not doing things when i got the opportunity, like "I wish i had do this before ". We are young, we have time. PD. It's sad the fact that Universitys are to pickys with portafolios. Pd2. Im not SO SMART, i try to. And i get jealous of People like this girls and her portafolio (its a good jealousy, like inspiration) Its just i think that i might not be young enough to increase my poor portafolio.

@ochakomancilla2792

3 күн бұрын

OMG, what a bible i wrote. LmAO

Dancing Supershy by New Jeans 😄

Girlie was dancing to supershy by new jeans at 1:53

"Crying is not a solution." Yes it doesnt, but crying is a regulator for our feelings 😭

for some reason, the moment parents visit the school, we do easy af stuff to nothing

In my opinion, the father really tries to emphasize with his daughter, but he's just unable to properly express his feelings.

This reminds me of myself, and my dad. I don't work as hard as her though, but i do work hard for a lot of things in school to the point i was crying one time about math when my exam was near, my dad mindset was exactly like the dad here lol he tried helping me with my work for the first time ever since primary school. My dad never asks me about school, because he knows I'm mature enough to know what to do. And i feel like her too, it's like they don't care about you anymore :)

@Nizi-sama

Ай бұрын

Because your mature , leave it on your own , don’t need to worry about you that’s all😊

@lf4061

28 күн бұрын

Not everyone is equiped personality wise to teach or explain. My husband had a math and science major but when he tried to help our children with school work, I had to try and understand what he was saying and then interpret it to my children with examples they could understand. On the other hand, I had parents who never helped me and I discovered in later years that they had a poor education themselves and could not understand enough to help but did not want their children to think less of them for it or to believe it would be alright for them to receive less education also. Sometimes the real reasons are not as they appear to us, remember that no one is perfect.

@livia4838

28 күн бұрын

@@lf4061 Thanks :)

@gardenjoy5223

26 күн бұрын

What an unfair conclusion, that a parent doesn't care, simply because you get a chance to higher education in certain subjects, than they. I'd say: distrust those feelings a 100%. They are not true and they are selfish and mean. Go in against such stupid feelings. And yes, I'm female too. I Know feelings. I also know, that they easily lead someone astray. And tell me: what do You do to help your parents get good feelings? There ought to be some balance. They already pay for all the bills, which allow you to study. You might be mature enough to do homework on your own, but you've got a lot of maturing still to do emotionally.

@lf4061

26 күн бұрын

@@gardenjoy5223 Wow, I find it much more disconcerting that you felt it alright to respond to this person in such a personal, mean, and nasty way. 🤨

in 10 years, what u do in secondary becomes irrelevant...

When the dad said that she gets too tied up in solving a problem -- the correct part response should be "OK dad, which parts of math are YOU ok with me failing?" It's not just that homework counts TOWARD your numerical grade, but it forms the basis for what will almost definitely be on the test for that part of the module.

More activities do NOT equate better future! U must be confused or mislead

@marimo66666

Ай бұрын

gneration of trying to be good at everything. why not practise one stroke one thousand times instead

@yakshithadilipkumar7524

Ай бұрын

You don't understand. I'm only in 6th grade (going to 7th grade next month) and I'm already stressed about university. Due to overpopulation U can't just get into a good uni with good grades so everytime I get even an A- I start crying competition is big these days

@iamjaydennn

Ай бұрын

@@marimo66666 This is not your generation where you can afford to be so relaxed, especially when y'all enjoyed the benefits of a rapidly growing economy and a less competitive workplace back then, now so many foreign talents. In uni now, many people have a long list of internships experience before graduating, if not how to find job. Your generation had it easy, where internships weren't even a thing. So stop comparing. In this AI/ML world, if you pigeonhole yourself, your sole skillset might get automated. Just have a look at the poor accountants who had practice their stroke for 30 years, my team during internship automated their work at 80% automation rate at 90% accuracy lol, the AR team probably get sliced by a big bit, those old bones with dino mindset are probably freaking out. I'd believe the lil girl is smarter than you think, well prepared to face this VUCA world. Yeah, I'm practicing 3 strokes, double major in accountancy and analytics with a minor in psychology.

@r-wl1lg

Ай бұрын

this is a perspective of a form3 student in malaysia, also overworking from many many extracuriculars - even if you have international competitions on your portfolio, people will always tell you to take up more competitions. having a long long list of competitions, even if it means reusing projects and overworking yourself impresses people. we have a point system based on the awards weve gotten from competitions and the ranks of them - its just a race for the points now, people will join low-effort competitions just for some marks. theres a whole sub genre for those kind of competitions (usually quizes), and every competition just starts turning into "but will this competition gain me marks". most people dont join competitions for experience or to learn new things, they just join for some marks, and as someone quite passionate in the stem field and often joins competitions relating to them for experience and fun, its sad to these reduced to just marks. everyone is just competing for higher marks. its a rat race again. this is just for malaysia tho, idk about singapore@@marimo66666 (copy pasted since i made mostly the same points)

@artemis_moon3705

Ай бұрын

it is though, in the current education. more certificates, achievements, credits, skills and talent to your portfolio gives you higher chance of scoring and getting into a good university. Competition is getting more competitive in each generation. Say two people have the same result in a university entrance exam, the university would rather choose a smart person with good results and a good portfolio rather than just a smart person with only good results. Talents and skills matter a lot now. You'll be much more appreciated by the university.

My parents need to xome to school with me too so they can understand.

SHES DANCING TO SUPER SHY BY NEW JEANS IN CLASS

1:53 there’s no way they learn newjeans dances at her dance lessons 💀

Reality girl they dont look the the portfolio but your csv and experience

@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138

14 күн бұрын

I do agree that adult life is extremely different than student academic life Though having a strong portfolio can make it easier to stay in the school system for longer as a scholar or professor symbol

I'll tell you this. unless you're getting a job that requires dancing no employer is going to care. even if you're a national dance competition winner. its not going to help. so dont force yourself to do extra activities that dont matter in the job. teachers might tell you to do extra activities and it will help but its not the case.

face the same problem here

The dance classes must be fun though, not stressful, isn't it? I think the stress might come because the classes take time and takes away from homework time.

ffs at the rate this is going, p1 kids in 2030 will say i need to build my portfolio so i can be more prepared for secondary school life

@ElaineWong-rf3lh

Ай бұрын

fr my cousin does that and he's in P1

They didnt show the 6week experience only

PORTFOLIO IS NOT IMPORTANT! REST AND GRADES ARE!!!

this is why I never fell into the stupid "leadership" roles, I just find them useless and some dumb way to artificially inflate one's worth at rhe cost of sanity and mental health. just me trying to get my throwing group mates to work on time at the expense of my own grades is a hassle.

@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138

14 күн бұрын

Personally i went into them and i feel i learned a lot more to prep myself for my passions

I also feel bad that she goes to dance classes for her portfolio, not because it's something she enjoys, she sees it as a responsibility, not as a fun hobby that makes her happy :(

S'pore is among the best in the world in many areas of the great effort by the PAP govt. S'poreans and students acknowledge that PAP is the only competent and effective party in s'pore.❤❤

Singapore education is stressful. 😅 It's like, you will die poor if did not graduate from the best schools even if you had a degree. Total cringe. Where is the hollistic development here? All but theories, no character development.😅

I'm in school

She's trying out Way Too Much. She should focus on her normal homework and on 1 or at the most 2 other activities, that bring her the most fun. She's stressing herself out to the point of not being able to love life. Nor being able to excel anywhere. Her father is amazing. Goes to school with her. Now he must make her choose the right activities and stop the other ones. Obviously she's not good at that herself. Weird, that she talks herself into believing her dad doesn't care enough, when she learns things in school, he didn't get. Her thinking is wrong. That's the whole problem.

oh noooooooooooooooo

😢😢😢😢 right now i feel the same way, because my situation has alied with this video, my mom and dad doesnt understand how difficult i was having to find a job here like i have a certificate and a Batchelor, the only phone call is a tech company saying "would you like to work with us answeing a customer complaint?" Like.... 😢😢😢

@gardenjoy5223

26 күн бұрын

I'd say: take the job. Excel in it. Show your improvement of the whole customer complaint department. Keep applying for other things with at least your bills paid. Explain in your application letters how much you are learning from these customers and that customers are the backbone of any business.

@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138

14 күн бұрын

Do you think that if they went for 6 weeks they would understand better? An honest question, i'm very curious

Children like these succeed but struggle to have relationships. Its all about portfolios in life n its a dark reality.

At least here in Philippines we have college entrance exam per college or university we want not like in china Korea Japan need COLLEGEEL EXAM TEST TO PAST TO GO TO COLLEGE

What the students do for fun?

@slaiyfershin

Ай бұрын

Build portfolio

@CordeliaAurora

Ай бұрын

They - ☠️ Only thing that gives you some rest in our days

@r-wl1lg

Ай бұрын

im lucky that the thing building my portfolio (STEM related activies) IS my fun

@Komal-ly6fg

Ай бұрын

The thing she's doing are fun.. but the way she thinks while doing them make it NULL experience

@gardenjoy5223

26 күн бұрын

Choose the right things to do as your extra-curricular activities. Things you like and excel in. And don't overdo those.

The same thing is happening in America, I wonder if it's happening everywhere

@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138

14 күн бұрын

Apparently in China it's more prevalent since in America they have the benefit of attempting to pursue a buisness to personally sustain themselves which isn't like in China

@InuInugami

14 күн бұрын

@@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138 Of course, I meant it's slowly becoming the same in America. There are college graduates that are walking the streets with stacks of resumes and crying trying to find a job.

I love cats/kittens. 😺🐈😻MEOW! So cute!❤

You should focus on your young happy memories rather than your portfolio.

6 weeks????? goodness!

@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138

14 күн бұрын

It takes time to learn about your children ^-^ Kids are a lifetime investment afterall Just as important it is for the child to do well, the parents can do well to enrich their childs life and therefore their households happiness and comfortability

Germans are like:"What is a portfolio? School activities? We don't have that." (I am literally going to google portfolio now) This video is second hand stressing me out.

Building portofolio since school is so dumb.just do what you likes

@Sh12pen

Ай бұрын

Apparently it's due to overpopulation so better schools only take in people with the most points from all the activities they do

@Sh12pen

Ай бұрын

If she doesn't do all this by minimum, she will be havujg6a hard time getting into a worthy school

THIS is the happiest country in Asia?

shan ni @?

i'm super shy super shy

@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138

14 күн бұрын

That's okay! Look into what previously shy people did to learn about themselves to build the confidence and skills needed to counter that if you so please ^-^ I was super not shy then i became super shy and now i'm much less shy :> so i feel ya

0:24 Who's gonna tell her 💀

Rather be homeless and chill! You'll live longer not stressing as much. Everyone in our time dies of heart attacks. Ever since humans were forcibly moved to cities we started having heart attacks. It's not a coincidence.

@gardenjoy5223

26 күн бұрын

Congratulations. Yours is The dumbest comment in this whole section. And the competition is fierce here. But to suggest that homelessness is the best option, means you are living in extreme denial of the facts. One of those being, that the homeless get lesser access to all sorts of optimal care. Being able to sleep without disturbance is kind of important.

class-size should be reduced to no more than 20 students per teacher. This will enhance teacher-pupil interaction.

@LittlePanda888

Ай бұрын

Its a resource issue though. That would mean increasing the no. Of teachers by quite a fair bit. Not only does it lead to additional cost, do we really have that high supply of good teachers?

@slaiyfershin

Ай бұрын

Don't worry, you will get your wish since population is declining.

@slaiyfershin

Ай бұрын

@@LittlePanda888 Don't need to increase teachers, the declining birth rates will naturally lead to lesser students anyway.

@damnnsupercalifragilistice3935

Ай бұрын

@slaiyfershin but the student population doesn't only contain local students

Should’ve made him do it all like dance and everything, maybe he’d understand 😩

@thatonellamawhoissoobsesse8138

14 күн бұрын

Hehe i would of loved to see that too Similar to manual labor or human services- the physical task brings a new perspective

What you don’t get? She’s out for almost the whole day doing activities and studying, then later at home still need to continue studying. Dad never worked hard in his life to achieve something?

I almost committed suicide to school, take care of your kids