Story 10: If I was getting SA'd and the cops called me a harlot, I'd be leaving in the back of the police car for assault on an officer

@billbombshiggy9254

Ай бұрын

I don't believe this story at all. Somebody made up a fake story for reddit karma and sympathy.

@shybandit521

Ай бұрын

And Juvie would almost honestly be a better living situation..

@artennis8285

13 күн бұрын

@@billbombshiggy9254 people have been sa'd and the cops have dissmissed it

@Lana_Bo_Bana

12 күн бұрын

@@billbombshiggy9254 you lowkey seem like the type of guy to dismiss sa stories to someones face/ nm

@billbombshiggy9254

11 күн бұрын

@@Lana_Bo_Bana girl, and yes, I would. We are post me too. Too many women have lied, ruining it for those who actually have.

That first story.....wow. What a terrible mother. She lied to the cops, she basically killed her two year old child by not getting a restraining order against the boyfriend, and she HELPED HIM ESCAPE. 😢 That poor child.

@arikrex9978

2 ай бұрын

I never understood why people help abusers, especially ones who abused them or their family

@thiccredgyal3404

2 ай бұрын

Some people shouldn't be parents

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012

2 ай бұрын

@@arikrex9978Stockholm syndrome isn’t exclusive to hostage situations. Any abusive relationship can cause a victim to feel like they have to help their abuser, either through fear or loyalty. When you grow up being abused, you don’t realize it is abuse

@SewardWriter

2 ай бұрын

​@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012It wasn't Stockholm syndrome. She just valued her boyfriend over her children.

@annnichols3091

2 ай бұрын

I'm not surprised. I knew a social worker way off in another state who was very, very upset because, during a snowstorm, one of her clients allowed her boyfriend to rape her three-year-old because the mother was pregnant and didn't want the BF to have to go out in the storm to get his needs met.

In true crime videos on KZread that detail cases of children, you always hear the commentary of 'cps not doing their job', when it seems clear from these accounts that the issue is that they don't have the legal power to do what they know should be done. What actually needs to change is how narrow the law is about what is and isn't actionable. The way that children are often treated like property in the legal system is super gross.

@Kimberly_Sparkles

2 ай бұрын

A friend of mine had a social worker try to take her kids because she wasn't Christian. Every intervention mandated by court at the social worker's insistence went through a Christian church or organization. It was clear to the lawyer that religious discrimination was a factor and the lawyer helped her get the case closed pretty quickly through compliance since it had no teeth. So...like anything...there's also a factor in the agenda of the person doing the work.

@contortionyx

2 ай бұрын

You're not imagining that the government looks at children as property. Children are the most oppressed demographic worldwide - they have to rely on adults for literally everything for around 18 years, give or take. If a child is wronged by the adult *supposed* to be caring for them, they have little to no recourse. Even if they did have 100% successful actions they could take, it still requires a report of the abuse/neglect to be made, and if the child hasn't been told about their options, how will they know about them? To top it all off, in the US, our welfare laws (including CPS) are based in the Elizabethan Poor Laws (which are from the 1600s) and mixed with the Puritan cultural idea that people are naturally lazy and that "shit doesn't just happen; you're just not working hard enough". All that without getting into the fact that the US has a weird inclination to use kids and parental responsibility as a punishment. Mix all this together and sprinkle in that the people making these laws & policies never worked a single day in welfare and are overwhelmingly law & business majors...no wonder the system is so broken. Sources: my completed bachelor's education in social work, which actually pushed me away from working as a social worker when I learned exactly how messed up the systems are & how unwilling people are to change it.

@SewardWriter

2 ай бұрын

In far too many cases, CPS is incompetent. Watch the Misery Machine for examples.

@GiordanDiodato

2 ай бұрын

yeah the ones where you can't do anything legally are so frustrating. it's like the authorities are paid off by bad parents

@fyrefairy123

2 ай бұрын

There was a case recently in the UK where a child starved to death after his father passed away from a heart attack, and all the comments about were just "why didn't social services do something?" Aside from the fact that social services do not employ psychics and can only act on what is reported to them, social services had been to the house twice and gotten no answer, and both times had contacted the police to force entry into the home but were refused. People were seriously say that the social workers should have broken the door down to force entry into the home, apparently being completely unaware that social workers have no more means or authority to do so than any random person off the street and need police to do so. The fact is, social workers make very few decisions when it comes to cases - they make recommendations, and then somebody else, typically a judge, makes a decision, supposedly taking those recommendations into account. Even in cases where social services have made a decision, every decision they make can be overturned by a judge.

I was abused a lot as a kid... Beaten, not allowed to go to school, forced to eat kibble, fat shamed for being healthy when my 3 sisters were underweight... I feel like I have to know about abuse because I didn't realize I had been abused until I went to therapy for getting raped. And she told me that I had basically been groomed to be abused my whole life, I was very submissive, I would never fight back, I did whatever I was told, and I never said no to anyone, because saying no meant you were going to be beaten. I want so badly for my daughter to have a better life than me. I want to believe that all my suffering is so I can see how f***** up it was and give her better. It sounds f***** up but I feel like I have to learn about abuse because I don't understand what abuse is and I just don't want to abuse my child. I don't hit her, we talk, if she misbehaves we have discussions, I use grounding instead of force feeding her dog food, I tell her how beautiful she is every day. I don't know how to be a good mom, I just want to show her to love I never received.

@irishuisman1450

2 ай бұрын

Just based on this comment I'd say you're doing pretty well :) Generally speaking, as long as your child is well-fed, clothed, clean, and you communicate instead of getting physical when they misbehave, you'll already be doing very well. Of course it's also important to provide your child mental stimulation through play (whether that be playing with them directly or just letting them play by themselves or with friends), and you need to make sure they're not having trouble in school, but most of them time that's honestly the bare minimum. I'd say you're doing good so far :)

@AlexandraVioletta

2 ай бұрын

You have to latn about the abuse to break the cycle

@katie85705

2 ай бұрын

Sounds like you're doing an amazing job. You now recognize the abuse so now you know how to break the cycle. What your parents did to you wasn't love or what they thought was best for you, you love your daughter and strive to do what's best for her which is the opposite to how you were raised. For more tips I recommend looking up gentle parenting, it's the parenting style I use and I have an amazing 5 year old and 12 year old who are respectful, loving, not afraid of me and who get so many compliments over the I hope we'll they communicate, speak their minds, show empathy and how well they behave. It's a communication based parenting style that focuses on feelings, treating kids like tiny humans and helping them navigate through life. 2 youtubers I recommend are pleasant peasant media and tori phantom. They have plenty of helpful suggestions without making you feel bad about not knowing better. They're also entertaining to watch and post funny content too. I'm still constantly working on improving my parenting and my kids are far from perfect but I'm proud with how I broke the cycle and how well adjusted my kids are turning out to be without me ever having to instill fear in them. With my 5 year old I think it's been over a year since she's even been in timeout since communication usually helps the problem and if she does get frustrated, overly upset and wants to lash out she knows to take a breather and she'll find a space for herself to relax and calm down so we can have a productive conversation. To me the best parents are the ones who can recognize their flaws and put in the work to be better. From what I can tell from your comment you are doing an amazing job and your doing an amazing job with your daughter.

@Shadow_M4n

2 ай бұрын

You're doing amazing hun, from one internet stranger to another, you're doing fucking amazing. Stay strong hunny

@atlas7330

2 ай бұрын

also please teach her self love and self respect and to tell her that her feelings are important and boundaries are important ! there's a song for kids so u can sing it to her but u sound like a great mother and im very sorry u went thru that traumatic childhood. ur the best person she can have to lean on! i also hope ur working thru ur trauma and learning to love urself and learning that saying no is okay and to protect urself!

american cps system is truly the biggest joke (well, second behind insurance). surprised at the number of stories that ended with the kid returning to the abuser.

@rinpaisys

2 ай бұрын

I think the most important takeaway from this isn’t that the cps system is broken or incompetent or a joke, but that they are largely powerless to do anything no matter how desperately they fight to 99% of the time. The powers that be (government) ultimately hold all the power in what happens, and they tend to move in self interest at the expense of others. CPS (mostly) desperately wants to help, but it’s the entire system of government that is so irreparably broken that is the issue.

@Chuckf66

2 ай бұрын

Not to mention that, like DOCS & the entire Legal Aid system in Australia, & NHS in the UK, it's pathetically underfunded after years of successive conservative governments rorting to line their own pockets, then being replaced by (formerly) progressive governments who decide it's a great idea to emulate their predecessors in a misguided attempt to woo their voters.

@toxihaze

2 ай бұрын

its horrible because i was involved in a case with no evidence of anything (my uncles gf falsely called in spite) and me n my sister almost got taken with no way of going back (it was statements of a dirty tub) yet kids who are abused IN HORRIBLE WAYS have a chance of going BACK to the abuser whether that be placing the child or the abuser back. its sickening.

@RodneyWelters

2 ай бұрын

​@@rinpaisyss aassxaq

@ZombieQueeen

2 ай бұрын

What makes you think this is just US? 😂 Reddit is international . Also, if the parents complete whatever steps given them by a judge then there’s only so much you can honestly do when you’re not psychic and there’s ex no foster or group homes to take children. Blane the parents.

not cps but i’ve studied and spoken with several special victims detectives/officers worse one told to me, a woman came home to find her deceased two week old stuck on her boyfriend… the baby passed because her organs were crushed as he committed the unspeakable act, she was stuck because because your body contracts when you pass mom was so in shock all she could do was call 911 it wasn’t until after the cops got there and i think removed the baby that she tried to straight up m*rder that man i pray for her often doubt that means anything to her, no mother should ever have to face what she did

@osbornejohnson7919

2 ай бұрын

I’m scarred and I just read about it. What the hell

@josequins9099

2 ай бұрын

What sort of fucked up bullshit is this? That never happened. What the fuck is wrong with you?

@Shadow_M4n

2 ай бұрын

That's a mental image I never needed. I can't imagine how she must have felt seeing that first hand.. I hope the cops let her get a few punches on him... and there's the possibility that he was the baby daddy... @heyyitsjanea was he? I hope to fucking God not.. that would just make it worse, but if he wasn't he was probably a new boyfriend and got annoyed she wasn't putting out.. there's no silver lining here and I feel so sorry for you and her for having to go through that..

@benamisai-kham5892

Ай бұрын

I've read so many stories like this and each time it just turns my stomach...

@lrw628

Ай бұрын

Fuck I wish I would have skipped your comment

Obligatory "Not a CPS" disclaimer, but I work as an aid in a pediatric ER and have seen a number of cases that spring to mind. HIPPA, so no details, but seeing kids less than 5 come in with suspected sexual assault always makes me question humanity.

@SnowieShiba

2 ай бұрын

I've always wondered what medical field professionals think when they suspect SA on a child, and that child ends up going back/leaving with the parents....

@jordanwardle11

2 ай бұрын

@@SnowieShiba they are supposed to contact cps straight awy

@Cws2023

23 күн бұрын

CPS makes me question humanity

As an adult child of severe abuse, I appreciate the way you handled these stories. Hearing these stories also helped me a lot, when I was a child CPS told me "Mothers don't do that to their daughters," so to hear stories of CPS believing and fighting for the kids heals something in me.

@Cr3Ek_l0v3R

Ай бұрын

"Child protective services" but they're not even protecting the child.

Cps did my family so wrong. They lied about a lot of things. Took everything we said the wrong way, and twisted our words. A few years after cps investigated my family, I actually got to read the reports, and they lied about what I had said. Edit to add: I do still think cps is important, they just did my family a grave injustice. I was the oldest child in the household at the time, and neither of my parents ever abused me or any of my siblings. But the cps report said that I had told the investigators that my mom had pushed me to the ground and kicked me. That literally never happened.

@kardoxfabricanus7590

2 ай бұрын

Someone working there must've either held a grudge OR was doing that for thrills. It's terrible when you hear CPS falsely accusing people who are good parents. VS CPS knows for a fact that a family is abusive and plan on ending their children, but decide not to get the abusive monsters arrested.

@glitterstudent7066

2 ай бұрын

@@kardoxfabricanus7590 my parents are good Christian people. We were all adopted and it takes a special kind of person to do that for 6 children that needed parents. We wouldn’t have been adopted by them if there was ever a doubt that they wouldn’t be good parents. Let that sink in.

@djlivvy46

Ай бұрын

​@@glitterstudent7066- how did CPS become involved with your family in the first place?

@glitterstudent7066

Ай бұрын

@@djlivvy46 turns out my ex-sister was plotting, trying to get my parents divorced. I say ex-sister, because she “disowned” us and has tried her darnedest to drag my family through the mud. So it was HER that called cps on us 4 different times.

@djlivvy46

Ай бұрын

@@glitterstudent7066 - that's interesting. I will however say that being a Christian or adopting children is absolutely no indication of a person's character.

Petition for mandatory mental health brakes for the narrator.

Even though these kinds of stories are tough and hard to hear, it's still good for them to be known. This may sound wrong to some people, but humanity needs more awareness for these situations. The more we understand and know, the more as a whole can we strive and help to prevent abuse. Thank you UnderSparked, for spreading awareness about these situations. In the long run, it's channels like you who will make the world a safer and healthier place for children and just people in general.

@jekylljekyllhyde821

2 күн бұрын

I don't know, as for me, listening to such stories just makes me feel guilty for having it better than those kids. I assume anyone else will feel the same way, so maybe it's not a good idea to listen to them often or try to learn more._.

Worked at an elementary school as a ta Beginning of the year training and we're told unless a child is in immediate danger of SA or obviously injured( black eyes, big bruises, etc) dont report because cps was understaffed. One of our kindergarteners repeatedly attempted to SA other female students. We were told to watch him, but there was nothing else they could do. It got worse because his grandma said her sweet baby would never do such a thing. I'm still angry about it

@littlesongbird1

2 ай бұрын

Sorry but if the school told me that I would risk being fired and called CPS.

@ryangooseling

2 ай бұрын

@littlesongbird1 we often did and were met with reprimand. I once reported my ex son in law for making my granddaughter eat her own puke out of a clean trash bag. They said it's not like she was eating trash🤨 Alaska cps is worthless

@BloodSweatandFears

22 күн бұрын

It’s even sadder when you think how a 4 year old would learn such behaviors 😢

@littlesongbird1

22 күн бұрын

@@BloodSweatandFears agreed

@JackieMackenzie

21 күн бұрын

Surely this is immediate danger of SA? This little boy learned this somewhere? Likely done to him….

I lived through one of the worst CPS cases my caseworker had seen. I was taken from my mom at 6 months old. She was an 18-year-old parent, too young and definitely not ready to be a parent. She wanted to party, do drugs, have fun, and be a teenager. Having lived through 18 years old now, I get it, sort of. What little hair I had was matted to my skin, I was severely underweight and had been left in my mom's boyfriend's car while they got high at some party. Mom got pregnant at 17 to some sailor nearly twice her age while he was at port on libo. I was placed with my grandparents for five years, then back with my mom. From five to eight, I was beaten by my uncle, neglected by my mom, assaulted by my step dad. From eight to fourteen, I was what is best described as a troubled child. My grandmother didn't know how to deal with the meltdowns and behavioral issues of an autistic teenage girl with anger issues and PTSD. So, she would pin me down at my arms and threaten to leave me, knowing how it triggered me, stereotypical shit like that. Fourteen years old, I was raped by a wrestling teammate. Sixteen, by a TA in my physics class. I nearly ended my life at 16 and was about to drop out of high school when I started dating my now-husband again (whom I had broken up with after my first assault). My husband and I have now been together since 2020 and I joined the army. I'm working as a helicopter mechanic and trying to become a pilot. Things do get better, I promise. [I apologize for it not being super detailed, I don't remember it too well.]

@hayaq9991

Ай бұрын

Congratulations you should be proud of yourself.. are you planning to go to therapy.. it’s the most responsible thing you could do even under the best circumstances

@SneeringBull905

10 күн бұрын

I’m sorry about what happened to you. No one should have to go through something like that.

Story 5: Whoever this judge was and whoever else was involved for putting that 12 year old UNFAIRLY on the registry should've been FIRED the SECOND they put that 12 year old on there. The girl was clearly troubled from what she was exposed to, which, whether if it is true or not, is still horrible for what it was. All because of one single incident with her siblings, her exposure to content that was clearly not appropriate, and the state and the judge not going about it in the fairest way possible, this girl's life has been destroyed and it wasn't even her fault whatsoever.

@mariawhite7337

2 ай бұрын

When I was little my aunt and uncle were going to foster some kids, a boy and girl. The older brother exposed himself to me as we were in a car and the young girl still had burn marks and scars from where her mother burned her with a curling iron. At the time I was too young to know what exactly was going on. I can only hope the boy and girl got the help they needed cause my aunt and uncle noped the eff out of that one.

@MrEdrftgyuji

2 ай бұрын

Next to impossible to fire a judge. And that is the problem.

The comments that say American CPS is a joke have no idea. CPS fail me in the opposite direction. They took me away from a loving home because I had mental health issues. There was no proof of wrong doing in any capacity and, in fact, it was proven there WAS no wrong doing. The place I was put in lied to CPS and the judge all the time about my Mom and my Mom was treated like scum from day one despite, again, doing nothing wrong. My Mom is my hero and always advocated for me as best she could. She studied a LOT to try and help me too EDIT: The place I was put in is still operational and I weep that I have no power to change things anymore

@ZombieQueeen

2 ай бұрын

….sure Jan

@gardenofsn5955

2 ай бұрын

@@ZombieQueeen This is a thing that happens. Don't dismiss others' trauma.

@ZombieQueeen

2 ай бұрын

@@gardenofsn5955 their parents, like many others, were found by a neutral 3rd party that you were not in a safe situation…. I’m going to guess that they are not comfortable with accepting the reasons why.

@gardenofsn5955

2 ай бұрын

@@ZombieQueeen Look up The Misery Machine. CPS is not infallible. You should've gotten that from this video alone. Don't choose to be ignorant. Don't choose to remain stupid.

@lpfan4491

2 ай бұрын

​@@ZombieQueeenThis does mention that it was proven that nothing was wrong. The third party concluded that nothing was wrong, then took them away anyways.

When my cousins were little their mom and stepdad would beat the crap out of them with all manners of things. One time I was over there and my youngest cousin and I started jumping on the bed. My parents let me do it all the time so I thought it was okay, especially since he was doing it too. Well his older brother saw us and immediately told their mom. She had us bend over the couch and repeatedly beat our behinds. Because I was confused and didn't put up a fuss I received open handed slaps on a clothed butt. My cousin fought it so he got the buckle end of a belt on a bare butt. When I went home and told my parents they were livid and raised hell in the whole family. I wasn't allowed over there anymore. Then about a year later that same brother who told on us (which it turned out in their family they would try to get each other in trouble because it meant they would be safe for a bit) went to my mom and showed her all the welts across his back. There were ones that were obviously from multiple beatings meaning the jumping on the bed incident was not a one time deal like my parents thought. My mom called CPS who went to the house, were denied entry by the mom and stepdad, and decided to close the freaking case as unfounded! Their mom immediately pulled them from school and cut all contact with the family. My youngest cousin and I were in third grade at the time and I didn't see him again until high school after his mom divorced his stepdad and blamed all her abusive behavior on him. She's still a whackjob decades later.

Story 8: as a veteran you wouldn’t believe how common stories like that are.

@littlesongbird1

2 ай бұрын

Dear god! You would think someone in the service or married to someone in the service would be able to take better care of a house! Granted I am not perfect but my place has never gotten that bad.

Ngl the 9yr old stealing the case worker's car is funny asf😅

@TheAshypoo

Ай бұрын

It is. He saw an opportunity and took it. 😂😂😂

@Elinelovesmusic

23 күн бұрын

I lost it😂

@sfk1doesstuff207

18 күн бұрын

Bro was setting a high score

The system in the US is broken beyond repair. The cps workers are overworked with a lot cases and they have multiple phone numbers to go through especially if they’ve lost track of their client and it’s no wonder kids are dying when it comes to cps returning kids or not removing them. A couple years ago a lady from CPS in my state called my phone multiple times and left voice mails. Returned her phone call and it turned out that she was looking for a woman with a kid and the lady had multiple phone numbers on her desk and she tried mine. She became rude when she was told that she had the wrong number and that we don’t know anyone by that name.

@deannarounds3295

Ай бұрын

JUst to clarify - CPS cannot remove a child without a court order. Often the judges will not order the removal but instead put a "safety plan" in place instead. And people get angry when CPS takes a child and angry when they don't. Not exactly a win win situation.

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

​@@deannarounds3295CPS are evil and will take a child for no reason. Yeah they have to lie to the judge to do it but they lie about everything. Unfortunately they do not care about kids at all. I have seen children being abused neglected tortured by cps and not their parents. It's truly sad. But then you have serious cases and they are ignored. And even when then get involved with these case it makes me wonder what are they lying about and what is true. Because one main truth in dealing with cps is they lie.

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

​@@deannarounds3295that is not true CPS can take a child for whatever made up reason why because they will lie to the judge. CPS harasses people tortures children they should be arrested. But they will falsify court documents and usually not have any proof just to destroy innocent people. And on the serious cases did they actually take and don't ignore you got to sit back and really wonder what is true and what is a lie.

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

​@@deannarounds3295unfortunately that is not true. They can and will do anything they want. They get away with it by lying

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

​@@deannarounds3295that's not true

5:20 my father was a drug addict, he wasn't a good dad. i am also a drug addict and will not raise a child till i am recovered

@Mr.Bubbles_Official

2 ай бұрын

Good on you for not perpetuating the cycle. Stay strong stranger

@SewardWriter

2 ай бұрын

You'll get there, hon. (HUG) Stay strong. Do you have access to addiction help, or rehab? 💖

@5nak_music

2 ай бұрын

@@SewardWriter I have the most supportive self-made family imaginable. I'm also seeing a therapist about the underlying trauma that caused my addiction to begin with.

@tessiepinkman

2 ай бұрын

@@5nak_music I'm an addict. I've been clean for about 4 years now. Got hooked on heroin, amphetamine, Xanax and anything else I could find when I was 14. I have had clean periods before, but not sustained sobriety for this long ever. I got clean when I was 30, so it took 16 years for me to get out of it. The trauma was the hardest part to deal with sober. That's what always made me fall back onto drugs all the other times I tried to get clean. But now I have an amazing doctor, a fantastic therapist and an amazing team that surrounds me. I'm lucky to be alive, even more lucky to be clean. I'm telling you this so you know that it can be done. It's hard, but it's possible. I wish it was possible to send messages on KZread, because then I would tell you that you can always reach out to me if you need someone to talk to. But, that's not a thing, so I'll just tell you this: You can do it! Don't give up if you "fail" and relapse the first time, or the second time, or the fifteenth fucking time you try. Just keep on trying and doing your best. I know it will be tough, probably one of, if not *the* hardest thing you've ever done. But if you just keep on trying and, most importantly, do it for *you* and nobody else - then you're gonna wake up one day and find that you've been clean for a year. Find a way that works for *you* - try as many things as you are able to, but don't let people tell you that there's only one way to get clean or to live life, because that's a lie. You've got this! I'm rooting for you! Much love from me, a Swedish woman that's living in Norway.

@SewardWriter

2 ай бұрын

@@5nak_music Good. I'm proud of you for facing your addiction, and for putting together such an amazing support system. 💖

Putting a child on a sex offender registry is not the answer. That child was clearly a victim of abuse she needs help, she went through something before she was with the new family. The adults around her need to help her work through that trauma not further traumatize her by demonizing her for the abuse she endured. JFC Someone needs to get that judge off the bench. That's not to say that children around 12 or so *can't* be sexual predators, but typically kids that age who show these types of behavior are victims themselves and this is the only way they know how to release the feelings associated with the trauma.

All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children...😢❤

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

However cps lies about everything. They will destroy innocent families. So when it comes to serious issues it makes me wonder what is the truth and what are they lying about. Because some parents are evil but all cps is evil.

I am typically a calm person, but I can't imagine having the patience to see cases like this every day and be powerless to stop the evil. It takes an immensely strong person to do this job.

@benamisai-kham5892

Ай бұрын

I guess like anything in that field they get jaded to it, and have to have the stomach to handle it or have a hell of a vice to forget.

Cps is poorly funded. Unfortunately most people also dont help because you can get in trouble for helping as well.

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

Cps is a joke and shouldn't have funds! They are evil. Their job is sadly to destroy families, Torture abuse neglect children. In a nice world cps would help people however that is not the world we live in. Instead they lie, they will not have proof and still get away with kidnapping, assault, harassment, and falsifying court documents and not to mention trespassing.

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

No they should be defunded. They will harass, people torment people, they will falsify documents which could lead to a kidnapping. It doesn't matter that you're innocent and that you love your children and your children are taken care of they don't care. And when it comes to serious cases they ignore them. On the slight chance that they will take it on you have to really Wonder what is true and what are they lying about.

This was tragic. Reminds me of what happened with my mom. She was a daycare/pre-school worker for over 18 years and there was a kid 3-4 who had been given to her aunt by authorities after being physically/S abused by her parents. The girl was a total sweetheart but after four months my mom came home saying she had to call CPS because the girl came in with a huge bruise with indents on her face. She got the kid to talk to her and the girl said she had bit her aunt while angry and her aunt decided she should know what she felt and bit the girl on her face as punishment. My mom moved to being an autistic focus nanny after that and only knew the girl got put in foster care. That was nearly 20 years ago and my mom still talks about it, it was the last experience she had working daycare and still haunts her. I'm a banker and see quite a bit of elder financial abuse or spouse abuse in financial control, but I don't think I could handle seeing what she saw.

For Story 10, the only person I’d also add to the ‘not at fault list’ would be OP’s little brother.

I appreciate you pointing out that you didn't do the voices out of respect ❤ thank you for spreading awareness

And unfortunately teens can be forced to be sex workers and the system will arrest and punish them instead of helping them

I have to watch this video in batches. It's a lot. I think I said it on another heavy video of yours, but I'm really grateful that you cover these stories on your channel and you bring awareness to them. You don't water them down for KZread, aside from maybe changing a few cuss words. So thank you for going against the norm with Reddit stories

god, this is sickening. i feel awful for those poor kids. you seem like a good youtuber, and although i can only see what you put online, you seem like a good person, undersparked.

The best thing my Mom ever did for me is let my grandparents raise me as a child during her years as a drug user.

@sfk1doesstuff207

18 күн бұрын

Good choice on her part.

I have two kids, but I have love for more. But I'm too old now... There's people like me, who wished I had met my fiancé 20 years earlier so we could have had more kids, and then there are people like that... I have no words. There are SO MANY parents wanting a child, trying and trying and some even lose their child while pregnancy and some people have the opportunity to bring new life to the world, a child, a gift, so pure and helpless... And then they treat them SO bad... 😭

This is why we need to make people pass a test before they can have kids

@DouglasWalrath

2 ай бұрын

the problem with that is how to enforce it, if they're willing to do this stuff to kids they're absolutely willing to just ignore any test requirements

I was made a ward of the state by my abusive parental unit when I was 9. Unfortunately, the family court judge was an idiot and sent me back to live with her, where I was smacked around and called everything but my name for another 7 years. First DHS worker was utterly useless, as she just sat and gossiped and drank coffee with my abuser, never even talked to me or asked questions. She ended up being fired after I went in front of a family court judge and begged to be taken out of the home. Even when the judge (a nasty, hateful old fart) threatened to place me in the worst facility in the state, I told him it couldn't be worse than what I'd been going through up until then. He looked like I'd slapped him. That's when I threw the worker under the bus and spilled *all* the beans on how she failed at her job. Second worker was nice, but she ended up quitting after her husband passed. Can't fault her for that. Third worker was a bulldog, and he advocated for me as hard as possible, fighting against the stories of the narcissistic abusive parental unit who lied about me to anyone who'd listen. I found out years after I turned 18 that DHS had a *thick* file on my household, and they had labeled the parental unit as an unfit parent, yet it was the supervisors and family court judges who made certain I stayed in that situation. Don't even get me started on the shelter and group home situations. It was like being taken from a house fire and thrown into a cesspit.

I work with families with kids 0-3 that are sometimes connected to cps. I once had a family with 11 children, ages 16 to 1. They were living in 2 tents in a RV park, which cps said was fine because all their base needs were met. These children were so dirty and skinny, it made me so angry that the state wouldn't take them. Less than a week before the family fled the state, I went to visit and the 3 year old had second and third degree burns on his face, neck, and chest, which the mom said he got when another one of the boys who was 4 melted a plastic bottle in the fire pit and the wind caught the molten plastic, hitting the 3 year old. They did not take him to the hospital. Me and my coworker cleaned his wounds and tried our best to talk to the parents without screaming. I sobbed on my way home and made a new cps report on them, which cps decided was unfounded and there were no safety issues which would require the children to be removed. Like I said they fled shortly after and I think about them a lot. I hope those children and babies are as okay as they can be.

My mum worked in the UK version of cps for years. I am sure she saw some terrible stuff. All I know is she had to sometimes go out with the police to remove children. The true extent I dont want to know. So many times it involves a boyfriend of the mother that she is supposed to not allow back home but does. Its sad how common it is.

Welp, being a foster sister, this hurts

I had a friend who worked for CPS, and while they couldn't go into details, she told me that she'd seen houses that weren't fit for a goldfish, much less children, and nothing was done.

Thank you for the check in at the end ❤

I didn't even finish training before I left for nursing. I would have been in prison from harming a parent.

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

Wow you wanted to be cps? Why? They are evil they lie, falsify court documents, torture, harassment, trespass, abuse, neglect children take innocent families and destroy them just because you think it's funny. When it comes to serious cases you ignore them. And on the slight chance that you would take on a serious case it makes people wonder how much of it is it a lie and how much of it is truth. Defund CPS save the children.

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

Why would you harm a parent when you're in the wrong, cps workers harass, trespass, and kidnap or at least attempted kidnap and they lie,. They will lie to the court and falsified court documents and even in a serious case nobody will know what they are saying is true or a lie especially when they have no evidence. Cps is joke. They abuse children. Save the children Defund CPS.

@HappyCabezonFish-je4tk

Ай бұрын

Oh my God that's so awful to say why on Earth would you want to hurt a parent? CPS is the one in the wrong, they will harass you torment you kidnap your children and they get away with this because they lie that's all they do is lie they will falsify court documents. They do not care about the children. And the children that really need their care they ignore. On the slight chance they might take a serious case you really have to wonder what is true what are they lying about.

The way you read these and give your opinions so respectfully has given me so much hope. The way you try and see everyone's side to the story makes the world a little bit better,and I thank you so much for that

I’m so thankful that you take these seriously and took the time to end the video the way you did. Thank you

8:30 I was assaulted by a classmate as a child. He scared me but now that I am an adult I hold no ill will towards him. To do something like what he did means her probably learned from someone and that is heartbreaking.

I love your takes on stories. You're spot on for the vast majority of them imo.

The ones where cos just say o well they are old enough to protect their younger siblings or learn to watch out for themselves is insane it’s wrong

Ty for telling us this. Too many times atrocities are ignored, covered up or just not believed by the general public.

My wife has an insane mother and decided to call CPS on us the day that my son was born. She accused us of doing all sorts of things and a case was opened. It was open for about two months and the CPS worker came about 3 to 4 times, after about the second visit, the CPS worker basically stopped asking questions about my son and on the last visit she basically said that visiting us was a break from the horrors that she sees every day it was the saddest good news that I’ve ever had

The legal system is a joke

I actually lived through the opposite of this. I grew up really poor, but wasn't abused . My pediatrician was convinced that my siblings and I are being abused. We had some bruises, but my parents never laid a finger on us. Anyway cps remained in our lives for pretty much the rest of my youth

Cps never does their job properly, R.I,P Gabriel Hernandez !

@cynreiusacari3163

Ай бұрын

His mom got sliced up in prison. A brief moment compared to what she put that sweet boy through.

This video was sad and heartbreaking! It was very well done and I liked the script on the screen! 😢

How do these acs workers let stuff like this slide & harass ppl who actually take care of & nurture their children! This is so upsetting. If there’s bruising on a child or a child is being sa’d why not remove the child immediately? Why even let these ppl get a chance to harm their children smh! I hear so many times that children are returned back to the homes of abuse where they are then unalived especially in my state. This is disturbing asf!

When people blame CPS i get so angry, we do everything we can, but if the courts rule against us, the child loses. Our hands are tied no matter how hard we want to take that child away

Yeah, no - even if the kid in question is a victim of CSA; if they're doing similar to other kids, they should be on a registry - no ands, ifs or buts. They don't get a free pass because they were a victim, themselves. Keeping her away from her siblings/other kids is the smart thing to do; especially when her siblings confirmed their sister had violated them in the past.

@jekylljekyllhyde821

2 күн бұрын

If you have suffered so much, it should give you the right to hurt others, it's just unfair otherwise

Cannot continue listening... Started tearing up by 3 story...

Rather than get the girl counseling they labeled her a sec offender. Doesn't make any sense

I used to be able to listen to these angrily before i became a mother. Now I'm just crying.

Stories like these make me wish their were licenses you had to get in order to be a legal parent. I know that's horrible thinking and that only punishes the people who actually are good people, I just can't think of anything else. So many unwanted kids and it's so disheartening what some go through.

8:30 Not even a referral, MULTIPLE referrals. To make that kinda decision with a kid should at a bare minimum require a small panel to decide, because how you choose to evaluate those actions in regards to the rest of their life is far to important.

The Story 9 had me legit gasping, just.why

CPS and the rest of the system really needs to step up their game. The amount of abuse they're powerless to do anything about is unacceptable.

My mam is a foster carer and I heard my fair share, granted nowhere near this scale but it's just as heart breaking. We had a 9 yr old kick up a sh*t storm when he didn't get his way (I had a heavy lock thrown at me and thankfully missed), one 15yr lass was a drug user and we had police come out every night because she went awol. Another waved a knife at my mam's neighbors because they were fighting and she ABSOLUTELY HAD to be involved. But the worst was a 15yr boy who owed money to the estates ahole and the ahole brought a gang of lads to my mam's front door- luckily nothing happened and she had cameras, even more so she knew the aholes mother and he stopped coming around after that.

My cousin is adopted. She was removed from her mother at age three after she presented to the emergency room of the local children’s hospital. She told a nurse how her Mother’s boyfriend “put a sock on his sausage and put it in my cookie.”

"these were white people so matting their hair is hard" me looking at my daughter whos hair i brushed an hour ago: "seriously, how do you keep doing that?"

@arutka2000

2 ай бұрын

Oh. Good. I'm not the only one who has that issue.

@darkstarr984

28 күн бұрын

My niece had a chronic problem with matting hair. Mine also matts within a couple of days but mine is curly.

My mom was placed in a group home at 13 at her parents’ request. My mom wasn’t on drugs as reported, and did really well for the short time she was there, getting into an alternative school where she finally excelled. Most likely what was happening was my mom being undiagnosed with ADHD, likely autism (she tics every box of both for common behaviors in women diagnosed later in life, and it being 73, these often weren’t even considered for girls), and was absolutely very neglected.

that first story actually made my eyes tear up 😭

I think you should do a video on stories from parents or caregivers from kids on CPS or DCS. Why there kids were taken how hard it was for them to get back. Cuz I have quite a few stories for you.

I like your videos, i have them play in the background of me doing normal tasks

@HolyCrossed

2 ай бұрын

"Hey mom let me do my normal tasks" you alright dude, you're obviously not normal (not being normal is not a bad thing tho) who calls them normal tasks

@soulpanda98

2 ай бұрын

@@HolyCrossedEnglish might not be they’re first language

@Fade_NB

2 ай бұрын

Same

This all is horrific and agonizingly painful to think about. But a lot of problems need to be changed and fixed, so we should always keep these stories in mind.

Thank you for not using the wingman game again

@b.f.2461

2 ай бұрын

What is this game?

@burndowntheworld

2 ай бұрын

@@b.f.2461 idk, but its better than the one game that he’s been using

As someone who once went through the foster care care system and spent a month with a very nice Christian family, I remember always thinking my life was the worst it could ever be. Feeling so unwanted, sick to my stomach and wishing I died after everything that happened; after this video, I can't ever in good conscience think what I went through was that bad.

Heartbreaking...... poor babies...poor kids ..

Judges are bound by the laws on the books in their jurisdictions. They can get in serious trouble for going rogue (normally, political moves seem to be a gray area) I've seen many court proceedings where the judge expressed frustration with the ruling they would have to give knowing it probably wasn't the right call but we're bound by the law.

Ugh the story of the 12 y/o girl being registered... I happened to meet a THREE year old girl who was like that. I also suffered abuse from a young age so I could see how her behavior had developed immediately. Not in the mood to throw the whole depressing story in, but every adult there (a boyfriend's rich relatives' mansion party... not my normal locale, not been to one since) knew this girl was "trouble" and just laughed about it. Didn't want to deal with her. That's how I ended up spending the day with her. I saw her older siblings look at me with fear when I played with her, I could tell she had harmed them, but I was playing with her because her grandmother had asked me to. She kept perving on me and asking me to take my shirt off. She bit me hard and wouldn't let go when I refused to do certain things. (I did not react and pretended it didn't hurt... kids can bite hard, it hurt) She led me to a bathroom that she knew the lock didn't work on to change out of my swimsuit, and intentionally burst the door open to look at me when I changed there. That was more than 10 years ago and I've tried to find out how she's doing since, but no one I'm willing to talk to has any knowledge. :\ Initially I had been told the mother had already separated from the ex, which everyone collectively blamed I guess as the other children were not affected (?) but I can't say that is reassuring with no other information. :( An evil girl no one wants to deal with already at 3, there's no way she became that way on her own.

I have known cps for a long time. for around 8 years my mom was a foster parent so I have a general idea in how things work. none the less it is tragic what has happened to these poor kids

I had been involved with cps one time because my brother SAd me and right now because my mum was making a lot of threats of harm towards me etc and she did harm before, she pulled my ear because I ran away because of a meltdown, i am autistic and etc etc.. She now is okay and caring but if one thing goes wrong she just stops caring and I just want to leave I want to be taken away more than anything and if that cant happen I would do anything just to have her to physically hit me so it can be more obvious.

the first grader having to get his siblings up and dressed in time for school when he needs help getting himself ready for school, the fact that the parents don’t even get themselves up to get their kids ready for school is mind boggling, the first grader is gonna grow up WAY too fast

While I feel for the kid that is an intimate offender on the registry, the judge is doing that in the best interest of the community. Yes, it’s troubled and very horrible. What happened to her? That does not mitigate what she’s doing to other people it does not make it OK or give her justification to hurt anyone else she’s a sex offender and it’s a miracle they let her live in the same house as her siblings

Oh shit. I wasn’t prepared for this

I probably said this on another video, but this is what makes me think you need a legal license to breed that expires in a certain amount of time, and it needs to be renewed every time you want to have a child.

I understand why cps takes all cases seriously but some are bogus, I’m a victim of it. There’s this neighbor I’ve had for over 13 years (I’m 22) her & my mom were really cool, at a point they were friends. Then they had a falling out & became friends again (?) after I had my child at 19 my mom suggested I make her the godmother I thought she’d be a perfect fit because she always look after me so fast forward my mom tells me the neighbor was having a hard time with fertility due to drug usage etc, a few months after my daughter was born I made a decision to move out of state with my child the neighbor begged me not to do it. Randomly when I came back I started getting calls from cps saying I’m using drugs, I’m harming my child (things I would never do) come to find out it was the neighbor all along. Even an acs worker had told me! It saddened me & made me very angry, this has been going on for 3 years since my child was 6 months old… it’s sickening that acs doesn’t look into the people who are calling either. I’m trying to get justice for myself & my 2 children but it’s very hard. We currently have an active acs case right now. It sucks, only reason I haven’t retaliated is because I have much more to lose than the neighbor. Can’t afford to lose my children because I’m angry at someone so I suck it up & let them keep happening idk what to do. My children are very well taken care of we just moved away from where I used to live with my mom & are on our own still getting cases. I’ve reached out to the da in my state & the senator. Idk how much longer I can take this because of other people’s misery 🤦🏽‍♀️. In the past 3 years I’ve taken over 5 drug tests even some while pregnant. This harassment has gone on for far too long. Any advice? I’m here to share my story as well hopefully anyone who’s going through the same can give me some hope. Also a lil context on how i know it’s the neighbor: she’s the only one I told I was coming back to nyc, it just so happened my flight got delayed & we came out here the following week. The day I was to come back I got a case a few mins after I spoke to her. Don’t trust anyone especially when it involves your children I’m glad we got out of there things could have been completely different!

ik a lot abt drug and alcohol action from my bfs family and even my own which is sad and it causes a lot of issues

you are a good youtuber 😊

Because I can guarantee you, Josh Dugger’s sisters wishes he had been removed from their home and not allowed to interact with them, but you would totally let someone like that back into the home, wouldn’t you?

Story 13: Maybe I’m just extremely numb and desensitized and my love for cooking is gone anyways.

happy 100.000th view i am happy for you

Narrator, I hope you are okay after having to read that. Hugs

My friend should have had CPS called on his dad when he was a child. After his mom passed from cancer, his dad checked out.

Ya, I can't finish this.

This is absolutely awful. I personally think each state should control their own cps. When it is a federal institution the legal red tape leads to shit like this where no one wants to be responsible. They are local, hire local, and do psych evals to make sure of high empathy. Even admins, that way there is no issue of jurisdiction and shit

10:31 10:35 this is the funniest one here😭😭

Parents to CPS workers: Why do you make the choice to ignore the signs that a child is in danger? I’m not asking in a hateful manner. I use to work in a child shelter and I saw many children that were treated poorly by CPS. All you have to do is watch the numbers of child death going up and be told those children died while under a worker who chose not to deal with it

Someone get a hold of Norman Schwarzkopf, Jr.; he has several meetings to arrange.

Story 5 - probably controversial but I thibk she does belong on a registry. Of course her past abuse affected her, and is the reason for this, but that doesn't make other children safe around her. I mean most of the serial killer stories start with incidents like this. I don't think that should've been all though, I believe an intensive program of therapy (possibly even whilst in a specialist foster care home with no other children) and appropriately supervised schooling/activities to allow normal social interaction was absolutely essential to helping her. She was a victim who needs help, but that doesn't mean she's allowed to create other victims.

hi i like your voice :3

Story 5, you may be able to sue the judge

The first one that was all over the news

Story 3: I think the leader of the CPS in that story is entirely to blame for those kids being returned to their abusers or their abusers be allowed to return back to them. It just shows how a toxic work environment can lead to sad situations like that and a complete failing of the system.

Your take on 18:00 should be reconsidered, the CPS worker, op AND her younger brother should have been included, since it said that the boyfriend also physically abused op's younger brother

33rd also sad one this time