Couples Answer: Stigmas and Difficulties of an Interracial Relationship
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We asked interracial couples about their struggles and stigmas that might surround them.
00:00 Intro
00:32 Is this your first/only interracial relationship?
01:47 The most difficult part of an interracial relationship?
03:18 Do you family and friends approve of your relationship?
06:09 Is there a stigma to interracial relationships in Singapore?
07:29 Advice for individuals having problems in an interracial relationship?
Featuring:
Ashley - / ashley.kohhh
Rayhan - / iyliarayhan
Sherrin - / sherrinn_
Yixi - / yxi2
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The girl Sherrin is so gorgeous and the Chinese dude is so blessed to have her! I love her candour and sense of humour. She’s really articulate & even sounds more “Chinese” than him to be honest.
@vaccinatedanti-vaxxer
Жыл бұрын
In other words, she can do better lol
@koon2038
Жыл бұрын
@@vaccinatedanti-vaxxer you sound like you know the couple better than they know each other! Very impressive!
@zkm-hy5gz
Жыл бұрын
@@vaccinatedanti-vaxxer I think he can do better tbh
@CoolNumber1
Жыл бұрын
I find this video stupid, because malay and chinese are literraly the same race, both are yellow race. Only indian are difference considered race.
I rarely see brown girl/east asian guy pairings so this vid is so refreshing! They look so adorable and cute 💜💜
@BrittenelleandOrionKMG
Жыл бұрын
As an east asian guy myself I tend to go for brown girls as I find other east asian girl's really demanding/petty etc while the brown girls are way more independent and open
@sdn69ombolataalasa57
Жыл бұрын
@@BrittenelleandOrionKMG Not really. Brown girls are demanding and petty too
@BrittenelleandOrionKMG
Жыл бұрын
@@sdn69ombolataalasa57 less so than the Chinese girls tho, that's why I also tend to not be friends with other Chinese people, well at but that's according to my experiences
@bidubidu2003
Жыл бұрын
@@BrittenelleandOrionKMG Brown girls aren't open at all, Brown girls are the most conservative, Brown girls prefer and date their own Brown guys only over guys of other ethnicities, that is why Brown girls dating Chinese guys is very rare, the other way around on the other hand is the most common...
@bidubidu2003
Жыл бұрын
@@BrittenelleandOrionKMG lol, i don't think you are dating any brown girl. But yes, Brown girls who are demanding are rare in reality.
Honestly this was so cute to see all these couples being so open-minded and honest about their problems. Hope they last long
I feel like in Singapore and Malaysia (especially) many of the races were taught to stay away from other races especially the Malays. I think interracial relationships are cool. Love is indeed love. Stay happy everyone.
@endi4654
Жыл бұрын
Especially the Malays? In Singapore since grandparents generation there were lots of interracial marriage. I'm one of the byproduct and if you go around asking you're bound to come across Malays of mixed ancestry. I don't know about Malaysia but in Singapore that's kind of the case for all races, regardless.
@shawnjames5481
Жыл бұрын
@@endi4654 that’s so nice! Wish Malaysia is as progressive as Singapore. People’s mentality need to change and be progressive as well
@erussama6421
Жыл бұрын
I'm a Malay Malaysian and we were never taught to stay away from other races (idk where did you hear/know that, maybe some not all) but we really appreciate and respect other races . Btw I'm into interaccial relationships but unfortunately didn't find one yet. 😝
@wangelise593
Жыл бұрын
Because in malaysia, once you marry a Malay, you must be forced to enter Islam, and you cannot change it for the rest of your life, which is why most people resist/avoid being with Malays. If there is religious freedom, I believe there are already many interracial marriages
@mono8476
Жыл бұрын
@@wangelise593 exactly. And despite that there r still people who r willing to convert so that they can marry.
I am watching this in Africa and I love seeing people unite. Race, religion, and tribes shouldn't be a problem in finding love. I am so proud of these young couples for not being worried about what people are thinking of them but focusing on their happiness.
@unfazedjae2645
Жыл бұрын
Where in Africa mate. We can’t have people still thinking it’s a country :).
@HappinessWithin
Жыл бұрын
@@unfazedjae2645 RDC Congo
@Saffins
Жыл бұрын
@@unfazedjae2645 haha right! You wouldn’t see someone saying “I’m watching from Europe” “ im watching from asia” it’s good to specify
@unfazedjae2645
Жыл бұрын
@@HappinessWithin awesome!
Dannggg those Indian women are GORGEOUS.
@mangopudding5979
Жыл бұрын
The are not.
@emeraldsonu
6 күн бұрын
@@mangopudding5979 u r so rude
such lovely couples!! super wholesome
Chindian here. Nice to see that interracial couples are more accepted now than during my parents time
@knock-knockwhosthere9933
Жыл бұрын
How many types of Chinese and Indian dialects you can speak?
@joyoftessa
Жыл бұрын
Actually my mandarin is horrible. English is our main language
@massalleh5255
Жыл бұрын
@@knock-knockwhosthere9933 I'm not chindian. But my girlfriend is. She only know how to speak passable mandarin. A bit of malay. English is her first language. None indian language
My father is Thai-Chinese and mom is Filipino-Spanish. Luckily, they didn't have in-law problems from both sides. But when my mom took my dad to Spain, that's where he encountered some racist/rude remarks for being in an interracial relationship with my mom. There were even men who tried attacking him physically (happened in the 80s). We ended up going back to Manila then settling here in Bangkok since 1996.
Super interesting to hear about how people experience interracial relationships in Singapore, since I'm only exposed to how it's like in North America 🤔
First couple is goals👉👈
I love on how they didn’t inculded Indian guy and Chinese girl omggg there’s is a lot of them I rather see Malay with Chinese or Indian girl with Chinese man way to go! So thank u for this
@magnisky
Жыл бұрын
Yellow fever. Lol 😂
@ima.m.1658
Жыл бұрын
It's the same in America haha
@mangopudding5979
Жыл бұрын
@@ima.m.1658 same in America? What do you mean?
@AnonymousTruthTeller
Жыл бұрын
Where is the Malay girl with Indian boy presentation! Sign me up! LayDian coming through!
Great interview! Got a lot of wonderful insights from the couples (: It's true what one of the interviewee mentioned, "Know your priorities" Personally, as a Muslim, I would prioritize religion more, hence, I will choose to marry someone who has the same religion as me. As for the race, I am quite open, but my mum doesn't allow me to date other races other than Malay so this is quite conflicting. But we'll see when the time comes. InsyaaAllah, everything will fall into place (:
I'm more intrigued by how long they are together for the fact that for some it's their first ever relationship.
What else do you wanna hear from couples? 🤔
@easybrz
Жыл бұрын
Hi, it'll be interesting to hear in more detail about how the couples handle religion particularly the Muslim and the non-Muslim couple. The Islamic religion is pretty demanding from a lifestyle and social/family perspective and I suspect the non Muslim would need to convert if this couple were to get married...
What a cute episode. Love the videos and hope to see more interesting topics and people on the show!!! (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤
Muslim guy said it best.....you have to love yourself, not in an egotistical way! When your cup is full, you can share with your partner. 😊
im malay, and my guy is american... yeah i think our gen is more open to interacial . both my parents n fam ok with it. it is my first relay xD.
They’re all sooo cute 😊
Which dating apps did they use? Admin can you share? Pleaseeeee
I'm an African girl trying to date outside my race. I'd like to know what platform is best. One where I won't be swindled or where people are trying to smash and pass.
Interracial Couples are the way to go!!
OH MY GOD YIXI AND THE GIRL (i dont want to get her name wrong) I SEE THEM ON TIKTOK ALL THE TIME
Where is this dating app?
In which dating app you met guys
They are considered different races? Ngl outside of asia they are all seen as asian so that is very interesting!
Aiyah imagine my grand parents in the 1950s….
Sherrin is so cute and gorgeous
GOOD
❤️
The biggest problem with interracial relationship is almost always about religion. It is very rarely about colors.
@user-pm9pw6cj4c
Жыл бұрын
Colourism and racism are definitely a hurdle to mixed race relationships bro.
@coldplayfan7357
Жыл бұрын
It's about values. People with different religions,skin color and social status can still bond with each other if they share the same values and thinking
@irrelevance3859
Жыл бұрын
Agree. I’m black and my boyfriend is mixed race. Some would not consider it interracial some do but immediately the ‘problem’ (not with us but parents) was the fact that he grew up Muslim and I grew up Christian
4:27 muslim guy says "I hope my family will accept that love is love" Does he feel the same way for LGBTQ relationships?
@IslanderloverBKK
Жыл бұрын
That's a very good question!
@juicyjuicy6883
Жыл бұрын
Lmao why y'all gotta bring LGBTQ everywhere? (Don't get me wrong i support it as well but this video is not related to it so..)
@hlee2
Жыл бұрын
@@juicyjuicy6883 because the term was first used in Singapore in the context of LGBTQ relationships. And race/culture/religion is so intertwined in Singapore that you cannot address one without addressing the other.
@juicyjuicy6883
Жыл бұрын
@@hlee2 ohh okay okay
@mominahameed611
Жыл бұрын
he doesn't have to bruh
ok la....
The Muslim guy is so attracted to his girl that his neck is permanently bent towards her. Couple goals
Yo invite me please, my boyfriend (iban+kenyah) and i (malay) have been together for almost 10 years, i felt!!!!
@IslanderloverBKK
Жыл бұрын
That's awesome 🥰🙏
Most of the couples are of the same race though (both asians)?
@ice6703
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@mono8476
Жыл бұрын
Asia is a big place. We hv south asian, east asian etc.. who look different, hv different culture etc.. We hv similarities sure, but we r definitely not the same. Think of asian as an umbrella
@Dylan-bl7xl
Жыл бұрын
@@mono8476 I'm aware, I'm Asian too. But I think the only inter-racial couples in the video were the Indian-Chinese couples?🤔 If a Russian marries an Italian, we wouldn't refer to them as an inter-racial couple even though one is Eastern European and the other is Southern European, and they have vastly different cultures.
@mono8476
Жыл бұрын
@@Dylan-bl7xl see in that case its nationality not race (russian-italian couple). the people in this video r singaporeans with different racial & ethnic backgrounds. also, i dont see how the indian-chinese couples r interracial but malay-chinese isnt
@jypapiiiii
5 ай бұрын
There are 5 races in Asia - South Asian, Southeast Asian, East Asian, West Asian/Middle Eastern and Central Asian.
Chinese, Malay and even Eurasian women have a huge thing for Indian men in SG/Malaysia, Indian guys get all the girls in SG/Malaysia.
@massalleh5255
Жыл бұрын
It's actually indian men who have a huge thing for non indians women. Because they are the ones who always do the chasing. There is once a news broke out about chinese grandmother being raped by an indian dude
@itsu2553
Жыл бұрын
Really?👀
@mangopudding5979
Жыл бұрын
@@itsu2553 yes.
Wouldn't this be different ethnicities. they are all Asian race but different ethnicities such as Chinese(east asian) Indian (south asian)
There are 5 races in Asia - South Asian, Southeast Asian, East Asian, West Asian/Middle Eastern and Central Asian. Race is biological. Ethnicity is cultural. This is for the people saying "but they are all Asians so it isn't interracial"
Are these interracial couples? Technically they're all the same race - Asian. Just not the same ethnicities and religions.
@raghavnamasivayam8706
Жыл бұрын
Well Asian isn't a race it isn't a monolith
Some of these pairing aren't considered interracial...
@mono8476
Жыл бұрын
Why??
@chai387
Жыл бұрын
@@mono8476 cause India is in Asia, so not sure if it's considered interracial if they're both Asian
@verdeithaca3956
Жыл бұрын
@@chai387 yes india is in asia. but indian is a race, and chinese is also a race. therefore they're an interracial couple
@raghavnamasivayam8706
Жыл бұрын
@@chai387 these aren't indian nationals
at the end of the day we are all asians
Glad to see they have not included any Chinese/Malay/Eurasian girl + Indian guy interracial because this particular interracial pairing is so common(in real life and also on KZread and SM) that they are found in countless amount that too all over Singapore/Malaysia in real life, Indian guy + Chinese/Malay/Eurasian girl is the most common interracial pairing in SG/Malaysia. On the other hand other interracial pairings are so rare. Indian girls dating non Indian guys is so rare, they want their o wn Indian guys only. Indian girls dating non Indian guys is the rarest interracial pairing in Singapore/Malaysia. These Indian girls dating Chinese guys in this video are among those very rare or rarest Indian girls who date non Indian guys.
@salinagrandebuteraz5993
Жыл бұрын
I dun think chinese guy dating malay girl is rare anymore...i have seen a lot of chinese boi with malay girl couples even in my school..it is rare to see chinese guy with indians
@mangopudding5979
Жыл бұрын
@@salinagrandebuteraz5993 Indian girls prefer their ow n Indian guys only all the time, they don't want to date/marry any Non Indian guys in reality. Yes, you are correct that there are Malay girls dating Chinese guys now but it pales royally when compared to Malay girls dating Indian guys, both Chinese and Malay girls dating Indian guys is extremely common, they both just love Indian guys, i don't know why, why do you think they both love Indian guys so much? I think both Chinese and Malay girls have a huge thing for Indian guys. What do you think?
@massalleh5255
Жыл бұрын
@@mangopudding5979 Not really Besides when children of these union were born. More often than not. They tend to choose non indians. Why is that?
@massalleh5255
Жыл бұрын
@@mangopudding5979 also I know a indian guy/malay girl couple. And their children all married malays. Also when Indian guy married a muslim malay girl. More often than not They had to convert to Islam and their children will be identified with the muslim/malays first before they see themselves as indians. I also know a chindian girl in Malaysia. She also married a malay guy. And more things it's not a question why malay or chinese girls often picked indian guys. It's more like why indian guys often picked malay/chinese girls and why chinese/malay guys rarely choose indian girls.
@massalleh5255
Жыл бұрын
And last but not least we have a chindian Singaporean minister. Vivian Balakrishnan. His daughter also end up married a chinese guy.
its okay we're asians
Most of the time the problem is the older generation...
would appreciate subs/labels
These are technically not interracial as everyone is Asian. The same race. But they are all different ethnicities.
@raghavnamasivayam8706
Жыл бұрын
There is no race its ethnicity asian isn't a monolith race
They are ALL Asian. Just different types of Asians. How are these interracial couples?
@Deng_Xiaoping_is_my_father
Жыл бұрын
In Asia, we have a different concept of race. In the west Asian Americans are under one banner since all of the ethnic groups are minorities. However, in the East, Asians identify with regional identity in contrast to the umbrella term “Asian” since they compose the entirety of East Asia, Southeast Asia, and South Asia.
@user-e2023
Жыл бұрын
@@Deng_Xiaoping_is_my_father okay, thanks for explaining. That makes a little more sense to me now. I'm African, and no matter which part of Africa you come from, we see ourselves as one. So I didn't understand this about Asians. But I do understand now, Asians do have such diverse ancestry (Africans do as well), but I guess it's a culture thing, as you said.
@Deng_Xiaoping_is_my_father
Жыл бұрын
@@user-e2023 Ideally I would like to see Asian countries have cordial relationships with one another like in African countries. However, historical, political, and xenophobia, prevent us in having such a relationship. Asian countries have engaged in a big dick contest with one another since the beginning of eastern civilization.
@RiyaAdvani7
Жыл бұрын
Asia is extremely big & different & full of different ethnicities. East Asians look nothing alike South Asians for example. Whereas in Africa,they have the same features. Just different shades of black or brown.
@coldplayfan7357
Жыл бұрын
@@user-e2023 You accept every African? So do you consider someone from Nigeria and someone from Egypt as same and accept them as African Americans when they move to US? Because there's nothing similar between an Indian and a Chinese despite then living next to each other, be it language, religion, culture,food,history,skin color and facial structure
They're all Asian... Not really "interracial". I would call it inter-cultural relationship.
@raghavnamasivayam8706
Жыл бұрын
Asian isn't monolith race asian is usually denoted to geography
I thought Indian were also Asians? Which wouldn’t make it interracial
@joons3707
Жыл бұрын
singapore have the highest average of smart ppl but they cant differentiate between ethnicity and race. It bothers my soul everytime they say 'indian race, chinese race and malay race'. We are all asians but different ethnicties.
@ima.m.1658
Жыл бұрын
Indians aren't really considered Asians. We're considered brown, even though technically we are Asians
@etlene4240
Жыл бұрын
Oh my, race ≠ nationality
@juniebob4420
Жыл бұрын
@@ima.m.1658 we are asian lol we have cultural similarities with other asians so its not interracial + chindian kids just look asian
@happyface3216
Жыл бұрын
@@etlene4240 I know race isn’t the same as nationality stink. I was always told Indians were Asians. Maybe it’s an American thing.
They’re not different races.
hahaha "no one asked" 🤣
All Asians basically