Practice keeping your word everyday you’ll really gain confidence. Every time you say you’re gonna do something and don’t do it, your self-esteem diminishes no matter how meaningless the task may seem. Take your word very serious.

@GaZonk100

3 жыл бұрын

love it

@yoshibald8958

3 жыл бұрын

thx

@climbbmilc93

3 жыл бұрын

I go by this! Especially just for doing life admin: - Telling yourself you’ll make your bed in the morning before showering. And doing it! - telling yourself you’ll have breakfast before 10:00. And doing it!

@altonology1134

3 жыл бұрын

@@climbbmilc93 Exactly! Little routine tasks like that are extremely important for keeping your confidence in check. There was one point in my life where I followed through with literally everything that I said I would do religiously and after a while, it felt like I owned the world. “Idk” and “maybe” were no longer in my vocabulary. You start to subconsciously trust in yourself more and more by KNOWING you’ll accomplish whatever you say you’re going to do (AKA confidence).

@anwarshariq3411

3 жыл бұрын

Preach 100

Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be fine anyway is always a great mindset to have

@mohammedbedewy9102

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!! You made my day sir !!

@YodaSama0

4 жыл бұрын

Sean Lunny that’s could be true but could also be really bad

@lorenzejay3296

4 жыл бұрын

I tell myself this everyday and I genuinely believe everything will workout

@clubstep8244

4 жыл бұрын

To help yourself feel fine even in heated situations: "zoom out" a bit and imagine all the life that happens around you and realize how little you mean in all that, there is nothing that's going to hurt you

@alcatraz2627

4 жыл бұрын

Alan watts explained that quite well, " you must understand we come out of this World, not into it. Therefore we are part of the natural World like the animals, the trees and the waves of the ocean and the clouds. Now have have you ever seen a cloud that was too big or too small? Have you ever seen a cloud move in the wrong direction? The same goes for humans, in zen practice you are thought to regard yourself as a cloud moveing along in the skies..."

"Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be ok" is an incredibly liberating idea. I love this

@gabriellepundsack3308

3 ай бұрын

I always tell myself, "No one is going to kill you if (I fail/can't pay a bill/etc.).

@keremdemircan4203

Ай бұрын

it is basically stoicism bro

1. Sit relaxed and a little lean back that makes people come out to you. 2. Be non-reactive, and react less at times when handling pressure. 3. Speak slowly and use pauses correctly. 4. You will be okay no matter what.

@user-hq4zb6yp5b

Ай бұрын

She broke up with me. I told her I was grateful for the good times we shared. No begging, no pleading, go and be well. Moved on. Did us both a BIG favor. 😂

"You'll stop worrying that someone will reject you because you'll never reject yourself." That is brilliant! Well done!!!

@Christian-tf6ol

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed I agree💯. They said that "Don't be the first person to say no to yourself"

@g.a.d6988

2 жыл бұрын

"Who do you believe in? I believe in me.. I love me"- SGP

@kevinflanagan4711

2 жыл бұрын

Love this

@Sergiuss555

Жыл бұрын

your IQ must be negative

@Faye-el1bz

3 ай бұрын

Who cares about rejection Its way more important to become youre best authentic self

* Be relaxed - Spread out (standing, sitting being spread) - Move freely around - People have to work for attention - Selective eye contact ( give attention when making a point ; if the other person is doing it, then stare) * Be Non-reactive - Stay silent under pressure ( give pauses to think) - Don’t fidget under pressure * Dont try to convince people - Frame yourself as a equal partner ( in a negotiation; You are screening them as much as they are screening you) - Be willing to walk away ( not emotionally; if its clear that it signifies your confidence; Looks we’re not a match, wish you all the best) * Believe that you’ll be okay - Even if you do something that will prove a loss, be confident and know that you wont ever lose your own trust.

@kandle2507

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks man

@GM-dg6mj

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks man

@dfghxdfghsdsxdhdftx803

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@CyberMew

3 жыл бұрын

Saved me ten minutes thanks!!

@Ruzal

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

As a practicing attorney, I often remind myself to pause while speaking with a judge or a jury. It creates suspense. But more importantly, it actually allows me to hear my own thoughts and feel my feelings. Pausing also gives the other person time to process everything I just said. I would add that confidence is a two-way street. I find that if I practice active listening when I speak with people and really make space for them, they open up and we then mutually instill confidence in one another. Confidence doesn’t always have to be a competition.

@mosesrichard394

4 ай бұрын

i m in Law school.. i will start practicing your way

@user-xo1ez7zf1t

2 ай бұрын

Amazing advice

I feel like a big part of Don's character is that even HE has his own issues with self-confidence, but he never let's people see that. When he does, that's when we start to see the layers peel back and Don's true self starts to show. It's really all about how you project yourself to the world and those around you.

@berkguler5339

2 жыл бұрын

blessed words

@stephcooper1111

2 жыл бұрын

BEST comment yet- nailed it!

@dominickdean2873

2 жыл бұрын

Not necessarily the point. The point is to have true enough confidence in yourself to be able to be vulnerable in front of others, and not in a poor me way.

@1023kdawg

Жыл бұрын

And then you realize that real confidence and real freedom is not having to "project" yourself to anyone .

@kayleighc1681

Жыл бұрын

An even bigger part of Don's character is that he's a manipulative gaslighting narcissist, definitely not someone to look up to at all

"do you want fries with that?" *20 second pause* "yes"

@aptonymic3014

4 жыл бұрын

(i had to think fast)

@qambi1

4 жыл бұрын

hehehe

@cheerfulcrumb4540

3 жыл бұрын

that would be a fckn alpha move i reckon

@SageVaughn

3 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@LetsTacoBoutWine

3 жыл бұрын

LMAO

Expectations: Don Draper Reality: Michael Scott

@captainswan3079

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@portman3950

3 жыл бұрын

a

@redduckto

3 жыл бұрын

fkn underrated..

@MicahBuzanANIMATION

3 жыл бұрын

100% accurate

@cribbie6327

3 жыл бұрын

Michael Scarn! Threat level midnight

I get anxiety going to college every single day. I'm not happy with how i feel on the inside and out. But this helped and I'm working on myself now. My goal is to leave the house feeling confident and good about myself.

@sil_spatafora3886

2 жыл бұрын

how’s it going?

@oscoe

Жыл бұрын

Hang in there…..be kind to yourself for each small thing you achieve where you overcome anxiety. Hope things are getting better.

@bobbye4731

2 ай бұрын

Start working out. It’ll do wonders

also gotta say, the 4th tip really hits home. Specifically, love the line "...and you may begin to even look forward to the situations that stressed you out"

How to nail your interview: 1. Avoid eye contact at all costs 2. Rest your feet on the interviewers desk to assert dominance 3. Wait for 20 seconds staring at them before answering to a question 4. Walk out of the room calmly after refusing to take the job

@maxx4944

4 жыл бұрын

dont forgot to cry

@fsb4561

4 жыл бұрын

I laughed so hard 😂😂😂 im dying here man

@DocPegLegRed

4 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha

@MrRiveting

4 жыл бұрын

5. Light up a cigarette indoors and smoke.

@redmondandkrista9475

4 жыл бұрын

@@MrRiveting hahahahahaha

Confidence is literally a mindset that you can force.

@Poop-sr9sn

3 жыл бұрын

Explain

@jonnycpardoe

3 жыл бұрын

Agree on it being mindset 100%

@arkarmiller70

3 жыл бұрын

Dude you are so right. I was a shy guy but today my crush offered me a snack and I used to decline the offer and today I said to her" Yeah sure why not" in front of everyone.

@jogolord8122

3 жыл бұрын

1 million subscribers with no videos That’s a good start. Keep the mindset you’ll do good.

@ellorco991

3 жыл бұрын

You can cultivate a mindset though, being good at things or doing things until You’re good at them is a way to cultivate confidence, the fact is you have to have experiences, good and bad and learn from them, true confidence IMO is having certainty in everything you do

That last point about true, unshakeable confidence in yourself is absolutely golden. That's what it all boils down to. Brilliantly put, thank you!

“It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.” ― Lou Holtz

@user-hq4zb6yp5b

Ай бұрын

❤😊

I have always struggled with social anxiety and self esteem. I used these on my family at a party with my aunts and cousins. For the first time I felt confident. I was talking and making everyone laugh with my stories and comments. As soon as I got home I started crying with relief. I hope that I can keep applying this tricks in the future. Thank you will never be enough, But thank you.

@jonathanregan5682

3 жыл бұрын

Wish you the best man.

@theMadZakuPilot

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck man

@ollie2244

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you, it's really tough.

@dannymontaino700

3 жыл бұрын

That's so awesome. I don't know you but I'm proud of you. Sending you lots of love

@keshavdawra12

3 жыл бұрын

Good job!

“Would you like your receipt?” *20 second pause “no.-I-I mean yes”

@motivatoraligator6

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@undefeated3257

2 жыл бұрын

Omfg 🤣😂🤣

@moto-physique9270

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@gusd8659

2 жыл бұрын

LOL

@dendaungnualkhae5144

2 жыл бұрын

😂

You gotta watch the show. Don is terrified or nervous in 1/4 of these situations. Not to mention his character is literally about an insecure person who imitates a persona to fit in.

@user-hq4zb6yp5b

Ай бұрын

Don is akin to a Deep Cover Espionage Agent with a totally crafted false persona.

@thefutureisnow7300

Ай бұрын

Don is good at disguising his fears

You made me remember one of my favorite episodes of Mad Men... That hug Don gives to the other man, it is just emotional 100%. Deep.

True confidence can only be achieved via lightning McQueen crocs

@richardjohnson7379

3 жыл бұрын

Notice: no other clothing can be worn or it won’t work

@dorian_tihi5869

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Beatiful people, I Just Started my own Channel Inspired by David and I just wanted to let you know. It might be Interesting for you and i would appreciate it if you would show some support. See you there ;)

@mrmark8603

3 жыл бұрын

A, er...friend was looking for some. Where would I, er he, get those?

@jay0071

3 жыл бұрын

Crispyyy

@isaacwebb20

3 жыл бұрын

Epic gamer moment

getting detached from reality made me the most confident person ive ever known lol, the key is not caring guys, your fears controlling you, if you overcome them then your anxiety is gone.. everyone is too invested in their own life, they dont care if your hair's not that good

@Anthony-dw3jb

3 жыл бұрын

I can vouch for this. In my younger days I used to not give 2 shits what somebody would think about me if I said this or did that, I just didn't care and every conversation/interaction I had with anyone just felt good and satisfying. These days I'm clouded by social anxiety and it's hard to enjoy being out and around people because I constantly think about how the other person is going to view me but coming across this video is reconnecting me with my past philosophy of not giving 2 shits and I have to say it feels good and thats how I know not caring really works lol. Care about what matters to you, not to them, that is the key.

@prodmarquese

3 жыл бұрын

@@Anthony-dw3jb Exactly, once you have control over your fears, you'll have no limits

@dante93nero

3 жыл бұрын

@@prodmarquese Yes and no. Because even if you have no fears there is a difference in appearing confident and being arrogant. Whilist I do understand your point what someone like Don does is project confidence while not needing to be confident himself if that makes sense. There are subtle moviments you can do that swing a conversation in your favor and for someone with Don's knowledge he knows what clients want and needs.

@sarthaknagar6349

3 жыл бұрын

How do you detach from reality? Imagine you are to give a presentation in front of 100 people and you are nervous and anxious as hell, your heart is beating fast, at that situation how would you do that?

@dante93nero

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarthaknagar6349 the second you greet the audience. Right than and there you focus on what your are presenting and not on the audience itself

It's about balancing when to be open and when not to be. You don't want to be telling the wrong people your weak points, but you also don't want to be a bottle that looks perfect but shatters after some time, because of the pressure it's holding. Recently I've not been balancing it properly. I've been too focused on saying the perfect thing. I've not been patient, I've been wanting instant confidence. This is cause I want to feel the same confidence I did in the past.

Wow! So focused, engaging and productive. Just before I get out of bed, I visualize and feel in every part of my body, the life I want. I hold those feelings for at least 20 seconds and everything I do is driven by that vision. This is the best cotent I have seen on YT so far. Great job.

Confidence is built by doing something over and over until you prove to yourself that you’re actually good at it.

@MrMacBig273

4 жыл бұрын

it's the skill you trained is - lying to yourself - does it would make you confident at anything ? cause you're sure you can do it ?

@ASLUHLUHCE

4 жыл бұрын

Do you know the definition of confidence?

@MrMacBig273

4 жыл бұрын

@@ASLUHLUHCE Do you know how the human mind works ?

@amaracea

4 жыл бұрын

Zachary is 100% right. Don’t be putting words in his comment that aren’t there.

@ASLUHLUHCE

4 жыл бұрын

​@@MrMacBig273 You also don't know what confidence means. You get s feeling of confidence/self-assurance by appreciating your own abilities or qualities, and not necessarily being a master of any particular skill. For instance, one could be confident at public speaking, but not necessarily be good at it.

4:30 *Slowing things down and thinking before reacting Is something I find extremely effective*

@amaracea

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah. It’s really difficult when you’re trained growing up and your whole life that you’re dirt and everyone else is better than you - meaning, hey, respond promptly to people and don’t waste their time. It’s more valuable than yours. When you realize you’re making them wait, you feel like your face is on fire and your hands get all greasy and your chest starts trying to kill you and you can tell they’re hearing how unbelievably loud and shallow your breathing suddenly is and that sweat on your forehead is “this close” to getting in your eye and you forget what you were trying to figure out to say

@Angeck

4 жыл бұрын

@@amaracea Do this 3 times. First 2 times it feels terrible and difficult, and at the 3rd time it starts getting more comfortable. Also some people would be surprised at how first and second impressions don't matter and people forget how you've been in the past. The point being, go and make some mistakes, It's good for you.

@capo328

4 жыл бұрын

@@amaracea I know that feeling

@rickjohnson1719

4 жыл бұрын

I find it annoying because i dont think when i speak so i flow. I think by talking so its aweful waiting for other people to answer.

@Je.rone_

4 жыл бұрын

@@rickjohnson1719 Depending on the complexity of the situation/conversation I think one can choose to just flow, a stream of consciousness so to speak, in lieu of well-thoughtout speech.

The ending is AMAZING, throughout the whole video i was like "yeah, okay but that's just a persona, just an act - and when i was younger and starting self development i thought that THIS was what meant to be confident but it's far from true self belief and conviction, the place where true confidence comes from. So, cool tips but it's not what i need righ-" then lesson 4 started. And you nailed it. It's so fundamental to stress this, to know where confidence, self-belief, comes from. Great, great video.

Learning how to control emotion under pressure is a priceless life skill not only for confidence!! 💖💖

Watched this with my dog Now he’s giving speeches about confidence.

@SebAnders

3 жыл бұрын

You could say he's now... Top Dog.

@brodemfamalam7178

3 жыл бұрын

Guess you could call him a dawg now

@3zooz17

2 жыл бұрын

@@brodemfamalam7178 guess you can call him snoop dog😂😂😂😂

@anasubia5856

2 жыл бұрын

😬

@BlackDiamond2718

2 жыл бұрын

Second in command to snowball

All I got from this is that the narrator has a crush on this actor.

@RageAZA

4 жыл бұрын

hey we all have our man crushes. a one sided bromance..

@_BhagavadGita

4 жыл бұрын

Or perhaps you're just projecting your feelings onto the narrator?

@32alltheway

4 жыл бұрын

Pretty much. nothing like basing your own confidence on a drunken, philandering, identity stealing, morally bankrupt pretty boy. moral of the story, be pretty!

@zoulzopan

4 жыл бұрын

You don't?

@hannahmadden3573

4 жыл бұрын

What a Hamm.

Thank you so much I really needed this, I was just rejected and was so scared to go to school because I knew that people would confront me about it but again thank you so much!

This video... I’ve seen quite a few of yours. This one really hit home for me and confidence felt and projected has not been an issue for me for decades. Well done

@wearedying

2 жыл бұрын

This is the first video on this channel I've seen. I just hope I don't forget to implement the tips!

I once saw Cesar Milan live and he said "Calm is power" and that was the strongest piece of advice I've ever heard.

@amaracea

4 жыл бұрын

A friend told me that once when we were kids. We aren’t friends anymore because first I forgot about that, and then he forgot about that, and now we’re probably never going to talk to each other again. I forgive him now, it’s been a while, but knowing him I doubt he’s forgiven me. I don’t know if he’s capable of forgiveness. Or any real feelings, for that matter.

@Julian-bq9qv

4 жыл бұрын

@@amaracea so very sad. Words spoken in haste or in anger can never be taken back. If both parties are willing and committed, then a friendship can recover and endure; but anything less is like trying to build half a bridge.

@jamietodd2560

4 жыл бұрын

Calm means the other person cannot affect you. They might try because if they can make you react then it shows that _they_ have the power to make you react. But if you remain cool and collected no matter what happens, then you retain all of that power, and actually steal some of theirs, because now you've both seen their failure.

@Julian-bq9qv

4 жыл бұрын

@@jamietodd2560 well said!!!

@ryanw8510

4 жыл бұрын

Be like Don Draper if you want to pick up beautiful women...be like Cesar Milan if you want to pick up dogs!

Two rules which I have applied a long time ago and have improved my life completely. - Pause and think about what you're about to say, and then say it, always. - Sometimes it is better to not say anything.

@aljack1979

3 жыл бұрын

What I learnt from my military career, 'only fools rush in'

@Wayne--O

3 жыл бұрын

.

@mikeymorrison272

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely agree

@praesidium4278

2 жыл бұрын

I need to do this but to,do such great things,I need to destroy my schizophrenic version of myself and then I can be free and in touch with reality

07:01 is everything. Very powerful stuff. I’ll meditate on this for as long as it takes, and get rejected and fail over and over for as many times as it takes to internalize that. Thank you so much.

This is just amazing!! Your channel is my favourite on KZread. thank you so much Charlie!! Please keep them coming

0:16 Two types of confidence: External and Internal 0:43 1: Relaxed body language 3:03 2: Be non-reactive 5:24 3: Don’t try to convince people 7:04 4: Believe that you will always be ok

@itsjayjaehere864

2 жыл бұрын

Thankss

@bobbybarnes6888

Жыл бұрын

Appreciate it

@urielgladney1746

Жыл бұрын

Huh h B b 😅😊b 0:53 b

Audrey Hepburn was asked how she seemed so poised all the time, she said she slows down. I started talking that to heart in stressful situations, and it's worked. I feel myself getting panicky in a social situation and then just walk slower, talk slower, allows your thoughts to slow down and become less reactive.

@ErikaK

4 жыл бұрын

Yes ! Love that! It gives you the time to think and analyse the situation. Also taking deep breaths can help to manage our emotions ♡

@gabyperez1123

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, I should try that.

@ErikaK

4 жыл бұрын

@@gabyperez1123 :) yes, before reacting to a certain situation, before responding, taking a deep breath can help you channel your emotions and think the things through. Taking deep breaths can help you release anxiety, stress and even anger.

@tripslikstar

4 жыл бұрын

I worked in security. I always told my guards that when it gets crazy, slow down. Simply your list, take a deep breathe and control what you can. Seem to work as me and my team were very successful.

@ErikaK

4 жыл бұрын

@@tripslikstarthat's great! it really really helps Have a wonderful week !

1.Have a relax body language and more freely in every environment. Have selective eye contact and make eye contact when your doing a main point. Do not over react and stay non reactive. Remain in silence to think or when confused. SLOW DOWN 2.Make yourself seem as equals with others. Do not get angry and stay calm 3.believe that you will be okay in every situation no matter what

We need this curriculum in today's schools & make it mandatory for all students unfortunately this is something schools never teach us & as a 25 Yr old I can vouch for all adults when I say your degrees, grades & education doesn't matter if you're not able to express yourself. Until you're confident in you own skin you can never be successful.Period..!

1)Relaxed Body language 2)Selective eye contact 3)Non-Reactiveness/Silence/Patient response 4)Framing the situation 5)No matter what... you will be okay.

Realizing that no matter what happens, I'll be okay, is exactly how I survived my childhood. I used to stress so much then after so many dramatic plot twists, I realized if I survived all that, I will survive whatever else comes my way and that's when I stopped stressing as much. I hadn't really connected it with confidence before but I can see the connection now. Interesting. 🤔

@bbx7739

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. I am the only one who is not afraid to speak up, regardless of their position. After you collect your guts to stand up to your parents, you have no fear standing up to anyone :)

@pastelteaaniiii

2 жыл бұрын

Truth.

@bernhardsonn7758

2 жыл бұрын

Uf

@fredricmontana5420

2 жыл бұрын

In the end, most people wont survive. 🙂

@lyrebird9749

11 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear what happened to you. But have faith in yourself, you are strong and capable. You have survived. You will survive. Peace.

Amazing content. I had to watch it few times and think about situations i was in. This is spot on and very helpful.

Your videos are awesome! I'm loving them so much I'm watching some that doesn't seem so much applicable to me. Still I get some gems on them. The advice to internalise the belief that everything is gonna be ok hit me hard. I have a fear of being alone and I'm solving this with therapy, but your explanation made total sense to me. Really thinking and believing that would solve almost all the social awkwardness I usually have.

Stop worrying about always needing to say the right thing because you think the other person or the group might reject you, because you know that you will never reject yourself --- this really hit man, ty for this video

@synaesthesia4183

3 жыл бұрын

Same here!

"My name is Don" what a great pickup line, I'll definitely use it!

@dogguyful

2 жыл бұрын

My name is Bond, James Bond

@petezah4597

2 жыл бұрын

@@dogguyful my name is Don, Don Don

@dogguyful

2 жыл бұрын

@@petezah4597 Hahaha 😂

@tinockovietea2470

2 жыл бұрын

Don Dada on the down low

@MundoGamesDo

2 жыл бұрын

@@petezah4597 Tava aqui no baile escutando aquele som

I watched this video a few years back and I forgot that after I applied the steps it completely changed how everyone around me viewed me seemingly overnight props to this channel

Exactly what I needed to hear at the moment. Thanks!!

If only real people were scripted to react perfectly to everything I say.

@VoidVerses

4 жыл бұрын

Stfu punk

@CoolDrifty

4 жыл бұрын

@@VoidVerses nah he's right. you can do everything right in a conversation and the other person will still be awkward and antisocial.

@VoidVerses

4 жыл бұрын

@@CoolDrifty you didn't get the joke... oh well 🤣

@CoolDrifty

4 жыл бұрын

Jesus Eduardo well I’ve heard better jokes

@VoidVerses

4 жыл бұрын

@@CoolDrifty no, you heard easier jokes..

"you will be okay no matter what" yes this is powerful

@ryshlovanoodo7591

4 жыл бұрын

Not to me lol.

@vutrung6874

4 жыл бұрын

@@ryshlovanoodo7591 :))

@sentvero2025

4 жыл бұрын

Looks > Confidence

@ryshlovanoodo7591

4 жыл бұрын

I should have died in my thirty's.

I'd always thought of Charisma on Command as often the Don Draper University! A good thing for focus and attention and intention!

True confidence it's just being yourself in any situation and speaking your mind when needed

How to be confident Step 1: steal someone else’s personality and life

@reyjoson7895

4 жыл бұрын

Alex Step1: migrate Step 2: steal someone else’s personality and life

@matttheamerican3766

4 жыл бұрын

Not funny. Dudes actually do this crap

@CaliburovX4

4 жыл бұрын

Rey Joson Step three: Profit.

@bobbye7353

4 жыл бұрын

He isn't talking about his personality at all. This is all about behavior. How mature successful men behave.

@tcnotrvlr

4 жыл бұрын

stealing someone else's personality and life? Wack! You'll end up like Edward Norton's character at the end of The Italian Job movie from 2003- A no originality, unconfident, LOSER that can't decide who they Actually are.

Let’s be real here, most of Don’s confidence comes from the fact that he drinks so much. Drunk people are just more confident no matter what.

@seconds-js7pf

4 жыл бұрын

Because they arent constantly worrying about consequences and living in the moment

@robertbelyea5767

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. No matter what there's always a drink to cure what ails ya.

@Yjkishke

4 жыл бұрын

If only it were that easy

@bighands69

4 жыл бұрын

Don is not confident because he drinks. That is just pure nonsense. He is confident because he does not actually care about most of the things that shape other people. He does not care about money in the way other people does, he does not care what others think and above all he is willing to just try. Everybody knows a Don Draper. That does not mean he is a good person morality is something different.

@lf2208

4 жыл бұрын

Don Draper's confidence comes from the fact that he is a character in a TV show, and he is only written into scenes where he is, and can be, confident.

I’ve lived my life so far by the adage “this too shall pass”… idk why it stuck with me so hard the first time I heard it but it’s literally how I operate my life on the daily now. This saying has gotten me through countless excruciating physical AND emotional pain over the years and I really believe it’s changed me for the better

@lewiskori9426

12 күн бұрын

I agree with you. The day I learned about the hedonic treadmill was the day my life changed for the better. Deep down I always know that everything is temporary.

New to this channel Really like what I have seen an heard Have been going through this stuff for 28yrs of sobriety The pause is one of the best things to master Also from Jorden Peterson that you have talked about you want to be thought of as dangerous And the stance is part of it Comand the pace Thanks like your channel

Building self-confidence will change your life. Have an amazing day.

@stevenorfolk7008

4 жыл бұрын

100% truth

@wgaule

4 жыл бұрын

You can't change your life, it only happens once.

@TheAbrahamHD

4 жыл бұрын

No, YOU have an amazing day.

@wgaule

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheAbrahamHD Shut up dummy!

@Elias___

4 жыл бұрын

No

This channel went from how to act charismatically to how to fix your life principles and improve your life drastically in less then 3 years

@thedogofchucknorris

4 жыл бұрын

Ferrel Brendan than*

@AutumnOnFire

4 жыл бұрын

Is that not one in the same?

@fbmw98

4 жыл бұрын

@@thedogofchucknorris corrected, thanks mate

@fbmw98

4 жыл бұрын

@@AutumnOnFire Having a principle will result in consistency and makes people automatically charismatic.

@paatrick90

4 жыл бұрын

@@fbmw98 The biggest thing that happened this week was when someone said "thanks" to a grammar correction in a KZread, instead of getting triggered. The tiniest thing ever, but I felt inspired by this. Good mindset.

Phenomenal insight here! Thank you so much for sharing. Cheers, Britt

@Joy_ads

Жыл бұрын

Do you know what movie that Don guy is in

I've seen many videos so far, and this is my favorite. Thank you!

Internal confidence can also be called *SELF-ESTEEM* - Ultimately, it boils down to mastering your own psychology and understanding that you have unlimited powers

@Bennevisie

4 жыл бұрын

Don Draper had self esteem? You sure?

@Infinite_exhilaration

4 жыл бұрын

VariableVision Absolutely! confidence isn’t something someone always radiates, it fluctuates, not everyone always feel amazing every second of every day, Don Draper definitely has had confidence at some point in his life, and may be feeling that exact way right now, it’s something you cultivate that takes time, so your answer is a bit obvious, sometimes you feel confident, sometimes not, everyone has had confidence at one point in their life

@lukaseckart8583

4 жыл бұрын

If ones self-esteem is based on the believe that one has unlimited powers, one will at some point fail and then be forced to question it. This is far from mastering ones psychology I guess... Knowing ones limits, being confident about the potentual one has and honest about all of it seems like self-esteem that is way more natural. Just my thougt on it tho..

@Bennevisie

4 жыл бұрын

@@Infinite_exhilaration Don Draper definitely had confidence. But I would argue his self destructive behaviour (alcoholism, serial cheating on his wife, constant lying) is rather a sign of lack of self esteem. One should not confuse self esteem with confidence. One runs much deeper and the other is more superficial and ego-centric.

@Infinite_exhilaration

4 жыл бұрын

VariableVision I’m a contradiction because I agree and disagree with you. You should never mix self esteem with confidence, however... people’s behavior, it changes over time, take Robert Downey Jr by example, his life was going essentially nowhere, and he made a decision to completely change the course of his life, and arguably kick started the MCU. Now... I’m not talking that big of a change, but he could of been known for binge drinking 4 months ago, and has that stigma, but 3 weeks ago, without us knowing, he made the decision to stop drinking, or drink less and less, so... it’s very difficult in my opinion to judge someone on their past behavior when change is just one decision away, and your argument may be people don’t change, and it’s a possibility like most people they are basing that statement from their own personal experience. Today he could of made a decision to change everything around. The truth is we don’t know. It’s the same as having a best friend always hung out in Highschool, you graduated, moved to a different state, visited him 3 years later, you can be a completely different person, so much so he doesn’t even recognize you

So basically accepting oneself is the very key factor on being confident, kinda mind blowing that it also goes around by the famous saying "once you start believing in yourself, anything is possible".

@jns08d

2 жыл бұрын

This is SO TRUE, 5 years ago I was a super insecure college student, got some therapy and now I'm more in love with myself than ever.

Have you ever done a video on charisma and confidence demonstrated by non attractive people? That would be intriguing. As for example on this video, around 1:30, he’s leaned back and looks comfortable, but a larger person would be getting a double chin and can come across “different” because of that. That’s obviously a small thing, but it got me thinking of how every video I’ve seen relates to those that already have a natural physical attractiveness that makes “mental” attractiveness maybe not “easier” but at least amplified

@erikig

Жыл бұрын

Good point, maybe watching videos of guys that weren’t traditionally attractive like Churchill, Idi Amin etc (and the actors that have played them in movies). Notice what they are doing when they seem their most confident and charismatic. 😊

Wow!!!! I didn’t know that I needed to hear this until today

DO a tommy shelby from Peaky blinders confidence/dominating a situation breakdown! most intimidating without trying character in any show (sorry tywin)

@ArtdeStoicisme

4 жыл бұрын

BY ORDER OF THE FOOKIN PEAKY BLINDERS

@tylerdurden8640

4 жыл бұрын

FOOK YES

@redweather6315

4 жыл бұрын

YES. I get intimidated through the screen even tho hes a good guy.

@CarDrifter007

4 жыл бұрын

"I am Thomas Fookin Shelby."

@nelmarcus234

4 жыл бұрын

Bump

The only reason he drapes his hand over the adjacent chair so often is because his name is Don Draper and I cannot be convinced otherwise

@stevekemp7091

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 best comment ever on any video in the world

@TheDoomer666

3 жыл бұрын

ah man, English joke, I don't get it

@stevekemp7091

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheDoomer666 you speak very good England sir

@Pastadeadguy

3 жыл бұрын

nooo dons drapes his hand because hes confident broo he feels comfortable with himself and his environment brooo you gotta hear me out bro it’s nota cuz his last names draper brooooooo

@mochalatte8878

3 жыл бұрын

@@Pastadeadguy it’s a joke-

It was a rough day, watching this video made me fell better. Thank you.

Video aside, Im so glad you exposed me to this shows existense, it is absolutely incredible. Jon Hamm absolutely NAILS this role in an almost surreal perfect fashion.

Successful people don't become that way overnight.what most people see at a glance-wealth,a great career,purpose- is the result of hardwork and hustle over time.

@greglampard1821

3 жыл бұрын

You're right sir

@greglampard1821

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for introducing me to expert mr smith greenwoods of financial education

@wellingtonchristopher9422

3 жыл бұрын

Most people don't invest due to ignorance

@wellingtonchristopher9422

3 жыл бұрын

People are scared of investing because of the high rate of scam in the business

@wellingtonchristopher9422

3 жыл бұрын

There are scammers but real brokers are out there for investors

Confidence isn't about getting other peoplr to agree with you or accept you, it's about living your life without worry. I think that a lot of the reasons people watch this channel come from wanting social acceptance. Ironically, that means that for many of us (myself included), the biggest obstical to overcome in being charismatic, is what drove us to try to be in the first place.

@billthebax5578

4 жыл бұрын

Vael Ryker well put. When my son was about 4th grade I was listening to him and his buddy's sitting around talking. (My son was born with bi-lateral club feet) one of the boys told him, so and so is faster than you. His answer, big deal everyone is faster than me. Too cool, that ended right there. That kid tried to step on him, but found nothing to step on.

you will never reject yourself... love this

Madmen is a great series worth watching on so many levels.

How to be like Don Draper: Step 1: When in doubt, remain absolutely silent Step 2: When asked about your past give vague and open ended answers Step 3: Have a great name Step 4: Look fantastic in a suit, look fantastic in casual wear, look fantastic in anything. Sound good. Smell good. Kiss good. Strutt around with supreme confidence. Take 6 hour lunches. Disappear for weeks at a time! Lie to everyone about everything and most importantly... Drink and smoke constantly. Basically... Be Don Draper

@bohdanrohachenko7650

4 жыл бұрын

And die from a liver failure due to constantly smoking and drinking.

@afonsolucas2219

4 жыл бұрын

Guys, this is a sketch from SNL with Jon Hamm. It's perfect go watch it.

@evindrews

4 жыл бұрын

step 5: crumble as a human being

@binal-flecki2387

4 жыл бұрын

*Boss asks me something* *Stays absolutely silent*

@afonsolucas2219

4 жыл бұрын

@@binal-flecki2387 Boss: ... You're promoted.

With Confidence it is also to remind yourself that everyone is going through things, everyone is up in their own heads worrying about themselves. Once you realise this it is so easy to walk around with ease and assured in who you are. Everyone is human. With any scenario that scares you, ask yourself the simple question ‘What is the worst outcome that can happen from this situation’, usually it isn’t half as bad as we make it out to be! Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Challenge yourself everyday and you will step into a Confident Person. All the love and incredible video, Thank you x

@fibonaccisrazor

3 жыл бұрын

That was everything in a nutshell - spot on, I think.

@dorian_tihi5869

3 жыл бұрын

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It’s crazy how simple stuff like this is but the way we were programmed growing up made shot like this never go through my head

How true and to the point ! Thanks for sharing. God bless !

Being brought up in a loving and supportive environment and being physically attractive are the most important contributors to confidence.

@njhd9923

3 жыл бұрын

What if I told u that even with those 2 things u could still not be confident 🤔

@dhiadridi4062

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely wrong answer

@dorian_tihi5869

3 жыл бұрын

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If you spend time getting to know yourself, and learn to love and accept that person then you strengthen the most important relationship of your life, the one you have with yourself. If that relationship is solid then you always have an inner safe haven no matter what is going on around you. That self love and understanding allows you to stay true to yourself in every situation, that is the deepest form of confidence.

@percyvalle921

3 жыл бұрын

True

@JoseSantos-el8nj

2 жыл бұрын

Yes but also improving that old self version of you is necessary sometimes, not only accepting it, doing something about if you feel unhappy about certain aspects of yourself

@marcschox4769

2 жыл бұрын

@@JoseSantos-el8nj exactly bro i gotta hit the gym im not gonna accept myself being skinny

@JoseSantos-el8nj

2 жыл бұрын

@@marcschox4769 That's what I've been doing bro, keep it up you're gonna make it

thanks for the advice, definitely learned a lot~

Such a great video, thank you for creating this.

you gotta hit rock bottom first before truly being confident

@ASJacob

4 жыл бұрын

Been there, I wish that on everyone who wants to become their greatest self! The darker the weather, the better the man!

@shakaabs7102

4 жыл бұрын

Sh.sudaysi.quraan.baqara.

@cecee3480

4 жыл бұрын

Hitting rock bottom doesn't make you confident it makes you ruthless.

@kkibela

4 жыл бұрын

That whole.. Im going to be fine is what really does it.. And the no ducks given that comes out of rock bottom is what makes people relentlessly unegotistically authentic in every interaction..and relaxed biddy language.. That's confidence.. And it's unique to everyone.. Best to find your own rather than copy anyone partly.. Just comes off as creepy and untrustworthy.

@owennbeats

4 жыл бұрын

how do I hit rock bottom

I totally and finally fell in love with the Don Draper character when he embraced the other guy in genuine empathy and in a gesture of comfort. That was his defining moment as a human. Also, Jon Hamm. Wow. What an amazing actor.

@raydencreed1524

3 жыл бұрын

@Janna Zepp When the dude was describing his dream, I felt like I wanted to give him a hug. And then Don goes and actually does it, holy crap.

@jannazepp5161

3 жыл бұрын

Greg Walker yes. It is totally conditional. We don’t like whiny wimps who tell us who they think we are. We like men who don’t blame us for everything that is wrong. We like men who like women. We hate men who hate women. So yeah. You are right. It IS conditional. Those are the conditions. I have my own money. My husband has his own money. Get a job, a clue, snd stop being a weakling.

I need to watch this video every day. You know, I think I will. This will be my morning routine.

I love this contet, thank you so much! I agree it's a ig relief once you adopt the midset, that no matter what you will be ok. It allows you to speek your truth with self respect and respect for the other person.

How To Be Confident In Any Situation. 1: Look like Don Draper 2: Look like Don Draper 3: Look like Don Draper

@hwdareu5848

3 жыл бұрын

Don't forget to have money, I mean alot of money 😁

@karolbednarczyk3107

3 жыл бұрын

You create your own reality by choosing what you believe in. 99% of your reactions are coming from subconscious, reactions become habits, and habits become your reality.

@Dwight_

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry but comments like yours are always the most pethatic. Is that only thing you got from this video?

@mnbvmnbv7934

3 жыл бұрын

@@Dwight_ joke bro

@Dwight_

3 жыл бұрын

@@mnbvmnbv7934 i think some of the guys who write stuff like that mean it.

"Keeping emotional expression in check actually inspires resolves in others" - this is actual gold.

@shawarmageddonit

4 жыл бұрын

Well, not "ACTUAL".

Pretty sure you just fixed my confidence, Thanks alot.

1, Be relaxed 2. Selective eye contact 3. Don't fidget or react 4. Stay silent under pressure and let yourself take time to respond - time feels faster when you're stressed 5. Share your interest but walk away if it is not reciprocated 6. Believe that no matter what you do (socially), you will be okay (internal confidence)

The harm with these courses is that anything can be interpreted as "charismatic behaviour". When looking at successful people and fictional characters where their behaviour is rewarded through plot and their social status instead of behaviour, anything can be deemed successful. If there was a character that did the opposite of Don, it could be explained as charisma as well. In The end, be yourself.

@fidecardnet9149

3 жыл бұрын

i do think that knowing you will be fine no matter what happens in a given situation is very helpful if you wanna be confident

@miguelbombas4000

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was thinking! This 'rules' must be followed as advices but not strictly. One must adapt them to the situation.

@pangnicolas4056

3 жыл бұрын

No, be Don

@markobanovic5062

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t agree with you, the science behind the body language will tell you otherwise

@neliaferreira9983

3 жыл бұрын

i see your point. But there is a reason Mad Men is such a good show: Jon Hamm played Don Draper so damn well. The character is actually charismatic. Because of the body language and voice all the jazz Jon infused into the character. Unlike other shows/movies where the actor missed the mark.

"You'll stop worrying that other people will reject you because you know you'll never reject yourself." I was taken aback by how hard that line hit me.

When you keep your word to your self you gain the mindset of knowing and trusting yourself to act /“react” as necessary in any situation, bc your body and intuition go based on how you carry yourself, and then life is more intriguing bc your body trusts your mind and vise versa so you just “do it”

Besides what is going on under your own roof and that of your loved ones, treat life as a game and everything will be all right. That includes the position that everything will be okay no matter what. If you implement this concept, you will never get nervous, anxious, fidgety. You will be in control of yourself and the situation you are in and you won’t be afraid to put people in their place (nicely or not sometimes) when they get out of line. The world will be your oyster and the world will get out of your way of making things happen.

This is what I’ve been saying for years. Once you fall into that mindset of everything is NOT going to be ok, you literally become this. Thank you... finally someone understands what I’ve been saying.

Confidence is a feeling, it's an emotion, it's thought. It's always internal. "External confidence" as you put it, that is by definition a facade.

@vincentmutel7313

2 жыл бұрын

Or maybe a projection of internal confidence ?

@RL-fr4hf

2 жыл бұрын

fake it till you make it applies. If you act confident then eventually you will become confident, as long as it's for the right reasons.

I laugh at myself because I have enjoyed some episodes from the show referenced and Jon Hamm's entertaining Don Draper portrayal and I am surprised that I missed these self confident lessons until now, this Charisma on Command channel puts the ideas in an easy to understand and amusing format.

thank you man for your last advice about being honest to word others no matter what are the outcomes. I believe that is the most where people like me fail since we are afraid of rejection.

"I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until I became that person" Cary Grant

How accurate this is is actually kind of crazy. I've followed most of these in the past and have deviated recently while going through some things and allowing myself to be off balance. I used to spend so much time on my own thinking and pondering what the ideal way to be happy and so on and so forth is. At the end of my day I'd reassess: What happened today, what was the goal here, why did it go the way it did, why did someone react the way they did, what could I have done different.... ANYWAY. Being honest and therefore speaking from a place where you feel grounded and stable and therefore confident while being open to being wrong and realizing you will be ok no matter what. the world is up to your interpretation. is all there is to it.

@TrupimOkiemTV

4 жыл бұрын

wow that was good

@Metallicuz

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to write this.

No idea how i found your channel, but awesome videos. Keep it up

Today, in hopes of attracting attention from my crush, I made several jokes in class and everyone laughed including the teacher! Thanks for giving me confidence. I'm still getting there...

@nathanthenewbie8325

Жыл бұрын

Proud of you bro and dont be afraid to get rejected