Hi Both, I am a quiet sub on your channel and wanted to reach out and comment about this mornings Coffee Moaning. Thank you so much for chatting about post birth mental health. I had a traumatic emergency c-section that gave me terrible anxiety, triggered my OCD and left me traumatised. My daughter is 8 now and I still feel emotionally bruised from the whole experience. No one spoke about how I would feel, my husband had no idea how to be supportive and if I am totally honest, I didnt want his support as I resented him for coming out of the whole experience unscathed. My baby girl was the best baby ever, she was such a pleasure and has never given us any trouble, she makes being a parent easy and I will forever feel guilty for not enjoying those first few weeks with her. Things settled down for me and I loved maternity leave and adore being a Mummy but still feel tender about the subject and feel more should talk about it so THANK YOU!! 😘😘 x x x

@louisahackett5732

16 күн бұрын

Oh Rachel I feel every one of your words. I was told I needed an emergency c-section at 8 months pregnant. I later found out I didn’t need to have it. I then suffered from infection after infection for 12 months after it, where my scar wouldn’t heal and kept slitting open. Now 12 years on I have a hernia caused by the operation as well as feeling all the emotions you explain as it seems no one, not even my husband has a clue what actually happened to me. I totally understand you. Sending hugs 💕

@AnnamarieShellard

16 күн бұрын

Sensing you so much love ❤️ xxx

@racheldonaldson355

16 күн бұрын

Thank you both! ❤️ Sending hugs to you Louisa and anyone who felt like this after birth! ❤️It was a time in my life that I felt so alone. I was battered and bruised, my life and body changed overnight and I often feel I am 'over it' but I cried this morning hearing this and all the messages and I often feel envy for ladies who get the lovely birth experience they wanted (and deserve) We also sadly lost a pregnancy before having my little girl and we got pregnant very quickly afterwards so I dont think I was fully over that, not that you ever get over it! I think an experience like this stays with you forever. Hope Nadia and Mark do a full video on this, it really helps to know others feel the same x x x

First birth was extremely traumatic, thought me and my son were dying, left alone, awful care by midwives. Second birth I had trauma counselling before and a plan in place with the hospital so that I felt safe and informed. Even though I was very ill and nearly died after the second birth I am not traumatised as my care was human and kind this time. Feeling safe and heard makes all the difference for physical and mental health postnatally! X

Well said Nadia!!!! It’s a small point but period product adverts annoy me so much!! The ones that show you can still play tennis and do major sports whilst on your period. Why don’t we have adverts showing the benefits of chocolate, hot water bottles and painkillers??!!! Because we’re expected to ‘keep calm and carry on’ despite being in immense pain and feeling utterly rubbish 😦

They didn't tell me aunt that she had hemorrhaged when she had my cousin's and she for ages thought that she had post natal depression when actually she had just lost A LOT of blood and needed more rest and nutrition and shouldn't have been trying to breastfeed straight away. Nightmare, if she had just been told to rest more, take some iron supplements, vitamins, and drink more water she probably would have recovered quicker.

@AnnamarieShellard

16 күн бұрын

That's shocking Eirieann,was your aunt ok after? Sadly these awful stories are not rare anymore as I'm reading so many neglectful stories regarding care in the NHS.x

I remember taking a maternity class before my birth and there was no mention about mental health, just what to expect physically.

My first son was born at 23 weeks. I got admitted after a routine scan 48hrs later he was born. I was constantly told I was having a miscarriage and being my first I didn't really think what this 23 weeker would look like. I was in a room on my own, it was a special room because I commented how nice it was and the midwife told me it was for women who loose babies. Up until the last 30 minutes I just had 1 midwife in and out, I asked for stronger pain relief and she said it's not procedure to give anything other than paracetamol for a miscarriage. What I hated every hr that day she came in to listen to the heartbeat I remember thinking if it's a miscarriage why has it got a heartbeat. I stopped her from doing this in the end it was to upsetting. 30 mins before he was born a anesthetist came in because my husband was constantly outside asking for help the guy raised his voice at the midwife when asked why I was only on paracetamol and I could have gas & air. After a few puffs of this he was born within seconds there were 10 people in the room and the doctor held my son up quickly to show me. I will never forget I was in shock it was a baby I couldn't belive it small but a BABY 😮 the doctor told us he was trying so hard we had to help him. Being told I was having a miscarriage for 48 hrs I didn't know what this would look like I was totally confused. I always think about that anesthetist he was so lovely to me and stayed by my side untill the very end. Felix came home 5 months later on his due date 😊 he has just turned 18 and starting uni in September doing a degree in Music. He is our star in the family 🤩

Unfortunately unable catch any lives..on way to Germany for my brother's funeral..sadly died from pancreatic cancer aged 53..one day after his birthday on 5th May😥..love to you all❤xxx

@kmreed295

16 күн бұрын

Sending big hugs 🤗 It’s such a sadness to lose a sibling ❤️

@lindabeattie307

14 күн бұрын

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@cch7007

12 күн бұрын

❤ so sorry xxx

Is there a traumatic birth team? Should be one for immediately afterwards. Ive had four natural births that were fairly normal but i was in tears hearing this. I was 20 and dad told to go home straight after birth as it was night time. I was terrified and no staff could hardly walk from the spinal, dragged myself down the corridor to go to the toilet leaving my baby alone as i was so out of it still. My last baby i was being stitched up before the local had even kicked in it was excruciating. But that was nothing in comparison i can easily see how you can have ptsd from a horrendous birth.

I have ptsd for nursing in A&E during Covid and Rishi does nothing about us nurses still suffering. It's very sad

Sex Education is so very important for children in Primary School. I actually did my thesis on the subject before I became a Primary School Teacher, and as a result questioning many parents about their thoughts on the subject. In the main, most parents DID want 'age appropriate Information' to be discussed in classrooms. Many girls starting puberty early do need information. There are so many Primary schools that haven't any provision for girls who start menstruation! This results in embarrassing and traumatic situations, sadly. Boys often behave inappropriately towards girls in the classroom because they have seen 'inappropriate behaviour 'on TV ..or watch their peers behave inappropriately, so this needs to be addressed too. Of course ,this should be done tailored to their level of understanding. I believe there are many 'areas, (or subject matters) that come within the umbrella of Sex Ed can be taught later in Senior schools, when the young adults are able to process and understand more complex issues ;gender; for example example etc. Teachers who come across pupils who are having 'gender issues' in Primary schools should be given induvial support. I think its about the about the right information, at the right time. Not having basic sex education until a child is 9 doesn't makes any sense. The government suggesting that ''explicit” discussions on topics such as contraception being delayed until the age of 13, in my view is too late! According to the Telegraph in 2010 ..There were 268 pregnancies of 12 year-old girls, 2,527 of 13 year-olds, 14,777 of 14 year-olds and 45,861 of 15 year-olds. It is not known how many of the pregnancies were carried to full term or aborted, nor how the girls became pregnant so young.

Such an important conversation about childbirth and just being listened to in general when you go to the doctors and feel so unheard. We know our bodies, but no one listens😢

Superb coffee Moaning there Nadia and Mark. Well said Nadia regarding the NHS and how they should do better on the Maternity units. I have ordered Louise'S Book Lucky and yes you should have her on for a live or pre recorded chat. I hope and pray that things in the Maternity units of Hospitals improve for the better. Women need to be listened to. Katherine Zwink from Chelmsford Pleshey Essex.

Afternoon mark Nadia so sorry not joined for a long time my mental health is bad because of my cancer I’m so trying not to let it get to me but it’s hard hope ur both well ❤

@kmreed295

16 күн бұрын

Big hugs 🤗

@LoveFalmouth

16 күн бұрын

More hugs from here ❤

@suewood6243

16 күн бұрын

Thank you for the hugs x

I've had the sex talk with my now 15 year old a few times now, first time quite early because he became very aware of his bits at 3/4, but when I started home Ed with him found appropriate videos for him to watch with it, I was never given the talk growing up, I never asked questions either, I do think with how much mors open we are, it's a good idea for parents to try aswell or at least let them know the number for the local family planning clinic etc, even for girls with contraception they may need that, that is something not covered in schools, it's very vague, here's a condom that's all I remember really

Mark your T-shirt looks like the new painting of the king, the colour!! Nadia your video, thank you both for your safe space❤

Love the portrait ♥️

THANK YOU NADIA AND MARK FOR A VERY INTERESTING. COFFEE MORNING. YOU. BOTH DID VERY WELL ♥️♥️❌❌❌❌❌❌❌

I don’t live in the UK anymore, I’m in the Caribbean. My first daughter (now 9) was by emergency c-section. They put you to sleep here. I woke in recovery room with not a soul around me, not knowing if I even had a baby! Hours went by before someone trundled me into the ward.. where I finally met her! Ive definitely still got ptsd.. I’m very careful not to say too much to expecting mums.. other than encourage to go with the flow & not stick to a ‘plan’ too much! People really beat themselves up if it’s not how they wanted❤

I had such a traumatic first birth I opted for a c section with the second and it was so much calmer and nicer to me. I can’t believe she didn’t get offered a c section so awful for her

Did you know that Autism and adhd can show itself as psychosis and ptsd the studies are out

I think it’s stunning the portrait

They are all scared of being sued, hence the silence!!

the kings portrait yikes, what on earth, bring back taste and grace 🙃

I don’t mind this. I’m not sure about the red in the background

Been busy,glad to catch up!Your still sexy Mark😁x

Way too many adverts on this

I HAD. A. HORRIBLE. BIRTH. MARK AND NADIA. I. ENDED. UP GETTING POST. NATAL DEPRESSION. I WAS. Admitted. IN A NORMAL WARD. IT. WAS. HORRIBLE. MY. DEPRESSION LASTED 9. MONTHS 😥. MY. MARRIAGE ENDED. IN DIVORSE. IM. 60 NOW. AND. NEVER. FORGET.....

Sorry guys. But the Charles portrait looks like a poster for a horror movie. Nightmare fuel.

Thank goodness we have private medical aid, do you not have an option?

Not bothered about him or Holly too. False .

Mark, that’s a great idea about relationship education in schools. I’d be interested to know what teachers think because I’m sure they are under so much more pressure to be all things to all people as educators.

I think he will but I also hve little interest in Phillip Schofield

*silent sub* … Not sure how relevant this is but I’m 8 months post partum and this story has really hit home for me. My little boy was born via planned c section but it wasn’t an easy request. I managed to battle my way to 42 weeks without being persuaded to have an induction (my choice) and was then told that being induced would be the best option for me as I wasn’t allowed my plan A birth (water birth in midlife lead unit) due to going over 40 weeks and it being too ‘risky’, however, my gut instinct told me that this wasn’t right and so I asked for a planned c section instead. I had to really fight for this even though it’s our right, as mothers, to make this decision and be respected for this, no matter what the circumstance. Louise was wronged by the nhs in so many ways. As someone who had a great c section experience, my heart goes out to her ❤ X

Ive always had a fear of giving birth. When i fell pregnant with my now 18 yr old son i spent the whole pregnancy dreading labour but also in denial that it would happen to the point i didnt attend classes, didnt express my concerns to my midwife. Following a traumatic induction over 2 days i was finally given an emergency c section. I was very reluctant after that to go through it all again. However i fell pregnant 10 yrs later which resulted in a 13 wk miscarriage. My first thought when i was staring at the lifeless scan screen was thank God i dont have to go through that again. Hideous i know and i now feel differently and deeply upset for the loss but post partum trauma is horrific 😢

I don't like the portrait it looks like the Royal family are blowing up

Hope he doesn’t come back! 🤮