Emotions are AMPLIFIED for me. I have alot of early trauma...but i was put in emotional charge of my parents at age 3....i was the emotional external hard drive and they literally gave me responsibility for their emotions and ensuing reactions. To survive since age 3 i had to divert my emotions. The grownups were COMPLETELY OUT OF CONTROL. I was in the middle of EVERYTHING SINCE AGE 3. You can only imagine the suffering i have experienced because of the broken people i naturally allowed into my life. I am tired. I dont want to walk in the park. I want to love and indulge the part of me that was traumatized. I want to lovingly reintegrate all those frozen frightened pieces of me.. I want them to feel safe enough to come home.xo

I grew up having my compassion exploited...and my mind and heart got hijacked. Thank you.xo

Mandy keep the vids coming. I need so much help and your vids are really helping me.

Finding your channel is a blessing. Thank You for this.

Best explanation of co-dependance I have heard!

I tend to think I am a reasonable counsellor. And then I watch one of Mandy’s videos and I feel I haven’t scratched the surface. What an incredible insight Mandy has. I am in complete awe of this lady. I can learn so much in a 4 minute video that would take a chapter of a book: Egan, Rogers, Ellis etc. and she often has me in tears through empathy. Mandy, thank you so much.

@monarao8271

2 жыл бұрын

What High maintenance individuals are ?and what their treatment?

@peterjones6733

2 жыл бұрын

@@monarao8271 hi. High maintenance is often a sign of a poor childhood where necessary love and care was lacking. Counselling is about first trying to understand who they are now and some of the why’s. Then, it’s about linking their current situation to the causes and, finally, the long process of de conditioning to help develop a new understanding, the understanding they should have been given while growing up. Depending on the amount of damage, this can be a long process!! All about speaking and listening. Not prescribing drugs. Unless extreme issues.

This is the best description I have every heard!!

you are extremely intelligent and amazing women.big thumps up fr your work

To give from a nourished place

@-441-

Жыл бұрын

Wise words

Short but a very good video. I can identify with the co-dependancy explanation, not sure about the resentment element though. (Maybe with certain people?). I recommend this video to anyone who is interested in co-dependancy.

Wow x

Omg this is me. This woman like knows me.

I think that this video is great but there is an under explored aspect of enabling within codependency. This is that some enablers actually like the caretaker role; form a sense of identity around it and feel that it gives them a role in life.

Pls tell something about high maintenance people

I had 2 EXTREMELY HIGH MAINTENANCE PARENTS. They created 3 heavily codependent humans who went on to incidentally hurt so many others.

The converse of this when you have two

@charterharleystreet can both partners be codependent

2:28 ... The person she's describing who feels the resentment, has a narcissistic personality disorder. The partner of such a person, has a narcissistic personality disorder, too. So, attachment and interdependency are features of a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. . Well, thanks Mandy the solutions are easy, for such patients; how to live with one's Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

@Lake31

3 жыл бұрын

So the codependent person is a narcissst?

@youtubeaddict5663

3 жыл бұрын

@@Lake31 DEFINITION of Narcissist (urban dictionary) Someone who has little to no empathy, manipulates others, gaslights (makes others doubt their reality), lies incessantly, believes their own lies. They make you doubt your emotions and then call you crazy. They rage for absolutely no reason and you end up apologizing. It can be a parent, friend, brother, sister, boss, spouse. In the beginning they love bomb you into believing they are prince/princess charming. Then they slowly start to abuse you to have you believe you are insane. It's all to control you. They will isolate you from your family and friends. You will leave the relationship someone you weren't. You will appear confused, unable to make your own decisions, depressed, anxious and with complex PTSD I don’t believe the codependent (the “caretaker”) could be classified as being a narcissist

@REALCrazyCritic

Ай бұрын

Seriously ??

☆●☆●☆● Learning the ART of great nouirshing self care is NOT selfish behaviour - frequently this concept is misunderstood.