They hate it even more when you're gorgeous and inaccessible

@tinyking11

7 ай бұрын

Facts! 💯😂 They want to trap beautiful women so bad.

@LyssieLysse

7 ай бұрын

YES!!!

@tyetye4962

7 ай бұрын

This the one 😮‍💨😮‍💨 they be so upset 😭 😂

@kimoramicheal8353

7 ай бұрын

Yikes!

@diceydaze

7 ай бұрын

oh really...

When men talk about accountability and consequences for women, they mean women should have to suffer.

@sashalawrence4786

7 ай бұрын

Many of them dont really like women. They resent us. I think they want to be us so bad.

@cb4664

7 ай бұрын

And be their concubines…

@aahmonddelite690

7 ай бұрын

​@@cb4664I SAY THIS TO THEM...🖕🏾

@deirdremorris9234

7 ай бұрын

And women dont suffer enough by birthing YOUR "LEGACY". Its all nonsense.

@misssincere5762

7 ай бұрын

They want us to suffer! Me and my friend were just talking on the phone for that! 😭😭😭😭😭

Poverty causes trauma.

@misssincere5762

7 ай бұрын

It does! 😭😭😭😭

@lillierose5304

7 ай бұрын

Its true. And 'poverty' stems from how society has been structured.

@lealmelisa

7 ай бұрын

But mostly in the sense that if someone is poor they shouldn't have kids and if they have kids they could hustle and try to be a good parent but mostly the kid will be the punching bag for the bad reactions of the bad parent, low income parents get angry they are poor and decide to punish their kids. So always the parents to blame.

@Sky-yh3ml

6 ай бұрын

Being poor and single is middle class these days

@TheGoldenPlatoon757

5 ай бұрын

​@lealmelisa Truth and this is by someone with these types of parents. It honestly boggles my mind how they fuck their own lives up, then get mad when we get upset at how shit life was living under them as a result.

Bw are taking accountability, by being child free. Which means less fatherless homes in the bc. Now bm are calling us selfish for not having children. Im convinced bm just want bw to be miserable and overwhelmed.

@QueenLaCheefa

7 ай бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

@BrayBray78

7 ай бұрын

That's exactly what they want

@zerotolerance2026

7 ай бұрын

They want you to be miserable and use the kids to keep you attached to them and their degeneracy. I’m sitting here, in my peaceful clean home, bills paid, drinking a cup of coffee…..contemplating my day. So yeah…. I’m selfish and loving every minute of it!🤸🏽‍♂️

@deirdremorris9234

7 ай бұрын

I cant speak for the Black Community, but men everywhere need to deconstruct patriarchy bx its screwed them too! This idea that you can be the king of your little kingdom is bunk. The church nor state truly supoorts the family. They certainly dont support women nor children.

@misssincere5762

7 ай бұрын

Yep

53 and no kids. Not one second of regret (evil laugh). Writing this as I lay on a Saturday morning in my RH bed with 400 thread count sheets in my peaceful condo drinking an espresso after sleeping in as long as I felt like. I don’t understand why all these women even feel the need to justify or explain why they don’t want kids. Ladies, you don’t have to justify a damn thing. This is YOUR life. PERIOD.

@zerotolerance2026

7 ай бұрын

Sounds glorious! And to see women still on social media begging to get married and have kids is crazy to me. Even with proof in their families, statistics and all over social media….they still think their outcome will be different.🥴

@aahmonddelite690

7 ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾💯👏🏾💯👏🏾

@deirdremorris9234

7 ай бұрын

​@@zerotolerance2026Right!? Im married, mom, grandma. Very happy, but I think I got the unicorn? But I dont recommend it as neither church nor state support women, babies or families. What they do support is patriarchy and every pays dearly for that. My daughter against my warnings, got with a guy. So many red flags! Had a kid. She is now separated from him and got her tubes tied!

@l.a.perrotte9908

7 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 you go girl. ❤❤❤

@jungersrules

7 ай бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯💯 Same. I'm 51 and also have not had a single moment of thinking, "it would be nice to have kids." NEVER crossed my mind. My dog is enough, lol.

Unmarried 38 year old and childfree career woman from South Africa. The insults from African people are horrible. they call me a barren witch with issues, and no one can love me. I don't am care. I can afford my life, I am well traveled and very happy.

@Tigerlily_Fresh

7 ай бұрын

They're jealous. Please watch your back and protect yourself. That kind of aggression sounds dangerous.

@bintokiria5338

7 ай бұрын

I feel you 😢

@almamater9346

7 ай бұрын

Here to support you sis, from the US. They try it over here too, but we're not hearing any of that noise. Do you boo. We're learning in the age of Diddy's, R Kelly's, Harvey Weinstein's and other abusers that have been getting away with being predators and still maintaining public support that the majority absolutely can be wrong. I say all that long-windedly to say, you're doing the right thing and don't let anyone try to pull you into their misery and negative energy 💜 edit: *spelling

@glidkomer

6 ай бұрын

Weirdness is all around the world.

@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha

2 ай бұрын

I'm over 40 and Child-FREE so they'll probably accuse me of being Sat@n himself 😆🤣 Oh well. I'm loving MY life... Be encouraged, boo 💗

I got married. Met him at church. Waited till marriage to be intimate. Had a child, ended up a single married mother. Divorced. Now a single mother. It doesn’t matter how perfect you choose you will still be a single mother.

@Ladymagentabennett

7 ай бұрын

Yeah I hate the belief that the woman always did something wrong. Like me say "vet better" there is so such thing.

@lilpinkbubbles6592

7 ай бұрын

@@Ladymagentabennett I love when you do everything right and there are people out here like yourself who say “vet better.” For the most part women are not the problem. I am about empowering women. Telling women to “vet better,” is about making women feel bad when truth is men lie, men cheat, men bring their representative to the relationship for years. It’s their culture.

@Ladymagentabennett

7 ай бұрын

@@lilpinkbubbles6592 I was sympathizing with the original author. I just had a bunch of typos I meant to say "Like men say "vet better", there is NO such thing". I agree it is a statement to undermine the experiences of women with men.

@neneosei7168

6 ай бұрын

what happened??

@melizzamelizza

6 ай бұрын

I keeps telling ppl you can do everything by the book, it don't matter.

Why is it only women who are told that they will regret not having kids?

@zerotolerance2026

7 ай бұрын

Boom!!! Great question!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 They have brainwashed women from birth to believe that marriage and children are the only things that will make them happy. When the truth is those things are what men really desire. A wife to cook and clean and carry his offspring. Women have been scammed for centuries!

@deirdremorris9234

7 ай бұрын

Its a powerplay.

@mesalouis8976

6 ай бұрын

Same reason why Kings used to blame women when their wives did not give birth to a son. It is always our fault.🤷🏾‍♀️

I was a married single mother. Now I am divorced single mother. It is much easier and I love it here!

@sasha69Xurgelash

7 ай бұрын

I know what you mean both my parents been married for over 40 years. My dad won't even go on a 10 day cruise with my mom that both my siblings already paid for. Yet, my mom is cooking a weekly feast while she is gone to make sure he doesn't starve!

@Tigerlily_Fresh

7 ай бұрын

​@@sasha69Xurgelash Couldn't be me. I hate to say it, but if something happens to your Mom, he's going to be counting on one of you all to pick up where your mother left off. 👀

@lillierose5304

7 ай бұрын

I was a much happier kid when my mum finally left my step dad. And motherhood in my experience is much easier without the man.

@God-Love-Freedom

7 ай бұрын

I agree. It’s much easier and cheaper without a worrisome husband.

@lillierose5304

7 ай бұрын

@@gereinhart4155 she never said she wasn't responsible for anything or blamed anyone. She just stated facts that she's happier now single.

Don't do hair n nails, don't go to nursing school. Do something the men do and get the same big bag they do. Electrical engineering. If you want to be an artist, graphic design. If you need to be around kids, go volunteer to eat lunch with em at school once a week.

@NoirNoir9

7 ай бұрын

💯 I made a STEM video, making a trade school video tomorrow

@757Princess

7 ай бұрын

This comment tickles me because I am a medical laboratory scientist and an esthetician. I'm having trouble breaking into the ‘beauty industry’ because I am used to my 9-5 pay

@deamorebeaute2412

7 ай бұрын

Yes, darling. I chose to pursue a career path in Cloud engineering. I used pay IT technicians to fix my computer. Now, I build my own. Don't be afraid to compete with men.

@colinmavrich7131

7 ай бұрын

With all my love, nails and hair aren't bad if you do it right. 1 set of nails cost between 50 and 120 usd and take about 30 minutes to 2 hours to do. It's not a bad gig.

@OhHeyyyThere

7 ай бұрын

The last part about spending time with kids. There are so many(already-born lol) kids who want an adult to spend time with them and talk to them about their own little lives. You don’t have to have your own to be in community with children and make a positive impact on their lives.

50 year old black woman and i decided to never have children this was the best decision i have ever made. All i do is me and i love being responsible for only me

@bbrown5463

7 ай бұрын

Say it again for the people in the back!!!!

@cb4664

7 ай бұрын

53. SAME. Bank accounts on fleek.

@lisamccray9079

7 ай бұрын

I am a 58y old black woman with no kids and I love ❤️ it. Getting ready to turn 59 Jan 1st.

@zerotolerance2026

7 ай бұрын

⁠@@lisamccray9079 Good for you! I bet you look great for a woman that’s almost 59. Not having kids keep you looking young. Happy early birthday to you!🎉

@aahmonddelite690

7 ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

In a world that that does everything to set you up for failure, being a childfree black woman is a major flex. One of the best decisions of my life. I love seeing more black women openly rejecting single motherhood. My life is so peaceful and enriching at 33. Getting sterilized soon as well. People are particularly uncomfortable seeing black women rest, be carefree, and defy all the negative stereotypes.

@AminaPhilosophy

7 ай бұрын

Don’t sterilize yourself. Just require the man to have a vasectomy before touching you.

@Cateyes767

7 ай бұрын

Didn't Korean women go on strike ?😂 they're not having kids and marrying 😂

@missam3404

6 ай бұрын

Having a child or not having a child is not a flex . It's a simple choice 🤦🏽‍♀️

@Sky-yh3ml

6 ай бұрын

@@missam3404flex meaning control n discipline

@cosmicbrownie333

6 ай бұрын

@@missam3404 Oh it's indeed a flex lol Have you spent any time around people with school aged kids under 10? Tired, out of shape and aged by 5-10 years on average. Those are just the couples I know who are in good marriages as well as being financially stable. Big Flex! Wouldn't trade it for the world LMFAOOOO On a serious note though, having a choice IS privilege. A HUGE one at that. Having enough resources to live the way you desire isn't an option everyone has. Unfortunately there are some places in the world where some women are so oppressed and vulnerable due to limited rights that they don't. Hell, look at how they're trying to suppress women's rights in the US to try and force women to birth more children. The numbers are declining globally. Many women view motherhood as overrated and are opting out. At any rate, all choices are valid. May everyone have the ability to say they chose their life

When women are telling you that it's easier to be a divorced single mom than a married single mom, that tells you all you need to know!

Childfree, spayed/neutered, 45. I promise life only gets better, women (and men.)

@cb4664

7 ай бұрын

53. Facts.

@soulshadoww55

8 күн бұрын

Spayed/neutered 🤣🤣🤣

Not having a baby when you don't WANT a baby, or are incapable of giving that baby what it deserves is selfish? But HAVING a baby because you WANT one, but are single and financially not ready is NOT SELFISH? Make it make sense.

@cb4664

7 ай бұрын

Forget financially, how about MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY?? Just out here creating more damaged individuals in the world…cmon now.

@tigre9271

7 ай бұрын

@@cb4664 Agreed!

@aahmonddelite690

7 ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾

@aahmonddelite690

7 ай бұрын

​@@cb4664👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@deirdremorris9234

7 ай бұрын

​@@cb4664Spot on!

Husbandonment. Married single mother. New terms I've learnt this year.

They don’t want our kids anyway. They need to stop stressing us. Focus on who they choosing these days

@aahmonddelite690

7 ай бұрын

Seems like it for some anyway!😂😢😅 THE Jokes on the Women struggling to deal with it and the poor kids who are left damaged by those irresponsible behaviors and acts!

@Tigerlily_Fresh

7 ай бұрын

Yes, let the exoticals & preferences put up with that crap.

@AminaPhilosophy

7 ай бұрын

Let’s reframe and state that we don’t want their children. Why give birth to the children of mentally defective males. Self-hatred is an illness.

@melsutubeification

7 ай бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

@tricieb.5921

7 ай бұрын

​@@Tigerlily_Fresh Exactly!

1:00 she hit the nail on the head. Stop having kids. Then they can stop blaming single mothers.

@camiblutube7116

7 ай бұрын

True, but yeah, they're still gonna blame us for something! That's just how they are! MEN!!! Geesh!

@ineedhoez

7 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@G-Girl449

7 ай бұрын

its the black men thats complaining about birthing them, so that statement should be to cut down on the birth of black males

@Sky-yh3ml

6 ай бұрын

@@camiblutube7116God never should’ve made Adam eve n lily be just fine!!

@antinatalistwitch111

4 ай бұрын

​@Sky-yh3ml what was God's reason to create humans tho? 😢

I tried to get my tubes tied. I was told I had to wait until I was 27 and/or permission from my husband. We have to protect our girls.

@originaleverythingelseisca5977

7 ай бұрын

U are so wrong for doing without talking to ur husband. Why even get married. Girl bye

@nicholetaimi5331

7 ай бұрын

@@originaleverythingelseisca5977I wasn't married. Turns out, he was. He didn't tell me.

@aylanae4797

6 ай бұрын

​@@originaleverythingelseisca5977your assuming way to much... and are triggered asf

@soulshadoww55

8 күн бұрын

@@originaleverythingelseisca5977 She didn't say she didn't talk to her husband. She said the hospital wouldn't do it without her husband's permission. Also, it's her body, when did she become her husband's slave. She should be able to get it done without his "permission." What the fcuk is he, her master or her daddy??

childfree and chillin'

@prettybrwneyez7757

6 ай бұрын

Need a t-shirt for this ❤❤❤❤

I think the reason people call black childfree women "selfish " because we are the mule of the community. How dare we break the stereotype of the welfare queen. How dare we not be a single baby mama struggling. How dare we put ourselves first?

These women not going to listen. A lot of them will still, birth children to this environment. That's selfish.

@Tigerlily_Fresh

7 ай бұрын

Of course, but they'll be the ones left behind in dysfunction. We are not going to be able to take everyone with us to the Promised Land. And I don't have any extra tickets and no I'm not paying their way.

@216Nevar

6 ай бұрын

PERIOD! @@Tigerlily_Fresh

@missam3404

6 ай бұрын

It's not selfish if you want kids

@TheGoldenPlatoon757

5 ай бұрын

​@missam3404 It is when you are unaware of what they have to deal with and go through in school, work, college or literally anything else in their lives.

@antinatalistwitch111

4 ай бұрын

​@missam3404 then provide 1 selfless reason to procreate

I like how one of the ladies pointed out that even being married doesn't save you from being a single mother. Way too many women are waiting for the ring to have kids, I feel sorry for them when they find out they were living in fairyland.

@zerotolerance2026

7 ай бұрын

And they will find out….what most of us already know. Thank God for social media….to help get the word out. Marriage for women is a scam. Hopefully generation Alpha women will be saved.

@tinyking11

7 ай бұрын

They really are. It’s so sad 😭

@elongaabigail8636

7 ай бұрын

That's your own opinion

@lisamccray9079

7 ай бұрын

Also in this day and age the men don't even want to get married 🙄 or work can't win for losing 🙃

@FreeBirdee

7 ай бұрын

⁠@@elongaabigail8636that’s not her opinion..that’s a FACT!!! 29% of single mothers are divorced and 15.6% are separated.

I really like that comment "The longer you willingly go without having a child, the less you want one". That is where I am in life right now. 💁‍♀️

One of the federal inmates where I work said I was selfish for not having children...meanwhile he's in prison while his 4 baby mother's are raising his children.... in poverty and alone.

@saramatthews7159

5 ай бұрын

😂 the irony of it all!

@antinatalistwitch111

4 ай бұрын

His mammy should've been selfish then.

I have three children and married. My oldest daughter wants to be child free and I support her 💯. Apply that pressure ladies

@Ladymagentabennett

7 ай бұрын

Telll her to be sex free, not child free. Just by two cents!

@TABULOUS1

7 ай бұрын

I'm so happy for her & proud of you as her mother! And it looks like I don't need to tell YOU this, but the type of females who can be found trying to po'leece others' wombs GENERALLY choose trashppl in their own lives (friends AND partners), and they are likely NOT mature enough to raise children, so I don't suggest following the recommendation of someone just randomly insisting that you should have children - ESPECIALLY AFTER YOU'VE EXPRESSED THAT YOU DON'T WANT CHILDREN. Steer clear of those females -- LIKE THE GENTLEMEN DO who don't wanna be bothered with them. 😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣

@mamalegba777

4 ай бұрын

​@@LadymagentabennettTBH. Toys do good enough if not better. Females out here think being ran through is cute but not 1 orgasm or even payment smfh.

Facts I'm Childfree and just turned 30! Loving it these other folks be miserable these men baby trap 🪤 all day

@cb4664

7 ай бұрын

53. Not one second of regret. So glad I chose ME.

@user-pw2gx4ej4o

6 ай бұрын

I’m not miserable I live my child and my life. But I don’t blame people who are child free. I e wanted a child all my life and some women didn’t but that’s ok too!

@3amDayDreamer

2 ай бұрын

Turning 30 this year and child free. 🥂

The average person can't even afford to take care of themselves these days. So how y'all having kids when you already struggling just to keep a roof over your head?

@TABULOUS1

7 ай бұрын

This is how: They EXPECT FAMILY to step up and fund them AS IF THEY LAID DOWN & SPREAD'em for the phukkboys!!!! -- Nah, B: I LIVE *WITHIN MY MEANS*. When YOU had the kid, that is NOT an indication for Me to need to ADJUST MY means to take care of a child when you told alllll yo wise Elders to mind their business.... So guess what? I'mma mind My business AND MY FUNDS. Congrats to you & dude though. 😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣 I had one niece try to use the same lie THREE WEEKENDS IN A ROW to juice Me for instant cash, lol. AND THEN tried to set up the AuntieATM after getting knocked up, smhlol: I wonder if she STILLLL doesn't realize yet that *you can't slick a can of oil* ... ROFLMBAOLOLOL

@blackdiamond0303

2 ай бұрын

This is what I wanna know

Young women may need to stop listening to older women because many of them derail the dreams of young women! Do what you want to do! If that means being SINGLE, WEALTHY AND A WORLD LEADER THEN DO IT!!!

@Tigerlily_Fresh

7 ай бұрын

Older women are still in that 'mammy mindset'. Unfortunately it's going to take them dying off and Gen X to adopt an open mind and unbiased eyes to change the narrative.

@strawhatpirates4

6 ай бұрын

I’m 22 and I had seen my classmates right out of highschool have children, with no baby daddy in sight. Older women aren’t the only ones with common sense and see things for what they are. I make over 87k a year and I definitely know I’m still not ready to raise a child and this is at 22 yrs old. We need to do better and I’m grateful that I was surrounded by younger and older women that knew that these selfish actions are irresponsible and damaging. Atp y’all are choosing to be single mothers bc the data, the information has been out there for years and now we have media showing you that it doesn’t have to be this way. You are actively making horrible decisions at the expense of a innocent human being.

Divorced single mother of 1. He sent his little chump change each month and thought he was doing wonders. Out of 15yrs, i was able to count that he saw his son like 5 times. We were taught that it's mommy's baby, daddy's maybe.

There's plenty of orphans out there that need a good home. They are completely forgotten.

They also don't realise that choosing better means not choosing black men. By majority.

@missam3404

6 ай бұрын

😮 Lots of you all be around the wrong black men. I see so many women in these videos taking care of black men. I be so confused cause I would never, and I only date black men, I have never experienced the bs most say they have on the net.

@GoddessY1968

Ай бұрын

💥

I know you heard this a thousand times but your eyes are so mesmerizing. 60 yr single childfree bw......yall won't regret it....I promise you.

@lynx70123

7 ай бұрын

50+ childfree bw. No regrets at all!

@cb4664

7 ай бұрын

53 here… same. I’m convinced the song “Don’t believe the hype” was made about having kids lololol

@deirdremorris9234

7 ай бұрын

50s and happy Im married, kids and grandkids BUT it is true, neither the govt nor the church supports women, babies and families. And 95% of the males out there do not need to be husbands and dads.

Ironic that the last song is Hard knock life by Orphan Annie. Unwanted and parentless children is so unnecessary and women have the power to stop these things happening to children.

@NoirNoir9

7 ай бұрын

Exactly

@camidonahue8882

7 ай бұрын

“Orphan Annie,” my grandmother was an orphan because her parents conceived too many children and they couldn’t afford her, so they abandoned her. She was their 5th child. She grew up in an orphanage and never was adopted, so she never had parents. I cannot even fathom growing up in this world and never having any parents to support you or mentor you through this life. Mind you this was before birth control during 1920s, The Depression. In regard to the abortion topic, people like to argue “adoption” is always the answer, but in all harsh reality not every child gets adopted. Not every adult can financially afford a child. Also, the children in the foster care system barely get any money from the government to live off of, roughly $1000 per month - that’s not livable income in today’s standards. Many children in the foster care system who never get adopted age out of the system and have to fend for themselves once they turn 18 years old. Those children have a high incarceration rate and become victims of human trafficking.

@aahmonddelite690

7 ай бұрын

​@@camidonahue8882💔💔💔💔💔💔

@deirdremorris9234

7 ай бұрын

​@@camidonahue8882This. The church nor state "truly" support family. If it were true, there would be no fee adoptions! Diapers, formula and daycare would be free. One year maternity and paternity leave.

Sorry but some men have made it difficult for women to want to have children with them. Who would openly opt for struggle, disrespect and poverty? Limiting her opportunities and experiences in life? Parenthood is a wonderful thing for parents who are committed to each other and the children in a positive and financially stable situation. Too many men begrudge taking a woman out for a meal. Why would she want to have a relationship with him or children with them? Struggle love is over.

@missam3404

6 ай бұрын

Just stay away from those men anyway. The second you know they think like that , there is no more reason to talk to them

Yessss stay childfree..was married 16yrs and he had a mask on..now single mom of 3

@cb4664

7 ай бұрын

I was married 16 years too. Luckily I saw through the mask in time and ran like a runaway slave. When I realized his new plan was to impregnate me at the end so I wouldn’t leave I simply refused to lay with him. In the same house. For more than a year. Saved my money then chucked up the deuces. He’s still butthurt.

@lisamccray9079

7 ай бұрын

Men do change also ladies if don't want kids don't have them I am 58yrs old with no kids and don't regret either I like to travel and don't have to worry about a babysitter.

@learningearning8385

7 ай бұрын

Sorry this happened to you.

I tell my daughter all the time never have any kids and never get married. And we encourage her to go into Information Technology or Project Management. She is a great speaker and has command presence, so she has that going for her as well.

@missam3404

6 ай бұрын

Why are you specifically telling her that instead of letting her make a choice though? It just seems weird

@TextureTalk1

6 ай бұрын

@@missam3404 I can tell her whatever I want. It’s called parenting, not weird. It will obviously be her choice to make, otherwise I would have said, “my daughter isn’t allowed to get married and have kids and has to become a project manager.” Did I say I imprisoned her on an isolated island? No i didn’t. So it’s incredibly stupid for you to say she can’t make her choice. You obviously don’t know anything about parenting. So you shouldn’t be talking to me about parenting. We’re supposed to guide OUR children in the direction WE think is best for them. She’s my child, not yours.

@Datb2

5 ай бұрын

@@TextureTalk1PERIOD !

@sdothoward2743

Ай бұрын

I'm telling my sons to avoid women like u and their daughters

Protect your wombs sisters! its a spiritual thing. Im so happy seeing this ugh🥰

@Key-Key444

6 ай бұрын

It is because we keep birthing men that hate us 😪🫡✌🏾

Aged 47 with no kids and lots of wealth. I have always wanted kids but never wanted to be a single mother nor a single married mother. Always had make attention and dates. Trust, when you are dating folks, you can tell who will be a present and involved husband and father. I’ve passed on men who don’t meet the qualifications for present and involved husband and father. While I don’t agree with telling ppl not to have kids and everyone should do what they want, I do encourage everyone to have financial stability for themselves before marriage and children.

My own mother was a single mother and I still blame her for our crappy childhood. I as a woman won’t accept getting impregnated by an abusive loser nor will I choose to be pregnant and live in poverty.

I love this for blk women

Looove this!!!! I am so inspired and happy to see this movement. I am a black woman. 39. Never married. No kids. Don't care to change that. I was on vacation in Jamaica when a staff member asked me while I was enjoying my dinner, where my kids were.....so intrusive and assuming. I said, "I don't have any. I'm here by myself enjoying my vacation." She was so shocked! But then, she said " Wow, enjoying life" 😂

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 I applaud all single, childfree women, but especially BW. You all need to be treated like QUEENS!

I'm in my 50's and childfree with no regrets. I also believe that motherhood is a beautiful life for those who desire AND prepare for it. Either way you decide, make sure that your decision isn't based on unresolved trauma. Take account of your decisions, weigh your desires along with the pros and cons. Whether BW choose to be childfree or mothers, I want you to soar and enjoy life! ❤

@TABULOUS1

7 ай бұрын

SAME!

There was a reel of me at 6yrs having a fit that I wanted no husband and no kids. I’m 50yrs now and I still don’t have a husband or kids. I have no regrets. It is the best decision I’ve ever made 😊

Not everyone is meant to be a pilot of a plane, not everyone is meant to be a captain of a ship, not everyone is meant to be a soldier, not everyone is meant to be a doctor, and not everyone is meant to be a PARENT! Just because you can make a baby doesn't mean that you should have one.

This is BEAUTIFUL. So proud of women choosing this and thriving.

First married to addicted husband then moved out with 1 year old daughter, I went to college and got a career. Second husband left when my daughter became addicted and had a daughter. I was married almost 20 years when I needed to raise my precious granddaughter but the man that said he loved me didn’t want to raise a child so he divorced me. Now I’m 66 and my granddaughter is doing great and this will be the first time that I can start putting myself first! I will never be with a man again. I paid off my house, no other debt and my retirement is fully funded. I’m starting to feel happy! It’s been a long road

@myolewis7118

7 ай бұрын

❤

It is absolutely selfish to birth kids into poverty and dysfunction. There is no shame in waiting to have kids or choosing not to have them at all.

@sdothoward2743

Ай бұрын

Just means no ring

I'm a mother and I encourage my daughter not to have kids. And I was very honest with her. I told her that I love her to death but chose to have kids for the wrong reasons. I constantly remind her to choose herself first and to never forget that men are fundamentally selfish. It's almost becoming a song for us 😂 I'm not gonna lie, our lives for better since her dad left, we travel at least 3 times a year, we get our nails done together, eat in good restaurants, we be livin😌 I'm not expecting grandkids and that's more than fine by me 🤷🏿‍♀️

@Ladymagentabennett

7 ай бұрын

you do realize you couldn't do anything of those activities with your own daughter if you didn't chose to sacrafice and have one. SO i'm like who you sacaficied your body and life and you what sounds like a delightful friend, but you don't want that life.

@TABULOUS1

7 ай бұрын

You are demonstrating the elements of AN AMAZINGLY ENCOURAGING MOTHER & GUIDE, and you both are Blessed to have one another.

@KimberWaul

6 ай бұрын

Now, she'll never know what it feels like to say about her own child/children "we travel at least 3 times a year, we get our nails done together and we eat in good restaurants". I would wonder if she has close friends since she does these things with mom and not close friends and if she doesn't have close friends, who will be her support and companions when mom gets older and passes, since death is inevitable. If I was in the same position, I would rather ask her what she wants, instead of projecting my fears from negative experiences on her and support her in whatever she wants to do with her life.

@kennyav25

6 ай бұрын

@@KimberWaul 😂😂😂😂 girl is you ok?!? Because I spend time with my underage daughter and do things for us to bond she won't be able to experience those things?!? I know you're not serious 😂😂😂 The way I can't wait to be an empty nester so I can travel the world. Don't worry about my daughter hun, she'll live HER life and have a great relationship with me. We can have both you know. I'm sorry you didn't have that kind of relationship with your mom so you're trying to project wtv lack of yours on my relationship with my daughter. Love, Light and Prayers to you 💖💖

@KimberWaul

6 ай бұрын

@@kennyav25 ARE you okay? It is petty and pointless to try to insult someone based on an assumption, my dear. You clearly don't know me or my mother (with whom I am very close, by the way). I work with the youth and among those who have issues of resentment toward parents, fear, doubt and regret, one of the most common reasons I hear regarding these, is that their parents projected their brokenness, failures and bad experiences unto them. This often creates inner conflict, when one has been taught one thing, but feels drawn to the immediate opposite. They often say that they wish that they were allowed to form their own opinions, which is why I said that I would rather "ask what she wants", instead of "encouraging" my child towards a certain belief that's based on my own bad experiences or perhaps projecting my fears and failures unto my child. Anyway, grace and peace to you.

I had my first and last child at 43. She’s now 23. I’m agreeing with this young ladies comment. If you really wanna have a child one option just an option is to have the child closer to the end of your fertility cycle. For me, it worked it wasn’t planned, but it worked because by then I had a bachelors degree and a masters degree was getting ready to work on license for clinical therapy I mean so the money was there to provide stability and security for my daughter as her father was not in the picture by the time my daughter was 12 he passed away so I think that if you want to do this for you and have a kid then you wait until you are closer to the end of your giving birth cycle and let me tell you you’re still might be climbing the ladder for business but it’s a joy when you have enough money and you have stability that you can share with your daughter is gravy for your daughter cause you’ve done well for yourself . to watch them grow up happy loving and worry Free no worries at all i s a beautiful thing.

@adayinthelight7575

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. I’m 45 and have a one year old. I’m married and we’re enjoying our daughter. I didn’t settle when I was single. I waited for what I wanted. It isn’t perfect but it is NOT hell like some people I hear about. I pray it always stays that’s way. Sorry for the loss of your partner.

@ineedhoez

7 ай бұрын

Agreed. You are financially stable and set. My life is very suitable for a child now. I am healed, healthy, and mentally sound! If I would have done it in my 20s, I would have just created the same generational trauma cycle. I was a whole hot damn emotional mess.

61 divorced after 3 years of male control and abuse, no kids (I knew better). No regrets.

No more, being miserable beast of burdens most of our babies are never valued anyways!

Just let women enjoy child freedom! 😊

Do not give access to your body it works wonders.

.....love this.... all black women aint a baby momma

The childfree life is more appealing to me, especially as a bw

I’m waiting for our government to penalize fatherhood like they do motherhood.

"That's selfish!"" ANYTHING A WOMAN CHOOSES TO DO FOR HERSELF WILL BE HARSHLY JUDGED BY INSECURE MEN AND PICKME MAMMY WOMEN, PERIOD. Even if you become a pickme to please men, it seems like pickmes still get played. Ladies, ALWAYS do what's best for you. ❤️

A child you have to raise alone 😔 for life and the men is gone.

I got rid off my ex for abandoning me while being pregnant and after I had my daughter he thought he would be in and out of my life just cos we have a child together but I went cold turkey on him by going the no contact way. Him leaving me pregnant told me everything that I needed to know about this guy, yes I was married to this man if the ring changes anything for those who think it makes any difference to these men. He punished our daughter for not being in her life but it’s better this way than to have him be inconsistent.

@missam3404

6 ай бұрын

The same thing happened to my best friend. Smh

@Minass848

11 күн бұрын

Good for u..that man is not worth it.❤

Resting is one of the biggest things on the list that I miss most about being child free.

I know a man who willingly slept with a woman unprotrcted and then blamed her for getting pregnant. I straight up told him that preventing children is his responsibilty as well znd i didnt want to hear it anymow

Look at Jennie mai she married Yeezy after 2years she is already a single mom

@Vblack907

2 ай бұрын

😢

I pray this video goes VIRAL! Everything I believe about being child-free was well articulated. There are some people, especially as a BW who WANT to see you struggle, broken, and desperate and they don't care how they achieve this goal. If the problem in the BC is single mothers then the quick cure for that is to go CHILD-FREE! I hope and pray more young BWs watch and adhere to the golden advice being given today. I am child-free and EVERY DAY is a blessing. BM act like they are re-populating the planet and no one says sh*t about it, this sick denigrate psychotic behavior is praised not even the church will take them to task. Child rearing has become a dangerous trap and BW are the victims. Please post this video, share it memorize it, and let it be your new bible. NO KIDS FOR ME THANK YOU!

I'm happy for women who choose to stay childless and even happier for women who are privileged to have kids. Both women are winning ❤❤

Team no kids! ❤

@Minass848

11 күн бұрын

Same 32❤

A ring means security 😂😂😂😂😂 delusional she is delusional if she really believes a rings 💍 means security 😂🤦🏿‍♀️

So many men live there lives without having kids or needing to have kids to be fufilled with life, no one bats an eye at them. it's always the woman that gets bad mouthed for not having kids and called 'selfish'. But no one calls folks who hate that they even had children, hate their own children for 'ruining their life' 'selfish' it makes no sense. It's one of the most resposible things someone can do to realizing they don't want to put a child into a traumatic enviroment.

I encounter more happier childless women of ALL ages than mothers (married or single) and that alone confirms that I'm making the right decision to protect my womb. No one is shaming me away from that decision.

👏👏👏👏 Yesssssss ladies!!! Put yourselves first. Child free and loving it.

So proud of y’all… all of you.

That woman who typed in "When does menopause start? :)" into Google is so me bahaha. All of these women my age are talking about "fertility this" and "fertility that" but I just want to know when Ms. Menses will pack her bags and go away for good.

The lady in the scrubs got my attention… I’m listening to you 💯.

What I always notice about this video is that alot of the women are really good looking. Its usually the intelligent and beautiful ones the men try to mess up first.

@soul2soul4

3 ай бұрын

They're ugly and bow average

God bless the child free women. You are making history. You are making a powerful change to this earth and have my utmost respect. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

I got an IUD and hate it so Im going to get a copper non hormonal one in the New Year because the serious weight gain from this is ridiculous. The next step when I get better insurance is to get my tubes tied. Pregnancy is literally one foot in the grave and im not doing that for NO MAN. I DONT trust any man enough to give him my womb.

It takes two make a baby 👶 but the lady does do all the work that is why I didn't have kids the lady gets blamed

As a single mother of 3 who just got fixed this past friday. I love this for themmmm.

I’m 42 and about to adopt and I’m single I don’t want no man but I do want children

@zerotolerance2026

7 ай бұрын

Good for you! So many children need good homes. Many blessings!

Better to be childfree than a baby momma from Tyrone!

I am so happy for child free women 👏🏿🎉

Is it me or has anyone else noticed that the ones that try and spew hate towards women that don't have kids are always the men struggling, broke, hideous, or just have nothing going for them? Like I have never heard or seen successful, SECURE men spew this nonsense. I believe that the strugglies know that they will never reach the standard to attract and procreate with women so they instead try to humble woman, make her feel worthless, so she thinks that a brokie is the best she can do? Like this is my hypothesis and the evidence is compelling.

The nurse in the video that says poverty is a problem that is very true and that was one of the reason why marriage was a solution back in the days because marriage brought on financial stability and tax benefits to help with the poverty line as you raise a child. now that we need Financial benefit the most. When Economy going bad is when people decide opt out of one off the old way to get tax benefit ie marriage. it’s still a solution to poverty, not the whole solution, but it still help especially if you and your spouse are college educated and make decent of money. It’s ironic now when the economy is bad, we have men that are at the highest rate of high school dropout because they wanted some type of entertainment rap career, barely getting their GED and getting $15 managerial position at Walmart, are making threats on your life to have their kids to make you their next baby mama and using shaming tactics that they’re repeating from podcast bros. The climate for women having kids is unfixable

@user-qu2gp8mw9u

7 ай бұрын

👍👍Women should never partner with or have kids with a male who can barely provide for himself; marriage won't solve anything for women with these males. Financially unstable or poor males still marry (then & now). The women who marry these males don't improve their lives by marrying & having kids. Women shouldn't marry males or have their children in a hostile environment (that males created).

If a woman knows she does not want children and all that comes with it WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? People need to learn how to truly mind their business. Mind the business that is in front of you, under your roof, you are responsible for... Always going for the throats of women who are taking care of themselves and minding their own business.

Im so happy to see this movement because carrying trauma or animosity for different sexes will be a critical risk factor for whatever children these women have. Relationship require so much empathy and humility they literally would be single parents in the making.

Yeah my husbands dad had 2 kids before his current wife and he was barely in the kids lives and he was married to one of the women. It’s crazy

Single mothers are not the issue. Single parent households are the problem. Male children raised without a present, loving, protective, PROVIDING father become problems in society later on as they have no one positive to emulate. Stay child free.

@lillierose5304

7 ай бұрын

This mindset actually glorifies the involvement and importance of men in a way. Honestly, a lot of kids are better off without their father. The best thing my kid's dad ever did for us was stay away. Life has been so much better for everyone ever since.

@FreeBirdee

7 ай бұрын

This is absolutely not true. Single mothers with financial means and a supportive community can raise children successfully as they have the resources to address all of the child’s needs. It is poverty and single mothers that is the core issue.

@lillierose5304

7 ай бұрын

@@FreeBirdee I know a lot of absolutely beautiful people who were raised by single mothers. Their mothers obviously did an amazing job.

🥳🥳🥳 100% don't have kids. Don't do it. Along with how the outside world treats you (you're never good enough), your family will treat you like crap and not actually help, you're never a good enough parent to your kids (the kids let you know eventually), and you're passing down all your family genetics that might mess your and your child's whole life up (disabilities, mental health issues, etc.). Don't have kids. Don't waste your time and energy.

I knew since i was 13 i did not want children just watching what my mother went through raising us. I even felt she hated us most of the times. She was a single mother because my Father actually died when he was in the military back in the 90s. Im 34 now and still do not want kids and i definitely dont feel like making my kids feel like i hate them because of how stressful, and taxing it is financially, mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically it is on our bodies. No thank you.

I AGREE WITH HER 100 PERCENT!!!!! SO HAPPY I DO NOT HAVE ANY KIDS!!!!!

I wish this mindset was prevalent 25 years ago I would not have had kids. I was weak and gave birth and even though it was years ago (I’m talking decades) I still hate I had kids

@GoddessY1968

Ай бұрын

🫂

9:45 She is absolutely correct. My mother was a twice divorced SM and neither my father or my brothers father paid child support. My mother went back to school and got her degree and had an amazing career. We lived well as she was a great provider. I’m childfree by choice. My brother has 5 from 3 different women. I figure he had enough for me too.

😂😂 the girl thinks a ring means financial stability.

52, was married for 18 years, I never wanted any children and I didn't have any either! And I think children are totally over rated. BUT I love children, just someone elses😊

15:42👀 When I was in the 10th grade my Biology Teacher (Mr. Lemons) showed the class a film of a REAL BIRTH😮 THE PREP, THE SCREAMING, THE HUSBAND PASSING OUT THE WIFE CUSSING HIM AND THE NURSES OUT 😮 THEN THE HEAD WAS COMING 🤦🏾‍♀️. Yep that's all I saw. Took the rest of the week off and told Both of my parents. No kids coming from me🤷🏾‍♀️. At 53 I have no regrets. At least I don't have to worry about protecting my child(ren) from this this Woke, Demonetized World WE ARE living in today 🙏🏾😟

@lgee9027

7 ай бұрын

I had an emergency C-section, never again 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

@lisamccray9079

7 ай бұрын

So true 👍

@antinatalistwitch111

4 ай бұрын

Yes your children are safe & sound

Am 51 yrs old i have 1 child 33 yrs am living my best life. Am happy about the decisions I have made. Having too many children that you cannot support cant cope with is a choice..just saying 🤷

"$50 a month child support " 🤦🏾‍♀️😩

Divorced single mother here to completely cheer all you child-free ladies on!🎉❤️💐🥂 My daughter is 13 and has proclaimed herself to be child free since she started her cycle at the age of 10! I’ve always been honest and open about life with my children and as my oldest child and only daughter she has made the decision for herself to remain childless for life. My oldest son, 12, says he doesn’t want children or romantic relationships but wants to live life single but philanthropic- building systems to help the less-privileged people on earth. I homeschool and work from home so childcare is not an issue right now but geez is it still hard. Luckily though, there’s no dusty man child around (by his own choice) to stress us out. I’m so proud of the women who figured out the key sooner, and I’m in 110% support of this life saving movement❤️🎉 Remaining child free during this climate of reckless abandonment by fathers that goes unpunished by far is the best thing women can do to begin to make positive changes in the world- and the surest way to save your life! 💯