You are making me grow as a human in so many ways. Only recently I used to say that all Trans people should accept the body they were born in, and learn to live with it, instead of changing what God had created through surgery. Now thanks to you I get 100% why someone truly needs to go through the physical transitioning to become fully the person they were born as. The soul and mind we have when we are born can be totally different than the body we were born with. Pardon my French as I am not native English speaker, but I hope I managed to put my point across the way it was intended. I love and adore you as much as possible from distance, and wish you all the best in every possible way. Keep On Rocking!!! :) x o

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

That is the best comment l can ever receive. To know that my content changes minds and hearts means the world to me. Thank you so much for your honesty and incredibly kind words.

Finn this is so true, I was talking to my sister because someone had said something about hand movements showing gender, my sister said hand movements don't make someone male/female, my dad used his hands alot to talk and he's a cis man... It's just dumb to think that mannerisms have a male/female connotation. Be you :)

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Yes it really is dumb! I think people like to use it against us because we are trans but there are many cis people who are flamboyant, including straight cis people! We are all wonderfully unique and should be free to be so!

I love your flamboyancy, stoic just doesn't suit you. Your personality is infectious and it's what makes you you. You are such a genuinely lovely person and it's why we all love you. Sod what other people think. Keep being you Finn 😃

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

I really cant do serious! Well, k can do my own special brand of serious which has a sprinkling of rainbow sparkles....lm so lucky to be lived and appreciated for who l am, thank you se much. Sending you giant rainbow sparkles hugs and love!

I just realized how long I have been subscribed to you and followed your journey. I think the one about transitioning into a middle aged man was the first one i saw (2013) and now I am doing exactly that myself. I think you were actually the first trans person I subscribed to on youtube, when I started realizing this about myself and was pondering if it was too late etc. So thank you for being extremely educating for me personally in the past 6 (wow!) years. And now that I am finally on hormones and looking into surgeries, I am also transitioning into a middle aged man. Bonus: I also talk with my hands a lot haha.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

This is wonderful! I am so pleased to hear how far you have travelled! Honored to have been able to help, thank you for sticking around!

@dwentlandt1022

4 жыл бұрын

It’s never too late. I’m 47 have been on testosterone for almost 2 years and am also looking into surgeries

You’re just so fabulous! My life is richer since finding your channel all those years ago.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Oh my word I am virtually hugging you right now! What a lovelt think to say! Thank you!

"sup" you crease me Finn! I stand by everything you said! To gender mannerisms is so dull and also! Point! There are a ton of cis camp men and cis butch women! And I hate those terms but it's the simplest way to put it, you can act however you like as long as you don't hurt anyone what difference does it make to anyone? The people who comment things like "your female is showing" are just fools ... And I am being polite hahah LOVE YOU also thank you for using my music 💕💕

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Haha! I was polite too! What I respond in my mind to these comments would get me banned from YT! Lol! I completely agree with you. Glad to ammuse and very honoured to have your amazing music as my outro!

I love who you are, your a great , kind hearted, funny, stylish, good looking guy!!!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

And you are blooming lovely! Thank you so much!

@jenq436

4 жыл бұрын

@@FinnTheInfinncible Thankyou, don't worry what people say, they are just jerks.

I never have seen in my life a man like you I am sure the world would be much better. I love your videos ❤️

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Love that comment! Thank you so much!

I absolutely love you! You let so many people understand that they can be all that they are ment to be!!! Very confident MAN !!!!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Ahhhhhh that is such a lovely comment! Thank you so much!

This is such an important topic! My story is very similar to yours, and I've thought about this often, but have never seen a vlog which solidified it. We can finally breathe now, so we can express ourselves!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Ah yes!!!! Thank goodness you are you too!

I'm not the only one that's had this experince. Thank you for sharing this! I had someone tell me, because I wear dresses, and because I like this that etc I'm not a man. I actually got frustrated with them not meaning to come off as frustrated. I was hesitant to come out to my friends after a while, because I was still holding back so much dysphoria behind my body. I decided I can't put my arms around a memory. I have to eventually own up to who I am one day. I've always felt more male inside, but it didn't stop me from liking the things I like, or the people. And somehow people think you have to be gay to transition which is completely false. I'm into a person for who they are, and not what gender, and I thought it was a stupid thought. For that person to give an opinion without me asking for it was grueling. I just needed someone to listen to me. I felt intterupted when I tried to speak to this person. I'm really glad I'm coming across these videos I'm having to look more and more into trans men, because apprantly trans women are more common. I love our trans women, but there's a small amount of trans male content on here too. I enjoy video games comics basketball, rap ,and even hanging out with fellow dudes more then I do girls. I've always been this way I'm suprised no one saw it coming. When I started listening to MCR I started to finally have the feeling to voice how I felt. Which I should have one always took up for myself. I have a diffrent view then most on what it means to be a man. That is respect others, and always hold the door open for other people, and manners two take up for yourself. The worst thing you can do is to let something slide. It doesn't take much to be a man. It takes enough confidence to affirm for who you are.

You don't sound female. Your voice has lowered over the years that I have been watching you. You do have that bass coming out of your chest. Don't worry. You sound perfect to me.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Of course l dont sound female, l know that! Luckily, other people opinion of my gender expression no longer bothers me!

Well effin' said Finn!! Xx

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! :)

Yas!!!! I love this! I also love the advice "What other people think of you is none of your business." I adore you!!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Yayyyy! I adore you too! I am someone who can easily worry to much about what other people think if l dont keep.my thoughts in check, remembering that what other people think is none of my business, helps me to remember that it's about them, not me! Thanks for your lovely comment

Awesome video Finn! Great as always :)

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

This video came at a perfect time for me. I’m early in my transition and worry about acting and looking “girly.” Thank you for making this video! ❤️

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Yay! Hello! So glad lm perfectly timed because you deserve to be you!!

*HAPPINESS RUSHES OVER ME* A new Finn Video!! YAY! ok, now I'll start watching it hehe! Oh geez, not even one minute in, and I'm already thinking to myself "my cis boyfriend acts so feminine sometimes that he's probably pegged as gay or trans" Of course until I started my transition, now he has to act more manly just to make sure I don't surpass him in his masculinity (even though in some instances I already have!) 🤨 I can agree that hobbies, mannerisms, likes/dislikes should not be gendered. I know a LOT of cis guys who love to paint, write poetry, love gardening, etc. I know a lot of cis females who love working on cars, racing, farming, etc. My guy HATES that I can rip an engine apart and fix it when he hates changing the oil in the car! I have a gay friend who had to have me show him how to change the wiper blades on his car, and check his tire pressure! To me, there's no "gendered" things in life, it's all what you like and don't like, your genitals don't say "YOU NEED TO PLAY WITH BARBIE DOLLS AND CROCHET or YOU NEED TO LOVE MECHANICS AND BEING DIRTY ALL THE TIME" Nope. Wow, I've so been through all those phases! My mom at one point asked my sibling if I was lesbian! UGH... Just because of the short hair and flannel shirts phase! I love being ME, and tired of people thinking if my skin changes, my heart and mind changes, I've been educating people who are genuinely curious and have questions that sometimes they are afraid to ask. I am gay because I feel male and love men. I love bright colors, butterflies, dragonflies, colored frogs, wild flowers, going for walks on the beach. FABULOUS!! Some people who knew me pre-transition, saw me go through it, and what I went through, have changed their minds about being transgender! Even if I change a few people's views on what the mental and physical stuff we're willing to go through to feel comfortable in our own skin, they understand so much better now, it's wonderful. I live in an elderly community that used to also include disabled (that's why I'm still here, I got in before the rules changed for admittance) and I'm surprised how open-minded and curious the older generation is compared to someone of my own age (early 40's) is about accepting just who someone is. The biggest compliment I ever got was "You haven't changed a bit, I still love you!" I don't care what I call myself, how I identify, I'm just glad that in such a tiny community, I made a difference. I love the analogy of having to go to the bathroom and emotions, I think that is a wonderful analogy! OMG thank you Finn, I so needed to hear this after the week I've had 😭 *HAPPY CRY*

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Bless you my dear friend! I am so glad you are you! And yes, people can so often surprise us, especially the older folk who get a bad rep for judging when actually, they can be very accepting. Sending you sooooo much love!

@pmbluemoon

4 жыл бұрын

@@FinnTheInfinncible Sending you much love and blessings as well! I saw something on the news about bad weather over there? I hope you are safe! 🥰✌✨

Yes another awesome teaching moment! I’m so glad you let yourself smile and let go of society’s made up rules xx

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Me too! And thank you ::

I've just recently found your channel and have loved every video I've watched. Never once have I seen you or your mannerisms as feminine. You are a fabulous person. I'm so glad to have found the FinnFam

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Yay! Welcome to the FinnFam! Thank you so much for your kind comments, yes, sadly there are people who look a my flamboyant ways and make assumptions, but I care not one bit, I love being my fabulously flamboyant self! I look forward to seeing your comments on future vides! Dont forget, I have a website too, so you can get even more of me! finlaygames.com

Just be you which is fabulous

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! And thank you!

@bootsy181

4 жыл бұрын

FinnTheInfinncible your so welcome my lovely 😊

Tony does stoic way too well hahaha

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

He is the master at it!

FABULOUS! I love seeing how you have evolved and become liberated to be your true self. In all honesty, I was a little intimidated by your stoic presentation when I first watched you, back when you had chest surgery! I think I did the same too - felt I had to be extra stereo-typically masculine so as to be seen and accepted as male. Thankfully, I am getting over that now.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

I think many of us travel similar paths with this, which is understandable! And me? Intimidating? Lmao!

@alexanderoscar2623

4 жыл бұрын

@@FinnTheInfinncible I know! You are not at all intimidating today :)

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

@@alexanderoscar2623 l am very glad to hear that!

This is such an important video. I love the point you're making about being yourself. I am also a trans man, though I'm not gay (I'm not straight either!), I am quite feminine and people can only see this through the lens of gayness. It's pretty obvious that everyone is a mix of masculine and feminine. I think you're right that gendered expectations can totally limit our humanity.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Hi my friend, thanks for watching and for your comment. Yes indeed, its not common to think of humans as a mix of masculine and femanine energies/traits/mannerisoms and so often, when a person is seen to act outside their gender norms it is often through the lens of gayness or, in the case of trans people, used to 'prove' that transition hasnt worked! We are all a wondeful mix and the more everyone realises that the better the world will be!

Well said! My wife loves your mannerisms! My opinion on this is that gender identity is a spectrum, biologically influenced by the amount of testosterone or oestrogen your tiny brain is subjected to in utero. Somewhere in the middle is non-binary and the opposite ends of the spectrum are hyper male and hyper female characteristics. If you are at the more extreme end of the spectrum then it is likely that you are going to need your body parts and endocrinology to match! If you are cis gender or course, you don’t have to worry about it as you’ve been blessed with gender congruence! Hooray!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

I'm glad my mannerisms are loved! I too think gender is a spectrum influenced from both internal and external factors and our personality. It's a wonderful thing being human in that we come in all kinds of internal and external packages.

Camp Finn...sounds like a lovely place to visit! I was just talking to my son about the terrible weight of trying to fit mannerisms to your "assigned" gender. The shame and mental beating we placed on ourselves was overwhelming! I'm so free to just be me now...I don't have to constantly "correct" my walk, speech or ways of expressing myself. And you, my dear friend started me on that journey. The day you explained Non-forks did it for me! P.S. I still have the tattoo.😊

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Oh yes, lets all go to Camp Finn! I am so honoured to have played a part in your journey, it still amazes me that you have my saying tattoed! I am so glad you are you because you are wonderful! Thank you so much for your kind words

I've just come across your channel, and I love your videos and personality! ❤️

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Yay welcome! Thanks for your lovely comment! I post vlogs here every Tuesday and there is additional blogs and resources over on my website finlaygames.com. welcome to the FinnFam!

Out of all the options I got a bra ad before this video 😄🤦🏻‍♀️

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

LMAO! Oh dear! Been a while since I wore one of those!

A message I keep forgetting. Thank you for another wonderful video.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching!

My dear Finn, this is a very interesting argument! What have you said is comprehensible to everyone. Certain things are not always gendered, you can have traits that don’t correspond to your own gender. and not only externally. There are women that have a strong character more masculine and men that have a great sensibility more feminine. In your case you are a wonderful mix of everything!!! ❤️👍😉

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Yes exactly this! We are all a wonderful mix of masculine and feminine traits, just so many people feel pressured to let some traits out and hide others, because of societies expectations. Without that pressure. Or by ignoring it, you get much more authentic and well rounded humans!

Your personality lights up my face with a smile! There is so much to enjoy about you and your personality. You make me laugh, think and reflect, have compassion and love, enjoy being philosophical. I love that you're a whole person with characteristics that are just you and not defined by gender. People who try to tear people down usually are not whole people themselves and are unaware. You would be so much more insightful and balanced in your views than them since you've experienced living as different genders externally, you'd have so much more experience first hand about what gendering things mean. I really enjoy your personality, your voice is such a nice male voice, and you are uber handsome even while wearing a pink tutu! 😍 I'm not really been one to conform to societal pressures to express myself in stereotypical ways of my gender, but rather listen to my own inner compass of who I am. It helps to be in a community of people who are like minded on this topic as well, and who get it. This video is amazing and very inspiring! Thank you for making it x x x ps your stoic face makes me laugh!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

I dont suit stoic do l?! I love that this community of our blows stereotypes out of the water and actively expects, and encourages people to be their own fabulous version of human. Thank you for such kind words! Love you l do!

@Moosh207

4 жыл бұрын

@@FinnTheInfinncible Love you too 💖 and no, stoic is so not you! But you make me laugh when you try to be. I love that you're in touch with who you are and your emotions. And I agree, the Finnfam community has so many awesome and supportive people in it xxx

I only just found your channel but its helped me so much :)

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the FinnFam! Lovely to have you here and very glad my videos are helping! I have a website too, with lots of additional stuff, you can find that here -----> finlaygames.com

You sir are cheeky😊♥️ I love ya the way you are ♥️ keep it up! My daughter tells me “my old” is showing😂😂😂

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Ha! Yes, I am cheeky its true! I dont think I could change if I tried! Im all changed out..... ;)

Love you Finn! You are a awesome man!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Ah! I love you too!

Thank you! Well said!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you my friend!

Well said.... I can definitely relate.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

Pefectly awsome as ever ❤

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Ah bles you! xx

You are the best!!!💪⭐️🙌

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Ah ! Mwah! Xx

I can relate to this so hard!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

And I hope you are being your fabulous self!

Yep totally relate as I am a man in a woman’s body but too old now to go through transition. It doesn’t stop me sitting with my legs spread in my jeans as I have done all my life or having other masculine traits that come natural to me. We are all unique but we do absolutely know that we have incarnated in the wrong body it is sort of unquestionable and beyond other people’s opinions about us because it is who we are

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely we are all unique, thank goodness! And is it too late for you to transition?

@leehemmings4591

4 жыл бұрын

FinnTheInfinncible am 69 although everyone doesn’t believe I am and think I am 15 years younger. I think putting myself through that would be a lot as here I would have to have 2 years of psychological counselling before

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

@@leehemmings4591 ah l see, I can understand that. I really feel for you. How do you manage to deal with that?

@leehemmings4591

4 жыл бұрын

FinnTheInfinncible I have it processed and in perspective Finn after all those years as a lesbian but knowing I wanted to be with women as a man but I have learned you can’t live with regret and so I am just happy to be alive and younger than my number and a 29 yr Cancer survivor and it’s important to me to be good with whatever or whoever my physical incarnation is otherwise I would be in disagreeable with myself you know cognitive dissonance awful stuff. Has you torn. I am focused on my strengths based on my good old post war pomny values that sustained my parents... clean clothes food a good bed a roof and the simple things, this hoboes my parents passed and keeps me sane😘

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

@@leehemmings4591 l absolutely love your attitude.sending you aTon of love

HI Finn - I think mannerism's are human made to be honest. I can really relate to you're younger years as mine were indeed the same, very butch and manly - people used to tell me to "act more lady like" and nothing was futher from my mind and I rejected anything female. I'm honestly not 100% myself yet as I still have things that remind me of the old me and That's ok because in time this too shall pass and I will be 100% myself. I personally am NOT transitioning to be a cis-gender man, it was NEVER about that - It IS about getting comforable with myself and my body and bringing out the true me, When someone who is not trans thinks that we are transitioning to be like them is invalidating US as a person and disreguarding our stuggles and that is not on and how dare they say such a thing. Love to you and Chris and Lamby.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Of course they are human made! There is a ton of evidence from studies, to show how we put certain expectations on children from birth depending on their gender. I recieved the same message as a youngster, to be more lady like! And I agree, I am not transitioning to be cis, Im transitioning to be me! I 10000000% agree with you my wise friend! Love and hugs from us three!

I've been watching your videos for a couple years now and I have not ever seen you as feminine. Even watching your early videos I can't see you as fem. You are just perfectly you ❤. I love your campy, flamboyant personality.

@FinnTheInfinncible

3 жыл бұрын

I love that! Thank you :)

I just love you!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Naw I love you too!

Well said

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Glad you think so! Thank you!

I love how you are how you feel and agree totally 👊❤️

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

So True!!! You Tell them Brother!!! Well Said!!!! 👍😎🤟

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

I agree 100%.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Glad you agree!

I'm 100 percent gay and am ok with that from young age it was shown including my mental state. But any way were are who we are

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly, we cant, and should never be, anything but ourseveles!

I'm trying to find the right balance with flamboyance and stoic. Where I live is quite homophobic so I need to tone the campness down but also I can't just ramp up the butchness because that's just not who I am. I thought having no female features would help in my self identity with what sort of man I am but it's still very confusing. I know I'm a man but there's still times I get reminded that I had a female body. Feel like my partner still sees me as female but that could just be paranoia.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

It is very difficult when we need to keep urselves safe. I also think it can take many years beforewe fully feel like the men we are, it took me a good 4 years into my transition.

Amen!!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Halleluya!

Ive had doubts about where nature begins and where nuture ends. Excllent explanation. Your story is funny as fuck.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

I think that's a compliment?! Thank you!

Very true, as I was realising who I was went threw many changes not sure if was fem or butch am inbetween, plus mental health wise diagnosis with dule identity. Believe I'm not just me but another person it doesn't interfere with my life just helps a hint Who? Think you will get that. My friend laughed now your female in your future version.

Bruh, it's fine to be a flamboyant man. I'm a trans man, and I'm gay, I'm pretty flamboyant, I just don't show it around people who don't know me because they see me as a woman. So around my friends I'm just a flamboyant guy, and around strangers I'm just a dude I guess. I've been on testosterone for three days, so maybe once I look completely masculine enough to pass 100% of the time I'll show my flamboyance more than I do now.

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats on starting t! And if course its fine to be flamboyant, doesnt make you any less of a man at all. It took me a while to become comfortable with myself so just take your time my friend

You're just an amazing guy and that's all that matters as far as I am concerned 👍 you totally pass as a guy and deserve respect as anyone does 💖 I agree just be you and I am exactly same people say I'm more like a guy and I'm like no I am a woman I just prefer jeans and trainers rather than dresses and heels doesn't make me a guy I do have masculine behaviour like you describe but I am not trans I am just me its taken me a while to work exactly who that is much like it has for you. I am there now and I am now just me the same as you are and its truly the best place to be 🤗 love ya finn xx

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for such a lovely comment. Yes, its exactly this, that we are all a wonderful mix and thats OK! Its so hard to be OK with ourselves, in a world that seeks to shame people from not following the social constraints, I am so glad you are you! Love you too! xx

@lizstubbs2969

4 жыл бұрын

@@FinnTheInfinncible aww thank you for replying your message put a lil lump in my throat you're such a nice guy xxx 💖

This is such a great video, I'm soft butch (dress masculine but have long hair etc) but I'm still a woman just like how feminine trans men are men :) you're female isnt showing because you arent female!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for such a lovely comment! Yes, this simple truth is still so hard for many people to grasp, our gender is our gender regardless of how we dress/act/speak!

Finn... You have just the same natural mannerisms as my bezzie who is a gay cis man. Interestingly nobody moans about his flamboyant / "iffeminate" /in touch with his stereotypically feminine side. Who suddenly said that we have to conform to gender stereotypes? 10 years ago this wasn't the case...

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! I think, perhaps, because we are transgender, some narrow minded folk are more scrutious of us, and quicker to point out such traits as 'proof' we are still femal! Sterotypes are ridiculous!

Hi Fin all they need to know its what's called Gay Coding, ie Many gay men are femini and buch. Those who have gone threw the surgery do change, if you come across camp you do as many gay men do or buch

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

I think there is far too much stereotyping of people. Gay, straight, trans, cis, bi.....we can all express ourselves in all manner of ways. We never have to fit into these narrow and outdated stereotypes. Let's just let people be people!

Oh my goodness, I can't believe anyone would criticize your alleged female-ness. To me you've just always been a man, even when you first started transitioning. I think you are just wonderfully Finn-esque, and if that's campy, so be it. You're a man, period, and if folks have issues with how you act (which is endearing, funny, loving, and insightful), then boo on them. So there!

@FinnTheInfinncible

4 жыл бұрын

Finn-esque...love that! I absolutely agree, and it was so important that I made this vlog because so many people can all too easily be affected by what others think of them, especially trans folks. I love being fabulously me, and I love it when other people feel free to be too! Mwah! xx