CAN I REALLY START OVER AT 30??? / I WASTED MY 20s...

Hello Lovelies,
Thank you for clicking to watch this video. It's about 3 weeks to my 32nd birthday, and I have been doing a lot of retrospective thinking about my past years, my mistakes and all.
This video is about how I wasted my 20s due to bad decisions and choices, and how I came out of the feeling of regrets and tips for getting better. If you feel like you are in the same situation as I was, please kindly watch till the end. Thank you!
I hope this video blesses you.
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*TimeStamps*
00:00 - 02:39 ; Intro
02:40 - 09:26 ; Seeking Validation + Storytime
09:27 - 10:38 ; Anxiety/Worry about the future
10:39 - 12:40 ; Self investment
12:41 - 15:56 ; Choosing Passion over Money
15:57 - 17:04 ; Putting God first
17:05 -21:04 Tips to start over +Outro
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  • @NotBabeOrBiba
    @NotBabeOrBiba16 күн бұрын

    Like 60!!! 😊😊😊😊😊😊 0:14 , gurllll you looking sooooo fabulous!!!! 🌟🌟✨✨✨✨✨liking the setting, the lighting the hair makeup, it all is top class!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 1:26

  • @NotBabeOrBiba
    @NotBabeOrBiba16 күн бұрын

    9:34 I can relate about anxiety!! This is such a beautiful videos Melanie, edit is beautiful 🤩!!!!

  • @Catherineochy
    @Catherineochy25 күн бұрын

    Seeking Validation from outside or friends is a no, I pray for grace always not to seek for validation. I did that entrepreneurship years ago for my mom lol, I forced her to start business just because my friends were doing same for their parents and whenever I am with them they sell everything 😂 They love it when I am with them 😄 True Entrepreneurship is not for everyone but it's good 👍 Like you said, do what you have passion for, if not it will be years wasted doing something you don't like. God makes all things beautiful and I am grateful for His Mercies and Grace upon us. God created us and we are all special...and unique ❤️ Let's seek His face at all times and pray regarding everything ❤️❤️

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    You're so right Cathy. Thank you so much for watching ❤

  • @chamtyak4859
    @chamtyak485924 күн бұрын

    I always say low self esteem is a disease. You dissected everything here. Kudos Mel

  • @BibicheL
    @BibicheL6 күн бұрын

    Yes I do not need friends like that in my life no and I think you can start anything from any age as long as God allows it age is just a number thank you for sharing this amazing video ❤

  • @mimozetteenobi1071
    @mimozetteenobi107117 күн бұрын

    Good videos keep it up sisi ❤❤❤

  • @monise_makes
    @monise_makes25 күн бұрын

    Jesus! Amen. 👏🏻 can’t do anything without His help. I can tell a difference in my life and how I feel about myself when I don’t spend as much time with Him in prayer worship and meditating on His Word. Thank you for sharing all of these great points sis! ❤️

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    You are welcome sis. I'm glad you enjoyed watching ❤️

  • @user-ql8vu5xy1p
    @user-ql8vu5xy1p25 күн бұрын

    Investment is the best you can offer yourself as a young person ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @lekeakankanyi8250
    @lekeakankanyi825025 күн бұрын

    Yes o. Mel Boo, some deep realities here. Sometimes I also think I needed a knock on my head for the lost time. But thank God for bringing me into his light. Thank you for this video. My validation is only in Christ.

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Exactly sis. Our validation is only in HIM. Thank you so much for watching 💕

  • @Ijeomachigozie-
    @Ijeomachigozie-24 күн бұрын

    Coming here from your short, Am also coming from an average home. I stood my ground to avoid friends making me feel less of my self, that your boyfriend is something else. Thank God you move on. I like your faith, professing your faith anywhere and time . Keep it up Sis💕

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    23 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much sis. We thank God for growth . ❤

  • @mamashandprint62
    @mamashandprint6222 күн бұрын

    Through Christ,everything is possible!!🙏🙏❤️.Life is definitely a learning experience..❤ 21:04

  • @user-ky9mo1dp7v
    @user-ky9mo1dp7v23 күн бұрын

    In life,a best lessen is not to compare .mow, u have to educate your siblings, and they will not fall into temptation ❤❤😢

  • @thisandthatwithdranimwaa
    @thisandthatwithdranimwaa21 күн бұрын

    Beautiful video. Editing on point. God over everything.

  • @Frances-corner
    @Frances-corner25 күн бұрын

    Love this topic, I have been in that situation too, u ve said it all, I love where u said, if u had known God better, u would have done things differently, Big fact✅

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    Yes sis. God makes everything better. Thank you for watching

  • @user-ql8vu5xy1p
    @user-ql8vu5xy1p25 күн бұрын

    That retracing of step is another hard step to take,some persons will just continue their way,I can totally relate to this piece, thanks for sharing.

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    Absolutely!! Thank you sis for watching ❤️ 😍

  • @Ndabazabantu770
    @Ndabazabantu77024 күн бұрын

    Here for all the tips ❤. Seeking validation from wrong ppl 😢Young girls can be so crazy 😂😂😂breast enhancement creams 😂At least you had parents who provided for you. God bless them. Thank you for all the pearls of wisdom. Love this hair on you 😊

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    23 күн бұрын

    Breast enhancement, my sister 😅. Indeed we are grateful for parents. Thank you so much, sis 💓

  • @Royal-Priesthood35
    @Royal-Priesthood3521 күн бұрын

    Hey Sis ❤ This segment is amazing.. So informative. Thanks

  • @thisandthatwithdranimwaa
    @thisandthatwithdranimwaa21 күн бұрын

    I am happy to see you back 🤗 You wanted to learn from your own experiences- interesting!

  • @user-ql8vu5xy1p
    @user-ql8vu5xy1p25 күн бұрын

    Thank God for God,he makes everything bright in it's time

  • @XOASIMONE
    @XOASIMONE25 күн бұрын

    Hey Mel baby… This hit home for me. I think a lot of younger people should hear this vlog. Lorrd knows I wish I had a second chance to go back and change things in my past. I’m so glad you realized that you didn’t need to seek validation in a man or your “friends”. If they couldn’t accept you for who you were they didn’t deserve to be in your life. Isn’t it funny that in our big ages we start to breakdown the things our parents tried to instill in us? I too wish I listened/followed. Kids these days are super impressionable and we didn’t really have social media the way they have it now. So now we must try to navigate them best we can so they don’t make the same “mistakes” that we did in our younger years. Great vlogs darling, thank you for sharing your truth!🫶🏽🩷

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    Awwn thank you Simone baby. I'm glad I'm not alone in this 😅❤

  • @Baking915
    @Baking91525 күн бұрын

    I can relate to most of this . Sometimes I feel if I could turn back time I definitely would. Sometimes we should be grateful with what we have. That's why all the wrong choices I made I don't want my kids to repeat. GOD IS A TRUE FRIEND WE CAN RELY ON. I ALWAYS SAY ONLY GOD CAN GIVE ME WHAT I NEED IN LIFE. THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO .❤❤❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    You are so right mama G. It's so good to give our children what we didn't have, amd help them make better choices. God is indeed good. thank you for watching ❤

  • @NengiWillie
    @NengiWillie25 күн бұрын

    Thanks so much Mel for sharing your personal story snd for these encouraging words. God is first! We can't seek validation from men. Doing what we truly love in regards to career is so important. Thank you dear Mel❤❤❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    You are so welcome sis. Thanky you too for watching

  • @TheFavoured1
    @TheFavoured117 күн бұрын

    Yes I agree with you❤

  • @madonahani5069
    @madonahani506921 күн бұрын

    Wow great I enjoyed it❤

  • @NotBabeOrBiba
    @NotBabeOrBiba16 күн бұрын

    16:10 yes I know how much in love you are with our Lord. 😊 17:12 don’t beat up yourself our pass makes us who we are today, all things Happen in its own time, what is yours will be yours 🌟🌟✨✨✨✨. Never regret your past, it molds you, it’s that past that have brought you to such beautiful enlightenment and strength 😊 19:00 ….. God Bless 😊 20:49

  • @mamashandprint62
    @mamashandprint6222 күн бұрын

    This is such an interesting and informative vlog. Many young people will definitely benefit from this.. Self-esteem can be troubling if not developed properly.. Passion can be so satisfying.. Thanks for your time! Blessings ❤❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    21 күн бұрын

    Thank you For watching Mama ❤️

  • @Catherineochy
    @Catherineochy25 күн бұрын

    What an interesting topic and real life experience ❤❤

  • @Mscocomera
    @Mscocomera25 күн бұрын

    I am guessing what the last point is.....I couldn't help myself commenting! What a beautifully presented video! The lighting is perfect, I can see the effort in the editing which is well done! I was never the child to experience it myself, I learn from others so if I had had access to this information in my 20s I would definitely listen! TFS! 21:00

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much, Mama. I'm trying to get better with editing, and im glad that you noticed. I'm happy you were an obedient young girl.. some of us were stubborn 😆

  • @ElizabethMathekga
    @ElizabethMathekga24 күн бұрын

    12:20 that’s true Sis, the times we are living in requires one to have multiple streams of income

  • @AINwithDrAmi
    @AINwithDrAmi25 күн бұрын

    Exactly, putting God first is so important. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. 💖 Thanks for sharing your personal experience with us. God's plan is to prosper us . 21:02

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    Indeed ❤

  • @Catherineochy
    @Catherineochy25 күн бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your experience Mel ❤ Thank God for growth and His grace.

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Amen Cathy 💕 . Thank you for watching too

  • @ItzsimpleLindi
    @ItzsimpleLindi23 күн бұрын

    Woooow tht was so informative and exciting to listen Melanie ❤❤❤❤ Broll so on the highest level my darling

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    23 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much mama Lindi 💓

  • @sashidreamchaser8530
    @sashidreamchaser853025 күн бұрын

    So happy you Posted this video sis, now that I'm an adult and understands life more, I've been asking myself lately why I tried to fit in, I was so uncomfortable with some of the choices I made just because I tried to fit in, if I could change one thing about my teenage years it would be trying to fit in, I was so comfortable with the nerds and the low key kids, they were my crowd but I choose popularity over what was best for me. Thanks for sharing ❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Indeed sis. It's not worth it...trying to fit in is not necessary especially because we can't be the same as others, we are all different and beautiful in our own ways❤

  • @alegrapowellonline
    @alegrapowellonline15 күн бұрын

    Thanks for the insight

  • @Zannyskies
    @Zannyskies22 күн бұрын

    Enjoyed this segment ❤

  • @theonaghisefamily
    @theonaghisefamily25 күн бұрын

    Wow wow wow much loaded information. Firstly it's a good thing that you are able to identify your weaknesses by seeking validation. Love your body we were all created in his image and likeness ❤ Be Anxious for nothing but with prayer supplications and thanksgiving let your request be made known to God. Phil 4:6. Entrepreneurship is not Easy. More grease to those doing that passionately. Thanks for sharing sis❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Yes sis. I'm happy you found this insightful . Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @o.s.a.s.u
    @o.s.a.s.u23 күн бұрын

    Love this video! ❤ Great job with the editing.👏🏽

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    23 күн бұрын

    Awwn, thank you so much sis. This means alot to you. EYM to the world by Gods grace...😅🌎 ❤️

  • @Annieskitchenandlifestyle88
    @Annieskitchenandlifestyle8821 күн бұрын

    Waow,this vlog is indeed different from other ones,we should try as parents to teach our kids about self esteem not letting anyone makes us feel inferior and it’s good we do what we have passion for,above all God has us covered.

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    21 күн бұрын

    Indeed sis. God is the greatest. Thank you for coming ❤

  • @Dirceria
    @Dirceria25 күн бұрын

    Beautiful!!! God is amazing!!🙏🌿🌻🌿🌻

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Yes indeed . Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @TameraXone
    @TameraXone25 күн бұрын

    Dearest Melanie, You've hit so many hard points to which many of us can relate. I too was fearful of what others would say and I believe that is something we actually grow out of. Boy, you must have really loved that dude hehehehe. They say love is blind in one eye and barely seeing out of the other! You are still in a great position to start over and do YOU! God above all else; if we seek Him first, scripture says all other things will be added unto us. Smile I agree that you must do what you love. Choose passion over money. Whomever told you that must be very smart! wink wink. I came from humble beginnings and that has impacted how I live today in a POSITIVE way! Thanks for sharing your experience. 20:56

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    I really loved that dude mama😂. Indeed , we are grateful for the privilege of beginning anew 😊. Thank you so much for watching ❤

  • @thisandthatwithdranimwaa
    @thisandthatwithdranimwaa21 күн бұрын

    6:42 You flee from guys like that. If he wants a girl with a specific physique, he should go for that type of girl. Well… you learn from experience. I am glad you learned and you are sharing. 9:40 People don’t know how anxiety is dangerous and it can creep into your life subtly. And it steals your joy.

  • @monise_makes
    @monise_makes25 күн бұрын

    Love this Mel! So much wisdom being shared ❤️

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Glad you liked it sis.

  • @LISATV196
    @LISATV19625 күн бұрын

    This topic, wow, this hit, thanks for sharing mel ❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    You are so welcome sis 💗

  • @Zinnys_Diary
    @Zinnys_Diary23 күн бұрын

    New subscriber 🎉 Wow, I enjoyed this discussion 😊your editing is nice 😍 please how do you get those external clips.

  • @AINwithDrAmi
    @AINwithDrAmi25 күн бұрын

    My sister is here. Hello beautiful ❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    Hello mama 😘

  • @sashidreamchaser8530
    @sashidreamchaser853025 күн бұрын

    You go sis editing on point❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Thank you sis . Your girl is trying ☺️

  • @FameRose77
    @FameRose7725 күн бұрын

    I can't laugh 😂 about the story, I love this, i wasn't worried about my background, but i gave myself more support. But not growing up with dad affected me ... Topic 💯

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    Awwn so sorry about your dad sis. Thank you so much ❤

  • @FameRose77

    @FameRose77

    25 күн бұрын

    @@MelanieBeloh 😘😘😘

  • @DonnaDesigns
    @DonnaDesigns25 күн бұрын

    Hi, Melanie, Beauty is inner deep from your heart which you have. Validation comes from yourself & God.Its never too late to change or try something different or new. We are all always learning & growing.God gives us what we need. We all have made some wrong decisions or didn't do it how we thought we should of. This is how we learn from.our mistakes. It's all part of the journey. Always go forward & never look back.Embrace the now & Enjoy this journey your on. Yes passion is the way to go but I feel we all get caught up about the money sometimes.I have faith in you & you will continue to grow & go after what your passionate about. Your a beautiful person inside & out , a wonderful Mom & your doing Great. Appreciate your story & honesty.With your faith & positivity your going places .Just keep believing & you will shine.🌝🩷💕

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Amen mama Donna. I'm grateful for your wonderful words. I appreciate you. Thank you for watching Mama ❤️

  • @DonnaDesigns

    @DonnaDesigns

    24 күн бұрын

    @@MelanieBeloh Your Very Welcome Honey.🌝💗💕

  • @ElizabethMathekga
    @ElizabethMathekga24 күн бұрын

    Hi Sis, am here❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    22 күн бұрын

    Hi Sis, Thank you for coming 💓

  • @mbalimorake
    @mbalimorake24 күн бұрын

    Here sis ❤❤

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    22 күн бұрын

    Thanks for coming sis . I appreciate 💛

  • @sashidreamchaser8530
    @sashidreamchaser853025 күн бұрын

    14:15 I experienced that the hard way, I loved doing hair and wanted to go to beauty school so bad I registered and everything. I never forget I went to look for my friend and her mom asked me what I'm gonna do next since I finished high school I told her hairdressing, she discouraged me saying I'm not going to make alot of money and thats a not a good choice I should do nursing, since my friends was doing the same, I said ok signed up for nursing school, hated it wasted my time since I was attending with my friends and wasted money smh, my next semester I ended getting pregnant with my son, so I stopped going to school. Not choosing my passion is the biggest mistake I ever made, lessons learnt not because somethings doesn't work out for someone doesn't mean it won't for you and not all advice is good advice, my friend mom was a hairdresser herself and it was not working out for her

  • @sashidreamchaser8530

    @sashidreamchaser8530

    25 күн бұрын

    Hence why she gave me that advice😮

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear about this sis. Your friend's Mama gave you an advice based on her experience, forgetting we all are not the same. The good thing is we had AJ out of all those years in nursing school, so it was a blessing in disguise. I'll encourage you to start making baby steps towards reaching your goal of becoming a hairdresser and make your friends mum proud by becoming a great and passionate one . Wishing you all the best Sashi sis❤

  • @xonesworld
    @xonesworld25 күн бұрын

    I’m listening to

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    25 күн бұрын

    Thabk you baby girl ❤

  • @madonahani5069
    @madonahani506921 күн бұрын

    Like ❤

  • @AINwithDrAmi
    @AINwithDrAmi25 күн бұрын

    You are so so beautiful. God bless you daddy and mom. Oh mine, insecurities. In secondary school a friend lied about her real parents and even where she lived. We found out and trolled her. She became uncomfortable in school. Imagine. Oh mine 7:17 Mama are you listening 7:46. Hmmmm. A cream 😮. OMG Daddy where are you ? Some mistakes you look back and say what was wrong with me? Come see us now. God is faithful Be anxious about nothing for God got us. God holds our future. Investing is something we need to learn very early. Our parents were doing very well with multiple income streams. I agree sis 12:24 The editing is improved a lot. Keep it up, sis

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Hahaha thank you so much mama Larry. We thank God for growth and improvement. We are really grateful for mummy and daddy . You guys trolled your friend? You all were not nice😅. I hope my friends didn't troll me too. I appreciate you for watching ❤️ 👀

  • @xonebell3340
    @xonebell334025 күн бұрын

    I will nor seek validation from people.

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Yes baby. Our validation should come only from Our father God. Thank you for watching ❤

  • @user-ql8vu5xy1p
    @user-ql8vu5xy1p25 күн бұрын

    This is sommies corner in another house

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    24 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much sis Sommie ❤

  • @xonesworld
    @xonesworld25 күн бұрын

    😂😂😂😂hooray to no curfew 1:03

  • @BkrBdn
    @BkrBdn4 күн бұрын

    Karibu.. Oli otya?

  • @FatemeLife
    @FatemeLife22 күн бұрын

    Hey there Mel☺ I love your new vlog🦋 Your videos are getting better each time and I enjoy watching them till the end. 🌷🌷🌷 Happy new week, and Thank you🌷🌷 Fateme Life ૮꒰ྀི⸝⸝•⁠ᴗ⁠•⸝⸝꒱ྀིა

  • @chamtyak4859
    @chamtyak485924 күн бұрын

    I always say low self esteem is a disease. You dissected everything here. Kudos Mel

  • @MelanieBeloh

    @MelanieBeloh

    23 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much Chamty . I appreciate 🙏