It feels wrong to call it red flag when it's more like a preference? To me red flags mean like danger signals for if they have manipulative/ abusive tendencies

@jyjaeskz

Жыл бұрын

Yeah

@EsseaJayk

Жыл бұрын

I agree like how is clothing a red flag... wtf

@helleswahn

Жыл бұрын

@@EsseaJayk I swear people don't even know what terms mean anymore

@justanotakugirl5821

Жыл бұрын

What I was thinking the whole video

@typoAdventure

Жыл бұрын

Yeah the formatting on this is weird. Thanks for calling that out. Things can be neutral or undesirable without being a red flag

I really appreciated how vulnerable Mica was. Not to bring everyone else down, but she seemed like the person that valued honesty more than being perfect. Recognizing where you went wrong is admirable, not everyone has the confidence to do so. Please never feel like you have to silence yourself, Mica, you will find someone who will appreciate that.

@mmarceline3

Жыл бұрын

well said 💜 i agree

@HouseMDaddict

Жыл бұрын

I just wrote a similar comment!

@mercymunoz1408

Жыл бұрын

I agree! beautifully worded

@noniLaus

Жыл бұрын

I agree, she also seems very self aware, and willing to catch herself on those things, so that's actually a green flag for me

@jmc747

Жыл бұрын

I felt so bad when she would question herself after getting a red flag, or even regret how she answered. This encounter may not have worked out, but she is so fucking cute, and she'll definitely find someone she meshes with! Stay true to you, Mica!!! You really did great!

thank god they gave the red flag/green flags at the END of the questioning, so that the other contestants don't change their answers to get green flags

@favour4150

Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I came here to say. It’s nice that they paid attention to the comments last time.

@dapo3538

Жыл бұрын

They really listened to us lol 😂

@mmarceline3

Жыл бұрын

yesss so much better than last time. at first i was like why are we doing the same order multiple times but then i realized it’s cause she didn’t give red or green flag until the end. i’m glad they listened to the comments

@JustLetMeFly94

Жыл бұрын

You think so? I think they've only cut it up that way...Her voice sounded cut up

@karan_karan_karan

Жыл бұрын

ITS EDITED! THEY EDITED IT TO MAKE IT LOOK LIKE THAT!!! notice how in the aerial shots the people already moved as she gives flags to people before them ... this was probably pre-filmed and maybe they'll follow that format in later videos

I feel like mica was asked questions that exposed dark/not perfect parks of themselves whereas others were asked questions that highlighted their good sides and parts. As a fellow ADHD person you did amazing at communication mica ! So proud of you

@Hello_Gorgeous

Жыл бұрын

I agree

@yo-wh7ty

Жыл бұрын

Yess everyone else got to show themselves in a nice way while Mica was asked horrible questions.

@lincolnbrueck4237

Жыл бұрын

Mica got blasted for sure. The girl asking questions was probably unbearable in highschool.

@carochan86

Жыл бұрын

Getting use to your ADHD is learning process. As you go along you will learn what works best for you. My cousin always tells me to turn negative thought into positive. I lose things on occasion with ADHD as well. I feel like if like say my keys don't have a " home" then I lose them. You will learn coping mechanisms that will help. My family members have ADHD. There are different coping and interaction you do with them that are instinctive bit they also might be coping tools. For example my brother helped me do the hedges but he hated cleaning up. So he cut and I cleaned behind him.

@gael-vf1ld

Жыл бұрын

literally

These questions are so strange. If you’re both having a shitty day, why would the other person be a priority instead of yourself?.

@tracelynnsangster

Жыл бұрын

yeah that question really got under my skin I didn’t understand that at all

@lovelyumiii

Жыл бұрын

maybe to help eachother and make it a better day.. but some days its okay to have your space i guess

@goblinguy3103

Жыл бұрын

That and the “what are your privileges” like dude I’m all for recognizing your privileges but she didn’t talk about how she is ALSO privileged, like it’s a two way street! Someone doesn’t have to defend you 24/7 if you won’t do the same

@sydt.283

Жыл бұрын

I think she worded it wrong, maybe meant it as like how are you making sure that my needs are prioritized equally

@goblinguy3103

Жыл бұрын

@@sydt.283 but they didn’t say that, that entire part of the convo was the main person going “but how do *you* make *me* feel better?”

I really appreciate how open and vulnerable Mica was. Her discomfort was clear, and I really hope she didn't take Marissa giving her red flags personally. She seems like a sweet person, and she will find someone who will appreciate her for who she is

@xochigonzalez8501

Жыл бұрын

Yeah honestly it sounds like Mica was just in relationships with people that didn't really appreciate her and it made her anxious

@nickarcade6245

Жыл бұрын

Psychologically, this format was not good for someone with ADHD/RSD

@larsswig912

Жыл бұрын

@@nickarcade6245 the RSD would eat my insides, yup. i also have adhd and i found her so relatable. she is so sweet, i hope she realizes that.

@kyuanawilliams6889

Жыл бұрын

@@larsswig912 What’s RSD?

@sunny_capriccio564

Жыл бұрын

@@kyuanawilliams6889 Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. Its not recognized on it's own, but it's commonly discussed as a side effect of ADHD's poor emotional regulation. It's essentially where rejection and criticism causes the person to spiral and take it to heart despite their best efforts to remain level-headed

Zach was so hot and had so many green flags. But she had so much more chemistry with Natalie. And honestly I think their shared experience of being in a wheelchair made it for sure Let me date Zach!

@rainlovesllamas17

Жыл бұрын

Everytime I've seen Zach in a video Ive been like 😍 he is so cute and I hope they find him a match one day.

@dee1946

Жыл бұрын

@@rainlovesllamas17 what other videos is he in bc hes so fine 😩

@mmarceline3

Жыл бұрын

ha! agreed. he’s very handsome and i love his style. can we have this show but he’s the one giving the red and green flags? i want him to find someone!!!

@brigidcupolo-shorter5018

Жыл бұрын

@@rainlovesllamas17 drop the other videos pls🙈

@fiishballs

Жыл бұрын

​@@dee1946 he was in a jubilee video! blind dating 5 guys based on their tattoos

I feel bad for Mica. I could feel her anxiety through the end.

@nicoleavery7238

Жыл бұрын

Yeah but that's how the game goes she will become stronger from her experiences

@mmarceline3

Жыл бұрын

i hope she knows there will be someone out there who will enjoy her for her, and this experience doesn’t mean she isn’t great ya know. she seemed like a really sweet person

@caenir

Жыл бұрын

When she just asked before being told to move back. I mean at that point she was out regardless.

@d3m0nsh1n3

Жыл бұрын

mica was mvp

@omotayosatuyi252

Жыл бұрын

She was getting dragged

Y’all need to let Mica be the bachelorette

@JB-ge4vx

Жыл бұрын

Yeeees!!! I'd love to watch this.

@tzet63

Жыл бұрын

YES PLZZZZ

@Nissa-Nissa

Жыл бұрын

YESSS I would LOVE that!

@cybeshi

7 ай бұрын

yes please

mica!! the fact that you were super honest and open is amazing. the fact that you got red flags doesn't mean you're a bad person or a red flag to all people. you two are just not a match and that saves you both a lot of time and hurt in the long run! :)

@shannilove2801

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@Northstander

Жыл бұрын

I agree, there will undoubtedly be lots of people watching who feel totally drawn towards Mica...she shouldn't have to wait too long for a date, if indeed she hasn't had one already!

@nperez4080

Жыл бұрын

Still rooting for her bring her back!!!

@carochan86

Жыл бұрын

You could tell their personalities didn't go well together.

@vanesaolvera598

Жыл бұрын

I have never related to someone else as much as Mica. It literally made me cry. Because it's hard not to take it so personally when you're so aware of the things you want to work on about yourself. You want to do better and it stings when someone doesn't want to take that "risk" with you. Also it gets hard to believe you'll ever find a loving partner after years of failed attempts to even get past the talking stage for me personally. It's just not in my cards at the moment (a long ass moment). I'm just trying to accept that and live my life to the fullest without it. I hope Mica doesn't get as discouraged as I have

The question about how someone would prioritize her needs if both people are having a bad day sort of rubbed me the wrong way. That's such an odd question to ask

@amemelia

Жыл бұрын

Same with the benefit oppression? What kind of question is that?

@emilia3313

Жыл бұрын

I agree, the question was weird enough that I was expecting it to be a trick question! I thought if I was a contestant I’d have said that I’d make sure I was feeling okay before putting all my focus on prioritizing my partner. Sort of how in airplanes you put your oxygen mask on yourself first before helping anyone else.

@rachelcookie321

Жыл бұрын

A lot of the questions she asked seemed really odd to me. They just made me uncomfortable.

@user-yg1ik1qq4l

Жыл бұрын

@@amemelia yeah i agree. It would be better to ask something like "do you participate in any social/human rights movements". At the end of the day we don't choose who we're born as but we can choose how to work with the environment and issues around us.

@giovanamaiara9750

Жыл бұрын

@@user-yg1ik1qq4l exactly! What she asked only showed how they understand they have a privilege, but in the end of the day knowing you have a privilege doesn't mean you're going to do anything to change that or to help others

When Mica asked if they were going back, it broke my heart. RSD is common with people with ADHD, and I wonder if they struggle with it. It did seem like that to me. I also think that once they mentioned their ADHD, almost all the questions they were asked were aimed at bringing out their "potential negative attributes" while others were given very light, easy questions that made them look good.

when she said she doesn’t understand how people have friends that are different from themselves i took that as a major red flag. it’s so fun to have friends who are different from you but similar in the aspect that you both respect each other and are open-minded to what you don’t necessarily share in common

@OliVia-mp6bw

Жыл бұрын

I wholeheartedly agree. I'm a white woman, and the vast majority of my friends are Latina women. I've learned and grown so much because of them. I love learning about how they view things and how they experience their lives differently than mine. I was also adopted into a Persian family, and once again I have learned and grown so much thanks to being brought into a Persian-American culture. While I was raised with certain experiences and perspectives, and those are valuable on their own, I've really gained so much from being able to learn from other's experiences and perspectives. I'm sad that a lot of people aren't open to being friends with people that are different from them, because being friends with different kinds of people in my experience has enhanced my life to the point where I'm now truly content with life, whereas I wasn't before.

@seraphim108

Жыл бұрын

In all fairness, I think she might have ment politics rather than just general differences. Considering her being a wheelchair user, non white, and not straight.. she might be worried someone who doesn't share the same views as her would land into the sexist racist abilist, etc. box.

@gabriellaamaria4986

Жыл бұрын

@@OliVia-mp6bw I agree with you, but I think it's easier to most privileged people to hang out and learn with different kind of people than it's to the different kind of people to hang out and teach. I am saying it not in an offensive way, just sharing my experience as a bisexual mixed Latina woman, who lives in a very inequal country and is poor. I do have white, rich friends, for example, but sometimes it's actually VERY frustrating and it can really sucks. Even though it's a friendship (so I also learn from them and they support me etc.), the very fact that we were from so different backgrounds can drive us to places that, yes, sucks a lot, and it ALWAYS hurts more to me, because I'm the weakest placed on the relationship. So what I'm trying to say is that I totally agree that it's important to have different people around you, but hanging out with people who understand you without you having to teach anything to them is indescribable. Being in a weird situation and just looking at your friend and knowing that they are seeing that this situation is weird, without you having to tell a thing is really, really precious, and this kind of comprehension came from a similar background. I would NEVER blame someone who prefer to interact with similar people because I feel what it's like to be around friends that you love, and are loved by, but they just can't understand the mostly obvious things unless you explain over and over again.

@gemagainst

Жыл бұрын

i mean, i dont hang out with people who have drastically different political and ideological/moral views. my friend group is incredibly diverse irt life experiences, culture, race, sexuality, etc. but its normal and not a red flag to want to have to have a baseline of commonality with the people you spend the majority of your time with.

the "how have you benefitted from other's being oppressed" question is so weird because she forces everyone to answer from the perspective of being privileged no matter their gender, sexuality, disability status, or race but then automatically puts herself in a position of being oppressed... even though she shares so many characteristics of what the others considered to be privileged

@shadesteel9247

Жыл бұрын

She does the same thing with the bad day question, she instantly puts her needs above everyone else's

@chelseaxoxo784

Жыл бұрын

.

@yesplatinum7956

Жыл бұрын

idk I just find it good to know that a person is aware of their privileges and I don’t see how that puts her in a position of someone without privilege

@stephaniehb9921

Жыл бұрын

@@yesplatinum7956 I agree I just think it's the way she said it. She said "they need to acknowledge their privilege so they can help me speak up about the privilege that I don't have". I feel like that's a weird thing to say because she definitely has privileges herself, everyone does.

@leahyeahnah6866

Жыл бұрын

Ikr, honestly, my answer would have been "We both had bad days, so we both need to take care of ourselves, your needs are not more important than mine." It made her seem quite entitled. Also I disliked the judging by outfit part quite a lot, especially because you could see that Mica was quite hurt by it.

As someone with ADHD and rejection sensitive dysphoria, I could practically write a dissertation on Mica's RSD... everyone is saying that she came across as vulnerable and sincere, but it's clear that the way this got presented triggered that physical pain and was very problematic in many ways

@blobbita

Жыл бұрын

Ikr??? This broke my heart. When she asked "should i step back now?" i just remembered my highschool days lol

@Alex-fc8xn

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I saw myself in her too much 🙃 it hurt. I found myself apologizing during a literally therapy group last week for "talking too much and taking up too much space" and the facilitators were like "no, it didn't feel that way at all. Your openness and perspectives were really appreciated" but then I still spent all week anxious about the next session because I felt I must've annoyed at least one person there (and then missed that session today because I was super sick last night for some reason and didn't get any sleep 🙃 so that's another week until I see any of them again and have the chance to try to figure out if I make them uncomfortable

@IBleedPinkFrosting

Жыл бұрын

@@Alex-fc8xn Hi! I had that exact feeling in a therapy group. The longer I stuck with it I realized a lot of other people felt the same way. They came out and said it after we all got to know each other better. Time goes by slowly when you are anxious, you aren’t taking up too much space in that group.

@Pope_of_the_Church_of_Tea

Жыл бұрын

Learning about RSD after my ADHD diagnosis as an adult was so eye-opening. Being autistic has helped somewhat, because my personal experience of autism includes the ability to largely delete someone’s opinion from my list of things worth giving a damn about unless I respect them or want them to think positively of me. But in those latter cases, limited as the number of people in there is, it’s taken a lot of growing over the course of my life to get even decent at bouncing back from insults and rejections. My heart hurt for Mica watching how her openness was treated so harshly, because it’s such an acute pain in a way I don’t think NTs really understand. She seems amazing (and actually reminds me a lot of someone I’ve recently been seeing and *really* hope I’ll end up dating long-term), and someone had better be open-minded enough to recognize that.

@sydt.283

Жыл бұрын

While it was hurtful to Mica, it’s not problematic at all to have these boundaries

small suggestion/idea: is it possible to alternate the order in which they answer? like go back and forth so the person who went first goes last the second time, idk i think it might be better to not have the same person go first all the time.

@mmarceline3

Жыл бұрын

i agree. i will say that it isn’t as much of an issue in this video as it was the last one (of this game). because before they’d say green or red right away so others would know what to say. now the green or red flag is given after everyone responds, which helps. but i still think what you’re saying is true because answering first every time is still a bit of a disadvantage when the others can hear what you said and think about what they will say. that’s why i enjoy the end the most when they get individual questions

@kmms4720

Жыл бұрын

Good idea!!

@She.Follows.The.Sun.

Жыл бұрын

In all honesty, I am very forgetful. So if the order changed for each question, I won't remember the order of answers and may give the wrong flag. So I think to make it easier for the person asking questions, they just rotate 1 way. They changed it up toward the end since it's only 3 answers to remember, but then they answered right after being asked.

@carochan86

Жыл бұрын

@@She.Follows.The.Sun. Same . I think I would forget who was who .

@whyyou268

Жыл бұрын

That would make it confusing for the center person.

This was one of the best episodes on this channel. Everyone was so chill, and just really nice in general. It felt nice listening to everyone be open about stuff.

@M.I.22

Жыл бұрын

So beautifully said, I loved all of them too! 🥰

@mmarceline3

Жыл бұрын

agreed :) i really liked everyone. i hope all of them find the right person for them!

I wonder if Mica, as she is someone with ADHD, suffers with rejection sensitivity dysphoria. It's common in people living with ADHD and she just seemed so crushed when given red flags. Seems like a sweet girl though. My boyfriend has ADHD and I've really come to appreciate the challenges that it can bring. Hope you can keep growing and always be honest, Mica!

@the_sky_is_blue_and_so_am_I

Жыл бұрын

I also suffer with RSD and it sucksss. Thank you for learning about it because everyone around me has failed to learn.

@SaharaDry

Жыл бұрын

Honestly sometimes the best way to get past it is to desensitise it and take power away from it BY putting ourselves in these situations where we can laugh about it or feel good that we've been authentic. She was able clearly to say hey it sucks I was rejected but I admire she was setting her boundaries and that's ok.

I love Mica! So honest and endearing. Hope to see more of her

@milya1926

Жыл бұрын

right!! she seems like such a lovely human being. lowkey reminds me of max from life is strange

@sania8158

Жыл бұрын

@@milya1926 TRUEEEE

@carochan86

Жыл бұрын

Same . I'd love to see her in a few years and see how she's grown.

in the first set of individual questions, I felt so bad for Mica. The other two get romance and body count questions, and she gets codependency? Set up for failure

this is astronomically better than the last episode, thank you nectar! edit: this is nectar not jubilee! lol i genuinely thought i was on the jubilee channel

@annasin2634

Жыл бұрын

They listened! 🎉 A much better episode for sure.

@nendu4316

Жыл бұрын

I DONT THINK THIS IS JUBILEE, UNLESS ITS A CHILD COMPANY ignore caps

@ldr9918

Жыл бұрын

@@nendu4316 oh right, my bad! i just discovered nectar through the jubilee channel so i kinda associated them with each other sorry for the mixup!

@channy6995

Жыл бұрын

@@annasin2634 agreed

Mica, you were being open and authentic and you should never have to apologize for that. Just because you weren’t compatible with this bachelorette, doesn’t mean you should change yourself ❤

Mica! Never feel bad and don't hold back! "Rejection" is a hard thing for many people, but I like to tell people to view it as "you never knew this person before, so nothing gained, but also nothing lost!". You will find someone who matches your wants and needs, never take it personally!

@cadavher

Жыл бұрын

@@lovecommanectar I LOVE this!! I've never heard that saying before! 💛💛

as someone with adhd the fear of rejection and someone not agreeing or liking your true self it hurts sooooo much BUT YOU DID AMAZING GIRLIEEEE 😊

They asked Mica all the hard questions 💀💀 I love them! They deserve a happy and healthy relationship and I loved how open and honest the responses were even though they seemed more personal than the questions everyone else answered

I love the dichotomy between their styles, a blue sea kind of vibe against a fire sun kind of vibe, they really fit well together, I think

Marisa felt so "chronically online" with the way she talked it just gave me really big tik tok vibes RED FLAG

@noone-re3zp

Жыл бұрын

I'm relieved I'm not the only one who notices this stuff and thinks that way.

nectar thank you for listening to our feedback on waiting to hear the bachelorette’s thoughts until all the contestants have spoken so they can’t manipulate their answers, this is so much better! 😍

@karan_karan_karan

Жыл бұрын

ITS EDITED! THEY EDITED IT TO MAKE IT LOOK LIKE THAT!!! notice how in the aerial shots the people already moved as she gives flags to people before them ... this was probably pre-filmed and maybe they'll follow that format in later videos

@JennaEmbers

Жыл бұрын

@@karan_karan_karan dang that’s such a let down 😭 can they get in a time machine and reshoot everything? lmao

@karan_karan_karan

Жыл бұрын

@@JennaEmbers ikr!! but theyll prob do it from now on hehe so that's good

I just got the feeling that she was looking for a yes-person more than a partner - it was all about her needs being prioritized and 'speaking up for her' / having the right = her political opinion. I would have loved to see more long term/deeper questions that weren't meant to please her only

It wasn’t intentional, but I feel like mica was asked questions that were a lot more personal and serious compared to the other contestants near the end, which I don’t think works well when comparing the the more easy questions. I personally don’t think it was fair to do it in that way bc the other contestants didn’t really have to share negative things.

Hold on no way you and your partner are both having a bad day and you have to prioritize them or their needs over yours. Don't both parties need to be in the right state of mind before they can actually help one another. Like if I and my girlfriend were both depressed I shouldn't work on my depression I should prioritize hers 💀

These are some of the ABSOLUTE nicest people in their age range I've seen on ANY of the channels of this sort. The balance between emotional intelligence and general awareness is so balanced in each of them.

I also have a problem with isolation and personally I wouldn’t go with someone who also isolates herself, I’d prefer someone who doesn’t so they can help me when I’m in one of my “isolation phases” but at the same time it would be nice to have someone who gets it, right?

@casspurrwaspurr4716

Жыл бұрын

I agree. Good things to both sides. Like I’d love someone that relates. But I know if both of us like to isolate, that means most likely if we both felt that way, we’d agree to stay in and isolate together, rather than push ourselves to go out- which is why a more socially confident person would help in that case

@annie.hi.

Жыл бұрын

And the isolation might not be such a problem if you’re isolated together, or they could give each other courage

@user-kf2pq8rt3r

Жыл бұрын

I love this! I always thought it was annoying whenever someone would try to “disturb my peace” tryna bring me out but you’re right! Isolation isn’t always healthy and to have someone try to bring you out of your comfort zone sounds better than enabling what you’re used to

@carochan86

Жыл бұрын

I feel like you want to grow together but if one isn't a bit more outgoing then the other you'd both just be "isolated" together.

The way Mica displayed her vulnerability was amazing. It must have taken tremendous guts to be so open when you knew you were being judged. Before I started watching the video, I scrolled through the comments section and saw so many comments about a Mica. I was eager and also slightly sceptical. But she was so pure and nervous that she made me emotional. Don’t worry, Mica! You will undoubtedly meet your person soon. Rooting for your happiness.

I feel like Mica was the most honest, she was very open about pretty much all of her "dark past" and issues. I think it would've been better if contestants were asked same questions or at least same kind. Like Mica mostly got questions that exposed her red flags meanwhile others got more room to show off their good sides with the questions they got.

Mica is super adorable😭 Honestly I was shocked because her and Marissa had the same kind of cartoony style, just Mica hasn't dug that deep yet, but she's on the right path! I can understand if that caught Mica off guard :( YOU'RE AMAZING MICA! Kudos to you for being honest and vulnerable❤️

This entire video warms my heart, everyone was so, so kind and cute. I love all of them. There are wonderful people in this world. To the girl who thought she had overshared, in my eyes she really didn't. She's aware of these things, that's so important. I think she should be proud for being able to be vulnerable and honest! I appreciate it a lot.

THEY'RE SO ADORABLE TOGETHER WTFFFFFFFF

@MagiciteHeart

Жыл бұрын

I was literally squealing at my screen 😭

marissa has more red flags than everyone combined

@mariajk975

Жыл бұрын

So glad someone finally said it!

@sasuxsakuxfan

Жыл бұрын

thank you.. i smelled the red flags immediately lol

I wanted to cry when Mica asked if they had to step back. They were so genuine and sweet the whole time.

I was so impressed by the questions she asked! I feel like on most series like this people are just like "do you believe in astrology" or "what kind of music do you like" or something

I like Mica. I think someone being so self aware says a lot about them and how much thought they are putting into themselves. That’s the biggest green flag.

If we're both having a shit day, why should I prioritize YOU? Are you gonna prioritize me then?

Mica reminds me of myself. With the ADHD ,and her star outfit being overbearing with people. I become super clingy with people and I know relationships ended because of that.

@Alex-fc8xn

Жыл бұрын

ADHD makes us experience a LOT of social rejection, so it is really hard to not latch onto someone who shows you positive attention 😭 which makes losing them hurt more if things don't work out

I like that this was more inclusive and we see that people with disabilities do have more to their personality than their diagnosis story

I know (as a fellow ADHDer) that Mica will be wondering if she needs to change herself to be more "lovable" because RSD is a thing but what she will hopefully come to realise (as I did when I was about her age) is just because she wasn't right for Marissa doesn't have any bearing on her worth and in fact she needs to be as firm with her needs and boundaries for future partners. Not everyone is a perfect match; someone will really appreciate Destinee's gifts as a reminder when they've had a bad day that someone cares for them, but some (like Marissa) will find it uncomfortable; its finding compatibility, not being universally loved/accepted. I had many bad relationships where I tried to shape myself to someone's needs and it's like trying to bend a spring. Happy to say I am now married to someone who I can communicate with, we understand each other and, very importantly, we have a great support system outside of our relationship too.

I really respect how transparent and honest the one girl is. She has ALOT of integrity and anyone working on themselves is very attractive. I have issues w trauma from controlling & co dependent people and she’s too young etc I wouldn’t have chosen her but overall there’s a lot about her that is attractive & respectable and I hope she’s not too hard on herself bc there’s definitely someone for her!

marissa asked such great questions! it was easy to get answers that werent so replicable and more personalized. great episode

Thank you for this visibility of people with disabilities. Representation of all bodies is important :)

Mica your self awareness and honesty is admirable! A lot of us share the same experiences as you but not many of us will be as honest about it as you are. Just shows you are steps ahead for your self journey and the things you’re wanting to work on.

Not finished yet, but Mica, what a wonderful, sweet and open person you are!! And don't think you should've changed your answers, I think it's best to be open from the get go. It might mean you and Marissa aren't meant for each other, but you will find someone where you can be yourself! And you might have to work on being less overbearing, but everyone will always have things to learn :)

Hey y’all! To clarify, @ 2:43 I meant to say far right not left. I am very much a leftist and for human rights 👀. Also just wanted to say every single person that was a part of this video (including the crew) are absolutely lovely humans. I can’t say enough good about this experience :) thank y’all for watching ❤️

@jeffreypoh6181

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dont switch up now

@SuperSimpForTheStars

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oh ok cuz i was a little confused lol

@Anna_Tang

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lmao imagine someone's political stance being a dealbreaker for a relationship - especially from leftists who claim to be "accepting" and "open - minded"

@boops8661

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chronically online entitled narcissist

@twimmy1581

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@@boops8661 bruh just threw out random words, u do know narcissism is something that needs diagnosed, right. Like it’s a full blown medical process thing, not just an internet buzz word to throw out?

damn... I know people usually don't think of giving and receiving gifts as a positive thing because it sounds materialistic. But, just in my experience, gifts is one of my main love languages. I love to put thought into giving the people I love something, even if it is as small as a bar of chocolate with a note on the side. It's the surprise element when the person is not expecting something, it's a special sort of happiness to see on a person and I love it so much. I never expect anyone to give me something back, but if it a partner, I always make them aware of my love languages. As everyone should. Gift giving and receiving shouldn't be looked down on, if this is your love language so be it! Other people who have the same love language will understand

@eggsbenedict2017

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She wasn’t looking down on it though. It’s not her love language. She explained that it doesn’t have the same affect on her and makes her anxious. If one person’s love language makes the other person anxious, then they’re not compatible. It’s good that Marissa recognized that so Destinee’s efforts can be appreciated by someone who will appreciate them :)

@y2m3e.45

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@@eggsbenedict2017 yeah I agree. I guess I was speaking more about how people generally think. I know many people might have a negative view when compared to other love languages, that's all

This was so refreshing compared to the last video you did like this. Really friendly group of people, and much deeper questions. Marissa was really sweet to everyone. I'm glad you changed the format so that the flags are given out after everyone has answered the question. It's much more fair. I only have nice things to say about everyone in the video, but I want to give a shout out of Mica. You could see her gradually losing confidence as she got some red flags due to her being honest vulnerable. But just because she isn't the one for Marissa, doesn't mean she isn't the right person for someone else. Don't lose hope!

I never related to someone like Mica ever. They make me so happy to express myself more and thats okay.

@mica7088

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Comments like this make me so happy! One of the best things about putting myself out there in such a visible and vulnerable way is being able to make other people feel more comfortable with who they are! Never be afraid to be yourself 💖

@eggsbenedict2017

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@@mica7088 Oh my goodness, is that really you?! I was scrolling through the comments looking to find you. You’re awesome. :)

I feel like it would be cool to introduce ‘super green flag’ where 1 time or a couple times per episode if someone really likes an answer they’ve heard, they can give them the super green flag which can move them 2 places instead of 1.

Mica seems like such a sweet person..🥺 everyone does

Marrissa: considers talking about politics a red flag Also Marrissa: What do you think it's the time you benefited of someone's oppression? Wonder if the red flag is really reffering to the things that she doesn't agree with.

@diskrisk9145

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That's usually what it is. I've encountered many people that love to say "you need to be political" until they realize you don't agree with then 100%, then they'll avoid the topic.

@eternalflame8104

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@@diskrisk9145 exactly. The irony is that the views that she perpetuated in those videos are what she defined she was supposedly against, i.e. the far-left. Also wondering if she said that to appear more grounded in the show.

@morbidgirl6808

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@@diskrisk9145 Same here although I'm a leftist but I'm in a relationship with a conservative. We constantly have discussions about politics in a civil manner and enjoys exploring political theories together. It helped me to reevaluate my views better. Honestly, we agreed with each other more than we disagreed with each other. More people needs to realize that they are more similar in mindsets instead of dividing themselves based on political spectrum. I don't like how she says politics is a red flag then asks it. It's absolutely contradicting. I think she just had an excuse to avoid that discussion and direct her own views on others.

@Ray03595

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Yea, was very confused why she was asking political questions when she doesn't like politics. Also a ridiculous question to ask a person. I wouldn't have even answered. Everybody needs to apologize for existing nowadays it seems and that question just plays into this notion more.

@lv9809

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I thought the same thing! And I haven't seen that many people in the comments pointing it out. She immediately made the conversation exclusively political by asking about oppression and giving green flags to people who agreed with her. She came off as if she doesn't have any tolerance to different viewpoints to me. Specially when she asked about the friend groups of the contestants and said she didn't understand how people could get along when they're very different from each other. I personally consider that it's a very extreme and close minded way to interact with others.

literally cryingggg i never see people in wheelchairs 🥺🥺🥺🥺 makes my heart happy for our future

I think the whole “how are you gonna prioritise me after we both have a bad day” was weird like it sounds selfish

I truly respect and appreciate mica for her honesty!

This was so great to witness 💚💚💚 My mum has been a wheelchair user since I was 3, and you still very rarely see real human interactions portrayed in media with disabled people!

Mica is amazing with her self awareness and accountability in her past relationships. ❤️ Although this wasn't a fit for her she'll definitely benefit in a relationship that's healthy in the future. Don't give up Mica! 🥺

I’m crying so much over the beauty and kindness and artsiness of these people. This is the best episode omggggg y’all gotta give the person that finds these lovely humans a RAISE!!!

Mica warmed my heart and I admire how sincere her answers were. She definitely got asked difficult and uncomfortable questions but it takes guts to be vulnerable (especially since she was with a room filled with strangers). Rooting for her :))))

Zach was literally a walking green flag

Mica, you are an unbelievable soul. I have ADHD too, and I love how honest you were. I think you are so kind, lovely, caring, and beautiful. Thank you for coming on the show, and being a sweetheart. 💖

I love how so u could tell that mica was a lil nervous towards the end but she was so calm and she was so genuine and sweet ❤️ all the contestants we're amazing !

I’m trying to be as self-aware as Mica, you’re absolutely brilliant and lovely. Your perspective and ability to be vulnerable is amazing. 💕

"Am I going back?" Literally broke my heart 🥺

Marissa asked such great questions, i really loved this episode. also everyone seemed so genuine

@jennyk629

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I think some of the wording could have been better, but they’re definitely good questions to ask. For instance, the question where she asked how her partner would prioritize her needs if they’re both having a bad day. I think prioritize is probably not the best word to use.

@gabimgmg

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@@jennyk629 i completely agree, very weird question

@jennyk629

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@@gabimgmg as I kept watching the video I wondered if the producers wrote the questions or whether she did. It’s kinda weird to ask someone to prioritize your feelings/needs over their own, and then say you don’t like people who are codependent or overly affectionate.

Regarding Marissa's statement about not understanding how people can be friends with someone who disagrees with them. You need to let yourself be surrounded by people who don't agree with you all the time, otherwise you will be stuck in your own ways. Your views will never be challenged and you will never evolve as a person.

Everyone was so mature about the questions and the process as a whole! 😊 Definitely the best episode so far, and a good on her part--the chemistry was palpable! 🔥🔥🔥 Nice.

Mica is the absolute cutest omg

this episode seemed so much more genuine than the previous one, I'm glad

mica is so cute and sweet i wish i knew someone like her in real life i see her going places

Extremely deep and complex questions with a good range of mature and honest answers. It was especially heart warming to see so many young people recognise both their privilege and their faults.

Everyone seemed so beautiful and sweet! I think the end result was a great match and i love that her red and green flags were based on compatability rather than roasting them for something that they may be insecure about 😅💚

i admire mica for her honesty and she's just so open with everything i love her ❤i did feel like she had more vulnerable questions tossed her way compared to others at the start 😢

This is the best episode on nectar this far, I love it and so happy for the match they looked perfect together.

I really hope this channel starts to get the attention it deserves!

why tf would i prioritize your needs over mine if we're both having a shitty day?

I felt for Mica a lotttt and I am super proud of her!!!! she's really interesting. the ending of the video was also really wholesome knowing they went to the parade together! overall a really cool episode :) also, I loved Mica's comments about Marissa and how she would want to hang out with her, despite being put on the spot with some questions

Mica is amazing, she feels really human, willing to admit her flaws and open to change. I really like her

god her makeup is so cute along with her whole personality

Hola I’m angel Villatoro. I really love the channel !! So good to have met the creator in person yesterday. The content within the channel is so heartwarming and thought provoking. Connecting souls via these human interactions-settings is sooo encouraging.

All of them seemed like characters of my new favorite series

Thank you for listening to the suggestions on the last episode, this episode was really good!

Omg Natalie is friends with Claire! That’s awesome that they all got to hang out at Pride. I hope Natalie and Marissa’s date went well and if nothing else they continue a friendship. They seem like they have wonderful chemistry!!

@sheila6808

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Who is Claire

@sapphicalix

Жыл бұрын

@@sheila6808 KZread keeps deleting my reply and I don’t know why. Claire is well known in the LGBT/disabled community. She was in the picture they showed at the end of the video from Natalie and Marissa going to Pride together. I’m disabled and a lesbian so I’m in the same community she’s in, that’s how I recognize her

That she says speaking out on politics and being political in general is a red flag is a major red flag 🚩😂

@joelleweetjewel9948

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I thought she said the opposite lol? Actively speaking out was listed as a green flag.

@thewerewolfofwaggawagga8818

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@@joelleweetjewel9948 but being "far left" (by american standards, so centrist) is a red flag. what does she think far left means?

@lilshmet4167

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@@thewerewolfofwaggawagga8818 She clarified herself and said that she made a mistake and meant to say "far right" was a red flag. She made a comment in the comment section

Mica you are AMAZING keep being honest and vulnerable. You opened yourself up, that’s not a “red flag” and you had such kind things to say about Marissa

mica, i live in my own cartoon world too! I think your style is so cute, love the hair + backpack combo

@mica7088

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I actually thought it really pulled my outfit together (if you look closely as I leave, I'm specifically showing it to her cus I wasn't sure if she'd noticed it!) They cut out my voice at that part tho lmao

now marrisa and natalie gon be rollin together 👩🏾‍🦽‼️

Subscribing because I hope Mica will be on the Bachelorette 😇 she was so sweet, vulnerable, and so honest, she deserves a good match 😢

I love that you corrected the format and the person is giving red/green flag after every one of them answer

ahhh wait this was so good! so often these types of videos get toxic but this was really wholesome!

This was so adorable!!! I loved the ending pair together

This episode was so good and a bit emosh for me for some reason🥺 Mica is such a sweetheart and I love how refreshingly honest she was. Also Marissa and Natalie💕💕💕 I was rooting for them all through. Again, this is the best episode.

Natalie and her seem to have such a great connection, similar vibe. I think they'll work great together. And they're disability is a plus to bring them together

I get really happy when I receive notification that a new Nectar or jubilee video is out, no matter the mood I was before the notification.