White men have been nicer to me in the workplace more than white women. I honestly prefer male bosses because it’s usually about just getting the job done instead of this weird competition thing with women. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@digimonalvatrax2738

29 күн бұрын

There is also micro aggression and passive

@tjc2824

29 күн бұрын

I just got done visiting a slave site and saw where white men gr8ped thousands upon thousands upon thousands of women, little girls, boys, and even men! Better wake tf up and learn your history!!

@annastashawashington6177

29 күн бұрын

I believe that’s where it actually comes from

@emfarah3758

29 күн бұрын

@@digimonalvatrax2738That’s what white women do.

@emfarah3758

29 күн бұрын

@@digimonalvatrax2738I had a secret HR meeting to get me fired by a white woman and she brought her white woman colleague to vouche for her

A WHITE MAN -- All day everyday!! Hands down!!

@hanatirk4375

28 күн бұрын

Can you explain why?

@Blaquebarbgamer

27 күн бұрын

@@hanatirk4375 Go see my comment up top. I explain it short and sweet.

@ALABRASILIANA

27 күн бұрын

Literally every time

@tarahbruno3793

7 күн бұрын

Every time!

My mother literally lost a job while she was pregnant with me due to a bunch of WW tag teaming against her to lie to their boss about something she didn't even do.

@neoloanderson6676

29 күн бұрын

😢

@emfarah3758

29 күн бұрын

Heartless

@mommak10

29 күн бұрын

Jesus 😢

@mylyfe4382

28 күн бұрын

Facts

@sincererr986

28 күн бұрын

I experienced this post partum.

I've had both as immediate supervisors and coworkers. I'd choose the man. At least with them, if they don't like you, they're straightforward about it and not jealous of you or catty. The "sisterhood" doesn't include bw. Never did-

@rebeccabryson2722

Ай бұрын

This right here

@saramatthews7159

Ай бұрын

THIS!

@JadeScorpion31

29 күн бұрын

Exactly!!

@dragonslayer616

29 күн бұрын

Absolutely 💯

@WynnWynn-gl3fk

27 күн бұрын

Not true always. I support all feminist channels, including hers. I want a sisterhood and I am white.

Definitely a white MAN! As a black woman, I've had bad experiences with both, but had the WORST experiences with white women in the work environment.

@Sarah.M98

22 күн бұрын

Same here, even when it comes to friendships/relationships. White men are more professional and nicer than white women

To be honest, I'd pick a WM over WW, BW and BM...🤷🏾‍♀️

@digimonalvatrax2738

27 күн бұрын

In this order WM, BW, Other, BM, WW

@Sarah.M98

22 күн бұрын

Me too, white men easier to interact with

@Ccl2tb

22 күн бұрын

I've worked with many different people, over four decades, over forty different companies. I'm not black or white, but multi ethnic. I also would choose the WM first. The most I've ever had to put up with from them was mansplaining and condescension, and I have also been able to be direct with them about it and have it resolved. In my experience younger WW and older WW are very different. My second choice is the younger, WW who were more helpful and easy going. However i found the older WW, BW, and a few younger BW to be the most pushy, gossipy or ruthless. I have also experienced the most sexual harassment from all groups of non white males of all ages.

@arisboba

19 күн бұрын

SAME. I'm a bw & istg, bw have always been the biggest damn haters, in my schooling experience. And bm are just....whew, chile. I'd honestly choose none. I don't wanna be bothered.

@arisboba

19 күн бұрын

​@@Ccl2tbThis survey was for *BW* , hun.

White women and Black men*. Name a better duo that will set Black women back *not all for the nuance nellies

@imperfectblkgoddess99

Ай бұрын

Oh they real good at it

@SynamonSugar

Ай бұрын

This right here!!!

@Treebee6009

Ай бұрын

Oooooo, chyle. Run!

@DeeperThanMyThoughts

29 күн бұрын

They are naturally aligned. Keep your distance.

@antwangordon6918

29 күн бұрын

Fortunately for black men, we don’t yield any power to hold anyone back. We don’t own the banks, can’t deny women business or home loans, can’t mass incarcerate y’all, can’t deny access for jobs, can’t deny access to healthcare, can’t even correct you because you’re just gonna call 911 and cry victim. The list goes on 😮.

Conclusion: bears are now women favorite managers to work with.

@a.c.4465

29 күн бұрын

lol 😆

@arisboba

19 күн бұрын

Still the safer option, at least they're human.

@lizalittle825

13 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

Yeah, this wasn’t a hard question. I knew my answer right away. The fact that Black women have to explain the answer just reinforces why an overwhelming amount, especially those who’ve worked in corporate environments, made the same choice. We don’t need to explain this to other Black women because they have the same experiences.

Yt man because he's never looking my way. He leaves me alone. It's the yt women who have lied on me and used those yt tears in work environments.

@missede96

29 күн бұрын

Yes very much this! He will leave you alone while the WW micro manages like hell and tries to gaslight you.

@Blaquebarbgamer

27 күн бұрын

Yes

@Sarah.M98

22 күн бұрын

This is 💯 true, white women and don't know how to leave people alone.

White man he is not in competition with me. Either they’re mad about the fact that they will pick black woman against the black man or they are mad because they are aware they are similar to black men in comparison

@Sarah.M98

22 күн бұрын

This

I chose the bear because people are so jealous and hateful

@marissa._

Ай бұрын

This is the comment I was looking for. 💯 I wouldn't choose either, or. I don't like either of them! I'm sticking with the bear over men & women either way it goes! 🤷 If I was stuck in a room with a Matt Walsh or an Andrew Tate, I'm choosing the bear! 🐻 If I'm stuck in a room with a Pearl Davis, I'm STILL gonna choose bear! 🐻 I'm an introvert and don't like being around certain people in general. 🤷

@Rose-kj7rz

29 күн бұрын

Same. I have no friends. Every friend I've ever had, man or woman, no matter the cultural background, has always reached a point where they either got jealous/envious, felt ashamed of my presence, or had feelings I can't reciprocate. Which ALWAYS ends up with them treating me like trash. With the exception of one man, who, upon moving in with him, decided that it was my job to clean, cook and do all else while he played video games literally all day, every day and sometimes all night. I've turned into a hermit and anything that I can do with people, I can do by myself anyway.

@ineedhoez

29 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

@MultiRekrap

28 күн бұрын

​@@Rose-kj7rzwell said!

@quincyjones5676

28 күн бұрын

fair enough LOL

A STRAIGHT white man. If you know, you know. I love all, but if i have to work with someone and want to be respected and get things done, THAT is my preference above all other options if they were available. (Latino and Asian men are the others I prefer.)

I got into an argument with my cowork(white) in front of my manager her best friend and also the reason she had the job. The argument was because she believed I HAD to talk to her when I come into the house before clocking in. I came in and spoke to the people who spoke to me she did not speak so neither did I. Her and the manager both tagged teamed me as to how that was wrong I was told I had a really bad attitude because I'm quiet. I don't speak to anyone unless they're talking to me because I don't like bothering people and vice versa.I literally told them If I spent 15 minutes everyday walking through the house talking to people BEFORE clocking in within a week I've already lost over a hour of work just from talking. That's a full day I gave the company a month and 12 full days a year I'm working for free just to placate her feelings. I wasn't doing it and didn't do it. I reported both of them but since the lady's uncle owned the company nothing happened. Nobody else had that expectation but since I'm young my coworkers tend to treat me like I'm a brainless child.

@martaleszkiewicz5115

29 күн бұрын

I hate how in corporate environments BW are often expected to be the loud, chatty, sassy stereotypes of the extraverted token BW like you see in most Hollywood movies, but if you're quiet, introverted, or are just minding your own business, you get told off and/or punished for "bad attitude".

@TheAlexaLee

27 күн бұрын

@@martaleszkiewicz5115 yea I ended up quitting the job I couldn't handle the mental gymnastics. My current job is like that as well. So honestly atp I feel like the problem because I've always been taught to come in do your job and go home. We were taught our coworkers aren't really our friends and to be cautious in our working environment. So if we're urged to be cautious where does that leave room to be loud outspoken and sassy.

@stephaniebrooks8044

21 күн бұрын

Ikr! Y they think we have to speak to them first? Speak to who speaks to u!

I'm a white woman and honestly i agree with the woman who was a fitness instructor who said that she has always had bad experiences with white women. I've had a similar experience with other white women as a neurodivergent woman. Men are fine except when I'm in relationships. Women of color are always polite. Even if maybe they don't like me personally. The backstabbing is always from a very specific type of white woman. I've learned to recognize them. I'm always scared of becoming like that to other people. Thanks for making this video.

@genesbeans570

29 күн бұрын

Also a white ND woman, and I find interacting with women in the workplace hard in general bc nothing is direct and i awlays feel they are trying to read me. Men are straight forward and just about the buissness and I appreciate that.

@martaleszkiewicz5115

29 күн бұрын

Preach! As an autistic woman, it's so hard for me to get along with women in general! And the racial/ethnic stereotypes you're expected to play out in the workplace make it even harder to navigate.

@hellokaumea8315

29 күн бұрын

"Men are fine except when I'm in a relationship" lmao and you're ok with that?

@hellokaumea8315

29 күн бұрын

"Men are fine except when I'm in a relationship" lmao and you're ok with that?

@genesbeans570

29 күн бұрын

@hellokaumea8315 yes... every "masculine" man iv dated has been a man child and wouldn't clean up after themselves, regularly practiced weaponized incompetence, wouldn't do anything unless I asked multiple times, never took my needs/feelings into consideration, etc. The "feminine" men actually contribute to the house and help me without me having to ask, care about me and take me and my feelings into consideration when making decisions, are comfortable in their masculinity and sexuality as to not be jealous or insecure. And tbh the more "feminine" men care about my pleasure so their way better in the bedroom too. Why would I not want it that way?

The yte man is easier to deal with in general compared to the yte woman. Strange but true. 🤷‍♀️

@Sarah.M98

22 күн бұрын

💯

Oh now white women say we in this together that’s funny I couldn’t tell

@AIBot929

28 күн бұрын

Right, the same ones who kicked up out of feminist movements are surprised

@tarahbruno3793

7 күн бұрын

Let a white woman start crying and we’ll see if we’re really in this together. I’m gonna say it.. white women are the ops, I’ll take a white male coworker any day. They genuinely show respect with no motives or underlying jealousy

I would choose a WM, they mind their business and don’t harass me or think they above me. I do not like working with these women at all.

I had the worst work experiences because of WW.

Definitely a white man! I've had several white male bosses and they have all treated me with kindness, respect and fairness. My previous white women bosses have been some of the meanest, worst bosses I've ever had. They've constantly tried to pay me less than I'm worth and have tried everything they could do to take advantage of me in the workplace!

WM all day everyday. Working in corporate healthcare, I find that after working with WW all day I go home so much more exhausted after having to deal with the micro (and macro) aggressions ALL day. It’s literally physically and mentally exhausting. I don’t feel the same after working with WM.

@Blaquebarbgamer

27 күн бұрын

Im telling you. The jobs where im under men were a lot less stressful. White men leave me alone and are more polite to me. The women? They try to get me fired. Mind you I’m pretty light hearted and try not to stir the pot.

@keirahleesha486

26 күн бұрын

This!!!! The micro aggression with them is crazy ESPECIALLY in the health care field ( I’m a LPN)

@Blaquebarbgamer

25 күн бұрын

Right, I feel exhausted too. Hell working with women period, unless they’re really nice people.

@tarahbruno3793

7 күн бұрын

And they are so cool one day crazy the next. I can’t deal with their multiple personalities

I have no preference, working for the Government I have met a...holes in both genders and all races, however a Karen tried her hardest to get me fired....to no avail 🥳.

@BlkOnyx0508

29 күн бұрын

Government is the oddest work environment. Never seen anything like it

Men stick more to business where the woman could have jealousy, envy or spite.

@verdancyhime

Ай бұрын

I used to be really ugly before I had a glow up. I feel like men save all their ugly for women they are dating. My male coworkers are always fine. My male friends are always fine.

@corimoon3360

29 күн бұрын

@@verdancyhimeNope, not if they’re attracted to you. I worked with nothing but men and they were all gross to me.

@shans1986

29 күн бұрын

The menz may stick to business but they always see all Women as prey no matter their origins.

@hellokaumea8315

29 күн бұрын

This is so sexist I can't

I've personally had bad experiences with both wm and ww in the workplace, but if I had to choose I'd rather work with White Men. 😊

At least WM are honest about their hatred…

It honestly depends on multiple factors, based on my personal experience. If the WW is secure in herself and has children then I would choose the WW. The WW who are not secure in themselves and are not mothers in positions of leadership are hell to work with. WM will also lie and take credit for your work/ideas. Also, if the WM is attracted to you it could go either way. The point is I have experienced positive and negative with both.

@corimoon3360

29 күн бұрын

Why does she have to have children and be a mom? That’s weird. Especially when there a plenty of white mothers who are just as awful as childfree white women

@biblethumper8088

29 күн бұрын

Agreed . Ww who are mothers can usually be more relatable and compassionate than those who aren't.

@martaleszkiewicz5115

29 күн бұрын

Just out of curiosity: why and how do you think motherhood makes a difference? In my experience, mothers like to feel superior over both childfree women AND other mothers, while childfree women I've come into contact with tend to have more self-awareness and humility, but I'm curious to hear other points of view.

@_Renee2

29 күн бұрын

@@martaleszkiewicz5115 I have worked with a few childfree WW who were miserable, and competed with their male counterparts so they made their subordinates suffer right along with them. They had no life outside of their work and they did not like knowing that others had a life outside of work so, they would try to monopolize your time. Not every child-free woman is child-free by choice. Also, I'm sorry that some mothers carry that superior attitude. I'm a mom but in no way do I feel superior to other women. I don't want my children to rush into parenthood. Parenting is hard; I want my kiddos to travel and live before taking on that obligation.

@Vero.does.better

29 күн бұрын

This comment right here. I think many factors are important to consider. I want to believe that as a white, Hispanic woman I can be seen as an ally to black women, because our struggles are similar compared to men, but also with the understanding that black women have it way worse than I do. It is hard for me to hear that black women could feel this way, but I wholeheartedly respect their feelings and experiences.

My answer: NEITHER ONE! That's why I've been working remotely since Covid in 2020!😒😏😒😏

@SugaRumBrown

28 күн бұрын

Need this in my life sis💯

@am-harris7458

28 күн бұрын

@@SugaRumBrown Yes, working remotely has given me peace of mind!🙂

@SugaRumBrown

28 күн бұрын

@am-harris7458 That's what I need to really restart my life so to speak😮‍💨, Because i've been at a standstill, need a reset

@altheadawn2531

26 күн бұрын

Smart girl 👏👏❤🤭

@am-harris7458

26 күн бұрын

@@altheadawn2531 👍🏾🙌🏾

Working in corporate America for 20+ years I would absolutely without a doubt choose the white man. Lady in the blue sweater broke it down perfectly. Basically, in the bear context (comparing women), the white woman is the bear and oftentimes operate as such. I think it is because as women we are all oppressed but they are at an advantage in the tier ranking and many know it. I think the oppression causes competition maybe unknowingly, but it happens.

They proved the point by reporting her which caused her account to get demonetized. It was ok for people to choose the bear, but not you. You proved exactly why the choice was chosen. That's what y'all do. Use that privilege every chance you get against us. My nephews wife even does it against him every time her dysfunctional self starts smelling herself.

Definitely prefer a WM over a WW. I've dealt with false accusations and major passive aggressiveness on the job working with WW. I don't work in the corporate sector anymore thankfully.

WM for sure. Throughout my jobs I’ve had WW smile in my face and report me to HR, complain about me to my boss’s boss after one encounter where I followed protocol/didn’t break the rules for her, talk down to mw by calling me “girl” or “child” though I was well into my mid 20s and complaining about another WWs conduct.

@Zikomo7

28 күн бұрын

My mother was FIRED from her nursing job after asking one of her teammates to stop lying on her at work. My mother never yells or has threatening body language but was still labeled aggressive and toxic in the workplace for trying to have a conversation.

@Zikomo7

28 күн бұрын

WM are tricky too. They tend to believe whoever gets to them first. Very rarely do they question what’s said to them. But their simplicity can work for you.

Man. Easier to talk to, joke with and laugh with.

As a white afab person, it's not my place to speak on this. I just want to affirm that I can think of dozens of white women I'd never want to be alone in a room with. Thank you for sharing your experience and for educating.

@martaleszkiewicz5115

29 күн бұрын

Sweetie, you are allowed to have an opinion. You're not the one this is directed to, that's true, but no one can chastise you for having thoughts and feelings on this topic. Like, I don't need to be a man to have opinions on the men's mental health crisis, for the lack of a better example.

I needed to see this video because boy yt women put me through it. I have to walk on eggshells around them.

White man for sure.

@tjc2824

29 күн бұрын

I just got done visiting a slave site and saw where white men gr8ped thousands upon thousands upon thousands of Black women, little girls, boys, and even men! Better wake tf up and learn your history!!

@kikio-rq9kx

29 күн бұрын

They team up with ww too. Trust me

@ells2724

16 күн бұрын

​@kikio-rq9kx the ones who do are just as bad

Welp, as a black woman, I have been mentally, physically and emotionally attacked and abused more by BLACK WOMEN than anyone else COMBINED! Sooooooo 🧐

@Kinksgalore

Ай бұрын

Same.👊🏽

@Blaquebarbgamer

Ай бұрын

Same, sadly.

@gabriellehanks6850

Ай бұрын

Have you worked more closely with bw or ww. If you've worked with more sisters, it would make sense.

@tineashaburnett455

Ай бұрын

Same here back at Walmart. I mean, like anyone of different race would attack you and you don't know what is we're doing to wrong to upset them. But there are always some people who respects us

@sallysavage4943

Ай бұрын

Oh my God! SAAAAAAME! And I have worked in companies that were super diversified so there was a mix of all sorts of people and SOMEHOW my fellow sisters would be the ones to harass me for merely existing!

After my experience with ww, I'd choose the wm.

I choose a cat 🐈 because purrs can heal injury and my ankle hurts 🙃

@Blaquebarbgamer

27 күн бұрын

That’s on period.

@stephanieshapiro6673

15 күн бұрын

Get well soon and tell your cat I said “pss pss pss”

Unless I am actually cool with you, neither🤷🏿‍♀️

@thingsilove18

29 күн бұрын

Hello! I'd rather leave the room🏃🏿‍♀️.

@digimonalvatrax2738

27 күн бұрын

Who would you pick to babysit your kids(if you had any?)🫠

@altheadawn2531

26 күн бұрын

​@@digimonalvatrax2738none! 😡

I answered the same before the video even started. A white man 😅

I'll choose a woman if i am alone in forest. And I'll always choose a male in work environment because women are very competitive in work environment 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m a white woman and I’d still choose the man

@emfarah3758

29 күн бұрын

I appreciate you didn’t lie 😂

@Sarah.M98

22 күн бұрын

​@@emfarah3758 😂😂😂

@arianaedwards6793

21 күн бұрын

I was waiting for you in the comments ❤

Pick none

@marissa._

Ай бұрын

This one! 💯

@corimoon3360

29 күн бұрын

THAT PART! 💯 ​​⁠People stay focused on white women as if those Karen’s don’t have husbands… that’s the problem. They only focus on women as if men aren’t also the problem. That’s why I love the people who chose neither instead of d!ckriding white men. 😂 As a woman who worked with men they’re really not that great either. Especially if they’re attracted to you. They’re just as sneaky and “catty” and can take credit for your work or ruin your job.

@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables

29 күн бұрын

Same!

@Ccl2tb

22 күн бұрын

Working alone is ideal

Looking back over my career as a BW I have to say its work relationships with WM that have benefited me the most.

I choose to work alone lol cant deal with office politics and there is always a wined up merchant

Is the bear still available? How about an alligator?

@Aquariuswonder86

13 күн бұрын

Right??? 😂 I was just thinking this

@beautifulgirl1375

13 күн бұрын

@@Aquariuswonder86 The only way to truly be free is to own where we live and work!

White men for sure

White man (before I even watch the video.)

The black lady in the blue sweater said it most excellently and the white lady in the red and white top gave an excellent example of a black woman's feelings in reference to corporate America. In a corporate job setting I choose the white man. In the forest I chose the bear. In my personal life I choose me (4B forever 😊). Love your content Destiny thank you again❤

@jujubeanTO

29 күн бұрын

🎯🎯🎯🎯

@DestinyUteh

27 күн бұрын

🫶🫶🫶🫶

It’s really scary and sad. Look at how they treat and bully their own it’s horrible. They’re very sneaky and underhanded. The perfect example of this is the original mean girls movie. Regina George a pretty blonde white girl in power bullying other girls including her own clique. Also dance moms Abby Lee miller. Look at how she treated those white moms and their kids and underrated the only black kid Nia’s talent. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️

A white man showed more compassion and kindness to me when my mom had a heart attack while my peers showed nothing

I'd choose the WM easily. They aren't emotionally unstable

I had an interesting reaction as a WW to this question. I did not assume that the answer might be either a WW or WM. And I did not feel any kind of way about it until someone suggested I would feel some kind of way about it. Then, I felt a tightness. Until I realized that just bc someone suggests the idea that I would feel some kind of way, doesn't mean I MUST feel some kind of way about it.

@martaleszkiewicz5115

29 күн бұрын

Interesting finding!

Wht men for sure…. Without a 2nd thought…

Im a black female electrician.. ill rather be in a room full of w men then a group of dance moms.. lord have mercy.. it’s overwhelming tbh

I still have horrible flashbacks from the toxic work environment I was in when I moved to the UK. It was a neonatal unit and I was one of two blacks. The jealousy, bullying and unconscious bias was so unbearable that I got an internal transfer to a different unit and had a more favourable experience.

WW here. I'd pick the WM every time at the office.

@Sarah.M98

22 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

As a WW, I didn’t know this, I’m appalled. I have a lot to learn, I feel terrible about my ignorance. I’m going to be aware of this dynamic in the future, and try to make sure I’m transparent about everything. I’ll learn how to be better and earn that trust. And I’m sorry.

@NinaNeko4

28 күн бұрын

Your apology is not needed. Just don’t be like the fools the women are talking about.

Thank you for putting this collection of testimony together! I am currently experiencing similar BS causing me extreme mental and emotional distress. The only thing I was able to process initially which I verbally said to a selected few friends is "I can't anymore with working under wyte women"... one of my black colleague said you should look up the current Tiktok trend on WW vs WM boss based on black women perspectives. I don't have Tiktok so I checked on here... this just validates so much of my recent experience. When they cannot use you as the token black girl that fits their ideal of black excellence in a wyte workspace, they will fight you by undermining you, putting traps, and their methods are always the same very sneaky, creating psychological war fares. Many aren't like that, true. WW who are older and very successful will usually be the one willing to mentor you a "minority person" as they already made it because competition no longer apply. Someone here said, it representative of how they act among themselves but on a much vicious and detrimental scale when it is done against minority groups.... 100% While we, BW are often perceived aggressive because we speak passionately, WW can get away with murder because their aggression is done in sneaky ways. I feel like I'm reliving the trauma our ancestors may have felt under much worse conditions but still... I work in government and honestly thinking of quitting. I see a few black sisters who made it to the top of the ladder in this environment and I'm just realizing how much trauma they had to endure to get there... me losing my mental health is not worth it. Def, at a crossroad workwise, I need to make a decision. Not sure if working under a BW would be better. But yes being under a WM all day, every day... I dare to say I rather even deal with potentially a WM who is sexually harassing me because my brain is more equipped to dodge or manage that than dealing with a WW as a boss. Sad but trute!

I don't work in a office I work in a garage 🤷🏾‍♀️ everyone there is cool.

White man!

No question my worst experiences in the corporate world (40 yrs) have been due to ww.

White Man

White man

Thank you again to the Black women who shared this. Last week, a young Black woman came into my workplace to test for a job. It’s very common in my industry to do a series of tasks before getting the job. I had to do it, too. I’m a white woman and a Black woman walks into my workplace, wanting to join the team. I thought immediately of this video! So, I greeted her warmly. Told her I was happy to answer any questions. Then let her concentrate while I did my work. I didn’t want to be creepy, just wanted to make her comfortable. She asked a lot of good questions. I answered them all clearly and told her she was doing great. I just found out she got the job & I’m psyched to have her on the team! I hope I did all right. Workplace drama is so ridiculous.

Honestly I’m loving this awakening. I’m gen z & I never in my life thought white women would ever see the error in the ways and be OPEN to a conversation & actual self-reflection & change. It’s really a beautiful thing to see ppl pulling up to the table & not just getting offended & backing down. The Bear situation was an eye-opener to all and then to break it down even further to the way some white women behave was needed. Currently, my white male co-worker has blatantly told me he’s gunning for my position since he doesn’t think I’m qualified to be in a Senior position & he only a Junior-at least he’s honest. My white female ex-supervisor was the worse I ever had: constantly talked about my natural hair, told me to stop eating at work because i had put on weight & that’s why I couldn’t pass fitness test(eventhough I did), & purposely tried to stop my career by applying for the same position I did at another base & recommended they choose her over me since she has seniority. It was sooo traumatic.

@Biiku_

26 күн бұрын

Former navy white queer (cis-passing, because hetero marriage). I can't fathom what that was like on your end, but the older black women on my ship put me squarely in my place. You deserved so much better than that bullshit. I'm sorry I was once a part of that problem. Being not male in the military sucked, the MST sucked, but adding racism on top?

Thank you for making this video. ❤

I pick bear 🐻🧸

@EnjeiLaetitiaMoutapam

29 күн бұрын

il va te manger vivent

@Aquariuswonder86

13 күн бұрын

Yesss 👏🏾😂😂

You know what. The more I think about it. Yeah, WM. I would pick a WM, but only like 80% of the time. Because the second you arent kee-keeing. The second you have a bad day. Youre aggressive when it's a WW. And instead of telling you, they gossip and tell the manager. WM at least are straight up.

I choose the White man all day long.

@Sarah.M98

22 күн бұрын

Same 😅

White Man for sure because when I had worked with a white woman before we even touched base professionally she was giving me jealous daggers 🗡️ evil eye is real even worse because her mom was the boss and the other white man colleague was more down to earth 😂but he liked me cause I was quiet and he was vocal about that so imagine if he didn’t like me lol he still would’ve been straightforward! I can respect it.

I’ll take the white man for $200 please 😶

I’m a white woman and this is very surprising to me. Thank you to the Black women sharing their experiences. It’s very illuminating. I clearly have work to do.

@BIGGEEshorty01285

Ай бұрын

Thank you for being able to take your ego out and not be defensive. That's a hard thing to do.❤️👏🏾💁🏾‍♀️

@a.c.4465

29 күн бұрын

I’ve come to realize that black women are close to goddesses. It took channels like this one with raw conversations to open my eyes about certain things as a ww. It’s not your job to teach us, I know that. But I appreciate your content and I apply everything that I learn from you and other wonderful black queen content creators! I love Maria Davids! It makes me smile you are friends. I’d love a hangout with you ladies. I can already see the laughter for this from you lol I wish you all peace love and adventure 💜 ETA to add stuff bc hindsight is 20/20 and I pulled the trigger too soon in posting.

@Free-sl4rc

29 күн бұрын

It’s sad but true I’d rather work with White men than women they usually aren’t competitive and passive aggressive🤦🏽‍♀️

I'm a WW, and even I would say WM. I hate drama.

@hellokaumea8315

29 күн бұрын

Saying women are into drama is so sexist

@smlorrin

29 күн бұрын

@@hellokaumea8315 That's my experience with female coworkers, as a rule. (There were many wonderful things that I experienced with female coworkers, but the drama outweighed them.) I'm a feminist, so it deeply saddens me that this is what I've experienced. You can't negate my own personal experience or take away my voice by trying to shame me with the "sexist" card.

White man no doubt

Thanks!

Thanks 😊

Becky and Brad have open doors for me when i didnt even have a nob! But you gotta know whom you are working with!!! Don't trust just anyone ever!!!

White man for 500 Alex!

Some ww seem like they have a chip on their shoulder about men, specifically wm. Like this harbored pinned up resentment as if she’s just having it so much worse than others in the world, she carries that with her so it ruins the experience bc they take it out on people who didn’t deserve it or it’s jealousy and competition, it’s strange

@l-kin3480

10 күн бұрын

This is something bw need to consider before jumping into feminism and ww's equality movements. It's about gaining parity with wm. They're low-key jealous of wm, a lot like bm

The response fr the lady with the blue sweater.... OMG! So much #truth Most WM have enough power in the workplace to know it won't be taken away by any women. WM on the other hand are competing with BW in the workplace; for power & the WM's attention and to be power adjacent.

you asked "if you're a white woman, how do you feel?" ... I felt incredibly sad. my heart sank and I felt like crying. (i know i know, white tears- I'm not asking anybody to console me, just reporting) My first thought was "how have we/I failed? what can I do better?" and then I listened. sadly I'm not surprised black and brown women have been failed by their white sisters, but it's still so angering. I'm sorry, ladies. You deserve better, I wanna actively contribute to making it right and I'll step it up.

@martaleszkiewicz5115

29 күн бұрын

Don't apologise for having an emotional reaction. Be the change you want to see in the world. Stay kind, gracious and on the business, fight injustice whereever you encounter it and leave the rest in God's hands.

@Ccl2tb

22 күн бұрын

The fact you had this reaction shows you're most likely not part of the reason for some people's answers. The ones who are the problem wouldn't even care they're the problem.

Yes this reminded me of the bear dilemma from the title only too 😂

Yeah I think I’ll pass on both. Lol

@mrs.salazar5219

Күн бұрын

😂

I get it. I do get it. I've seen it happen in an office setting and made a concerted effort not to feed into office politics (no flowers being requested here, just stating). I don't know if maybe it's because I'm ACE and fairly unambitious, but I genuinely feel zero competition with and want the women around me to succeed up and try to encourage them. I don't know what I can do other than this as well as speaking up when I do see or hear something that is absolutely not cool. But, I also have very few friends - I can count them on one hand and I've known them all since we were in school. With my work colleagues, I'm friendly, but uninterested in friendships. We're work colleagues and I like to keep that boundary. I kind of hope it allows women working around me to relax. I'm not buddying up to you to stab you in the back - I'm not ambitious enough. Is there anything I can do to make it a more comfortable environment for the women who work around me? I'm asking in a genuine request for information.

As a white European woman I would say it doesn’t metter. Women will be mean because of competition but men because of ego.

@l-kin3480

10 күн бұрын

Blk women's experience with ww in America is different from Europe. Ww have gotten blk girls burned alive as late as the 1960s for wearing prettier dresses. As late as 2023, ww have gotten bw fired because a man in the office was friendly to the bw in her presence

Listening to the woman in the blue sweater, I can completely understand her explanation.

I choose WM. If a WM is not available. I would rather deal with a bear before I deal with a WW.

Girl I had that, I was doing IT stuff and had to correct what the woman did and got no credit for it. I had to announce it in a meeting of what I did to give myself credit and this woman got promoted and told over the phone by her supervisor that she doesn't know what I do yet the other woman was doing a great job.

I'm picking the woman.

If you want to be free of both, own where you live and work!

To answer your question, I feel like I need to be reflective and understand the experiences these women have had with white women in the office and try to do better. I work on IT and it's already difficult for women in this field so I don't want to make it harder for other women, especially Black women and other women of color because it's even more difficult for them in this field.

Yt women are the absolute worsssst

@Sarah.M98

22 күн бұрын

I agree

I still choose the bear,WM Have gotten sexual with me and WW have given me depression and anxiety. But all women need to do better I posted a similar topic yesterday on the bear subject and white vs black women

I have wf boss she said to me that I am your shield I am here to take all the bullets for you. I head this and took 2 steps back. She then after a day or 2 said then said there is only so many bullets she can take ... Enough said right

Off topic but i love her jumper

What a transparent question 😂

As a white man, I have one thing to say: we are great! 🙂

Wm.

I’ll take a YT male coworker any day! YT women are very jealous & envious of us for no reason at all…. I’ve had YT women almost 3x my age have issues with me just because. With YT male coworkers they mind their business & get the job done but most likely if your in a workspace with mostly YT people & it’s females it’s going be some type of issue or problem 🤷🏽‍♀️