Even when you get married for love, love still grows over time. I love my husband more today than when I married him 35 years ago. As I have watched him develop as a husband and father and grow as a Christian I love all the different aspects of his character. I thand G-d for him.

@costealucia5357

7 ай бұрын

Or decreases, that's why some people divorce.

@cesarrodriguez9089

6 ай бұрын

All glory be to the most high God in heaven!

I was totally amazed when the matchmaker for the hip hop guy saw him as he really is-a totally self absorbed 16 year old in a 34 year old body! I feel bad for any woman he gets hooked up with she'll be raising a baby alongside any children she has!

@sawahtb

3 ай бұрын

This is the real problem for him. He's not marriage material, stuck in his adolescents forever. I don't think he's a bad person, just immature. He needs a mother forever.

People who married without love and didn't fall in love as they had expected will never advise someone to do the same. Only the ones who have fallen in love will. It is hard to live without love, passion, romance... whatever you call it.

My mother used to tell me that love wasn’t all that important. She said that affection, respect and compatibility were important and love comes later. She told me that she didn’t love my father when they got married but that she grew to love him over time. They were happily married for 47 years until she passed away in 1997. I come from a Jewish family but my parents were pretty much non observant. However my mother seemed to have embraced this part of Judaism. My dad passed away in 2012 and told us before he died that my mom was waiting for him.

@michelleg7

2 ай бұрын

Sometimes that happens, in my honest opinion that really is how good marriages survives. People often confused lust with love and then they get over it so fast and I am thinking did you really love that person? Love is built on mutual understanding, care and respect. It is certainly not always about love at first sight that just doesn't really happen to majority of people. We are fed those romantic fairytales and then people want that. We need to take a hard look at ourselves and say is where am I in life that I need a partner. I am not really a person so fixated on marriage but I feel that building that relationship through time may show up and built on respect, mutual trust and then love but that requires time.

I remember when I got engaged to my husband,after only 2.5 weeks of dating, how my college friends asked me if I loved him. My answer was of course I don’t love him because there is no history together but I knew I could and would love him. One year later having had a full cycle of shared experiences I could feel it starting to blossom and at the three year mark I was sure we were on love. 26 years in I realize I was only touching the tip of what love really means. Having grown together and built so much together - we share a love that is so deep and meaningful and I now know will only get stronger. To clarify one thing- I was definitely attracted to my husband when we dated and definitely loved being with him and felt that “ zing” whenever we were together. But that is infatuation. Not love. It was exciting. And fun. But what I have now is deep and secure.

@Ingi132

5 ай бұрын

Thats lovely.

The definition of true love: …Love is patient and is kind. Love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never fails… I Corinthians 13:4-8

@meeeka

7 ай бұрын

Not appropriate for here.

@ONEFAITHofJESUS

7 ай бұрын

Love is always appropriate any and everywhere. Even the Messiah, the *SON* of the living G-D, showed love to those crucifying him as he hung on a tree. 🩸 What may I ask, would cause you to think that love isn’t appropriate?

@liloleist5133

7 ай бұрын

What if one of the spouses is (or becomes) abusive to the other one?

@costealucia5357

7 ай бұрын

@@ONEFAITHofJESUS “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.” what comes after this is your changed Bible, he was addressing himself only to jews. He helped the Caananite woman only after she said this: '“Lord, help me!” Jesus answered, “It is not right to take the children's bread and give it to the dogs.” The woman said, “Yes, Lord, but even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their masters' table.” Then Jesus answered, “Woman, you have great faith!' The childrens bread: means himself , his body for his people, the ''bread'', and according to him the Cannaanite woman was a dog, a foreign to what he was sent for to help....he never said he is God, I and the father am one means i am part of the one who created me, same as u are part of God and anyhuman and living creature and everything that exists inb this Universe, jews and christians i see that they understood things differently, and the ones who modified Bible substracting and adding to it, did a very very wrong thing.

@ONEFAITHofJESUS

7 ай бұрын

See *SON* of G-d in bold print in my comment above. Matthew 16:16, Peter's confession is the Rock 🪨 of the TRUE identity of the Lord's Christ. There may have been some alterations in the New Testament but definitely more than enough truth and accuracy to be saved. The few who are true Christians have also been born of the Spirit and have the promise of being guided into ALL truth. Paul(Saul of Tarsus), who was personally converted by JESUS the CHRIST and became Apostle to the Gentiles who said: “For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.” Romans 1:16

If you’re born into the culture, it usually works. Sometimes it even works for non-Jews. My parents were introduced by a Jewish woman, a Holocaust Survivor and neighbor to my father. When he took too long to pop the question, she gave my father a necessary kick in the tuchis. They were married 68 years and passed one day apart. Seven of nine children are still living, 29 grandchildren, 14 great grandchildren, three great, great grandchildren and one more since their passing.

Some people simply are not marriage material due possibly to mental illness, drinking/drugging and/or narcissism. A couple of people in this podcast impressed me that way. It’s better to stay single than to ruin other people’s lives.

@liloleist5133

7 ай бұрын

I agree❤ Get to know yourself, appreciate/love yourself first. Then you can truly care & love someone else🕯🌟

@catherineolivia1

6 ай бұрын

Very true

@Misanthropic-Genocide

4 ай бұрын

I think you mean most people.

@judystaab7126

4 ай бұрын

I 'm sorry, but l lived, 44 years with a narssis, lt can be done. The years pass fast, 2kids and6 gr kids. You have to want to make it , work, pray a lot, wait love, does come. Divorce, is selfish, it hurts every body, even you. God meant 1 man, 1woman married.! I believe God puts people, together. Esp.jews.although, l didn" find out l was Jewish until much later, my Jewish grandmother's, assimilated, married gentiles my husband being Jewish, l didn't know.. his family, was catholic.l met him, in a pentecostal church. I was raised, pentecostal, yet, we were .married, there, in 44years ago. That long, we might as well end, together!!!!!❤😂😅😊❤

@judystaab7126

4 ай бұрын

It's God's choice, but he gave us a choice, too. He does not override, our will. He makes the opportunity, but leaves it open, for us.❤😅

Beautifully crafted documentary on a world most people would pre-judge but one in fact with rock solid foundations.

Omg!!! I love the couple- Michael, his exuberant wife and their baby girl is darling!!! They laugh so much together and their daughter smiles all the time!! They are so happy together and they are just plain charming!!!! I would want what they have!!

@chickenlover657

5 ай бұрын

That woman annoyed the F outta me.

Miriam is a realist and I am here for it. ❤

Poor Yonatan..clearly it doesn't matter what he wants in love, life, a partner. It's all about Mom.

@raizellouisebarnes6348

6 ай бұрын

Lot of pressure from his mum Negative impact can last for long time

Miriam Leah and I were roommates years ago. She has not changed. ML: What about what you want!!!! And no you don’t need to follow that. You need to do what feels right for you!!! Girl listen to yourself!

I could not be with someone I did not love let alone go to bed with them.

@autumn111155551

7 ай бұрын

Those long beards many ultra-orthodox Jews have would be a turn off for me!

@nerminacamovic1600

6 ай бұрын

​@autumn111155551 as a muslim i don't like long beards either. My husband respects my wish in that regard.

@nerminacamovic1600

6 ай бұрын

I think Miriam wants someone who looks manly, not just a good father for her kids and supporting husband. He loves her though. Sadly that it doesn't evolve into romantic love for everyone. It is misleading that this matchmaker tries to convince people that love is inevitable later.

@michelleg7

2 ай бұрын

@@autumn111155551 yeah that is definitely a no for me, not a big fan of those beards

Montreal here Love is patient and kind

Attraction is VERY important because it is nature's way of assessing our partner's genetic suitability for us so a marraige without physical attraction, at least at the beginning, is quite wrong. However a marriage based ONLY on attraction is ridiculous because human beings are so much more sophisticated than just animals and those complexities need to be matched as closely as possible. So the elders and parentswith their wealth of character experience introduce the prospective matches and FROM that group, the couple then make their selection for marriage where God of course guides their choice. This to me is the best course of action.

I agree with Miriam, God doesn't intend us to marry just to marry, he intend us to be in loving, supportive marriages. That is a common human need. I also agree that some individuals in very conservative and/or strict families or communities (this can happen in any family/community) may feel they are forced into early marriage by loved ones. This can be very difficult for ans stressful for them. Scriptures should be taken in context of the individuals' timing, resources, and mental capacitu. Also, the focus on having children can be difficult for couples who experience infertility or may not be financially ready.

@Aaron-SLC

2 ай бұрын

i agree that marriages should be supportive and loving but you can't hold your spouse hostage and terrorize them with feeling inadequate because you're neurotic like this woman. sometimes its just going to be bland.

I don’t understand why Miriam is so angry in that one scene when talking to the matchmaker. I thought she liked (even loved?) her husband and was happy with her marriage. Maybe not??

This rappers mother spoiled him so much he is completely obsessed with himself. There is no room for anyone else. Who would marry a kid like this with such a mother?

@autumn111155551

7 ай бұрын

She seems very overbearing!

@catherineolivia1

6 ай бұрын

Totally agree

@chickenlover657

5 ай бұрын

When she said he was 34 my jaw dropped. He looks and acts like barely 20.

Geeting married without being in love are not rare at all across all cultures. I can't confirm to know anyone who has subsequently fallen in love, but I do know people who haven't and it is not easy to settle with the fact that there is not romance in your life. I think I would always feel unfullfilled if I was to settle for a loveless marriage. It takes two people for love and romance. I can not understand hiw Michael can just laugh like that when his wife is obviously frustrated with not getting what she was even ashamed to admit to have wanted.

@chickenlover657

5 ай бұрын

You have no idea what love is. And neither does that horribly annoying woman. THAT'S why she's frustrated.

My husband and l been married 44 years, 2 children 6 gr children. Have we always been happy? No! But we endure we forgive each other, and hang in there. For us, there is no others. We know each other's weakness have compassion, on each other. We need each other. Until death do us part.❤😢😅😊

It doesn’t really seem like Miriam wanted to be married, she just wanted to be wanted and sought after. She said she was in many relationships before her marriage and there she found love, but if she found love then why didn’t it lead to marriage? She seems bitter and angry that God gave her what she needed in her life rather than what she wanted for her own pleasure. The way she describes Michael is supportive, kind, lovable, understanding, encouraging, all these things women seek in a spouse, yet she’s not satisfied? Confusing.

@tamararutland-mills9530

7 ай бұрын

My impression is that she did too much drinking and drugging in her early years.

@chickenlover657

5 ай бұрын

She's super annoying.

@trancelove1234

Күн бұрын

I think she really wants to love him but doesn't.

Miriam seemed angry 😮😢

@dorothysmith3850

5 ай бұрын

She was speaking passionately while talking to the rabbi. I didn’t take it as anger. I think she’s not feeling fulfilled in her marriage. She wants to feel but is lacking, being in love and is missing/wanting romantic feelings towards her husband.

@antoinetteellis-babcock4590

2 ай бұрын

She was bright red! You could see one of the guys she dated was very handsome but blurred out! She was not in love with this man, they were just friends really! So unfortunate

That dude made a list of his mommie! Yikes, he's a big kid on the endless teet of his mom. 100% his parents buy his studio time. See the tenacious D song that references "sometimes you follow your heart .... Some times your heart cuts a fart..."

Very interesting video!

So educational! Thank you & blessings!

Miriam is so loud and angry.

Miriam wants romance, passion. Awe, arousement as she said when talking about romance - 34:35. She expects this romance, sense of aliveness, after the period of friendship/compatibility in marriage - 15:10. I feel she will be disappointed and will have to drop romance for non romantic love.

@liloleist5133

7 ай бұрын

Why?

@autumn111155551

7 ай бұрын

Yeah, I wonder if Miriam is feeling disappointed with her spouse

I feel sorry for Yonatan. What if he is gay?

@michelleg7

2 ай бұрын

no just really immature

Religion should be a guide and should in no way be the be end, end all.

To that woman : OH GOOD GRIEF ! And does the man talk ?

We saw a expose on two narcissist. One who terrorizes her husband with feeling inadequate

There should be a very strong like, fondness, affection, compatibility, otherwise love may never come or turn into dislike, anger, disappointnebt and feeling trapped. You've got to have some love! Love really exists!

Sorry, but the little short rapper boy is 34 going on 15 in the maturity arena! Plus he wants a Kim K lookalike……sorry, has he taken a look in his own mirror? Someone needs to come down to reality!!! He ain’t no looker. Let’s be honest here! Plus he basically brings nothing to the table marriage wise. I think he has the right idea though. Yes, please stick to your music and step aside for a real man to be introduced to the woman. Just my opinion 🤷‍♀️

@nerminacamovic1600

6 ай бұрын

Not everyone has to be good looking to land with a handsome partner. It's not like a law of physics. It is more about if it was destined to be.

Beautiful show

She is definitely a type A personality! She’s YELLING at the Rabbi, I wouldn’t yell at my Pastor, I would DEFINITELY disagree but I would do it RESPECTFULLY.🤷🏻‍♀️

My husband made me laugh, 34 years later, he still does. But it took us 11 years to marry. I was married before and did not want to risk what we had. It's been laughs, haaaard work, trials and tribulations, even before marriage and a love that has grown so much as we have got older. A good martiage is worth working for. That does not mean staying in a marriage with no love and respect.

Like that fun, quirky couple. Seem like good people.

What is the purpose of marriage? It is a business contract. I am an atheist married woman who is happy in life but believe you do not need to marry. There is no reason for it. If you want to be with someone, be with someone. What’s the point of marriage? It’s true reason for being?

@PuertoRock_G

8 ай бұрын

Marriage is security for the woman she needs to know that If she and her partner have children he'll be providing until at least 18 yrs of age.

@paolaristori6179

7 ай бұрын

I'm not religious to And I fully appreciate that marriage is a contract. I mean I was married at the Town Hall according to the Italian Republic civic laws by a civil servant. It was quite a long cerimony, many laws were mentioned, a contract legally binding was formalized and the word God was never mentioned. Where is the problem?

The orthodox jewish lifestyle is a highly restrictive lifestyle with a lot of rules

I sense Miriam has realized that their marriage is not all the way where she hopes it would be at the time of her spoken concerns, and there is this deep fear that that missing piece she never had the experience of will give her regret at the end of her life.

I wanted my son to find someone, I really did, and he came close a number of times. He had good employment and could have made a home but he had issues. He had addictions and anxiety and I didn't doubt that marriage would be really a disaster unless he could get a handle on things. He's still single and I expect he'll stay single and that will have to be ok. He doesn't have a lot of patience and he might not make a good parent.

Also, when the woman says, 'you get it from where you're ten' (I agree with her 100%), remember the Torah says: 'The Lord preserves the simple, I was brought low and He helped me.' The 'simple' include children. We need to keep this child-like simplicity into adulthood (i.e. sense of romance about life, humour, joy, adventure, wonder, enjoyment of beauty etc) whilst balancing it with the mature and the responsible - the warrior (to do things like pay the bills etc).

God is Love. We can begin from there. In God.

What sweet stories it even affirms my own story❤❤😅😊

This was 7 years ago.

'Trying to find personal pleasure' - actually it's about experiencing joy with your spouse, family and above all and ultimately with God. Be careful of puritanism that pulls one apart (God forbid) from the joy of God - and the joy that God has for us - and wants us to have for him and WITH Him.

This guywants more than what he can get, he needs to settle and find another basic like him.

@mtate1285

6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

The interview at 35:00 is missing the word “connected.” The woman is attempting to express that she senses a lack of intimate bonding. This lack is due to the husband’s emotional inadequacy. The “Rabbi” is validating the husband’s dysfunction by insisting that the wife is wrong to be discontent. How will marital peace be nurtured if her accurate estimation of lack is disregarded? I’ve been where she is and the lack induced loneliness which drove me from my family, children and friends who remain influenced by a fundamentally religious cult. A person can leave a cult but the cult will NEVER leave an ex-member. Haunting, isn’t it!

@Aaron-SLC

2 ай бұрын

this woman is neurotic. i agree that its okay to feel connection but you're not always going to feel connected. taste and moods change. you can't hold your spouse hostage by demanding that they feel the same way or always meet your desire to change with them

@Unicornmama83

21 күн бұрын

💯 🙌🏼

I'm a gentile but I think this woman is 100% right about romance (she is NOT arguing for the hedonistic self-indulgent experience of feelings but just saying that feelings can be something good). Let's look at the Torah (or Old Testament as we gentiles call it). 1) The Song of Songs. Look at the romance here. In every sense. The romance of nature. The romance of earthly marriage. And ultimately capturing something of divine romance. 2) We need to be careful of falling into puritanism. Denying the emotions and feelings that God gave us as a gift. And falling into the opposite: hedonism. Overindulging in the emotions / pleasure at the cost of reason / logic. In the Torah, we find the need to get the balance right: 'A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance'. 'Dance' and 'laugh' are both to do with feelings. 3) Remember that joy is a feeling (and something intellectual). Joy is related to romance. The Torah ways, 'Be glad in the Lord, and rejoice, you righteous one; and shout for joy, all you who are upright in heart!' 4) Beauty is something that brings about something wonderfully emotional and intellectual in us (and beauty and romance are connected). Look at the Song of Songs here about beauty: 'You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you'. And Ecclesiastes, 'He has made everything beautiful in its time.'

What a beautiful couple. ❤

I wish I fell the way this lady feels about life.

Yonatan needs a dose of realism.

@michelleg7

2 ай бұрын

That he does, he's super immature.

I cant relate to any of this but I imagine it's possible to be ok if you have similar interests and similar goals. If not it's doomed

And omg can we talk about how the beard is a v shape!! It’s called styling men!!

Miriam is the only one that can’t see she loves Michael

It's about giving space as well mystery

Does this worth hearing?

Marrying for "love" is a dicey matter. We get old, we get fat (most of us), we get aches and pains. Loves waxes cold. Better to have a lot of similarities and complimentary traits. You should at least LIKE the person very much and agree to give 100% (not 50% each). :)

@chickenlover657

5 ай бұрын

Define love. Then talk.

@runninggirl2765

5 ай бұрын

That's why I put quotes around the word: Love. Hard to define. @@chickenlover657

I can't imagine living with someone I barely know, let alone having sex with someone I don't love.

The rapper needs to start being a man

It is strange to watch this after the forced marriage video. Almost all states have exceptions to age limits where a victim can be forced to marry her rapist, or who the parents arranged for the daughter.

Lastly, I think the mistake the rabbi here is making (I think he's a rabbi) is that he misunderstands how God made women. God made women more to feel, and men more to think. 'Feelings' is to to do with a woman connected with her baby, being emotionally responsive to her children and husband, being nuturing. But it also affects how she views the world in general and her relationship with God. Women and men also have things profoundly in common - but different. And that women feel more is one of those profound differences (and we men become more 3D when we are nurtured by the positive emotions of a woman - our masculine becomes stronger / less brittle - just as women become more 3D when their emotions are contained by the masculine in men - her emotions become more refined / purer / more wholesome / more graceful / more feminine).

Glad they are ok in general

Life is all about loving the Lord,with all your heart,mind,soul,and strength,doing his will for your life,sharing your life with a partner in Marriage,in the Lord,if you desire , delighting in the Lord,he gives us the desire of our heart🪅🫶🪅💞💞💞💕 hear oh Israel the LORD is one Amen, 🌿🌷🫶🪅 great video, prayers for deliverance for the man ,and his so called music 🌿😢 Amen Israel 🌿🪅🌿🇮🇱🇮🇱 blessings ! Love the true brethren / sister's Amen , God's Kingdom Reigns Forevermore,evil is coming down under our feet Amen 🌿😇🌿💞🫶🪅🌿

I thought Hasidic Jews could not use the internet.

Speaking in percents of how good ur marriage is is lile...idk, a joke.

@nerminacamovic1600

6 ай бұрын

50% is not that high. I felt sorry for Miriam even though she may have expected too much from an contracted marriage to begin with.

@mtate1285

6 ай бұрын

She's not happy

@michelleg7

2 ай бұрын

@@mtate1285 well happiness is an inside job, other people or things can't do that for a person. It has to be a person's job to make themselves happy even in a small aspect.

There are times love may not come at all

i think i really like the handkerchief women wear on their head, my mother used to wear one some times when we went places especially to the park or something to protect herself from the heat!

@meeeka

7 ай бұрын

Its done because married women don't show their hair in public.

@laara1426

6 ай бұрын

The rapper was raised by a narcissist, and he is an infantantalized narcissist. Personality disorders do not change.

@nerminacamovic1600

6 ай бұрын

​@meeeka but when muslim women cover their hair, they are being oppressed... that is the narrative in the West...

@cesarrodriguez9089

6 ай бұрын

God can change people, God can change anyone, the Bible tells us that what is impossible with man,is possible with God, God still has a lot of work to do in me but He has very undeservingly done a lot in me already, we cannot change our selves, the Bible tells us that without God we can do nothing,we all need God in everything and for everything! praise the name of God forever in Jesus name!

I agree with her. The Rabbi has no sensitivity. Yelling doesn't make it true

Knew he d bring in fiddler somehow

Marriage is sacred in their own religión , jew marriage , islámic , Christian , orthodox , hindú etc ...but you can boyfriend for the rest of your life if you want without get married...

Mom, get a LIFE❤😅 ...overbearing won't get you grandchildren.

the bride looks like a ghost !!!!!!!!!!! horrible

I'm a Christian i'd love to convert to Orthodox Judaism. 😊

God that woman is annoying.

The Greatest thing that happend is when our Lord Jesus christ "Yeshua" was born who died on the cross for our sins and rose on the third day.

Yonathan discribed his relationship to G-d, and shared that he looks for that experience with his future partner. Why would a partner would need to be like that if i found it already with G-d? My perspective is, having found this with G-d enables me/us to do service together with our partner. Thank you, everyone who allowed us to look into their personal lives, to reflect who we ourselves are. 🙏

That girl does not deserve her husband. She still thinks like an immature teenager & should be grateful for the great partner that she has. It's easy to fall in love with someone when they are loyal, can provide, respects you, and cares for you. She probably thought marriage was like a Disney romance. She definitely took drugs throughout her young life or she is mentally unstable. I feel sorry for the husband.

@michelleg7

2 ай бұрын

What?! That is absurd! She is talking about Expectations placed on someone, that is expectation and pressure to not disappoint to be married to someone you may never ever fall in love with, I have heard it several times in various interviews about the Hasidic community. That doesn't have anything to do with god, that is coercion and manipulation do as your told so we won't shun you or force you in otherwords. She is absolutely right in that aspect. She was very lucky she had a high school sweetheart, not everyone is so lucky. People sure like to throw around the word soulmate and have people not married their soulmate? Yup more times than a person can count. Rabbis are religious leaders they are not marriage or relationship counselors and usually don't have any kind of training in such a way either.

@Aaron-SLC

2 ай бұрын

exactly. she didn't get married until 36. she wasn't sitting in a nunnery.

What happens if one or both of the partners are attracted the same sex

@mariekatherine5238

Жыл бұрын

If they know in advance, don’t look for an orthodox or Hasidic arranged marriage! If it comes up later, time to get a get.

@meeeka

7 ай бұрын

@@mariekatherine5238a get = a divorce

@autumn111155551

7 ай бұрын

I think they either have to hide it or leave the community

What a bunch of crap.

Imprisonment

@judithlutz9959

Жыл бұрын

W

@judithlutz9959

Жыл бұрын

What happens one or both of the partners are attracted to the same sex

This is such a cult get out now

I despise rap!!! Rap is what you do when you can't sing and have no talent. Rap boy needs to grow up!!

Oh look its a rat.