Believe In Yourself, Get Uncomfortable & Find PEACE | Dr. Mark Epstein
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“Awakening does not mean a change in difficulty, it means a change in how those difficulties are met.” - Dr. Mark Epstein
When we think of Buddhism, Taoism, and other Eastern philosophies, we often imagine achieving a state of permanent inner peace - being completely untroubled by the concerns of this world.
Unfortunately, we need to be able to deal effectively with the realities of everyday life, rather than shrink away from them.
According to Dr. Mark Epstein, most people have a fundamental misunderstanding about what Buddhism is trying to teach us.
It isn’t about dissolving the ego completely, or becoming totally detached from our past and future.
Rather, the point of the Buddha’s teachings is to use fundamental psychological truths to become more effective at actually engaging with the difficulties of everyday life.
So if you’re struggling with difficult relationships, have difficulties with past trauma, or simply have never been able to understand the point of meditation, then you’re sure to find something valuable in today’s episode.
And if you like what you see here, then you should definitely order Mark’s latest book: The Zen of Therapy: Uncovering a Hidden Kindness in Life: amzn.to/3NDZxk5
SHOW NOTES:
00:00 | Introduction
01:27 | Why Eastern Philosophy Is So Attractive
09:16 | The Core Tenets of Buddhism
19:50 | How Buddhism Heals Trauma
35:04 | The Four Noble Truths
51:05 | What is the Ego?
56:49 | The Eightfold Path
1:04:39 | Struggling With Meditation
1:19:06 | Psychedelics and Therapy
QUOTES:
“There's something beneficial in allowing ourselves, and in training ourselves, to be with that which is difficult in ourselves, in our partners, in life.” [13:34]
“It's not what you're experiencing, or what you've experienced, that matters. It's how you relate to it.” [23:42]
“The Buddhist teaching is such a help, because it's what it's saying is, this aspect of experience is unavoidable. And we can find our best selves by staying with it, rather than trying to get away from it.” [40:11]
“The ego doesn't need or doesn't actually want to be in control all the time. We just need it for certain things, and then we have to learn to let it go.” [55:23]
“Why don't you leave yourself alone? Why don't you just let yourself be? Why don't you see who you are that way? Why don't you discover who you are by relating naturally to the world, to other people, to yourself?” [1:03:08]
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Пікірлер: 114
How do you train your mind for difficult times?
@xxx1517
2 жыл бұрын
I don't train my mind for difficult times. I create good times and train my mind in the direction of a good life.
@lilamnbdh967
2 жыл бұрын
Choose wisely , let go all negativity !!! Start listening to guided meditation and meditation music . Meditation is the best way to calm and relax your mind. When you want something , all the Universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. Surround yourself with uplifting people who believe in you and encourage you to go after your dreams and applaud your victories !!
@Lightonahill25
2 жыл бұрын
by prayer and reading the Word daily
@lizmallen3461
2 жыл бұрын
I tell myself “it’s GO time!!!” And also surrender
@ana2785
2 жыл бұрын
Watch Impact Theory
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
@soulstreams333
2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏻
@sltho
Жыл бұрын
You too!
great one- as usual “A disciplined mind brings happiness.” -Buddha
*YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE GREAT TO START BUT YOU HAVE TO START TO BE GREAT-BLOSSOM JEFFERSON* 💖
@maxfade7106
2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
What a striking coincidence,Expert Mrs blossom Jefferson changed my financial life tremendously.
@dennissamantha1097
2 жыл бұрын
+1
This guy is insightful where many are not.
This message is for someone who needs to hear this and will fully understand it... You are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life. You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you; forgive your parents or anyone whom we have chosen to hurt us, to begin the process of healing and freedom. Remember: Forgiveness is for you to be freed, healed and happy. It’s a RESET BUTTON) and practice gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever. Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly no matter what ✨❤️ - Nat
@soulstreams333
2 жыл бұрын
❤️
@patrickboardman7097
2 жыл бұрын
Interesting wording , whom we have chosen to hurt us . Is that a typo or is there a deeper connotation? And I agree. I have been struggling with forgiveness for childhood trauma , since I discovered forgiveness is the path to healing . That was about 16 years ago and still struggling with the concept .
You can’t blame man for not accepting the fact that he himself is the presence he’s seeking
You say you’re scared to be a Dad but I know you know you’d be an incredible Dad! I think the reason you don’t have kids is because you’re a Father figure to so many thousands of people who look to you for advice. If you had a kid you’d pour a lot of energy on that one kid and thousands of people would not have the time with you they do now. I am grateful for your time. 🥰🤘🏻⚡️❤️🔥👩🏻🏭
@hoanirutledge1048
2 жыл бұрын
I recon his child would probably lack the same hunger and ambition he had
He is amazing his presance is so soothing
This was a brilliant conversation, I took so much away from it. Thank you both 🙏
Underrated episode. Would love to see Dr. Epstein back on your show in the future!
@blancaalvarez1377
Жыл бұрын
I would love for you to bring him back too! Fantastic interview
Self reliant . Aim high but expect ups & downs in life . Do not take life too seriously & enjoy your life . Be kind to all people & do not Judge . Always look on the bright side of life as good or bad does not last forever , live your dream as everyday is a blessing.
Great interview. Dr Epstein comes across so knowledgeable and such a great teacher
Train for Hard times! Word!
Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn. -Benjamin Franklin
That was amazing. Thanks Tom and thanks Mark!
Fascinating, thank you very much!
At 46:55 when Dr. Epstein is discussing the ability to become both object and subject of our thoughts I wonder how many people can relate to that if they are not meditating? Interesting. I just bought the book and am really looking forward to reading it. 🙏❤️
“You know.” Enough said.
Thank you so so much!
I have added his book to my audible!
Enjoyed this alot ! I love mark epstein . Great person great ideas
So fun to watch Like to different species talking in 2 different languages - but succeeding to connect and understanding each other
Thank you!!
Love the way Tom dissects the perception of the interviewee. Once the perception is presented he pulls what he thinks valuable and helps paint a broader explanation. Awesome! 👏🏽
I believe that everyone starts off looking for God the Creator, who is always trying to reach His creatures by love and not force, but because of our selfish nature, we tend to go with something that gives us the okay to do what we really want to do. The Creator God has given us the ability to use our minds to get through this life in good and bad times, by seeking Him. We have evidence that the Creator has proven who He is by telling us in advance what we can expect in the future. We have the advantage of looking back to see Everything God our Creator said has happened and is happening. Yielding your mind to another human being based on his own theories takes more faith than Evolution. Keep searching for what is real, not just a way to medicate the mind through mental exercises. The Devil is the master of deception! There are only two ways The Creator, Jesus Christ, or the Devil, Lucifer, the fallen angel, who will pay for all the deceptions he has lured people into. Praying and studying the Bible daily, there is nothing like it!
Thanks Tom
Checking in from the DMV.
As far as psychedelics go I feel strongly with setting setting is most important. This is why I was so haywire in the 60s. People take a crap load of acid and just go walking around go to a concert or whatever. They’re gonna be distracted and they’re gonna be in a place where one uncontrolled or unexpected event because assertive damage. All the researchers say sent in setting. Next time I try this it’s gonna be in a place where I’m dealing with myself and the experience and nothing else with someone who’s experienced with and has training with it. In those settings that’s where you get people who have incredibly illuminating brilliant life-changing experiences. In uncontrolled settings that’s where you have people who have really bad life changing experience
1:02:05 I'm reminded of a definition I heard for the word or character for "Lee". Which is the grain in the wood, or the clouds in the sky. It patterns itself perfectly so it's instantly recognizable, however no patterns are the same. You people perfectly... even though you a diff people than everyone else. 😶🌫
Thanks
Mathew 11 : Come to me all of you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest . Take my yoke upon you and learn from me and I will give you rest , for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for you’re souls . For my yoke is easy and my burden is light . The words of Jesus Christ .
@montreelinphoo3597
Жыл бұрын
Show the way to rest, not convince in the belief. Buddha said “don’t believe me, u must be responsible for your action(Karma) and master yourself”
Not sure how you can have a serious discussion about meditation or mind/brain without experiencing psychedelics. Having experienced trusted people around you is a key to not having a bad trip.
42:22 😬 yikes, I remember doing this... I remember my heart beating and breathing being soooo loud. I thought that others would be able to hear it as well 😶🌫
Tans Lads,thought and time is the cause of fears.🤝💚🔑🙏🏻👌
I see everything as a test. I screw up a lot but I am learning I can go through some crazy stuff. I'm a good guinea pig.🙃
I noticed I bookmark like almost all of Tom's videos lately. I think I'm just going to download all his videos to a USB drive lol
@Tom Even though raising kids looks like thé impossible task. It takes a village to raise a child! I would love to see an interview with you and Haim Omer.
I would love for impact theory to interview queen afua and her books.
Maybe Buddha was one of the first teachers on how to modulate our dopamine system…
Please bring Swami Sarvapriyananda on the podcast
What book did Tom mention at the beginning? I would like to read it as well
Should I watch this anyone? I've watched 100 episodes and really need something new. What are some summarized points in this episode to help me make a decision to watch this one?
Most amazing episode! I will look for the book right now 🙏🏻📚❤️🩹✨
Stay legendary boys
Everyone who reads this, we don't know each other and probably never will but I wish you all the best in life and all the luck in the world 🥰💓🥰 I WILL NEVER GET PINNED, 😔😔
can yall start putting a background music on
I LOVED this conersation 💖💖
@lunac5141
2 жыл бұрын
I had dorgotten how wise Buddhism is ....A Settled Mind Blowing way of thinking
Tom with those big squarish frames on his face always spouting on about “re-framing”, lol. His bobble-headed guest with frames rounded takes a softened approach using languaging like “babies” and “wombs”. Tom completely tunes this out and is looking for the hard edge, the lesson always. It’s amazing two such different people can really understand anything about each other with only language as their point in common. Add to that there are hundreds of interpretations about how we are using words and making meaning that is rapidly bouncing around between a traditional Buddhist teaching with a Western spin, psychiatry, practice, etc.. My ego tells me I understand conceptually everything thats on offer here. Then I suddenly remember what some Buddha said: ‘wisdom can’t be taught’. Ok, I can relax now and acknowledge my genuine state of cluelessness and “own it” as Tom might say. Own what? Why do I have to own everything? Is that due to growing up in the states? It’s endless.
Buddha asked, 'How do you tame a wild elephant.' The answer is, 'Place the elephant in a large field.' meditation is the large field.
wondering what kind of facelift this guy had bc his jawline and neck are on point..
What is the name of the book they both read as teenagers?
@ana2785
2 жыл бұрын
Tao Te Ching
@keraw9927
2 жыл бұрын
@@ana2785 thanks so much
when Tom who is so successful does not want to base his value on success and aquistions, a reason to more for me with zillion fold less success, not to do so...
20:34
@poeticmindshifttv7568
2 жыл бұрын
1:00:00
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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2 жыл бұрын
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IDOLATRY of sports has replaced the worship of God and distracted/emasculated men who should be warriors instead of wearing another man's jersey on their back (which is kinda sus if you ask me.)
Ada within the video- really?! I am paying YT Prime to be able to really concentrate undisturbed to the things that are important to me… so you lost me at 8.4 min and will not be coming back to your channel
the Buddhist concepts here sound complicated and not so correctly, I suggest you study this further elsewhere.
😊 Bravo Tom Bilyeu 😊
THE WHOLE PODCAST : Um... You know.... Like.... Like...
@rabidsetssf2820
2 жыл бұрын
don't listen to anyone people
Great work Tom, but I had to switch off when you started talking too much about yourself. It’s not that you’re not interesting but I just feel it uncomfortably takes something away from the person you are interviewing. Get yourself booked into someone’s show as a guest and talk about yourself all you want, but please stop stealing your own guests airtime 🙏