Being Single in Your 30s| Is Marriage for everyone? Society pressure, Purity and Enjoying the Season
Wanting to be married or have a family is a beautiful thing, but it can be hard to hold onto these dreams when we feel like our timelines are delayed, and our biological clocks are ticking.
Speaking to Sheila gave a different perspective on singleness and how not everyone is actively pursuing marriage as we all know. From our discussion, we talked contentment in season, purity in the wait and how the church can be more inclusive to the older singles in the flock.
0:00 - Intro
2:30 - How important is the idea of marriage
4:18 - The dating journey
6:28 - Dating standards
9:10 - Societal pressure
10:50 - The church and singlehood
12:06 - The othering of singles
13:11 - Light Bulb Moment
13:33 - Enjoying singleness
16:39 - Singleness and God
18:48 - Purity while single
25:50 - The biological clock
28:46 - Advice to singles
Пікірлер: 396
I got married at 33yrs,only dated for 6 months , indeed God is faithful.”When the time is right ,I the Lord will make it happen “ was my mantra in waiting.
@annatte9624
4 ай бұрын
We thank God for you and ask him to do it for us. Amen
@pollabeauty
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this testimony! Iam also waiting, and believing God to do it for me
@jereking254
4 ай бұрын
God is so faithful that He presents a suitor to every women from the age of 16 years when He bestows readiness for motherhood, but modernity's "right to choose" has now made women quite picky. Unfortunately, people have developed their own programmes such as education, career etc. When a woman misses on this opportunity/offer they start praying for another chance. But the choices keep on dwindling.
@DelphisterNyirenda-rv3dl
3 ай бұрын
Amen trusting God's processe
@kemigaborosebell8436
3 ай бұрын
i got married at 34yrs ,only dated 4 3months !victory belongs to jesus.Amen
Marriage is not everyone 😅😅😅😅and being single can be a blessing sometimes, enjoy every season of your life
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
💯Counting our blessings in every season of our lives!!
"I believe that God is not holding anything good away from me." That's deep girl!!! I like you and the energy you exude.
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
He really is a good good Father!! 😊
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
The faith that He has a good plan!🎊
I resonate with a lot of Sheilla's views. At 39 never married with not kids i think as you grow older and invested in things that interest you, marriage becomes a secondary need.
@ziwer1
4 ай бұрын
Totulimba!
We started dating in January, he went home for kukyala in August and Introduction ceremony was in December. God's timing is the best.
I love you Sheila my dear OG, you are such an intelligent lady. May God make all things beautiful for you in His timing in Jesus' name amen
Always authentic ❤. Great advice to all the singles. Rock the singleness as you wait.
This is inspirational! Never seen someone so content and comfortable in their singleness. Sometimes we fear to ask the question ‘what if I never get married?’ especially because of the society we live in. Thank you Lisa for bringing her on set✨✨
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@robbycarson4999
3 ай бұрын
U feel that way cuz society has brainwashed a lot of us into conforming to what they believe is the right way to live by stigmatizing those that don't line up!! There r so many miserable souls trapped in marriages esp females that they don't want. Society pushed into into it thru families n religious leaders! Otherwise, they wouldn't be married if they had the guts to stand their ground!! Bottom line, don't let anybody bully u into marriage or having kids u don't want! Take charge of your life as adult n don't let anybody tell you what to do with yo life period!!
Wow! A lady so aware of who she is in Christ. So aware of who God is and how He works! Powerful conversation 👏. Thanks Sheila and Lisa ❤
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
You’re so welcome
@atugonzajulljoy1662
4 ай бұрын
Knowing who she is will lead her life to the right partner
iam making 30 soon, i thought i was really late for marriage. have just got this wonderful encouragement and i know all is well
@user-el2mz8ok8v
4 ай бұрын
❤
I like how she is content within herself, fact is married or single you need that trait because marriage won't solve all your problems. I wish her well in her future, whatever that looks like, obvious beautiful things❤
This conversation has been everything! I reasonate with Sheila on many aspects! In my early thirties single and my take home from this is that "Its about how you believe who God is" he truly isn't withholding anything good from me!!!
This is such a breath of fresh air on the social streets.. I’ve never resonated with anyone like I did with Sheilla.. People make you seem so abnormal when your not actively thinking about marriage.. Thanks Lisa, This one was it for me.
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
It's always good to know that we aren't alone or weird!! Besides, God is always with us!!
@florencemukaminega6546
4 ай бұрын
Ppp
@norahpounds5776
3 ай бұрын
@@sheilawavamunno9372very true that is❤❤love u gal
I love her honesty. And God, this was such a beautiful and unique conversation. Our lives are literally written down on stone, go to school, work and get married. And we end up depressed when things don't go in that order. More grace Lord, more grace.❤
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
So true
I'm turning 30 soon, single Christian actively waiting. I relate with a lot of your ideas except for the part of being okay with being single. I really desire marriage but I'm scared of doing it without God. In as much as I want it badly, I want to do it God's way. That's why I will wait amidst the doubts and worries. I'm just working on trusting God and accepting that he doesn't withhold good things from me. Thank you for this interview, it has given me hope in God.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Such a good lesson. God wants everything good for you
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
So glad you're choosing to trust God. He doesn't disappoint and always does over and above what we ask. He is good!!🤗 May He show Himself off in and through you🙏🏾
@user-ik9zn3cn5e
4 ай бұрын
@@sheilawavamunno9372 Thank you
@norahpounds5776
3 ай бұрын
He is a faithful and dependable God who is not a man to lie. His promises are yes and amen
Honestly sometimes you are single and its really not your fault. The church prepares people for marriage but never for singlehood. What if you'll never get married is a very good question. Contentment that comes from God is what we need. Thank you Lisa. I honestly love these videos on singlehood. God bless you!!
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for the comment. I’m honored
Sheila’s skin is flawless 👌
Singleness gives you time to heal from yr past. Knowing that God loves us, he will give you the best if you put him first. ❤
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
And to trust His best for us is - to really trust Him 🤗
Woooooowwww....Is she for real?? Her wisdom, Intelligence, Poise, Articulation, Authenticity, Purity, Faith in God.... am mind blown by her...amazing interview!!!
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
😂 bambi we are many who dare to trust God.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
God is surely working in her life
@jojogladys4293
4 ай бұрын
She is so blessed and she knows it!
@hildanamubiru1205
3 ай бұрын
Buddo-effect❤
For someone who hopes to get married someday, I have loved this conversation.
Glad to find someone who still holds onto tne Christian values of abstinence regardless of how long the wait maybe. True love waits. Recently someone was telling me that abstinence is an old adage. I am glad to find this great content. Leave it to God.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Our reward is from God🎊🎊
The most authentic&honest interview ever❤
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Wow
Wow! Thank you Sheila for sharing. So many points noted but mostly to trust God
Wow, this was powerful! Thank you Shelia and Lisa
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
You are welcome
A very meaningful and timely conversation. Thankyou for your encouragement 🙏
Beautiful. Inspiring.❤
Thank you...I've enjoyed watching this❤
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thank you!
Sheila is real and raw!! Thankyou
This conversation is so honest ❤
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
😀
love Sheila, such an honest person and solid. Encouraged my Faith💖
Love love this conversation... I've learned alot!
I saw Sheila and couldn't wait to watch this episode. We were in high school together
This is so good. Thank you so much Sheila. God is really good, the peace you have despite what society says can only come from God. Thank you for proclaiming God’s goodness. My take home is that God, my good loving father is not withholding anything good from me. Thank you again
she is such a beautiful soul .....so graceful love her
Thank u so much for this but am also getting to appreciate this season as well getting to know myself better and releasing the pressure
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Wow
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Good for you👌🏾👌🏾 @NaavaJoan-ys8mh!!
The preaching that Ms. Sheila has done in sharing her story and views...🙌, I'm so glad I came. Thank you so much Sheila, May God richly bless you 🙏
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Amiina!! May God bless you too🙏🏾
wow! this is powerful. Thanks Sheila for sharing with us about this powerful journey.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
👌🏾👌🏾
I love the idea of Sheila being content with who she is❤️ and trusting in God for marriage. Whether one gets married or not, life must continue
Hi Lisa, thanks for bringing Sheila. She is admirable! God bless you both!
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
You are welcome
I’ve never seen someone so Intelligent and honest
@LisaKusiima
2 ай бұрын
🥳🥳👏🏾
Thanks for sharing Sheila. This was beautiful
Lisa thank you so much for bringing this guest she really spoke from her heart and this is a conversation we need to have, it is okay if one doesnt get married it is not a crime
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching
Sheila, thanks for sharing your story.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
You are so welcome
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Thank you Pipa 🤗
What a gracious and honest lady . Thank you ma'am. I've learnt a lot from you
So refreshing she is speaking for all of us. Its not in our control God's timing!
I have learned a lot, indeed. Thanks, ladies.❤
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Amazing
Awww love you Sheila! Your grace and wholeness is what every woman needs, to live in the moment that God has blessed them with.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
So so so true
Very profound & well grounded insights from Sheila 👌
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching
Lisa,thank you for hosting Sheila. Sheila thank you for touching all the buttons! 🤝
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
You are welcome
This is so inspirational and touching. Thanks Sheila for sharing ❤❤❤
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
So glad!
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching🤗 I am thankful for the opportunity @ Lisa Kusiima.
Sheila this was wonderful!
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Senkyu senkyu! Mukama yebazibwe!!
Being content in singlehood well put,we appreciate her authenticity and wisdom ✨.
Thank you so much Sheila for bringing back hope and confidence in me and many others who are going through this reality. You are so beautiful and real
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Thank you @annatte9624 🤗
@Mummyjojo0158
4 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂 we are many
This was beautiful Sheila. No suprise there! Its refreshing to hear someone speak truth. ❤❤❤
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
❤ Oli biased as usual😂
I have never related so much and never felt so seen and recognised like with Sheila. Sheila, God Bless you sooo much. You mirror me and maybe others with what you have shared. Thank you for this and being open and honest about something we are afraid to talk about with family and friends. wow..Thank You Lisa for bringing her. God Bless you
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I’m glad you felt seen😍
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
This is very encouraging🤗!! Thank you @linaagaba6466. We really aren't alone on this journey!
Very inspiring.... Loving self and finding your purpose is key
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Absolutely!!
Gal, Sheila you're good at yourself, I like it
Very pure and realistic.
Life is well defined and simple though it become mysterious if we don’t understand how it works. She’s brave. Good interaction…
Beautiful 😍 Yes am married. She is so open
I luv the way Lisa is very respectful in ha interview questions.❤😊
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thank you
@Kshanice25
4 ай бұрын
True she is, I wd recommend anyone to be on her show, she is sensitive to people's feelings and careful with her words
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
@@Kshanice25 thank you so much ☺️
Such godly wisdom! Thank you Sheila for sharing so beautifully 🤗 God continue to glorify Himself through your life 🙌 He is indeed a good good father, does not withhold anything good from His children and can be trusted!
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
He is a good good father!
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Amiina 🙏🏾
Very honest and authentic converstion and the church has a big role to play for the singles
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Let's pray for churches to remember us 🙏🏾
That is beautiful, every single people should watch this video! We should enjoy every season that we are in!
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
So true thanks
@user-gl6sm1oi9q
4 ай бұрын
❤
Wow!!! I’m single but I didn’t even think like this. This lady had really educated me. And we’ve been friends on Facebook for a long time. God bless you Sheila. God is indeed Good 🙏🏾🫶
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
God is ALWAYS good!!! 😊
What a coincidence, l have learnt great lessons from both Sheila's from this episode and the Sheila on Kambua's episodes strong women indeed and both stories so deep yet so encouraging.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
I’m glad you learnt something
I resonate powerfully with Sheila's views, especially about wanting it but not being desperate.
This is encouraging- I am waiting as well. God is faithful.
Wow , so blessed to hear from. GOD LOVES ME MORE THAN I DO LOVE MYSELF
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Wonderful!
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
💯And God wants even more for us, than we could ever want for ourselves!! He gives us Himself ❤ Is there a greater gift kweli??
I love this so much. Shared! Shared! Shared!.. singleness is a gift.
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing it! Glad you were encouraged by this😊 Praise God🙌🏾
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thank you
Such a smart lady Blessings Sheila ❤
This lady is soo content with her life, she is one of the lucky few that didn't cave with the pressure
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
So true
Sheila the makeup is legit👌
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
I see the things you like haha 😂
Woow, Thank you so much for bringing in Sheila, this is so touching and inspirational. A lot of good information to learn. We need to learn not to be consumed by society's expectations but rather we should be more concerned with God's expectations and plans towards us, for His plans are always good. There is a need to inculcate a discipline of trusting God and looking to God. Both seasons (Marriage and Singleness) are a blessing if we really have God in our lives and put Him first, but we always cross the lines without God. Again, thank you for sharing Shaila.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
I resonate so much with our guest 😍
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾
@atukundakahara483
3 ай бұрын
same here
She's so real ❤❤❤
Almost 40 and also accepting that i may not get married. However when told i had chances of getting problems as a woman... i was advised to give birth... i had to.. being a health worker... but yes.... it is well... God is so good... and life is awesome.... married or not...
I really liked this video ...thx a lot for sharing n encouraging us
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
You are welcome
Sheila is a Gem 💎 Within no time, she will get hitched 😊
Wow beautiful Sheila, my take is the love of God, he will not withhold anything. Singleness is a gift. Let's trust God because he is worthy of our trust.
@lenonjebeauty1444
4 ай бұрын
Me too.. Her mind is so positive
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
🎊🎊
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
@maggiematovu8735 Singleness is a riyo riyo gift!! To making the most of it as we trust the Giver of it!!🤗
beautiful convo
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Glad you think so!
Am only 28 but thought about the biological clock already🙆♀️, oh good LORD I now offload this my head🤭relaxed now, but still in prayer🙏
@user-ok1lf8hx2t
4 ай бұрын
How can I communicate to that lady kusima connect me to that lady I want to talk to her.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
May God give you peace
@Flourish_today
4 ай бұрын
@@user-ok1lf8hx2ttry finding her on Instagram.
Wow . She's balanced and fulfilled indeed. Shiela, thank you for grateful to God in all situations. Marriage, children sometimes are not in your aion
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching
@FatmaOdyssey after your story, another motivating one is here
She is an honest human being, being content in God is her best quality..let alone her wisdom. Be blessed Sheila ❤
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
😍
Love her!💐
inspirational! THX
She’s an inspiration
Our Sheila ❤❤❤
I personally know Sheila and she’s such an amazing soul. So intelligent and poised. I believe her Boaz is out there being moulded by God. When he’s ready, he’ll come. God’s timing…
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Indeed 🥳🥳
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Maltar❤🇰🇪🤩 You're very kind!! Thank you! Good to know you watch this channel!!
@maltarpeddy
4 ай бұрын
@@sheilawavamunno9372 yes dear, you know I’m Ugandan 🇺🇬 in spirit and support Ugandans 😄
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Ofcourse you are😂😂😂
@nakilabilasauda7827
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for standing and acting on purity @@sheilawavamunno9372
Sheila, your childlike trust in God is refreshing
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
Praying that I continue to trust our good good Father as a child should 🙏🏾
I dint really want this conversation to end, She really knows how to talk, what to say, she's complete.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
In God 🤗
Sheila is shaking church tables and I like it!
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Hahaha
@EAchandi
Ай бұрын
And the church is me and you😅
Thank you Lisa for bringing her .. I’ve liked her mindset
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
This was such an authentic interview. Sheila, you really do know your God and trust in his character!!!
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
👌🏾👌🏾
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
@primahkyambadde - Thank you 😊. To knowing Him more🙏🏾🙏🏾
@LINDAGRACE-jg6xp
4 ай бұрын
@Sheila , this is real faith in action . Your authenticity is such a gift from God .God bless you
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
A gift from God indeed!! God bless you too🤗
Very honest interview
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching
God bless your sweet soul
I love this girl!!!!!
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
🥰
Truly, Sheila is not only a great lady but also has a great faith. Indeed, her faith will work her out through.
@sheilawavamunno9372
4 ай бұрын
It comes down to God, who I have put my faith in. And what I believe about Him.🤗
Sheila is beautiful in and out. My mum always says there is no life that is more ideal than the other. I think there are many ladies out there like Sheila, to whom marriage and children are not the defining part of their life.
@LisaKusiima
4 ай бұрын
Your mom is wise 🤩