I came out to my therapist and about a month later I had an appointment with my psychiatrist. He talked to me in private about how my therapist told him that I was trans and I told him that I was okay with it because doctors are allowed to share this information with each other to help the patient. So this man decided to take it upon himself to tell my mother against my wishes. He said, "your mother will love you even after telling her." Even though I said that I wasn't comfortable. He told her, who in turn told my stepdad. I was then and still now put through hell. My stepdad is extremely transphobic. He took my first binder and cut it up with a knife right in front of me. And for over four hours repeatedly said to me that I would never be a man and that I was digusting. Told me that I was going to hell, and said that if my grandfather were still alive I would never be allowed in his house ever again. Everytime anyone mentions me being trans he snaps. One time we were at the store and one of my friends saw me and greeted me calling me by my preferred name. After that, he said that he would never take me out in public again. I wish there was something I could do about this. And I wish that I could tell that doctor how wrong and out of line he was for making this decision for me. I should honestly be allowed to sue him for breaking the confidentiality law, but I don't know where to begin with that. I can't wait to graduate from high school to get away from everyone who is toxic to me.

@firefly6335

6 жыл бұрын

If you are under 18, I think you need a litigation guardian, and I don’t think it necessarily has to be a parent though. If you need more support, you can probably go onto Trevorspace and some subreddits. Good luck!

@garionparent1416

6 жыл бұрын

b11 5 😂😂😂😂😂

@garionparent1416

6 жыл бұрын

b11 5 destroying my property, harassing me, calling me terrible things, saying that I'm going to hell (which I don't believe exists anyways), telling me that if my grandfather were still alive I would never be able to see him. All of that, is right? It's true? If that's what you're saying you're just as bad as he is.

@user-lq3ro4vp3z

6 жыл бұрын

+Garbion Proulx # body it's my spell check sorry lol

@user-lq3ro4vp3z

6 жыл бұрын

+Lewie Tift what's gender fluid mean

I was at a class once with this guy I’ve known since I identified as female, and a new person started talking to us. My mate then said “This is Gray, he’s trans, he used to be a girl called *birthname*” Like come on, luckily the other guy was cool with it but even so

@asininepoppycock

6 жыл бұрын

Smudge's tails yeah like??? sometimes people aren't cool with it. it could have ended badly.

@smudgestails9135

6 жыл бұрын

Bradley Sabbath Exactly, I corrected my mate and he was more careful from then on, but if he’d said that to the wrong person it could’ve been a lot worse

@foreverwantingpie

6 жыл бұрын

I hate when the cis do that. They're like "I have another trans friend their name used to be this but now it's this" and I'm like ?? Do you tell people my birth name? Jesus don't

@asininepoppycock

6 жыл бұрын

foreverwantingpie that reminds me like.. Ive had cis people (sorta friends but more like just peers) be like "oh,,,, i know ur struggles and whats going thru ur head bc like, i know a trans person" and im??? So confused????? Thats not how humans work ok.

@FabulousCthulhu

6 жыл бұрын

If someone outs you and uses your deadname, talk to that person sternly, about how you don't like that and how it's rude to pull that stunt.

My sister won't stop outing me to her friends just because they're gay or trans themselves. I keep telling her I don't want her to tell people even if they're lgbt but she decides to anyway.

@andrewbuxton7309

6 жыл бұрын

crow no slap that bitch (not sexist just saying shes rude)

@saxtont-j8745

6 жыл бұрын

crow no i feel like when I tell my sister she might do the same thing but then stop when I tell her it is really bothering me just express your felling about it, she will understand. Have a nice night my duddee.

@Allaboutbaby24

6 жыл бұрын

Andrew why don't you just say she is rude then instead of something extremely sexist?? And crow no, it is not okay what your sister is doing. If I were you, sit her down, explain to her that she needs to respect your boundaries. If she does not, if you don't live in the same house consider reducing/cutting contact as your bloodrelatives should not have a freepass for disrespecting your boundaries. If you still live with her in the same place, maybe you can find a way to reduce the contact. Best of you on your journey!!!

@icantchangemynameforninemo8490

6 жыл бұрын

crow no same.

@sd3864

5 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't be abusive like other commenters suggest. Like wtf? These ppl outed themselves on youtube that they are shitty people. She's prolly doing it thinking u can make friends, or have something in common. The best non abusive and right thing to do is sit down with her and have a long talk about how it makes u feel etc.

IMO outing someone in any sense is just the nastiest betrayal of trust, not to mention it can be dangerous. My parents got angry at me when I had one of my friends came round (she is trans) for not forewarning them about me having "a boy" around. Apart from me getting furious at them misgendering her I couldn't make them understand that it wasn't my right to tell them nor was it even really their business?? ? And why it didn't matter to me how she identifies... She is still my friend of course but me and my parents were quite frosty for a week or so because of the whole thing (which SHOULD have been a non issue) 😬

@sd3864

5 жыл бұрын

Sophia Neilsson or your parents care about you...duh

@ember-brandt

3 жыл бұрын

@@sd3864 Lol why, because sHe'S fRiEnDs WiTh A bOy?!

@ember-brandt

3 жыл бұрын

@@sd3864 I saw you talking shit in another thread already, you're not even worth another reply tbh

While I was getting interviewed for my current job the manager asked "So, you are a transgender person, right?" And we talked about how to refer to trans people etc. Luckily he was very accepting, but I still don't know who told him I was trans. On one hand I'm thankful for them opening up the conversation, but on the other I am still very frustrated I didn't get to talk about it myself.

The worst experience for a trans person. Being outed is so ugh. Outing yourself if cool but that... Nope

@sd3864

5 жыл бұрын

Milf Momz they are

i wish people could just understand that you need to see the reaction when you tell them that you're trans for yourself my dad outed me to his entire side of the family and told them that they didn't have to change anything about the way they speak to me, so they think it's a phase and still call me she/her and my birth name it would've been so much better if i could have told them, so i could explain it, and they would've known that i am a guy, my name's tristan, and my pronouns are he/they

My friend calls me by my preferred name around everyone and isn't subtle at all with it, but no one's noticed or asked about why my friends keep screaming "Philip" at me, a trans guy that looks like a cis girl. Generally surprised I haven't been outed yet.

@spicybiscuit5530

6 жыл бұрын

Melody Drake wow....

@eloconnor6841

6 жыл бұрын

I'm also in that situation (except I'm nb) I've only had a few people ask questions. But no question about my name!

@DarkSuperNinja

6 жыл бұрын

Everyone probably thinks it's a nickname; one of my friend's nickname is Jimmy, and she's just a normal girl! :P

@aeliushollows4856

6 жыл бұрын

Spicy, that's kind of cute

@firebreathingchickenduck4936

6 жыл бұрын

Melody Drake is your dead name susan or are they just like "i dub the..... SUSAN!"

i'm personally fine if someone at school is like 'oh, this is rylan. he is trans.' because my school is generally accepting. but the worst outing situation i have been in was this summer. so i knew a girl and we were friends for two years until shortly after school got out this past summer. i was 100% through with her knowing i was trans and not making any effort to be respectful. she started having a break down and was crying to her mom about how i was springing stuff on her an being an ass about it (she called me by birthname and i was just like 'please dont call me that. i'm trans and i go by rylan. you have known this for two years'), and her mom took her phone to text me. which outed me to her mom. who then outed her to her husband. and the ex friend told her brother. and then all the family they were visiting when they asked what was going on with her. so basically the whole town of essex knows i'm trans, which fucking blows because i wanted to move near there

@sd3864

5 жыл бұрын

Rylan Lee who cares? Whats your master plan? Moving somewhere and keeping it a secret? So your not proud of who u were before and your still not proud of who you've become? Ok then...

@felixxcantfixit

5 жыл бұрын

Rylan Lee dude that sucks

@torrinashley6076

5 жыл бұрын

@@sd3864 Not every trans person wants to be called by their fucking deadname. You can be proud of being trans, but that doesn't mean you want to be outted by random people. The majority of trans people try to blend in, they don't want a lot of attention on them, because it can literally put them in a situation where they can be killed. Being outted fucking sucks and it is NOT up to other people to out you. You can out yourself. Not other people

@humandefinitely

3 жыл бұрын

@@sd3864 if he wants to be stealth, let him be stealth, fuck off.

@gingertwerk472

2 жыл бұрын

What a jerk

My mum outed me to a priest lmao

@duckee619

6 жыл бұрын

Same....and the minister is my father. My life right :/

@firebreathingchickenduck4936

6 жыл бұрын

Ellie G dude im so sorry

@JOHN-kc1pw

6 жыл бұрын

ghostlyemerson Lolololololol

@arellasamuel7866

6 жыл бұрын

ghostlyemerson saaaaame. sorry fam

@Galvion1980

4 жыл бұрын

The Fuuuuuuuuck?!?

My friend outed me to her twin sister when she introduced me to her "Hey this is Destin, he used to be *birthname* he's female to male transgender." like five minutes after i met her

The anxiety of being outed on my channel was honestly the main reason I decided to take charge of it in my own hands and come out of being in stealth after 10 years. Much love to ya!

Oh boi your hair is fireee

My teacher e-mailed my mum saying "Milly has decides she wishes to be called Charlie, and her friends are referring to her as he/him. We can prevent anything more I you wish, please contact us if that is the case" Yeah... I wasn't out, I have a transphobic and vaguely homophobic father and neither parent believes me.

@sunnymas2656

6 жыл бұрын

For parents it is most difficult. If their child wants to be another gender. I´m male born, so I MUST be a boy. My mom had her biggest wish: Two SONS. My father was not so interested, about his children. His children only exist, because of his wife. He said: It is not a big difference for him, between his children and the children of the neighbours. My mom said generally: If I become stupid,she would take me to the locked hospital. = if I not be and do, what she wants.

@plestrange511

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry! They should never have done that! I hope you're doing better now & they've come around?

@Petrichor_Pyroclast

3 жыл бұрын

Teachers shouldn't be allowed to out kids to their parents.

I wish you'd said something about that guy to the lgbt organization. I mean, I get why you didn't, but he really, really fucked up and there should have been consequences for that.

i have a full anxiety attack if someone outs me and it happens way too often.

I'm not out to anyone but my parents and my best friend so I accidentally almost outed myself to a friend today because I was not expecting him to come over so I didn't like get my room ready or whatever so my desk had a list full of guy names that I am considering and Alex Bertie's Trans Mission book right next to it. My friend just stared at the book for a second, then looked at the list and picked it up and said "Why am I not invited" thinking it was some sort of part I was planning or something idk lol

@Departure-yz7ok

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Miles, you out of the closet now? You better be well dressed after all this time lol

My friend was really scared to come out to me and when they did I was like, dude you know I’m trans right? I’m like fully out, then we celebrated yeeeaaaaaayyyyyy

@pierceschuyler1517

5 жыл бұрын

No One so cool... and ironic.

Cis person here (with some amazing trans friends in my life) and I'd genuinely like some trans opinions on this. I always thought that outing someone is generally not a good idea, regardless if someone is out or not, because it's kind of like 'othering' someone? It doesn't have to be a secret, but does it have to be a hot topic of discussion? What I mean is - someone being trans doesn't have any impact on who they are as a person. I wouldn't say 'oh, you're gonna live together with X, did you know he's trans' because why should it matter? I'd rather go 'oh, beware, X can be quite messy and doesn't always clean up' or 'Hey, that's cool, X loves Star Wars like you do so you'll probably get along'. People are more than their trans / cis status and their genitals really don't affect you, unless it's about a practical issue.

@DarkSuperNinja

6 жыл бұрын

It's not important for people to know unless they want a relationship, or they want to move in with each other, they are my rules anyway. Tbh, in any other situation besides those, it's completely unimportant! With my closer friends, I just out myself really casually by cracking a joke about it or mentioning stuff that happened when I was younger that could ONLY apply to girls (like Brownies or somat). Some dumb idiots think that you shouldn't have to disclose you're transness to anyone, but that's bullshit. If someone was a sexual relationship, they need to know, and if they want to move in with a trans person, they need to know. This is all up to the trans person in question though; obviously don't 'out' them yourself unless it's some sort of medical emergency, in which case it's obviously really important! If they're in a situation where they really should out themself (like a relationship or moving in) and they don't do it, it's probably worth talking to them and being like "yo you should probs tell them you're trans before it gets awkward". xD

@pierceschuyler1517

5 жыл бұрын

anne bode true

@Departure-yz7ok

3 жыл бұрын

Actually there's one situation in which I would give a lot for someone to "" out"" me. But it's a different scenario I suppose. It's when I'm with someone, and somebody else walks up to us and misgenders me. Misgendering always feels like a stab to the heart, like they're publically humiliating you. It doesn't matter if it's intentional or not, it feels like public humiliation. And I know that I've wished countless times that a friend of mine would just open their mouth and step up for me and be like, Uhh that's a boy? Why did you call him Ma'am? It was the same back in school, I wished for one of my classmates to say something like that to our teachers, who didn't take me being trans seriously. I can't speak for everyone but me personally, I often wish somebody would defend my gender with me from time to time and I don't have to do it on my own every time

@Departure-yz7ok

3 жыл бұрын

As in, when someone misgenders them, correct them. I know that I would appreciate that a hella freaking lot if my friends did that. I think it's very embarrassing to pull off the kind of fake "Huh? Are you talking to me? I didn't realize... You called me miss....... What?...... I'm a boy...... " thing every time. You've probably asked them by now but if not you could ask them if they want you to correct strangers who misgenders them

@Departure-yz7ok

3 жыл бұрын

But the other way around I think that's a no no. It someone genders you correctly you don't want your friends to go, "he's trans btw, he's not physically a boy" or something like that. I've had that happen to me one time, where a friend told her mom, and that pissed me off, because my genitals are none of my friends' moms' business

i love your personality. you seem like such a kind and genuine person and I am sure shaaba is a very lucky woman to have such a wonderful man like you. You are one of my role models

I posted some stuff on my Instagram about me being trans, basically my pronouns and stuff and then my mom's friend told my mom (who I had blocked on all social media) and she flipped out, said I had a mental illness, that I was never gonna be a man, stuff like that, and then she told the whole family right before thanksgiving, turns out my aunt, uncle, and two cousins are extremely supportive and said that they would always love and support me unconditionally no matter what happens because they care about me and want me to be happy, and said that if I ever needed to talk, or a place to stay their door was always open, which almost brought me to tears cause for the past 3 weeks (this all happened 3 weeks ago btw) all I've heard is how my mom and dad think I'm insane and that I'm being selfish for "wanting to be a man". But I have a super supportive group of friends, who's families (for the most part) are supportive and care about me and my wellbeing, so the situation isn't ideal and it's causing a lot of stress on my mental health, but at the same time, it could be worse so in the long run, I'm grateful for (most) of the people in my life.

@emmaohdeary

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry that happened to you!! I'm glad there are at least a few people in your life who love and support you, I'm sure you're awesome

I love you!!! You have helped me be more sensitive to my trans Son. You have made such a difference in our lives. Thank you for being so open and honest.

My stepdad outed me to his stepmom in front of me, I guess because I'm not really good at hiding discomfort. It went well, but I wasn't ready for it. My mother and I both explained to him that that wasn't, nor would it ever be, his decision to make. I'm glad he was trying to help, but... eh.

Got outted at work a couple of weeks ago...I was mortified... some people call me she.

Dude being outed sucks and is really rude! Reminded me of that episode on Survivor when the dude got outed...

I was outed by my best friend.now, if it was one person who'd keep a secret i would be upset but wouldn't mind overall...but it wasn't...it was an entire class of students that found out. when an old classmates of my primary school was walking to school with me (we go to different schools just in the same direction) she decided to ask 'whats up with the whole boy thing?' at first i was clearly confused so i just said 'what' but after she explained what she meant i freaked out...though i didn't show it, she kept questioning me about names, what i was thinking, haircuts, coming out and a few more uncomfortable things...i just nodded and agreed with everything she said afraid she'd punch me if i didn't (she isn't a very nice person honestly...she told me to kill myself in primary 7 so....) after i got home i curled into a ball and cried before my best friend (the same one who outed me) called for me, so i answered the door and asked her about it...then she admitted she'd told people about me being trans and gay whenever she'd gotten upset with me and she'd done it a few times before that as well...so now an entire class of the meanest teens hate me, and i have to go there for my A levels which means i'll be bullied even more than i already am outside of school by older students then in class i'll be bullied more too...right now i just want to cry and give up, just end it all because i'm not finding any reasons to get out of bed anymore...i'm still hoping though, thanks for reading whoever you are, it means a lot (sorry for my bad english/grammar i'm using my broken laptop for the moment)

@plestrange511

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so so sorry. She should have never have done that to you at all. I know this was two years ago, so hopefully things have gotten better for you but, please keep fighting! You deserve to find yourself supportive, caring, kind friends who accept & care for you however you are. High school is really hard- but it's not everything-you can get away from horrible people & find your own family of people who support you. Stay strong & keep fighting because one day you'll look back on those days as bad times, but you'll be in the good times. I hope you're doing so much better now

I know the feeling. My ex gf was one of the very very few people I told how I feel and that I’m trans (I didn’t start transitioning yet) and even though I asked her not to tell anyone and she seemed cool about it, she just went and told pretty much everyone she knows that I’m trans. I still feel so betrayed by that...

One of my teachers outed me to my whole class... Thanks Ms P.........

Oh my god one of my friends doesn’t know how to shut her mouth and keeps yelling things to my trans friend about him being trans while there are other people around and the other day she did it in town and I feel so bad for him like she’s starting to piss me off now

@firebreathingchickenduck4936

6 жыл бұрын

Infinitelydeepdimple tell them off. Tell em its not okay to sprout stuff like that bc it could be very dangerous.

@infinitelydeepdimple6245

6 жыл бұрын

i have several times shes just a twat

@infinitelydeepdimple6245

6 жыл бұрын

oh my god and one time she was saying stuff about this guy who used to go to our (all 'girls') school but hes presenting as a guy now and she was saying stuff like 'tranny' and 'he she' and i told her to stop several times but she was laughing and saying it was just a joke so i started walking away and she said one more thing and i sorta hit her. i mean she kinda deserved it. she made me so angry that i cried. im not even trans

@sd3864

5 жыл бұрын

Infinitelydeepdimple yea ive noticed that people who speak their opinions, concerns, etc about trans are subject to violence, bullying, and intimidation as well. The thing is many people will "act" cool with it to your face to not disrespect but a huge majority just look at that group as weirdos

@plestrange511

4 жыл бұрын

Damn, i hope shes learnt by now!

I was being outed like two weeks ago. There's my friend who tells her parents everything. I mean it's cool that they speak about things but please don't out me for God's sake... This caused a bad argument with my mom, because friend's dad wrote an email to my mom that she's a bad parent or something. Outing sucks.

@jgr_lilli_

6 жыл бұрын

Nagy Patrik wtf is wrong with your friend's parents.

I never was outed by anyone actively but my old friend's father read her texts and mines and found out I was trans. Basically since then everything has gone through hell and she doesn't even want me to talk to her anymore

I’m in seventh grade and last week I told someone that something was gay, the “gay” thing was, he was pinning my hand against a locker. So I told him it was, and he was like: wait what...? And then I told him I was transgender and then he told the entire seventh grade. And in math, someone whispered “transgender” probably just to get my attention. But I know I’m not the only transgender or LGBTQ+ person in my school. Yeah. Unrelated to this topic, I came out to my gym teacher because I felt awkward with being a “boy” in a girls gym class, and all she had to say was “oh.” And left. I got very sad, and my friend was about to cry. We didn’t even know why it’s probably the stress.

@plestrange511

4 жыл бұрын

Oh shit- i hope things are better now!?

Love you Jamie! I'm sorry you had to go through that but I'm so glad you're in a place now where you can be open about it and feel safe while doing so. I'm happy you and Shaaba are so happy together!

I have a 'friend' that I barely even know and only really fight with, threaten to out me as genderfluid to my parents, for some reason my mom in particular. Luckily he's an online 'friend' who lives in another country and obviously doesn't have my parents their phone numbers. He told me he'd out me while my friend and I were in a group chat with him and he kept saying my deadname. My friend kept correcting him and then he said he'd out me to my mom and my friend went ham on him while I just PANICKED and thought he somehow would find out my mom's or dad's phone number.

@emmaohdeary

4 жыл бұрын

That's so messed up! I hope you blocked him on every platform possible XD

@Sweetie.21

4 жыл бұрын

@@emmaohdeary Ehm.. I kinda.. didn't. I kinda like fighting with him, I dunno why. Most likely a mix of boredom and practicing what to say against other homophobes and transphobes.

@emmaohdeary

4 жыл бұрын

@@Sweetie.21 I actually do get that - it's also good to challenge his views, rather than accept that he's transphobic/homophobic. Maybe he'll change his mind!

@Sweetie.21

4 жыл бұрын

@@emmaohdeary I hope so, but he hasn't improved much over the course of the two years I've known him.

I go to an 'all girls' school so later in life on my CV I'll be immediately outed as trans for the rest of my life.

@pigeon2503

4 жыл бұрын

Nobody ever checks up on it. Just put down a different school that's close by. If you're worried, see if there's one that's closed and can no longer be accessed. Furthermore, GCSEs (which I assume you have since you said "CV") only last 5 years and you're advised to stop putting them on once you have better grades. Eg of course you have 5 GCSEs A - C if you have college results, and of course you have good college results if you went to university. There's no point in cluttering your CV with school stuff once you've been working for a while and have actual work experience to put down. There's absolutely no point in ever mentioning your school once you get to that point; it's useless information. Hope this helps

Well I’ve been watching your videos and this is the first time I’ve commented. I get my top surgery in 12 days and I’m super scared. But seriously, watching you get through this stuff is really calming me down. Thank you!

my best friend is a trans guy and i consider myself non binary but i haven’t told anyone much, but when i told him and his family they immediately accepted it and my friend is so happy that i trusted him to become my safe space. he was surprised that i told him before any of my friends, even any of my family.

I’ve been outed to people every time I’ve come out as something, except for one occasion with my stepmom. I came out as gay (before I realized I was trans) in 9th grade - outed to my mom and was yelled at for half an hour saying I didn’t know what I wanted, I came out as trans with a letter, the first of 4 attempts to my mom, - outed to my sisters & grandma though they were okay with it and supportive, the 3rd attempt at coming out as trans was another letter to my mom who then proceeded to yell at me for being passive aggressive because I taped it on her door and then proceeded to get drunk I think that night or the night after and cut herself, calling my dad and stepmom. They had to pick her up and bring her back, she gave them the note and outed me to them, they were also really supportive of me especially my dad; he had kept the note and I didn’t even know that until I was helping clear out his dresser after the funeral. Just don’t out people, it’s a shitty feeling not being able to choose how to tell people how you want and who you want. As well as this, one of my theatre friends who isn’t super close to me asked my closest friend what my deadname was and when I didn’t answer he did. I’m just so sick of people thinking they have a right to my life and experiences

Okay so my friends and I were talking on whatsapp and one of them outed a closeted guy we know as bi. We aren't going to spread the word or anything but I'm worried she may have done the same about one of us. Should I confront her about it?

@Bucherviews

6 жыл бұрын

I think so - it might be that she doesn't realise the potential implications, so it might be worth explaining and getting all the information before someone knowing takes you by surprise.

@ellasalt8996

6 жыл бұрын

Bucherviews thanks, after some drama blows over i'll ask her to make sure she knows not to or whatever

I came out whilst public speaking to thousands of people at my first pride, and I have finally accepted it in myself and your videos have been that driving force which has helped me so much! I am trans and from the uk too and have started making videos 🙂

I don't think you went into enough depth about how dangerous it is to be outed

EVERYONE! HUGS FOR JAMMI!!!

Your hair!!! Looks so good!!! Like this!!!

Your hair that length looks AWESOME!

@pierceschuyler1517

5 жыл бұрын

Justin Lapinid-Ranion I KNOW!! He should never cut it.

I asked a whole load of people to call me "Alex" because that was a gender neutral name and I was happy about that. Now, I came out to my mom and told her that she could call me what she wants to, so now I go by Landon, and Im scared to tell people about the change. What do I do .__.

@me-qv2td

6 жыл бұрын

Do the same thing you did when you asked them to call you Alex, they don't need an explanation unless you want them to call you different pronouns etc

@D3ViiANT

6 жыл бұрын

You can switch to Landon...everyone has the freedom to change their name. And trans people in particular tend to go through multiple name changes before finding the one that fits.

@DarkSuperNinja

6 жыл бұрын

Can't stop laughing, since I used to go by Alex, but my name is now Lyndon (been over a year since I changed it)! xD Such a hilarious coincidence! And just go with it; if you're confident about it and are adamant about it, people are less likely to be shitheads about it! :P

@tailsdude8943

6 жыл бұрын

__ oml XD

I just saw you on The Economist's Snapchat story! I saw your face and immediately clicked on it because I was so surprised.

Gosh I wish my mother understood this. I've told her a couple times after she outed me to literally EVERYONE Family, friends, new people we meet, workers in restaurants or cafererias.... Worst experience is when she outed me to my uncle and aunt, who are from Vox (political party in spain that is lgbt-phobe,anti women rights,pro guns,etc) just before we were going to dinner with them. Obviously they mocked me, my mother didn't really defend me that much because she didn't understand how BAD those words were. I got out feeling terribly dysphoric. Other experiences werent bad, but still she outs me without any permission and I am glad if it's people she knows are not transphobic. But when I pass with people (for example I passed as a feminine guy in a restaurant TILL she outed me, which made me feel both happy because I was passing and really sad because I couldn't pass anymore if they knew I was ftm) But this one experience with my family was really terrible. They said things like "A boy? But do you have a penis? No,then you arent a boy" and stuff like that...I obviously ranted about it to my mother (almost starting to cry obviously) Her way of outing me isnt really so good either because she says " This is *DEATHNAME*, Alex, she is trans (sometimes she fianlly says "He" but still...oof)"

You are an absolutely lovely person, and that's all that matters.

I don’t even have a choice. People out me all the time. I just have to deal with it.

@pierceschuyler1517

5 жыл бұрын

uk/amr.a uncool.

I got outed in my English class by someone yelling my preffered name in class and then yelling at me for not responding, then in Maths when someone asked why i have Alex written on my sketch book and someone yelled "thats her boy name". Those were fun times

I had a panic attack im class because I thought I was going to be forcefully outed to my parents. Yeah, a panic attack is a bit extreme, but I really can't help it.

I was outed to a kid at a special needs youth group I help out at...not great when you get a 14 year old girl (happy as a girl not actually trans) comes up to you saying 'I WANT TO BE TRANSGENDER LIKE YOU WHEN I'M OLDER!' (She has really taken to me and seems to want to be exactly like me 😂) Very enthusiastically, very much not understanding what was going on. I dont know who told her, so I dont know how much she knows, she has fairly good understanding of life, so if it where me coming out to her, I would be comfortable that she would understand and I could make sure she was okay and not curious or worried about anything, but now I dont know, and she is saying things that imply she doesnt know what shes talking about and now I dont know quite what to do. It doesnt effect me what happens but I dont want her having misconceptions.

i got outed in front of 20 strangers while getting a blood draw a few months ago. i gave the front desk a heads up not to use my birth name when calling me back, and told them what my name will be changed to later, but they called me back by my FULL birth name. and didnt change what they were saying when i initially didnt respond to my birth name. i have a very feminine name so it was awful because people did look when the dude using a walker(im physically disabled.) stood up & shuffled over for a very feminine girls name after having been called up to the counter for paperwork by just my last name earlier. & in the back the woman fought with me and my mom and insisted it was company policy.

@eli-710

6 жыл бұрын

i actually called and complained and i think i got her some sensitivity training bc i was able to speak to people at the corporate office. took way too long though considering if my mom hadnt been there to drive me away i would have been left waiting for a ride after being outed to 20 strangers who now i have no clue if they might be thinking about hurting me due to this information. i live in a conservative state in the USA. outing to that many strangers, they were just lucky by doing that they didnt put me in grave danger.

I help admin an LGBT+ account on Instagram and some guy from my school that dislikes me found out that I'm trans because he somehow found the account and he told the guy I like. See he's VERY openly gay, like he'll paint rainbows on his face and tell pretty much anyone he meets that he's gay. I'm still in the closet, though. Fun times.

@firebreathingchickenduck4936

6 жыл бұрын

Emerson P. Thats shit

@Departure-yz7ok

3 жыл бұрын

So.... Did you get together 😂

A colleague at work came to me and said he had a funny story, so i though okay thats nice tell me. Then he said "yeah someone came up to me and asked if you're trans FtM. And I was like no she is not she is just a tomboy." And he was laughing the whole time. The he asked me if i was trans or not. I just told him i'm not coz he though it was so funny that someone actually though i am trans. I havent told anyone at word that i rather be a guy, then who i am today. And they all call me by my birthname. To be clear, i (think i) am trans, but i haved told anyone except my parents and they would say i'm just a lesbian who is like a tomboy. I'm so f*cking confused most of the time.

@CooroApplez

6 жыл бұрын

Iris van Straalen one of the biggest ways to tell is if you have the want or urge to be trans. If you want to be ftm then you probably are ;) or maybe you're somewhere in the middle! You can be both male AND female (nonbinary/genderfluid). Its all about who you feel you are and what you want to be.

@YourIriz

6 жыл бұрын

CooroApplez well i hate it when im called by my birthname or if i get called a girl. But because of the long process and costs to transition and because im afraid what my family will think im not sure. :p i know its creazy and maybe stupid and i think i should talk to a therapist of some sort, but i hate talking about me or my feeling. I rather stay in the background and dont bother anyone

@CooroApplez

6 жыл бұрын

Iris van Straalen one great thing is that you don't have to transition!!! Or even find cheaper things to help aid you in stead of full-blown surgeries. Stuff like a chest binder, or a packer can do wonders! The most important thing is to be true to yourself! Best of luck!!

It happened in my AS maths class the other day except I go to boarding college so I'm a bit stuck in it now and it's going round college. (I'm nonbinary not trans so there's also the stigma of 'there are only two genders' on my back now)

I JUST SAW YOU ON THE ECONOMISTS SNAP STORY. IM SO HAPPY!

My best friend tried to subtly out me once after a teacher mistook him for me. I wasn't even mad about it though, it was placed into a joke he was making, and I'm pretty sure people think I'm trans anyways. Either way, I'm not even mad about it

I've been outed a couple times by friends or family members to other friends and family members even strangers. I'm still pretty hidden about it since I don't look masculine. I have a couple friends that use female pronouns on me even though they know and I've told them what pronouns to use and they'll confuse other people because one is saying he and other is saying she. So than I have to confront someone about it when I'm not ready to tell them. It's so messed and complicated

My mom outed me to a few of her friends, only reason I knew when they saw me and gave me hugs and said we love you and good for you. Funny thing I wasn't upset if anything it cracked me up afterwards when my mom would say oh yea forgot to tell you I told a few friends 😂

ah, the wonderfully awful chat I had with my French teacher who then told the school and my dad I'm trans because I almost gave a kid a blackeye because he called me a freak, never trusted or liked that teacher after that for like 2 years but she's working with the german trip so I have to get along with her, so I came home and my dad was like "we got a phone call from the school..." I'm scared shitless its about self harm then he says everything and I ball my eyes out and explain but I thought I was going to die or get kicked out, then my dad forced me to go round me mums that I hadn't seen in maybe 6 months at this point and made me come out to her then I didn't talk to her for another 6 months but now everything is good ive been out for 2 years, got told I'm getting a refural soon and I have a relationship with my mum and brothers again after about a year of not seening them. being outed feels like its the end but I promise its not!

Omg love you!!

roughly a year ago my one ex(who was trans as well) decided to out me to one of my favourite teachers after I vented about being anxious about doing so myself. I was so gutted as I really wanted to have that experience on my terms. They and my other ex(also trans) did this a lot with not only me being trans but with some of my mental conditions, I am so glad they're no longer a part of my life.

My mum outed me to my dad, older brother, school teachers and several of her friends. I'm still frosty with her a year on.

My mom outed me to her friends . I haven't come out to anyone yet besides her so for her to spread the whole thing about me wanting to go on T and change my name is kinda scary . They asked so many questions all at once it was so pressuring I hated it

i love you so much you're adorable and very handsome and you give me hope -a trans boy

just went to a parent teacher conference and my wonderful teacher used my name and everything, except in front of my parents. I feel like im going to have a panic attack and just need to say this to calm down

So I was outed by my "friend's" mom and a random girl in my class. My "friends" mom has been obsessed with studying me and trying to figure everything out,i mistakenly wrote David on a test instead of my dead name and she ended up telling everyone I was friends with at the time. I'm not really friends with the girl anymore but her mother's obsessive behavior still happens. The random girl in the class was abit more chaotic and negative. So my friends openly call me David and their "son" and their "brother" I love it because it makes me feel like I'm apart of a family that sees me as me. But someone in my class overheard them call me David and they confronted me with it so I told them that "I'm trans." {I'm at a Christian all girl school that had one trans student that left because they were medically transitioning.} and they seemed okay with it, asked if they said they should call me David. And I was like sure. And then, when ever someone near them called my dead name she corrected them, I understand she was trying to be helpful but holy shit did it back fire. So now I don't know who knows, people will occasionally say my name in a very patronizing way and it's not fun but hey I love my school for the fact no one pushed me into a locker because we aren't willing to be expelled over LGBTQ stuff.

I love you 💙💙💙

I moved to a new school a couple years ago and I told my one new friend that I was trans and she told all of our other friends and it was a really shitty thing to do. A lot of people just talked about when they talked about me. I never know who knows. People just assume that after I tell them they can just talk about it freely when talking about trans people.

i don't know how to tell people that I am trans

the other day i came out to my best friend, who is friends with this girl who hates me for no apparent reason. so of course my best friend told her friend, and then her friend started being "helpful" by yelling "CHARLOTTE'S TRANS WHAT SHOULD HER- I MEAN HIIIIIIISSSSSSSSSSSSS NEW NAME BE???????" in the middle of math class. fun.

A close friend of mine was told by his parents he's no longer allowed to text / talk to me bc they somehow found out I was nb. I wasn't even out to my friend tho bc I knew he was transphobic but now he feels super bad I was somehow outed to his parents. He's super sweet and I don't think he sees me any differently now that he knows. I'm extremely worried as to how his parents found out and if mine will too. I have no idea what my parents will do if they find out as they are veryyy transphobic and unaccepting .

I almost subtley outed myself to a few friends, we were talking about kids and I kept saying "yeah I'm not gonna have kids", to which one friend kept saying "you're definitely gonna have kids" "No no, I mean I'm definitely not having biological kids." "You're gonna have kids." I didn't have the courage to explain why he was incorrect so we just abandoned that conversation.

Help me. I told my friend, and her mom has ended up finding out. I know she's going to tell my parents. Now, how do I explain that I have no idea what's going on with my gender.

So in an email I sent to my orchestra teacher, I told her my preferred name and pronouns. I forgot to say, if you contacty parents, us my dead name/old pronouns. Of course, I thought she'd just email me back instead of calling my Mom and using my preferred name to my parents, whom I have came out once to and it went horribly. And a couple minutes ago, my dad was filling out a form for me and when he got to my first name he said aloud "*dead name*, NOT MICHAEL." but he said it in a whisper and ever since I've just been feeling like I'm dying inside and I'll never be accepted by my parents

Kat Beckhard decided to publicly out my fiancé on Facebook days after his horribly tragic death. Kat claimed to be his girlfriend and had to be publicly corrected that he was happily engaged and asked to take the post outing him down. I am left heartbroken that my soulmate is gone and that this horrible individual did this when it was his decision to make when he was ready after completing his transition and feeling comfortable. I don’t know who to turn to, I don’t know what to do I’m just mad and broken. I don’t want anyone else in the LGBTQ community to have to go through this and everyone needs to know that Kat Beckhard is an enemy.

Hey Jamie how much did it cost you altogether going private? What exactually did u do privately?

I would subscribe every video if I could Darling, but KZread only allows me to subscribe to you once. ;) In all seriousness though, as a super socially awkward person I can never decide if it's better for me to just be like "Hi! I'm trans with he/him pronouns. Great weather we're having today," or not even bother at all and let them only see me as male. Thankfully I have a great friend who I also work with who will sometimes step in and tell people if I'm too nervous and they ought to know (but only when I ask her). At this point it almost seems to be a lie if I don't tell people I see regularly. It's fantastic that more people see me as male these days, but I am not cisgender and just "male" is only a small piece of my identity.

I seem to pass almost everytime now, pre t, but this one girl i thought was my friend keeps outing me to others as trans. Even tho i told her a lot of times she can't do this and that people could kill me for being trans...

My kind of forced me to say im trans, and she still doesnt really accept it

I am 13 and i came out to my parents a 2 friends on Dec. 11. 2017 and im afraid that my other friends will out me and stop talking to me. Same with the whole school because im the only ftm that plays football if anyone has advice pls tell me.

I just saw in a snapchat story about transgender people Jamie!

You remind me so much of Ralph Little, do you get that a lot?

I’ve had several close calls to being outed

I came out to a few friends at my high school my freshman year, all friends I wansnt particularly close to because I didn't want to jeopardize important friendships too soon. But because of this one of my friends heard I hadn't come out to one person in particular, and decided to take it upon herself to spill the tea. It was a disaster, she thought I didnt trust her enough, thought I didnt care enough to tell her, thought I didnt want to be her friend anymore, our relationship was nearly destroyed because I wasn't the one who got to tell her, a very important person to me, that i had gender dysphoria. About a month later she disappeared. I didnt know why, but after a while of anxious wondering she contacted me saying she had tried to kill herself. The amount of guilt I felt because of this was tremendous. I now know it wasn't my fault, that her depression is not my fault, but it took me a long time to get to that point. It's so important to allow trans people to come out at their own pace. If they come out to you that is a gesture of absolute trust, please dont break it

@pierceschuyler1517

5 жыл бұрын

Jennie H. That’s sad. I wish that didn’t happen and that nothing like that would happen to me.

@eren2709

2 жыл бұрын

Jennie, that’s horrible. I really hope you and your friend are okay now.

My best outed me to almost everyone we knew, now people know. And I'm okay with it

This girl that happened to know my sister outed me to my sister, who went out to out me to my parents, who then went on to out me to the whole extended family. I don't talk to them anymore. Then a few other people have outed me to people, and idk why they did

Being 29 and have only been transitioning for a year...I’m literally outed whenever I talk to people I haven’t seen in a while at work etc.

school outed meh :I

My friend outed me to two of are friends until I outed me to are professor yesterday :)

My sister was one of the first people I told, I wasn't even sure I was trans, I just asked what she would think if I was, and she started telling people, then the next day she told me I had better tell my mum before she found out through someone else, so that's how I came out... I had only told like maybe 2 people before that, one being the NB person who told me about what trans was, and the other being a trans person who I worked with... I had barely even started questioning, and she told so many people... So that's the story of how I was forced to come out because I trusted my sister Fun little addition, I was living with my sister both when this happened and later on when I started HRT... She kicked me out because I became 'too much to handle'... A lot more has happened since then, but I no longer trust her at all

YAY!

I outed myself :) and will continue to do so until people get it through there thick skulls :)

Hi, I'm curious. When you transitioned, did you have a problem with clothes not fitting anymore? I find it scary having expensive or favorable pieces suddenly becoming too small because of transitioning to male. 😬

@FabulousCthulhu

6 жыл бұрын

Alpha And Omegaz So depending if you're a trans woman or trans man, hrt can be very different. For a trans guy, the body fat is distributed in a more masculine way, as well as body hair growth. Trans women have the fat go to hips, face, and chest, giving a more feminine body. They also have thinner body/facial hair as time goes on. edit: (it depends on what you wear. some clothing may become looser, some tighter

A little story for yall: When I was younger and in school, I was only out to a few people and one of them had ADHD I think. So in the middle of a RE lesson, the topic of transgender people came up and she turned to me and said, while the rest of the class was deathly silent, “hey you’re trans aren’t you?”

I'm ftm how on earth do I tell my transphobic mom that?!?

@lunaplaysgames9824

3 жыл бұрын

text her and then lock yourself in your room until she calms down (if she gets angry like that)

@jaytoplay0

3 жыл бұрын

@@lunaplaysgames9824 I've told her... And she was just like "ok"

I have been outed twice one time in my english class when we were working on a personal essay and the person next to me went and practically shouted that i was trans. No clue how they knew and then my friend at the time also went to the school counciler and told them i was trans made everything a million times worse. I have been outed more times but they were by accident such as using he/him pronouns to people who diddent know.

That story about that guy at uni outing you is effed up! He should bloody well have known better!

I find it a bad idea to tell random people because, at least for me, it will cause me to in some way start thinking of them as their AGAB. Of course I wouldn't have actively expressed transphobia to anyone, but it and subconsciously thinking of them as a gender they are not leads to slip ups and misgenderings. Then when I realized I was trans myself and found this inner part of me called my identity, that helped me think of others as their preferred gender as well. Plus now I really know how much it sucks to be misgendered. I just want to avoid people subconsciously thinking of me as my AGAB even if they are trying not to, so for their sake it is better not to tell them.