I was so surprised with this show! It was so emotional, powerful and haunting to watch. What did you think of it? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

@anneh.8928

2 ай бұрын

Same, was just browsing netflix last night and found this aeries by chance. Started watching with no expectations and it was just so good I couldn't stop watching. It's so raw and all the characters are so rounded up, real. There were a few instances where I'd think (as it happens when watching a movie) - why didn't you explain more to the police, if you were dating a therapist why didn't she think to send you to see a specialist etc.. it was cool that the narrator addressed a part of those questions - why he did not do the most obviously rational thing. I also sort of ended up feeling a tad bit sorry for Martha, but then she'd get irrationally mad. Put on the subtitles to read her emails easier. Really cracked up at those really mad email that would be signed off with "from iphone"/ "ihphone"

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah it's a hidden gem for sure. I totally get what you mean. I saw an interview with Richard Gadd and he said how it was created to not go all in one one side and push certain viewpoints or agendas. So I suppose they wanted us to see her as a human as well who had her own issues that she had to deal with and impacted her life in a certain way

@freebee8221

2 ай бұрын

I dunno. It had sooooo many plotholes and stuff that didn't make sense. The idea was okay but the writing needs alot of work.

@necrosadotor

2 ай бұрын

great, just finished it

@vraduggon9481

2 ай бұрын

One of those shows that I don't hesitate for one second to start watching!

"would you see me as less of a man.... i grew up in the catholic church" had me SOBBING

@nemonobody88

2 ай бұрын

That part got me too...

@lovecrycrystal

2 ай бұрын

can you please explain more here? Thank you

@lauramay5361

2 ай бұрын

​@@lovecrycrystal Unfortunately the Catholic church has a long history of abusing children. Especially boys at church, Sunday school, many orphanages were run by the Catholic church.

@havoc____

2 ай бұрын

yeah please explain what it means

@ayman5230

2 ай бұрын

@@havoc____ His dad went through the same thing his son gone through

Just finished the show. Thought it was fantastic. I’m not sure that it really has a message or a moral. It was really about the psychological effects of abuse. There were several moments where I questioned Donny’s decision making but after the flashback episode it began to make more sense why he would act the way he would. At first it seemed like he just had a total lack of assertiveness and wanted to avoid confrontation with Martha due to sympathy. It got to the point where his agreeableness was frustrating. but by the end it was clear that there was more to it. Donny got something out of Martha’s admiration for him and the root cause was the abuse he suffered. Learning at the end that Martha was abused as a child and that she kept a reindeer toy for comfort made me see the story in a completely different way. Yes, she was a stalker but she was abused herself. She got comfort from Donny and the root cause of her obsession with him was ultimately her abuse. As I said I don’t think there is an intended moral. Donny wasn’t a flawless protagonist and Martha wasn’t a comic book villain. No other show which I have seen has shown the complexities involved with sexual abuse, grooming and stalking in such a unapologetic and often disturbing way. The performances were great too. Anyways I don’t think I’ve ever written such a long comment so I’ll shut up now

@TyRcook

2 ай бұрын

Your thoughts were in a nutshell ❤

@lovineveryminuetofit1314

2 ай бұрын

Of course you would find all this sick crap fascinating

@Jane_Doe_8909

2 ай бұрын

Wait, I didn't catch that Martha had been a victim herself. When does it appear?

@craigstout9999

2 ай бұрын

@@Jane_Doe_8909 it was in the last episode when she was taking in the voicemail about how she was neglected as a child but kept a stuffed baby reindeer for comfort.

@Adalgisaction

2 ай бұрын

Well written comment

i think that the meaning of the end is that donny realizes that he did nothing wrong ; he was just being nice like the bartender at the end, just what nice, normal people do. i think he's realizing that at the end, the whole stalking situation is not his fault. he was just being nice.

@nataliaalfonso2662

2 ай бұрын

No. I think at the end he realizes he himself is as pitiful a sight as Martha was when he first saw her.

@SR.2945

2 ай бұрын

Or maybe both

@lalunadapinschi8788

2 ай бұрын

I also think both - but i would like to believe in the first comment​@@SR.2945

@Star-re5nn

2 ай бұрын

Or he might possible start behaving like Martha..

@Emma-vk9ts

2 ай бұрын

I think it's something different. At the end he finds himself exactly like Martha when he first met her : crying and the bartender offers him to pay. He then suddenly understand, now that he knows more about Martha's own trauma HOW his kindness touched her so much, how she might have developed this obsession. He saw himself in her shoes. It's like *anyone* in a difficult time would be delighted to be offered a drink at a bar, and remember that person for some time, but imagine what it could turn into for a really traumatized, trouble, lonely, fragile and unstable individual ? Martha was probably never shown healthy love or love at all so she thought his gesture was what love was about! Edit : she is also obviously struggling with erotomania, look into it it's a paranoid delusional disorder.

There is a lot of truth in having such low self-esteem that you let the wrong people in your life. You are attracted to the flattering you receive, even a tiny bit but abuse you 99% of the time. You hold on to the 1% as that means the world to you. It is terrifyingly raw and real acting. The human mental health is real.

@REvoLverj98

Ай бұрын

Really reminds me of a story I heard of a father asking a convict for advice about how to raise his daughter. "Tell her you love her, because if you don't, someone else will, and she'll believe the lie."

@marielle3929

Ай бұрын

😢

Imagine acting out the sexual abuse you personally experienced. Wow I cant imagine reliving your own horrible trauma even if its pretend. I know he did this as a one man show at the fringe and then in london but here it muust have been much more difficult. He did a great job with this tv show.

@Neddoest

Ай бұрын

I have such a hard time imagining what in the world that stage show was like…

@lolsaXx

Ай бұрын

@@Neddoest I think it was a one man show and he actually played some of the real voicemails.

“Some people run away by packing their bags and leaving and others by staying in the same place” this show made me reflect on my own life and traumas and it made me realize that everyone has once had/or have a Martha in their life whether it be a person or thing or job sometimes we pursue something all while knowing of the destruction it’s capable of. This made me feel and remember that pain demands to be felt or else you’ll always end up in situations like these whether it be literal or not 😊

@Dave_of_Mordor

Ай бұрын

not everyone have a martha in their life. in fact most people are responsible for creating people like Martha, then gaslight and place all the blame on people like her

No clue how the creator had the strength to go through this again by taking on the main role. But I appreciate seeing this story and him sharing everything.

@UrsulaZA

Ай бұрын

IMO it wouldn’t hit home as hard, if it weren’t “acted” out by him.

@nathy0308

Ай бұрын

I don't think he could have even allowed it. The story is so personal. He's lived and relived, told and retold it so many times. It would feel wrong to have someone else act it out and perhaps miss the nuance, the raw, direct experience of it. I would have wanted to act it myself if it had happened to me.

He hated himself more than he could love Terri.... that’s literally the most relatable thing and sums up me and why I can’t keep a relationship or friendship because everything that goes alone with me hating myself takes priority like sorry I’m busy in a shame/depression spiral I can’t come to the phone right now.

@ibreathmusic1000

2 ай бұрын

I know. That scene hit me like a brick. Hating myself is ruining every aspect of my life. To the point where I can barely keep friends, family, partners or even a steady job 😢

@REvoLverj98

Ай бұрын

Exercise helped immensely with this. I dunno why, but going outside for half hour walks just affects your moods dramatically. Hating yourself shouldn't be your normal, no matter how terrifying the idea of breaking the habit may be. I have faith that both of you can overcome this, however slowly, just as I am.

@PeasantArtorias

Ай бұрын

I honestly never cried harder than when he said "I loved hating myself more than I loved her. And I love her so f*cking much" Brought some deep memories back and made me confront shit myself and if thatbwas the aim of the show then congrats!

@GuyunZhongli-ow4ti

10 күн бұрын

hearing that makes so much sense why i felt lonely most of the time, in so busy hating myself i have no spoons nor space for love to flow in and yet idk if i can even offer myself the same sympathy the same way i can reach out to other people

@amirawazwaz7122

10 күн бұрын

@@ibreathmusic1000 literally same girl you’re not alone trust

The craziest part of this show is that Donny is the real person this happened to. I saw an interview where he said Martha sent 41K emails, over 600 voicemails, hundreds of FB messages. This was such a unique story, both entertaining and tragic. I think it also touches on taboo topics for men and the helplessness men face when dealing with police. Also, beautiful Nava Mau as leading lady! Great movie!

I just binge watched Baby Reindeer and the series is going to help me process my personal traumas better. I can feel it. I have never felt so understood or been able to make this much sense of myself by watching something. And knowing that there are so many people that will gain as much as I did, and feel like they can relate like I can, makes me feel less alone. I am very grateful.

@buttnugget6236

2 ай бұрын

Stop it. I'm sorry you had personal trauma but finding refuge in this shit of a show is very crazy. If you find Hollywood therapeutic in any way, you need to be worried about your mental health.

@ames876ir

2 ай бұрын

​​@@buttnugget6236​​ ​​​Aren't you a smart one!?😂 What part of this being a true story evaded you?🤔 Hollywood tends not to be based on fact, much less despict the lived experience of the lead! The dunce hat for this comment section goes to you!😁😂🎉

@Chiara_Elena

2 ай бұрын

​@@buttnugget6236No, you need to stop. Quit being rude and maybe learn some manners. Being anonymous on the internet does not excuse every unfriendly comment.

@Chiara_Elena

2 ай бұрын

I'm as glad the show made you feel understood as I'm sorry you find it relatable. I hope you are okay now.

@jackchop1576

2 ай бұрын

You look like Martha.

This guy deserves a BAFTA, A Golden Globe and an Oscar for his amazing acting!! Just perfect And Jessica reminded me of Kathy Bates in Misery LMFAO

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah it was an incredible show! So well written and so delicately performed

@Marie0575

2 ай бұрын

Yess!!

@tsekui

Ай бұрын

Omg I couldn’t put my finger on it that’s exactly it lol

@JoeKaye959

Ай бұрын

Oscar is for films

Just finished it. It does leave you to draw many of your own conclusions.... As I watched him being bruised and battered by Martha I kept wondering why he didn't quit his job and get away from her. As I was thinking about that, I realized that I have a similarly abusive person in my life whom I don't cut off.... Because I see she's not okay. Ultimately this movie shows how complicated we all are, how many secrets we live with, how many effed up people we encounter along the way (and sometimes cling on to).. And generally just how we're all survivors of some sort. His story is one of 6 billion! Each one different, each one hard.

@HashCorp_

2 ай бұрын

They do address the fact that He doesn't want to have to quit or change his number "because that would mean that Martha wins".

@LSU_aspilltiger

2 ай бұрын

Very well said

i dont have words to describe how fucking good this show was , the lead actors role especially and to find out that it was based on his real experiences , it took me on a journey through my own traumas and how confusing it all can be , cried so much through it but its hauntingly real and one of if not the best show ive ever watched

@lindalangart

2 ай бұрын

Same

For me the most heartbreaking scene was, when he went back to his abuser after such a long time and he fell into his old pattern again. I kind of understand why people often go back to their abusers, but I also wonder why. Can someone explain the psychology behind that?

@ED80s

Ай бұрын

This confused me too. I thought he was going there to face his abuser and tell him how he messed him up and possibly report the rape but when he agreed to work with him I was confused. Does he crave compliments and attention in any form or does he crave the fame to hide his insecurities like he mentioned during his breakdown on stage?

@StrawberryCakeStudiosYT

Ай бұрын

@@ED80s I think it’s attention and the positive reinforcement his abuser gave him. I think that’s why he agreed to it. It can be really hard to adjust to a life with little to no positive reinforcement (verbally), hence his low points. In a way, at the end, I was just too shocked at it all. My personal happy ending for Donny is that he never goes back to his abuser after agreeing and he goes to therapy, slowly getting more gigs. Not famous per se, but some notoriety. Id like to think he’d learn his patterns and get back together with Keely or Teri.

@filmbuff-dh9kb

Ай бұрын

It disturbed me…. I think he wanted to face his abuser, and I wanted him to confront him…when he didn’t and went along with his complete dismissal, and then agreed to work with him again, I got very sad for him

@StrawberryCakeStudiosYT

Ай бұрын

@@filmbuff-dh9kb same, I was so angry and in shock and sad but I understood why.

@jotahoe5017

Ай бұрын

Because even though the situation is abusive, it brings comfort and familiarity, its the same when people cant leave their abusive partners, because its familiar, and when something is familiar to us is brings us comfort, even when we know its not good for us, some people can realise that right away, while others are so afraid of change and "having to start it all over" that its just easier to return to that familiar situation

Richard Gadd should be nominated and perhaps win in BAFTA , SAG, , Golden Globes and Emmy…. Even Jessica can win too. I cried a lot. Episode 4 was haunting. Episode 6 was just heart wrenching. Richard Gunn indeed gave one of the best performances in a tv series and superb writing too. Netflix delivers with this one

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah they were both great! I hope they do!

@rexglucksburg

Ай бұрын

Oh definitely i can see both of them winning emmy and bafta for limited series. Their acting was fenonmeal

this show was amazing i hope richard finds peace the fact he went through this and to also act it like wow

@amandaclbn8324

2 ай бұрын

Waittt, the story is based on the lead actors life??? That gives so much more depth to it omg

@needabreak313

2 ай бұрын

@@amandaclbn8324 yess the actor "richard gadd" has been vocal about how it was about his twenties it makes the show more chilling

@amandaclbn8324

2 ай бұрын

@Darkskinfairy I knew it was based on a true story, just didn’t know it was the life of the lead actor

I agree with every word. As a horror fan, I was certain this would be a True Crime-y depiction of a stalking. I certainly did not expect it to be such a deep dive into the psychological ordeal that the narrator went through. When he clicked the button to accept Martha's friend request, I was almost screaming at the TV. But he explained it all so clearly and so painfully. This show is a masterpiece.

Terrific acting. This movie was indeed haunting but you can't stop watching.

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah it had me hooked!

@Noa......

2 ай бұрын

Limited tv series.

@christophersteele2531

2 ай бұрын

@@Noa...... Indeed. My mistake calling it a movie.

This show was super confronting yet validating. As a man that faced a stalking scenario with my ex who was using blackmail to keep me in her life and to force me sexually I felt like I was just “letting it happen”. Donny’s reactions and traumas really mirrored my own. It’s rare to come by a piece of media that centres around a male victim, let alone takes it seriously enough, so this really helped me understand my own feelings and confusions + why I had them in the first place. Major respect to Richard for getting this out there.

@mungoblizzard6114

Ай бұрын

Brooo 🥲 I feel you man except the ‘Martha’ in my life is a co-worker …

I feel sorry for Donny. He isn't strong enough. He went to the abuser's home over and over again , took dangerous drugs and let the rapist do whaever he wanted time after time. He should have been to psychotherapy so he would have dealt better with Martha. I would like to know how his "life" went on. Great acting. Sad story considering it is based on true events.

@jacobfranks4091

2 ай бұрын

the guy wrote this movie and acted in it so i am hoping this is a sort of therapy for him and hopefully martha

@cathyblazquez

2 ай бұрын

@@jacobfranks4091 Thank you for your answer. I do hope they're much better now. This movie ripped my soul .

@Zikomo7

Ай бұрын

With his abuser, it started out as fanboying, then became a need. He needed his would be abuser's backing to thrive in the industry. Even when he realized his abuser was taking more and more liberties, he thought it would be all worth it in the end. Until the assault got to be too much. I was angry when he said he stayed and even fed his cat, but his abuser was his idol, peer, and only friend. Just like how Martha was the only person who made him feel good about himself. He hates the people he's dependent on. I thought things would get better after the scene with his parents and I was horrified when he went back to his abuser. But it shows just how forgone he was

@oli.y

Ай бұрын

It's basically Harvey Weinstein commentary. All those actresses kept going back to him because they desired fame, awards and success.

I had NOOOOO idea it was based on HIS real life ! Damnnn 😮

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Mad isn't it!

I was absolutely blown away by the entire show from beginning to end. I will say, the last message we hear from Martha where she shares the reindeer story, absolutely devastated me. Just a stunningly beautiful show.

Something I loved was that the show explored how nothing is quite black and white, and nothing exists in a vacuum. Donny's inability to stop encouraging Martha didn't come from nothing, Martha's clinginess didn't come from nothing, Terri's inacceptance of Donny's sexual underperformance didn't come from nothing, Keeley's animosity didn't come from nothing... Obviously, that doesn't justify some of their behaviours (especially Martha's), but it's more than "protagonist good, antagonist bad".

@MJ-py7dm

Ай бұрын

This is very clever. I felt what you described but you put it together really well. We want to think that life is this binary, yes/no, right/left world but as you said nothing exists in a vaccuum.

Rlly gud show. Sent from iPhone

@oxycotine

2 ай бұрын

chill Martha

@Neddoest

Ай бұрын

Pretty sure it said “iphoen”

@strangeinvisible2012

Ай бұрын

Lol good one

@xCaRnRAGEx

12 күн бұрын

Sent from my iPhone * You must not have an iPhone 🍏

I took the ending with the Barman as Donny feeling what Martha felt when he gave her a free drink, and him realising what a huge impact such a kind gesture can have to somebody who is is at an all time low, or lonely or whatever. Almost helping him to understand why Martha attached herself to him the way that she did after he showed her such kindness that day.

How weird is it that most of the videos on this movie always wants to focus on 'Martha' or who she is in real life but not his rapist the writer/producer????

@itzorca3997

Ай бұрын

right? who is this guy he should be outed

As someone who works with serious mental health cases, his depiction of his mental struggle is insanely accruate and relatable. You can't fake understanding like this, he really went and goes through this. Abused people go back over and over again trying to repeat the memory "but this time it'll be different, it'll be different because I'll be the one in control," but they never are. It's a hole that gets digged deeper, a wound that you put fingers in. So few understand this and blame the victims for their borderline obsession, only those who've been through it will understand. The reason I work in mental health is because I was violently abused by my mother growing up. And of course, like buzzards to a corpse I've also attracted scary men in my life. Watching this broke me for a moment, I shattered and cried for an hour feeling so relieved to hear someone talk about abuse accurately for once. I felt so seen.

@annala2956

Ай бұрын

I didn't go through anything near this severe but there was an adult in my childhood who was just creepy with me, repeatedly, for several years. I think about him all the time and question what were his intentions? Why did I "fawn" and look for his approval? 40 years have passed and I don't remember a lot but some moments are burned into my brain and I want to confront him but will likely never see him again. Maybe that's for the best.

the way this show made me cry is unreal. It's so haunting but so real in so many ways, it's become one of my favorite shows now

While I agree that Martha’s presence by itself is menacing, I would say that this show is full of violence. The scenes with Darrien are incredibly violent, as are the scenes showing Donny during nameless hookups. Martha’s smashing of a glass into Donny’s head isn’t the only time she attacks someone severely enough to draw blood. It is 1000000 percent worth watching but be prepared for extreme violence in many forms.

@KarlSnarks

2 ай бұрын

Yeah considering only the brute force that draws blood as violence is not doing justice how deeply it is rooted in this show. It's the threat of Martha's inescapable presence and her actual threats, it's her grabbing his crotch, it's Darrien making Donny entirely dependent on him and r*p*ng him multiple times, it's Donny's self-torture in all its forms including him figuring out his trauma through sex and his obsession with Martha, and I'm probably still forgetting some things.

Flabbergasted and amazed by this gem! I didnt know this was like fleabag a one man show at fringe festival. THIS WAS TRULY AN EXPERIENCE TO WATCH- BEST IN YEARS!

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah it took me by surprise as well! Such a good show

This series has blown me away

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

It was so surprising wasn't it!

@buttnugget6236

2 ай бұрын

Surprisingly awful.

@Don_Hector

2 ай бұрын

⁠@@buttnugget6236your names buttnugget mate pipe down

I can't help wondering whether Gadd's abuser will ever face the consequences of his actions. I guess Gadd will not report those crimes to the police, but would others in the industry remember who he was? His girlfriend Keeley at the time knew whose home he was visiting, for example. I'm also unclear on which aspects of the show were fictionalized. *Did Donny really have sex with Martha, or was that just one of his masturbation fantasies? *Did he really return to the abuser's home, and really agree to work with him again?

@mariannepapadopoulos8758

Ай бұрын

*No, he didn't. The scene cuts to him having sex with Teri while fantasizing about Martha. *He was about to confront him but couldn't. He initially agreed to work with him but then had a panic attack and left.

@GuyunZhongli-ow4ti

10 күн бұрын

​@@mariannepapadopoulos8758wait so he didnt have sex with martha? i can never tell sometimes as he himself is an unreliable narrator

I was glued to the screen from start to finish. It was brilliant & very moving.

Anyone else felt sad and sorry for Martha? When the voicemail was played explaining why she called him baby reindeer? I’m not a crier but I could have easily shed a tear at that moment.

@motulifelikefigures1987

2 ай бұрын

Yeah started crying too at that very point. I felt for her, the actress did an amazing job showing both sides of her, the dangerous crazy one and the unwanted unloved wounded girl u feel sorry for.

@icomeinpeace3756

2 ай бұрын

The ending scene was amazing, Martha become humanized and just like Donny is now in the position of Martha in the beginning of the series. A broken lost person that has been so much shown an act of kindness. What will Donny do next?

@buttnugget6236

2 ай бұрын

No, she's pathetic. Enormously, big time, hugely, crazy.

@Gunna5067

2 ай бұрын

Of course, she certainly had problems.

@motulifelikefigures1987

2 ай бұрын

@@icomeinpeace3756 ...stalking his bartender! season 2 ;-) BABY RACCOON lol!

This show left me deeply disturbed. He started off as a victim, ended up as a victim, and returned to the victimizer.

@mooret212

Ай бұрын

Yeah I wanted him to confront his abuser but he showed it is not always easy. And I wonder if he had Stockholm syndrome if that is the correct term or just either slipping backwards or just didn't know how to respond. He will need much therapy and grace for himself.

I was completely amazed by this. In addition to how wonderful it was... I work with mentally challenged people and this depiction was so right on. You can enjoy them... like them, even be captivated by them... doesn't change their mental illness.

Amazing show which after it ending made me reflect on my past. Had something similar but no where near as dark and depraved as this show. I was 19 and in a rut. Lived in a small village where I couldn't get a job because I had no experience and most of all no girlfriend and constant pressure from family about why I'm not with anyone when I really badly wanted to be but I'm just so socially awkward it made it tough. My self esteem was so low because I felt my life going nowhere, I cut myself, luckily not deep enough to scar but honestly not sure why I did that to myself but I did. Then all of a sudden she showed up into my life from a party and I fell head over heels for her because no one had shown me such affection. I lost my virginity to her and loved her very much. However my family and friends didn't like her. I just ignored them. But in time she turned out to be a nasty piece of work. She started degrading me in all aspects. Started being horrible about my family, called me ugly and weak all the time. But I stayed because I so desperately didn't want to be alone. I thought it was normal because she told me it was normal. She started stealing money out of my wallet and said when we move in together that my bank card will be in her purse and she will control all the bills and money because I'm too stupid too. Even though she was in debt and I had nearly enough savings for a deposit on a mortgage but she said that was a waste of money and we should just rent. She just wanted to gamble my savings away. But after so long I couldn't take the horrible comments anymore and broke up with her. That's when she became really nasty, but I just blocked her. One of the most uplifting feelings ever.... Sorry for the novel and if you made it this far thanks for reading.

@sophiek8019

2 ай бұрын

I read it all and I went through something similar. I'm still in debt but there was never any cruelty from the other side just more of using me because I let them.

@alistairsmith2901

2 ай бұрын

@@sophiek8019 that's the problem with low self esteem, you let others walk all over you because you don't want to be alone. Luckily she never got to my bank account. She would constantly demand money and get angry when I refused. Because I worked hard and saved up to have the mortgage I have today. She got fired from a shop because she was stealing scratch cards and using the winnings to buy more scratch cards until there was nothing left.

@Chiara_Elena

2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for you. Glad you could make it out of that situation ❤

@alistairsmith2901

2 ай бұрын

@@Chiara_Elena thank you, in a much better place. Unfortunately takes bad relationships to recognise a good one.

@alistairsmith2901

2 ай бұрын

@@sophiek8019 thank you, low self esteem is the worst. You just let people walk all over you. I hope you're in a better place

this was a gut-wrenching watch. I couldn't help but think of P Diddy during the Darrian scenes.

I've been eagerly anticipating your review, and as expected, it was brilliant as always. "Baby Reindeer" was truly amazing, and I enjoyed it immensely. In fact, I'm so enthralled by it that I plan to rewatch it just to ensure I didn't miss any subtle nuances.

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed the video! I was debating whether to give this show a go and I'm so glad I did! It's just pure quality!

Great summary. I’ve never seen anything like this show. I thought the first episode was very strong. I didn’t realize we were in for the darkness ahead. It was truly touching and unexpected - showing the humanity in all of the characters despite some of their despicable behavior.

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah neither have I. It was so dark, felt so real and had such a sinister ending.

I hated that he wasn’t able to get Terri back

@TBT707

Ай бұрын

Me to, but i kinda didnt like her at the end mainly because even though terri wanted to understand martha. She shoildve been taking the tine to understand donny, she was therapist so it minda didnt make sense to me

It's really sad wen donny's father divulged dat he grew up in a catholic church!

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah that was a powerful moment in the show for sure. The hug that he received too!

@amandaclbn8324

2 ай бұрын

I was crying when Donny was talking on the edge of my seat hoping his didn’t have a shit reaction then his dad just released an absolute waterfall in me Such a powerful scene

@buttnugget6236

2 ай бұрын

Who uses 'dat' and "divulged" In the same thought? 😝 passing on your input.

@stefaniejanejones87

2 ай бұрын

Yep, it's known throughout the world. They call it 'historic child sexual abuse', That's the good old Catholic Church for you, and I can say wholeheartedly it's still going on and still being hidden as their wealth and political connections....they could do anything and not being held culpable.

@1Dark.Paradise.Lost1

2 ай бұрын

That was all he had to say to communicate his ordeal

Web. Donny said “I’m sorry” to Darien - that resonated hard.

Just finished watching this, WOW! I didn't expect that rollercoaster. I don't know how I feel about it all and it will stay on my mind for a long time. Brilliant acting by Richard Gadd.

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah he delivered in every aspect of this show!

thank you for this, truly. i thought i knew what i was getting into watching baby reindeer, but i had no idea just how healing and validating it would actually be. watching richard gadd recount the making of the series and saying that he hopes people who have been in similar situations feel less ashamed and more understood watching, i am so so thankful i can call myself one of those people. i don't know id I've ever seen such a brilliant portrayal of ptsd especially specifically revolving around sexual violence, but i really have never felt more seen and comforted. ive had the conversation with my mom about what happened to me after my father passed, but this genuinely made me feel so much better about not being able to have that conversation with him. i think the show gave me everything i really needed and wanted, which i had no idea it would.

This was an insane story ... I hate how Donny did not fight the rapist when seeing him again and he just happily accepted his opportunity but I like how it ended with him in thought and almost shocked when the barman said the drink is on him ..... I took it as a way to show how he ended up understanding Martha because like her he is now the hopeless loner in the bar and the barman is showing sympathy for him just like he did with Martha ........

@summerr0503

Ай бұрын

I think the ending just goes on to show the real extent of the damage caused by the abuse..its nice to think that one singular moment of self honesty at his own show turned his life around when it actually didn't. He was back to this destructive patterns, with Martha out of the way he went back to his abuser to get the attention he craved

This won best acting, best picture vbest cinematography, best director bar none. Whoever did the casting did the best job. This piece of brilliance deserves every accolade. Well done Mr Gaad and everyone involved.

This show was brilliant at portraying the complexities. So many movies, books, and shows usually portray a very black and white scenario. Where the victim keeps someone at arms length right from the start and does everything "right" and is still a victim. But the thing is, victims, although innocent and not at fault of the harm done to them, they're flawed human beings. That's what makes it so hard for victims to heal and move on, because they did this or that and keep thinking "if only I hadn't xyz." But survivors out there, it doesn't matter if you were a jerk one time, or a little rude one time, or even cruel, it doesn't give anyone the right or justification to ab*se you, harass you, etc etc.

I just finished it. I know I have a different story, but the scene after martha hit him to before he went on stage, really showed how he felt inside at that moment, and it was electrocuted me. WOW!! I have had that feeling once. It was like half your body from waist down was inside a big snake mouth, and you're fighting for your life to escape, but it didnt work. If anything, after fighting for years, you're just getting sucked into the snake bit by bit. The pain keep getting worse everyday, you're alive, but no escape. To the point that you're still trying to escape, tirely scrapping the dirt to hold on, with your mind is already set that it is over. Except it wont over, unless you're dead. Only I was too scared and have no strength left to end my life. So the snake wont let go, and I keep zombily scrapping for decades. I think that's the real definition of burried alive and wont dead. That feeling, really destroy you whole, unless..

@user-ie3jj6ym8x

2 ай бұрын

And the song is just perfect! You're breathing, but not alive coz it's only pain after pain. But you think you're alive. So the joke really was on me. I am exhaly happy with that specific scene. It takes me to many shivering flashbacks, which are so precious to me. Thank you! ❤️

Only complain I have- if you can call it that- is: it annoyed me that the ending included him going to the guy's apartment, casually chatting and catching up then saying he'll accept a job from him, then leaving. It's like, have you learned nothing???

sooo good and had a similar effect to Michaela coel's I may destroy you. so raw and relatable in all its heaviness.

Was not expecting this level of intensity. Thought it was a comedy. Then it got intense. Then it got more intense. Then complicated if it wasn’t already. Great show.

This was absolutely brilliant to watch !

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah it was amazing!

It’s an eye opening example of trauma bonding. Simply that. And how it’s so difficult to eliminate the addiction of the emotional attention. He even fell for the career offer his abuser offered again. He broke down because he knew he was trapped in the trauma bond and how toxic it was

This is one of the best things i’ve ever watched.. but so disturbing and my heart breaks for Richard Gadd.. how he went through all this but still got on stage to follow his dream.. ep4 was so hard to watch but when he’s on the stage in ep6 that broke me 😭 and then the voicemail at the very end 😭😭 i wanted to give him the biggest hug, and also hug martha in that moment too. the world really can break you. Richard Gadd you are an amazing human for starring in your own story. there are just no awards big enough 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

i hope this show finds audience and become huge like beef last year. fantastic all around.

Brilliant show... Scary and amusing at the same time.. Deeply psychological..I finished it in one sitting ❤

@blankname6629

2 ай бұрын

Amusing?

Loved cried and binged on this, amazing!

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah it was an amazing series wasn't it!

So much hurt and pain in his eyes. The last two episodes of Baby Reindeer broke me. I cried. And when I thought it was done, there’d be a single random tear running. ❤️‍🩹 So much respect and love for this man. ❤️

I just started watching it this morning I'm already almost done 😂 its good and scary this was also a very good video good explaining the details

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

It's such a creepy show isn't it! Mad to think that this happened as well. Thanks, glad you enjoyed the video!

@FuryAztec

2 ай бұрын

@@BrainPilot thanks subbed as well I like watching these videos you should also expand your videos a little longer if you can but it's was still good video very entertaining

Brilliant Show. I have dealt with a stalker. Not to the level he has. However, I have been an abusive relationship. Suffered trauma and damn near lost my life to my ex. There really needs to be more shows that cover men who go through stalking, and abusive behavior. We do, it goes unreported TOO often.

I loved this show so much and great review

The scene that shocked me the most would be Danny going back to Darrien's and him saying he was proud of his viral video and Danny saying thankyou....even after all this trauma and all this damage he still seeks the praises of his abuser, now with Martha in police custody and out the picture his only resort is his abuser... Just hit home how complicated things like abuse and trauma are, the issues can't be solved with one singular moment of honesty that Danny showed in his video, his issues to wayyy deeper than that

@Alex-km6yy

Ай бұрын

You understand it. Thank you

@NoceurXeno

Ай бұрын

I also thought it was strange that he went back to the guy that took advantaged of him and raped him. But forgot to realize that he hasn't recovered from his trauma. He also has these self-destructive, irrational tendencies so him going to the other abuser seemed like his way of coping. Ironically he was obsessed with martha the way he used her complementary voicemail to cheer him up. It really shows when the wrong people come into your life when you are low because they can take advantage of you - kind of like stockholm syndrome.

Fantastic, still on my mind the nextday whar a classic

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah it was incredible!

It's incredibly admirable how Richard Gadd bravely shared his personal experiences, even those that might make him vulnerable to prejudice. His courage in opening up not only helps him in his healing journey but also extends a supportive hand to others who may be going through similar struggles.

Bingewatched this on Netflix last night. So good. So many shows fail to keep me interested, but this one smashed it through the park!

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah this one was so gripping!

This is the best thing I have seen in many years.

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah it just felt so real!

I loved this show! Great acting & thought provoking. Agree with your thoughts and comments completely.

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Glad you agree! It was so emotional wasn't it!

It's brilliant...sad but brilliant!!

It’s an incredible, complex and moving show. I watched it twice straight through. It spoke to me as a victim of abuse. It made me cry but not really in a bad way, but I really felt what Donny was going through. Richard Gadd is a brave and brilliant man.

Deserves all the awards it's gonna get !

This needs to be nationally and internationally recognised......though i imagine some may baulk at the subject matter.

Powerfull stuff. Not for everyone.

@beccf.s.8012

Ай бұрын

100% in Rotten Tomatoes says otherwise

@auldscouse

Ай бұрын

@@beccf.s.8012 Victims of rape may say otherwise la.

@beccf.s.8012

Ай бұрын

@@auldscouse I’m sure most of the male victims feel seen and as the topic is finally opened for real discussion. There are so many men suffering in silence. Also so many male victims of s.a. from members of catholic churchs when they were young still need to have the encouragement to come out and speak their truth. This is a discussion that still important and needs forum and visibility. For someone who wants to be perceived as empathetic you didn’t even care to disguise the word and trigger victims at all. You seem to only want to complain.

@auldscouse

Ай бұрын

@@beccf.s.8012 I think you are projecting your own issues on to others, to make youself feel empowered. Deal with your own problems and let everybody else get on their own lives. It's not all about you.

@beccf.s.8012

Ай бұрын

@@auldscouse Nothing I said it’s about me. I am being empathetic to the victims you mentioned. You just want to argue. I just added that the numbers said otherwise. You spoke for the victims and I responded. Be well….

Great review. This was a very compelling series. You mentioned the red color scheme, but I also noticed what seemed to be intentional pops of yellow - his shirt in the flashback scene, the jacket he doesn't feel deserving to accept, and parts of his stand-up outfit. Do you think there's any meaning to that? I thought maybe yellow represented happiness that he couldn’t allow himself to let back into his life. Curious if anyone else had thoughts.

@StrawberryCakeStudiosYT

Ай бұрын

Okay so I checked google- The psychology of the color yellow tells us that the color has traditionally been a symbol of joyfulness, happiness, and energy and is associated with summer months. While on the other hand, it also symbolized caution and cowardice. I agree with you about your statement about the jacket, it felt like a moment of the mom trying to spread her joy (in her moment of grief) to him but he refused to. Then he kept it. The color of yellow meaning - These are kinda his traits that he’s exhibited throughout the show, I feel like it really set the tone.

This was an amazing, heart breaking watch. The last episode made me cry.

The acting.... memorable

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah they were all so good!

So disturbing but I could not look away or stop. I also did not know the actor himself had gone through this until the last or so episode….I cant imagine going through all that he went through.

This show broke me in every possible way. It is beyond brilliant. It’s depictions of how as humans, what we will endure to have our basic inner needs met. To feel worthy, purposeful, attractive, to have someone truly see us for who we are without judgment. Donnie endured so much trauma because he was so desperate to be seen. Ugh just utterly shattering to watch but so genius at the same time. I’ve never watched something so riveting.

Binged this in one afternoon. Really enjoyed this. Even though it was very hard to watch in some episodes. I found myself being uncomfortable and irritated with Martha's behavior yet also being sympathetic and frustrated with some of Donny's actions with her. This show was amazing. I could not stop watching. Lastly I wish I could get my hands around that groomers neck. However it really saddened me how he returned to the groomer at the end.

I think the ending is him realizing what he was looking for because he kept on going back to figure it out, and in that moment, he felt what she felt and understood.

amazing show....loved it!

Great video

@BrainPilot

29 күн бұрын

Thanks!

I think that at the ending he kind of understud why she started stalking him like he felt that kindness at rock bottom maybe what Martha felt (idk tho)

I didn't realise the actor was playing himself

This show was phenomenal, really great and i recommend it, very emotional so be prepared !

I loved this series. So brilliantly done.

@BrainPilot

2 ай бұрын

Yeah it was awesome!

Just finished it today and I’m at loss of words. I was sucked in and binged the show in one sitting. I empathized with the main hero as soon as he met Martha, this feeling of pity you have for some people that makes you ignore your own boundaries because you’re just afraid to hurt them. How easy it is to surrender yourself. I didn’t go through sexual abuse the way he did, but I have my own fair share of trauma and this show was so unapologetically raw and real.

I would like more people to know about this series, it is wonderful.

I found it difficult to enjoy at first...too real the fat lady loves the skinny man. But I realized what a monumental journey this would have been for anyone to endure. Then I found out it was based on real life with Richard gadd's life. BRILLLLLIANT beyond words, bud. Congrats on your success. $$$$

Once Martha explained the comfort of the Baby Reindeer at the end and how if followed her wherever she went, I feel he realized her stalking was intentional to turn him into her baby reindeer, which succeeded when he realized how he consumed her recordings which brought him comfort. Although others focus on the abuse of the two characters I feel Martha’s plot succeeded. He realized in that moment he was captured and put into bondage. The nice gesture of the drink helped him to realize being so sympathetic to others can be a good and bad thing. I think we all can take bits and pieces from this moment

This show really surprised and impressed me. I’d also like to know what stand up comedians think about the comedy aspect of the show.

I see people through this lense everyday. When people act a certain way I deeply sympathize and think of a horrid past they may or may not have because that is my story

I started to watch it and after the second series I gave up. I didn’t know it was based on a true story, also I heard on the morning show in Australia that it gets better, so I started to watch it from the beginning. I’m so glad I watched all of it, it’s so raw and compelling. Kudos to the two protagonist, they brought out so much intensity in this series. Brilliant movie incredible acting. I will watch it again.

¡Hola¡ Alguien podria explicrame el final con claridad por favor. Realmente estoy confundida, Martha fue abusada en su infancia ?

@pchurchill

2 ай бұрын

It is not clear but she clearly had a difficult childhood and he feels sorry for her.

@ladb9145

2 ай бұрын

Si

@benjaminpastrana9662

2 ай бұрын

Yo no escuché ese dato pero,si sus padres nunca dejaban de pelear y ella solo sentía el amor en el pequeño reno.

@benjaminpastrana9662

2 ай бұрын

I think he would become a stalker too (not in real like) but is what I understood when the bartender showed him kindness

Absolutely incredible show. Gritty, painful and utterly riveting. Loved it. Brilliant

@BrainPilot

Ай бұрын

Couldn't agree more!

Just finished watching it right now. Wow, I give it 5 stars 👍 I was afraid the ending would disappoint me, but it was actually great. I guess it ended exactly the way it began, he was just the person on the other side now. The part about his father’s childhood abuse totally took me by surprise, and made me cry instantly. I certainly didn’t see that coming, especially after watching his father go nuts on Martha on the phone the way he did… wasn’t that great?? I felt so bad for that “little reindeer” 😢 throughout the entire series, that I had to watch an interview with Richard Gadd, just to make sure he was ok and happy now.

The thing about reliving the trauma through sexual desire hit like a truck. I only realized as of last month the depths of the pain I was feeling around it when I broke down shaking and hyperventilating in front of my gf telling her (had my first psychiatric evaluation and was made to bring up some specifics of it) so seeing all these really helped with the level of shame and disgust I have/had for myself as a man

Yes, really really good and so unusual.

I thought that Baby Reindeer was the absolute best series that I have seen maybe ever. The deep emotion and confusion that many people like to bury and hide. The shame of being sexualy abused and his the victim feels responsible. 10 stars for this ❤❤❤❤