Probably a topic for its own video, but SLEEP. I feel like I have a dysfunctional relationship with sleep. I either don’t get enough or spend half the day sleeping. On my night schedules in particular I often find myself in pre-noon obligations which then creates a night of just 4 hours of sleep.

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

Sleep very difficult never get enough never feel refreshed

@Lepharmory

Жыл бұрын

Either that or falling asleep at the worst times. I constantly fell asleep during class and in elementary school I was given soda pop with caffeine to keep me awake.

I had anorexia athletica as a teenager before I found out I was autistic. I'm writing a novel based on my experience right now.

@OliviaHops

2 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry you dealt with that, but that’s so awesome you’re writing a novel. I’d love to read it when it comes out!

That hyper obsessive part is very recognisable for me. Not taking breaks at work, not finishing until everything is done (which is impossible), having trouble to leave the workplace are some of the things I struggle with. So, the not going to the toilet thing … Yeah, that happens. Thank you for being so straightforward. Being direct makes it click. 🙏👍

@Oderoderuchte

4 ай бұрын

I have sth like that in ALL my life Areas too

When I told my docs about some of my obsessive hyperfocus and/or special interests, they pegged me with OCD. In fact, the doctors I worked with were eager to pin OCD, anxiety, and depression on me, and I had to convince them to give me an autism diagnosis. Even then, my neuropsych said "borderline aspergers". I feel like as an adult female, I learn more about autism from KZread videos (yours are my favorite!) than my skeptical old-school Midwestern doctors would ever be able to tell me. It was a disappointing experience, but the diagnosis itself is still important to me! Black & white thinking = need the diagnosis, no matter how reluctant or assumptive the doctors are.

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

They did the same with me as a pre teen anxiety, depression and ocd just additional symptoms on top of ASD 1, ADHD Inattentive, PTSD and RSD. It wasn’t ever OCD. The Anxiety and Depression also still exist especially when my needs aren’t met and hugely stressed.

@melissabyrd1310

Жыл бұрын

I want a diagnosis from my doc, but i already know im autistic, so im dreading it and I'm sure I'm going to get annoyed

@Oderoderuchte

4 ай бұрын

Hmm Diagnoses some years Ago with Depression then alcohol addict( longer sober) and I all the time struggle with e.g Broken structure of day/doing something, I don‘t Read/read too Late Bad Intentions of people towards me etc Even I was raped 2 times by various men because I only thought that we will Talk IdK maybe one of them I came honestly out as lesbian But They dis Despite of this sexual intercourse with me

This was my third consecutive "one more before I go use the bathroom" video tonight, and you calling it out was honestly the motivation it took to hit pause. Thanks.

I'm sorry to hear you had such a bad experience after catching covid. Do take the time you need to recover. Your audience will be here for you!

I have a very limited vegetarian diet mainly consisting of carbs. I do avoid most 'junk food' though & I have never drank soda. I give some credit to my Asperger's for never having any desire to even try drugs, alcohol, tobacco, or vaping.

@OliviaHops

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like we are the same person! I have a very limited vegetarian diet. My mom calls me a “carb-etarian” because I eat mostly carbs. Mostly I eat cereal, pasta, bread, and cheese. And all my sweets (so cookies, cakes, pastries). I do like vegetables, and I do like fruits but only if they are blended into a smoothie. “Healthy” things I eat are yogurt, lentils, beans, rice. I only drink milk and water. Occasionally I’ll have a strawberry lemonade at a restaurant. And I’ve never done any of those recreational activities you listed either.

@ml9867

2 жыл бұрын

@@OliviaHops This is fascinating that were so similar. My food pyramid mainly consists of bread, cereal, pasta, pizza, crackers, pancakes, cheese, & peanut butter. My friends call me a yeast-atarian because the only veggies I eat are potatoes & corn. I like ketchup, pizza sauce, & pasta sauce, but not plain tomatoes. I like applesauce, but it was incredibly weird when I tried an actual apple as an adult a few years ago. I used to eat pears & bananas as a kid, so I really should try them again. Also, I'm still upset two of my favorite cereals, Product19 & Quaker Puffed Rice, were discontinued a few years ago after being sold for decades. I got most of my good nutrition from them & now don't have as much cereal so I take a Flintstone's vitamin every day. Water makes up over 99% of the drinks I consume. I only have milk with cereal & Gatorade if I'm doing physical stuff outdoors & need something more than water. That's awesome you're a vegetarian! I've been one since I was 16. How long have you been one?

@ByeByeBelly

2 жыл бұрын

I have level 2 and would use alcohol to cope, wouldn't term it recreational at all, was self medicating, same with binge eating for me. I eat a wide variety of food but refused to eat meat as a child. I cut it up very small and mix it into things now, mostly.

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

Same here in regards to drugs or cigarettes

@rosana8697

Жыл бұрын

Amazing! I am a carb eater. Never understood why either. I eat little meat but mostly push myself for the protein whenever I do.

Great to see you again Olivia! Im so with you on the hype focus.

Thank you for your videos. My daughter (17) was recently diagnosed with autism. We live in northern Italy and resources in support in English is sparse. Your videos are helping my family a lot!

Thanks for this chat. And I’m so glad your well again x

I'm so sorry you got so sick! But I'm so glad you're alright now. Please take extra good care of your lovely self as your body will still be recovering. Convalesence is so important! 💖

So glad youre feeling better 💓 I had the same obsession when I was younger...funny..it dawned on me at 60 that at 14 we are getting a new body as we mature and we think we should stay like an adolescent body. What a lie I believed. Anyway, now at 60 I continue to seek out my bodies and brains best interest and I find that as I got older and had kids my body was much healthier and so was my brain, after becoming a born again believer in Christ Jesus, He has become my compass! When I add a few pounds, it usually means I am going to get sick and need the extra weight anyway 🙃

Thank you for speaking about this Olivia, it really gave me a lot to think about. 💝

Yaeee I'm glad your back and doing ok. I've been worried.

This is a great one this obsession is something that happens with me quite frequently. Fortunately for myself and people that I work for it is generally related to a job

I got a chuckle when you said in gr8 about your 100 crunches etc… i did the same thing! Plus learning to do the splits, so obsessive stretching and measuring the amount of flexibility I gained added in… every night before bed. Also I ran around the yard dozens of times each day… i had to check these off my daily lists. Glad to her it wasn’t just me! I’m 58… so that was a while back, but i can certainly relate to the all or nothing personality! Thanks for educating everyone!

I'm diagnosed with an ED. Glad you are bringing awareness to the connection within the autism community. ♡

I've just discovered your channel and I'm already at the third video of yours. A lot of stuff you talk about hits really close to home, every single topic sounds so familiar it is scary. I'm currently on my own journey of trying to figure out what is "wrong" with me at almost 25 years old, even though I've suffered from an ED (and other stuff) in the past too. I've always said I'm obsessed with controlling everything but I resonate with this video more than I care to admit. Keep going, you're doing a great job! And enjoy your Italian vacation, kisses from Milan

This is such a good video thank you. I can relate so much to this ❤

This is so me! And so relatable. I often felt like my habits for being healthy and eating decently wasn't towards a visible goal for my body or me, but moreover that completionism goal and obsession. As you said, I must walk x amount of kilometers or complete x amount of squats or sit-ups. But I'm in general by my own habits and routines generally healthy without conscious effort and the conscious forcing myself to complete xyz health wise, added so much stress I didn't get the benefit. Now my days have an allocated time to complete a healthy task like go for a walk or do yoga, but also I know the signs better of also giving myself the rest. Walks for me are a form of stimming, but if I don't have the energy for them then I acknowledge that and do lesser energy stims until my spoon count is up again for walks. When tired, walking takes like 8 spoons, when I'm better rested walking gives me like 3 spoons. Learning this and being able to figure out my bodies cues has taken so much time and I still miss the cues 50% of the time, but that's such a big win that I can see it, recognize it and adjust to be kind to myself instead of bullying myself with fitness/health obsessions. Such a great video!

I'd like to hear some more about autism and eating disorders. Look forward to the video

I’ve had an unhealthy relationship with food since junior high, and battled with binge eating disorder. I gained a lot of weight in my teens and 20s, and was finally able to get it under control just a few years ago. I feel like food was an obsession and a stim for me, and there’s a few trigger foods I’m definitely afraid of now that I’ve adopted pretty good eating habits and cut my body weight in half. 😬

It makes sense. All makes sense. Eating desorder and many mental health issues are under umbrella of Autism. I agree with one comment: one can learn about autisam from you tubers more then from the medical professionals. I have spent decades going to various psychological therapies only to learn recently that my problems are not psychological but physiological. I am more convinced in that theory as I did my level best to make my child to live minimally psychological demanded and she turned to be just like me! That was also A-ha moment! Diagnosis of Autisam, or whatever it is called is hardly going to bring us relief in living our existence but at least we know now why we are different. Withough diagnoses there was always that feeling that you are not the same as the others, yet you have hardly ever known anybody different like you. Or, often you have the feeling that intellectually you can do the same as others but something stops you to go for it and you end up feeling left out. And alone.

This was a great topic!!!

@OliviaHops

2 жыл бұрын

So glad you enjoyed!!

I relate so much to this, thank you!

Another excellent video!

@OliviaHops

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much! I’m so glad you enjoyed! 💙

LOL on not going to pee. I know when im in such state, oh man! I dont know if i am autistic but i sure as hell can relate to so much of what you mentioned here. Especially as a teen too. Thanks Olivia!

Pro tip for my fellow autistics. To quickly figure out which friends are good for you.....keep skipping the group settings and see if they will see you in one on one settings.

I remember using a calorie counter app and I was just suppose to manage my calories, not obsessively reduce them, but eventually I was eating 600 calories a day and realized it was unhealthy and unsustainable. I have to be careful and move more in generalizations than hard goals.

Yes, I became hyper-obsessed with exercise, with periodized endurance training firncycling and running. While it has given me many health and performance benefits, including ever getting sick from Covid despite not being vaccinated, it has also taken a toll on other apsects of my life. I focus on every minutia, like nasal breathing and avoiding mouth breathing unless under strenuous exercise. It’s tough to stop, but I’ll have to tone it down so that my work and personal life can go more smoothly.

So relatable ❤️❤️❤️

Impressive tap dancing !

Ypppp, exactly 💯!

she describes the old me so well. i dont know wth i am now.

Ypppp, so true!

Autism brain is bad if I’m up till 2 am browsing browsing browsing or researching what ever I’m obsessed with.

I have the same issue with foreign MRE's and Comic-Con cosplay

I already related 15 seconds in 😂

Hey my love eating disorders doesn't just involve autism Eating Disorders mainly involves mental illness and bipolar problems because I found out the dr. Phil show when I first started watching Doctor Phil

Tried the co-pilot thing to just seee who it suggests as coaches. It suggested the same ppl for some diff options i put. Does look useful though x

@OliviaHops

2 жыл бұрын

They may all be trained for what you’re looking for. I really do love using the app! I use it 4 times a week at the moment.

@soulTraveller144

2 жыл бұрын

@@OliviaHops thats really great its working for you and thanks for the videos x

My brother is on the Autism Spectrum!! My brother all he talks about is movies My brother is hook on Electronics!!!

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Me, I swear!

My son who is 12 lost weight and now he is obsessed with his weight. He exercise non stop and keep working out. He doesn’t want to eat. I think he may be anorexic

Throw out your scale! It’s prompting you to quantify unnecessarily!

I've got an awkward sensory issue question for women on the spectrum. Do you know of any particular underwear that doesn't rub against your skin? My current underwear does that and it hurts a little.

@SueCherry

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe bamboo underwear? Its very soft and better for the environment ^^ In the Netherlands we have the company Bamboo Basics, they're really nice!

@nutskers

2 жыл бұрын

I don't have sensory issues with underwear (except the tag) but the softest I found is made of modal cotton. I like TomboyX or MeUndies.

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

Have you tried Boody they’re bamboo fabric also maybe try some hemp garments too much less irritating to skin or all natural cotton

@kelli74

2 жыл бұрын

Hi there, I think you have asked a great question to a legitimate, and probably to a common issue. I’m sure you’re helping others too so thank you. I can relate. I bought Puma Seamless laser cut underpants, and I think I bought them either from a sport store or Costco. They are a nice strong smooth spandex type fabric with no tags and the material is one same piece, which doesn’t change in texture or knit. There are two thinly stitched seams for ‘that usual’ crotch lining and they’re not as irritating as anything I’ve worn. They do creep up a little at the bottom of my butt but they are very comfy for running and wearing generally, and they don’t rub along your ligaments and skin folds, or irritate your lower abdomen, or move around with other clothing, like other underwear that I’ve not tolerated well. I like them and they are a good choice for me. Please don’t be afraid to even wear no underwear, or consider unpadded training tights as an alternative (they’re quick dry and not cumbersome), or something else that is tolerable. It’s very personal and it’s your body so please try to give yourself permission to be creative, if it removes an obstacle in achieving something good. Oh and please be encouraged to keep asking questions. All the very best to you.

@Natalie-Cornacchione

2 жыл бұрын

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If you can, I'm interested in the finger-picking bad habit. Both my husband and I have this problem and we are probably both on the spectrum as well. He claims he likes the pain, but I don't, and mostly try to smooth things (but frequently fail) so I try filing down my hangnails when I can. I still fall victim to the pick, though, and am not sure how to address this. I'd welcome any tips other than formal therapy, if you have them. Thanks for doing these videos!

@Dancestar1981

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve heard it’s a particularly common thing and is actually considered a stim to distract the mind and calm the body from stress

@margotgrey1006

2 жыл бұрын

i would check out dermatillamania, its a skin picking disorder.

@luvmybears64

Жыл бұрын

As a teen my daughter developed ARFID, life-threatening level complete with a feeding tube. Years later she fights disordered thoughts about food.

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I know you covered MASKING. Would you say you had a desire to HIDE info from your family?

@OliviaHops

2 жыл бұрын

Not sure I wanted to purposely hide information, it just happened. But not by choice.

You can eat unlimited calories on high carb low fat diet x

@sitathisfeet5797

2 жыл бұрын

There is no one diet that works for everyone

@soulTraveller144

2 жыл бұрын

@@sitathisfeet5797 still a fact and does work and if it doesnt at first its because ppls motabolism messed up. Stay doing it and the motabolism balances out. Eating high carb low fat the way i know does mean you can eat unlimited calories. If your not interested in the info its okay x

@sitathisfeet5797

2 жыл бұрын

@@soulTraveller144 I just don't appreciate that you're sharing a way of eating that is linked to eating disorder mindsets (look up Freelee the banana girl)

Lack of protien is a myth and does not help the body to have excess protien esp in terms of animal products.. im a bit obsessed with finding the true healthy diet for 6 years so take it from me 😂

@sitathisfeet5797

2 жыл бұрын

This isn't true..not all protein is equal in terms of bioavailability. Animal products are the most easily absorbed by the body. Of course, vegetarians can eat eggs, yogurt, etc.

@soulTraveller144

6 ай бұрын

@@lialialia9647 Ayuveda is a hoax. The ancient Indian wisdom says about u.t and eating fruit and becoming free from food.. we all have the same human body