I don't want more medication I just want people to be more patient with me.

@wahnano

3 жыл бұрын

Right on

@nenee009

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you, also, I love Mista 🥺

@abogado2347

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely !!

@MyCurls_MyCrown

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@myworldautistic670

2 жыл бұрын

Yes Yes Yes!!!!!

I was diagnosed with ASD last year. I was 36 when I was finally diagnosed. Can you talk about how Autism is different in girls and women, than it is in boys and men? Our interests tend to be things that are "normal," but the intensity of our obsession is not normal. We tend to be better at Masking than men. There are so many undiagnosed Autistic girls and women, just because people don't know that it's not the same between the genders.

@ruthhorowitz7625

Жыл бұрын

Yes, i was diagnosed at 57

@rebirthofthecool5619

Жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed close to 40 as a male, but watching porn 4 times a day minimum, has been as effective as 800mg quitiepine. I just have to make sure to use moisturiser to prevent it from falling off

@dmoore0079

Жыл бұрын

I believe the reason why girls with ASD tend to go undiagnosed is that they're far less likely to have difficulties in speech/communication and social interactions than boys with ASD.

@itoobable

Жыл бұрын

this is the comment I was looking for!!! @Kirten - Thanks for bringing up the difference between boys/men and girls/women on the spectrum! soooo many girls/women get overlooked because their ASD "doesn't look like" the male stereotype.

@KatzeDerNacht22

11 ай бұрын

Same, got my DX last Saturday, at 40.

This is one of the most accurate, well-researched videos on ASD I have seen on KZread from a non-Autistic content creator. So often we see videos that draw from massively outdated terminologies and knowledge. It is refreshing to have such a clear, concise, and informative video. I would have liked to see more info pertaining to women included though. You could address the fact that the DSM diagnostic criteria was based solely on studies of autistic white boys, and the typical ‘girl’ presentation is different hence many go undiagnosed and skew the statistics. We now believe that the ratio is actually closer to 1:1 in ASD. There is also a large percentage of Autistic people who are LGBT+. Perhaps a future video can touch upon this topic. Thank you for your work!

@junkfinder3168

3 жыл бұрын

my dad was kinda a homophobe and asked me if I was gay like twice a year throughout my life, usually after a few drinks on holidays in front of family. I've also had other people think my sexual preference was other males for some reason I think the asd could emulate homosexual quarks or similarties that may make others presume. Just an observation. Not sure if it has been noted without sounding offensive.

@pinkdeviant

3 жыл бұрын

@@junkfinder3168 i think it's more of a masculinity thing, flat out I'm going to say I'm not a man but I'm basing this off of just what I've learned- some guys who have that mindset of toxic masculinity often think any guy who acts "weird" or just different will associate that with feminity because they see feminity as weakness so they have to avoid anything that isnt masculine, they see weird stuff as not masculine. Like just think of the guys who call other guys who are into niche things or geek culture gay. Not saying that flamboyant gay guys are weird, but that its probably why toxic masculine guys hate it. Because they see only a woman loving a man and they don't want to be not-masculine because anything that isn't tough or like a guy using pantene instead of old spice is frowned upon in toxic masculinity. Sorry for the ramble ignore this if it didnt make sense

@junkfinder3168

3 жыл бұрын

@@pinkdeviant makes sense. Thank you. I just discovered I was asd at a month ago at the age of 35. I always thought it was just adhd.

@JDMimeTHEFIRST

2 жыл бұрын

Even though I was selectively mute as a kid and early gave eye contact, I wasn’t diagnosed until 35 because I’m a woman. 🙄 I also was called names and falsely called a lesbian simply because I wasn’t super girly and a Stepford wife. People can be sexist and think all women are supposed to act alike and the way you act somehow has to do with your sexuality. It’s like the stupidity of people who think having short hair and wearing pants is masculine. It’s not. Those are just clothes and hairdos.Btw, as I am watching this, I am doing things I did even as a kid - pick my teeth with my nails. I also have an overactive imagination-which I think many aspies actually have. I even had waking nightmares as a kid. I’ve used it for writing and being creative. My dream life is sometimes more active than my waking life

@steve-os5oc

9 ай бұрын

this womans no fool but on this occassion she sounds more like shes just reading her lines

My biggest challenge with ASD is sensory. Touching of many things makes my senses go haywire. From the air being too dry, cant stand any clothing except a certain robe I have that I wear every day, I have to sleep alone and I have to wear ear plugs. Sounds are very challenging. Bright lights as well. I also have military level PTSD which enhances my sensory and anxiety to a point of often having long episodes of insomnia. I cant socialize because that will overloads all my senses so Im a hermit. Life is a struggle.

@mollykate422

2 жыл бұрын

i know this comment was a year ago but i hope you are taking care of yourself, that sounds very overwhelming. i hope you find some comfort in this life

@dandydiavoless1473

10 ай бұрын

I'm exactly the same in every one of all these....

@user-lp3lr8mh3v

8 ай бұрын

To live is to struggle, to survive,,is to find meaning in that struggle,,chin up bro

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

My biggest challenge is CBT and videos like this, books like this - that tell us that we are abnormal for being neurodivergent. Then we build toxic shame due to ableists like her.

@nowiknowhy

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for caring. If I monitor myself carefully Im ok. Thank you. Hope you are doing well also.@@mollykate422

I would like to recommend to anyone watching this who actually has a difficulty with some of the things she is speaking of to slow down the playback speed of the video. It helped me.

@josienunnally3470

4 жыл бұрын

G thank you so much!!

@joannefairchild4482

3 жыл бұрын

Yes I did the same Thankyou.

@taranhartell2459

3 жыл бұрын

Also subtitels help tremendously for me and my friends. We usually don't understand videos without subtitels (as in we don't take the information in)

@kingrhino11

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@prettyhina

2 жыл бұрын

I watch them at 2×speed. I have adhd I believe but I suspect, have lots of suspicious memories since 3 that describe autism

I think some ppl that are undiagnosed but have a less severe type of autism might learn very well how to cover up the impulses. People might force themselves to make eye contact, and have an awareness that talking about baseball to every single person isn’t normal, then not do it, even though a strong impulse is there. The thoughts and impulses are there they just don’t get acted on. I would usually just take notes and write them to myself and just look things up on my phone to keep myself stimulated.

@rebeccamay6420

Жыл бұрын

Restraining impulses and behaviors due to social awareness -- I think this is part of Masking and trying to blend in. I didn't know that I myself was doing this until last year when I started learning about possibly having ASD level 1.

@Kaye09MNchick

Жыл бұрын

This sounds like masking to “pass” as neurotypical in a world that is setup for neurotypical. I myself mask a LOT like you described but it’s really tiring and, why should I change the way I behave to make others more comfortable to my own detriment?

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

" a less severe type" is called spectrum. CBT is ableist and I have no idea why neurodivergent keep watching and soaking CBT videos like this one. They are so shaming and damaging to our self esteem and our persona. CBT propel us to Othering - that we separate ourselves from community and that we build Self Consuming Self personality - like neurotypicals. CBT is like going to Nazi Germany HQ during 1930s for information about Human Rights. What do you think the fascist will tell you? That you are free? That you have rights? Nope - neurotypicals will tell you that we are abnormal and that we must fix ourselves in order to fit in into abnormal toxic society like this video.

I was sitting on top of my stairs outside my apartment. There were 2 kids playing down below on the sidewalk with a Big Wheel. When one started peddling and going down the sidewalk, I swear I could hear every tiny pebble, and piece of sand and grit under those plastic tires. It hurt my ears so bad that I covered my ears and had to go inside. I asked someone later if they thought it was loud. They said no. I mean, it sounded like my ear was right next to the tires. Also, I lost my last job, even though I was top sales person because I "didn't fit in." First, I don't like work place bullies and I speak up and call them out when they bully me. I have a hard time trying to talk on the phone when others are next to me talking loud or yelling across me to someone else. Again, so loud I'd have to cover my free ear and close my eyes. Thats the ONLY time I flap my hands or on rare occasions when I'm very, very, extremely stressed. I've never held a job over 1 year and that's a very long time. I wish I knew what was wrong with me. No one seems to want to diagnose me. It's frustrating to have gone over 50 years with no help.

@anyadarlingg

Жыл бұрын

50 yrs?? Do you feel like you relate a lot to the symptoms of autism? You still are able to have sensory issues without having autism, I believe. But I am sorry for the troubles you have experienced. I hope you are able to find a career that is a good fit for you, and great peers who understand you. I would just communicate the struggles w any employers you encounter, so they can help accommodate you. As long as you feel comfortable enough doing that, atleast.

@clarasamuelthomas

Жыл бұрын

I truly understand you. I'm 44 and I'm waiting for my diagnosying. No one agrees with me when I mention that I'm probably autistic. My husband sees my struggles and he thinks I'm depressed but I don't. I don't like to socialize, but sometimes he forces me in those occasions where you have to socialize. I'm luky because I'm deaf on the left side and in those occasions I plug my right ear and nobody cares of what I'm doing because they don't know I'm semi deaf even though the only ear that works, works extremely well. Too much I would say. I hate to be hugged. I love sleeping alone. I hate various smeels like watermelon 🤮🤮🤮🤮and mushrooms. And I stop here because I don't want you to be bored by this comment. But, for them, I'm not autistic.

@rebeccamay6420

Жыл бұрын

I relate to hearing each crunchy pebble under the plastic wheel -- I can "feel" that sound right now by just thinking about it, and it sets my teeth on edge. I describe this as, "I can hear All The Things," and, "I can feel sound." As an adult looking back, I now recognize why I would cover my ears during loud sounds and how comforting it is to wear sound muffling/canceling headphones.

@dandydiavoless1473

10 ай бұрын

Exactly the same with me... except Im 10 years younger

@rahnacm5632

4 ай бұрын

I'm sure homoeopathy can help you..being a homoeopathy doctor I have helped cases like that of you..homoeopathy is reliable in most cases which are labeled incurable

I wish there was more information on Aspergers in females.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, I think the prevalence rates are higher in males so they get more attention.

@SuzD0n

5 жыл бұрын

It seems like it's only very recently that scientists have started to look at the distinction between aspie females and aspie males. There are some interesting videos by Professor Tony Attwood ("Dr Tony") that focus on Asperger Syndrome in females.

@keligsp8962

5 жыл бұрын

Laura Gadille The term Aspergers is no longer according to the Pediatric Association. For more in all things Facebook/ Website Autism Society.org Google-TEACCH-Chapel Hill NC.

@lilbatz

4 жыл бұрын

@@keligsp8962 Aspergers is still used outside of the US. Hop on any international Aurism forum board, and watch the Americans lose their sh*t when someone from the UK uses Aspergers.

@user-xv1nl9cr1u

4 жыл бұрын

It's because females know much bettef how to mimetize social skills....See Dr. Tony Attwood...!

I like how you mentioned the pressure vest. My dog has one and it calms him down.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Oh that’s great. I’m glad that works.😊

@nekkidpossum4397

2 жыл бұрын

My version of that pressure vest has been something many women complain about - underwire bras! I find the mild compression of the underwire to be grounding.

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Better than you being drug pusher.

I was diagnosed with depression at 19, anxiety disorder at 25 (both were medication resistant, I felt either numb, irritated/aggressive or suicidal), but I am actually Autistic with ADHD, and was confirmed as both at 50 years old. This is COMMON in women and non-typical Autistic presentations, not like the way you described in the video, which is more the stereotypical or ableist version (using words like deficits, impoverished, etc). There are as many different types of people as in Neurotypical groups, and I do appreciate that you do acknowledge we are also all individuals and that we all have to figure out our own triggers and regulators and find a system to live a quality life. Changing our view of Autistic people from the sterotypical "absent-minded professor" will help more people be recognized, recieve diagnosis and possible get help or answers they've been looking for about their lives and themselves and it helps them to advocate for accomodations.

For me having austism is like being trapped inside a glass box filled with water unable to breath, nothing gets through to me and all i hear is blib blob blib blob, i feel totally disconnected from the people in the air world and when in social situations it's like people are tapping the glass and it scares me. Just leave me alone so i can sit in the corner play with the dog

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Scott. That sounds very distressing. Therapy dogs are becoming quite popular these days. Maybe having one around more often can be helpful for you. thanks for sharing your experience

@SheWhoRemembers

4 жыл бұрын

Read up on propionic acid from bad gut microbes.

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

What is a TIV personality type? One 2020 study suggests that the victim mentality may be a personality trait, dubbed the “Tendency for Interpersonal Victimhood (TIV).” In this case, it spans multiple types of relationships and includes four patterns: a desire for recognition as a victim. feelings of moral superiority. limited empathy for others.

i have autism and love gardening, my garden is a texture paradise and you must wear shoes

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Oh what a great outlet for you. 😊

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Better than ableist CBT that is making more psychological damage with misdiagnosis and wrong help.

You went into such great depth!! Thank you!!! I'm new to the spectrum. When you said low fantasy, I was like "wait. I love to daydream and zone out and fantasize about having huge success one day. But I corrected myself. My daydreaming is usually about my realistic goals. I also just noted that when I do watch TV or KZread it is ALWAYS informative or some sort of documentary as my main preference. I simply don't have time for fantasies anymore. Maybe when I was younger, before the stress.

I love how straight forward and serious Tracy is , it’s very informative and focused.

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

I can't stand her. She is fake and toxic.

I love this! Thank you so much for the work that you do and all the ways you help the community! These "simple" free downloadable things help out a lot ❤

As a teacher, knowing all the techniques gets overwhelming. Thanks for the cards!!

You are an amazing teacher. I hope you continue to share your knowledge and expertise online. ❤️

Hey Dr. Marks, I love your videos! Could you make a video on the differences of ASD in men vs. women? I am 22 years old and I was diagnosed with ASD 9 months ago. I was told I was lucky it was caught so early since ASD is hard to diagnose in women due to how it presents differently, masking, and how the majority of ASD research has been done on boys since it was originally thought to be a boys syndrome only. Thank you so much! Looking forward to your future videos.

Or for people from small towns and with parents who didn't believe in mental health care, and sexism, you don't get diagnosed until your mid 30s or later.

@Raddiebaddie

9 ай бұрын

Faaaacts :/

Dear Dr marks, Thank you for all you work in creating these videos. I was wondering if you could please create a video talking in depth about each of the levels of asd, gender differences, masking and diagnosis as an adult . It would help a lot of people and my self greatly. Kindest regards Stacey Healy

-not a very 'in dept on autism', but okish. Your voice is heard by so many, and so, soo many need help one form or another. You are very sweet and kind in helping. So sorry I'm two years late.

thanks in advance doctor Tracey Marks for this video, and it was helpful to those suffered from Autism spectrum disorder and depression.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

You're welcome Moroccan Man!

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

This video is ableist and you thank her?

Thank you for making this video Dr Tracey Marks it’s very helpful.

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

Ableist video and you thank her?

Thank you. This video has been the most informative for me to understand some of my son’s behavior

A video on mind-blindness would be great. It is a hard concept for people to grasp. Being made aware of mind-blindness can help people relate to and assist people with ASD better.

Thank you! Your information is valuable to a Mother of two autistic/ADHD, lovely sons in their 30's

Excellent video Dr. Marks! My older Brother has Autism. He has repetitive rituals he does and has interests in odd subjects that he becomes well versed in. He is 64 years old so he was an adult when a diagnosis was made. Growing up was difficult for him since no one could understand why he was the way he was. My Cousin also has a Son that was diagnosed with Aspergers about 9 years ago. About two years ago he was also diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Your videos really help to understand these disorders. I really appreciate your videos, and the way you help understanding mental health. You are a Doctor who specializes in this field, but you explain things in a way that is easy for “lay people” to understand. 👍🙂

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark That's exactly my purpose to educate those affected, family members and anyone else interested. This channel really is for "lay people." but of course professionals are welcome to watch too 🙂

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks It would be great that your educational attempts would start to make connection. Like social anxiety being connected to sensory overload - where then CBT falls into water where it belongs (Exposure crap and building social skills BS)

Dr. Marks, I love your videos and the way you present this information. You have a great way of speaking and Incan tell you care a lot. Thanks 🙏

Thanks for this video, greatly appreciated.

Dr. Tracey, I love having your videos playing in the background while I'm working on something else. I do that a lot, as it helps me focus. I have very few of such "channels" I can do that with. The topic must be of interest, but to me, the more important aspect is the person's voice and how they speak and present the information. There is however one thing which causes me issues - the transition sounds, the whooshes and blips are very disturbing - I understand the purpose and realize most people would enjoy this - for me, it sends my audio-sensitive synesthesia into frenzy 😅

I loved this video 1000% you covered everything that I currently experience thank you so much for this video It will be a great sharing tool for those who need a better understanding of ASD and want to understand what I go through on a daily bases

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Anthony. I’m so glad you can relate and also so glad it can be used to help other people understand you. 😊

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

Nope. This video did not cover misdiagnosing social anxiety and connection between social anxiety and sensory overload.

"Keeping eye contact with others whilst talking" ... natural, non-competitive communication whilst talking involves both participants focusing on the other's mouth. The Anglo-saxon word for "mind" also means "jaw". Neurotypicals need to realise that recent habits of communication have become VERY competitive. Focusing on the mouth also enhances one's awareness of the other's subtle vocalisations as they speak ... enhances understanding of their communication. Nowadays too many neurotypicals are "shallow" compared with how they used to be when I was young. I'm an Aspie ... aged 78. Society is being bombarded by advertising ... that's what's wrong. High IQ people with Autism are trying to get a handle on this crazy world we live in. Statistics have shown that infants who live near main roads are more likely to develop Autism ... researchers speculate about pollution ... its the bloody noise that's messing with their heads! There's also a problem with modern, high speed fans that emit low frequency sounds that literally vibrate the neurons in the brain ... causing "depression". People with normal hearing don't even know that these noises exist! People like myself hear them as loud sounds. Many car engines emit such sounds when idling. Non-verbal communication has also become focused on dominance/submission to a far greater extent than it used to be. One could say that societies have descended into something akin to Fascism (but more intensely so) in recent decades ... to the point where people accept it as the norm. I lived in a rural part of Wales in the 80s.When I returned to London in the 90s I was struck by the fact that everywhere people were using psychiatric labels to describe themselves. I watched as psychiatry, through its use of medication, increased its hold over the nation. I'm now having dialysis for kidney failure ... they've put in my notes: Comorbidity: Asperger's. A Consultant said to me, in front of other staff and patients, in a raised voice: "I'm concerned about your mental health!" The idiot didn't take too kindly to me pointing out that he'd made a mistake with my medication ... overdosed me. Most of the patients are obese and overweight .. sedentary. I'm slim and athletic... astonishingly so for my age. Now not only do I have to contend with attitudes focused on my eccentricities but "Ageism" is rearing its ugly head. .

@livingliminally

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 53. I think about these same things all the time. Especially the effects of: advertising, "noise pollution", and the trends towards domination in basic relating (and the loss of trust). I feel like a canary in a coal mine...where I struggle most is a function of Western society and social expectations. Thanks for sharing your thoughts...I felt less alone.

@rebeccamay6420

Жыл бұрын

Is that the several concurrent medium-high pitched sounds I hear when it's otherwise rather quiet in the room? Noise from nearby electric or electronic devices? Sometimes i think it sounds like someone's using a hairdryer at the other end of the house. It has me wondering if I am capable of hearing dog whistles too. I don't get the opportunity to be around dog whistles, but now I'm curious! I also wonder if the noise would stop during a power outage. 🤔

@jordanpeters3746

Жыл бұрын

@@rebeccamay6420 Because of my age (80) I've lost my awareness of very high-pitched sounds ... but when I was young I found it strange that nobody was reacting to babies opening their mouths (as if they were yawning) and emitting VERY LOUD, very high -pitched screams. The babies seemed to enjoy doing it as they often smiled afterwards. The pitch of their "screams" was much higher than those emitted by older infants. There used to be an instrument in the Science Museum in London that people could use to test their awareness of high pitched sounds ... I could clearly hear sounds above 20,000 hz. Now my upper range is down to less than 12,000. Changes in the ear as one ages often means that people start hearing very low sounds that they never noticed when they were younger. Older people with hearing aids that are not adjusted properly sometimes get plagued by low frequency sounds others can't hear.

Got the cards, thank you so much! Thank you, Doctor, for the videos too, they are very informative and helpful. Greetings from France

You are so fantastic! Thank you for helping and doing what you do! 🙏🏽♾💙

High functioning autism....is very particular in the way a person may see their world...there are sensory crisis too, but there's a very internal and rich world that I'd like to share with others but I see not possibilities for it....so, I prefer the company of animals (my cat for instance) 😊

@c.b.5613

3 жыл бұрын

I have high functioning autism too with sensitivity towards sounds and lights. And slower motor skills. ( probably the result of bad sleep since I was a baby)I would love to join the work force again, but most companies doesn't see autism as an asset or they think we are dumb and don't give us an opportunity to learn new stuff. How does having high functioning autism affect your life? For me it feels more like a plague than a gift.

@user-lf6tw8rj3x

3 жыл бұрын

@@c.b.5613, but in U.S. maybe must there be many job agencies. Even in Europe. Or you may create your own work from your home. Nowadays this will be future for most of us.

@user-lf6tw8rj3x

3 жыл бұрын

@@c.b.5613 and now? Have you slept better ?

@c.b.5613

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-lf6tw8rj3x I'm from the Netherlands, I always tell them that I have a slight form of autism when I have a job interview. Some companies say than flat out no. I would rather work for someone who wants me for me than someone who gets compensated by the government for having me as "disabled" person. Luckily I have found one who is willing to try and see. I'm now in my tryout time at an assembly line. I always thought that wasn't the place for me because of my speed. All we need are forgiving managers who are willing to give us a chance to learn and grow.

@azimhashim1709

4 ай бұрын

I used Dr Omena herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on speech delay and ASD. I met Dr Omena on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it

Please, can you do a video distinguishing between male and female autism. The symptoms are not the same. I am a female (using my dad's profile, so no one's confused), and the classic male symptoms, medical professionals go by, leaves many females undiagnosed because we don't always have the same symptoms. We tend to mirror, instead of just avoiding socializing, we don' have to come up with small talk if we are copying what the other person is talking about. We also don't tend to have intense interests in things and learn everything about it like males do. These 2 are the biggest reasons we often go undiagnosed. I am 38 and just now being diagnosed. I've had a lot of struggles trying to fit into society because of not understanding why I feel and act the way I do. Also, please include warnings about medications, like how thousands of us end up in withdrawal syndrome if the medicine stops working, or we are taken off it too fast. It is very real and very hard to heal from, and y'all refusing to acknowledge it makes it all the harder because there's no standard game plan to help a person know what to do to heal from it.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the suggestion I’ll look into this.

@alfienrusdiana3892

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks have you make the video? Because I can't find the video on your channel

Thank you, Dr. Marks.

Thank you Dr. Tracey! Love you & thank you very, very much!

I would love a video were the difference between ADHD, ASD, and some personality disorder would be explained! I had ADHD since young, taking meds for it too, for then being diagnosed with Asperger for some years, and after changing therapist it was told me that the Asperger diagnosis was wrong and it was a Narcisistic personality disorder. I personally still feel pretty confused by all of these and don't feel them really suit me, so I've started to learn these things by myself and "work" more side-by-side with my therapist to know myself better

I’m getting tested for autism soon as a teenager and my mom and I have a whole lot of reasons why I might have it. My brother has Aspergers and my mom is suspected of having it too. The reason for my first car accident was I was overwhelmed from the highway and made a last minute decision to switch lanes, but it would have been safer to just stay in the lane I was in but I was trying to follow the HOV lane rules. I didn’t realize it would have been better to get a ticket for being in HOV than to switch lanes and risk hitting someone. My pre k teacher also mentioned it never looked like I was paying attention because I would look anywhere but the board or her eyes. But I passed the class just fine. I would play by myself with dolls and other kids found me loud and annoying because I constantly talked about the same topics. I was diagnosed with GAD around 12 years old after a history of panic attacks, but I’m starting to think half of those attacks were brought on by unwanted changes such as a trip out of town. I get nervous before going out with my friends or going to school. I don’t like clothes where my back is exposed or they hug too close to the skin. My bra fitting is always an issue and I get upset if it doesn’t fit right. I gag at the smell of certain foods, but I love smelling body wash scents or flowers. I’m a very picky eater. I hate the sound of dogs barking because it’s so spontaneous and aggressive. I scratch at my scalp, tap my feet, grind my teeth and bite my tongue. When I pet my cat I can tell that different parts of her fur feel different when no one else notices. I also apparently can’t tell when my cat is annoyed with me, same with humans. I have trouble with eye contact, I interrupt conversations a lot, if I play with someone I want it by my rules, but somehow as a kid Autism was ruled out twice.

@rebeccamay6420

Жыл бұрын

Yes! Cat fur does feel different-- head, back, belly, tail. And my two cats feel different, although they were born of the same litter with the same kind of visual markings. If one of them gets onto the bed at night, I can tell which one it is by both the feel of the fur and the difference in pressure of their weight walking on the bed.

I love Dr. Marks! Everything makes sense when she talks about it,lol

Not diagnosed (yet) but scratching on certain textures/fabrics feels soothing, like hair ties. I do it almost all the time as long as i have the stuffs.

The cards are very useful for me. I am an autistic person who happens to be a writer and I find it difficult to find words for emotions. Many thanks for the resource. I appreciate it. ~ Siren

Thank you for the cards, very helpful!

Hello Dr. Marks. I'm a self diagnosed Aspie. Classic symptoms (extreme social anxiety, trouble reading, writing, spelling, and with math, repetitive rocking, eat a total of 10 to 15 foods total (texture & consistency issues/ not body image related), have an MBA (graduated with a 3.97 out of 4.0) but can't get employed, eye contact feels way too intimate, wear over-sized cotton nightgown tees all day almost everyday, and of course over sharing info). 😆 I've been masking as far back as I can remember. Do you have any information on Aspie masking and minority (especially Black women) code-switching? I feel as if I'm only the "true" me about 1% of the time. I'm usually drained after conversations due to trying to remembering to soften my voice, drop my "ethnic" accent, make myself seem smaller and non-threatening, while attempting to remember to maintain conversational flow and cues, respond correctly, recall convo topic, and watch my awkwardness simultaneously. LOVE YOUR WORK!

@jamaicancoder6278

3 жыл бұрын

I'm Male but masking takes so much effort, so I just say screw it

@vivanpaull

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you can reach where you're surrounded by people who don't force you to hide your real self. I say force cause yeah, people don't understand that when we stop masking people are legitimately cruel to us and we lack the social skills to get them to stop. I can't imagine how much worse it must be as a black woman.

@MsLhuntMartinez79

2 жыл бұрын

@@vivanpaull I really appreciate your comment💚 Thank you. Be careful out here.

@iamjoyt

2 жыл бұрын

Omg! There is someone else like me… You aren’t alone!!🤗🤗🤗

@MsLhuntMartinez79

2 жыл бұрын

@@iamjoyt Hey there spirit twin😉😊 lol Its difficult to find us hiding in the comments and society

thank you, Dr Tracy. As always brilliant and useful tips. thanks a Bunch ❤️

@ranc1977

4 ай бұрын

Ableism and it is not helpful.

My 8 year-old grandson has ASD (we still call it Aspergers) & conversations between just the two of us are my very favorite things. Life with him is loud & chaotic & keeps you on your toes but I love the way his mind works. On a recent mild day he said, "Oma, today is a "mute" day. The weather is not hot & it's not cold. Yeah, I think "mute" is a good word for it." The absence of temperature you can feel is mute weather. 😁❤️ Thanks for the video!

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Yes that's very creative thinking. 🙂

I wish it wouldn't be always called deficiency. I saw studies that suggested that a subtype of autism could be a difference in the mirror nerve function. So I experienced for me that some of my social problems were worsened because of to many sensory input that my brain couldn't manage. I learned how to lip read and with the overexpression in films I learned how to identify emotions in the mouth part. Maybe it helps someone who read this. It is extremely exhausting. But at the same time some of these traits like the sensitivity is extremely helpful. I register more details faster. A shift from try to fix or erase it to how to manage and use it in constructive ways would be awesome.

Thank you for this thoughtful video.

Very helpful video. One thing I would make clearer is that emotional distress of any kind can worsen sensory sensitivity.

Demand of social activity... usually noticed with job requirements or family demands causes sensory overload and then depression.. as a human with sensory sensitivity ijust cannot do the repetitive day to day stuff that neurotypicals can. If I'm forced to, i burn out ...oddly enough I can mask so well that I can fit in anywhere. Get home. Deflate and orfall apart or enjoy addiction. Sigh. I have concluded that if those with sensory sensitivities were allowed to live a quieter simpler cozier life there would be no burn out or depression

@carolanderson8203

8 ай бұрын

Yes, this!

I have pdd-nos and one thing I always explain to my family is that I can’t concentrate if multiple people talk to me, so whenever my parents want to sit down and talk to me about serious things it gets way to overwhelming for me. I was wondering if this is a symptom that most people with autism have and what helps them to deal with that

I have a question! I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome here in my country. For personal reasons, I might have to move to the US in the future (That worries my a lot. It’s a huge change and I still need my mom a lot even though I’m 21. I won’t have her there with me). I want to know if, being already diagnosed, but not in the US, will I have to go through the testings all over again in order to be diagnosed there or I can just give them my diagnostic paper (with the ICD codes) and they’ll give me a national diagnosis based on the DSM? Thanks!

This is great. Do you have any videos or resources that discuss misophonia?

Thanks for the emotion cards

Hi Dr. Marks thanks so much for ALL your videos! Would you please do a video on Highly Sensitive People? Even just your opinion on Dr. Elaine Aron's work on this would be great. Thanks!

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Sure Wendy. I'll have to do some research on this though. When it's not something I regularly talk about it takes more time to figure out what am going to say about it. But I'll add it to my list.

@wendymacneill6689

5 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Thanks!

I find l-tyrosine to be very helpful. Your body uses it to make dopamine which is helpful for executive functioning, identifying your emotions, and even identifying the emotions of others. It also helps protect against the sensory overwhelm

Hey Dr.Tracey, Love your videos i have but one request. Can you Make a Background that is less Bright? sometimes its hard to watch you because of that.

Thanks for the video :) . Can you make a video about autism, stimulants and antipsychotic medications.

Hello, Dr. Tracey! Will you make a video discussing the topic between how ASD presents differently in boys and girls?

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Let me see if I can find something that's consistent and widely applicable. ASD is so heterogeneous - meaning it shows up so differently in different people. it tends to be more prevalent in males which is why people may believe it looks differently in boys. but I'm not sure if there's enough of a difference that applies to most people. I'll look into it.

@mnmlst1

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks look for the work of Tony Attwood

I have Aspergers & my "secret corner" is trivia. My specialty is vintage entertainment...must be a blooming genius in this "safe space" zone! - hahaha

I am hoping you could make a video comparing female ASD vs. Bipolar disorder.

my dog licks my hand and it really helps me it calms me down right away. he knows when i feel upset and will lick my hand.

@seen8479

4 жыл бұрын

I'd prefer, that someone punch me in the face or stomach, instead of letting some bacteria infected dog lick my hand.

@PaulRamnora

3 жыл бұрын

It’s good to have loving pets you can rely on, sometimes. Myself, I own a cat...; and, when I find communicating with people hard...as they just don’t understand me?! I feel I can always get some degree of socialising comfort by petting/stroking the cat. I used to keep goldfish before; but, unfortunately, two died...when I tried introducing an infected’ goldfish into the same tank; so, I decided to throw out the goldfish tank bowl. But, staring at the fish playing inside of the tank was also really good for me. A lot of AS/Asperger’s Syndrome people tend to prefer animals to human company. It doesn’t mean they ‘hate’ humans...but, animals tend to judge you far less; so, I find it extremely tiring staying around humans. I think, I suffer from color I’d conditions: AS/ADD/BiPolar/PTSD/SP/SAD/-etc.

For me soothing is shower with high water pressure, fidgeting a small box in my hands, pressuring my forehead against some surface (not banging). I’m not diagnosed. I use earplugs on daily basis, otherwise I would end up being panicky, overwhelmed and jittery everyday because of my daughter - the horrible noise she makes. I already forgot how much I suffered at school during breaks due to the noise. She reminded me about it. I also use sunglasses if it’s only a bit sunny and often indoors like in shopping center. In many shops they have flashing screens, led lights etc. it’s painful. My psychiatrist and therapist suggested that I’m probably on the spectrum, I’m not seeking diagnosis because it’s expensive stressful and I don’t need it actually. The psychiatrist also informed me about the neuroleptics listed here. But I don’t want medicine. I’m fine with ear protection and sunglasses whenever I need them.

I am diagnosed with "High Functioning Autism," and there's a story behind that. But what I'd like to share, is that I've never understood... what it actually was. I understand the symptoms and kind of understand how they connect, but I don't know what it is in my brain that is different and nobody has ever been able to explain it to me. I don't know if anyone will see this, but if you do, and you happen to know where I can find information about what's changed my life so drastically, I'd appreciate it. I just simply cannot understand how you can expect to treat something without fully understanding what that something is.

This described me exactly. I know that I repeat other people or sounds that kinda of *ting* with me, but I was told it's ADHD or BPD. I hate the feel of certain things and even if it's a gift like a wool blanket, I cannot stand it. It feels like a shiver up my spine when I touch things like that. The sensory is mostly in sound and touch. When I go to work certain sounds feel like they are killing my head and I accidentally snap at whoever is making them, while other sounds and certain feels may make me so relaxed I could sleep. Would that be autism or ADHD? My mental health figures tell me since I don't lack empathy and I understand feelings really well, I shouldn't have it. It's troublesome explaining that's not completely true. I can only understand people with empathy and from experience, I don't necessarily "feel" you, I can just relate in a way. Other times I don't get you at all and talking to people I don't understand is draining more so then the latter.

Thank you for this this.

My brother has this. Very helpful! Thank you! 😊

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

You're welcome Rachelle. I wish all the best for your brother.

@Rachelleluluful

5 жыл бұрын

Dr. Tracey Marks 😊

Thank you for these videos. Very enlightening. I do have a question, if I may. I have ASD (too many symptoms to list), PTSD & Depression and a background of trauma & loss. A total junker of a "fixer upper." These are all bad enough but worse when they meet at a crossroads, for diagnosis. How do you know how to assess a hope expectation or value for "remission" (I like the term, learned in one of your vids) and what just "is" you and therefore unchangeable. With the ASD being something you can never just "get over?" It seems all too complicated a mess of melted and crossed wiring to find the hope...not for normal, but is modestly happy, really realistic? Is sorting it out possible or even being happy possible? Thank you.

Can you PLEASE make a video on ASD vs Classical autism! Thanks love your content ❤️

KZread videos by experts on autism - aspergers are Tony Attwood and Sarah Hendrick.

Can you make a video on restless leg syndrome and its treatment?

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

here's one I made a while ago kzread.info/dash/bejne/ln6ip6iKnKiviJM.html

Dr. Marks, does ASD get worse with age? I’m experiencing more meltdowns than ever

@MR-qw5wb

3 жыл бұрын

I’m wondering the same thing.

@trashcatlinol

3 жыл бұрын

I have not been diagnosed, but I believe it can, depending on environmental situations. I didn't notice a sensitivity to sounds or feelings until I began to have physical symptoms due to anxiety. I didn't know how a panic attack felt, so I never realized I was having 4+ a day every day for over 5 years. I'm hoping to be able to talk to a psychiatrist soon, as my son has autism as well, and if I know how to deal with this myself, I hope I can talk him through the symptoms. Again, i'm not diagnosed yet, nor am I expert. Just my observations of my own experiences

@Charlieto

3 жыл бұрын

if anything it gets better coz you learn ways to cope better

@jofox1186

2 жыл бұрын

I'm an older autistic adult. My experience is that some elements of ASD get easier because, as we get more experience of the world, and of ourselves, we learn what things work well and what things don't. So I eventually ended up making up rules for myself that help guide me through the social communication, routine and sensory stuff that I find difficult. However, I think in other ways, things can get more difficult, like when age causes us to deal with more medical probelms. For instance, I have a chronic pain condition which has made the autism much more noticeable. As the pain condition and my walking ability have both deteriorated my ability to hide the autism has also deteriorated to the point where I've had to resign from teaching, at least until I can get the pain under better control and learn to manage with a wheelchair etc. So, I think ageing can have a mixed effect on autism. I also got very depressed at the point where I had to resign, but I'm working with a therapist now and doing OK. This has helped me manage my autism better too.

@jessatlife

2 жыл бұрын

Going through the same right now. I feel everything getting worse / more difficult in the last two or three years, especially after the pandemic hit.

I don't have ASD, but I am extremely sensitive to background noise. Not specific sounds , but basically any long-lasting sound I cannot get away from (Except from natural sounds like wind, waves etc, those are fine). It exhausts me at best, sometimes it makes me angry, yet other times it makes me want to cry because I cannot get away from it. I live right next to a road, so I have traffic noise all day long. At work I have a fan right outside my window. I have to walk quite far to get away from the road, as most of the pahts in my area (that I can get to by foot) are parallel to (and near) roads, only narrow bits of forest in between. I use ear plugs when it gets too bad, but I cannot walk around with them all day every day. Who wants to join me moving to a deserted island with no traffic, no loud music and no loud machinery?

I know i have coping for the social stuff, and i got my third overload the past 24h. But it's more adhd. I will go a diagnostic thing tomorrow and i'm less than ready. I'm about to get a mental breakdown and have so much to do ane stress and hunger and already wrote a tldr mail to the psychiatrist. My stress won't go down. I'm feeling misery, my thoughts are literally trash under these conditions. Sleep is important *more humming and shaking*

I..😢 can’t believe it.. I really do have ASD… 😞😭 You.. you are a heroine 🦸‍♀️ ❤

I knew I had aspergers before getting diagnosed with asd. Things aren't better because of my diagnosis but I understand my own feelings and thoughts better. I don't feel like asd is a disability for me, my doc said if aspergers was still an acceptable diagnosis she would have labeled me as such. I feel having aspergers is a super power, and the drawback is sensory problems and social issues. But I have a very controlled environment at home and my household members are aware of my quirks. And my teen son has the same diagnosis so I have a kindred spirit around, at least until he moves out some day. If I had the option to be cured tomorrow, I wouldn't want to be. Honestly.

@newt702

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful. That is how I feel as well.

gonna make some emotion cards for myself

An amazing video as always. I was wondering if you could make a video on the effects of self-medicating with marijuana? I have a roommate dedicated to self-medicating her 'anxiety' issues with it and has been trying to get me to treat my diagnosed PTSD with it and I have refused given what I've seen it do to her. Can you make a video letting people know what the real interactions the brain (specifically anxiety centers and depression centers) have with THC?

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Elizabeth. Did you see my video on marijuana? kzread.info/dash/bejne/lGShuNmjiJSxdcY.html I didn't spend a lot of time talking about self-medication but I did address how THC affects your brain.

Hello! I was wondering if you could go over how to get evaluated for ASD/BPD/BD as an adult? Who would be best to go see if you don't see a regular practitioner?

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

You could start with a psychologist for all of those. The psychologist may have more experience than the psychiatrist since they do a lot of testing.

Are you able to talk about adhd and autism? I continually battle needing and wanting routine while also wanting to change things up. The routine has gotten way stronger but they were strong when I was young. It's just tiring having the two battle each other.

Great video as always Im learning more and I thank you for laying out the information clearly on various mental health issues. I do have a question. One of my parents has for years denied having any mental health issues but as a child I would see thi person sitting an appearing to look like they were talking to someone but just facial expressions and laughing now and then. They also believed they started to have symptoms of other people and that things were happening to their body for example they interacted with someone and then I would heard how they now were smaller or taller. It sounds strange but I cant get them to realize they need help.

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

It can be really tough getting someone to believe they need help. They have to experience a pain point that makes them want to get help for it

@doloresw

4 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you for your reply I appreciate it nd agree its hard to get somone to get help.

If medication can help with the social issues that happen with ASD, I would love to see it brought to market. Seeing other mental disorders having medications to help while ASD doesn't have an official one (except the childhood one mentioned and for more severe cases) has been saddening to see. It would help cut down on the prevailance of alcoholism within people with ASD that can happen due to the intoxication masking naturally the mannerisms. I don't think all people with ASD need to be medicated but having more options on the table would greatly help.

i am not diagnosed yet, on my way to find out if I'm autistic but i never believed i could have ADHD before (i literally didnt know what boredom is ) i started trying out medication (ssri) for my depression. in my experience it made me have worse obsessive/intrusive thoughts and i felt like whenever i reflected on my behaviour it made problems with or for the ppl around me (i might also not have the right support around me) and after about 2 yrs i stopped using medication but ever since then i feel like i have more obvious ADHD-symptoms like forgetting or not being able to finish tasks, UNBEARABLE HUNGER FEELING, super hyperactivity where i keep interrupting ppl or dont let my partner come to word etc but I'm so unsure if this makes sense bc my trauma has been hiding many parts of me so now that i'm working on my trauma i feel the real me coming out more so i have no idea if it acually has a link to the medication but in my brain it kinda makes sense that the medication could have made it harder to keep myself "under control" or mask

Fantastic information. Thank you 🙏🏽

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you David!

Interesting to see that ''gabapentin'' is used to treat sensory issues. Recently I have started taking GABA gummies for a few weeks. My intention was to lower my anxiety, and although I didn't notice a big improvement with that, I otherwise noticed that I wasn't very annoyed anymore at the fridge's noise that usually was driving me crazy.. And I read that gabapentin is related to GABA. So that must be it, these substances really do help with sensory hypersensitivity.

Why can’t their be a video on the difference in asd and bipolar. Direct comparison that is thorough!

Thanks I have this

Hello Dr. Marks. I was wondering if you could do a video on what it would look like, if its even possible, to have bipolar disorder and antisocial personality disorder. Ive noticed since I was young that I was detached from people and even my own emotions in some cases and I didnt feel any intense emotion until my bipolar disorder developed but I still feel the lack of understanding in others emotions or actions when I am in a period between episodes.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

I don't know that I can it looks a characteristic way. This combination will look different depending on the person and the severity of their illness. If you want to hear about antisocial personality d/o, Dr. Todd Grande does a lot of videos on personality disorders. He has one on apd kzread.info/dash/bejne/gGttm9p8mK7Wd9I.html

Bless you.

as for 2022, there's info that Balovaptan failed to improve socialization, communication in adults with autism, sadly

Is there an overlap between ASD and bipolar disorder? I was diagnosed with bp II and I'm on lamotrigine and valporate right now. Surprised to find these would work for ASD, too.

Thanks for the very informative video. My son has been diagnosed with ASD. His lack of caring of how his body feels has always puzzled me. I have noticed that he is not as sensitive as a neurotypical person would be to cold, hunger, being wet or uncomfortable. At 11:12, you refer to "hyper or hypo reactivity to sensory input". Would his insensitivity be "hypo reactivity"? .

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Jan. good question thanks for having me clarify this. It's really two sides of the same coin. Hypo reactivity would be an insensitivity or less reactivity to something just as you describe with your son not being as sensitive or reactive to things like cold, wetness, etc. You can also see the hypo reactivity and facial expressions and emotions as well.

@janets7291

5 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks OK great, makes sense. Autism to me always meant too sensitive. My son has so many of the other markers for ASD that I didn't "get" why he was less sensitive to physical sensations. Thank you for explaining this.

Hi Tracy I just want to let you know that I love your videos. They are very informative, professional and straight to the point. Great job!😊 I would love to go into Psychology but for me at almost 40 in my case I'll be going back to school. I believe it's 7 years to be a psychologist or a therapist at almost 50. Do you think ai still should go for it. Or take up nursing instead which will only be 2 to 4 years.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you IAM! that kind of question take some soul-searching. I have a cousin who started her PhD in her late 40s. Now she's done and she still has at least a good 20+ years to practice. I'm not sure you would get the same satisfaction from nursing if you're really interested in being a psychologist. If you are looking for a shorter route you could become a licensed therapist (LPC). That requires a Masters degree in psychology as well as some other majors like social work. So if you already have a bachelors degree your looking at maybe two years or three if you have to do some catch up work with your bachelors. I think they require a certain number of hours of supervision after that where you work in the field with someone supervising you.

@Moralmediachannel

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your advice. That actually helped me at least get over the idea of being too old to start a career in this field and take on the its never to late mindset instead. Your work is appreciated, I really enjoy your videos. Thank you:)

Please do a video on sensory processing disorder, what other diagnosis it can go with, does it always go with autism, is it a form of Neurodivergency, what creates it, is there a difference in what creates sensory processing disorder sensory seeking versus sensory sensitivity? Same root?

Thank you, this was helpful. I would have liked a trigger warning for the graphics at around 6 min. in though.

I use my Apollo nuero device and it is really helpful, baths and rocking in my glider is helpful

I noticed with my pain disorder, I’m having a hard time identifying my emotions. Like is this worry or depression? I am having difficulty pinpointing things now.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Download the cards and see if they help you better recognize what you are actually feeling.

@sarahberesford4724

2 жыл бұрын

What are the cards thanks

Thanks for posting a video on this topic! I am a school-based therapist and I work with a lot of students with ASD. Are you familiar with Pathological demand avoidance (PDA) is increased, but not universally, accepted as a behavior profile that is seen in some individuals on the autism spectrum? It is not in the DSM but I am finding more parents asking me about this? Any thoughts I'd love to hear your perspective. thanks for all that you do!

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Hi NaTasha! I am not familiar with pathological demand avoidance. I took a quick look though and I could see it being another way of looking at the rigidity and over adherence to certain routines. If someone with ASD has a certain routine and you want them to do something that doesn't fit that routine, it makes sense that it would make them anxious/aggravated to even entertain the idea of doing something different. I know that they can have this problem even if you want them to do things they normally like to do, but still I can see how the very rigid person wouldn't want to do it if it's not being presented the way they would normally initiate it. That's just my thought on how the DSM criteria can still fit with this construct.

@natashabaileylmft1379

5 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you so much for taking the time to provide your insight!

Hello Dr. Marks! And thanks for the video :) I find it difficult that the DSM has Autism spectrum disorder has the only diagnosis, but here in Norway we use the ICD-10, which therefore results in me getting diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome, and not ASD. When I look to youtube and the internet for resources, I just gets confused because there mostly information on ASD when my diagnosis is technically Aspergers syndrome. I also have a diagnosis of recurring depression that could possibly be bipolar, but they struggle to know the difference between hypomania and hyper focused periods. I try to find information about this on the internet, but it's just not that easy. Can you tell me anything about this?

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

With the DSM-V we got rid of the house burger designation but it’s not as though that is the word no longer exist. We just don’t call it that. Instead it’s high functioning autism. Whatever resources are available for ASD should apply to you unless it is for someone lower functioning. I’m working on my next batch of videos one of which is how to tell the difference btw bipolar and ADD. It will be several weeks but if you’re subscribed with notifications, you won’t miss it

@Muting_all_advice

3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Just so you know, your autocorrect changed Asperger to house burger...