I was married to Aspi for 32.5 years. Those years were very happy ( my hubbie died of cancer). He was very educated, had a lot of knowledge . We coud talk for hrs , luckilly we had similar interests. And when he was busy or focusing on something I had time for myself. Could read books, talk to friends on the phone etc. Those were the best years of my life.

@Whytesnake77

2 жыл бұрын

That's beautiful.

@Kelos7

Жыл бұрын

I've definitely had friends who operate with that imperative in relationships of personal time / space who grow to find aspies attractive & kind of specifically start to seek them out because of it. with how few people actually have more than grand generalizing ideals about what women want, less clear than this guy on understanding how those things never work for forming any lasting relationship, how much they generally care about forming a few close connections, & how much women on average...value those kinds of things that go with this condition, seems super weird it's as underdiagnosed as it is. You'd think more plans tofind, protect & foster it would be in place considering its relative rarity...eh, I guess a lot of us are more often self serving pricks too, maybe not. personality within the condition is a big factor too.

@TheLace

Жыл бұрын

Such a blessing! I’m an Aspie too.

@muhammedyasinkalender6576

Жыл бұрын

This guy managed to smile a couple times. I thought making facial expressions were super hard for an aspie

@TF80s

Жыл бұрын

@@muhammedyasinkalender6576 It's a nuanced condition.

I wish 'normal' people tried this hard to be socially acceptable and polite..

@k.s783

11 ай бұрын

It’s hypocrisy when people consider it completely unacceptable to say something negative about the autism community (a community that only exists as a term and not in reality considering people with autism are very different) while at the same time denigrating another community. Lumping together neurotypical people with a negative remark is just as wrong as lumping autistic people together with a negative statement. You either judge someone as an individual or you don’t. As soon as you judge people based on their perceived group belonging you automatically reduce them to something less than they actually are. Few people like being judged based on an artificially construed sociological concept of group identity. Group labels are helpful in research, but are now being misused in society at large in how we refer to others as belonging to identity groups or communities. Sociologists use these categories to study isolated phenomena while fully knowing they are overly simplistic since it by necessity overlooks other complex factors within a given group(s). Unfortunately, after years of moving away from group labels they have now been reintroduced by leftwing radicals and in identity politics. We all know that generalizing about whole populations can be extremely dangerous. Group labels belong in research settings where they are necessary for creating statistical models and data collection. However, group labels shouldn’t be used in everyday contexts to refer to subjective negative traits of a given community. Generalizing about people as a group is unethical whether it’s based on their disability, race, ethnicity or religion etc. Why? Because it reduces them as individuals and it’s potentially prejudiced and insulting to whoever is being targeted. We all tend do this because our brains like to simplify and categorize people. All I’m saying is, it’s not okay to pretend that neurotypical people should get better at social skills irrespective of the fact that NT people are deemed to have a higher social status in society. (I’m not saying that, it’s a cultural claim). It’s equally wrong and potentially harmful no matter who you are negatively generalizing about or directing insults towards. I do these things myself sometimes, however it’s a bad habit and we (as a society) should all move away from generalizations about people based on immutable characteristics, whether those characteristics are generally considered positive or negative. Sorry, didn’t mean to go on a whole rant about this. I just see comments like these too often these days and it’s unfortunate.

@JebidiahKrackedyetagain-xv9hc

10 ай бұрын

It's good to have the word 'normal' wrapped in the quotes marks of punctuation, because the older I get, the more I learn that "normality" is more of a SUBJECTIVE term. (And much of what I ONCE thought of as "normal" is becoming more unusual, and/or subject to harsh criticism and/or mockery.)

This person is more normal than normal people

@smartiboo

4 жыл бұрын

Lmfao good one!

@johnbewty

4 жыл бұрын

In my personal experience, it's similar to the way how folks who learn English as a second language often speak a more "correct" or "formal" version of English than native English speakers. They are trying harder than a native English speaker. (Of course, this could apply to any language, not just English!)

@calleinad

4 жыл бұрын

neurotypical *** not normal

@buckeyebeliever3397

3 жыл бұрын

When you spend a lifetime having your nose rubbed in all your differences, all your social mistakes, you tend to look for ways to escape that pain. If mimicking the accepted behaviors of others will save you from suffering the repeated pain of judgement, you’ll learn. You’ll be made to learn. The world is not kind to differences.

@MrHappySnacky

3 жыл бұрын

finally someone gets it xD

God, he's so eloquent. I wish i could talk like that.

This was beautiful. I'm married to someone with AS and he's honestly the best person on earth.

@jazziered142

4 жыл бұрын

Your experience seems to be greatly different than mine.

@nick23900

4 жыл бұрын

That’s really encouraging. I think I may possibly have it, and I have a huge fear of being alone bc I am bad at making impressions on people and it’s hard for me to get comfortable around them

@lo-fi-meditation

4 жыл бұрын

My husband is an aspie as well. I feel the same way. 🙂

@akawhippy

4 жыл бұрын

Bumblebee Apothecary How did you meet him?

@philife09

4 жыл бұрын

"Don't talk about the sizes of people's head. It's just a lose, lose, lose situation. You can't win. Just don't say anything in that regard."

"Everyone else runs Windows. We run Linux." That's all you need to know, right there. :)

Only problem is that not every Aspie is gifted in math. I'm much more analytical than logical, and nearly flunked my algebra courses.

@josephhage9377

4 жыл бұрын

I’m amazing with English and history But shit at math Although I’m great with shapes

@Maieveryday2

4 жыл бұрын

I'm crap at math, I'd much rather write, I find the art of writing much more beautiful, and nice to convey my feelings on paper.

@trueblissconsciousness2821

4 жыл бұрын

It's true. Some of us are good at Art. I am good at Art, Religious studies and Psychology. And Psychology is actually a really good subject for us because we are good with patterns including patterns of behaviour because we learn social skills cognitively rather than by osmosis.

@user-re3me6xd3s

4 жыл бұрын

Same here man. Like if I have to be retarded why can't I at least be good at something too lmfao

@williamalexis2515

3 жыл бұрын

the one subject that i almost flunked at was history i just never found interested in it i just stuck to art

I just spend my life alone and don't speak to anyone unless absolutely necessary so they think I am just rude instead of weird.

@AdrianMero26

Жыл бұрын

Fr

“I’m married to somebody way better than I could have ever hoped to qualify for” Probably the most adorable thing I’ve ever heard, his wife is really lucky too!!

what an intelligent guy! it's a pleasure to listen to him

I am a dentist, and I found out that I have asperger's syndrome after 31 years :)

His parents really loved him.

I found that I could become more socially passable through alcohol. It doesn't work. Now I'm an alcoholic aspie.

@margchase3043

6 жыл бұрын

nemesisbreakz I’m so sorry to hear this ..my spouse with Aspergers has been in AA for decades and it saved his life career and marriage. He’s not as social now but very much lives a peaceful happy life living within a structured set of self made routines ..he still enjoys every meeting ...best to you pls reach out 😘🙏

@margchase3043

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this extremely informative vid! I never heard anyone mention the clothing and I never made the correlation. It is imperative that my spouse with Aspergers wear extremely soft very particular clothing...a top like yours is a staple of his wardrobe! For his sheets and pillowcases they must be washed (by him) nightly but that’s prob OCD.

@minecraftminertime

6 жыл бұрын

I don't know how you can get addicted to alcohol before you realize that alcohol doesn't help you. If you get off of the addiction, you will be better. You should get help from your family or social workers. I don't know if your story is true since the story is so simple and stereotypical.

@cmptrtube

6 жыл бұрын

Tmi

@anascarlet

6 жыл бұрын

😢 But acting drunk is a social construct too....

This guy just described my life. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 36. And it changed nothing. I like me. I'm a nice guy that believes in loving more than hating and giving more than taking. Yeah, I'm obsessed with history, languages and science. Yes, I'm a bore to talk to - but I'm a good friend. I'm lucky. When I was a "weird kid" I was already a muscular 6 feet tall and already had one blackbelt and because of my weird ways since a toddler had been in more fights than the bullies trying me. The thing is I nearly had to go into a mental hospital as an adolescent from the immense stress and frustration caused by struggling to be normal. At 17.5 years of age I figured screw it. I'm not and I never will be. With all the disgusting selfishness and rampant narcissism in the world today and how terribly people treat one another in everything from driving to dating, I'm thoroughly disgusted and sickened by "normal" people on a daily basis in this clown circus that has seen the devolving of common decency and etiquette. I'll stick with the weirdos. Now let me get back to reading about the gradual divergence of the languages that evolved from the Proto-Germanic mother tongue.

@Kelos7

Жыл бұрын

Just getting diagnosed at 37 myself: you say it changed nothing, and I'm getting a lot of push back for caring / trying from a lot of people (for fair reasons). Are you glad you got the evaluations done? Personally, I just want it for direction of mitigation strategies, better knowing my own brain, external validation of the pathology & the ability to disclose as a safety net or to relate to communities that so deeply care about self-pathologizing instead being invalid & dangerous to allow, so that when I do find community, I'd have another tool in my belt to work with as needed. I don't expect anything to change for how I'm treated, or what I can do, and it's really frustrating dealing with everyone acting like I'm implicitly trying to limit myself by pathologizing, not understanding the neurodiversity model, and framing everything from the medical model's perspective. I certainly expect most to see it from the medical perspective if I need to bring it up, but at least ND people who appreciate the ND model can usually use it as a shortcut to better communicate, no?

@BobSmith-ui4qu

Жыл бұрын

Good for you!!, I have asps and have never been able to interact with others. I can offend people and not even know it. Now at 65 I say F it. I have a beautiful daughter and a wonderful wife.

@dfirth224

Жыл бұрын

Albert Einstein and Alan Turing are now thought to have been Aspies.

@tirididjdjwieidiw1138

Жыл бұрын

i don’t blame you, linguistics is honestly interesting as hell.

@MarsellusWallace

Жыл бұрын

There's nothing about "weirdos" that make them morally superior to "normal" people. They have every bit the same capacity for being awful people.

“Don’t talk about the size of people’s head..it’s just a lose lose lose situation” 😂 this guy is awesome

Just found out at the age of 35 that my dad has Asperger's . He raised me alone and was known for not understanding social cues at all. As a child I was always trying to keep people away from him. So I'm trying to learn about Asperger's. Your ability to speak on this topic is so clear and respectful. Thank you!!!

@tygewellman5352

3 жыл бұрын

I just found out from my 79 year old father that he has it, and that he thinks I have it🤦🏻‍♂️. I was very angry when he first accused me of having it, even though I didn't even know what the hell "it" was, lol 😂. Now I'm looking into "it" more and being open to perhaps maybe I have "it". Truth is, I don't even know what Asperger's is yet.🙆🏻‍♂️ All I know is I'm different and antisocial🤷🏻‍♂️. I'm accused of being stupid yet I'm a genius in many ways.💁🏻‍♂️

I kinda use my weirdness as a filter to see who's shallow enough to not give me chance because of my perceived abnormality

@VOLKAERIN

5 жыл бұрын

Certain kinds of weirdness, yeah. But there still might come times where you'd want to just feel accepted and you find yourself in a space of people who want and expect normal.

"Teachers are a very bad person to accidently embarrass." Made me laugh.

"if you don't do them then you're weird *and no one will tell you why*" This is my life in a sentence 😂

I am an Aspie and I love it. The only thing that drives me mad is that people keep trying to talk me into doing things I have told them I do not enjoy doing. I would never try to persuade people to do something.

I like how he has logically assessed social etiquette and seems to have mastered it. I think that everyone should hear this and try to learn from it, not just people with AS..

@tirididjdjwieidiw1138

Жыл бұрын

a lot of effort + trial and error

This person is lovely. Thanks for helping me understand my son

seriously, who is this guy, I want to watch more of his videos, please respond!

Well *people who have ADHD can also hyperfocus. In fact, it is a quite common trait. ADHD is actually not really a deficit of attention, it's more about how your attention is being regulated.

He's more well-spoken than so many "normal" people.

"You look particularly big-headed today. Oh sorry I was wrong, you're actually small-headed". LMAO. That's gold.

@AdrianMero26

Жыл бұрын

Straight out of a movie

This man seems extremely intelligent, and it is absolutely adorable. I enjoyed every second of this video.

Great parenting this man has had. Bravo.

It's all very well to say eye-contact is good. but some Aspies (inc. me) can't bear to look people in the eye as its too intense. I can fake it a bit by looking at their nose/in between their eyes, but it's hard work, so if people know I'm an Aspie I tend to make less of an effort so I can focus more on the conversation.

I have been a teacher of young adults at community colleges for over 25 years, but only learned of Asperger's about 10 years ago. It was then that I realized that I had engaged with about at least 5 young adults with Asperger's as a teacher and that during my own time in school there had been 1 or 2 in each grade, and that unfortunately they were the targets of bullies, and emotional "cancellation" by teachers. This young man should consider being a consultant---perhaps even start a firm---for school systems throughout the country, including community colleges. I learned more about Asperger's from his video, than I have over the last 15 years. And his dating info---forget Steve Harvey's book, or the Rules Book---he needs to write a book on THAT, too!

Great advice, particularly regarding not embarrassing other people. I once corrected a teacher when I was 9 years old and she held a grudge against me for the entire year. I had to leave my school. It got so bad.

He is so incredibly articulate.

Wow!!! This beautiful man communicated the “spectrum” better than anyone I’ve ever listened to. I truly think I and several family members are on the spectrum.

You are totally awesome and inspiring. My daughter is 34 who has autism and she met a guy who has Aspergers who adores her. They are together 2 yrs now. I thank god for him everyday knowing my daughter will flourish in life and having someone next to her in life who understands. They both are now able to have their kind of “ normal “ life together.Thank you so much for sharing.

i can't believe out of all places, i found the best dating advice in a video about aspergers

This is incredible. He is incredibly well spoken and wonderfully honest. Everyone could use this level of self awareness.

@JebidiahKrackedyetagain-xv9hc

10 ай бұрын

Perhaps....But when it comes to awareness in general, (never mind SELF awareness), I'm forced to observe more people prefer the "route" of Ms. Edie Brickell when she sang that song about 🎶'....Not being aware of too many things, but "knowing what she knows", if one knows what she means...'🙄 I used to HATE that song back in the days it played on all the 'ALL-HIT-RADIO-ALL-THE-TIME!' radio stations, especially, when I heard it for the 37th time in a 5hour stretch, but I have since become much more appreciative of such "Bubblegum" music.

Thank you for your very clear explanation, but may I add that I have always enjoyed the company of people with Aspergers or autism simply because they are incredibly creative, energetic but most importantly they are honest: truthful and trustworthy. It is ridiculous that these people who are considered odd just because they do not play the game. Playing the game, ( the script) well most of the time chit chat is not honest.

When I was 12 and joined a new school, I was really socially awkward and didn't talk to anyone. I'm glad my confidence grew as I got older.

This advice is gold for every human being.

The more I hear about this from people with varying levels of Aspergers, the more I feel like I'm very lightly on this spectrum also.

My 24yr old son who has ADHD/ Autism/ Asburgers, is no way as high functioning in social skills as this sociable young man. My son does have other amazing skills though, his IQ is phenomenal. One of the areas he surpasses is anything regarding Cyber Security, Computer Sciences / software and Networking. He is extreamly articulate too and is determined to make lots of money in Computer software when he finishes his college degree. I truly believe he will too.

@user-xw4od8kb7y

2 жыл бұрын

How is he doing now? I'm the same lol altough i'm stupid as hell in every other area than computer science.

@user-xw4od8kb7y

2 жыл бұрын

I'm 19.

My bf has Asperger's and I love him very much :))

My husband has Asperger’s. He is my best friend and the love of my life. Thank you for helping to educate people 😊

As someone with Asperger's syndrome, I found this really helpful. It’s been a struggle through the years, I’ve experienced bullying and I’ve gone to multiple phycologists, psychiatrists and speech therapy. I’ve been to three different schools in the last 10 years. I’m now in a great school with friends and understanding teachers who’ve had autistic students in the past. My English teacher's sister has Asperger's syndrome, which I find really cool. I also experience sensory overload, and I wish my classmates can understand that. Loud sounds literary make my ears hurt and almost every morning, my classmates talk extremely loudly 😑. My social skills have improved, but I still make a few mistakes every now and then. I’ve never met another person with Asperger’s syndrome, so I feel a bit left out at times, but I’m glad to know there are people I can relate to 😊

@theclearsounds3911

2 жыл бұрын

Loud sounds give me terrible ear pain, too, Many times, I've been in a place with hundreds of other people, and the music was so loud that I was in real physical pain, and I was the only one covering my ears! I wish more aspies would talk about this. It seems to be passed off as "sensory overload", and I believe they are 2 different things. Yes, if too many things are going on at once around me, I sometimes get sensory overload, but this is different from sounds that are too loud. I have not pursued getting an official diagnosis, but based on what I know about Asperger's, I'm sure I have it. Once I thought about it, this explains a LOT about my life.

The dating advice is honestly really solid dating advice for anyone though...! Love this. :)

I grew up unaware that I had it. My mother hid it from me, and I spent my life being different and didnt quite understand why I was "different".

I love this guy's personality!

This is probably the most honestly genuine and realist dating advice I have ever heard! Definitely an incredible person.

Yo this guy has the best dating advice I’ve ever heard.

I’m a gramma of an Aspe... and I think I love you!! Cannot WAIT until I get this video into his mom’s hands!! He’s 13 and struggling .. told me a few years back , while I was helping him get dressed and had to tug a bit putting Tee shirt over his head ... “ grammie, you know I have a freakishly big head!” So matter of factly... you are wonderful!!

The interviewee is amazing, he provides really excellent insights and analysis.

My ex has AS. My experience with her was gold. I miss her terribly. You never know what you have until they are gone. One of the best women I have ever dated. And I messed up. 😔

@johedges5946

10 ай бұрын

hello, same here. I was wirh this wonderful man for 2 years. I lost him - neither of us knew about Asbergers at the time. I loved his honesty, his integrity and his authenticity. i do not need to love again, he'll be in my heart til it stops

I cried as soon I got to the end because you don’t know how much I have suffered because of this. I cry now knowing that I have Asperger’s syndrome. I didn’t know this for 20 years! So thank you for all of information because now I can do something about it.

A close relative of mine was diagnosed with Autism at age three -age 16 now and no one believes he’s Autistic b/c he speaks eloquently and no longer bangs his head against the wall -so happy for this information-you are describing the Autistic person I know and love Thank you very much !!

Most of the time you can’t even tell there’s something different with them especially when they get older. They’re honestly really intelligent and observe things more often than you think.

It’s so hard trying so hard to be the best and kindest person you can be with Aspergers when it feels like everyone else around doesn’t really care

I didn't know I had Asperger's until I was in my Fifties -- sadly, too late to do much about my horribly stunted social skills. Eye contact is still my biggest failing (hardwired from my youth -- looking at a bully = even more beatings). I'm still trying, though . . . still learning. Also -- you were so lucky to have parents who supported and helped you to improve. Mine just considered me an embarrassment and a mental case. To any parents watching this video in order to try and figure out if your child has Asperger's -- please help them at much as possible to be able to cope in society. They will love you forever.

Thank you for posting this video! I am actually a woman with high-functioning Asperger’s syndrome and I am glad to know that I’m not the only one who has this. It was quite interesting to learn from this person while also learning a bit about myself. I had many social problems in the past where people thought I was mean or weird and no one cared to tell my why because they were too immature to do so. Even teachers were annoyed by me too. There were only a few people who actually cared that I was a human and cared to help me out with social techniques. Thanks to them, I am living a pretty decent life with new friends in Japan. I feel that, as I grow older, I am starting to notice improvements in my mannerisms. If only people wouldn’t be so picky about others and learn to deal with lets just say, certain problems people may have.

A fluent speaker, perfectly dense information-wise and ordered structurally coherent. Top notch.

I am a woman with Asperger's. I was also misdiagnosed with ADD. I LOVE soft things, wolves, and learning. I'm not very good with math or loud, high-pitched noises, but I excel at reading, language arts, and drawing.

He’s extremely intelligent and Has amazing self awareness! I love how he knows himself. I would love to be his friend

My son is an aspie and he is the very best man I've ever known or ever will know and he is also a better man than I could ever be. He makes me proud everyday for his heart, goodness and decency.

This was an amazing interview, I feel like a lot of people always associate an image to people with ASD, when most of us are just like this guy, well-spoken and capable of socialization, it's just that a lot of things require more information for us to understand. I try to interpret it as needing more inputs of data than just a couple bits of information. Really love the Windows and Linux analogy :)

I'm a PA and my boyfriend, never diagnosed as an Aspie, is for sure an Aspie. He is probably the most beautiful person I've ever met and I'm so happy with him. He was dxed and treated as ADD as a kid, but I always I knew it was more than that. He is definitely special to me and the moment that realization clicked with me I was able to appreviate it that much more

I'm an aspie but I also have dyscalculia and dyslexia. I had a 4.0 until it came to maths so it was not a lack of intelligence or lack of effort. I can do maths as long as I have the book in front of me or clear instruction on what mathematical method you want applied to a problem, so no one ever figured out how to help me pass tests as I always knew what to do while being tutored. I just cannot figure out what process I am expected to use on exams with unlabeled problems. So math is not a given for all Aspies.

This guy is intelligent. Thank you bro! P.s you remind me of Peter Parker from spider man.

I was diagnosed at the age of 19 and it really helped me understand why I am the way I am. I'm 21 now and can't help but feel sad that I lost 19 years of my life being a weirdo and afraid of the real world, missing out on practically all of my teen life cause I couldn't interact and didn't know why or what to do.

@Kersycorp

Жыл бұрын

How did you get diagnosed?

Yes, very flexible. Prone to sensory overload. At school I had to sit at the front of the class so I wasn't distracted by what everyone was wearing. The label is powerful. I love being Aspie.

Boy, this gentleman is a great communicator, so well spoken and is a great "explainer". I have a friend who has Asperger's and this video helped me understand a bit more. Thank you.

i got misdiagnosed as bipolar most my life and it never fit in my opinion, then when i became an adult one of my doctors suggested i seem kinda like her son who has aspergers and i should get some testing done. Eventually i was able to see a doctor qualified to do the testing and sure enough my doctor was right.

Thank you! Passing this on to my daughter as I know your words will be of help!

If only everyone was as fortunate to receive early intervention. My husband and I are both autistic, but he had a great support system and his talents were encouraged. He became a well adjusted, talented, and successful person. I was the opposite. I didn't know I had autism until my early 40s. My previous diagnoses were schizoid PD and ADHD. As a child, I was encouraged to focus on fixing my weaknesses such as math and less on my passion for writing and art. As a result, I lost my identity and believed I had no skills at all. Unfortunately I carried that belief throughout adulthood and I never found my place in the world. My career became doing whatever I could just to hold a job and earn a living. My expertise was high masking and remaining undetected, which only further exacerbated my identity issues since I wasn't sure which version of me was the real me. I'm glad to hear that masking has improved quality of life for some, but it didn't for me. It was exhausting to live every day hiding who I was just to make everyone else around me comfortable. I wish more emphasis could be placed on teaching people to accept us for who we are so that we don't have to work so hard to be something we are not.

one of my oldest and best friends have aspergers syndrom with adhd. we had way to much fun. heart of gold!

I happened across this video purely out of curiosity. Aspergers and Autism are being represented more in mainstream tv, but there have also been complaints about its misrepresentation. Anyway, this is a great video. Amazingly clear and insightful. There are lessons in here that we ALL need. This is truly wonderful!

I'm not unsociable I just don't like people hahah

Great video!! Thank you so much! :) I really admire the sensory peace in this video and you're way of talking with full sentences without being chaotic. It's very clear and you give some great advice and a good view on what asperger's is! :)

There is nothing weird about this guy. He is just extremely well articulated and intelligent.

@bizambo100

4 жыл бұрын

You haven't seen him in social interactions, which is where the weirdness occurs. Talking to a camera is not the issue for people with Asperger's.

@28KKaann

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. everyone looks to the ground every few seconds while talking to someone

@S2375wattage

11 ай бұрын

Try communicating with him over text. Try resolving a conflict with him. You'd notice differences

This was a very enlightening video. Only someone with Asperger's can illustrate the condition so intimately.

@stevecooper7883

Жыл бұрын

Not to mention many Aspies are quite eloquent in their vocabulary

Inability to differentiate between important and unimportant signals. Really good way of describing it

Met a guy the other day an engineer who told us he could tell what was wrong with some engines by just putting his hand on it when it was running,he also fixed a heating pipe short term so that a milk factory didn't have to close down while waiting for a new valve to arrive.In a social situation he somed up several points of views in a monologue made up of several opinions from other people.He told he could hear all of of their points of view and it was very overwelming at times.Great to hear this guy with speak also

There are so many "afflictions, syndromes, and diagnoses" that eventually "normal" should become one of those.

This gentleman is super intelligent and well spoken. My youngest will be 5 this next month and around 2 to 3 he was considered high functioning autism ( asperbergers). He learned how to speak 3 or 4 different languages, learned how to read at 2 and knows pretty much several types of animals including 🦕 dinosaurs. His favorite is the hippopotamus. He struggles w communication and potty training. Hes very sympathetic and loves showing affection. He does have issues w eye contact. Watching this guy has been so amazing because it gives me an idea at the functionality that is possible w support from parents and such. Thank you

OMG 16:10 I love the Operating Systems comparison 😂 "Everyone else in the world runs Windows and we run Linux in our minds" ahahahaaa

@triularity

5 жыл бұрын

And most of those social games only run on Windows.

This was so good man. As a fellow aspie, hearing encouragement and guidence to every day life from an aspie wasTHE BEST thing in a loong time. The only motivational speech that works on me. I can relate to absolutely everything he says and he confirms so much of my struggles! Like damn! He could've done a whole series of an aspies guide to life and I would study that shit like a holy scripture! Very grateful for this short video, I feel much stronger now!

what a sharp , good looking fella. Your way ahead of me and I'm 65.

Very articulate, smart, thoughtful and wise beyond his years. Thank you for sharing your bright light on this subject. Such a blessing for me as a mom to an aspie son who was diagnosed at the age of 20, just a year ago. I learned a great deal from your presentation. Very well done.

“The inability to learn social skills through osmosis” I LOVE THAT WORDING SM

I absolutely adore this man and his message I just want to say thank you to your parents for doing a phenomenal job at helping you navigate this journey and seeing this as a gift as instead of a curse because you are an incredible human being I have re-posted this video I hope everyone who comes in contact with me is able to take the time to watch it and learn because this is the best video I’ve seen in a very long time very inspirational I do want to say that I posted that above comment before I got to the end of this video so I returned to say this… What a sweet young man and it almost broke my heart to hear him apologizing for being different and for trying to be apologetic for anyone that has These differences. For me that is a great sign that society must learn to adapt to differences and see them as gifts instead of liabilities. Yes it is true there are a lot of people who are different and I actually believe that I know somebody and I’ve known this person for 32 years and I do believe he has Asperger‘s. I don’t see that as a disadvantage and explains to me why he has a sense of childlike wonder or at least he did when he was younger. And let me tell you how this plays out when a person is not diagnosed or they’re unaware and they didn’t have the support or the guidance from their community or their family while they were growing up meant to feel awkward, and like a burden… They will grow bitter, angry, hateful. Isolate themselves Overthink Indulge in self defeating habits Beliefs and practices Become abusive to themselves and others And live a life of loneliness ❤

He’s very sharp and aware, high functioning and I would say he’s an excellent young man. He’s probably more ‘normal’ than most ppl I know. Who wants to be normal. he will be a huge success in life. The only thing i see different in him is the slight lack of eye contact.

Soo basically normal people get social skills for free and Aspies need to buy a special DLC to get them

I adore the way he spoke and how honest he is. This straight forward way of thinking when it comes to communicating is refreshing.

Thanks for this video! My mum desperately tried to get me help as a child but the help just wasn't there. I've just struggled on through life and only now I'm 27 am I finally getting assessed. It's really helpful to hear other people's experience and realise that I'm not an alien. Just a different kind of person. :)

Me getting to know I had Aspergers helped me A LOT. I got diagnosed when I were, what, 4 or something? But I were first told about it when I was 14-ish. Were in a normal school where I got bullied heavily. I wish I knew it earlier, because after I explained it to my class, the bullying got decreased by miles. Also, being able to say "I have Aspergers Syndrom, so I don't always realize what I do is socially unacceptable - please tell me when I do" helped me SO much working on my self and maintaining more relationships.

@cameronschyuder9034

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I think parents should disclose this to their children much sooner than teenage years, maybe in later elementary school or sometime around there. Might have helped you be able to find other ways to tackle the bullying if the bullies wouldn’t stop on their own

You gave a pretty good description of Asperger's. I was diagnosed with it some time in elementary school a few decades ago. I see people in the comments saying getting diagnosed didn't affect them all that much, but I'd say my diagnosis had a pretty big impact on me. Both a positive one and a negative one. It enabled me to get help early on, which was a definite plus, but it also led to various people judging me even more than they already did. I'd say the biggest impact though is that it enabled me to have a better understanding of myself. I was able to look up Asperger's and learn about it. It explained so many of the difficulties I had been experiencing. Difficulties I assumed everyone had. I'd say my biggest difficulty was learning manners. It's still a tough one for me. I'm lucky to have people now who understand that I have this difficulty and are able to explain to me that something I just said is rude and why, but for a long time I would just earn the ire of my peers for things I thought were completely innocent statements. Asking someone their age, for example. The one thing in your video I really disagree with is the part about trying to be normal. I was never concerned with what was normal and what wasn't. Normal doesn't automatically mean good or bad. It just means accepted. Smoking is normal, but very unhealthy for you. The airplane used to not be normal, and look how commonplace it is now. Ever since I was six or so, I've just focused on being my true self and being the best me I can be. I believe that society would be a much better place if everyone were their true selves and were allowed to be their true selves.

I love your openness and honesty! I have a 32 year old son struggling right now.

I love the way he speaks. His word choice makes everything crystal clear to me. I wish I could drop the social game with people and have them say what they mean. It's been hard trying to fit in. The only person who seems to understand the thought processes I go through is my mother who I believe to also be aspie.

You are awesome! This gives me so many hopes for my son. My son has AS and you remind me to him so much. God always guide you when you walk with him by his side. Thanks for sharing your story.

Thanks for providing us ‘normal’ people with what it’s like to have Asperger’s and the struggles/benefits that come with it. Such a great interview, wish there were more interviews like this of actual Aspes. Best wishes to you and your family!

Hi great video. my daughter has asperges and gets very frustrated with day to day changes also is very bright. its hard sometimes for her to expect other people and understand them. best of luck to you in the future

@evahoerler2304

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Ann Thistleton You just described my 6 year old aspie/hyperlexic son exactly.

I know someone with asbergers, you can barely tell he has it, and we can have a conversation for hours, no problems.. I don’t hang out with him anymore because they closed the karaoke bar we used to go to, but I see him around town every once in while