One question that really irritates me as a woman is when we plan on having kids. People have zero regard towards how this question can make a woman feel. You don't know if we're struggling with infertility, miscarried, want kids but isn't the right time, want to adopt/foster, or just don't want kids. I know a large part of the time the question isn't being asked in a mean way but frankly unless the person is actively speaking to you about their family planning it's no one else's business.

@LondonOak.

2 жыл бұрын

It's no one's business, plus every time I told someone I don't want kids, they say that every woman wants kids...

@kayseacamp

2 жыл бұрын

@@LondonOak. I'll never understand why people are so "involved" in women's decisions to have children. Last time I checked my uterus is MY uterus.

@sarahsays194

2 жыл бұрын

@@LondonOak. If I ever got that reply I would probably say something along the lines of well since I'm apparently not a woman what am I then?

@1vy-t0wn38

2 жыл бұрын

@@sarahsays194 yeah, and they’re always like “b-but you were born with…OVARIES,how could you not want kids!? It’s the womanly instinct!” Like,ok Derick,you try pushing a baby out of your vag**a. Oh that’s right,YOU DON’T HAVE ONE

@KayRenae409

2 жыл бұрын

Couldn't agree more!!

you know what’s a horrible feeling? Being asked these questions by grown men twice your age and still feeling the need to laugh it off politely rather than put them in their place🙃

@straykidswoo4850

2 жыл бұрын

Not standing up against it cause it will get you in physical trouble and zero sympathy from whoever you ask help from is an even horrible feeling

@decentgrocerybag4003

2 жыл бұрын

@@straykidswoo4850 if you speak against it you’re a bitch, if you do nothing you agreed to it. There’s no winning.

@HyperfixationStation

2 жыл бұрын

@@decentgrocerybag4003 ^^^^^

@Euxiphipops77

2 жыл бұрын

And why do you feel like you need to laugh it off politely? Just tell them to piss off and tell them to look at themselves and mind their own business.

@decentgrocerybag4003

2 жыл бұрын

@@Euxiphipops77 We can’t just tell them to piss off. We will be labelled as bitches and hard to work with, lose good connections, risk being followed after the interview, harassed and so many more possibilities that seem wild but are way too real. Telling someone physically bigger than you and more influential to piss off is a death wish.

I think the toughest thing is realizing that as women, we say or receive the same things from our female peers. It’s just as much an issue with women/girls making their own community self-conscious and uncomfortable with an image of what a woman “should” be.

@Cat-kj1be

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! And don't be labeling them if they are working in fast food. I had an older woman say 'If you stayed in school, you would have a better job.' 🙄I had my Bachelors degree for about 3 yrs by then.

@kittenmimi5326

2 жыл бұрын

I think a lot of these question are from women directed towards women yeah...

@francinev3971

2 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY. in my case, it comes from my own mom too who's supposed to be a role model for me as the closest fellow female in my life. Apparently, I act too masculine for them and I should be more ladylike (I really don't want to and I just want to be comfortable, not minding gender roles)

@RoronoaEmi

2 жыл бұрын

@@francinev3971 My mom is exactly the same way. She has a lot of good advice, but I found that much of it did more harm than good when I was a girl and young woman. We can be classy and dress/appear in a way that is appropriate for the situation but still be comfortable in our own skins. Sweat pants aren't appropriate for a dressy event, but that doesn't mean I can't wear a pant suit instead of a cocktail dress and heels. I really didn't find my own style until I was in my twenties. And at 30, married, and a mother myself, my mom still nitpicks me. But I've gotten better at standing my ground and knowing myself. And she's gotten better at realizing when to back off. Hoping things with your mom get easier.

@beltashazzar5277

2 жыл бұрын

It’s true, people of the same sex can be vicious towards their peers. I mean, just look at what happens to boys who don’t act like other boys expect them to. They’re harassed pretty much throughout their youth and then they have much lower chances of getting a mate in adulthood because women generally prefer a certain stereotype of men. And quite often they might get belittled by their girlfriend for not being ‘man’ enough (Lady Macbeth style - I’ve seen my own mother do this to my father and have witnessed him literally restraining himself from getting physical and removing himself when she goes ‘Other men would do x-y-z for their wife’ amongst other things). Sadly, people don’t just need to fight ‘the others’ they need to constantly resist their peers, who’re meant to be supportive and understanding.

"Yeah, my outfit does look bad, but yours is worse" Fucking legend

Every single one of them hesitated on the question "are you a feminist?" Because people have forgotten what the definition of the word is, and they now confuse it with misandry.

@strixthebasiliskandhalfphoenix

2 жыл бұрын

soo true ... at my side of the world being a feminist it's like a sin.. here arrange marriages are a norm where people go on looking for women who are NOT feminists .. like a whole survey whether u are or u are not in fact a feminist , whether u believe u have rights or not.. and yes alot of feminists' themselves have forgotten the actuall meanig .. alot of feminists' ive met so far in my society are in fact misandrists, but i can't happen to blame them the society i live in is in fact alot misogynist it self .. and to be honest not only men here are against women speaking up but alot of women themselves are against women speaking for themselves ... messed up world

@calyco2381

2 жыл бұрын

@@strixthebasiliskandhalfphoenix yes. That called internalized misogyny.

@forgetfulstranger

2 жыл бұрын

Feminism is especially a sensitive topic in South Korea

@beepingbeepbeep3413

2 жыл бұрын

Feminism is considered as equal to feminazis in SK

@liandrysanguish3103

2 жыл бұрын

It's because the radical feminism overshadows the innocent one, just open reddit and look up for anything related to feminism, what you will find is hatred after hatred. Unless the ideology clears out it's problematic parts I don't see it ever succeeding tbh, and they happen to be quite many on political level. As a guy I wouldn't never call myself feminism, but that will not stop me from striving for a fairer and more respectful world.

The whole period thing always makes me mad because it's very sexist and gives less value to whatever the girl might be feeling. Like assuming that we're mad just bc we're bleeding is hurtful.

@rayezx

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, the sad thing is I would get this from my own mum. But I have to forgive her because she has internalized misogyny. PMS can aggravate already existing anxiety or depression, but I found a lot of my anxiety around that time was because I was afraid my mum (or anyone) would find out I was on my period, so I would feel shame.

@soumya5832

2 жыл бұрын

@@rayezx my mom is also similar and despite the fact she is educated ..I would have become like her if it were not for my father ..

@mr.milquetoast9043

2 жыл бұрын

That remark has always hit me hard even though it's never been directed at me before. As a man I really do find it really hurtful since it assumes that people who do experience periods in general are only mad because of the bleeding and whatnot.

@mediocrebankai3114

2 жыл бұрын

I mean, I feel like if men bled they would be mad about it too. Also the fact that the question is far too personal, like why do you think its okay to ask me something like that? Both incredibly invasive and demeaning.

@devashrijoshi9079

2 жыл бұрын

IKR. That one triggers me the most

They should have done this with adult men. It's really hard, at least as a mom, to watch kids smile and try not to cry as adults are asking them mean insensitive questions. I get what they were going for but, when I was a teen, it was grown men, not my peers that made me uncomfortable. Like, it was easy to tell a boy my age who was being rude to STFU...but the men always came off more threatening.

@anvitamohan7939

Жыл бұрын

Ikr. They are kids darn it. Making them uncomfortable just to prove a point seems like bullying rather than a social experiment

@bpv8816

Жыл бұрын

This is the entire point of the experiment. Teen girls, and little girls alike go through this on a daily basis. These kinds of questions are asked to those girls by ADULT MEN. That’s exactly what is happening here. An adult asking these questions and making them cry or uncomfortable is exactly the point being made.

@anvitamohan7939

Жыл бұрын

@@bpv8816 So we are going to bully kids just to prove a point? What is the difference between those men and us then?

@bpv8816

Жыл бұрын

@@anvitamohan7939 hun its called a social experiment for a reason. It doesn’t make us better or worse. It’s just informational, a lot of the times boys my age(im 17) and even men wont grasp the position they put us in until it’s being done to them. this is definitely not bullying btw… if this is bullying then what would you call the things that we’re told? And the people who say these things irl are definitely not trying to prove a point, they’re dead serious.

@anvitamohan7939

Жыл бұрын

@@bpv8816 they are also bullying and so are these people and advertising it as an experiment for the world to see. If they wanted to go with this concept and prove a point they should have made a scripted skit or something. Grown ups are making children uncomfortable in both scenarios. This is not done. Plus, how do we know these boys who have done that to someone? They are sobbing, are you immune to that? If someone asked such things to girls I would still be angry and I am still angry when these boys are asked these. Both are bullies Two wrongs don't maje a right.

The fact that this is still a very "kind" version of what we get to hear on a daily basis is so sad.. And when we complain about it its always "well they meant it as a compliment" even tho it sticks with you and make your stomach hurt all day. I will never raise my daughter to take any negtive comments from stangers, and I will always listen and be on her side. You dont always have to "make a scene" when someone is acting bad, but I wont raise another generation who feel like they need to agree and laugh it off to feel safe and aproved. So many times I can think back to my teens and think about what strangers have said and get so angry for not standing up for myself. Just because I was raised to never raise my voice or talk back to adults. That ends with me.

@sophiafenger

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, the fact that we should be HONORED and THANKING them for asking such intrusive and insensitive question makes me so angry and sad and disappointed

@celianunn2070

Жыл бұрын

@@sophiafenger That's what I was thinking during this. The responses given were things women were taught NOT to say as children!

@jaky411

Жыл бұрын

Growing up as a teen, my 1st generation immigrant mother grew up and being told to be a goody two shoes people pleaser and I came out as a complete opposite temperament and I respected some of the morals she taught me but also didn’t approve the fact that she never stood up for herself to people that had their way with my mother but preferred to just ignore and keep being nice and generous.

@alyl.9430

Жыл бұрын

We need more parents like you that will stand up for their children against questions like the ones in this video. My grandfather used to ask me questions such as "how much do you weigh now?" starting at the age of 11 and it made me incredibly uncomfortable. Being so young, I never thought that I should stand up for myself, but I was very thankful when it stopped a few years later. I thought my grandfather had just lost interest, but I recently found out that my grandfather actually stopped because my dad had overheard one of the most recent inappropriate questions and swiftly made it very clear to my grandfather that unless he was complementing me in a way that would not make me uncomfortable, then he was not allowed to ask about or comment on my body under ANY circumstances. Parents like you help children build self-respect and feel like they have a support system. That is such a paramount thing for kids. Thank you so much!

@jaky411

Жыл бұрын

@@alyl.9430 I think as a parent, it is a very important responsibility to keep children feeling safe not only physically but also mentally/emotionally. The problems that I have faced being raised in an immigrant household is the notion of children being conditioned at a young age that they are suppose to behave/be obedient toward adults b/c we are made to believe that adults or just any person older know more as well as suppose to set a good example. This is clearly not a reality unfortunately and parents need to step up and let their children know that even their own friends and family members are capable of being toxic and not saying anything will only make it worse…

I got unreasonably happy when the one boy said he would talk with his spouse and if they made more than him he would take care of the house and child. Someone is raising that boy very well.

@oreradovanovi5204

2 жыл бұрын

I was pleasantly surprised, that was the most positive part

@dadadaidk9352

2 жыл бұрын

Fr his parents did a good job

@alphamail8974

2 жыл бұрын

@Louis Kingsta It's different for men and Women though... Women are expected to take care of kids so the question wouldn't even be asked 😂 cope harder

@mcruff3

2 жыл бұрын

@Louis Kingsta Absolutely no one would be "pressed". His line of reasoning is common among all genders lol.

@wormworm580

2 жыл бұрын

I can’t speak on Korea but I did do a unit on discrimination(gender studies? It was mostly societal gender stuff) in Japanese society. There are different ways to speak about marriages, and some of the more traditional terms essentially equate the husband to the ‘master’ or household head while the wife is “house woman” or “inside the house”. Nowadays such terms are rare and generally much lighter terms are used, ones that don’t have archaic connotations. It’s becoming more common for both parents in a family to have successful careers and maternity leave and daycare is a big part of this. The term used for “house wife” is gender neutral, and as society changes more men are going by the same term. There is still an imbalance in terms of things like work life balance though. Usually, women still do the majority of the housework, even when also working full time. This kind of parallels with what the kid said, about how if his wife was his main source of income then he would try to do more, not all or the majority of the work. In the inverse situation, a stay at home wife would be expected to do all if not most of the housework. There’s also workplace discrimination, etc, but things are getting better and are not just archaic as some people expect foreign places to be. I think a lot of Japan’s development in this regard has been stunted by their history with invasion (lots of major cultural shifts that changed their views on sexuality, power dynamics etc, thanks America) and also their culture of “don’t stick out, don’t make a fuss”. Besides hetero couples though I know the attitude towards same sex couples is pretty mild. My Japanese teacher’s sister is gay and when her Japanese in laws met her sister and her sister’s girlfriend(or wife idk) it wasn’t really a big deal. Even if it was, the cultural attitude leans much more towards keeping to yourself if you don’t like something, maybe being a bit passive aggressive, but generally no bible bashing. There’s also the fact that gay couples are generally more prevalent in Japanese media, even if they’re more so treated as a novelty. In a way, Japan is simultaneously more and less progressive than many western nations. Religion is less prevalent and far less extremist, but a culture of “not sticking out” simultaneously softens hateful words and acts, and makes it harder to rally against unfair systems and biases.

that kid bringing up his mbti to explain his emotions is literally the story of my life

@tiaradesilvanita2019

2 жыл бұрын

HAHAHA same here

@loremipsum980

2 жыл бұрын

It can certainly be changed though. I was an ExFx when I was little, always optimistic, emotionally sensitive, and outgoing, and I had tons of friends. But after certain *impactful* events during my teenage years, my personality took a 180 degree turn and I'm now a full-blown INTJ. One's personality is shaped based on one's genetics, environments, and life experiences after all.

@luna-p

2 жыл бұрын

@@loremipsum980 That test is the equivalent of a horoscope.

@salonii6345

2 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@MrBezazel

2 жыл бұрын

@@loremipsum980 Expecting your MBTI to not change as life continues is like saying you’re not bound to change as you grow as a person. Not saying that you were saying this but there’s a lot of people who say that MBTI is fake because they got different results between the years when that’s what’s supposed to happen. It is concerning if someone who is 18 has not changed at all by the time they are 25.

“Why are you so emotional?” “Umm you know all human beings have emotions?” I’M DYING

ENFP boy was precious!😭 "I would discuss with my spouse and if my spouse makes more money than me then I will take more care of house chores and parenting." Finally someone understands that the goal is to make sure someone is at work making money and another is available to raise the children not trying to conform to what society deems as a 'normal' family life.

@mprsnl902

Жыл бұрын

You know his social media:)

@ai_ht5630

Жыл бұрын

I loved him before knowing he was a ENFP 😭👍🏻 I think as a ENFP I can sense who is part of my community 😂😂

@tonik1546

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, exactly, I would just add that it's not even about simply distribution the roles and who makes more money, cause it would be one-sided (though in our society it WILL be one-sided most of the times); it's just that for me I would want to alternate these roles and make it more balanced, for example, I spend some time home with children doing chores, and then when I have some work to be done, my husband replaces me for some time or takes a paternity leave and so on, but it's not quite possible when one has a stable job from 9 to 5 and the other doesn't have any at all. That's why most couples quarrel and can't find the common ground. But I'm really pleased that this boy is ready to communicate and discuss such things with his future wife so he will be a good, responsible partner. Such an understanding at this age, really mature)

“yeah, I agree my outfit looks bad. But yours is worse” best line from this whole vid lmao

@darkacadpresenceinblood

2 жыл бұрын

ikr it was such a mood

@flyingspacebrainedidiot

2 жыл бұрын

I'd argue it was "I'm an ENFP, can't help it"

@adrenalineactivate

2 жыл бұрын

@@flyingspacebrainedidiot yes I like that one to

@yowwowtow

2 жыл бұрын

That kid did not back down at all

@raraavis7772

2 жыл бұрын

I replayed that. I like that kid. 😄

3:08 this was adorable, the way he just completely ignored gender roles and went with what would make more sense for him is awesome. the complete lack of hesitation when he said he would be ok with staying home to take care of the child was really admirable in my opinion.

@notalive5442

2 жыл бұрын

Right? I felt my heart warm at that. We need more people to understand that gender roles don’t matter.

@thevioletskull8158

2 жыл бұрын

That was based

@anotheridentitycrisis354

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely loved that :)

@genderfluidlygay7146

2 жыл бұрын

Same tbh. We need more people like him!!

@carr0760

2 жыл бұрын

It made me unreasonably happy.

I adore how there questions make them visibly uncomfortable. Kinda makes you see that it was not just you, those questions do suck universally.

"well, people have different tastes, you should respect my taste, please" wow, what a good comeback! polite, yet firm in their stance:D

@StreamHypeBoyByNewJeans

Жыл бұрын

Well it doesn't make sense cos' ppl are the one judging your style, not the other way around. So no. Shush

@Commenter339

Жыл бұрын

@@StreamHypeBoyByNewJeans in most western countries, for the kost part, everyone has the freedom to dress however they want and wear whatwever they like. it is only a matter of their taste/preference.

"Why are you being so sensitive? Is it that time of the month for you?" Faced this more than once!

@wolfgangamadeusmozart1532

2 жыл бұрын

Right!! I had a panic attack once and the blame was put on my period

@dracofirex

2 жыл бұрын

"Hysteria" being named after our parts!!

@soakedcroissant1602

2 жыл бұрын

Every.fuvking.time. And now I just don’t show any emotion even to my family.

@lyac04

2 жыл бұрын

Someone mind explaining it to me? I'm girl and I have periods and stuff but, why other girls get offended by this question? Like, if it's not the case you could just say so.

@moon1511

2 жыл бұрын

@@lyac04 During periods many girls have mood swings, sometimes it can make us really depressed, or agitated with little things, etc. Therefore, when we get angry there are many people who disregard our emotions by assuming that its just 'that time of the month' and probably we are having a mood tantrum. This kind of thought process invalidates our feelings as if whatever happened is not a big deal and we our simply overreacting, thats why we get offened.

when they asked him what a “boyish manner” was, I could see him question every gender norm he’d ever been placed under

“Yeah this doesn’t look good but hey you should look at yours first looks way worse” THIS GOT ME WEEZING 😭🤚🏼

“Yes, I agree. I don’t like my school uniform either” 😂😂😂😂😭 but seriously can we get some male people with this level of security on THIS side of the border?

BUAHFHHZ I lost it when the purple tie dude mentionned his MBTI, I never thought I'd witness someone do it✋🏻😭

@Nickilob2006

2 жыл бұрын

Same 😭

@myragingwhormoans

2 жыл бұрын

i'm a scorpion, so i can get a bit wild sometimes 🤪🤭

@mbrunnen04

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr😂😂😂 I was like "mood!" infp here btw :)

@Nickilob2006

2 жыл бұрын

@@mbrunnen04 same :D

@aspannas

2 жыл бұрын

@@myragingwhormoans ???

“I wore base makeup today.” Yes honey. “Well, humans have emotions.” Indeed. “Well, I’m ENFP, so I suppose that makes me emotional?” I felt this in my soul.

@lorranycarvalho9432

2 жыл бұрын

He was perfect! 😭

@salonii6345

2 жыл бұрын

FR

@fireandsomethingsomethings8887

2 жыл бұрын

ENFP community here 🌟

@lorranycarvalho9432

2 жыл бұрын

@@fireandsomethingsomethings8887 you guys are incredible ❤️

@tiffanypersaud3518

2 жыл бұрын

@@fireandsomethingsomethings8887 I was ENTP ten years ago but hey, I get the ENFPs. I am just so HAPPY this lad said it like, "I'm emotional, so the freak what?"

I thought all these boys were very sweet. They were put in an uncomfortable/different situation than they're use to and you can tell a lot of them really thought about every question. It was wonderful to see them reflect on the questions and their answers when the experiment was over. Every one of them definitely left with a different outlook on the expectations women are held to and the comments/questions people think are okay to say/ask. Just like one of them said, they can sound caring, but they really come off as sarcastic and uncaring.

The way they looked so shocked and the hurt was so clear on their faces... That was agonizing to watch, both seeing someone experience that for the first time and knowing girls have learned to go through it all the time without even flinching (which doesn't mean it hurts less, just that it's internalised)

Interesting how they’re basically talking back to the interviewer for asking these questions, but if a woman talked back to a man who asked her these questions, she’d be labelled as “rude,” “un-feminine,” “doesn’t know any manners,” etc.. It goes to show that even if a woman tries to defend herself, no man would take her seriously. These boys keep bringing up “should it be different for boys and girls then?” as a response to the interviewer, but watch what happens if a woman says that. Good video!

@jkv5332

2 жыл бұрын

true!

@adrianramirez6848

2 жыл бұрын

they were not really talking back. they were answering the questions and laughing it off awkwardly which is what i imagine most women would do. some women would get really pissed off and fight tho unlike these guys.

@malachilucky4142

2 жыл бұрын

None of those matters. What other people say is irrelevant. The mind is where the matter is. It doesn't matter what society thinks, it is what is inside your head that controls you.

@eduardolopez5551

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe it depends on where you live on the world? I don't hear that a lot where I live but maybe it could be the case for a place that has supported suppressing women for years? I don't know I would let someone who does live in those areas talk about stuff like this

@althea7181

2 жыл бұрын

SO TRUEEEEE and it hurts like hell

I hate being asked why I look so serious- It’s just my face! I especially hate when they then tell me to smile or say I should smile more

@wlfrndz8743

2 жыл бұрын

joker moment

@daylightchim127

2 жыл бұрын

ugh, i got this a lot growing up and from my own family too :,,( and it was even harder ‘cause i just struggled with coping with what was going on at home

@Eliany1999

2 жыл бұрын

It's worse when you have a brf, people just assume you are angry, no, I just don't have to go around smiling all day

@ob1jakeobi416

2 жыл бұрын

we live in a society...

@candygonzalez6596

2 жыл бұрын

That's right!!! What I do now even if it sounds "irrespecful" it's tell them: "Did you say something funny? If not why should I be smiling all the time??" And I don't care anymore, I guess as I grown up now I just don't let it pass, I don't have to try and be "polite" anymore, You get tired.. but no more

I am a lady and have been asked these uncomfortable questions often. I felt bad as I could visibly see how these young boys were becoming more and more uncomfortable and upset. You could see how they were shrinking into themselves. Now imagine all these women in the world experiencing this on a daily basis. I hope this reaches more people. I would love to see other channels remake this.

The purple tie guy ( 1:38 ) reminded me so much of Taemin from Shinee… His attitude was just very sweet even in such a painful situation.

“All human beings have emotions” !!!

@justuravergekpopluvinfeminist

2 жыл бұрын

I love his answer

@Niki91-HR

2 жыл бұрын

The answer was pretty good.

@growwithbhushan

2 жыл бұрын

I don't have emotions

@Niki91-HR

2 жыл бұрын

@@growwithbhushan and how is lifr without emotions?

@rosalin7747

2 жыл бұрын

@@growwithbhushan edgy

Now let's bring in the parents and have them answer frequently asked questions by parents to their kids that are mentally damaging!

@tetsusumu

2 жыл бұрын

Like what questions? edit: thank you to everyone that answered me i get it now, i dont need any more answers. 2nd edit: this is 7months old and ive read a lot of interesting answers. no offence but ive read enough answers. thank you! Dont tag me anymore plz

@KShipsAnalysis

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@jennies3rdpetdog527

2 жыл бұрын

Yes let's do that

@dyxtopia21

2 жыл бұрын

YES

@rj4510

2 жыл бұрын

Omg thisss

Don’t forget about the “You’d look so much prettier if you smiled more”

We stan the guy with the purple tie

Hearing these questions being asked as a girl made me so uncomfy because of the fact that I often hear them in my everyday life and am expected to answer politely or to just brush them off. The sad thing is that you could see on some of the boys that they felt uncomfortable hearing some of them too... Words really are powerful and I do not stand behind people who throw awful comments at others without thinking about how it could impact them first. Everybody is secretly going through something, so back-handed comments like these only make it worse.

@xXGestoerTXx

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 👏👏👏👏👏 It is so "normal" being asked such questions over and over again😩 Even my mom asked me such questions from time to time🤦🏻 it's crazy considering that these questions are just the harmless ones ..... Sometimes it really sucks to be a Woman😒

@notwerkinginthishouse8634

2 жыл бұрын

@@xXGestoerTXx Feel you

@xXGestoerTXx

2 жыл бұрын

@@notwerkinginthishouse8634 i really hope society will change for the better ... It were the best for all living beings on this planet

@elttttt1490

2 жыл бұрын

@@xXGestoerTXx yeah :( People often greet me by commenting on my weight they say it’s “for my own good” but it just makes me feel bad about myself

@notwerkinginthishouse8634

2 жыл бұрын

@@elttttt1490 Ignore them!

Asking someone "are you on your period" when they're upset is extremely rude and belittling. It is the equivalent of telling someone they're being overdramatic because of the connotation that question has gained from society.

@juliee593

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, because sometimes people are indeed upset because of their period, and that's okay, but the implication 99% of the time is "your emotions are not valid if you're on your period". It's basically blaming and gaslighting the person for having a working uterus... Instead we could all be considerate of people being emotional during their period and take their struggles seriously, and then that question would become okay, because it would imply "are you going through a hard time?" instead.

@scrubkaekz3231

2 жыл бұрын

I think it depends. As a woman I've asked and been asked that. Because we're women. We literally can sense, smell, and know when another woman is upset because of her period so I think we have that right. Example my boss was pissy and snapped at me on the phone. An hour later she's apologizing and literally crying. "You're on your period aren't you?" We get it. Hearing it from a man is like... Not the same.

@BlueDragon-vm1bt

2 жыл бұрын

That's such a personal and private question that I would be very offended no matter what the context was.

@uncreativename4249

2 жыл бұрын

@@BlueDragon-vm1bt like the person above you said, it really depends on who's asking. If any man other than maybe my dad asks, it's rude. If it's my mom, or my sister, it's understandable. Especially my mom, since mine is extremely punctual and her's comes right after mine.

@BlueDragon-vm1bt

2 жыл бұрын

@@uncreativename4249 That's understandable. It also depends on who's being asked, though. Personally I have no exceptions and I would be extremely uncomfortable no matter who asked me, even doctors. I know that's bad and I shouldn't be like that etc etc but that's how I am right now. My point is that no one should assume you'll be okay with them asking the question, no matter how close they think your relationship is, unless you've already talked about it or brought it up yourself

0:35 slay king. That is the correct answer.

as a girl, i really appreciated this. thank you for bringing awareness to what us females go through throughout our lives

The fact that they couldn't answer when asked if they were feminists is so sad. It's seen as such a controversy to say that you're a feminist you'd literally get attacked for even implying that and it's just sad.

@KShipsAnalysis

2 жыл бұрын

It's a good thing. Women asking to be treated fairly!

@mseb3909

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah its a scary topic in Korea. Toxic masculinity is so huge there that men are even offended by the 🤏 gesture.

@KShipsAnalysis

2 жыл бұрын

@@mseb3909 What a joke. They think being toxic masculine is better lol💀

@shakira7301

2 жыл бұрын

What makes you think they support equality in the first place ? Men usually don't like women being equal to them lmao that shit hurts their sensitive snowflake masculinity ego so bad 💀

@mseb3909

2 жыл бұрын

@@KShipsAnalysis well yea cus a lot of men are and since their culture is basically build on it they don't care if they are being toxic

at every question i was about to throw hands fr,i didn’t expect this to upsets me that much😳

@dudaljkk

2 жыл бұрын

@@AlexClayland1232 i said it wrong or smth? english is not my first language so…

@Someone-fo5bt

2 жыл бұрын

@@dudaljkk You said it right. I think the other person was trying to say that you wouldn’t really do it. Don’t know why they felt the need.

@user-vc9ko4ih9v

2 жыл бұрын

@@AlexClayland1232 uhhhh sorry-

@hearts4b1llzo

2 жыл бұрын

@@dudaljkk You said it perfectly fine, don’t worry about it.

@dudaljkk

2 жыл бұрын

@@Someone-fo5bt oh okay,thank u

"Cause I'm ENFP, I can't help it" Lmaooooo me too 😭

I remember the first time some strange man +/- twice my age told me Id be prettier if I smiled more. I didn't know what to say, and Im a pretty talkative person. Then it just kept happening. Instant mood killer🤗

Oh and this isn’t even HALF of the bs most women hear on a daily basis. But I’m really happy that this was brought up, specially the “are you a feminist” one since it has such a negative connotation in Korea because people will immediately assume you are a radical feminist. Keep up the good work 👍

@jamais_vu3

2 жыл бұрын

i agree that last question was a good one considering the contextual situation there

@verjuices

2 жыл бұрын

wsp whitey

@verjuices

2 жыл бұрын

arent you the same person who mocked jin's pronunciation..?

@HyperfixationStation

2 жыл бұрын

@Ruth Zamorano well, "radical feminism" is a subset of feminism that can be described as TERF ideology (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminism) which isn't radical at all, it's just transphobia disguised as "feminism." If someone's idea of feminism doesn't include trans women, and reduces women to their genitalia, it's not really feminist or radical. Not sure if that's what OP was referring to, but that's what the term means if that helps :)

@vamp6869

2 жыл бұрын

@Ruth Zamorano to add on to what Hyperfixation Station said, "radical feminism" or "radfem" ideologies typically revolve around the idea that women (usually means people who are AFAB to them) are inherently better than men, and that men are less worthy or less pure because of their state as a man. There is also the idea that sex work and kink are demeaning, and anti-feminism, regardless of any reason for doing so. Hope this helps !!

I really like this type of videos, it just reminded me why as girls we tend to be so insecure growing up. I heard this types of questions daily when growing up whether it was directed at me or women around. Even if you try to ignore them at the end of the day they will affect you and you start having thoughts like "maybe I should loose weight to look better", "if I behaved more 'like a girl' people would like me more" or "maybe I was wrong for defending myself and I was overreacting because 'women always act like that'"... It honestly f*cks you up real bad and it's hard to ignore those thoughts even when you have grown and know these thoughts are wrong 😔

@aaa-tp6ud

2 жыл бұрын

And it's so integrated in each generation women really do believe in it. I grew up with my mom always trying to loose weight, saying she was "fat" when I didn't see that at all. My grandmother was annoying, too. Was always saying I had to behave more like a girl, the way I sat with my legs slightly open wasn't "girly". Even when I had a friend who was very affectionate and sweet she'd complain when we were hugging or close to each other because she was worried we might 'turn' lesbians. I think what bothered me the most was everytime both my mom and grandmother would say that we couldn't go out at night because "two women and a girl alone at night was no good" as if if a man was there everything would be magically okay. One day my grandma even told my cousin, who was 14, to accompany my mother who was getting some luggage from the car in brought daylight although he didn't want to. Her argument for this was because "he's a boy, he's stronger". Everytime I'm upset, sad for no reason or angry and my mom says it's "probably just your hormones" or "your period must be coming soon". That absolutely disvalues someone's sadness or pain because "op, women have hormones and aren't emotionally steady" I don't know. You could tell it pisses me off a bit. It's a bit worse growing up with a sexist religion where men are put above women, yet if you ask them it's because "god gave us different privileges" yet he gave much more to men than women.. (Sorry for the long text)

@Freyay-yo

2 жыл бұрын

@@aaa-tp6ud trueee like let me just sit how I want to for god sake

@devashrijoshi9079

2 жыл бұрын

@@aaa-tp6ud I do encourage you to stand for yourself. Ik your self later on will question it, but never bother to that voice. This standing up & defending yourself will save you tons of time. I actually have my best friend's mom here telling how I am "living an ideal life" living with no care in the world.. going on walks at evening etc. Although it's not like I don't have my problems, I just tend to not to show it, well... Atleast "prefer" not to...

@NoOne-fb7xu

2 жыл бұрын

@@aaa-tp6ud you mentioning the religion thing reminded me of when my older brothers would pray my mom would cover her head out of respect or something like that and I never understood why and my grandmother when she lived with us would always criticizes the way I dressed saying that my shorts were to short and that was provocative and the way I would sit too she’d say it wasn’t lady like and when I burped too and she would tell me I should try doing my hair more often and would annoy bc for so long I was obsessed with the way I looked and how others viewed me and now that I was finally ok with the way I looked she moves in and starts saying things like this that kinda made me go back to that

@piii6570

2 жыл бұрын

I grew up with 3 brothers and 6 sisters. I have to admit my dad was pretty sexist af sometimes. He would say how women should be dressed up nice and clean. I would play outside all the time with my brothers and sisters so it wasn't bothering me at all. Sometimes I would be told by my dad that I was skinny and shit but I did not give a single fuck. Sometimes my brothers would tell me why don't I leave my hair down. Reality is I just like pony tails. I don't act like the typical feminine girl ig. But it doesn't matter to me. Just know you are responsible for letting your thoughts affect you or not. In the end negative shit like that shouldn't make you want to change if you know it's just ignorant comments.

I really like this experiment. I think they should ask ALL males this, in ALL countries. See how it feels.

3:18 🥺 that’s so frickin sweet, and I mean it should be the bare minimum but like 🤩

the boy with purple tie was clearly so uncomfortable but kept answering all by smiling and being positive/honest about his style and mannerisms and it was quite interesting to see but also quite relatable to some extend, being nervous and uncomfortable but still trying to stand up for yourself (for reference I'm a trans man so I grew up hearing these a lot "as a girl") that was a very intriguing experiment

@forgetfulstranger

2 жыл бұрын

He's so cute

@Percy1800sDetective

2 жыл бұрын

O: Hello, fellow trans dude!

@bazdog4464

2 жыл бұрын

Im also a trans guy

@xenhazenzen

2 жыл бұрын

Yooo trans dude here too so i feel u man

@teumeato

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you love

“Don’t you think cooking is a boys job?” The sudden look of death is his eyes was my everything. His eyes said in panic ‘there’s no right answer to that question’ and he’s completely right.

@MoonCheetahAnimations

Жыл бұрын

Personally, I think cooking is the job of someone who actually knows how to cook (male or female, they just need to know how to cook)

@magacofi

Жыл бұрын

@@MoonCheetahAnimations This. Although, everyone should learn how to cook, even if it's just a couple basic but overall complete meals.

@theshermantanker7043

Жыл бұрын

I mean I can only cook basic noodles, that's enough for me. What's the controversy in that?

@MoonCheetahAnimations

Жыл бұрын

As long as someone doesn't burn their house down when they cook, and it doesn't taste totally horrible. They're more than qualified to be in the kitchen, no matter who they are.

@rays9147

Жыл бұрын

@@MoonCheetahAnimations the way I wheezed reading this

This boy was literally so nice and kind 2:01

I think a lot of these didn't land because of lack of context. 'Are you on your period (or something)?' hurts because it invalidates and trivialises your true feelings exactly during an already emotional moment, as well as affirming a stereotype that most women work hard every month to avoid affirming by literally ignoring pain, acting as if nothing were wrong, mostly so men won't be uncomfortable or view us more as a (gross) woman than as, for example, a classmate at that moment.

I like the answer "I'm acting boyish..." "What is boyish?" "Uh, me...?" That says something about being secure in your gender identity. You can't define what makes you feel like a [insert gender here], you just know that you are.

@magnarcreed3801

2 жыл бұрын

Penis is also an acceptable answer.

@sunnyscript1224

2 жыл бұрын

@@magnarcreed3801 your mom is an acceptable answer.

@Joseh-le4yl

2 жыл бұрын

No. You can define it. The definition is right here: mas·cu·lin·i·ty /ˌmaskyəˈlinədē/ Learn to pronounce noun qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men. "handsome, muscled, and driven, he's a prime example of masculinity" His words don’t prove that you can’t define what makes you feel like a specific gender, they only prove that he didn’t have a ready answer.

@trustfratedwithmuggles3798

2 жыл бұрын

Yess

@trustfratedwithmuggles3798

2 жыл бұрын

@@Joseh-le4yl do keep in mind that the defination of "masculinity" has and does keep changing, it differs to various people. So idr think their argument is "invalid" Just cuz u see masculinity with a different view.

The obscenities that are said or even implied in questions like these is infuriating a lot of times, but if you show any ounce of announce or anger, it’s your fault. “You’re being too sensitive” or “it’s just a joke”.

@cloudsn

2 жыл бұрын

Yup. Classic victim blaming said by bullies.

@ana.twilight

2 жыл бұрын

the amount of toxicity and manipulation on those 2 phrases are scary

@kur0_m111

2 жыл бұрын

fr. this is why im having trouble finding out my emotions back then bc people would talk down on me then I'll become upset, they would tell me that "ah it's a joke, you're so dramatic". young me would ask "oh am i being too dramatic?" and that shit affected my whole life and i couldn't distinguish my own feelings and emotions as if im invalidating myself. but gladly im starting to validate my feelings now a days, no more listening to other people's bs !!

@sawaalbino

2 жыл бұрын

@@kur0_m111 u see..one time a boy classmate called my girl friend "fat", i scolded him, and he said "but, it's true though. Why r u angry?" Then i said, "do u like if i call u stick skinny?(add on multiple insults that really describe him)". Then he just shut up. So, my anger was valid. Everyone else would be angry if they r insulted

@djbella

2 жыл бұрын

exactly!

"Why don't u have one? You're pretty attractive..?" "I am?" wow- I- I felt that bro I feel like that guy...like- even though he knew it was fake I feel like he took some of those questions real and his answers were genuine sadness/anxiety/insecureness

5:10 and what make men think that women are standing around and waiting for a man's compliment?? we never ordered a glass of men's opinion!!

Friendly reminder that if someone asks you a rude question you’re totally allowed to give a rude answer 🤪♥️ it’s a service to society really

@skengels

2 жыл бұрын

It's even better actually. Lol, most of the questions in reality would be followed by the asker interrupting and not caring at all what the answerer thought. Best thing to do is stop engaging, because even answering rudely, though far better than a polite answer, is encouraging them by means of entertainment.

@yeonbinluvs

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. No-one should sugar coat such things. It's really okay to come off as rude if all you did was school someone

@lifefan1

2 жыл бұрын

Ignoring is the best as if you don't even consider them as a human anymore, but I know it is hard to be silent for some people like me 🙃

@Poodle_Gun

2 жыл бұрын

The fear is that they're going to act like you're sensitive, but I guess you can always act like they're a lot of drama.

@macyskaggs3772

2 жыл бұрын

Well I think safety is more important than sticking up for yourself sometimes though…upsetting the wrong guy can get you assaulted or followed home. There’s also the situation of a guy bugging you while you’re at work, showing attitude (whether it’s deserved or not) towards a costumer can get you fired. It sucks but it’s the world we live in unfortunately

The question about being a feminist was pretty interesting, cause I think it can get misinterpreted really easily if you have zero clue about SK. They weren't just afraid of responding to that question cause they're not feminists (necessarily), but because stating you're a feminist can get you very serious backlash in South Korea, as it is seen by a great part (perhaps even the majority) of the population as an unacceptable thing. That doesn't go to say they are or aren't feminists, I just thought it was pretty interesting to see the fear of saying anything at all when asked about it. I'm not from South Korea, so seeing that as a bit of a 'third party' was really revealing about my own society and the global context we live in as a whole. I think a lot of people from around the world would have the same reaction, cause there's stigma and backlash for either saying you are or saying you aren't. It's a good measurement of the way feminism _is_ and is _seen_ nowadays, regardless of right or wrong, and it paints a good picture of where feminism is now and where it's going. Again, saying this without any judgments of value. It's just that seeing it from a 'detached' perspective in relation to SK has made me able to see it in that sort of 'detached' manner in general. It's even interesting that I feel the need to say this, cause I just made this whole comment about how it can be difficult to take a stance and I already now the kind of ideological comments I might get just by mentioning the word, even though the comment isn't meant to talk about the ideology itself at all.

@aishwaryaahirrao

2 жыл бұрын

Perfectly put in words

@barbaravitoriadesandealcan3394

2 жыл бұрын

yeah...

@maiadraconica6488

2 жыл бұрын

South Korea think women are man haters for having short hair so yeah :/

@genderfluidlygay7146

2 жыл бұрын

Very perfectly put!! Thankyou.

@DimaRakesah

2 жыл бұрын

This reminds me of a recent discussion with a man. The topic was the problem of misogyny in a community we were both members of. He felt that we shouldn't use the word misogyny to talk about misogyny because "some people may find it offensive". Giving these definitions a negative connotation just makes it easier to ignore the problem because no one wants to even talk about it.

Oh god the personality of the boy at 3:33 is sooo calming and soothing *chef's kiss * I like himmm!!!! I want a boyfriend like him! He just looks so self-reserved and I like that kind of personality

The very same people saying women are illogical will ask all the illogical questions, say she should worry about those illogical issues. Then turn around and call her emotional and illogical for doing so.

This really opened my eyes, because I’ve actually asked some of these questions and I’m a girl! What this taught me is that I don’t have to be a boy to be sexist to a girl. And just like that guy said, I really need to be careful with my words. This an implicit bias I didn’t even realize I had. Thank you for making this video.

@AliceEcila98

2 жыл бұрын

Strong of you to realise it!! And to make a change instead of denying it. There’s way too much denial of peoples poor behaviours bc it puts them in a bad light, but in reality admitting and committing to change shows just how much wiser and good-hearted that person is and have potential to be!

@althea7181

2 жыл бұрын

"R u on a period" attacked me lol, bcz i ask that to some ppl too (as a joke but still), and im a girl. I felt now how unconfortable that sounds to the listener ;-;

@R3FL3CTI0NS.

2 жыл бұрын

I gotta say, you must be oke of a kind to realize your mistake, admit mistake, and actively try to fix it. Many people would deny it or say that it's fine. I think that's really admirable of you! 😊

@devashrijoshi9079

2 жыл бұрын

Only if my mother realises it like you did

@sarahsays194

2 жыл бұрын

Respect to you for owning up to the mistake and also trying to be better about it. It's its own struggle to just have people accept that they're wrong about something, and then an entirely different one for them to decide to change and be better. Emotional intelligence is very good to have.

I have broad shoulders and thick thighs and I'm 5'5 and I'm a girl. I was often told by my relatives and all about how "masculine" I was. About how I acted as a boy more than a girl.I love wearing hoodies, I'm sporty and I have been always body shamed because I was skinny growing up but now that I eat everyone comes up with "you are fat".I was judged and told whether I was loud or quiet. I became very quiet after all this happened and affected me and then people were like "she's so quiet". THAT'S WHY DO WHATEVER THE SHIT YOU WANT. YOU RESPECT YOUR OWN MASCULINITY AND FEMININITY AND PEOPLE WILL TOO.

@jennies3rdpetdog527

2 жыл бұрын

Louder!!

@lisastolejiminsjams1965

2 жыл бұрын

SAY THIS TO THE PEOPLE IN BACK!!

@disha21_

2 жыл бұрын

i get called out for “acting like boy” for sneezing loudly 🥴🥴

@jennies3rdpetdog527

2 жыл бұрын

@@disha21_ you know people are fucked up

@DimaRakesah

2 жыл бұрын

You can't win. The goal posts are constantly moving so you will always have someone telling you that you should change this or that and if you do someone else will tell you that you shouldn't have.

I started crying watching this… that just goes to show how much these questions are normalized

Honestly , I was screaming in my room to stop with these questions throughout the interview. I know this is staged to show how to face the world when your are female but I was feeling so bad for these guys. Surely this is the first time they are being asked these kind of questions and all came one after another , it's almost like showing no mercy to someone who's not even half recovered. Dang, honestly as I girl I feel strong.

i know this is an experiment, but if anyone needs to hear this: as a male, you do not need to be masculine. if someone ever says that, they have a lot of their own shit to get through that they hate about themselves. you’re amazing. ♥️

@courtney7681

2 жыл бұрын

I completely agree, I think masculinity being a normal thing should be left behind. It shouldn't be a thing to hide your emotions and nobody should have to

@pramada9431

2 жыл бұрын

Tbh I feel like a portion of these questions are also asked to men. Not all of them obv. But questions like,"why are u emotional" or "shouldn't u act like a boy" and stuff asked to them a lot too. I feel bad for these boys even though it's an experiment

@Harkz0r

2 жыл бұрын

Nobody _needs_ to be anything, but I find it difficult to deny that people will respond more positively to you if you inspire them or surpass their expectations, or otherwise make a positive impression on them subconsciously. On the other hand, focusing too much on external perceptions like some sort of performing monkey is not how you become truly comfortable with yourself. I've never been the stereotypically masculine type and I've made my peace with that in my own way. I just try to improve myself day by day.

@Kid_Charlemagne76

2 жыл бұрын

Masculinity is necessary for all men. It's what makes us providers and protectors. There's no need to abandon your manhood just because feminism says it's "toxic." That's just anti male propaganda. Be proud of your masculinity

@pramada9431

2 жыл бұрын

@@Kid_Charlemagne76 tell me u don't know what toxic masculinity is without telling me u don't know what it is. Also u sound like exactly the person who loves to put other men down by saying they aren't masculine enough. It's funny u think we are putting them down.

As girls/young women/older women, it’s just straight up universal. we can be from completely different countries and probably recount the similarities of what we’ve been asked/told throughout our lives by boys/young and older men. I felt mad uncomfortable watching because it took me back to so many experiences I’ve had.

@SakuraMakii

2 жыл бұрын

@@HaroldIsCool based on your name I’m going to assume you’re not a woman/girl. Therefore you speak for not one single person that has experienced this. Your opinion is null and void. And if you are, then your are so blind. It is very universal, you’re just clouded in your own personal reality.

This has been the best video so far to illustrate what women are talking about when they say being a woman is hard. Growing up with this shit EVERYDAY really stumps your mental health.

Poor Tae Sung...he seems like hes been bullied before and already had to deal with that kind of cruel questions and jabs.

5:38 really got me. There's zero way for someone to "correctly" answer that question, much like the others. But that one is just specifically intended to be degrading. My family used to call me fat, so I take that kind of stuff with a grain of salt now, but asking if I'm on my period is a hugely inappropriate way to ask "are you okay" or "why are you upset"

@hennasalokangas

2 жыл бұрын

in a way saying women tend to feel that type of way ONLY when they have hormones acting up as if we cannot be upset otherwise😣

@devashrijoshi9079

2 жыл бұрын

IKR? That question upsets me the most

@timefliesaway999

2 жыл бұрын

@@hennasalokangas yes basically how men see women Emotions = hormones

@DimaRakesah

2 жыл бұрын

IMO it's often a way to dismiss and invalidate a woman's feelings. A guy can say something really rude and disgusting and if she reacts with anger he can blame it on her, imply her anger is unreasonable and absolve himself of blame all in one.

@FlamesAndShadows

2 жыл бұрын

@@hennasalokangas yup, and if we are around our period time then our feelings are automatically not valid, by that logic

Listening to these boys' thoughts I have realised, the world is going in the right direction

@nrag5439

2 жыл бұрын

April fools

@ctashi7081

2 жыл бұрын

Open your eyes and ears. It isn't.

@fabplays6559

2 жыл бұрын

@@ctashi7081 Wdym? Their responses to most questions were very forward-thinking. One boy even said he wouldn’t mind being a stay-at-home dad if his spouse had a more high-paying career than he did and could provide better. Another boy mentions there no longer being a boundary between boys and girls. I think that’s quite impressive considering how far we’ve come.

@alisonmccain

2 жыл бұрын

@@fabplays6559 they mean that in reality it's not like that, these are just a couple of guys they picked out

@Bee17379

2 жыл бұрын

I didn’t need to listen to boy because I know they can relate to questions like theses too so it’s not really that surprising. What is surprising as that they admit since a lot of guys are insecure.

I… had no idea that women go through this. I would never ask any of these things, in fact, I get anxiety over how I make people feel. If I feel like I said something wrong I’ll be stressed abt it and think about it the entire night if I made them feel a bit weird or hurt their feelings. I guess it’s kinda a good thibg

If someone ask you some of these questions and you are not able to insult/ argue with the other person, just agree confidently like: « yes, you are right. What about that? » the person won’t know how to reply. Be confident. Don’t show them weakness, if not they will continue on those weakness .

"why are you so serious?' "are you on your period?" "you lost weight! & you gained weight right?" "WHY ARE YOU SO EMOTINAL?" or any comment about my clothes, these ones are always the ones that really makes me angry, like i can't keep my mouth shut, so uncomfy, and I've heard them way too much in my life and when we reply with an anger tone they just generalize the term"feminist". sending love to all my women out there, it's an everyday fight, stay strong

bro the way their answering it like it’s just some easy answer. When girls retort to these types of questions, we just get more shit thrown at us. It’s a continuous conversation that we just can’t seem to win. It’s not just a one and done deal, it’s constant harassment and then being told to deal with it and not be so sensitive

@shakira7301

2 жыл бұрын

They're facing it for the first and last time, women are used to this shit now that we are tired and we if ww talk back we're getting labeled by some sensitive mf

@pennypurrfect

2 жыл бұрын

@Smallville trust me, it doesn't matter whether you're acting calm in the situation or not.

@kdmac1918

2 жыл бұрын

@Smallville Okay, you're done.

@kdmac1918

2 жыл бұрын

@Smallville figures.

Most of these are asked to everyone regardless of gender😭 I've had my fair share of these questions as a feminine guy myself

0:28 ah he looks genuinely hurt

This is so harsh, but also part of me thinks everyone should do this. Everything is just a matter of perspective. It only takes a little compassion to realize it’s not that hard to be kind. But compassion can be hard unless you truly take the time to try and see from others perspective. We normally only live as ourselves

"i see those questions are frequently asked, and that fact made me feel worse" 🙏🏼 we need more person like him, thank you

@Iminlovewithmycar39

Жыл бұрын

*we should be more like him, people always say we need more people like him/her but it's us who should become better.

One question missing: Why don't you smile more often? You would look much prettier. It is kind of similar to the make-up question, I guess, but it kind of feels different, when you are confronted with that. Why do I have to smile at anybody? Why is my smile making me more pretty and why does it matter? I am not here to please anybody's eyes. I want to choose who I am smiling at and the reason for me smiling.

@Joseh-le4yl

2 жыл бұрын

Did the question indicate that you were obliged to smile at anyone? Every time I’ve heard that I've only viewed it as advice. I know that it's in my power to improve myself, and I have the will to do so, but hearing an outsider's perspective as to how I can do that is very beneficial. If you did said thing, you’d be more attractive. Why do you feel insulted to hear that?

@sophiesantosE

2 жыл бұрын

@@Joseh-le4yl It depends on the whole situation, how that sentence can be taken. Personally, it was usually brought up when there was really no reason for it. I am not trying to be attractive to anyone all the time. If I want to be attractive, I am very aware of the fact that smiling helps. I know my face and my expression when I am not putting any effort in. I don't need to be reminded of that by another person. It can be brought up in a different context, but that would be more like "I like to see you smile" after I've already smiled.

@Joseh-le4yl

2 жыл бұрын

@@sophiesantosE You don't need to be reminded that, but you don't need to remind me that you don't need to be reminded that. I never implied that you had to be reminded that, only that it would be beneficial to yourself and others if you didn't require that criticism to be delivered as a compliment for you to properly consider it. You avoided my question, why do you take offense to it?

@sophiesantosE

2 жыл бұрын

@@Joseh-le4yl It makes me feel judged. That's all. You seem to be personally offended by my statement. You can say it to other women, if you mean it well and they also understand it that way. Women around me usually just roll their eyes at it and so do I. It might be the same problem with being told or asked to wear make-up or not to do so, because "women are pretty without it". Make-up and smiling is not about others, esp. strangers. We can do it just for us.

@Joseh-le4yl

2 жыл бұрын

@@sophiesantosE 1. Know it offends you, but why do you think that would be the case? 2. I'm not offended, only baffled as to why you'd be offended by advice. Why exactly did you think I was offended? 3. “Women around me usually roll their eyes at it and so do I.” Why do you think that's the case? 4. “Make-up and smiles are not about those beside themselves. We can do it just for us.” Those are two different statements. You can do it just for yourself, but many women use make-up for its purpose: to appeal to others, and many women smile at other people.

I had a lot of confused looks when I told my korean friends I was a feminist. They explained that basically, the feminist movement in korea has been completely derailed and taken over by radical misandrists and TERFs. The term feminist there refers to "women first and men are inferior". I was advised to use the term "equalist" instead, or to specify what I mean. Because if you tell a guy "im a feminist", he will likely think that you seek submissive men.

@Thequeenexx

Жыл бұрын

Oh wow, chincha?

@tiarnabananaz

Жыл бұрын

it's sad because the people who say the feminist movement is derailed by radicals and TERFs are mostly boys who have been taught the definition by other boys who are typically on the far right of conservativism instead of women who actually created, advocate and claim the feminist movement. The term 'equalist' is like 'all lives matter'. It helps people remain ignorant and daft on the social movements because they aren't being addressed to what they are causing. I label myself a feminist and I expect people to be comfortable with it as they should want women to have rights/respect and gender equality.

@theshermantanker7043

Жыл бұрын

This actually rings true for feminists worldwide honestly, the name egalitarian or however the fuck it's spelled would suit you all better

@p4ngolin

Жыл бұрын

@@tiarnabananaz yes its usually men who need this clarification for me. I mean that's anecdotal cos its my own experience and not a proper survey. But the men i talked to (of various backgrounds) tend to think feminists hate men, while women are more understanding that there are different "factions"

“You should look at yours first, yours is worse” LMBO WHAT 🤣 I love this guy

for me, as a girl, the one that i most heard in my life is "are you on your period?", it's making me soooo mad... and something that wasn't mentioned here is "what boys are gonna think" i heard it soooo much, im like ??? do i need boys approbation ? no i certainly dont need it

@witchdust8900

2 жыл бұрын

This is so true, like are we not allowed to feel anger without it being invalidated by the question "are you on your period?" And this is part of the reason why women arent taken seriously most of the time and it really is annoying.

@aiiiia9971

2 жыл бұрын

It's so dumb that it's ever even suggested that we need to do things to impress boys, and on the other hand that if we dress up or something it must be for the boys. Who said we wanted to impress a boy? Or anyone for that matter? Maybe we just did it for ourselves to feel good. And we don't need to make ourselves more appealing "for boys" we can just be ourselves.

Awesome to see the young men's feedback and really cool to see such a Q&A being done in a country and culture with a long history of male dominance. They way the young men responded gives me hope that the world is steadily improving!

the ENFP guy (that's the only thing I remember to describe him) is so wholesome-

Just felt the need to say that- normalizing empathy and validating emotions can cause more boys like these to grow into men with these same values and opinions

Hope this experience could help these guys to avoid making certain comments towards women in the future because if they felt uncomfortable with a few questions, imagine what women have to go through hearing this everyday

i like how they are learning abt how women are treated and how uncomfortable it can be and they are understanding. I really love this show so keep it up!

I kept waiting for " you should smile more" or "you're so much prettier when you smile" or "when you don't smile you look angry, so you should smile all the time"

So glad you did a video like this. Even tho topics like these still get empathized a lot these days, it can never be too much to talk about them. Those kind of questions can be hurtful and by teaching everybody that, maybe we could reduce the level of them being asked in a day-to-day life. Thanks Shine Teen!!🥰💕

@0kayts442

2 жыл бұрын

Shoyo youre here too???

@user-dh5pm9bv7n

2 жыл бұрын

I love you Hinata!!! 😭

@shoyohinata5744

2 жыл бұрын

@@0kayts442 AKAASHI??? W-WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE???

@shoyohinata5744

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-dh5pm9bv7n Omg hi random friend😭

@lianicole3704

2 жыл бұрын

AHH HINATAAAAAAAA

the “are you on your period” question always hits me, just because I have attitude or is in a bad mood doesn’t mean I’m on my period, even if it’s a “joke” or they’re sarcastically asking if I still think it’s really insensitive to ask someone that unless you’re really close to them and are both female

@ray_x6959

2 жыл бұрын

bad take

@witchdust8900

2 жыл бұрын

@@ray_x6959 how?? Its a really annoying question because it's like women arent allowed to feel anger without it being invalidated with the question "are you on your period" and its part of the reason why women arent taken seriously and it is a bother to most women. Of course men's anger is never invalidated because they must have a "good reason"

@r00b1t

2 жыл бұрын

@@witchdust8900 facts, I really appreciate that you understood what I was trying to say because I get asked this question very often and even by my own brother which gets really really annoying, because to me, talking about my period or like talking about personal stuff makes me feel uncomfortable and so I never know how to reply or I lie saying “no”

@GaryHighFruit

2 жыл бұрын

Those people are trying to give women an excuse for their bad attitudes. Those dudes refuse to see that women can be crappy people or pains in the but.

I am glad this video was made. So good. It shows things I have been asked a lot. I hope more people see this and start treating girls and women better. We all need to treat each other well - men and women.

Oooh, I love this. Hopefully, people will appreciate more how some comments and questions just undermine esteem in others and passive-aggressively attack and disempower.

THE BOY IN THE STRIPPED TIE NEEDS TO BE PROTECTED AT ALL COSTS OMG 😭😭😭🤚🏽❤️❤️❤️ HES too cute, bless him 💟

Is no one gonna talk about the guy at 1:47 ? He ate and left no crumbs 🔥

Taesung looks like an emotional/shy person. I hope no one’s hurts him. Mentally, physically or emotionally.. He deserves so much love💜

All the boys in this video are so adorableee I felt bad they were asked these questions. But those videos are really good to raise awareness about the way we treat women so I think it was worth it.

remember when my brother was mansplaning a topic I'm deep into and then, when I told him to let me talk, he said "you're being too sensitive, control your hormones, are you on your period" and that freaked me out because it wasn't the first time he said something like that being attacked like that in your own family sucks btw the guys were so sweet with some of their answers that I totally melted with the one saying he is willing to take care of the children and the house ;;;

@karanaher5030

2 жыл бұрын

Wtf is mansplanning?

@elistari1050

2 жыл бұрын

Typically mansplaining is when a man explains something to a woman that is ABOUT women (periods, childbirth, the female experience in general), but some people misuse it and claim that a man explaining ANYTHING to a woman is "mansplaining". Honestly, I'm not a man and I do that to people ALL THE TIME. I'll be telling my dad about something he already knows about ALL THE TIME. So "mansplaining" as a word is, virtually, just sexist. I've seen more women "womansplain" to men ABOUT male things, than I have men to women.

@karanaher5030

2 жыл бұрын

@@elistari1050 I see, thank you for explaining.

@giornogiovanna4140

Жыл бұрын

LMAO he's funny

@giornogiovanna4140

Жыл бұрын

Your brother is a W btw

being asked if i'm pregnant because i feel sick. >_> i have a chronic illness that makes me nauseated all the time, but how convenient it would be if my femaleness would just make me totally immune to any kind of sickness like that. >.

@DimaRakesah

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I once had a headache at work and mentioned it in passing and a coworker asked me if I was pregnant. Particularly in my 20's people seemed to think anything was a sign I was pregnant and that they were entitled to ask me about it. Just stop!

@purplekittigaming

2 жыл бұрын

@@DimaRakesah oof.

@LaRanaMordaz

2 жыл бұрын

Same. Was sick at work for some time and folks kept asking me if I was pregnant. Worse, they didn't believe me when I said no, nevermind that it was just not possible at the time.

@purplekittigaming

2 жыл бұрын

@@LaRanaMordaz oh that's so heartbreaking. i'm so sorry you had to go through that. ugh. i've had my share of intrusive questions/ assumptions about my ability/ willingness/ need to get pregnant and even how many children i was allowed to have. no questions from those people on whether or not i WANTED to have children. (i did, but that didn't make it right.)

Food for thought for many out there. Good thought provoking vid👍.

Women are on our periods 1/4 or 1/5th of our adult lives. (One week every month.) if our emotions are invalid during that time, than years of my life are invalid.

It’s interesting how one of the dudes thought that the “ you would look good if you lost weight” is seen as a compliment/people say that to compliment the recipient. The person saying that should really be on the other side of that statement to realise it’s such a rude thing to ask. You’re basically saying that the other is not pretty now, that they are ugly. You’re implying they are “fat” or have a little “too much” weight on them. It’s a backhanded compliment basically, saying you COULD be pretty, but you aren’t and need to work to be pretty, and backhanded compliments, are not compliments nor caring. You cannot argue saying that it is a compliment because you’re saying you can see that they have the potential to be pretty. That statement holds the connotation of ‘you aren’t pretty, but have the possibility of becoming pretty IF you lose weight.’

@lindsaylambert9297

2 жыл бұрын

Fucking thankyou👏 someone 👏had👏 to 👏say👏 it👏 LITERALLY THOOO AHHH-

@Rre-u1k

2 жыл бұрын

I feel like that's rude and very desmotivating :/ Instead you should encourage the person to lose weight and become healthier but doing it that way is just so degrading :/

@helvete_ingres4717

2 жыл бұрын

so what, it's just an opinion. In parts of the world like America, lit. the majority of ppl are overweight and would obviously look better if they lost some pounds

@grandmastermud

2 жыл бұрын

@@helvete_ingres4717 assuming the majority of people in america are overweight is just laughable

@blabladuweier8654

2 жыл бұрын

@@grandmastermud well if I remember correctly the US has the largest amount of overweight people of all countries

As a girl, I also keep receiving statements like "Why aren't you smiling?" or "You should smile more!" from other people. I am generally a jolly person and I really smile a lot, but creeps tend to take that as an invitation to harass you. I mean, you don't even need to do anything and some would still be catcalling and follow you like you owe then something.

@FlamesAndShadows

2 жыл бұрын

My default face screensaver when the thoughts are miles away is apparently too scary for people with little to no familiarity to approach. XD

@Harkz0r

2 жыл бұрын

I don't really understand the point of questions like that whether you're a girl/woman or not, tbh. Like, you're just... being? Yourself? Why is whether you're smiling or not important? lol you're not doing it as some sort of public service, and even if they want you to be happier so you'd smile naturally, being asked that directly is a surefire way to get the opposite effect. I know I've had people ask me if I'm okay before because sometimes when I'm deep in thought it looks like I'm zoning out or staring into the distance. I haven't had smiling, though.

@GaryHighFruit

2 жыл бұрын

I've been told that, and I'm male. Women are being conditioned to assume they are treated worse. That's non-sensible.

@R3FL3CTI0NS.

2 жыл бұрын

@@GaryHighFruit Bro why are you getting so defensive over this?? Huh, must be that time of month 🤷‍♀️

@Ruby...X

2 жыл бұрын

@@R3FL3CTI0NS. lmao

I love the purple tie guy, I'm honestly proud for having the same mbti(ENFP) as him lmao

I have a "resting face" and there's a girl who used to bully me for it. She'd call me a "bitch" for being introverted and would always judge my character. This experience really damaged my personality to this day because I felt like I wasn't nice enough to people, so I started talking more and laughing more when conversating with people. People don't realize how much words can damage someone's personality and life. I used to be so confident but no more.