Ask a Pastor: I've Been Raped. How Do I Forgive?

In this video we address a very difficult question: How can a person forgive after being raped?

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  • @angelperson1985
    @angelperson19852 ай бұрын

    I’m not sure if anyone is going to read this but I want to share that I also was raped at 7 years old. Never told anyone because the shame that came after made me feel disgusting and confused. I was raped by my cousin who was 12 or 13. His mom knew and sisters knew he raped me because I became pregnant as a result. No I was not taken to the hospital and no, I did not have an abortion. I gave birth without knowing what was happening on the bathroom floor near death. At the time I did not know Jesus or god for that matter, but when I became cold and lost consciousness I died. When I died, I was falling and falling, but I heard a voice that said say Jesus. The voice sounded like it was pleading for me to say it. I said it and whoever voice it was said to find me. I regain consciousness and my aunt was telling me if I died without repenting, I would go to hell. For anyone wondering if this is a true story, I have the line on my stomach to prove the pregnancy. I haven’t told anyone this. No current friends, other family or my current boyfriend. Till this day I have intimacy issues and I don’t find pleasure in sex. I believe god / Jesus but there’s more to it that I fully don’t understand at the moment. There will come a time where everything will make sense through his love.

  • @phantomice367
    @phantomice3672 жыл бұрын

    I was raped at 7. They were a family. They stole my innocence

  • @weazyp.6331
    @weazyp.6331Ай бұрын

    You have blessed me greatly by this analogy. Condemnation and more shame comes when we think we have not forgiven. It is a process. We are not living in Heaven. We are faulty still even after accepting Jesus. Help us, Lord to take the next step in obedience to Your word even when the scars are still there and some days the wounds still feel like they are oozing. Jesus, You are our help. You are our peace. Thank you for this encouragement today.

  • @KTB77777
    @KTB77777 Жыл бұрын

    This was so beautiful. Thank you. And God bless your works.

  • @guadalupelomeli6463
    @guadalupelomeli64632 жыл бұрын

    Pain through years and years anger always on me

  • @Dulc3cr
    @Dulc3cr Жыл бұрын

    Anger is taking over 😕 I try and pray but I can't

  • @immaloveyouanyway
    @immaloveyouanyway5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so so so very much.

  • @boujeestylewithsony8877
    @boujeestylewithsony88775 ай бұрын

    Anger anger anger, pain pain pain , God is healing every survivor 🙏

  • @davidnewhart2533
    @davidnewhart25332 жыл бұрын

    Good video

  • @user-io1pw3wp3j
    @user-io1pw3wp3j2 ай бұрын

    God has gifted me to write for him on this topic I have a newly published book out Have You Ever Been Sexually Abused ( Fall: Forgiving all lust lovers) It also comes with a free shirt It's $34 plust tax everywhere in stores and online For a limited time copies are free

  • @epicmonkey6663
    @epicmonkey66632 жыл бұрын

    Hi hi could you please do a video on this topic when it comes to abuse by family and these are my views could you just do a video that can help to dispel my thoughts and feelings if possible my understanding of the Bible God is all-knowing God before we were formed by this understanding it would convince me that God knew my father would Rape Me placed me in his care now commands I forgive and love my father or I deserve to burn and I will not be forgiven by God who only forgive those who forgive others which means somehow despite my anguish and pain I have to love and forgive my father and then as is also a commandment give thanks in all occasions including suffering how do I praise God in this pain hopefully not for it but I do wonder is it a requirement to praise God for the pain give thanks in all occasions does that mean give thanks for all occasions? Because currently I view God as the enabler of my pain I use a different word to cause my pain enable means for something to happen which is different to direct action causes the suffering please take that into account if you do respond because I do view God as the enabler of my pain because he's all knowing and created my father and placed me in his care knowing what I would experience but places the burden of forgiveness and love on me and threatens me with lack of forgiveness for not being unable to come to the forgiveness like god demands honestly the whole forgive because I forgive you doesn't work with me does this sound right Cathy please forgive me for breaking your favourite Cup ok Peter I'll do that if you forgive Jenny for killing your children that's how it sounds to me is it fair to not forgive over a cup because that person won't forgive their child murderer it just doesn't work

  • @LoveandHoney

    @LoveandHoney

    Жыл бұрын

    Hello :) I experienced the same thing... all I can say is God is patient and is not threatening you He loves you and is working on your heart gently bit by bit to help you understand the goodness of forgiveness...I still struggle with this/I lack a deep intimacy with God that I would like because I just dont understand or have a healthy vantage point for a lot of the goodness He provides/I'm still very dissociated from my emotions.... but what I will say is yes God placed you, He placed me, and He placed His own Son in very painful situations. I used to see pain as a threat but pain doesn't mean the absence of His unconditional love. Jesus went to the cross for the joy set before Him. There is something wonderful that God is going to work out from all our sufferings, He can even save others lives through our testimonies. I write this as I'm going through pain from my own abuse and struggling to not replay things in my mind. It feels hopeless sometimes but the pain like the cross is all overcome. We win in Christ and we are seated in heavenly places with Him. God will carry all His sheep safely home. When I have a hard time forgiving I just tell God "You tell me to forgive help me to do so". Trust in Him and He will carry you through and lovingly, though it may be painful, teach you to forgive. He loves you and understands your suffering. Jesus has forgiven the people who stripped Him naked, mocked Him and ripped His flesh from His bones. Through He is God He suffered and He understands how you freel, loves you and is committed to the journey of your healing and forgiving others. 💕 🌸🌸🌸 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are-yet he did not sin. Hebrews 4:15 Hebrews 12:1 ....let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. Genesis 50:20 NIV The Lord will rescue me from every evil assault, and He will bring me safely into His heavenly kingdom; to Him be the glory forever and ever. Amen. 2 Timothy 4:18 AMP

  • @epicmonkey6663

    @epicmonkey6663

    Жыл бұрын

    @@LoveandHoney im drunk hope understand jesus understood his suffering god gave me to a paedophile knowing what I would exsperiance before i understood that it was evil i had evil thoughts i egnored them where's god the enabler we ttust social workers above god what does that say god the all knowing gave me to my monster how and why should I trust this being who uses you to communicate? how many children killed or tortured by their parents why trust in the all knowing enabler ?

  • @epicmonkey6663

    @epicmonkey6663

    Жыл бұрын

    @@LoveandHoney i was raped by my father but how many parents torture and murder their children why knit children in their womb all i hear is god is a all knowing enabler i really do try to understand but these are my true conclusions and im blunt si i swear im being serious

  • @hambonejaws
    @hambonejaws Жыл бұрын

    Dead people can’t reoffend. Some crimes are not worthy of forgiveness