"True self esteem comes from accepting yourself and doing what you know is right." -Todd Valentine

@LIMITSDESTROYED

5 жыл бұрын

And legend has it so

@jeettrivedi2873

3 жыл бұрын

his last name isnt dating?

@000274400

Жыл бұрын

what if your generation were raised racist...and you are the race they hate...but they think you are the race they love...what then. dating for me (because of the speed) is like watching a slow motion car accident.

@bensoliman19

Жыл бұрын

@@000274400 I get what you are saying, I also used to overthink a lot of this stuff. When it boils down to it, as I grew older, I realized that in some situations I needed to put myself first. Peace and Blessings.

Totally underrated topic.

@momoschmitt1160

5 жыл бұрын

Thats what Julien talks about and only a few get. Apart from that Todd is the godfather of "Social Dynamics".

@fecaldegallo2247

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed, Fam.

@hover_roller_balance_boards

5 жыл бұрын

Cameron Miller circumcision is an underrated topic and how it destroys sexual function long term.

Anyone else wish Todd was their dad?

@rauln9273

5 жыл бұрын

shut up chode

@mrdavidlee07

5 жыл бұрын

LetsGetGirls so you can call him daddy ??

@rauln9273

5 жыл бұрын

he wants to be spank xD btw go to his channel he literally has no game

@socaltop10

5 жыл бұрын

Sh*t, I'm almost old enough to be his daddy.

@redpillwisdomseeker698

5 жыл бұрын

Dad, no. Uncle - hell yeah!

"Proof that I wasn't broken". I cried at this part. I have been asking myself this question for so long now.

@filmbuff4

5 жыл бұрын

yo same, had to hold back tears

@nothankyou818

4 жыл бұрын

bro i almost shed tears myself

@kayletvgaming7096

Жыл бұрын

hugssssss brother

This is the channel I needed to find. I'm 35, great body, handsome, make 6 figures, intelligent, creative, thoughtful, have my own place in San Francisco, work hard, and on paper should be crushing it with ladies. I am so far from crushing it with ladies that it hurts. So many years of working on my "plumage" as it were because I just wanted them to come to me. I was afraid to go for them and for that reason I have very little to show for it after all these years. I'm going to keep coming back and watching these videos and going out for practice until I fix my social insecurities and can actually get the women I deserve.

@zswn42

3 жыл бұрын

I feel this deeply, you know there is way more potential for you but it's like WHY THE FUCK DO I STRUGGLE WITH THIS talking to women should just be in our dna no questions asked I don't get why we have to learn from Todd who is a great teacher btw

@SomeHobo

6 ай бұрын

If you don't mind me asking, how's it going now?

I feel like this 8 minutes and 49 seconds just changed my life.

This is one of the only pick up channels I take seriously. The others are all click baity all show no go

@MrHav1k

5 жыл бұрын

I've unsubbed from pretty much all the rest of them. This is the best.

@SandisGr

5 жыл бұрын

@@afineassgoosebump1727 Tom Torero for daygame and John Anthony Lifestyle for nightgame. I don`t watch a lot of channels but these ones are pretty good IMO.

@codederick6920

5 жыл бұрын

LMAO, John Anthony is a fraud and con artist whose non-hooker lay count is under 10. Yes, he was busted for paying for hookers. He was also arrested for kidnapping a girl in Vegas. Watch his infields. He’s needy and mumbles, which shows a lack of confidence. Here’s the evidence he’s so bad with women that he hired prostitutes:

@salembeats1875

5 жыл бұрын

Codederick where’s the evidence ?

@salembeats1875

5 жыл бұрын

LordBabu I heard rsd is pretty good 👀

“Snatching defeat at the jaws of victory.”

@imranasghar8690

3 жыл бұрын

That's a pretty well known phrase

I'm 32 and finally leaving my mom's house. I've been using the excuse "I live with my mom" for my non-existent sex life. My fear is that when I start living on my own, i'll just come up with another excuse. I seriously need to get over my fear of women and socializing. I'm going to start right now. I've had enough of feeling lonely. I'm entitled to experiencing and sharing intimate moments with women, just as much as any other man is. I did a lot of PUA stuff in my 20's and had mediocre success. Hung out with a bunch of guys and we would go bar hopping. A lot of what Todd says is real to me. A girl would tell me I'm good looking and then I would go home happy, even if I never got laid. Now in my 30's I haven't gone out in awhile because I've lost touch with my friends (careers, marriage, etc.). Need to get back in the saddle, even if it means going out alone. I'm not angry at the world or blame women. I only have myself to blame for my lack of a proper sex life, and only I can change things around. But Todd's advice really helps and is invaluable. "Why be angry at the world? As if the world cares!" - Euripedes

@mattsaunders5033

3 жыл бұрын

Its a phase you will get past it

Your son will be extremely lucky to have you as a dad. I'm 22 and I just realize this problem because this video. Thanks a lot for share your wisdom

I literally can't believe that you had the same issues as I had growing up. I seriously thought I was the only one. Not to mention until now, I did not even know how to put into words what I was struggling with like you just did. Thank you!

@rohitdas1669

5 жыл бұрын

gabriel gonzales haha, we all feel that we are unique in the issues we face, when in reality almost everything we go through is shared with many others. This is the basis of a victim complex. It’s good you are starting to notice it since that means you are now able to overcome those setbacks :)

@dsosmooth1882

5 жыл бұрын

Gerardo Argueta bro i need help give some knowledge ive looked everywhere im in highschool bruh

@Martin-xv

5 жыл бұрын

@Gerardo Argueta "You won't even need to watch any pick up videos" lmao😂😂 bullshit

@ahnaftahmid9115

5 жыл бұрын

Darrion Mccombs so did you end up getting scammed?

I realize that I self sabotage because I feel good about little victories. Now I must take care of this problem. My problem is if I approach 1 girl and it goes well, I don't approach anymore because I am scared to ruin and risk losing that good feeling of victory if I approach more and get rejected by other girls. I need to find my true self worth where I can still feel that feeling of victory even if I go and approach and they all reject me.

@jacopocalcagno7358

5 жыл бұрын

big one

@hexadecimal5236

4 жыл бұрын

YUP! Wow.

@StratMatt777

4 жыл бұрын

Great insights! You do not need victory. That's just your ego. The ego must die if you want to live. You simply are.

@SkyHermit

Жыл бұрын

Same! I thought I was the only one who felt that way

As a college student i was totally ok with who i am, i accepted myself fully and had great success since everything came so easy once you love and accept yourself and just have a good time out there. But as i got older i got massively depressed, had health issues, balded and so on. I am now in my early 30s and i dont have much to be proud of or to offer in terms of material things. I dont have a car, only a very small apartment, a shitty job and that compared with the lower self esteem of balding, being pale let to a huge inferiority complex where i always thought of being not good enough, of not being able to offer enough to be of any worth of to be able to get that girl that i like, since she could clearly do better i thought. Long story short... i worked on it, accepted who i am, worked on my mindset, started to work out, to eat healthy and be thankful for the little things, went to a barber shop and made the best out of what facial hair i got left (nothing on top, but beard) and changed my mindset completely. I still get a bit unsecure when calling numbers i got but i am getting there.... is a long journey and self acceptance is the first step.

@Martin-xv

5 жыл бұрын

I just want to encourage you on your journey bro. I was in a similar situation but fought my way through, it gets better man keep going.

@christiancatedral1141

5 жыл бұрын

Christoph Egger i was in a similar situation a year ago, but things now are getting better. I Started going in the gym, eating healthy foods, focusing on my Nursing career and doing some music. It’s going to be tough, but once you get there, I promise you.. The world is yours. Let’s get better! One-step at a time.

@LiquidfirePUA

5 жыл бұрын

Because your bald, you reflect a little extra sunshine in girl's life ;p

@Bojaxs

5 жыл бұрын

What's wrong with having a very small apratment? I'm 32 and finally leaving my mom's place. Just got a bachelor pad. Less than 600sqft. I'm excited I finally have a place I can call my own and bring girls back to.

@larenzgarrett4936

5 жыл бұрын

wish i could like this more. dont just stop their man, life is what you make. dont settle for your shiity job, dont settle for your no car, tiny apartment. what is it you love. and follow that till the day you die. your either gonna thrive and become more then you ever thought possible or die trying. either way you died knowing you did what you loved

"[...] what I wanted more than anything was proof that I wasn't broken, proof that girls actually liked me." Holy shit I had no idea that a person like yourself had gone through this kind of phase. It's scarily relatable. Also being afraid of relationships and sex. Thank you for being so open about these like these, Todd, it really helps.

This has just as much to do with sex as it does life overall.

You did great in this video todd, love the message and coaching! Thank you

Good video Todd your videos of late have been stellar

Great video. I always come back to Todd for advice. Not a big fan of his style but he is a master in what he does. Thank u Todd!!!!

Needed this thanks Todd!

todd you are doing such a good product with this new subtitle thing!! congrats!! i think now i can buy your product, now i can understand more!! now this makes sence!! ty!!

Amazing video Todd! I love this deep conversation on accepting who you are and striving for success

This is my biggest sticking point. Thanks!

One of your most excellent videos, Todd. Very well put and motivational. Thank you!

I watched this vid like 3 times now. Never heard so much truth in such little time. This is awesome man. I really respect how you handle your insecurities. Keep it up dude

Good stuff Todd. Very inspiring and this helps a ton of folks, even the ones that believe they don't need to hear it.

I greatly appreciate your candor. Self-sabotage is a big one, and the fact that you’re so raw and honest about your experience is helpful to a lot of guys. 🙏

Man. Just tremendous advice. Thanks Todd.

Thanks a lot brother, this is lit af... keep crushing it!

You posted this the day after I start infield. Feeling really called out right now

Your most beautiful video so far, amazing. That intro and background scenery omg 😍

Might be the best video you’ve ever posted 👏🏻

amazing vid, thanks !

Seriously awesome stuff Todd, thanks. 👌👍

This guy is truly amazing. Thank you for such an inspirational video!

wow, couldn't relate more, thks Todd!

Hits home. Thanks, Todd

This was honestly the video I needed. Thanks toddie :)

This was exactly what I needed this morning 👊 This vid has so much great advice

Awesome Todd!

wow, this video really struck a chord with me...thanks for posting.

thank you !! amazing !!

Acceptance. Own it. Let Go. This is such a great video Todd !

wow, awesome video Todd. Btw amazing shot!

Thank for motivation you are absolutely right man

This is exactly what I needed to hear at the exact moment I needed to hear it. I'm smitten with some girl and it is difficult to not just take the ego boost and self sabotage. It's something I'm struggling to give myself 100% to but want to go all out on. Then on a career level I'm pursuing so many opportunities I want to seize onto, but likewise I struggle with the smallest insecurities. Thanks for the upload.

Thank you for this

preached it like a pro. much respect man

Thank you Todd

Dropping some real Gems in this one!! Thanks

So insightful man, thanks

Todd I feel like you was talking to me in this, growing up I was always social and funny and got attention from girls easily, but when it came time to execute I wouldn’t for these exact reasons you outline in this video, thank you alotta times the shit you need to hear ain’t pleasant but you gotta listen

This was one of the most real videos you've made, very well done

Wow. Nice Todd i really had to dig deep to overcome these exact mintle blocks

I like the way the sunlight slowly fades as the video goes on, as if just before something important, passing through the terrors of the night, emerging tomorrow as another man. Thanks Todd!

This video just changed everything...I already knew this but sometimes we need a reminder!

You cut to the core of me, Todd. Amazing!

This channel as a whole is so much more than dating advice 🙌

Exactly what I needed before Sunday

God this shit hurts!! Great content Todd.

Amazing as always...

Ehy Todd.. U are my first mentor (youtube) 4 years ago.. Nice to see u still standing strong til now.. Goodluck in your career

If you like the "inner game" content, there is MUCH more available in my free course "Winnergame" which is available here: toddwinnergame.com . It also has more infield (and UNCUT infield) than most paid courses you'll see. And again, it's FREE

Damn Todd, I felt this video. It felt like you were talking to me directly.

I needed this

Thanks for the video. Really feel it. Often I'd not take a great girl home cause I was insecure about either not getting it up or coming too early.

This channel needs at least a million Subs. Super underrated content.

Good video that pertains to what I'm going through. It's hard to get past for sure, especially when you have 3, 4, 5 hangups at the same time.

watched a lot of your content, most in fact. i only clicked it b/c i'm running out of your other wisdom. this was almost mindblowing.

It's nice to hear that you use it in a therepeautic way bro! Great talk bro.🙏

@MikeHersnt

5 жыл бұрын

@Luis Biel I did bro, did you not understand what I said.

Thanks Todd

Proof that I wasnt broken.... having a girl like you is therapeutic and feels good for you My mother was very abusive to me as a young kid.....jaded me horribly.....next person who treated the same way was my grandma...... 2 women who shoulda been there emotionally were pretty much not......always wondered why I feel like that thanks for clearing this up for me Todd.....I just needed a confirmation

Tod upgrading and leveling up fucking hell mate

The amount of sex/girlfriends I turned down bc of selfesteem issues. I remember in highschool girls texting me ,writing me poems on how much they loved me, and I a virgin turning them down lol.

Wow just the right moment.i just had this girl and ignored her "she is giving iois" self sabotage is real.all hail todd thanks!!

Thanks boss. Working on self acceptance. 👍🤙

Todd is the truth!

These types of videos are what keep me coming back to this channel, because the pick up ones don't do much for me. I feel like I need to thank Todd personally at some point 😅

god damn. thank you todd

Best video I have seen today!

Wow dude. This was awesome.

that bit at the end,.... ooft, so positive!

Amen for this helping somebody see their way all the way through

@shrimpysquad5821

5 жыл бұрын

Professionalism takes a lot of reminders and reviews of all your learnings and fundamentals at your craft just before you set out to do your sort of work.

Thanks, Todd.

Great post!

My god! This describes me so much!

That part at 5:00 about not doing anything after the number is so true..I get many numbers but don't call,text or anything with any of them anymore because I'm frustrated with what comes after and bored of doing the same and same and I'm also insecure about many stuff that he mentioned

1st time is awkward as hell but after that time , sex becomes addictive

Todd. Great composition and frame for this video. Your information is a lot easier to ingest with this format. I feel like in at a bootcamp and you're talking to the group.

@gwho

5 жыл бұрын

What the heck do you mean by composition and frame? The camera settings? The background? The content of the words?

@davidrodrodriguezla

5 жыл бұрын

@@gwho chill bro lol

@Don-hc4gk

5 жыл бұрын

@@gwho He's talking about Todd's masculine frame

@davidrodrodriguezla

5 жыл бұрын

Regarding Todds cinematography. His masculine frame is on point as per the usual.

You are talking directly to me and to so many, and we appreciate you man 🙏🏽 God bless !!!

@wststokes7373

3 жыл бұрын

I used to follow this kind of material, but I realized I was headed in the wrong direction. I wanted my way and not the best way. You can call me crazy, this is completely countercultural, but hear me out this extremely important. And I know it's long, but it's very worth your time. And please open your mind just a minute. Matthew 16:26 For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? Hebrews 11:25 “Choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God, than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season;” Seriously think about that. What's worth going to hell for? 2 Timothy 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. 1 Corinthians 6:18 - Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 1 Corinthians 7 1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Thessalonians Chapter 4 3 For this is the will of God, [even] your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: 4 That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; 5 Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: 1 Thess 5 21Prove all things; hold fast that which is good. 22Abstain from all appearance of evil. James 1:15 - Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: andSIN, when it is finished, bringeth forth DEATH. Revelation 21 7He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son. 8But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. The pleasures of this world seem so great and there is nothing that God has to offer that would be better. Is fornication or anything of the sort worth it if you ultimately end up in the lake of fire? Let me ask you, have you realized that you are not perfect? Many people think they are good person, but one sin is enough to bring eternal hell fire. How do you deal with that sin in your life? There's no way to heaven on your own. Here's what you can do. Romans 3:23 - For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; John 3:16 - For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. 1 John 1:9 - If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. John 14 6Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. 7If ye had known me, ye should have known my Father also: and from henceforth ye know him, and have seen him. Romans 6 23For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. 1 John 1:9 - If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Acts 3:19 - Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord; 1Corinthians 15: 1Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand; 2By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain. 3For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 4And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: Romans 10 9That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. 10For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 11For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. 12For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. 13For WHOSOEVER shall CALL upon the name of the Lord shall be SAVED. 2 Corinthians 13:5 “Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?” Philippians 2:12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. Romans 6 1What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? 2God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein? Think about it. You can forget everything I wrote and call me a "fundamentalist" or get have a new life in Christ. Let me know.

Wow dude, great video.

"True self-esteem comes from accepting yourself." Todd V

I'm listening to this while having a girlfriend and this message hits even stronger... thank u Todd

Very good video Todd

I think this is the core base underlining social or approach anxiety. There is a fear of failure bt on the other end of the spectrum there is a fear of success

Thank sir for explaining that wow

Very interesting tells the true Guru I'm very moved by the speech for reals!!!!

This was great

Once I heard 5’7, I subbed.

Your song choices is sick 👌👌👌

This hits hard