“If you’re a woman and you’re not my wife’s friend, then you’re not my friend.” THIS 100%!

@Maksie0

5 ай бұрын

That's insane. Just be normal, why is this so hard

@Rk-xx1sg

5 ай бұрын

@@Maksie0 Define normal and how what was said here is not normal. I don't however have to agree with the top comment but abnormal by what means is it abnormal?

@Maksie0

5 ай бұрын

@@Rk-xx1sg Normal people would just be friends with people they get along with.

@Rk-xx1sg

5 ай бұрын

@@Maksie0 That’s fair but you haven’t suggested what’s abnormal with not doing that. It of course is totally fine to do as you said get along with and do what you like but why is this the norm?

@Alexa-qn6ke

4 ай бұрын

@@Maksie0normal people wouldn’t ignore their friend’s significant other. 🤷🏻‍♀️ my husband had female friends before we got married, now they are my friends. If they acted like they couldn’t stand me and didn’t want to be my friend, why would my husband keep being their friend? I certainly wouldn’t stay friends with someone who ignored my husband and refused to try to be nice.

I've come to realize this recently: As a single woman, there have been married men who love their wives truly, but also enjoy the additional "conquests" of having other women like/admire them. For them, there's no risk. They have their wife; they're secure. But for a single woman who can sometimes feel lonely and vulnerable, it's confusing. Single men aren't pursuing her, but this married man shows her a lot of admiration and attention. She feels guilty for thinking this way, and he's able to gaslight her into thinking it's all her fault. The bottom line is, I've started to spot men like this and learned to avoid them altogether. You have every right to not allow them into your life.

@sallylara1102

4 ай бұрын

Yes too many mind games chaos & confusion and we know that’s not of God.

@kapibarra134

4 ай бұрын

this whole comment is a mind game , jsut put your anxittys onto god, the reason why women and men do this is because they are searching aproval in the world when we should be seeking conformt and love from god .

As a woman, this was interesting to hear. I agree with your points about physical contact. I went to a bible study group made up of married and singles. One of the husband's would talk to me, which was fine at first. Then he threw a pillow at me and pulled my hair once on an outing. I was so confused. I started to catch feelings. I prayed about and literally ghosted the group out of shame. I was never alone with him, but those actions besides us having a lot in common. Made me catch. Also, 100% agreed about hanging out alone, something my parents always told me. ❤ But I don't think guys and girls can't be friends, period. Just be careful 😊

@redhood5264

5 ай бұрын

I'm sorry that happened. I whole heartedly agree. Boundaries need to be set, and kept by both parties. I have old Military friends who are women and we talk and catch up just like my guy friends. My fiance knows these people and I talk about them in front of her. Just be clear and intentional and boundary set

@lauren1352

5 ай бұрын

He sounds like an inmature guy anyways, pulling your hair? Thats what highschool freshmen used to do to get attention from their crush

@foreverbarbie9490

5 ай бұрын

@lauren1352 Right, that is what I was thinking at the time.

@ShiniGuraiJoker

5 ай бұрын

It sounds like you did the right thing. I am curious about a few things if you don't mind a random asking. With the hair pulling and other flirtatious acts, did you ever tell him to stop? Did he listen at all? What do you mean by "started to catch feelings," about? You should not feel shameful as you cut ties entirely which is fine. If you were/are single, you did the right thing not engaging a married person.

@Faithandseekerofchrist

5 ай бұрын

Sadly I learned the hard way that men and women just cannot be friends and while there is always an exception, they both have to not be attracted to each other other than a platonic friendship for it to work out. Never hang out with the opposite sex alone and if you do it will always be in public. Or better yet make sure you're always with a group of other friends. If they tried to get you to spend time with that person alone and you don't feel comfortable then you tell them that you don't feel comfortable and if they still keep pressuring you then you end the friendship. Unfortunately, we live in a world where we have to constantly put a boundaries or else people will either keep Crossing them and slash or they will get the wrong signals. Not to mention this is also for safety reasons.

When you define the word friend things become clearer about what is right and proper and what isn’t.

Be weary if your conversations and interactions are fruitful. Guard your heart; you know what is immoral and moral.

If she thinks of you as a brother, what she means is that dating you would be like dating her brother. And that's a no-no.

@aperta7525

15 күн бұрын

As a woman who did this until I was receptive to dating, "relationships can graduate, but don't push it".

Wow, I have to be honest. Hearing a man talking like this is soooo refreshing. I had no idea that there were actually men this mature, and I say it respectfully. Many men accuse their wives as being controlling and manipulative if they put boundaries about friendships with the opposite sex. But to know that there are men out there that actually understand this subject, take it seriously and have that respect for a woman that leads to trust, the trust we all need in a relationship, is truly refreshing and encouraging. Thanks for sharing this video!

this video must be god sent. I was just outside with a female friend 1 on 1. Me and Her have no feelings for each other I hope atleast. It started out preaching to her which I still do but now we just chill as friends/homies. Ngl I have to think about this. I pray for finding a true brother. In the name of Jesus amen

Just make sure that you question why you are friends and set clear boundaries. It usually doesn't end well if you become "too informal".

In my experience all the guys I have met fall short in listening and understanding truly deep nuanced emotions. All my closest friends have been female. There was no drama, no inappropriate behavior. We talk about our hopes and dreams as individuals and even discuss our desires for a future spouse to one another. It’s not unwise if you are honest and approach people with pure intentions. I have never been “one of the guys”. I have always enjoyed one on one friendships the most. And when growing up I always resonated with female friends far more because of their ability to empathize and think deeply. I’m not the only young man I know that has females friends and hangs out with them one on one. Honestly this is very very situational, so before you respond to this cut the judgement. I’ve had a person say that I have no testosterone lol. Really. With some girls, I would not go one on one if I feel that they’re not mature enough. End of rant

@kingdomhearts453

5 ай бұрын

@envrie9423 lol what? "No testosterone"...I don't think that's the case😅 I think there is a level of self control that's in play or the fact that some men just resonate well in the company of women more than they do men; And vise versa. Doesn't make you any less masculine. I'm actually impressed with men that can look at a women as just a friend and not make everything about a relationship/sexual. I've sen some fantastic male/female friendships where they just fit so perfectly without the romance and all. I find this trait more common in women though.

@muricanpepe3100

4 ай бұрын

It’s not “no testosterone…” it’s just obvious that you are a homosexual

Had a guy friend I met last year in college who expressed his interest in another girl in his life to me and would talk about her, so I, in turn, confided in him about a guy that I was interested in. We talked about other things as well, but would confide in each other for advice about the other sex to get closer with our respective interests. Sometime over the summer he dropped interest in the other girl and didn't tell me, said we should "hang out" some time and I was like "oh no" but figured I was overreacting because, as far as I knew, he liked someone else. I got more nervous as the "hang out" approached and was like "this isnt a date right?" and he was like "what, friends cant just hang out?" so we went on as normal and I talked about the guy I liked and asked how his girl was doing and he was like "yeah i decided to move on". So I was then like "oh no" again, and by the end of the evening I mentioned that this guy I like and I were getting really close and he just sort of nodded. We went our separate ways, its been 6 months, and he hasnt spoke to me since except once. I am also in a relationship now with my original man of interest.

@TEFFTPATTERN

5 ай бұрын

He wasn’t honest about his intentions, that’s a young guy thing to do

@chaseorosco9017

5 ай бұрын

That’s probably because he was interested in you and may have been dating other girls to either try and deny his feelings for you, or to get you jealous. Maybe a bit of both.

@DrDoerk

5 ай бұрын

That's exactly why males and females shouldn't be friends like that.

@amalphia63

5 ай бұрын

@@DrDoerk Yeah, thats what I learned. Its just unfortunate I was deceived by someone I considered a friend. Our friendship started with him talking about this girl and it just saddens me the game changed for him without warning me because losing friends makes me sad

@DrDoerk

5 ай бұрын

@@amalphia63 100%

I always thought it was possible, but it's not a good idea. It more often than not, turns messy, sometimes the mess takes years to develop😅

I think male/female friendships are a good thing. I think most of my friends have been female. My closest friends are men, though. An added bonus is that if you're both single, friends become the best spouses. You already know each other without faking and have agape (brotherly love), which is *vital* for a good marriage. However, if one of you gets married to someone else, you need to use caution and probably not hang out alone anymore. Just hang out in groups. If you both get married to other people then it's perfect because you have instant couple friends. Still use caution, though.

@omotayosatuyi252

5 ай бұрын

That's what I'm saying female and males being friends is a good thing idk why he is trying to make it look like they aren't a good thing

@dre4ever39

5 ай бұрын

@@omotayosatuyi252There’s no such thing as

@carsonthehill2033

5 ай бұрын

@@omotayosatuyi252I think the main thing is just both men and women need to have self control. Don’t be an idiot.

@omotayosatuyi252

5 ай бұрын

@@carsonthehill2033 If you spend time with time with someone long enough there is a chance that you can develop feelings for your friend it's possible

@carsonthehill2033

5 ай бұрын

@@omotayosatuyi252 maybe true but even then you can choose not to act on them

My only girl “friends” are the girlfriends/wives of my guy friends. That’s how it should be

6:56 this is really key and the only way these “friendships” work, because everything else sets you up to be in a situation where you have to have self-control to be friends… that’s not a real friendship. And if you’re in a relationship, you’re already mentally cheating as you struggle with this. You wouldn’t want it done to you, so don’t do it.

I agree. This reminds me of a friend of mine who had a crush on me. I was able to figure out that she did based on the signs she had shown. I, however, did not (and still don't) have a crush on her. I remember when I told her this, she was heartbroken. Now, it's awkward to be around her. She doesn't keep trying to get me to date her, but that doesn't make it less awkward for me. However, there are some female friendships that I have that are entirely platonic. I'm also a hugger, so I give these girls hugs about everytime that I see them, mostly because I don't see them that often. I completely agree with this video.

Great video. Totally agree with boundaries. We have to be clear with our intentions and protect our reputation and character.

This is mad. I'm a single dude. I have and value my female friends. We talk. Hang out. Catch up - sometimes over food. Other times, one on one.. It's great. It's healthy. I love the company of men and women. I love this dude's channel by the way. He's great 😊

My experiences with men, both as the friend and the gf taught me that it DOESN’T WORK 99.99% of the time. It’s a whole lot of lying to yourself, gaslighting and self-gaslighting. It’s not worth it. If you’re gonna go there, don’t ever say stuff like “that would never happen” because your person will feel lied to, even if YOU didn’t see it coming either. One-on-one time, emotional intimacy, sharing too much, talks past a certain hour of the day… it’ll eventually get weird even if they’re not your type. and I’m gonna be that person who points out that it CAN potentially work if men consider the woman unattractive, and even then the day may come where they’d use her as long as they don’t have to look at her💀 That was very blunt, but it’s the reality, and I’ll always point it out because someone needs to hear it.

@NanaHoneyB

5 ай бұрын

and honestly, if you’re not gonna have that intimacy that eventually leads to weirdness, what kind of value does the connection really have that can’t be replaced by a friendship of the same sex? I’d really reflect on that. I had to.

@haroldgeernian9816

5 ай бұрын

@@NanaHoneyBI'm not a great conversationalist so I find it easier to flow in a conversation with women. Obviously I don't hang out with them alone or anything but as a college student a lot of my friends in classes are women

@stupidretard492

5 ай бұрын

that is really really really smart

@nerychristian

5 ай бұрын

As men, we tend to deceive ourselves. We say things like "I feel more comfortable talking to women". But maybe the reason we feel more comfortable talking to women is because we feel attracted to them, and enjoy being around them. Or maybe they also feel attracted to us, so we are on our best behavior around the opposite sex. But it's a slippery slope. Eventually we start to develop feelings for them, and we become too intimate with them, sharing things with them that we should only be sharing with our significant other.

@Faithandseekerofchrist

5 ай бұрын

I was in the friendship with a guy for a long time and it ended at the end of last year because we both did not feel the same way towards each other. He liked me but I didn't like him back and I tried to ultimately return his feelings but I just couldn't. I made the mistake of thinking that he was my friend when he wasn't and the whole time he was just secretly waiting on a chance for me to be single and for my relationships to fail so he could get with me. I also made the mistake of oversharing and hanging out with him alone way too much which probably gave him the wrong signal. That is my fault and I should have hung out with him in public and I shouldn't have him as a shoulder to cry on. Even though I got with him for only 2 weeks, I saw some really bad red flags with him that I just couldn't ignore and when I ended the relationship I ended the Friendship too because it wouldn't be a genuine friendship. I learn at that point that men and women most of the time cannot be friends and if you're going to hang out with them hang out with them in public and better yet a group setting where you two are not alone! You are so right about don't ever say that will never happen because the truth of the matter is we don't know what will happen and it's just better to have friends of the same gender and if you do have a guy friend he should be your significant other! In some cases you are even better off going to your family. Even though we should want to go to our friends for emotional support, Friends of the opposite gender will basically think of it as mixed signals and then they will think well maybe I can show him for her that I am different and if I hold on long enough then they will want me and therefore it's not really a friendship!

Great video brother! Keep doing what you're doing! You deserve every bit of love from your fans!

This is very interesting, Isaac. I never thought of female friendships in this regard, but hearing you explain it makes perfect sense. Thanks for your wisdom and insight!

In general, I prefer one-on-one meetings with anyone, I give people my full attention. I don't particularly like watching movies together because it feels like an inefficient use of limited time with a friend. Despite this, I agree with the sentiment of the video. Making group appointments is tedious, but I don't need to meet everyone as frequently, and if there is a need in the group, then God will provide opportunities. Avoiding difficulty is not a reason to be unwise.

I'm a lot like you in many ways. This is something that has been difficult for me. My girlfriend is from a different country and has a different culture. They touch all the time and she has guy friends. I thought it was a red flag at first, but as I visited her country and met all of her friends they all do it with each other. She is very understanding and her friends are all wonderful people. This is the hardest part of the relationship so far. We talk a lot and we both feel able to express and understand each other. It just feels counter intuitive to me, but I can see it's truly a culture thing. I do have trust issues from my past, so it's hard to not conflate my feelings and scars with actual instances to be concerned with.

@brianelis9249

5 ай бұрын

You should make sure to ask yourself what you are willing to tolerate. If you are uncomfortable with her cultural hangovers, then you should consider whether you are prepared to continue the relationship. My wife had friendships that I was not prepared to tolerate, which I communicated in an open and loving, but firm manner. She no longer has those friendships and our marriage has never been better, for us both. It's your duty as a Christian man to lead your family, in sacrificial love. This means that you often have to make difficult decisions. I recommend that you lean into this duty, as it will give you greater fulfilment and assuredness on the value of yourself and your partner in the relationship. A God-honouring woman will learn to appreciate your perspective and respect your frame as a man of God. Also, this advice should be considered in the light of Christian marriage. Otherwise, good luck.

@jeffcena9577

4 ай бұрын

@@brianelis9249 of course, I agree. She has been very understanding and has altered the way she interacts. Being honest and loving for both of us really flourishes the relationship. Getting married soon!

@brianelis9249

4 ай бұрын

@@jeffcena9577 That is great news, I wish the best for you and your soon to be wife. Hopefully you both have a long and fulfilling life together. Thanks for sharing such wonderful developments in your life.

It’s a really tough conversation to have, and I’ve definitely been in cases where this has been the result, but… I have a group of friends I’ve made at a Christian camp I’ve gone too all my life (kids camp, teen camp, working, counseling), and they are some of my best friends. It originally consisted of me as the only man, and three woman, but recently two of my guy friends from college have been added to the group through a new years hang out. But besides that, I can confidently say on all of our parts that feelings may have occurred near the beginning of our friendships (not with all of them) in the process of getting to know each other. Given the last 3 1/2 years, feelings have dissipated, and we’re all really good friends. We have an understanding of boundaries without having voiced them simply for how we operate, and how our personalities mesh. We talk about deep things, but nothing that goes to an intimate level that either of us would share with a person of interest. We also frequently talk about potential interests we have in our personal lives. We also all have the mutual, unarguable agreement that my wife will be friends with them, and I with their future husbands, because if my future wife is attracted to my personality, they will get along very well with them, and vise versa. All this to say, it’s probably a very rare circumstance seeing as to how many agree with your viewpoint, and I completely understand and respect it, but based on this personal experience with these friends, I can say I haven’t found issue in our circumstance, that’s again not to say we don’t have boundaries, we do! But God has evidently brought us together as friends and I couldn’t be more thankful for the roles they have in my life, and I’m assured to know it’s the same on their end.

@sinmcgriff2284

5 ай бұрын

Im with you on this. I agree that most situations, it will turn messy IF not everyone involved is mature, and communicates properly. For me personally, lots of my good friendships have consisted of women and men. You can always say "you dont know how they feel" but if were gonna go down that road, we can say that for a lot more cases than they might catch feelings. (you can say they might be just being nice to you just because they feel bad for you or anything in the negative end of the spectrum) I do think that catching feelings can tend to happen as Issac said, but when you talk about it with your friends maturely as soon as it happens, you can have a discussion. Ive had this discussion with people before and the friendship resumed perfectly fine after and were still good friends to this day several years later. I agree with his married take. However I think a good way to go at it also, is to just include your spouse with your friends because if they are your spouse... there is a really good chance that they would get along with your friends and feel good with your group (I should hope). That way your spouse remains a priority and gets the respect they deserve, and you dont need to abandon some of your friends if you do not want to. If anything, it makes all of those friendships better because they now know you and someone you hold very dear to you. There are lots of good points on both sides. Wisdom is to application of knowledge and how you use it. Information is the knowledge itself. To say it is unwise to do something in a situation with as much nuance as this, shows lack of awareness to all of the different situations that people find themselves in, as well as the maturity level that each group of people might have (and im willing to bet that no two pairs of people let alone groups, have the same level of maturity in the relationship as another). Paul said that if you feel like it is a Sin to do something, then it is for you. But that does not mean it is for other people. I think whether something is wise or not, can have that level of nuance as well. After all, our knowledge is all different from eachtother

7:10 this type of “friendship” between boys and girls mentioned in this part can be pretty annoying , because one of them can get confused about the real intentions of that guy or that girl.

Most of my friends have been guys, but usually in a group setting like martial arts classes. I’ve always struggled to find and keep girl friends and I find I can feel more relaxed and have fun around guys but not with girls. I also prefer the company of guys. These are guys I have no feelings for. I would like to hang out one on one and be friends like I would with girls, but I have found that as soon as that happens one or the other develops feelings or the guy was only hanging out one on one in the first place because he was interested in me and I wasn’t aware. However as soon as I make it clear I have no feelings or won’t engage in anything inappropriate or sexual they seem to go their own way, or as soon as I have feelings for a guy I lose interest in hanging out one on one or being close friends with my guy friends, and I think this has shown me (besides countless males telling me) that men and women can’t be close friends, especially if one is in a relationship or married, because of the reasons discussed in this video. I agree with everything said in this video, and to be honest if I were married I would not want my husband being close to another woman nor to be any different to the guy in the TikTok video. I am beginning to see, or God is beginning to show me, how and why I have been wrong in this area. Partly I think the lack of close female friendships in my life is what drives me to prefer male friends, as they seem easier to be friends with, but now that I’ve realised guys and girls shouldn’t have the kind of friendships I wanted with my guy friends, I am realising more reasons why I have preferred male friends.. I think part of me feels validated in some way by having male friends, I don’t really understand why, but also I think part of me is craving intimacy with a man, but I have realised that kind of intimate friendship (not even anything sexual, just emotional and psychological intimacy, being close friends and each others’ support) that I wish I could have with my male friends is really part of the desire for intimacy that I want with my future husband. Something that has made this clear to me is that a male friend who I had no feelings for but loved as a homie/brother started to flirt with me and my feelings developed into very strong feelings of attraction and wanting the kind of intimacy with him I would have with a husband, and that was very unhealthy for me because for one he wasn’t a Christian as far as I was aware and 2 he was in a long term relationship with children and had no plans in leaving his fiancé (they weren’t married but had been together for 12 years and had 2 kids). I assumed when he started texting me every day and getting flirty soon after that he was separated and part of me hoped he was actually a Christian and maybe God would work out a relationship with him for me. I was blinded by feelings and the way this man made me feel when he started getting closer to me, and because I liked him so much as a friend and had so much fun with him in the first place before I had any romantic or sexual (sinful, I know🙁) feelings for him, I ended up getting really hurt and now because he knows what he did was wrong and I developed feelings (I’m sure he had feelings too because he would say he wanted to hang out one on one but we can’t because he was attracted to me but wasn’t leaving his partner and didn’t realise he would like me so much/ that way) we had to stop talking and it still hurts and I miss him so much months later. I realised that I couldn’t be with him anyway, but I wasn’t listening to God at the time. Anyway all of this to say, this video is spot on. I do wish we could all just see each other as brothers and sisters except for the one we are meant to be married to. But in this world and until Jesus returns it will not be that way sadly. I am still working through my issues with God, why I don’t have close female friends even though I try, and why I am so much more drawn to having male friends, but it’s becoming more apparent to me that maybe I really just want that intimacy (including non-sexual) with a man and because I am not married I have been chasing that in male friends when I just need to wait for the man that God wants me to marry, because if and when I am married or if and when my male friends are married these kinds of friendships will not be appropriate or even desired part from with our spouses, so that shows me that it is inappropriate even before marriage even though I didn’t want to accept it. I think emotional and psychological intimacy should only be between a husband a wife, as well as sexual intimacy, and I pray I will have a faithful, godly husband soon as I am already 35 and not yet married… I also wanted to say that I don’t develop feelings for anyone I know to be in a relationship for some reason which is cool, but I realise now why close male/female friendships are not ok… Thank you for this video.

@iloveGod1105

5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this sweetheart! Would you like to be friends? I LOVE making friends!!! 💛 If so, I can share with you my email and from my email, I can share with you my socials and phone number!

@iloveGod1105

5 ай бұрын

I have been praying to God for more female friends too! 🙏🏽

@iloveGod1105

5 ай бұрын

I sent a comment earlier but for some reason, it is not showing up. I wanted to ask if you want to be friends? :) I would LOVE to be your friend and can share my social media and email with you!

I've made a huge mistake opening up to a girl I barely knew. Never ever again. I've also open up to my guy friends and even that you have to be careful with.

I'm here to support. Keep it up buddy!

Good teaching....this needs wisdom and understanding.

I'm glad you spent some time defining "friend," as many of the videos I've seen don't do this at all and it's very obvious to me that the word has a wide semantic range. Maybe a good approach would be to think less in terms of categories, e.g. "Can I be 'friends' with her?" and more in terms of specific behaviors, e.g., "Should I do X thing with her" or "Should I say Y thing to her"? If you want to talk in terms of categories I think that you have to flesh out what "friend" would mean in cognitive, emotional, and behavioral terms. ALSO, it seems to me that real-world relationships are difficult to fit into abstract categories as real life is messy and fluctuating. Perhaps this is a place for practical wisdom? As Paul says, all things are permitted but not all things are helpful. I'm not sure that I'm convinced that "friendship" in the "share all your secrets"-kind inevitably leads to romantic feels in either men or women. It seems perfectly possible to be vulnerable and spontaneous with someone without wanting to have sex with them.

I loved the guy's TikTok message!🔥

Currently have a situation, and very much needed to hear this

Great advice in this!

Single guy here, imo this is a tricky subject but I do think it’s possible to be friends. I have a good friend from my life group that we got close and hung out one on one, eventually I asked her out and after one date she explained she felt God was calling her to missionary work and didn’t think marriage was a plan for her life so we went back to being friends and haven’t hung out one on one since but still talk a lot. I think just being clear where you stand makes it possible, doesn’t mean sometimes during emotional lulls it may not be difficult but I think it’s important to have friends of the opposite sex because guys and girls can have totally different views on things and even without any romantic ties can have very God honoring friendships imo

Wow I really enjoyed listening to your perspective. I agree that both male and female need to be careful. Thank you for sharing and it’s very nice to hear how a godly man speaks with wisdom. You don’t see that often these days. God bless 😊

hey, I'm not sure I agree, but I think that you might be wrong, but thank you so much... I do agree with physical boundaries

I am going to have to completely disagree with you on this one. I have many female friends, one of them I am very close and we both share our thoughts, dreams, and struggles with each other. We've been friends since 2014, and we're both in our 30's now. And after all that time, we've never seen each other in a romantic way. If anything, we mostly see each other like siblings. I am not sure if its different with the younger generations, but most of my female friends never gotten the wrong idea. Funny enough, the only time I have experience that someone thought we were more than just friends, was actually a guy, that I had explained 2 or 3 to him that I am not gay

@bluecheese861

5 ай бұрын

You are the exceptional case. In general when people share those things over a period of time someone ALWAYS(9/10 times) gets hurt.

I’m going to continue to have my female friends that I’ve had since middle school lol. Lot of immaturity and weak minded men here if they would cheat or get intimate with just any woman

I think a lot of this depends on what your goals are. I have a close friendship with a woman a few years younger than me. We met in a martial arts class and she needed a friend. She's not my closest relationship, but we do hang out one on one from time to time, and we do discuss difficult topics or troubles with one another. Mostly it's her discussing difficulties with me. I am entirely uninterested in dating or marriage, and she is not interested in dating me. We had that discussion very early, and our friendship was based on that from the start. I am also fully conscious that if/when she meets a man this relationship (in its current form, at minimum) will end. That might not work for everyone in every circumstance, but it works for me in this instance. I agree that people need to have an honest discussion with themselves about their motives, because not every situation is the same. Someone else might stumble in my shoes, just as I might stumble in theirs.

Thanks for saying hugs are ok.

I haven't met a decent single Christian guy in a while but if dating/marriage is in my future I hope to God that my future boyfriend/husband thinks like the man in the orange shirt when it comes to female friends. 🙏

I’m not the typical person here. I’m 66 years old, divorced. I have a male friend. He’s about 50. We’ve been friends for about 14 years. A month ago when I was really sick he brought me OTC meds, warm socks & slippers and some food for my son who was also sick. I value his friendship. It’s nice to have a man in my life in some capacity, although we will never be more than friends and I am happy single. Men and women have different strengths and I believe God doesn’t want us to shut ourselves off from half of the world. My female friends usually can’t help me in the way I need help. We are all human beings and if you can’t be in the room with the opposite sex, perhaps you have something to work through.

@bluecheese861

5 ай бұрын

Its not so much about being in a room together. What he is saying is 9/10 times it doesnt work. You might be the exceptional case or this gentlemen has not shared his feelings with you.

@_Sloppyham

4 ай бұрын

@@bluecheese861I’d argue that it’s not nearly around the 9/10 mark

@worm_and_no_man

3 ай бұрын

He can help you in biblical ways, but in reality I dont recommend guys being friends with women. Friends mean like perhaps sharing intimate things, doing things together, hanging out. I dont see the need in befriending women who arent my wife. and if its for prophetic insight, I may not need to be close friends with numerous prophetesses who may share a word from God.

Great great great video!

I think that this is biblical advice and I appreciate it, God bless.

So this is something I struggle with because the difficulty I always had a hard time keeping stable female friendships and I found that it was just easier with guys. Now I am at a point where my best friend is a guy and to be honest I caught feelings at one point but the Lord had to work me through that. I struggle to this day wondering if it's the right thing I am doing. However, I believe at least for this stage of my life that this is the person God has in my life. I have many women who are like mentors but not so much friends and I am still working out why. If I were to give advice, I probably would not recommend it unless they have a peace that God has blessed them for it.

@nerychristian

5 ай бұрын

It's best not to have guy friends. What if one day you meet someone you like and get into a relationship? Are you willing to stop communicating with your guy friend?

There's this concept I learned about a while ago called "dating friendships." You're more than just friends, but it's not the same level of commitment required if you're dating someone, and a moderate amount of physical touch can be allowed (hand holding, hugs, etc). This may also be the type of person who you share your hard times with. This is probably "that kind of friend" that you were talking about.

@betrothalguys

4 ай бұрын

There isn't any "more than friends" like you describe in the Bible. There are no "levels" of commitment between a man and a woman. Either actually commit and make a marriage covenant or keep your hands to yourself. She's not yours.

as a woman, it's really great to hear this from a guy's perspective. this has been something i'm struggling to figure out with guy friends as we all become young adults so i'm grateful you made this it's very helpful for me figuring out how to set boundaries for myself as a single woman as well. love your content, keep up the good work!

My ex best friend had feelings for me when I whole heartedly saw him as a brother. Lost him as a friend bc he was never actually a friend to begin with apparently. It's very important to keep boundaries.

@wjckc79

5 ай бұрын

"bc he was never actually a friend to begin with" Don't put that on him. Of course he was, despite the extra feelings you did not want. "It's very important to keep boundaries." Now you know.

@FireflowerDancer

5 ай бұрын

I've had the same thing happen. Those types of guys have a weak ego. They view every single female as a 'dream conquest.' Then when you communicate 'no' on taking it further, they get mad.

@dre4ever39

5 ай бұрын

@@FireflowerDancerJust goes to show you that male/female friendships don’t exist

@Faithandseekerofchrist

5 ай бұрын

Yeah sadly I lost a friend because he had feelings for me but I just learned that men and women cannot be friends and to make boundaries and make sure that my words and actions match each other because if not they will get mixed signals. Also another thing is do not hang out with them alone. If they are not my significant other/husband other than my male family members, I do not need to be hanging out with them alone.

@kingdomhearts453

5 ай бұрын

@daniellemcgee8993 Guys like that are sketchy, and I hate when they do that. You're right though; he never was a friend. Guys like that will "befriend" you with the full intention of trying to get with you. They will not admit it but expect you to feel the same when they finally confess. Its deceptive because they know they can get close to you without the courting process, as if they were just getting to know you. It can be a dangerous thing when a man your'e not dating/married to knows almost everything about you. It's a sneaky tactic they use. Their true feelings about you is revealed after you rejected them; especially when they start acting like you don't exist. The thing about "friends" like this is that they will want a FWB relationship and feel like they're entitled to it...makes you think; if y'all did get together did he really want a relationship or just the intimacy?

It is possible, but it requires a level of maturity, advanced communication skills in articulating boundaries (see "Crucial Conversations"), and directness in managing expectations. Alot of people lack these skills.

The rule for married men can be good for single men with sisters, sisters-in-law, girlfriends, or a sibling's girlfriend. It's best to keep our relationships with women within the confines of clearly defined relationships because that limits the possibility of sparks flying in the wrong direction. Also, only interacting with women in group scenarios can help you have clearly defined, non-romantic female friends.

This was very interesting. As a married woman living in the same small town for quite a few years now, I have male friends (mostly from married couples that me and my husband hang out with) but not in a way where im texting and doing 1on1 with in any kind of setting. Imo it would feel really sketchy if me or my husband had a best friend of the opposite sex. I mean, in this day and age, it seems that it is more acceptable for that to happen (even polygamy 🤢) but it seems that it would most likely breed infidelity in some sort of way. If you're single and looking for a companion, its a little different story since I consider my husband my best friend even before we were married. But if you're married or in a relationship with someone, it's best not seek close friendship with the opposite sex for the sake of God and your partner.

I'm soon 16 and a girl. And I have a guy best friend. I agree with you at certain points. It can certainly be confusing especially as a girl. Since by biology we get faster attracted by physical touch (just being close), and I guess guys don't really know or recognize this. But even though it has been confusing I wouldn't change anything. Since I really do value our friendship, especially since he's christian and both of us don't really have any other christian friends. So it's very nice having a friend that actually understands me, and ik he feels the same. We both laugh so much when we're with each other, and we both have told we don't laugh so much with others. I think we have more of a brother and sister relationship also considering we have known each other since I was 11 and him 13. I just want to bring some nuance and how maybe there might be some exceptions to the rule of guys not having deep friendship with girls. Since this is really one of my most valuable friendships :)

My hubby and I are very careful about this. Thanks for sharing about this topic. It's super important. God bless your ministry! - Hanna

As a woman this is very interesting and definitely true. Although I do believe that there are exceptions, like if they have been friends they're entire lives, and are like siblings. I have a nephew who is turning 5 this year, and his best friend is a girl, they have been best friends since they were 6 months old, they met in nursery school ,they're parents are best friends and they practically live at each other's houses, they will likely be best friends the rest of their lives.

Man, did I need to hear this 😅

This time time I disagree, but I do agree that there should be boundaries and clear intentions in a friendship, men or women, setting boundaries and having clear intentions is crucial for maintaining healthy and respectful friendships.

You should consider putting Bible references onscreen when paraphrasing the Bible. Men can be around women alone like Joseph was with pharaohs wife but when she started to act funny he fled that was good because he did not sin in that instance. We are called to help orphans and widows and if we have a Christ filled mind and heart and true fellowship with Christ we eliminate temptation. Being alone with the opposite gender isn’t a sin but the intentions we have are what causes us to miss the mark.

@exagem

5 ай бұрын

Joseph was a servant at work. He didn’t want to be there.

@madelineasmr926

5 ай бұрын

Just because you “fellowship with Christ” does not mean your intentions will be pure, innocent or that temptation does not come for you. You are a sinful human and not free from sin.

It just doesn’t need to happen when in marriage especially. Never one-on-one. We are too freely giving our intimacy away.

I have a long distance friendship with a girl and it has been very meaningful for both of us. We definitely believe God made us meet (online). We don't know what God's plan is for us and we haven't met in real life for a long time, but we will soon (long story). But we're always open about our feelings and expectations. I think this is the most important and helps us to deal with our contact.

As a girl, I totally have to agree when he says "Don't go on one on one hangouts that aren't dates". Makes it very confusing and possibly hurtful for a girl!!

Thank you for speaking up about this. It really is important to be the right kind of friends and for men to treat women as "sisters in all purity." This caution is even possible to maintain when they are not "just friends" and the man and woman are considering marriage! The rules and boundaries don't have to fly out the window just because they are potentially going to marry. We have free resources on our website if anyone is interested in biblical principles for the path to marriage.

Well done!! I learned this the hard way!! Had a close guy friend I cared for, would listen to how he’s doing and share how I’m doing and although I thought I was clear I just wanted to be friends, just a guy and girl being close made feelings naturally catch on and then there was an awkward point of essentially saying “I appreciate you, but just want to be friends.” No hurt feelings and I’m honored he likes me, but I only see him as a friend and have had to space away, to help him be interested in other girls and to try to not be as close as previously to help him❤️ I do think there are certain dynamics like if you grew up with each other or obviously not attracted to each other, etc… But I definitely have learned and try to be more careful when it comes to having a close friendship with a guy. I do enjoy being friends to guys, but in group setting and still struggling coming across the best way to go about guy and girl friendships, but this video nailed what I’ve experienced/ learned the last few years!!

Girls perspective: Before I got met and married my husband, I was the one catching feelings for the guy friends. There were a handful of guys that I had started to take a liking to, but they did not feel the same way. In one case it was obvious, in others, I had interpreted the men's interactions with me as flirtatious. So when they were honest with me, it felt like they were giving me mixed signals. I tried to maintain those friendships afterwards to try and avoid any awkwardness within the larger social group. It didn't really work. Once I started dating my husband, the friendship with those men peacefully faded out.

Im a single guy and ill tell you i have female friends but your taking about all this i reflected and thanking thought 'Hmph' i don't really hangout with them. Which is fine but just something i realized

I’d say for the most part, it doesn’t work out, but there are exceptions to the rule. I’ve been friends with a man for 14 years now and he’s married and has a family. Never flirted, never had any romantic interest in me. I wasn’t his type and he wasn’t mine. I have a few other guy friends who have never had a romantic interest in me, so it works out. But the majority who have had feelings for me….those “friendships” never lasted.

Can you do a video on the opposite (girls having guy friendships)? Maybe a reaction to a video that talks about it?

your very strong

Facts!!!

Yes for being above reproach. absolutely. But fellas, get you a close friend who is a girl, you get too many benefits in my opinion. Intentions and boundaries MUST be set at the beginning. But you are missing out on a deep well of knowledge the moment you start telling girls hey I can't be your friend if I am not dating you.

As a straight adult man the last time I had platonic female friends was probably when I was 13. I have not wanted any since then and I don't plan on wanting any in the future. I have platonic male friendships that are doing just fine.

I’m in nursing school and the only dude in my cohort. I take my faith very seriously and try to be very careful with my classmates. Although a few might be somewhat physically attractive to me I am very cautious because I don’t won’t to catch feelings for someone that I’m not compatible with and also there r some who might truly be Christian but I’m not physically attracted to them and I don’t want to be too close to them for them to catch feelings and I end up confusing them. My closest friends r my boys in my Bible study group

I knew bro was gonna say doosey 😂

Man, I wish I saw this two days ago.😭

I’ve been friend with a girl for over 13 years we’re both single in never throughout those years the romance topic came up we used to hangout I used to sleep over in she too we shared our hearts out with each other we helped each other with our former relationship ect… so from my perspective it will be normal for a guy to have a female best friend as long as you know that there aren’t and they’ll never be anything between you

There is never a valid reason to flake in a group setting. Flaking is going back on your word which is a form of lying.

I am so grateful for your ministry! Thank you for respecting the boundaries of Biblical manhood and being honest about the differences and beauty in the two genders God clearly and intentionally made. Your boldness and God’s truth are so needed! Have a blessed day!

But what if I dont have any friends

@KevvoLightswift

5 ай бұрын

Then you must be part of Gen Z. And my heart goes out to you.

Reading through these comments is very interesting. I genuinely dont think anyone is wrong. A great person once told me that wisdom is the application of knowledge. (Isaiah Saldivar) Knowledge however, is a very nuanced thing, just like the word friend, and the word intimacy. I think Issac actually put it better in his last video talking about this. He said "Ask yourself if you would treat this person the same way if they had a boyfriend/girlfriend" Now assuming that you have common sense and arent a homewrecker, (for lack of a better phrase) that is a very good and powerful guideline to follow. I think that everyone of us are shaped by our experiences and what we have seen. I am seeing just as many people who advocate for male/female friendships as people who are against it. HOWEVER. i will say im noticing that the people that agree and disagree.... seem to actually agree lol. Like they agree on what interactions between men and women can and should be like, however terminology, intent, and context are all different. Which is why I think if youre going to put this into a black and white outlook, the question Issac said you should ask yourself is a good way to go at it. However, you shouldnt put it black in white. to do that would be oversimplifying, ignorant of countless different cultures and practices, and just incorrect.

This is interesting as a women and as a person who has never found anyone attractive sexual or romantic and decided too never be married. I have one person I call my friend others are just acquaintances that I hang out with. I like my space so I don't really let anyone touch me. The guy in the video made sense. If you are married putting a bunch of time with the opposite gender can be seen as suspicious even if its not and the devil can play with that. I can see when people flirt with me but at the same time its such a non facter that I don't put effort into responding. Would it be the same thing if you know the person of the same gender is gay? Would you also not hang out with them because you don't know what they are thinking also? It's just hard for me to truly understand what it is like to even have a crush. I would like to get it but it's sounds so foreign.

Thanks sir.this helpful

I believe there's nothing wrong with married people having opposite sex friends. I believe there's nothing wrong with married people having close friends of the opposite sex. However, I believe married people shouldn't have opposite sex friends that are "too close" and married people shouldn't put themselves in tempting situations with opposite sex friends that can easily lead to an affair. Good reasonable safeguards to have in marriage with opposite sex friends are not having opposite sex friends that are "too close", being careful about spending too much time alone with someone of the opposite sex, being careful about not leading someone on, being careful about being behind closed doors when someone of the opposite sex that isn't your wife or a family member, and not talking to an opposite sex friend alone about marriage problems. When a married man and a female friend have a friendship that is "too close", the 2 of them are talking on the phone every day, the 2 of them are having long personal conversations on the phone every day, the 2 of them are going out to restaurants together just the 2 of them several times a week, etc, it can easily lead to an unhealthy emotional attachment, which can easily lead to an affair. If a married person is having marriage problems, they shouldn't talk to an opposite sex friend alone about their marriage problems. When a married person is talking to an opposite sex friend alone about marriage problems and the opposite sex friend helps the person, comforts the person, etc, it can easily lead to an unhealthy emotional attachment, which can easily lead to an affair. If a married person is having marriage problems, I think it's best for them to talk to same-sex friends about their marriage problems or married couples that have excellent marriages. If someone has a platonic opposite sex best friend and the person gets married, I think the person can still be friends with their platonic opposite sex friend, but they shouldn't be best friends with their platonic opposite sex friend anymore because when someone becomes married, their spouse is supposed to be their opposite sex best friend instead of the platonic opposite sex best friend they had before they were married. If someone gets married and had a platonic opposite sex best friend before they were married, they can still be friends with the platonic opposite sex friend, but they often won't be able to hang out the same way they did before being married.

I think stage of life also plays a big role. I think in college, at least depending on the size of the school, its fine to have female friends, but like you said, I don't think 1 on 1 is appropriate.

Men and women can be friends just fine. If that's some kind of impossible challenge for you, I guess that's just a skill issue?

The only female friends I have are family friends and my friends girlfriend/wife (some are married and some aren't) and it's very wise to have strict boundaries

I didnt know that american Christianity is that dark.

So what do I do if I have close female friends that have boundaries that are clearly established that I see them as sisters before I really committed my life to Christ because I’m satisfied in my friend group now and I don’t need more female friends as I’m looking for a wife so what would some of you recommend just in some words of wisdom in a biblical sense and/or experience sense

@acrylicgodoy

5 ай бұрын

Be intentional what you do with those sisters in Christ. You don't know what their intentions are even if yours are set. Don't lead them on, and don't compromise yourself

But ive always talked with women far better than guy. I dont do anything that might nean something. With men I see them as a "well crap, it's all good" and i guess im looking for a "deeper" chat. What do i do? I just dont shy from saying truth so i repeatedly set boundaries, am I doing things wrong? ( yes i am single and an open book, so i say pretty much anything)

I’m a young woman with a guy friend I’ve know since Pre-School. I’m almost 20, he is 20. We’ve been friends for a long time. But after watching this video, I felt conviction. We currently don’t have mutual friends because we now live 2 hours apart and communicate on a one on one basis. I’m going to pray over this, hard. But I’d be pleased to hear other seasoned men and women in Christ and their thoughts. Should I back off and simply let life go on, and if he pursues me romantically then let it be so or if he doesn’t than let it be so? Or should I be open with him about our friendship and the conviction I’m beginning to feel? We’ve not seen each other in quite a long time but have been hoping to get together soon. Ofc, one on one. With my family around here and there. I’m also the one who tends to initiate things. He’s always busy with school, work, and family affairs 24/7, which is mostly why. And the reason we’ve not hung out in forever, too. I’m going to seek the Lord on this, but I’m open to any advice to also pray over. I have an earnest heart that cares deeply for this guy, as a friend and brother (and I wouldn’t be opposed to trying out our relationship as more), but I don’t want either of us to get hurt and I especially want to honor God. I’d appreciate all feedback ❤

@Lainie_B

Ай бұрын

Sister in Christ here - my two cents on your circumstance are 1. Definitely always go with the honest direct and up front approach, aka yes be forthright about your conviction so he can know your intentions about your relationship as you are realizing your relationship might be changing a bit now that you are older. And 2. Let the natural space grow in your relationship if that’s what’s happening. In fact, intentionally create some down time here. Because if you are struggling after week one, two, three etc not to constantly text him, then that will be very revealing about your feelings towards him, etc. I don’t know much but I’ve had some experiences in my life and I desire to live a Godly life. Hope this helps! Take it or leave it no worries

@RebeccaM132

Ай бұрын

@@Lainie_B thank you!! I appreciate this. Right now I’m feeling lead to yes, allow distance to grow between us by taking my hand off things. Which is certainly grounding me in my values, actually. In this season I know that God is truly beckoning me to find my life in Him more fully and trust Him more fully. There’s actually been a peace that’s come over me on this subject. Right now it’s in the Lord’s hands and if the opportunity presents itself to tell him my convictions, I’m gonna pray some more for confirmation but especially the right way to present it. As the days go on the more comfort I feel on the subject. Your words align very well with the leading I’m receiving. Thank you so much ☺️💛

I would agree for most men and for most man women friendships it's not a good thing but there are times it is possible I have a a female friend we have been friends for decades and she is more of a sister then friend but we have no romantic or lustful feelings at all. I say this from when I was drinking and partying all the time I have seen her naked and it did nothing for me there was no lust or nothing romantic and there is nothing for her as well but we tell every relationship we get into about each other and she respects my relationships when I was married if my wife had an issue my friend respected it and same for me with her and her spouse. Neither of us want to cause spousal problems.

Friends can be casual. You don't have to see each other or share more than you need to. Set boundaries. God made men & women not just for sex.

I am single. I will be freinds with who I want. Let others think what they want, boundaries matter, yes. But if those outside the freindship are judging you they shouldn't. Be freinds with married women, yet at the same time, recognize their men as being their men. State your intentions as platonic. Stick with that. If you meet a woman that you feel differently about, say so and stick with that.

There is a hidden motive most of the time when you think you can have a “friend” of the opposite sex. You need to learn don’t trust yourself, you have weakness and needs so you have to do the right thing and Not be alone with the opposite sex except very briefly or with someone with you. If we did this we wouldn’t have sex before marriage or improperly give our emotions to another unless it is in marriage. The sacredness and private and personal should be reserved for marriage. A godly relationship respects these boundaries. People trust themselves too much and get into sin and trouble. People cross lines and weaken their marriage and family relationships and their relationship with God. Father God wants our heart first.

💟👣This was pretty good, and I agreed for the most part. There is a good example from the NT of opposite sex interactions in Acts ch 16. What really characterized this interaction was the sense of selflessness and focusing on serving each other and Christ rather than trying to get their own needs met through the friendship. ​​It shows that it's possible for men to be in the company of women. And they can be friends, especially if it's to assist each other in ministry. It's probably best to do it in groups and avoid intimate one on one meetings.

I lived with mostly women all my life and started with several as a young man friends and family As a male In ways, I'll be honest. I've experienced calm around women. Pressure with guys. I was told to stop hanging out with girls. I think I'm rare. I also started off mostly gay. But later turned to like women after the first several years after birth. Afterward many crushes on girls. But envy of the "pretty" lol also kicked in kicked out of socializing and other things. I was unique that while I started. Testosterone took I liked mostly women I think I've had unique experience. That while I try to keep to celibacy. Because I still feel the emotional feeling. There have been men who have been married for decades. Had such experience. Yes, we've had just friends. With women. I am very comforted around certain men who I've met at church. But it took time. Men made me feel pressure in the past. I was born with genetic illness & birth mishap. And still to this day, I wonder what's wrong with me. I may have not developed proper. Some small things may be wrong with my birth male experience. In the end. Honestly, with GODs help both can be friends. In the end. It's like why would friendships for me work for the ones who started off this way? When T ends I start liking men. So it's like I'm at a mental hormonal middle point that started off one way and the hormones took it off. Then some resides there and I'm emotionally effected however. Slightly having some feelings there. Maleness feels pressure. Being feminine has always been. I wanted it. Yes, it seemed like testosterone kicked in and I had something unusual. But I kept it (friend with girls being a thing). Either celibate or married to a woman. I've happily grown. That as long as I pray and hear GOD he can guide me morally. But, I still retain that as an adult. It's not shunned as much. Book clubs. Example men and women. This unique experience led me to learn coming to empathize, befriend, and at the end of the later years. I've felt pressure being male and being with men. GOD reaply had a big effect later. That my unhappiness was tremendous. But, he can guide me. There were men, but it was some demeanor that took time. So yeah, the youth kept emotional recharge around certain women and men. In the end. When I was kicked out. Did I want to keep also that time with women as just friends? I've needed both

@FiRe-gu5td

5 ай бұрын

I think this I why their are celibate with birth defects. But I've had crushes all over the place. One day I can become healthy and clean. This has also made me understand I think some are just like needing boosts. It literally felt like something normal was leaving me. It really starts to reveal to me. You start all over the place sometimes. But GOD can deliver anyone. Wandering offer you experience yourself unraised and maybe even with birth defect, mindsets What do parents do with special needs children? Good care Take care

Don't stick your nose in other peoples friendships, not everyone needs your boundaries. Don't judge another mans servant or teach for a commandment the doctrines of man.

Like men and women need self control. You dont need to go out of your way to be friends with anybody to prove a point and if you are weak to things specifically yea. But being friends with the opposite sex can work as shocking as that sounds. In church ive seen it in expierience ive seen it. Ive hung out and spoke to my best friends gals and by God's grace never lusted or thought of them as romantic partnering. Like i consider them friends. So you know. Just be cautious. I feel its a lot of times we do not know how to deal with the opposite sex outside romance or sex. Like in my context you were seen with a female you have platonic friendship with you were labeled as dating or interested and that is the primary if not only reason you interract with females because you want a romance or sex. No wonder we are messy if thats the same with a good number of other people.

Honestly, this can be seen from a woman’s point, too. A women doesn’t go looking for validation outside of the relationship unless they weren’t feeling validated. “What do you think from a man’s point?” should let the women asking know they aren’t getting the validation in the relationship they hoped, and also it should let them notice they aren’t serious in the relationship. The women should go back and talk to their man to get a clear answer THROUGH God what is said. Pray before you hear the answer from your man because God and only He will show you the truth.

So what about celibate Christians with same sex attraction?

Christian and forever single

@SamuelM.-iz1un

5 ай бұрын

Better choice for me that way.

As a young guy who's turning 18 in a few months, I've been struggling with this for a while. I've had a female friend for several years and we've never really had deep conversations or much physical contact. We're both Christian, our moms are friends, and we just enjoy hanging out and goofing off. I moved away from my hometown several years ago, but we're still in touch and visit each other once in a while. I really enjoy our friendship the way it is since we're not together, but I've been thinking a lot about the future and how our friendship might change, and I've been really confused on how to deal with it. Because I know it will become awkward if we both end up getting married and still be friends, but I don't want to just say "hey I'm done being friends with you." Our families are close so it would be awkward if I did something like that anyway. I guess I just have to pray and think about things and how to deal with it.

@Maksie0

4 ай бұрын

Why would it be awkward if you're both married and still friends?