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@phantomkate6

2 жыл бұрын

@Futures I've read the critics and they're even more bunk.

@jamesportrais3946

2 жыл бұрын

Great interview all round chaps - just sub'd to Richard.

@catsmeow3478

2 жыл бұрын

@@jamesportrais3946 I’ve been following him for a couple of years, done his courses and 30-day challenge. He’s the real deal, a deep thinker, thought provoker and leader, super intelligent, intellectually curious, funny, compassionate, all-around good guy and content creator. Awesome, supportive community of kindred spirits seeking growth and healing from trauma/CPTSD and a richer more empowered experience. Welcome comrade! 😎

@jamesportrais3946

2 жыл бұрын

@@catsmeow3478 From what you say, he's got my arse! (Sorry - that was too easy!) In all seriousness, I liked the guy, agreed with everything he said; and he appears to be more gelled than me. I don't think it's any coincidence that people who have issues wind up counselling others, and for that matter I don't think that it's any the worse. Love to get slaughtered with this guy and tell him everything I hate about my wife.

@deborahbreeden4394

2 жыл бұрын

Weird thing is that our divine spark is decimated when we take credit for it 🤔

The concept that we can have both parents work, while children are raised by strangers, and that it would somehow not horrifically damage the emotional development of entire generations; is one of the most monumentally damaging ideas to come out of the 20th century.

@steevoh7186

2 жыл бұрын

couldn't agree more

@ruthbrown7597

2 жыл бұрын

Agree as well.

@mataform

2 жыл бұрын

I was raised by strangers, being sent as I was to boarding school from the age of 4, with no return at the weekends.It's not just about people whose parents work. It was considered the right thing to do amongst the middle and upper classes. It's not just a 20th century thing. There are people today - who are seeing therapists to get over the sense of abandonment and the cruelty meted out to us ..... People like me and my colleagues in our 60's are tough but we have been fucked up. I say 'have been' because it's sorted now for me but it's taken a life time and it has to be said, kids whining about gender and not feeling 'safe' just derails me.

@marysteven6347

2 жыл бұрын

Very recent, these kiddie keeping institutions (daycare) didn’t exist when my twins were born 27 years ago.

@carlabruni5223

2 жыл бұрын

Completely agree

Hey folks thanks for watching! Thankyou for having me on @triggernometry - I really enjoyed it. p.s. I meant to say the guy who attacked me “thought I was gay”. I wasn’t using the Triggernometry interview to come out 😅 sorry for the confusion.

@frogstupiduk7987

2 жыл бұрын

Ah that clears it up! Fascinating interview, thanks!!!

@runningthroughrain3058

2 жыл бұрын

Thought so. Watched a lot of Richard’s videos where he talks about relationships with women.

@true2theoryapriori497

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations for this achievement Richard! Looking great! Hopefully more people will see your content which has been life changing for me.

@andyjarman4958

2 жыл бұрын

Easy mistake to make (feeble joke).

@bovinicide

2 жыл бұрын

He he! Great to see how you've developed since buying stuff off you from Street Fight Secrets! You gave some great advice as well!

After being with only cluster b's for my entire adult life I thought they were the normal ones and I was constantly trying to BE more narcissistic, actively chasing unhealthy self love, it was so fucked up. I appreciate the hell out of Richard and all the KZreadrs who have been through narcissistic abuse that share their experiences, it's been a lifeline. Thank you all.

@AshleyWilliams-xq7lj

10 ай бұрын

Me too. I'm also autistic so that added a layer. I hurt people and I'm ashamed of that. All I wanted was kindness, so now I try to be kind (yet firm with my boundaries) whenever possible.

@rekocastren923

7 ай бұрын

Thats great! I've always seen depression as good sing that your surroundings are off. It's a hard thing to realize in hindsight, true.. but better late than never!

@bobtaylor170

4 ай бұрын

I have watched these three brilliant men, who acknowledge the existence of Something beyond themselves and the emptiness of a life devoted to self, but who claim to be atheists or agnostics. And I wonder why it is that they don't pay attention to this dissonance, and ask that Something - often mistaken for "God" - to reveal Itself to them? Obviously, I do believe in God.

I listened to Richard, among others, years ago when I first discovered that my boyfriend of 10 years was a diagnosed NPD/ASPD. Once I got out of that relationship, I did the work that led me to contend with the narcs in my family. That was rough. Then i started to recognize its the narcissism in my community. I was an American leftist and realized I was part of a deeply deranged cult. I still consider myself to be left leaning, but I'm politically homeless and very concerned about our country and our world. Luckily my kids are not brainwashed, which I attribute to us being so poor when they were little that we didn't have TV or internet for a long time, and we had to read and conversate for entertainment.

@CosmicCat23

2 жыл бұрын

You are not alone on that. There are many like us.

@doh917

2 жыл бұрын

Its one thing to be left leaning, its another to be enabling. That's not a personal attack but this is a commonality thats observed quite often in modern discourse. I'm a communist but not that kind of communist. I still support this but I don't like what they are doing. Until people look to take over those "leaders" of the left, by the left leaning moderates then there is no way simply quietly judging or criticizing from a far will make any difference. A "left-leaning" person who still supports the left or leftist causes gives credibility and legitimacy to the crazies on the left who possess the biggest megaphone and get the benefits of social cover and brand prestige of saying they are of the "left". To raze the left in its current form and to build a new (a liberal concept I might add) is the solution that nobody wants to say out of fear or abandonment. Notice the communistic/leftist (redundancy) symbol is a closed fist. The ways to attack closed fists are two ways. An apparatus that ring fences the whole fist (think of paper beats rock) which is an attack from all sides is one way, this can be even viewed as a way to prevent the closed fist from expanding (although doesn't seem to work in history as appeasement doesn't often work and containment is often costly and ineffective). The other way is to implode it from the inside. (think of the movie Armageddon where they planted explosives inside the Asteroid to blow it up from the inside).

@fractale4322

2 жыл бұрын

There's been a huge shift in the 'Overton Window' when it comes to politics now compared to the last few decades, that's why so many like myself and you are lost in political leanings. Remember the Nazi Party was the National *Socialist* German Workers Party in the 1940s. Now they are Fascists by our standards.

@jcol243624

2 жыл бұрын

You are not alone politically homeless as well. I do not believe in either side. But the left is to far

@jcol243624

2 жыл бұрын

@@doh917 thank you for breaking down this perspective. Gives me alot to ponder on. I do like to hear views. Whither I agree (I feel is a private journey) but hearing them is needed.

I’m a registered nurse. Since the culture war I’ve had to become an attorney ,a financial advisor , my own physiotherapist and psychologist . There are a lot of narcissist out there.I have worked in corrections and know that there are monsters in our communities and.... the institution itself .

@siyaindagulag.

2 жыл бұрын

Thank God for you ! My most devastating experiences when seeking medical help ,have been at the hands of those of which you speak. One group of so called " professionals" ,contacted their favourite media outlet to initiate a smear campaign . All because I called out a very senior nurses open hostility& contemptible language . Have since looked into trauma informed care practices. I sincetely hope it gains traction , more broadly. Fingers crossed. Thank you.

@cargumdeu

2 жыл бұрын

Interesting. Makes me want to know more, the way you've put it. Sounds like there's a valuable book there, if not your own channel.

@nixswatson

2 жыл бұрын

I would very much like to learn more of your experiences and knowledge gained as I'm trying to help those in need who have been traumitised by narcissists/psychopaths...maybe exhange emails or something?

@chrisucl

2 жыл бұрын

Very good point

@kevinfoster2163

2 жыл бұрын

I…My…I…

Pointing out someone's sin doesn't minimize yours. This should be not forgotten for today's champagne socialists.

@jccusell

2 жыл бұрын

You mean everyone under 30.

@gazetc

2 жыл бұрын

Champagne 🍾

@vernonhiggins3323

2 жыл бұрын

@@gazetc I like the original mistake. They're on a moral campaign!

@sw.7519

2 жыл бұрын

@@gazetc changed.

@geehappyhips

2 жыл бұрын

Yes some ‘sins’ are more sinful than others🤨

Richard Grannon’s videos allowed me to realise that the reason I was in an abusive relationship was because my state of mind makes me an enabler to narcissists, and that no amount of love would make him act normally or treat me like he loved me back.

I've had my fair share of narcissists in my life (all female girlfriends, bosses or sisters-in-law) and you have no idea what is going on until you know the patterns and red flags to look out for. The problem with (covert) narcissists is that they are very smart and know how to keep you attached to them with push and pull tactics, playing the victim to secure their uninterrupted narcissistic supply. It took me years to realize and I thought something was wrong with me (gaslighting is another clue) that I couldn't make these relationships work. And yes, our society has become increasingly narcissistic.

@zalamael

2 жыл бұрын

Most narcissists are delusional, in that they lie to themselves in order to protect their fragile egos. In reality, they tend to be very insecure and have low self esteem, and they are desperate to hide it from everyone. It doesn't help that they are often surrounded by other people who are just as mentally fragile as they are, so the concept of being open and honest (vulnerable) is alien to them. They are literally terrified that other people will see through them and see them for who they really are.

@averagejane09

2 жыл бұрын

It is so tricky to determine what is a full out narcissist and what is simply narcistic behavior - bad and/or healthy. I agonize over it all the time with the people I come into contact with. It does take a while to figure out and I too have wrestled with the "is it me?" questions. As narcistic behavior increases in our society, it forces you to deal with the subject because it is everywhere. Such an important conversation.

@GTGinley7

2 жыл бұрын

In your same boat.....Now I will NEVER let someone treat me like that ever again cuz i am gaining self respect for myself and watching for actions over words and also not getting into a relationship that feels rushed or too soon. She has all the personality disorders and now that I am no longer blinded by the love after her beating me up and falling out of love I was able to leave her and see her for how evil and cruel she is despite posting and talking about Kindness. You can talk all day about kindness but that means nothing without the actions to back it up!

@babysab8013

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. Never had narc romantic partners , but many many friends . They have excused themselves from my life and it feels great

@DresuPoloca

Жыл бұрын

WOW!

“They’ll show you through actions-not words-that they see you as food, not a person.” Bingo.💯

@jameslynch8738

2 жыл бұрын

They will also work to make you into a worse version of themselves to justify what they will do to you. This part of the design is very (very) carefully protected.

@patriciagriffin1505

2 жыл бұрын

That is one very accurate statement. They have to get their juice from others as they are unable of looking inside for anything. Always looking for more juice and I’m not speaking of the green kind. I see this in my interactions with those around me and really where ever I go.

@humansarenature

2 жыл бұрын

As he does in the interview.

@andrewcharles8365

2 жыл бұрын

They're like emotional vampires, sucking your soul and the very essence of who you are dry until you're broken before discarding you for an 'upgrade'.

"It's only when you know that you are capable of putting people in a camp, that you might not." Excellent interview gentlemen.

@shebear7542

2 жыл бұрын

yes

@jameslynch8738

2 жыл бұрын

I'm only twelve minutes in, but what you say reminds me of what I just said the other day. That, 'We are not fighting tyrants, but creating them.'

@grannyannie6744

2 жыл бұрын

Australia has reached stage seven of the ten stages of genoocide. Which is they have began sending people to camps.

@grannyannie6744

2 жыл бұрын

@Don Braidwood The camps are called Centres for National Resilience. We've known they've been building them in several states. If you search, Sky News Australia the Northern Territory records two new covid 19 cases. The thumbnail is a beautiful scene from the NT, but the video is the NT health minister, with shoulder length brown hair. She is speaking about which people have been sent to the camp. This is the first msm confirmation of the camps being used, that I'm aware of.

@grannyannie6744

2 жыл бұрын

@Don Braidwood Sky News Australia- Police operation underway at Howard Springs following reports of escapees. This video shows the actual camps, including an aerial photo of the facility.

The fact that people are so upset about something that happened 4-5 hundred years ago but are repeating atrocities from 40-80 years ago is mind boggling.

YES! "There are just as many female narcs as male" I've been wanting to hear that confirmed! Recovering from a controlling covert narc ex gf...

@connoroleary591

Жыл бұрын

Take care Greg, i hope you are enjoying better times now.

@angelasome9044

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, dicks and vaginas don’t really have fuck all to do with Psychopathy brains. The research is bullshit.

@angelasome9044

Жыл бұрын

Best of luck, Greg🎉

@angelasome9044

Жыл бұрын

She is obviously a psycho because…vagina. 😂

@angelasome9044

Жыл бұрын

He is a real fucknut, because…male genitals

I was married to one,a controlling narcissistic abuser, I eventually escaped with the children, lost everything materially,but got free. Our daughter stayed in touch with him and still is. 30 years later, he still says he did nothing wrong and we all ‘wound him up’. It is a sickness without a cure, sadly.

@cybercatsworld

2 жыл бұрын

Yes you were right in saving yourself

@beckyenglish4783

2 жыл бұрын

I left with nothing, but sadly he denied me kids. Well done us!

@lemsip207

2 жыл бұрын

My father had a volatile temper. My mother would blame me for 'aggravating' him. What else do you do when your buttons are being pushed? Nothing was said about him pushing buttons.

@GabrielleTollerson

2 жыл бұрын

my ex was the same way.. he made me feel less than myself,always talking and flirting with his female friends,always being on facebook,and getting mad at me for questioning him and calling me an over reactor. Broke up with me after 2 years and still acted like I was the problem

@cybercatsworld

2 жыл бұрын

@@GabrielleTollerson ex did the same things to me They are mentally ill There is no cure Thats how they die We can only move on and stay away from the hell they cause and live in

Someone that I highly respect in the mental health profession quoted to me at the start of this covid issue words from Voltaire which I kinda side lined as ‘well that’s a bit excessive’ , now however nearly two years later I know exactly what he meant ………”Those that can make you believe absurdities will make you commit atrocities” .

@yazanodeh8002

2 жыл бұрын

JBP?

@williamtiffee3799

2 жыл бұрын

@@yazanodeh8002 Peterson was quoting, Voltaire. And lest we forget the poem: "First They Came" by pastor: Martin Niemöller about the Nazim "SS" (= i$iS, in Coptic) in the IH$'s second staged, WW, to install their Trojan horsed: UN.

@Yarblocosifilitico

Жыл бұрын

indeed... as he himself demonstrated :/

As I was entering the recovery community; my friend who was already there told me- "Don't put any of these people on a pedestal Fi. Because as human beings we don't like it up there. And we will quickly do something which makes us fall off it . Only God can handle being worshipped." I've never forgotten that advice.

YES Francis. Thanks for calling out gender ideology & medicalisation of physically healthy children as an abomination. Thank you for seeing the perverse pressures girls & young women are put under. Thank you

@annal2740

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly my reaction! Such relief that people like Francis are really seeing it.

@teaja211

2 жыл бұрын

its more complicated. girls put each other under pressure, adults only react. so we as adults have little to no power over what girls think. we can monitor internet for them not to pck up ideas, but thats about it. PS. IM NOT TALKING ABOUT parents who make their toddler transgender for media clout, im talking all these 14-16 yo that think they are transgender. its not that adults medicalize those kids, its that its so popular among kids to be medicalized, that they actually try to be one of those medicalied. because it gives clout among peers. most adults barely even know how internet works and they just go with what flows.

@lemsip207

2 жыл бұрын

@@teaja211 And where do they get these ideas in the first place? It's from the mass media which is part of the militaristic-industrial complex. Jackie magazine in the 70's belonged to a huge publishing house and the early editors were middle aged male veterans. The writers were younger and female but they were expected to write articles and from the perspective of patriarchial society. It was the early 70's but the advice came straight out the 1950's home economics lessons.

@eloisee2016

2 жыл бұрын

Who is pressurising people to be trans?

@SEmme-ov6yy

2 жыл бұрын

@@eloisee2016 the imaginary trans pushers these people invent

Urgh, it’s so hard to escape narcissistic ways these days. Both with people, and within ourselves. This discussion is so important, thank you Richard 👏🏼

@fuckonoff127

2 жыл бұрын

Facts!

@teaja211

2 жыл бұрын

well narcissism is highly rewarded nowadays.

When I think of the the selfie obsession I think of this quote from Bessel Van Der Kolk: "Trauma almost invariably involves not being seen, not being mirrored and not being taken into account. Treatment needs to reactivate the the capacity to safely mirror and be mirrored by others, but also to resist being hijacked by others negative emotions." The key words there are 'safely mirror and be mirrored by others'. Machines just won't cut it.

@Mena-or4pt

2 жыл бұрын

God. Think of it. Little kids are masked all day. Who's to see them? An MD insisted to me that it's ok-like children surviving a war. They're resilient.

@excel04

2 жыл бұрын

@@Mena-or4pt exactly. But it's more than being literally observed. Being mirrored means having our emotions acknowledged and reflected back to you. Mirror, validate and empathise as the therapists would say. A responsive caregiver might say, "I see you're angry. It's upsettingJohnny was mean and took your toy." An unresponsive caregiver would say, "Don't be silly. If you don't stop crying I'll give you something to really cry about." A child who hears that enough learns it's not safe to express anger. John Bowlby, the originator of attachment theory, said "What cannot be communicated to the mother cannot be communicated to the self. If you cannot tolerate what you know or feel the only option is denial or dissociation." It's empathy from caregivers that help a child develop their tolerance and regulation of their big feelings. So to return to your point if a child is feeling fear or discomfort whilst wearing a mask and their experience is being denied for the sake of conformity they will suppress those feelings for the sake of fitting in. As little beings their very survival depends on fitting in with the adults around them.

@Mena-or4pt

2 жыл бұрын

@@excel04 wonderfully clear explanation of mirroring. In fact, children's reactions to and during forced masking are complex and varied. For starters, these children are being told that they risk adults' survival if the child let's his mask slip. (Which is a lie. Gaslighting on a massive scale.) The masking has also exacerbated or caused profound communication delays, and of course both emotional and general content is limited. Very, very bad. I will disagree a bit about compliance, though. Many kids comply. Others, though, not so much, though I don't see many conscientious objectors. Mostly defiance and opportunism and more violence this year. To your point about mirroring: do you think a masked adult in a room full of masked children will be inclined to be more sympathetic, or less so? More nuanced and considerate and sophisticated with children, or less so? Will the quality and quantity of attention be better, or worse? The possibilities are broad, and schools have become enforcers of quite a dangerous agenda.

@excel04

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks @@Mena-or4pt I totally agree about the gaslighting and propaganda. Furthermore I think it's a sick society that places the burden of responsibility on children. Therapeutically I think this is a slippery slope. I am drawn to the idiom within your reply: don't let one's mask slip. We know that the meaning behind that idiom is to not reveal one's true personality, motivation and agenda. What a harmful message to be literally and figuratively sending to our next generation. It's dehumanising. In regards to compliance I wasn't saying all children will quietly submit. I appreciate they are all individuals with individual responses. I did see a seemingly very empowered and confident little girl in Florida who has persistently eschewed masks despite being suspended 36 times. I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall when her parents were talking to her. My point is that within many families there is often something that is too difficult to broach and that is emotionally excluded. The issues are personal and myriad. We are just discussing one - mask wearing. Attached to these issues will be emotions. For some it's fear - which is the example I used above- for others it's anger or grief and so on. Ultimately children learn to handle their emotions by watching how parents handle them when they are emoting. In regards to mask wearing their little faces are covered when they are emoting so unless they speak up, some of that emoting will be missed. To answer your question about whether a masked adult would be more sympathetic or less so I think that entirely depends on the individual and the extent of their emotional awareness. By this I mean it depends on their ability to take responsibility for and process their emotions rather than project them onto others. If a masked teacher for example (and stressing this is just an example) is repressing rage at having their mouth persistently covered for the sake of keeping their job and Little Johnny starts acting up at the back because he is also very annoyed at having his mouth covered Little Johnny may get punished and even suspended. What cannot be tolerated in the self won't be tolerated in the other (which partly explains the vast intolerance on social media). This is a tiny bit of the shadow work Richard was referring to. Unfortunately society is not set up to do this. Society isn't set up to treat a problem so much as tweet it out. Society doesn't say cultivate consciousness, but swipe and consume something. Society is set up to distract people from discomfort which may lead to growth. So in short if we are going to get through this and emerge from the hole of despair Richard sees us in we need to own our sh*t, work on ourselves and (which is also Richard's final point) we need to talk about trauma because it's far more common than people think.

@Mena-or4pt

2 жыл бұрын

@@excel04 Where I am, a group of concerned people are going after a group of school leaders whose masks have slipped. Yes, it is a loaded metaphor. It seems logical that the good in a response to a threat should outweigh the dangers in a holistic way. Of course, this situation is being styled as a war, which alters expectations. It is curious and alarming that districts are purchasing masks for children from unvetted sources. Where's the safety data all around? Denial of existential dangers overshadowed by dramatic narrative. You make a good point. Shadow work is necessary to the personal process of understanding what it is to become an actor in another's (or others') shared fantasy. A bit of practical advice regarding the trend-I don't remember if it came from Sam, Richard, or someone else, but I have found it to be useful when dealing with functionally narcissistic people and organizations: don't let them lead. In working 1/1 with children, these organizations demand high levels of compliance. It is a constant task to be alert and move back into a position of leader/actor so that you can maintain healthy and compassionate communication with children.

My God, last year I left a narcissist, who has spent the last year stalking me and moving mountains to destroy my life. This interview has just been such an eye opener to me. I wish I knew how to make him leave me alone. Richard would have a field day with him. He's one step away from being a murderer.

@beccareynolds4625

Жыл бұрын

Feel ya .. I’m 8 years separated and I am still stalked 🤦‍♀️

THe High Priestesses of Narcissism Megham Markle, Jada Pinket Smith and Amber Heard!!! We owe them thanks for making us aware of this heinous situation.

The abused become the abusers…if people don’t resolve their issues, they do to others what was done to them. Mostly people want to distract themselves from unpleasant feelings by indulging in temporary senses pleasures. This only works for a short time and meanwhile suppresses the unpleasantness, where it grows… Hence the massive growth in depression.

@gardeningfromscratch.

2 жыл бұрын

You can't resolve issues that you are not allowed to discuss rationally. Censorship will destroy the art of debate and ultimately freedom and free will.

@zalamael

2 жыл бұрын

@@gardeningfromscratch. True, which is why we need to be obstinate when it comes to discussing such issues. If someone tries to shut you down, to shame you into silence, then you need to speak up loudly and clearly, and refuse to be intimidated by them. When you do that, they will ALWAYS back down. It is all about having courage in your convictions. Show them that you are willing to stand up, to fight your corner, and their lack of conviction will cause them to slither away on their bellies and play the victim.

@KathyStrongFirst

2 жыл бұрын

Whilst I would agree that this can often be the case, I would argue that it is not always the case. I can't tell you how many times I have mistakenly blamed my own behaviour on my childhood abuse and missed opportunities to expand and grow. This 'abused become the abusers' has created great confusion for me as I never intentionally abused people but have realised in hindsight that I also did not always treat people well so maybe there is some of that in there. However, I think self-awareness and an ability to examine our own life in an honest way can mitigate some of the harmful effect of abuse in childhood but that is just my take on things having spent a lifetime working to understand my own pain and the pain I have caused others.

Richard: This one is definitely going to lose me some followers Me: *Instant click*

@RaechelleJ

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

Without even listening to this video I have already said this many times. Narcissism has become contagious.

@jthadcast

2 жыл бұрын

always has been, with 8B people on the planet under consumerism the effects are simply more visable as our numbers have exceeded our ability to ignore this fact.

In a sociopathic society the sociopaths always rise to the top. One must be a certain level of sociopath to be well adjusted in a sociopathic society.

He’s a great bloke. I follow him on YT. His videos have really helped me. Great to see this interview on Triggernometry!👍

@iankclark

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, same here.

@andyjarman4958

2 жыл бұрын

Will have to look, thanks for tip.

@omarra6781

2 жыл бұрын

I've been following RG for a few years now, too. He's helped me understand things a lot better.

@MayBlake_Channel

2 жыл бұрын

Same!

Spot on, the level of narcissism nowadays is epic. May I add, I keep telling my grown children that we are living in the golden age of stupidity as well. I am ever hopeful, perhaps the pendulum will swing back to the way it should and the human race will wake up from this global stupor. Keep up the good work .

@lemsip207

2 жыл бұрын

I call it having a royal attitude. They expect the world to revolve around them as if they are a member of the royal family. When they visit someone they expect to be treated as if the Queen had dropped by and the home they visit to be spick and span at all times. When they get married they expect the world to stop forgetting that Saturday is a very busy day for a lot of people so there are other things going on as well. The world is just carrying on regardless of them. So it takes them by surprise when they see a protest march go past the wedding venue. And they expect other people to tread on eggshells around them while they refuse to sugarcoat their words to those same people.

@biancaswart1101

2 жыл бұрын

'living in the golden age of stupidity'. true.

@dollarsmum3453

Жыл бұрын

@@lemsip207 good example, yo--could be reason they thow up their hands in the air and walk away, cause the whole of 200ppl for an hour, til he acquiesced to continue on with the ceremony--if only they'd expose themselves prior to the wedding--instead, you get hijacked!

@lemsip207

Жыл бұрын

@@dollarsmum3453 They forget even when they get married in church that there are at least three weddings in the same church that day as so many people want to get married on a Saturday in spring or summer. In a registry office there are far more weddings in one day.

I love Richard, he helped me and countless others to figure out these demons we call narcissists. I learned so much from Richard and from Sam Vaknin. We do live in a wrold that fosters and nurtures this malignancy, the true epidemic. I have said before that the real pandemic is narcissism, and we are experiencing in the outer world the manifestation of what is going on in the inner world. Thank you for this lovely talk. Much love.

Love Richard, he comes across as very genuine. You can see that he can sense where we're going as a society especially when he's becoming increasingly censored for calling it out.

@shanemckenzie8681

2 жыл бұрын

He is talked about finding your center. Society has lost its center.. love this dude..

Richard’s videos were a massive part of understanding and overcoming trauma for me. Great to see him on my favourite weekly show.

@jellyrcw12

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you were able to find him. This is my first time hearing him.

@tone3560

2 жыл бұрын

Im tyred of you spelling colour wrong

@jellyrcw12

2 жыл бұрын

@@tone3560 ??

@tone3560

2 жыл бұрын

@@jellyrcw12 pointing out the goofy spelling overseas...its favorite, tired and color

@jellyrcw12

2 жыл бұрын

@@tone3560 no one even said those words lol. I'm also American and spell the same

“They don’t really see you as a person, they see you as food.” 🤯 ding ding ding 🛎

I agree there are more narcissist in society than ever at this point in time. Your videos are helpful especially with SV. Really enjoy these

@jakemorj5498

2 жыл бұрын

Not really, outlets are simply more readily available to people with those tendencies. I’m not sure it has created more narcissistic people than it has simply given a platform to dormant narcissists

@AnnaK-gv3kn

10 ай бұрын

Democrats

@kausamsalam8543

7 ай бұрын

@@AnnaK-gv3knNope.

@MJR1117

2 ай бұрын

​@@jakemorj5498 no you're wrong. half my family are narcissists so I can spot them easily including most of the covert narcs. there's loads in society in general. my workplace is full of them especially in management positions

OMG! Everybody on the planet should watch this discussion right now!!! This was a phenomenal discussion, thank you so much!

People today seem to think that the most important thing in life is "convenience". They think it's more important than values like loyalty, patience, humour, politeness, forbearance, helpfulness, kindness, etc. They get angry if anyone or anything gets in the way of their "convenience"-based lifestyle.

@sergioalvarado6504

2 жыл бұрын

sounds like trump?

@thevulnerablenarcexposed.2764

2 жыл бұрын

@@sergioalvarado6504 yeah does

@jelkel25

2 жыл бұрын

@@sergioalvarado6504 How? You didn't even bother to explain why, was it inconvenient to do so?

@jelkel25

2 жыл бұрын

Convenience and comfort. The sad part is that most of the things truly worth having in life are highly inconvenient and comfort is only ever temporary.

"Honest Conversation"... The understatement of the year! What a fantastic interview! My only wish is that my English would be better... 🇸🇪🇸🇪

@MoominJude

2 жыл бұрын

@Michael Fahlberg, how do you manage with the different accents? I am learning Swedish, very slow going.

@mfg67

2 жыл бұрын

@@MoominJude You will find that Swedish has some heavy accents as well.

@susieare

2 жыл бұрын

I wish my Swedish was better haha x

@andyjarman4958

2 жыл бұрын

Din engelska är mycket bättre än min svenska! Och jag handlar mycket på IKEA också!

This Guy Richard is phenomenal. He talks about the human condition and narcissism so clearly. Despair is a normal reaction. Crucially, he articulates his study of the whole subject with such plain speech, honesty and lack of judgement. It’s refreshing to hear this matter describes simply just as it is. I have yet to come across a self obsessed person who is happy or knows peace.

This was great, perfect way to explain the toxic reality everyone is living.

I listened to Richard's KZread channel for years... And saw him in Portland, Oregon for one of his seminars. Haven't listened to him as much in the last couple years... But when he sent out an email today warning that this interview would be triggering, I had to watch....I love people who aren't afraid to share some raw truth

@MattAngiono

2 жыл бұрын

He's only gotten better... Also check out Tentacle croissant!

@oldmoviemusic

2 жыл бұрын

@@MattAngiono I read you comment as Testicle Croissant and was quite taken aback hahaha

@zalamael

2 жыл бұрын

Ironically, people who fear the truth tend to be what we think of as narcissists. As in, insecure, delusional people who HATE being forced to face reality. Because in the real world, those people are losers and no one takes them seriously. They need their self important delusions in order to function.

@MattAngiono

2 жыл бұрын

@@zalamael I don't think the numbers quite work out that way... I think it's more the reverse, where narcissists tend to be people who live in delusion (or fear truth). Many mentally healthy people also question "the" truth, because that's just rational skepticism. We live in a world full of misconceptions and lies, and haven't evolved to see reality as it is in the first place. We should all be questioning mainstream narratives, especially since we live in a society run by narcissists and psychopaths. To resist mass formation doesn't make into a narcissist yourself. There is however, a style in how you do this, that might be a good indicator here.... If you try to form a huge movement against the narrative where you are a figurehead, for example. If you just think critically and for yourself, that's a whole different thing....

@zalamael

2 жыл бұрын

@@MattAngiono "Ironically, people who fear the truth tend to be what we think of as narcissists. As in, insecure, delusional people who HATE being forced to face reality." "I think it's more the reverse, where narcissists tend to be people who live in delusion (or fear truth)." I think we are basically saying the same thing to one another. Good post though, I like people who are capable of thinking for themselves.

Richard is like Pandora’s box, magical things come out if you know how to ask a right question and these two are full of them. Great conversation 🙏 Love and light🌍

Best ever interview - and the bar you set yourselves is very high indeed. Richard Grannon speaks intelligent sense with great humour and humility. Thank you Trigs!

Richard we can't thank you enough for your work.. So glad you suffered so much so you could learn so much and teach us so much!!!

I found Richard when looking up videos for assertiveness and personal boundaries and he's changed my life for the better through his wisdom and his humble heart to share his videos with us all. Thank you Richard ♥️

Status anxiety is a very real thing these days, with self worth being judged by numbers of friends and likes, not quality of friends, achievements or experiences.

Richard’s videos helped me recover from a relationship breakdown a few years back. Since then I built myself a van and have travelled alone around Australia. The best times were long bush walks in National Parks, finding something akin to god in nature.

@spracketskooch

2 жыл бұрын

God is the identity of reality, and God is your own highest order identity. All is God. It's not surprising that by being immersed in it (God/nature) that you begin to recognize it's presence. Literally everyone could benefit from stewing in unadulterated nature. Glad to hear you're doing better, and my sincerest hope is that you and everyone else make it through the authoritarian crackdown that's besetting Australia and many other nations.

@lisawanderess

2 жыл бұрын

Hey! I’m also in Oz doing the same thing! Mother Nature is where I get my news these days. Make sure you come say hi if we ever cross paths out there on the road. I’m currently in Vic.

WOW. This man has some STRONG WORDS. Thanks TONS guys for making me aware of him and his work. 👍👍

@nadegenazaire4356

Ай бұрын

When will you give me back my computers ?

Richard is amazing. Really glad you interviewed him and introduced him to a bigger audience!

I think it’s also teaching people to stand up to abuse when they see it, as opposed to letting it slide because they are ‘friends’

@beccareynolds4625

Жыл бұрын

Or because said abuser is in a position of “power”

Awesome segment! I wish so many more people would watch this and understand what is really going on behind the mask of social justice!

@malwads1836

9 ай бұрын

There are some basic valid points with some of the social justice movements...But there's plenty of narcs that masquerade around as "social justice warriors" now🤢.I've heard folks complain that the narcs got in & ruined a lot of these movements once they started getting more attention.For example protesting to speak your opinion is perfectly fine...But it's the cluster B types that tend to do all the nasty 💩 like looting, destroying property,arson,etc & then it makes the news & makes everyone & the movement 👀 like a bunch of horrible criminals🙄😮‍💨.

Honest man, especially about his own weaknesses, which knowing that is your greatest strength.

"Narcotic" coming from "Narcissus" is fascinating, thank you, as a linguist I hadn't heard that etymology before.

@freebornaiden7666

2 жыл бұрын

It's not entirely accurate though. It comes from Narcosis which means numb.

@rhythm242able

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah that's total bollocks.

@birdwithabrokenwing

2 жыл бұрын

I think you misunderstood... it’s the word Narcissist / Narcissism that they are saying etymologically comes from the Greek mythological character named Narcissus (who fell in love with his own reflection) which is indeed correct. It’s very easy to get confused though, because often very similar sounding or spelt words have totally different etymologies 😁

@rhythm242able

2 жыл бұрын

@@birdwithabrokenwing 😂 this guy! Lol

@Falsk

2 жыл бұрын

@@freebornaiden7666 etymonline, writes the below, so it might not be total bollocks after all. narcissus (n.) type of bulbous flowering plant, 1540s, from Latin narcissus, from Greek narkissos, a plant name, not the modern narcissus, possibly a type of iris or lily, associated with Greek narkē "numbness" (see narcotic (n.)) because of the sedative effect of the alkaloids in the plant, but Beekes considers this folk-etymology and writes that "The suffix clearly points to a Pre-Greek word."

I love Richard... I am glad I have his voice to listen to in these dark times...

Growing up with a single parent father who was an alcoholic, I was told for hours every night I was shut and useless from the age of around 10. I got used to that feeling and tried drugs through curiosity, not to escape feeling because I’d gotten used to feeling low. Eventually found the drug that made me feel ok in myself and kept taking it. Of course it didn’t keep working for although I kept taking. 47 now. Made it past 40 but fuck knows how. Hope everyone is well.

@beccareynolds4625

Жыл бұрын

Well done you and be proud that you survived that brutal darkness. x

@kausamsalam8543

7 ай бұрын

“Useless” is their favorite word. The other favorite phrase is, “You dumb, stupid woman,” -agreed with the presenters that we are in an epic battle against narcissism and psychopathy. Such types cannot handle religious ethics on a consistent basis. We may each have a smaller version of egotism within us, in our worst moments-as a defense mechanism, unfortunately.

This is very lucid with a down-to-earth use of everyday language. Jordan Peterson sometimes loses me, perhaps because he tends to go off into a monologue. But this dialogue has clarified a lot of stuff for me. Worth watching a second time. Thank you.

@titteryenot4524

2 жыл бұрын

Peterson only ‘sometimes’ loses you. You’re doing better than me then with that consummate Canadian piffler.🤓

@TheTGOAC

Жыл бұрын

Peterson seems a lot less genuine these days than these guys. Idk what happened to him, maybe celebrity ego.

@francescaverdi2555

4 ай бұрын

You may all be cool atheists but what you’re talking about as the way out - feeling the despair, telling the truth and taking the punishment with courage is the story of Jesus Christ

So pleased to see Richard here on Triggernonetry!! I found Richard in 2014 during a very dark time and thanks to him my life has improved so much!!

Never heard of him before this, but I now want him back as much as JBP, Bret/Heather, Zuby, Douglas Murray and Gad Saad, who I'd happily have on the show every week.

@phantomkate6

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, he's good! You can check him out on the Tentacle Croissant channel with Pierre XO if you're looking for conversation-style videos with him in the meantime.

@timsaunders8989

2 жыл бұрын

He has a great channel

THANK YOU! This video does a SUPERIOR job of calmly and informativley explaining common narcissism and how it was created in people. An excellent 1 hour deep dive into how our Modern World creates narcissists... :) Currently healing from a toxic, covert narc ex gf who relied heavily son likes and attention via endless DMs on social media to keep her herself somewhat sane, which I can clearly see now from all these youtube videos was her way of trying to like her life after her terrible childhood of abuse and never having a true parental guidance and unconditional love.

Richard Grannon helps people protect this man at all cost

‘A civilisation rarely out lives its gods’ so said Bernard Shaw - now we know why.

@AlkzandrDenmanm1_x

2 жыл бұрын

Nice quote

@tttm99

2 жыл бұрын

A good observation. There was more than a moment in that interview which reminded me of Shaw - though turns out it was more Oscar Wilde via Shaw: "there are two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart’s desire. The other is to get it." Anyway that's my semi-relevant input 😂

@stmatthewsisland5134

2 жыл бұрын

@@tttm99 I wish I'd lived when they did, I dread the future.

Great discussion. Totally agree with you both on the undermining of Western culture & particularly with Francis on trans ideology & the abuse if our children. And gulag's and genocide are not too fantastical. When you're motivated by believing you're on a moral mission, you can excuse a lot in the name of achieving it. Well done guys.

Fantastic conversation blowing up with gigantic truth bombs. Appreciate the courage, fellas.

Richards videos have gotten me through my breakup with my narc. He's been so helpful. It's so so quiet now 🤫 I can think freely and his issues are his 👋 not mine. You can't help someone who is "perfect" when you finally see what's been happening and others to back you up, it's fantastic. He has his family, who are terrified of him. Oh well they created it they can deal with it.

Another brilliant show - we need more people talking about stuff like this, but even more importantly - people who are willing to do something about it so we can change things for the better.

Oh wow … previously, due to being overwhelmed by so much content to consume, I had mostly bypassed this guy. But this Trig podcast was thoroughly enjoyable and thought provoking. Thanks, guys.

@catsmeow3478

2 жыл бұрын

Richard is my number one content provider and life “coach” for two years now. The richest, most valuable experience I’ve found across the board. Check out his channel(s) for more where this came from! He and his community are worth prioritizing.

@5th_Interaction

2 жыл бұрын

I gave you a thumbs up, hopefully it doesn't fuel your narcissism.

Thank you all for a great conversation 👍🏻👍🏻

Great discussion gents. It's fantastic to hear you guys simply mulling ideas over, rather than trying to win for the sake of it.

Loving this interview. Very deep. Gives you a lot to think about.

Been looking forward to seeing Richard on your show!

Outstanding interview, well done Richard and the Triggernometry Team.

Hurt people helping other people that are hurt without resolving their own is similar as the plumber that fixes leaks in houses while his house is filling up with water...but it is always possible to integrate this along as Richard has done the past years. We are all just walking each other home. It has been pleasure and heap of fun following along the past years. Working on self awareness does not have to be boring or grueling on a constant note. Always refreshing seeing people having a real honest conversation these days. Thank you for this! I am subscribing.

@tttm99

2 жыл бұрын

Great comment. I hope we soon find or rediscover each other's humanity. And while I feel nobody is necessarily "completely there", I know what you mean. Although sometimes I think a degree of brokenness can be a great motivator for great good, I also think it needs to be tempered with acknowledgement of that brokenness and fallibility. Time and time again I see people butting heads over trivia, especially online. Yet any observer might see that it's defensiveness, status anxiety, and fear that are the source of tension rather than the topic. I regularly see people getting lambasted for even asking simple questions in a friendly way. I feel like I need to make a t-shirt (for myself and perhaps others) that says "part-time hypocrite", or "fallible", or even "odd socks today". People who assume combat positions before discussion are unlikely to ever agree. We've heard of toxic everything else, I wonder when we bravely acknowledge toxic self-righteousness? - and maybe try to overcome it with forbearance and courtesy.

@huldaherna3935

2 жыл бұрын

@@tttm99 You said it right about the responses, the straw man figure can be a task to deal with when it is put between the topic (which is in some way overwhelming) and the response to hide the actual response (which is usually either trigger or fear). I sometimes do this myself when I do not want to go into the topic at hand and this has ruined quite many therapy sessions where I only have 1 hour and I kill the actual topic with a buffer to escape from it. And then when I come out from the session I am mad at myself for doing it once again. And I write it down to take with me to next session so I will not do it again. I will buy that "odd socks today" t-shirt heheh.

One of the best interviews on this channel of late! Appreciate and listen to both Triggernometry and Richard Grannon, so this was a serious treat, and quality content. Muchas gracias 🙏🏼

Best talk ever 👏 👌 🙌 ❤ 💯 The way Richard explains things don't think I have seen him interviewed before . You guys were top on the interview applause 👏 🙌 gave me lots to think about . Thank you

I stopped using social media about five years ago, the only exception being that I'll sometimes look at art on instagram while I'm taking a shit. I don't regret it even the slightest bit. I've also never taken a selfie, not once. Never thought of myself as important or interesting enough to take pictures of myself, let alone post them online for everyone to see. I've still got plenty of problems and faults, but refusing to engage with social media has lifted an enormous psychological burden from my shoulders, and helped deepen the relationships I have with family and friends. There truly is a plague of narcissism infesting our societies, and the only way that I can see to stop it is each of us refusing to participate, one by one.

@kwetinka0170

Жыл бұрын

Yes, thank you! I am still on facebook, but I use only messenger. I never add new post, scroll the wall or engage in any other ways. I really think social media are unhealthy and when I say it to some of my friends, they see it as an attack on themselves. They are also quite narcissistic and have low-esteem. When I was going through hard times in my life and was scrolling facebook and see only success of others, it worsened my depression a million times. And still sometimes I ask myself if it there isn't something wrong with me, when I don't have hundreds of likes on facebook weekly. Am I less succesfull? Do I have lesser friends?

Genius stuff. I would encourage digging a little deeper. The loss of social culture from social media, modern life as well as modern "child rearing" standards (no touch with real life and grownup role models, everything we learn is cognitive with a lack of free development). We are not accustomed to a lot of social life nowadays. We are distracted from ourselves. To the point that we choose TV at night over a good conversation that may also involve some personal reflection and conflict resolution. We don't develop personally because we can totally create a life where we don't have to confront ourselves with ourselves (our shadows) and we can totally evade people we have conflicts with. It's social networking and commitment that keeps us at bay and sane (and open minded as well). We've lost that, almost all of it... as well as the ability to speak candid (even BFF culture is dying). So this is where this leads us... A world of narcissists (who society could keep controlled if it stuck together) and so many people who have withdrawn from society.

@danielotero9038

9 ай бұрын

I feel you, every single line, not lying

I was not expecting to enjoy this so much. This was enlightening...Thanks for this lads. Great job!.

Great conversation! One of my favorites. More like this, please!

'I knew what I had to do, and I was willing to take the punishment'. The thoughts this statement conjures helps to heal my soul.

one of the best. . . no, this WAS the most inciteful, comprehensive podcast I've heard so far regarding the scourge of social media and Covid. good form, gentlemen. seriously, good form.

...and the circle is complete: been following Grannon for the last five years, after a relationship with a Narcissist led me to him - feel like I've been simultaneously red-pilling along with him to the cultural-level Cluster-B sociopathy that so mirrors the interpersonal version.

This is FASCINATING! One of the most interesting guests you've had, I'm learning a lot, especially about relationships. It might be that one hour two minutes listening here will have taught me more than two decades of bad relationships :)

This is a great chat, really thought provoking. Thankyou

Richard's KZread stuff has helped me out a lot over the years, I just looked him up again and KZread ranked first his detractors... so he must be doing something right.

I'm so thankful for the wisdom that Richard has and shares! I've been listening to him for years and he has definitely inspired me to make good decisions in my life. The decision to be radically honest with myself has changed my life so much for the better. I like the fact that Richard is so authentic and honest! It's so refreshing in this world!

What an insightful man. I've found some genuinely amazing people through triggernometry but this one had me glued. Such an interesting background and set of life experiences, wow. Subscribed!

Very much enjoyed the intelligent conversation---it was so refreshing!

Process of Despair: 1) Denial 2) Anger 3) Grief 4) Acceptance

This was a great conversation. Richard, I agree with you and see the path humanity is on in a similar light. Thanks for the talk, I enjoyed it!

Richard Grannon!?!? YESSS!!!!!!

I so much enjoyed this discussion. Narcissism is a very damaging state of being, it seems. There is indeed an epidemic of it! It is indeed depressing. Gulags and genocide are on the rise, sneaking up behind us - as we’re engrossed in taking selfies of our precious selves.

I am so glad I am the age that I am !!! To listen to Richard about how people interact with one another now leaves me feeling sick !!!!! How do you EVER fallen in love now ????

Without living ethically, we have no chance in realising peace or happiness..not watching what others do but by watching ourselves

Depressingly brilliant ........

@gardeningfromscratch.

2 жыл бұрын

But enlightened.....

I'm sat looking at you three on a screen, telling me how terrible it is for me to be spending my time looking at a screen.

In relation to finding a substitute for God, "because the toothpaste is already out of the tube" just makes me wonder why try to reinvent the wheel? I was agnostic for the longest time because I didn't have enough faith to be atheistic, but this here really spoke volumes "The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!" All of the darkness that we see now is the formulation of the shadow self getting idolized and praised. I thank God for how the JudaoChristian worldview has not died away and has made more sense than all the philosophy and world faiths I have studied up until 4 years ago.

fabulous conversation, thank you!

We learn from history that we don't learn from it.

Gratitude. Always maintain this. It is inherently humble

As a christian I am surprised and very happy that the insight into the human need for reverence is shared by at least some atheists. It bodes well for the future, I think.

Richard helped me so much in recovering from a toxic narc, nice to see him again.

Long time fan of Richard! Tentacle Croissant oui oui! Great talk, really enjoy listening and I couldn't agree more! ❤

He's brilliant, so pleased to discover Richard today!