Why is her boyfriend comfortable enough to be commenting on OTHER women's body in front of her?? Immediately dumped

@ChaniBethyPooPoo

2 жыл бұрын

This exactly! There's nothing wrong if he was attracted briefly to someone in passing, or objectively noticed, BUT the boyfriend is apparently GOING ON about this other girl's boobs to his GF. Wtf?! Ewwww. 😵

@Gna_d54

2 жыл бұрын

We don't actually know he ever said anything. I would actually bet money he didn't because that would be insane for a guy to do. OP also gave no indication he was creepy in anyway. It was just the crazy entitled, insecure roommate who claimed he said something after OP seemed resistant to her insane request.

@thesilkportfolio

2 жыл бұрын

@@Gna_d54 that's very true

@Athasin

2 жыл бұрын

Because she's insecure AF which means she'd be too insecure to leave a douche like that.

@that.ll_do_pig

2 жыл бұрын

@@Gna_d54 I would bet that he did say something because what insecure woman would admit to another woman that her boyfriend has been commenting about her breasts? I doubt she initially wanted to share that bit of info. We're both speculating based mostly on our life experiences of course; these differences in perception fascinate me.

This isn't an eating disorder insecurity, but a jealous " my boyfriend is attracted to you" insecurity. Now, that is her own BOYFRIEND'S fault. As mentioned she pays to live there so the boyfriends making her uncomfortable isn't suppose to be there, because they are not paying.

@katherineflores6319

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!! If your boyfriend is talking about your friends boobs, that is not your friends fault. That is your boyfriends fault and you need to figure out if you want to be with someone like that.

I'd be soo grossed out if my bf talked about my roommate's boobs?!?!

@dustinbeam4996

2 жыл бұрын

Immediately dumped

It’s your house, you can do what you want. If she doesn’t want her boyfriend seeing you then they should go to the boyfriends house

"we should not be responsible for other people's triggers" ABSOLUTELY AGREED. Your triggers are your problem.

Takeout can be expensive too, the roommate should pay for it all if she wants op to live like a hobbit

So she has had an eating disorder but she pokes fun at someone else's weight?

@tawnyrobinson3930

2 ай бұрын

Doubtful she has an eating disorder. She’s just jealous & was trying to embarrass OP, but instead embarrassed herself. The roommate seems like a C U Next Tuesday.

EDs *certainly* do not give you the right to police ANYONE else's body, what a disgusting way to treat another person. I hope roommate gets the help she needs with that because she is obviously still struggling with her relationship with food, in the meantime I hope OP can get themselves out of that lease.

@Gna_d54

2 жыл бұрын

Not just policing her body but literally fatshamed her for ordering takeout after she demanded she did that to stay out of her bfs line of sight. The audacity!

@rigby.walabee

2 жыл бұрын

Like 3rd RM being like "well she HAD an ED so she gets to give you one now cuz she's jealous of you"... like hun no

@Tea_Noire

2 жыл бұрын

Ime people with eating disorders and body dysmorphia are some of the most vicious, demonic mean girls esp when it comes to other people's appearances, which is super weird considering a lot of them don't exactly look like Marilyn Monroe either. When you read thru pro-ana forums or message boards the comments some of them make about other people are disgusting.

@taylorsinclair7684

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tea_Noire she's not a mean girl because she has an eating disorder, she's just mean and has an eating disorder. Kind of a gross comment to make about a group struggling with mental health.

I totally agree that we can't be responsible for other people's triggers. Of course don't go out of your way to trigger people. But I have an eating disorder and it's not my friend's job to make sure they aren't triggering me. They would never do it on purpose but sometimes it inevitably happens. Still, I would never blame them because I know it's unintentional.

The roommate TAUNTED OP about eating the takeout she told her to buy. She gets what she gets. Go to the boyfriend's. But she's not going to the boyfriend's because boyfriend likes perving on her roommates and roommate doesn't have a spine. It's sad that roommate clearly has issues with her ED and self esteem, but she's got to deal with it.

I would've fought the roommate; like, bitch I've been doing what YOU requested and now you're making nasty comments about it?! Also, how you gonna say you had an ED that led to you hating your body, yet some odd years in the future make nasty comments to someone else about their body?! "You're Either Lying to Yourself, or You're Some Type of Superhero" sounds like it'd go great on a shirt or something

Trust me, the pick me girl is the same one that will go on to tell the story of OP being this "horrible roommate" that her and the other roommate had to deal with at one of their weddings. Had a similar thing happen to me, where my roommates needed to control who I was dating (like legit got mad when I was hanging around a new person) and approve who was in the house (despite me having my own room etc). Very much projecting nonsense, and it's always 2 against 1. Unfortunately sometimes 3 people living together doesn't work well in cases like this where people can't be mature

I have never felt so proud for somebody going to their room and getting changed to shut someone up ever!

Lets normalize not tolerating other people's disrespect of our existence and coding it as "being the bigger person," that is called "being a doormat." I worked hard to not hate my body in therapy. Perhaps the roommate should give that a try. She should also mention to her therapist that she is with a man that talks often about other women's tiddies and that it makes her insecure so perhaps the therapist can coach her on setting some healthy boundaries with the correct person (or getting her to self-actualize that she needs to break up with this person).

NTA! The audacity of her roommate! She can dress however she wants in her own home.

Idk the names since I’m new on the channel & for that I apologize, but I noticed how the blond woman very often reinsures the other woman every time she slightly doubts herself. For example the brunette [sorry again!] said “Idk maybe I’m just venting” after sharing an experience completely related to the topic and the other Host said something to reinsure her and don’t make her feel bad about it… I fcking LOVE to see it. You make such a good duo for this fun podcast. My respects go to you for being so nice to each other. Love to hear u both! 💜❤️

@nursefiesty8297

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the channel ! Morgan is the blonde and Lauren is the brunette ! Hope this helps and yes I totally agree with what you said ♥️♥️♥️

The quote, I think is “If you mess with the bull, you get the horns.” Btw, never here close to first!😅❤️

Who does this roommate think she is policing her body AND her food?!? Also you are not responsible for someone else’s insecurities and pervy boyfriend.

This reminds me of videos I’ve seen of women on the beach and wives /GFs approach them saying they need to cover up because their husbands /BFs won’t stop staring at them in their bikinis or whatever they’re wearing. Stop policing strangers and confront your husbands/BFs about staring /disrespecting other women. Have some respect. I have been w my wife 32 years. I have never looked at other women when we’re together. I don’t even comment on women when we watch TV. If my wife mentions a woman on tv and asks “isn’t she beautiful “ or “is that lingerie sexy” etc I ALWAYS say “babe I wasn’t even paying attention I was thinking about…usually I’ll tell her I was thinking about having to cut the grass the next day and making a mental note of things I need like fuel etc. or thinking about having to work on my tractor etc. It’s crazy I know but I will not have my wife thinking I might favor someone else over her. Won’t happen. Because I don’t want my wife to think I find other women more attractive or put her in a place of embarrassment for my behavior or to ever wonder if I still find her attractive and sexy. Trust me it’s not that hard to simply not look at other women. Do I occasionally look at other women? Sure I’m human but not when I’m with my wife. I owe her that respect. And I definitely do not ogle them or stare like I’ll never get to see another woman in my life. I would hate for a woman to see me staring at them and them feel uncomfortable. I also have a grown daughter and she has told me how men look at her and hit on her and she feels so uncomfortable. Some have frightened her in the gym to the point she just leaves. I do not look at those women and sexualize them. However I can respect other women’s beauty. But it does not mean I have dreams of having sex w women I see that I think are beautiful. Some men however, like this BF, stare at other women in front of their SO. And this guy actually talked about roommates breasts to his GF. This disrespects both women iMO. I’m not perfect by any means but I would never disrespect my wife or any of her friends like this guy did. I guess I’m old fashioned or some may find what I do stupid but I just believe I owe it to my wife to make her feel like the most beautiful woman on the planet.

Op does need to leave out of that house, coz it’s gunna be ww3 after that. Not to mention it sounds like the room mates are very close, so she has no one to back her up in her house. But op isn’t the AH.

i’d be grossed out WITH MY BOYFRIEND if he made that type of comment. she literally gave up on living her life at her own house just to make the roommate more “comfortable” or whatever. the problem is with her boyfriend, and even though she said that he made the comment, i doubt it. and the pizza comment, WTF???? hope this girl gets better roommates. totally not the asshole, she was just living her life. this makes me sooooo mad, omg.

this is NOT an eating disorder!!! I had an eating disorder throughout middle school & high school. I would go to group talks & therapy to talk about it with other people that were also going through the same thing our first thing is NOT projecting it onto other people in anyway or becoming a burden to other people. some people that were in my group would actually talk about it more openly than others but most of us kinda shut people out, not talk about all together, or isolate ourselves. none of us really compared our bodies to other people it was more of having a mental conversation in front of a mirror wishing it was different in some areas.

@Resilience252

Жыл бұрын

Okay, just because you had an eating disorder doesn’t mean you get to decide if someone else has one or not.

This sounds like toxic college roommate antics. I’ve been there

Everybody say it with me..."Your illness is not your fault but it is your responsibility."

Lauren is me, her reaction was GOLD

On top of that, why would she (the roommate) make fun of somebody getting take out all the time (at her convenience), and then not expect the other person to retaliate after she makes a poor joke about eating too much??

I absolutely LOVE that you said we aren’t responsible for other peoples triggers and insecurities. Yes, yes, yes, a million times YES!!! If you have “triggers” that means you have unresolved trauma/issues, and it is YOUR responsibility to resolve them, not MY responsibility to walk on eggshells around you so that YOU’RE comfortable. You’re not better than me, you’re not more important than me, your feelings do not come before mine. If we had to appease EVERYONE, we wouldn’t be able to do ANYTHING, because literally everything has the potential to trigger *someone.* Since we can’t please everyone, we shouldn’t have to try to please anyone. It’s not anyone else’s responsibility to help you continue to suppress and avoid your issues. That’s not how the world works. Until you truly heal your wounds, process your pain, and resolve your lingering feelings, you WILL be triggered by something or someone at some point.

Imagine having the guts to bring your bf daily to your shared apartment and get piss at the other people paying rent fif that space for being confortable at their home.

I would have done the same if I was shamed like that…

Different situation, but I used to have a roommate that had a plethora of issues, as much as I loved her. We had a mutual friend that was at our apartment very often, and would bring her boyfriend with her most of the time. Our friend would warn us both that she and her bf were coming over at whatever time so we weren’t surprised by it. My roommate would go walking around the apartment in a push up bra. It felt blatantly disrespectful to me, and he wasn’t even my boyfriend. Our friend had a conversation with her and asked if she could put a shirt on if she’s walking around the apartment when the boyfriend was there, as it was making both her and her boyfriend uncomfortable. Roommate then had a meltdown saying she felt like she wasn’t allowed to look at him or talk to him anymore and didn’t know how to still be friends with him. So, I thought that was the direction this was going to go in, and I was very wrong. Roommate with the boyfriend in this story is just being cruel.

@franksnbeans7413

2 жыл бұрын

How is it disrespectful? If she was at the beach would it be inappropriate? She should be able to wear whatever she wants at home. Don't like it, don't look.

@dustinbeam4996

2 жыл бұрын

@@franksnbeans7413 that comes down to intention. If she’s suddenly dressing like that BECAUSE the bf was coming over it is weird and inappropriate and obviously a show for attention. But if she just dressed like that all the time while at home it would be different.

When I lost my weight and started eating healthy i constantly get asked what drugs am I taking. Because to them I look unhealthy even though I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been.

We need to normalize minding your own business, especially about what others eat and their bodies. If someone comments on what I eat I snap back at them now. So over it. I lost a bunch of weight and if I ate a treat people commented(even if I planned my daily calories around it or a workout so I could use the extra carbs as fuel), I am over weight people comment… mind your own business 🙄

I think your confusing “if you mess with the bull you get the horns” with “if you can’t take the heat, stay out of the kitchen” haha you were almost there tho

😭im obsessed with this show

If he doesn’t like the way I dress, he can get the fuck out of MY house. Simple.

the audacity that’s insecurities and jealousy tell your friends to keep their boyfriends in their room while you can freely roam around and do anything and everything in your apartment.stop being so considerate while they cant

watching this while eating the rest of my birthday cake to myself

It’s “mess with the bull, you get the horns”

If my boyfriend started making comments about my roommate's breasts, he simply wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore. That's creep behavior, and I'm not gonna keep dating a creep much less inconvenience my roommates for one.

Does anyone know what microphone they are using?

Am I really the first view on this! Timing is on my side 😂

One of my favourite things about this podcast is listening to the terms y’all come up with lol. “If you mess with the bull you get the horns”

@that.ll_do_pig

2 жыл бұрын

Lol a decades old saying usually made by someone in authority. Have you seen The Breakfast Club? Good flick from 1985. It's one of the most quoted lines. 😊

Me: *eats apple* I'm the epitome of health 😎😂

So she gets comfort for her eating disorder, but body shames the other roommates for what she’s eating? What??

If you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen. Literally

Sounds like the roommate is a mean girl that feels good putting others down. Also, if the boyfriends are comstantly there every night and she has to stay in her room then the boyfriends need to pay some rent and hers should go down.

That makes me mad that she wants her to change her ways Bc of the girls boyfriend! Like go to his house! Roommate is an asshole!

certified slay

Stories like these are why I don't do roommates.

I agree with this bc no one should be responsible yk

the real irony is... she WAS told to wear a bra. malicious compliance, much? I like it

We body shame for eating unhealthy. We body shame for eating healthy. Wtf?

If you mess with a bull, you'll get the horns.

She told the girl to get take out and when she did she tried to use it as a way to shame her. Knowing that she's getting take out cause of her fit earlier that week. Pos.

All I know…is if my bf was talking about my roommates breasts? Nah he ain’t the one.

Then go to the boyfriend house. Why have your boyfriend over and you’re uncomfortable

holly shit i’m so upset for her

She should be able to be comfortable in her own home. If anything, that means keep the random bf’s away.

Went to look at the original posting and it got taken down for being fake

2 types of people: insecure ones, and liars

I just wanna know where the whole eating disorder came from lol. She didn’t say anything. And someone wearing something definitely shouldn’t trigger you, and if it does, you should really receive help. She shouldn’t have to cover up herself because you’re jealous, uncomfortable, whatever it is and your boyfriend definitely shouldn’t be commenting on another woman’s body, especially to you, it’s creepy, and should not be normalized at all.

Go to your bfs house and stop ruining your room mates lives. Jealousy is ugly

Someone saying mean comments to you isn’t justifying those actions and idk why you’re all praising her for acting so petty. She wasn’t wearing what she wanted in that moment she was just doing something to piss her roommate off to feel powerful and prove a point. Idk I just feel like this girl was acting like a doormat until she decided to act out and it could all be avoided by having a conversation! She should’ve set boundaries not hide in her room and not speak up until she got to that point of needing to act out in what I believe is an immature way.

She makes a comment about OP’s weight and expects them to be respectful to her about her body? No.

So if I'm understanding this correctly the boyfriend is making comments about the roommate's boobs while his girlfriend is sitting there in lingerie??? He sounds like he is not necessarily as into his girlfriend as she thinks.

Fuuuuuck these roommates

@leooooo795

Жыл бұрын

wdym

Second

Not the @sshole, other people's insecurities/problems are not other people's problem. If anything I'll make your situation worse .