Who tf interrupts their spouse’s work meeting and thinks there’s nothing wrong with that…

@kylenewright4334

9 ай бұрын

Right? I’m over here like… who does that

@sonjamiller8266

9 ай бұрын

For real!!

@kristinmichelleyt

9 ай бұрын

Entitled people. Entitled people do that.

@delilahevil5089

9 ай бұрын

It's not a meeting, it's dinner. I would think it's weird af if he didn't. But I've only been in banking 30 years.

He could have smiled and waved at them, but other than that, yeah that's super weird and akward for her to interrupt like that.

She is a child! Is not a different story: He is in a business meeting! She is a child and she needs help!

I'm in grants, a huge portion of my job is meeting with potential funders - usually over dinner. I would be mortified if my partner did this, it's clearly a work meeting...they're not just there shooting the shit.

I feel like they're the kind of people who think time is supposed to stop for faaaamily. And I say this as someone with a very close family. But a close family that respects one another's lives outside of the family. Whereas I know people whose families would 100% pull this.

I’m a lawyer. I have told my wife if she sees me in public with a client she is to ignore me. My relationship with my clients is rooted in confidentiality, and there could be professional license repercussions for breaching confidences.

Weird AF poor husband needs to run lmao who interrupts a work meeting for a damn birthday wish

@jaboi7709

9 ай бұрын

“needs to run” is dramatic

@roselolagne6642

9 ай бұрын

@@jaboi7709 you would think but no, anyone willing to put their own family before their relationship won’t make for a good wife. Imagine the things she would do to him when he has children. This is ridiculous to ask for him when she’s just a sister in law.

It seems like her ego was hurt that he did not acknowledge her when they ended up being at the same restaurant. I don't even think her concern was having him participate in the birthday celebrations because the thing she kept mentioning in her post was about how he ignored her and her family. She seems most hurt about that aspect and is not even considering that he's in the middle of a business meeting.

Op sounds defensive. She can’t handle knowing she’s the A.H. after everyone’s comments.

There were so many signs that she should have just minded her business and left him alone. OP cannot read a room. Maybe she has something, idk.

The husband does not suck at all. Why would you purposely interrupt someone’s work dinner. He’s at work. He’s working. Just because he’s at the same restaurant as you does not mean he’s working any less!

I'd laugh if they weren't clients they were divorce lawyers lol

Clients will think he's weird and possibly abusive if he can't be civil in public. It's 5 minutes of normal social interaction

"It made my family feel real let down..." boohoo How did they not text in the restaurant?

If it were me in the meeting I would’ve just waved and said hi. Clients will understand and makes for some small talk. But to be forced away from the meeting is insane!!

I"m in the ESH camp. She shouldn't have gone over there. He shouldn't have ignored her. They both had better options.

I would never do this in a million years she is a child .. grow up!

Depending on the work environment and her family dynamic, he probably knew how her family would pressure him for more time away from his meeting, including her obviously. Especially depending on the client or the type of work where it needs to be very serious and you gotta be 100% there. You need to be in the work headspace and not the family headspace. She was completely wrong to do that. It is going to translate to her not respecting him or his business to the clients and that will leave an impression on their minds.

Talkabout ur engagement 💍❤

Absolutely not. I would break up with them.

They both behaved weird. If I’m husband and I’m working idc about your sisters birthday but at the same time I would say hello and introduce my wife to my business partners. She should have said hello and left and he shouldn’t have flipped out though either

@butterflyinflight85

8 ай бұрын

Exactly partly because you would willingly introduce them and not ignore your wife. She shouldn't have interrupted but he shouldn't have ignored her.

No he was being very weird. They both handled it poorly.

YTA, who tf interrupts a work meeting with clients? He was at work and you interrupted his work, that can put his whole job at jeopardy by making him look unprofessional and by loosing important clients, the fact the the clients were silent should tell you enough how serious it was and the fact the she ignored her husband when he said that he was busy when he was in a meeting speaks a lot on how she views his job And to whoever thinks that meetings can’t be serious in a public setting, they can, and it happens all the time, like someone said, it’s to build a trust with the clients, even if it’s not in a public place, it’s still rude af to interrupt a meeting Edit: It sucks that we can’t tell how serious the meeting was but nevertheless, it was a ah move for her to interrupt a work meeting

First story… YTA wtf…. Get a grip girl my lord

she sound entitles, i will never disturb my husband during business meeting that my rice bowl and also it ur sister business that to cringe. ur parent don't know better u should protect ur husband.

They both acted super strangely. But given the pandemic and how many people had to work from home, it was normal seeing someone's pet or kid interrupt a zoom meeting, so idk why seeing and interacting with your partner in a coincidental run-in is considered embarrassing or unprofessional. Life outside work exists, pretending it doesn't is weird. And if anything, it's a fun story he could joke about with his coworkers later on. Her insistence he join the family was unnecessary and pushy, and that's definitely something they could've discussed boundary-wise, but his responses to her and general behaviour afterward makes me feel like something's way off about their communication, like there's a huge age gap between them or something, so idk who TA is here

@User-yu8er

9 ай бұрын

Depending on the career, your level of professionalism will vary. For you it may not seem like a big deal but that's because you may not have experienced a job where almost everything is taken seriously / is high stakes / requires heavy professionalism. For some, client meetings can be casual and the goal is to build a personal connection so stopping to say hi to someone is fine and can even come off as personable, but for other client meetings, this could be a sign that you do not respect the other person's time. The client might also have very limited time. Every workplace culture is different but you can't fault him for sticking within his workplace culture in order to keep his client happy. It's childish for him to give the silent treatment to her, so he needs to work on that, but without context we don't know if there are any past situations or patterns of OP's behavior that have built up this annoyance towards her. I don't know why you jumped to an age gap, though. If anything, maybe he's much more ahead in his career than her so she doesn't understand. Or, on the other hand, maybe he's new to the job and can't afford to seem unprofessional in any capacity. We need context but regardless OP is TA for not respecting his boundaries for work.

@T_Cup

9 ай бұрын

@User-yu8er Most of that isn't relevant to this situation because they're not at work, they're in a public space. If anyone runs into you in public, you can't dictate how they'll behave. This is a restaurant, they could be serving alcohol. Ever tried reasoning with a drunk? Just saying it's not professional when they're having a work dinner doesn't really work imo, like they're not signing documents and reading files, they're eating and chatting in a relaxed social setting. Besides, he wasn't clear about why it was such a big deal. "I dont want to" is not the same as "I can't without it costing me". And he hasn't experienced any kind of reprimand from his workplace as far as we know - if he had, again, why isn't he clearly stating this to his wife in a conversation instead of scolding her like a child and then icing her out like he's the child? Even the fact she felt comfortable pushing past his boundaries also seems really unusual, so there's something more going on here

@pokesims3658

9 ай бұрын

@@T_Cup Just because the lunch meeting wasn’t at the office building doesn’t mean the husband wasn’t working. If anything the husband should’ve gotten a more private booth, however Op should have read the situation before walking over. The clients were obviously not people they knew and depending on what the meeting was about Op most likely made her husband look unprofessional. Also hard to tell if Op actually gave us all the details. This also goes for people who work from home too. All interrupting a meeting like that does makes you look rude and makes your spouse or whoever look unprofessional.

@khalicocat

9 ай бұрын

@@T_Cup Many clients prefer meetings in public settings & many international clients especially do partake in adult beverages(responsibly-not getting drunk) as a sign of trust/bonding activity. Occasionally, paperwork is signed at lunch outings, but most of the time the lunches/dinners are more for building a relationship with clients. The lunch meeting was a time for him to prove to the client that he has what they need and want. His wife inserting herself made him look unappealing to potential clients who likely want a shark, not a family man.

@T_Cup

9 ай бұрын

@khalicocat I doubt anyone who's having a meeting in a restaurant where families host birthday parties are looking for a shark, and it might've actually benefited him to play the role of family man. This is all conjecture on both our parts, but what isn't is that neither of them are effectively communicating. But it seems like OP is at least trying and her husband isn’t, which is why this misunderstanding happened. Idk how she knows nothing about his work situation, but I can't fault her when he's the one withholding, and people aren't dogs that simply obey. They should've talked about it and still should. But again the husband is the one who's refusing, OP at least seems willing to ask what she did wrong

I think he could have just said hello I’m the beginning I mean it’s the nice thing to do. Like it takes a few minutes and then he can go back to his work. But I also get that she should have just left him alone

@danganryanne9499

9 ай бұрын

I think it really depends on the work setting, the clients when were silent when OP came over and asked for the husband to come over, so I’m assuming the meeting was serious and he couldn’t miss anything

@bubblesawesome3284

9 ай бұрын

@@danganryanne9499 true but like a simple wave.

@danganryanne9499

9 ай бұрын

@@bubblesawesome3284 Yeah he could’ve done something like that but we could never know what was going on in that meeting 🤷🏼‍♀️

@test-kf2zv

9 ай бұрын

@@danganryanne9499 Agreed! And what kind of clients these were. Some would be very understanding of things like that and say "oh my goodness, go over, we can wait!" Others would not. And you can't really just go "oh well, their problem" when your job's on the line.

@danganryanne9499

9 ай бұрын

@@test-kf2zv Yeah 😭 like what OP did could’ve caused husband to loss his job

I will say that he was acting really cold and odd when he refused to acknowledge any of them. But he was in a meeting and they knew it. I feel like there wasn’t a black-and-white right answer… And how he was talking to his wife afterwards was unnecessary. I understand that he was upset but when you yell at someone and speak down to them they are much less likely to see your side of it… I think they need to have a respectful heart to heart when they calm down.

Everyone sucks here, whyʻd he ignore her? He made it far more weird than it needed to be. Though whyʻd she even go over there in the first place?

@pokesims3658

9 ай бұрын

Because he was there to work and most likely wants to keep work and personal life separate, and it also depends on what he does for work and who he was with. In this instance Op made her husband look super unprofessional and could have compromised something important for his work.

@jaboi7709

9 ай бұрын

@@pokesims3658 I understand that, but him act weird didnʻt help with any of that.

@pokesims3658

9 ай бұрын

@@jaboi7709 Not really especially if this is an ongoing issue that the husband has brought up before, and judging how Op acted it seems like it is. Also depending on what the husband does and his position a high level of professionalism is most likely required and expected of him especially when dealing with clients. I don’t personally have a career like this but my mom does and I know how important Client meetings are even the lunch ones.

@jaboi7709

9 ай бұрын

@@pokesims3658 I just wish we had more information.

@khalicocat

9 ай бұрын

@@jaboi7709 his reaction is the information. She put his career at risk & likely got him blacklisted from promotions within his company. (my spouse's job is also heavy on client relations, so I've been taught not to interfere during any meetings I could potentially be around-especially with international clients)

Sorry but no he could have laighed at the coincidence if it was truly accidental that they both showed up to the same place. Pretending you dont see your family to impress a coworker is beyond weird.

@tamalehot3786

9 ай бұрын

He was meeting with clients not just coworkers though

@butterflyinflight85

8 ай бұрын

@@tamalehot3786 That actually could have worked to his advantage tho. Alot of clients like feeling like they know someone personally. It can help create a better working relationship.

Her husband is a loser. He could have looked like an amazing family man and good person in front of these business people but he decided to act like a teenager

@pokesims3658

9 ай бұрын

The guy was there to work and depending on what he does and who he was with Op most likely made her husband look super unprofessional. He knew the situation more than her and Op most likely compromised something important judging by the client’s reaction to her at the beginning. In a professional setting with certain people looking like a family person can help but in other times like the post it doesn’t.