This was helpful: to take needs coming from trauma seriously. And not tell oneself that it shouldn't be there.

Been in an incompatible relationship for the last year and a half. I’ve known it the whole time and just didn’t have the strength to admit it… thank you Teal

@alext.9033

2 жыл бұрын

Don't love a lie man. That's all, don't lie to yourself

@ElleS572

2 жыл бұрын

Will be 7 years in April for me. I honestly think my partner just wants a maid and a prostitute, of which I'm neither. A friendship between us is non existent and we're both very different people....

@autonomydepthconsciousness7633

2 жыл бұрын

No worries, you learned the lesson for next time

@kadicon

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@justlikehearts

2 жыл бұрын

Same… but for 5 years now with a child….. listen to yourself. The time is now.

Incompatibility is such a hard pill to swallow. We all want everyone to love us and letting that need go can feel like giving up on our own worthiness. If we can accept Incompatibility we also recognise who and what we are and thus prioritise our authenticity, the ultimate validation of inherent worth. Hard work but we can do it 🥰

@sebastianalexander5564

2 жыл бұрын

Im walking through such experience for the last months where i slowly come to the understanding that if i truely want the best for both of us then the daily stress of trying keep us togheter in a partnership is a huge burden in life on both of us.. And in my case to really love on another means to make decissions in our own and the others best interest..even if that means to give them space and sharing that love in another way then a partnership, rather in friendship without the consequence of constantly needing oneself and the otherone to change their way of beeing. To perceiving the world, feeling themselfs and taking action according to ones needs is important for ones freedom and happyness in life. Just look at people who are older and unhappily togheter, having kids and feeling misserable and then to ask the question if that is what we want in life. Luckily my partner had the courage to see reality with sharper eyes and admit that we need to let go of this commitment towards to other to find peace in ourselfs. I see that as a higher love commitment towards myself and the other then holding on to them and by that, preventing us from living.

@selenanwude9681

2 жыл бұрын

So well said!

@selenanwude9681

2 жыл бұрын

@@sebastianalexander5564 you said exactly what's been on my heart for months regarding myself and my current lover. ❤

@emilytchuu9876

2 жыл бұрын

True

@bodhisattvaofthedharma7176

2 жыл бұрын

Which is exactly why I stay away from some people ( low class people like ghetto, etc )

“In the long run, accepting incompatibilities is absolutely necessary if what you’re wanting is to create relationships that feel good mutually. Instead of relationships that are based on a mutual sensation of shame.” I love that line. Thank you Teal ❤️

@ambraacadabra

2 жыл бұрын

What does it mean exactly? Can we continue a relationship thats romantic even if there are incompatibilities?

@sexykoreanchic123

2 жыл бұрын

@@ambraacadabra yes, you can! It’s important to acknowledge the incompatibilities to know what the next step to take is. The couple in her example remained friends, but were incapable of having a relationship. But they still loved each other. It takes people who are very aware and are capable of really defining their needs though, to make a relationship work in a truly functional way. Of course, many times incompatibilities will mean we have to move on :c Especially if one, or both, people in the relationship do not have the skills to communicate effectively and honestly :c So to answer your question, if there are significant incompatibilities it is very unlikely to continue a romantic relationship but not impossible depending on the maturity of both partners

@ambraacadabra

2 жыл бұрын

@@sexykoreanchic123 thank you so much 🙏🏻

@theultrawarrior7448

2 жыл бұрын

Where are you from Korean chic? Be blessed

@rosekolo1371

2 жыл бұрын

Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together.

Every relationship hits bumps in the road. Don't confuse bumps and hard times with incompatibility.

@sebastianalexander5564

2 жыл бұрын

Then working out what are called bumps in the road will show you how it will go on.. If it does not change the major differences then you end up driving on a broken road.. You can drive their but your car will take more damage and you wont get far..

@velvetzica

2 жыл бұрын

She is not talking about that. She is talking about people who have completely different goals, ideas, mentalities, life goals and so on. This is not about liking or hating pineapple on pizza or him liking a certain sports team and her hating it or so on. It is about people wanting completely different tings in life, like in the example Teal gave: she wants to have a family, he wants to travel and prioritise his career over a relationship. That’s no way this will work without one of them giving up their dreams and that is not a good way to go. They will both end up really unhappy.

@christinacornthwaiteeller391

2 жыл бұрын

@@sebastianalexander5564 e be gnu

@christinacornthwaiteeller391

2 жыл бұрын

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@rosekolo1371

2 жыл бұрын

Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together.

This is why it’s best to find out right away in a relationship if you are compatible or not and save yourself years and more heartache down the line.

@autonomydepthconsciousness7633

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely...might as well realize right away you're incompatible with someone rather than waste time

@stacyd4503

2 жыл бұрын

Incompatibility can occur later though. We all grow and change, sometimes that can make people change in ways that cause disharmony.

@rosekolo1371

2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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@linesyverinsen9215

Жыл бұрын

@@stacyd4503 Totally.

And also, if you accept incompatibility, you can find compatibility and have your needs met which makes you feel so good about yourself. Easier said than done but it’s worth the effort.

I learned this from my marriage. We were totally in love and totally incompatible! I left. It's 40 years later and I still love him. He's the love of my life, but I'm glad we're not together because it would have been certain death (of spirit) for each of us if we had. Romantic love and compatibility have nothing to do with each other.

@irenejessica2700

2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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The needs I have that come from trauma are an authentic part of me... damn I really didn’t know how much I needed to hear that perspective. I feel like I’ve been swimming in confusion for months trying to figure out if my feelings are “real” or from trauma. Im going to try to stop doing that to myself. Thank you for the video Teal. Sincerely.

This speaks to my current situation. I’m grateful to feel reassured in my confession that he and I just aren’t compatible.. it’s like we speak different languages.. we love each other we are both great people.. we don’t need to make each other into characterizations that aren’t true to justify our pre-conceived notions of ‘our self’.. we can just be humble and admit it’s just a compatibility issue.. nothing about good or bad.. right or wrong, better or worse.. more refined or less refined.. etc.. ty.. I pray for an easy time cradling this delicate sensitive situation God do I pray..

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2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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@rosekolo1371

2 жыл бұрын

Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together.

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2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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Met my person online by accident not a dating site. Been together 6 years married 5. From the beginning made sure we were compatible: Lifestyle ✔ Food✔ Money✔ Religion ✔ Childfree by choice ✔ That was all discussed before we even met in person. Have those difficult conversations as soon as possible. I would like to add -- even tho we are from different races, opposite sides of the planet and different cultures --- we are the same and completely compatable. I thought that would be interesting to mention.

@jackiemariano

2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful to read your comment! Thank you for that! 💕 Love and kisses from Brazil 😽🌹❤️🧡❣️😽💜🙏

@qmutube

2 жыл бұрын

This is encouraging story. I am experiencing something similar. Have been in a long distance relationship with someone who is 8503 miles away since 3 months ago. I feel that he is the most compatible man I have ever met in life. We have not met yet, planning to meet up in September and hope the feeling is real. ❤️

@Violet._.PhoeniX

2 жыл бұрын

@@qmutube be positive because our relationship is proof that this can work. Be very honest about who you guys are and communication is key. When times get tough dont just give up - find ways to work through issues but above all make sure you are on the same page about big life decisions and everything will be ok😌

@fineartlifestyling

2 жыл бұрын

No one is ever 100% compatible that’s a fantasy. You can be compatible but I am certain if you haven’t had issues yet you will. It’s not possible to be in tuned and in agreement with each other all the time. This video I am disappointed with because it over simplified and extreme. There are a myriad of nuances in relationships. Compromise is a necessity not a bad thing to be demonized. Yes you shouldn’t have to compromise yourself too much, but that’s how relationships work and how growth in relationships happens. I mean we aren’t even compatible with ourselves on a regular basis! We are confused, conflicted, sometimes lost. We also seek compromise to find acceptance and peace in our own personal inner conflicts. The same is true for healthy compatible relationships. It would have been helpful for Teal to speak to the gray areas and nuances present in compatible relationships. It’s not so black and white and polarized.

@Violet._.PhoeniX

2 жыл бұрын

@@fineartlifestyling let me clarify a little bit --- i am 41 years old -- most people i meet who dont know me think i am around 27. My point is -- i fully know who i am... on a fundamental level i feel that when you are older you are less confused in life and you are pretty much set in your ways -- yes growth does still happen (me and my husband grow together and we teach each other every day to be more compassionate more understanding and more respectful) but for the most part we are on complete agreemend on the big issues in life. The big ones i mentioned. The ones who rock the boat the most. We are completely compatible in those specifically and we are older and know ourselves very well and THAT IS WHY ---- it works so well. We have been together for more than 6 years and married for 5 and we haven't yet experienced anything to "rock our boat". I have had a death in my family and he has had 3. We have weathered some pretty significant storms in the more than half a decade we have been together and we are still 100% happy and fulfilled. I cant tell you anything other than my experience and that is that true compatibility is possible and successful.

I guess what I’m trying to reconcile is that a seemingly “incompatible” relationship is just incompatible with who I am right now. But there are so many positive aspects, that although extremely uncomfortable, have actually made me a better version of myself. 🤔

This is why if anyone asks me, i say date people you are already friends with. You already care about them and they already care about you and you know enough about each other to make an informed choice together to date.

@janedoe7971

2 жыл бұрын

I've gotta be sexually attracted to someone to date them, usually I am not sexually attracted to friends, or it would have become sexual right away and that ruins the friendship. (Once they have a partner or another love interest, they stop talking to me).

@tomastelensky-vlog8723

2 жыл бұрын

@@janedoe7971 you are not talking about friends then, but the men you friendzoned. Thats a difference 😁

@jagoisvara8178

2 жыл бұрын

Weird

@Lizicles1

2 жыл бұрын

@@janedoe7971 those aren’t friends 😉 And yes you can be an adult and control yourself even with sexual attraction and not get to know someone only after you are already dating.

@janedoe7971

2 жыл бұрын

@@Lizicles1 That's what you think. I'm way too hypersexual. And I attract them too....

I've been avoiding watching this video and now I know why. This described the 6 year relationship I was in that just ended almost to a T. Replace the the want to travel with alcoholism.. We did all of the things that Teal describes here. We tried compromises, I wanted him to work on his drinking and face his traumas and he wanted me to change too. When I tried to accept his alcoholism it made me miserable. I'm so heartbroken, because I loved him so much, I never wanted something to work so badly. Getting through every day is really hard right now.

@BikingVikingHH

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, a girl that wants to go on a bunch of frivolous vacations, basic.

@irenejessica2700

2 жыл бұрын

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex back and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems....

I'm really enjoying these videos based on examples, story driven style of videos as opposed to the content dump from old times, they feel more manageable, like less things go over my head while watching them. Thank you for always finding new ways to deliver awareness to us.

It’s a treasure to have you in this time and age Teal. I got the seal of alchemy tattooed on my arm. You continue to guide me in my darkest and loneliest times. Your teachings and your being resonate and help me in so many ways. Thank you for being you❤️

Yes, I'm learning that accepting where we are right now leads to taking blame out of the equation. Wanting to change someone is forcing it, and forcing means resistance. Thank you! -Much love from a growing KZreadr

It gets worse when there are both genuine incompatibilities and abuse in a relationship. Because if you're not yet aware of all this, the two WILL entangle and make you question yourself even more when you want to leave. At some point it becomes very difficult to tell which is which, and we make all sorts of excuses. Unfortunately we are used to think that abuse may come from incompatibilities and once they are solved/healed the abuse will go away. This is another reason why it's very good to evaluate compatibility ruthlessly, it indirectly shields you from abuse as well.

This is really helpful. Sometimes is difficult to accept incompatibility because we want to make the relationship works that’s why is really important to know our values ✨🙌🏽

@irenejessica2700

2 жыл бұрын

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex back and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems....

I have access to unconditional love, I embody it often, and even though I am solo, I still dance with my shadow to release the need to change anyone. There is a distinction though, my love is offered unconditionally, but our terms of engagement absolutely have conditions. I am used to being alone, and love being alone, and I love love. And I love the heart that resonates in the same frequency as mine. I can feel all the love in my aloneness, And so never lonely. Soul connection, with respect and kindness is everything. Throw passion, common interests, and like values into the mix, we've created heaven on earth. At 50, I don't seek for anything other than The Beauty Way ~

@thelatebloomer4748

2 жыл бұрын

You stated that so eloquently....I feel precisely as you do, it's tremendously liberating

@irenejessica2700

2 жыл бұрын

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@irenejessica2700

2 жыл бұрын

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@smsconcept4173

2 жыл бұрын

Hello

@Chris-xy5bl

2 жыл бұрын

Can u copy n paste n send to my email p ls

It is with all relationships not only romantic ones..if it does not work it is reason for that ..but people do not want to hear or to see that...they would rather live in a lie..

Flow, don’t force.

I recently broke up because of incompatibility in interests and my personal need for more space. Now finding out that despite of our different interests and views on life, on a deeper level we are a better match than I had thought. And now I wonder if perhaps it was too much me deciding for him that I can't meet his expectations (among which living together and forming a happy family with his kids). At the same time I think we better match now because I feel so much lighter having my own space. Feel very fortunate anyway for our love and friendship, and it feels even more unconditional than I've experienced ever before ❤

@user-dg1fj4jf1n

2 жыл бұрын

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Never heard someone break it down so simple but yet so true.. thanks for this.

This video validated my recent decision to end the further development of an early relationship due to a serious incompatibility that was identified. It was hard to do because I really liked this person. So much so that afterwards I oscillated between whether I made the right decision or not because my mind tried to romanticize it in the letting go process. But when I tell you in the moment that it was all happening, I spoke with such certainty and conviction, because I knew it was the right thing to do. I looked into my future and saw the “relationship hell” I’d be signing us both up for. A testament to everything I’ve learned since my last serious relationship ended. Great video.

@Coquitodiagua

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for your comment. Right now I feel like I'm going through hell because i ended my relationship with the man I thought was going to be the father of my children. I realized I was constantly trying to change myself just to maintain harmony and I got to a point where I realized I lost my authenticity. I felt like i was constantly walking on eggshells around him and that if we did continue and got married we would just end up unhappy. I love him with all my heart and right now I came to watch the video again because I felt that maybe I made the wrong choice. But your comment made me realize is just part of the process and it was the right decision.

That example story was very similar to my own. My stale mate has ended though. I never tried to change him but I did ignore incompatibility. Great topic and super helpful.

Hi... I am your first viewer... It's very good have you as a mentor... Thanks Teal swan

Been there, danced and learned these hard lessons. Thank you, love your channel and gifts. 🌏 Denial is definitely not in Egypt.

This is helpful. The earlier I realize incompatibilty and act upon it the more capable I feel in allowing the life I really want.

@user-dg1fj4jf1n

2 жыл бұрын

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@user-dg1fj4jf1n

2 жыл бұрын

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Im walking through such experience for the last months where i slowly come to the understanding that if i truely want the best for both of us then the daily stress of trying keep us togheter in a partnership is a huge burden in life on both of us.. And in my case to really love on another means to make decissions in our own and the others best interest..even if that means to give them space and sharing that love in another way then a partnership, rather in friendship without the consequence of constantly needing oneself and the otherone to change their way of beeing. To perceiving the world, feeling themselfs and taking action according to ones needs is important for ones freedom and happyness in life. Just look at people who are older and unhappily togheter, having kids and feeling misserable and then to ask the question if that is what we want in life. Luckily my partner had the courage to see reality with sharper eyes and admit that we need to let go of this commitment towards to other to find peace in ourselfs. I see that as a higher love commitment towards myself and the other then holding on to them and by that, preventing us from living.

@user-dg1fj4jf1n

2 жыл бұрын

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Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/accept-incompatibility/

@beatrizcasals958

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@MissOne

2 жыл бұрын

ty. but then I couldn't see your lovely eyes

@theuser4773

2 жыл бұрын

i find the Shorts posts really annoying and confusing. i want long videos only 😩

“You think that you’re in love but you’re really just in pain”

@rosekolo1371

2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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@rosekolo1371

2 жыл бұрын

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Wow!! Deep! I have felt that way about the word compromise my whole life and people tried to make me feel bad about it so I figured the best way to avoid the problem was to not ever be in a relationship. Not sure that way works for me either but I am sick of hurting people and being hurt.

This applies to friends, colleagues and jobs. My job/colleagues and I are incompatible, so I'm leaving. They're unprofessional and unqualified. I'm professional and qualified. I'm tired of being sidelined and bullied due to their jealousy and insecurity.

I cannot believe how much this describes the last relationship i had, and how perfectly it described how painful it ended :(((((((((((((((

relationship video! relationship pattern to integrate thank you Tealie🙏❤️☮️✨

Damnnnn how can one person have so much knowledge? Thank you so much Teal!!!

Needed this!

such a well timed video, thank you!

Thank you so much Teal, Really was able to absorb it this time round💥

Thank you again for your wisdom! I love you Teal swan!

One time more such a great Video!!! And it comes exactly at the right Time. Lots of love to you and your Team and thank you for sharing your gift with the world ♥️

I love these dating topics it’s helping me a ton thank you Teal

You are so right. Especially part about approach in self-development people. Healing into compatability. Shame and guilt if you don't. This ended my marriage.

I have been fighting this incompatibility for 3 years. This is a timely message. Final straw to subscribe!!!

@irenejessica2700

2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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Wow. Really eye opening. Thank you🦋💘

thanks for making this, teal!

Wonderful insight on relationships…I appreciate this practical advice. It’s so simple and is going to be very useful for me going forward. I have just started dating again after a very long marriage. Thank you Teal! The man I have been dating for just 3 months is wasting so much of my energy. He is had a work telling me I am broken. I have my life together. I just have my beliefs about love and relationships. He says I will only get disappointed believing the way I do. He will spend hours telling me I bring on problems with my thinking. After listening to this video, I am so aware that I was getting his punishment for not thinking like him. He will shame me for my beliefs. The real truth is we are just not compatible. Period. I don’t need this headache anymore.

@thelatebloomer4748

2 жыл бұрын

Gosh, he sounds insufferable...bye boy!!!

@jessicawilliams3024

2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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@jessicawilliams3024

2 жыл бұрын

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I love how Teal got way more serious in her presentation hehe

That last part though!! 👏💯

I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I only wished I knew this without all the pain involved...

Your are so so wise. Thankful for you.

This channel is such a gold mine. Subbed

Hi teal, thank you for the videos, amazing stuff

Love ❤️ You Teal

Thank you 🙏🏻 You’ve helped me so much to exit a non compatible relationship. May your light shine into the hearts and minds of all. ❤

Through and through... I felt this🙏 and I ➡️ALMOST completely understand. ❤️ that Mutual sensation of shame is a major Blindspot. Thank u

@irenejessica2700

2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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Sincerely, you are something else. Many unidentified emotions are settled, surely no clinical approach can manage this. Thanks.

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2 жыл бұрын

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@user-dg1fj4jf1n

2 жыл бұрын

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I love hearing teal swan projecting, and before people start get offend projecting isn’t good or bad in my opinion and I respect here journey it’s interesting how me and everyone else projects, I get it finding a balance with your shadow and being honest with what feels right

Thank you Teal for your support!

@irenejessica2700

2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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Would like to have heard this 25 years ago.

Thank you Teal. I just recently went through a break up and this makes so much sense. Life changing information and helps me to heal and forgive my ex partner. We appreciate you ❤

Excellent. One reason some accept non harmonious relationships is they believe it’s better than living alone. Learning bare fingers acoustic guitar is a great music meditation for hard times that gives the gift of skill. NO lessons, notes, tabs or theory just strum six or so easy chords-alone on your own-until your fingertips hurt worse than being lonely. Then play some more. On the other side of the grief there stands a jam-ready musician- and that opens up new opportunities to meet cool and compatible potentials.

@chrisakins1512

2 жыл бұрын

You got it! 👍

@erinwilson8478

2 жыл бұрын

That's like me learning bass on the instrument my ex gave me.

It's spot on. This is my experience too

It's a hard truth. I really like your honest dialog. You're paving the way for the future and for happy and harmonious relationships. ❤

Teal, I've learned so much from you! I was raised to believe being a wife and mother meant suffering and sacrafice. Anytime I would vocalize that I wasn't happy, everyone around me would say "yeah, that's what it takes to be a good mom and wife". I desire harmony in my life and I no longer reject it.

Gracias, Teal.

What I love about your videos and your presentation content, Teal, Is that you show the reality of the human situation between two people in conflict or a person in conflict with themselves. You help people see the way that sometimes things don’t work out because of incompatibility, not just A human to human situation, but sometimes for example, let’s say I am an artist trying to force myself to learn chemistry.as much as I might want to learn chemistry,l, At some point if I’m making myself miserable, I need to learn to walk away and recognize my limitations. There is no harm in recognizing our limitations to ourselves or to others. The harm is in hiding from Those realizations and acceptance of them. Three months ago, I left a boyfriend whom I did not want to leave. I left our relationship because we were incompatible and I was turning into someone I did not want to be and so was he. We were getting more miserable by the day. We went to counseling for 10 months. The counseling didn’t work because of our different attachment styles and other personal issues going on in our respective lives that were preventing us From seeing that we were incompatible due to a combination of our own in our inner work that still needed to be done, and because of pure personality incompatibility. My boyfriend is angry at me for leaving. I am grieving horribly over the loss. However, I know I made the best move to prevent both of us from further deterioration of ourselves. I know that I left for the love of myself and the love of him.

12:27 _"... you can't heal yourself out of a desire ..."_ vs _"... accepting incompatibilities is absolutely necessary ..._ _... to create relationships that feel good mutually ..._ _... instead of ... mutual sensation of shame ..."_ Yeah. What does it tell about our wonderful lives ? Being stretched always between two points on the cross. But you know, most probably I could take any amount of shame, if I could live my desire instead of burning in this. And if my desire would devolve into any other kind of thing, if I could just forget about it, that would be much better than this pain. But no, of course, it's not the way how this wonderful universe resolves its own crp. There would be ways to be splendid but it chooses the cross. (For the most of us, of course ...)

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Wow! Wow! Wow! Teal, standing ovation. This was STELLAR and right on time! Thank you for your brilliant insights once again!

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Teal, thank you for your unconditional love to your public and help! 😘

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Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together.

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Thanks so much, recently went through this scenario, so much healing from your wisdom.:)

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Yes! Totally agree on this and can see the pattern in past relationships

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Great episode, thanks a lot!!🙏🙏🙏

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Thank you for this video, it is very much needed & I appreciate you sharing more than you know

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Hi Teal, thank you for diving once again into that very crucial topic. Could you please elaborate in a future video on how to differentiate between a behavior that comes from trauma and should be healed and potentially changed, and a behavior/desire that comes from trauma but should be totally accepted as a part of us and that could then constitute a genuine incompatibility? like not wanting children for instance. I'm really struggling with that fine line

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very eye opening... Very muc appreciated of this video!! :)

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Thankx so much 🙏

Love this!! It's easy to see for me now... I watched the previous one she had put out. And I am now being presented with this exact situation and I am confident about the difficult conversation I have to have with him. We can remain friends and support each other in ways that do not need to be romantic. I am excited about that aspect of it. Unless of course he is peace out lol. That might happen too!! Oh well!!

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It just seems kind of impossible to find a relationship where are you are compatible with everything. How would you suggest going about that?

@earthtoaura8315

2 жыл бұрын

I think maybe really taking the time to figure out your non negotiables, needs, and core values is the first step and then finding someone who aligns with those! Like you said, it's kind of impossible to find someone who is perfectly compatible with you in every single way - so creating a firm foundation with patience and healthy communication is probably the best we can do :)

@indigoneutral

2 жыл бұрын

I think a big part of this problem is that women are pressured to settle down, marry, and have babies as soon as possible due to the concept of the biological time clock effectively being a ticking time bomb. Whereas men are encouraged to be wild and free. The values between the two genders are almost pre programmed in opposite directions and rather than explore these ideas fully and why a woman might want children VS why a man want freedom, both parties ignore the first signs of red flags of incompatibility or just straight lie about it until the attachment is so strong and the relationship so serious, it's on the road for pain, disappointment, and resentment. Bear in mind sometimes these dynamics are flipped. Sometimes the man wants kids and the woman wants freedom. People need to explore their motivations and make sure they find a partner whose goals match their own. There's a difference in preferring cheerios over oatmeal for breakfast and someone who wants to stay in their hometown all their life VS someone who wants to move to Alaska.

@paulferrante4632

2 жыл бұрын

That surely would be impossibly hard to find. Look for understanding and compassion. Comp can be found every where..comp ri mise comp lie cated can show you others but I think u can find some on your own

@tanja5208

2 жыл бұрын

@@indigoneutral I agree with your perspective. I found out that only way we can prevent this situations is taking time to figure out what we really want, (need),desire, what we missing in life, our resentment etc. as more as we can. Before jumping into any relationship just spend some time with yourself, get spesific and clear with what you want not what someone thinks is the best for you or becouse society in large does. Also it is so sad to see how many ppl just copy others opinions, rutines, lifestyles...it is ok to not have baby if you feel like its not path that you want to take. Becouse guess what- life can have meaning even if you are not married or having kids. Take your damn life in your hands.

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@@tanja5208 YAS exactly. If children are honestly the biggest driving force, I think early fertility testing as well as exploring other routes of motherhood should come before trying to force a relationship with a partner whose needs, wants, and desires aren't in line with it. And that shouldn't be stigmatized anymore. As for men who want freedom, that's not immaturity. It's an expression of a different life path. Not everything has to follow the (often religiously dictated) path.

Please don’t become too bitter with all of us struggling with what you see so clearly. We’re sorry we don’t see it. But those of us following you are trying! You are helping us! You have a gift to see it. & I know sometimes it’s better to laugh than to cry for us. But just please don’t quit on us. 🥺😣🖤

It is difficult to really walk away in these circumstances , but it is the best.

It’s heartening to know others feel compromise is a negative thing.

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Damn it, Teal! I have been fighting this in my relationship and ignoring the trauma responses! I am in self Help/self development field and it’s like you were talking to me! You might as well just said …”Lucia, ….and all the other words in this video”!!! I’ve been facing this hard reality after the three year mark of this relationship and it just feels so shitty! Shitty to feel incompatible, Shitty too want to change everything, Shitty to feel my covert narcissism to change everything for me to feel better, all of it! I have never been in a compatible relationship so my barometer feels unsteady … yet I keep attracting the same person… And here we go around the mountain again! But the more I become aware of this, the more I realize the need to stay in my own reality and not give up hope that it’s not out there… A story I tell myself at age 63 years old. So I’m reacting out of fear and I hate that I see that in me! I think when you talked about the same as when it really broke me! I’m off to the other videos that you mentioned…. Thank you for the SmackDown lol much love💖

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Teal, thank you for your ability, gift, and commitment to make the unconscious conscious!

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Teal has been my North Star in so much of my healing. Seeing this channels subscribers double in the past year brings me so much joy and gratitude. The more people who can access this content, the more self reflection and healing can occur. Thank and love you, Teal💖

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I love you Teal Swan! you are such a beautiful person inside and out. Your words ring of truth

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She’s amazing

Love this

Thank you!! 🙏👽💚

Thank you!

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This situation can apply I don't like to love relationships but to relationships in general. I had a situation where I lived with my brother and everything Teal talked about happened in our relationship it wasn't until I watched one of her videos on incompatibility that I realized what was going on we no longer live together but it was very painful and it severed our relationship. She is right on about this. Thank you too for all that you do you are a treasure.

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@TheBohemiansoul

2 жыл бұрын

The trauma

you are literally describing my past relationship. We broke up this week... thank you for bringing more clarity into this, now I can work on understanding and changing this 🙏🏼

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I would really love if you could address this precise question in the context of therapy relationships! 🙏🏼😊 That would be amazing! 💜

Love this Teal. This helped me so much. Also we have the same hair color. ❤

Eye-opener

Yes, you are amazing. Thank you 💚💙

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