I believe that is called gray-asexuality, which falls 100% under the asexual umbrella.
@nafisa-7379
2 жыл бұрын
@@pyrrhus1129 gray sexuality is more of a fluctuation of sexuality with little sexual desire but possibly some under very specific circumstances
@nafisa-7379
2 жыл бұрын
You are most likely placio or demi, though you don’t have to choose either of those or even label yourself. Labels are just there to help you get an understanding of yourself. You could even just identify as an asexual who wouldn’t mind sexual activity with a partner, or just a non-sex repulsed asexual. Asexuality is one of the widest (and best) spectrums, you could even be Quoi which is not knowing where you fit on the spectrum or not identifying as the labels given.
@drywall4310
2 жыл бұрын
Yes :) I'm not gonna tell you what exactly your sexuality is, you can figure that for yourself but i would say looking into "gray-ace" specifically is a good place to start. If you think it's the best label for you right now and you find another label later on that you think better defines you, good for you! There's no rush to figuring yourself out. And don't listen to all these people telling you what you are, only you can figure that out yourself. Good luck!
@lolymop333
2 жыл бұрын
From my understanding, if you experience 0 sexual attraction and have a neutral attitude towards sex, it simply means you are asexual and sex neutral. Graysexual is where you rarely ever feel sexual attraction, which wouldn't be the case if you don't ever feel sexual attraction. Demisexual is where you only feel sexual attraction once you for some kind of close bond with them, which also doesn't fit if you don't ever feel sexual attraction. Feeling neutral about sex is a completely separate spectrum from the aspec. Same goes for things like libido and whether or not you enjoy sexual media. For instance, you can experience sexual attraction, but not feel a desire to seek out sex. You could also not feel sexual attraction, but still enjoy and actively seek out sex. Some people even experience sexual attraction, but are repulsed by the thought of actually acting on that attraction. It's very complicated. I suggest you check out AVEN.
@Hebi_14122 жыл бұрын
Asexuality is having little to no sexual attraction to other people, as you know. If you are still fine with doing the deed even though you aren't attracted to anyone in a sexual way, that still falls under the asexual umbrella.
@Hebi_1412
2 жыл бұрын
As for the term, I think it would just be straight up "asexual," as from what it sounds like you don't ever have the attraction, but are fine doing it if a significant other wants to.
@_ductape_4712 жыл бұрын
Yes, asexuality is when you don't feel sexual attraction. And there are terms like sex-replused and sex-favorable to describe a person's feelings about sex. There is definitely a term to describe what you're describing, and other people who feel the same way. (Also I'm asexual btw)
@eggedsalad
2 жыл бұрын
i *believe* it falls under gray-asexual, if im not mistaken. coming from an asexual with a very complicated sexuality and tie to the asexual community, so i could be remembering my terms wrong
@_ductape_471
2 жыл бұрын
@@eggedsalad the last time I looked, the term gray sexual meant that the person feels some sexual attraction, but not enough to be considered allosexual(so like in the middle of the spectrum). I don't think that a person's opinion towards sex has anything to do with what degree of sexual attraction they feel. I saw someone else in this comment section say the term was sex-neutral. And I think I agree with them, because it goes along with sex-replused and sex-favorable.
@jader2357
2 жыл бұрын
@@_ductape_471 Grey sexual means they only feel sexual attraction under very specific circumstances, like under the influence of alcohol or drugs or in a very specific environment
@_ductape_471
2 жыл бұрын
@@jader2357 ok, that's what I thought. (Idk about the specifics for the drug and alcohol part though)
@cameoshadowness77572 жыл бұрын
"Asexual, Neutral" from my understanding. Basically you aren't repulsed or seek it out despite your lack of attraction but you can have it with someone.
@stellariis_2 жыл бұрын
As far as I am, yes, you'd still fall under ace spectrum :]
@LunaNova-rg6oc2 жыл бұрын
Yes it would! As an asexual myself, there is a wide range from being okay sometimes to being okay never to actually being repulsed by s€x. It only really matters that you are comfortable.
@willows_abyss2 жыл бұрын
graysexual asexual it has three main categories Sex-repulsed: Someone who is repulsed by or completely disinterested in the idea of sex. Sex-neutral: Someone who isn’t repulsed by sex but also doesn’t actively seek it out. These people may still have sex if, for example, they’re in a relationship and want to please their partner. Sex-positive: Someone who identifies as asexual, meaning they don’t feel sexual attraction to others, but will still have sex for pleasure.
@alexiszielinski1690
2 жыл бұрын
This is still asexual, greysexual means there is sexual attraction. But other wise, this is correct.
@moldy_grandpa7867
2 жыл бұрын
Gray asexual
@emilierekdal5118
2 жыл бұрын
Oh! So someone who likes to have sex for the pleasure but is never actually sexually attracted to anyone could also count as asexual? Never knew that! Aight!
@TheTiredGhost
2 жыл бұрын
this applies to asexuals too, graysexuality is when you feel sexual attraction on occasion, where it's kind of the gray area between sexual and asexual This person is saying they feel no desire to have sex, so they wouldn't be graysexual
@willows_abyss
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheTiredGhost oh, thank you for the knowledge. Nice to understand more ^^
@thetiniestleaf2 жыл бұрын
Yep, you still fall underneath the asexual umbrella! And the label kinda depends on what you feel is most accurate for you. If you feel like you need a more specific label, go buck wild! I know there's terms like "graysexual" (where you experience very little sexual attraction and have no desire to act on it), or "demisexual" (where you only experience sexual attraction with a deep emotional bond), and lots more! Or, if you're like me, the general term "asexual" is a comfortable space to exist in while you figure out the finer details. But if you experience no sexual attraction at all but you're still okay with having sex with a partner, then that may just mean you're asexual who is sex-indifferent. There's also aces who are sex-repulsed (who don't want sex at all) or sex-favorable (who are more open to it!). And at the end of the day, you'd still be underneath the asexual umbrella. Sometimes that's just how it is! I'd recommend checking out AVEN if you're wanting a good resource for some of the other definitions and questions! I know it helped me a lot.
@Scarlettt3432 жыл бұрын
as an asexual, I say yes! not all asexual people are completely repulsed by the idea of sex
@kikbox18092 жыл бұрын
From what I know, being asexual and consuming ace content on the internet, Yes. You are asexual. Congrats! Being ace means feeling no sexual attraction and/or desire. Being ok with the activity of sex does not change ur orientation at all, nor does enjoying it if you do engage with ur partner one day. At least that’s what I know. Hope this helped!
@EMJ4Y2 жыл бұрын
as an ace person, yes! if you're looking for a term for it, maybe sex-neutral ace would work ^^ there are sex favoriable, netural, and repulsed aces out there
@ThePorcelainMoth2 жыл бұрын
Yep, as someone who is one the ace spectrum that would be completely accurate. Being ace simply just means that you don’t feel the desire to do that; however, some aces still do it’s all up to preferences!
@ameliorating2 жыл бұрын
yes, you would still fall under the spectrum! based on what you said i believe you may be demisexual - meaning that you would only feel sexual attraction if an individual has a close emotional bond with you. asexuality isn’t inherently only feeling no sexual attraction at all!
@creativelibertiesweretaken33662 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. Asexuality only means you do not feel sexual attraction- but there are asexual people who are favourable, neutral, or averse to sex. And there are also things like greysexual (sexual attraction is weak or rare) and demisexual (only develop attraction to people you form a close connection with) that fall under the spectrum I’m not ace myself but I am Aro and it works in pretty much the same way (only for romantic attraction instead)
@just_a_lad98432 жыл бұрын
yes!! greysexual sounds like what you're describing, so i'd implore you to look into that!! it's what i personally identify with, too!! so welcome to the ace family
@songartbreezy57242 жыл бұрын
Sometimes in a relationship, a person is willing to do something that they might not like to do or not care much about themselves because it makes their partner happy and they love their partner. Sex is sometimes included in that.
@cantthinkstraight93912 жыл бұрын
Yes, pretty sure it's still asexual, just sex positive, but u should do some research if u want to find a label that suits u!
@lolymop3332 жыл бұрын
Yup! As many have said in these comments, sounds like you're asexual sex neutral. One of my QPPs is sex neutral, meaning if she ever for whatever reason ended up in a situation where someone she has a close bond with wanted to have sex, she would be okay with having sex, but she doesn't experience sexual attraction and it isn't something she would ever actively seek out. One of my other QPPs is sex favorable. This means bee never feels sexually attracted to anyone, but still enjoys the act of sex and actively seeks it out. I am sex repulsed. That means I am not ever sexually attracted to anyone and the whole concept of sex grosses me out and I don't want to partake in it. It is, like many other things regarding attraction, a spectrum! My other QPP is also asexual, but I don't know where he falls in this particular spectrum.
@Agsgdjdisido2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely! There are lots of subcategories that come with being asexual, one of which is being fine with sex with your significant other. Asexuality is when you don’t feel sexual attraction to other people.
@Blue-hw4vn2 жыл бұрын
I'm the same way, personally I tend to find the label sex-positive or neutral asexual fitting for myself
@luxill0s2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I’m the same way. I’ve s3xted / got on facetime yknow with / sent voicenotes to someone before (my ex-partner, over long distance, who was terrible but regardless) but didn’t really get anything out of it. I eventually realized that I didn’t really like the idea of having s3x with anyone, even if I think about it with fictional characters. Any time I think about it with real people (or real people cast as fictional characters) I get disgusted and uncomfortable.
@mals_backpack2 жыл бұрын
honestly there's a lot of different answers to this, it mostly comes down to what you feel comfortable with. you could just call yourself ace/asexual and elaborate by saying that, you could say that you're gray asexual (occasionally experiences attraction) or demisexual (only experiences attraction to those they already have an intimate connection with), you could also just say you're sex repulsed/neutral/positive asexual. sex repulsed meaning that you dislike the idea and do not plan on, sex neutral meaning that you don't necessarily feel positively or negatively about the idea and may or may not plan on, and sex positive meaning that you feel more open to it and may plan on doing it, whether that be with an s/o or someone else. you don't even have to identify as an asexual person at all, really. I find it's more about the journey and the self-discovery that comes with these things than the end result, when it comes to questioning. honestly, I prefer to just call myself ace. I spent so many years trying to find the perfect label and never finding anything that really fit, and it got really uncomfortable for a while. I think I might've felt more comfortable calling myself demisexual or gray asexual if not for how insistent I was on microlabeling myself to the smallest detail. or maybe not, but either way, my point is to not stress about it. you can choose whether or not you want to label yourself, and you can choose what that label means for you. there's so many different sexualities on there that sometimes, it's nice to take a step back and look at what you feel objectively instead of comparing it to what everyone else feels. because at the end of the day, you can just explain who you are without the need for a label. but it's always a good feeling to find something that really fits how you feel, too, so just whatever feels good :)
@name1.02 жыл бұрын
This sounds similar to demisexual to me, but you can always use whatever term you feel most comfortable with! Also don't feel pressured to even use a label! Hope this helps!
@scribbleurselfoutlolz23802 жыл бұрын
hello, ofc u don’t need to change ur label if u don’t want to but what ur describing is called cupioseuxal, its a microlabel describing someone who experiences little/to no sexual attraction but would still be interested in a sexual relationship (and their is also graysexual which is a gray area of sexual) so i hope those might help, have a fantastic day
@theletters96232 жыл бұрын
thats a pretty textbook form of asexuality right there
@V1sible_2 жыл бұрын
As someone whos demisexual themselves im def. Sure youll fall under the ace umbrella unfortunately i am not sure if you're either graysexual or demisexual those are the two things im goin on
@raven74742 жыл бұрын
I think this is more of a tolerance for sex than a microlabel. So, you could be sex-positive or sex-neutral in this case. Asexuality is just a lack of sexual attraction not necessarily desire though.
@sistersamich20752 жыл бұрын
Yes, absolutely! Asexual means “little to no sexual attraction” willingness to experiment doesn’t take you out of that!
@eh57352 жыл бұрын
My answer would be demisexual. Its when you only feel sexual attraction for someone you have a close emotional bond to. I dont want to say this in the only answer since there are a TON of terms under the asexual umbrella, and I'm not very educated in them. But I was questioning the same thing a few years ago and came to the conclusion that my feelings aligned with this term the most. This is the best answer I can give so I hope it helps :)
@wheretheduckswent2 жыл бұрын
yup this could mean you fall under the ace-spec umbrella, yeah! when it comes to specific labels that's something personal and every person experiences different labels differently, but if you're trying to figure out in general if you might be or not ace-spec, i would say this could be potentially a sign that you are. a lot of ace(spec) people can have s3x even if they don't feel attraction for multiple reasons, and having a partner is a pretty common one! if you're looking for a label that is a bit more open and not "i-dont-feel-attraction-at-all" grays3xual is being somewhere between allo and ace, and demis3xual is only feeling attraction when you have an emotional connection with that person before hand. there are other sublabels that might be might specific to what you're looking for, son feel free to explore! remember not to be too stressed over finding a PERFECT label. you can identify as ace and have s3x, no more explanations needed :)
@wheretheduckswent
2 жыл бұрын
so* not son lol
@moved40122 жыл бұрын
Yea as an asexual myself, it basically falls under having no sexual attraction, tho there are some people who would still be ok with it. like greysexual- it means like you would only be ok having s3x with someone you’re comfortable with(if you want to) like if you see a stranger and you wouldn’t want to do it because you don’t have any connection with them/don’t know them (I hope that makes sense) you also could be asexual neutral, meaning you don’t desire to have s3x but could still do it with somebody- it’s kinda like greysexual but a but different. If you want more understanding I suggest you search it up.
@rielaxault2 жыл бұрын
You just have Bodily Dysphoria. I have it too, but I soldiered through it and trained myself. Plus, I was super aware of it, so I was able to articulate within my head what was happening and how I may address it. Just gotta be REEEAL observant of yourself. Hope this helps.
@FallenEyes
2 жыл бұрын
I highly doubt that's what they have, but I'm happy you could get through your own situation :D
@thefae86782 жыл бұрын
Not all asexuals are sex repulsed. Being asexual means you don't feel sexual attraction, meaning that when you see a person you like, you wouldn't think to ask to have sex with them. (I couldn't really put it any other way, so I hope that made sense.) So yes, you are asexual, and if you want to find a fitting label there are loads of videos and articles available on the internet and all you'd have to do is search. Good luck to you!
@commonshem36272 жыл бұрын
Yes it does fall under the ace spectrum. A pretty common occurence in couples with an ace person in them actually. It all comes down to you being comfortable with the compromise. Sexual activity does not define an ace person but your true feelings about sex
@lasagnad25172 жыл бұрын
Yes, asexuality is a spectrum but regardless feeling the attraction and wanting to try it don’t always correlate. You could not feel any attraction at all but enjoy doing the do and you’d still be a valid asexual. It’s all about how you experience your sexuality. I hope this helped, good luck and have a lovely day! :3
@shiko57462 жыл бұрын
it’s quite literally just called being asexual! im glad and proud that you asked :D
@MrMmthrash2 жыл бұрын
yo i feel this same way- i wasn't sure about this either
@Bashbots_v0id2 жыл бұрын
I know many people have commented already but I figured since I’ve done research on the Asexual spectrum I could try my best to help you(I’m also asexual too so there’s that) So to answer your first two questions yes and yes asexuality doesn’t always mean being absolutely repulsed by sex as a whole and with that being said as some other commenters have said there are a variety of different types of aces such as sex repulsed, sex neutral, and sex positive and they are exactly what they sound like so keep that in mind, not every Ace person is the same. There is one label I thought of when you described what you felt and it’s called Cupiosexual, defined by someone who feels no or little sexual attraction but still desires a sexual relationship and possibly Demisexual which is defined by someone who doesn’t feel sexual attraction until establishing a deep emotional connection with someone. With all of that being said I suggest doing research into the Ace spectrum and use whatever label you feel comfortable with, being Ace isn’t just one cookie cutter experience. Have a good day or night!
@natflea12332 жыл бұрын
Being on the ace spectrum means you feel little to no sexual attraction, some don't have the desire or want of doing the deed with anybody or their partner while others do. You still are asexual even if your alright with doing the deed, communication is key if you believe you are ready for it or if you partner wants to have it with you.
@TazzzzzzzzManian2 жыл бұрын
As an ace person myself, I would like to say that you are ace, for me I hate anything sexual but there is many types of aces
@_.rainydays._2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad this isn't saying something negative about asexuality because I would have been sad if you were that kind of person.
@civetbutt2 жыл бұрын
Its just kinda the difference between sex-repulsed aces and non sex-repulsed aces. But yes absolutely you would fit under the umbrella
@lunarmoth88772 жыл бұрын
Yes, definitely. Asexuality is little to no attraction, and there are many ace identities. Some descriptors used by aces are Sex repulsed sex neutral and sex positive. Sex repulsed aces are repulsed by sexual activity. Sex neutral aces don't have a particular hate or positive view of sexual activity. Sex positive aces have a positive view of sexual activity, and may indulge in it for their partner. I'd recommend going to the LGBTA Wiki on Miraheze under the a-spec identities category. You may find a label that fits you. Alternatively, you could avoid specific labels and say you're under the asexual umbrella. Note: being allosexual is a term to describe people who do not fall under the asexual umbrella, and experience attraction. It is the same with alloromantic, except with describing romantic attraction. You must note, that sexual attraction and romantic attraction are seperate. Someone may be asexual but alloromantic, or someone may be allosexual but aromantic. My friend, for example, is heterosexual and biromantic(+alloallo, which means you're allosexual and alloromantic). She is repulsed to sexual activity with women, but experiences romantic attraction towards them.
@theballadofidioticbones25972 жыл бұрын
Yes. It falls under the umbrella and is usually referred to as greysexuaity.
@thats_a_cat69022 жыл бұрын
I'm not ace but my freind so I do believe that that is still under the asexual spectrum
@Nightmareannimations2 жыл бұрын
I used to identify as ace myself and I know some stuff about it. (Turns out I was just a repressed lesbian oops) You can be ace if you'd do it to satisfy your partner, you can be ace if you have solo devil's tango for the feeling/the serotonin. Theres more specific labels like the other comments have mentioned, like sex repulsed, but it's all acespec (dont let others convince ya otherwise, you're valid) Labels for sexuality describe only what you're attracted to, nothing more. (Eg. One can still be completely straight even if they never want to date or have sex)
@erenender662 жыл бұрын
from what i've gathered over the years, that's referred to as gray-asexual, and it is just as valid as any other asexual!
@3RR0R.4042 жыл бұрын
That should be either Asexual or Demisexual (Asexual - the lack of sexual attraction) (Demisexual - the lack of sexual attraction UNLESS you have a close emotional bond with the person)
@Minksie2 жыл бұрын
Around there, maybe around Demisexual too. (Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person.)
@officialmai2 жыл бұрын
You would be considered either sex-positive asexual or sex-indifferent asexual depending on how you feel about it.
@its.halcyonne2 жыл бұрын
this is referred to as sex-positive or sex-neutral asexuality. to be asexual is to not have a want to participate in sex; there is no attraction. this does not necessarily equate repulsion.
@benhart22782 жыл бұрын
Yeah, you would still be ace. This is a possibility for nearly all asexual identities, so there really isn’t a specific sexuality for it. Hope that helps :)
@break_the_galaxy2 жыл бұрын
As a s*x-neutral asexual, yes, you are asexual! Not all aces are completely repulsed by the idea of s*x, there's a huge spectrum and I definitely think you fall somewhere on the ace-spectrum. Based on what little you said here, I believe you may be demisexual, but I absolutely have no right to choose a label for you and I recommend you look into it yourself to find a label that fits you best- I personally identify as demiromantic aegosexual
@nxghtlxxght2 жыл бұрын
Yeah of course, your identity doesn't have to be specified as one sexuality under the asexuality umbrella in particular, but I would say that if you're comfortable, grayasexual would fit. ( I'm grayace btw :)
@DawnyQwQ2 жыл бұрын
Oh I happen to be asexual! And the answer is yes! You can be asexual but still be wanting to have/partake in intimate relationships for other reasons. Asexuality just means that you feel little to no sexual attraction. People experience asexuality differently and there are micro labels for this! Here are some you might possibly relate to!/pos -Cupiosexuality! The definition is as follows Cupiosexuals are people who don’t experience sexual attraction but still desire to be in a sexual relationship or engage in intimacy. This does not necessarily mean that the person is sex favourable though (can be, doesn’t have to be) -Graysexuality/Grayasexuality! The definition is as follows Grayasexual is a label that’s intermediate between sexual and asexual, meaning you may sometimes, not usually, experience sexual and/our desire. -Demisexuality! The definition is as follows Demisexuality means that you will (usually) only feel sexual attraction if an individual has a close emotional bond with you. You can search up other micro labels! You can still just identify as asexual or anything you are comfy with, but then use one of 3 common labels “sex repulsed” “sex-neutral” and “sex-favorable” I saw a good comment explaining what these mean here, I’m guessing you have probably seen it I hope this helped!! If you have any other questions feel free to reply to this comment and I’ll try my best to help
@wheezeardjack2 жыл бұрын
Yes and I’m not sure what the official term is cause there’s graysexual and demisexual, and there’s aces of all kinds. Saying you’re ace is still valid, you don’t need the exact specific word for it. Some aces masturbate, some don’t, some have sex, some don’t. It’s about you and your sexual attraction. If you don’t have sexual attention, your ace. That’s the core idea.
@jaykapa57762 жыл бұрын
yes, that does. If you want to do it for your partner that is a-ok. your partner might have sexual desires and if you want to help out with that, that doesnt change you being asexual. Asexual just means you arnt attracted to people sexually. like you dont look at someone and be like, 'dang i wanna have seggs with them". Its stil Asexual. though if you feel sexual attraction after being with them for a long time or getting to know them well, that is called Demisexual. I hope this helps :) - and i say this as an asexual myself :)
@--mercury--70092 жыл бұрын
Yeah, some asexuals wouldn’t want to have sex, but the definition of asexual is not experiencing sexual attraction, not hating sex
@robin_deletedchannel2 жыл бұрын
Yes, that’s still asexuality! This is what you are, not what your partner is. If you felt okay with doing it so that your partner is happy, but it isn’t something you yourself would feel a desire for, then you’re ace. it’s called asexual neutral.
@gorilla-grip-pussy-support79762 жыл бұрын
If you enjoy having sex/don’t mind having sex with your partner that falls under sexual attraction. Asexuality is defined as not wanting to have sex, someone whose asexual wouldn’t want sex same as someone whose gay wouldn’t want to have sex with a person of the opposite sex even if they didn’t mind it.
@Daizyuu_2 жыл бұрын
I also have a question would I be aromantic or asexual if I didn’t want to be in a relationship but still have some s3xual/romantic attractions. Can some pls tell me bc I don’t know if I fall under either of the umbrellas
@Artceps2 жыл бұрын
yup this is still under the aspec umbrella ! to me the closest might be demisexual (no sexual attraction unless theres an emotional bond) however do take my words fewer than others as im not on the ace spectrum ^^""
@kiwi-vn2yy2 жыл бұрын
Yes it does make you and asexual since asexuals can be: sex-repulsed, sex-neutral (someone who is like meh with sex), and sex-favorible (someone who is ok with having sex). The first step on discovering you are asexual is falling into some of these categories, then if you want to go more in deep you could search the categories that are in the asexual umbrella. since you chose to not put any specifics (and is understandable, its the internet afterall) in how you feel then we cant just shove you into something you are not, thats something you have to find out yourself. I hope it didnt sound rude or weird (english isnt my first lenguage) but good luck and remember to not stress out in this things since it leads to spiraling if you think put too much importance in it. You dont have to have a laber if you want too, you could just call yourself asexual or queer if you are not sure.
@teakay59272 жыл бұрын
yeah, you’re still asexual. the basis of asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction/desire. being okay with doing sexual stuff for a partner even tho it doesn’t do much for you doesn’t make you not ace. asexuality can also be a spectrum. it’s up to you to define what you are.
@NonExistentGabriel2 жыл бұрын
Yes, that would mean you are on the Asexuality spectrum. I'm unsure what the exact name is, but try looking into 'Grey Asexuality' as a starting point
@birdy16082 жыл бұрын
It would either be a lesser standerd for demi sexual (not wanting to snogg unless you really love them), im not sure what gray sexual is but it may be one of those to or downgraded demi sexual
@basicindiebro2 жыл бұрын
That’s kind of how I feel about myself tbh. I think we are asexual
@animationstudio53112 жыл бұрын
yes, I think that would fall under ‘sex indifferent asexual’
@tachyon79042 жыл бұрын
you would be ace still, this is common and many other asexual people still have sex with their significant others, its usually in a way of expressing love in a Romantic sense (since sex is often not solely just for sexual pleasure, especially in a relationship context where it also has an important romantic meaning too) you arent "less" asexual for having sex, its just means you aren't a *sex-repulsed* ace! be proud of yourself! :D
@amalphia632 жыл бұрын
I would say yes. You may also be demisexual if you only are open to sex with someone you already feel close to. Personally, I fall more under the demisexual category, which is a subcategory of asexual. Basically, I don't have any desire to have sex with anyone who I am not already super close to, preferring to choose sexual partners very carefully. And even then, I usually wouldn't instigate it, but would be open to it.
@asuu63672 жыл бұрын
mhm!! you can still be asexual if you do have sex. Lots of terms to find to describe your feelings and situation but thats def on the asexual umbrella :D
@Luuuna2 жыл бұрын
Yes, asexual people aren't always repulsed by the idea of sexual intimacy - some are, but some are more neutral on the subject, and might have sex for various reasons (such as the example in your question) As for what it's called, I'd call it sex-neutral asexuality, but I don't believe there's an official term for it
@m0ssv0m1t32 жыл бұрын
some asexuals will still do _it_ every now and then if they want, yes
@eid65842 жыл бұрын
You're still defo in the asexuality umbrella because at the end of the day you feel no attraction, and are doing it for the sake of another person and/or because you only feel attracted to that person.
@libby_lue2 жыл бұрын
Sounds pretty ace to me -an aroace
@reapingbennefits2 жыл бұрын
Sex indifferent asexual or neutral asexual, you can just say your asexual if you want. Also a possibility of demisexual.
@iwillcommitarson2 жыл бұрын
yes - it falls under that umbrella. I think you could potentially fall under being cupiosexual. "Cupiosexual: Referring to people who don't experience sexual attraction but still desire to be in a sexual relationship or engage in sexual behavior."
@nessa-parmentier
2 жыл бұрын
I had never seen that word before. I'm not certain how attraction and desire are separated in that case (maybe because I don't experience either), but wouldn't that fall under demi/grey ? Or do those mean sexual attraction under specific circumstances ? Couldn't that just be called sex-positive asexuality ? (I personally prefer grouping things under the Ace umbrella and adding details, it's easier to explain to people imo)
@misscaptainlily2 жыл бұрын
ya, you're ace!
@lykos25352 жыл бұрын
Yes! :)
@Toobero2 жыл бұрын
That can be called demi-sexual, you only would do it if your SO wanted to, but naturally if you were asked if you wanted to have seggs youd say no. Demi-sexual is when you only wat to have the devil's tango with your SO after quite a bit of time of being together.
@-solarseclipse-2 жыл бұрын
yes but idk what it’s called
@strongglad2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I'd say so as a fellow ace, I'm pretty sure this is demisexual a term that falls under the ace umbrella :)
@jayjones43032 жыл бұрын
demi or grey ace probably!
@TheOdeszy2 жыл бұрын
I believe this is demisexuality, which I also believe falls under the ace spectrum
@FoamyLatte782 жыл бұрын
If you think you’re somewhere on the asexual spectrum but you’re not sure where exactly you can use the term graysexual!
@honeybunny44442 жыл бұрын
yep!
@bardbot2 жыл бұрын
You do, asexuality has a large spectrum. I feel the same as you and classify myself as just asexual. I'm pretty sure some people use sex neutral as well?
@eric.62722 жыл бұрын
Shagnostic. I'll see myself out
@moonbunny242 жыл бұрын
No sexual attracttion = ace. You just aren't sex-repulsed. People can even *enjoy* sex and be asexual. I'm sure there's a more accurate micro-label if you want to put a specific name on it, but it would still be under the ace umbrella.
@hydrusalphy46542 жыл бұрын
Umbrella? Is that a term that's used in English? I never heard that before, but I'm not native English speaker.
@JustCy082 жыл бұрын
I would feel if you needed a strong emotional bond, i'd say demisexual
@-aromantic-40412 жыл бұрын
its called aromantic actually! and sometimes its both asexual and aromantic this is what ace means, Asexual people - also known as “Ace” or “Aces” - may have little interest in having sex, even though most desire emotionally intimate relationships. Within the ace community there are many ways for people to identify. and this is what aromantic means: A person who identifies as aromantic is someone who may experience sexual attraction, but doesn't experience romantic attraction. They are often uninterested in having romantic relationships, but may be potentially interested in having sexual relationships. im both, meaning i dont want to do S3gg's, or have a relationship.
@buggydoezgacha9396
2 жыл бұрын
Well I was mainly just curious about the asexual thing cause I already know I'm not aromantic
@-aromantic-4041
2 жыл бұрын
kkk
@chambers4676
2 жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t call them aromantic, and I don’t know why you would say that, seeing as in their video was them saying that they would be open to having an SO. This is a question about sex, not romantic attraction. (I’m aroace btw, but this response really confused me as I don’t think being aro has anything to do with this question)
@-aromantic-4041
2 жыл бұрын
@@chambers4676 ik, just if they wanted to know about aro to. (and those response are literally what google said)
@finnthefrog2 жыл бұрын
asexuality just means you experience little to no sexual attraction, if you choose to have sex for your self or for others you can still be asexual :)
@ErieRosewood2 жыл бұрын
yes. asexuality comes in many forms and this is one. welcome!
@TheTiredGhost2 жыл бұрын
ik this has already been answered but I'm commenting anyways Yes, asexuality is based on the feelings not the act, if you have little to no feelings of sexual attraction you are asexual Some asexuals like the act, but no desire to do it with anyone in specific if that makes sense I'm not sure if it has any specific microlabel or anything, but it is asexuality
@S_8_F2 жыл бұрын
While I do know that you fall under the ace umbrella, I do forget what it’s called… apologies💦
@Erince_Clingan2 жыл бұрын
I do belief there is one but I don't remember what it is called
@LyllaLilly2 жыл бұрын
Asexuality is little to no sexual attraction to others. But you can have sex and still be asexual. Many asexuals do so for there partners. Asexuality is a big spectrum. I'm Asexual but I'm also sex repulsed so I wouldn't be able to. But my friend whose also Asexual can do so with some partners.
@LyllaLilly
2 жыл бұрын
Specifically me and that friend are Aegosexual. (We still run on different sides of sex positive, neutral, and negative.) We generally use Asexuality as the term for simplicity. Honestly if I were you I'd look into the different terms and come to your own conclusions.
@LyllaLilly
2 жыл бұрын
kzread.info/dash/bejne/nJqGuLmFZqWzpdY.html This person has a great video about some of the Asexual categories. I don't know if it'll be of help to you but it's something.
@snailcheeseyoutube2 жыл бұрын
could be, most would call that demisexual and it falls under the umbrella of asexual, but honestly just do whatever you want. you don't have to pick a label or tell anyone anything unless ur dating them
@localdumpsterdiver6962
2 жыл бұрын
No, demisexual is when you only feel a sexual attraction after a certain level of emotional connection is met This person says they feel no sexual attraction but would be willing to do it to please their partner even tho they personally aren't into it, which would fit more under the sex neutral acesexual spectrum (I really hope this didn't come off as aggressive, I just wanted to correct the misconception as a demisexual myself)
@snailcheeseyoutube
2 жыл бұрын
@@localdumpsterdiver6962 I'm demisexual and it can also mean what I said ! :) happy to inform :)
@snailcheeseyoutube
2 жыл бұрын
@@localdumpsterdiver6962 also its asexual and demisexual IS under the asexual spectrum. please don't spread misinformation
@snailcheeseyoutube
2 жыл бұрын
@@localdumpsterdiver6962 asexuality is fluid. I need an emotional connection and I don't always like to define myself, same with my sexuality (queer). but it is extremely unhelpful to only accept a simplified defintion of something as the only defintion. this person can identify as demisexual if they want OR LIKE I SAID they can not, or identify as anything else on the spectrum. hence the COULD
@snailcheeseyoutube
2 жыл бұрын
about half of the comments are saying the same thing. I'm not the only one thinking this yet I'm the only one you've replied too...(despite it being a popular opinion)...
@ave-mujica2 жыл бұрын
yes ! if i remember correctly, there's actually a label for that which is "cupiosexual," but i might be wrong abt that !! either way, yes, that does fall on the asexual spectrum.
@iSmartMan1
2 жыл бұрын
Close, but not quite. Cupiosexual is a person who wants to be in a sexual relationship but doesn't experience sexual attraction. I would agree with the other commenters and say that "sex-indifferent" or "sex-favorable" would probably be a better fit.
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@pyrrhus1129
2 жыл бұрын
I believe that is called gray-asexuality, which falls 100% under the asexual umbrella.
@nafisa-7379
2 жыл бұрын
@@pyrrhus1129 gray sexuality is more of a fluctuation of sexuality with little sexual desire but possibly some under very specific circumstances
@nafisa-7379
2 жыл бұрын
You are most likely placio or demi, though you don’t have to choose either of those or even label yourself. Labels are just there to help you get an understanding of yourself. You could even just identify as an asexual who wouldn’t mind sexual activity with a partner, or just a non-sex repulsed asexual. Asexuality is one of the widest (and best) spectrums, you could even be Quoi which is not knowing where you fit on the spectrum or not identifying as the labels given.
@drywall4310
2 жыл бұрын
Yes :) I'm not gonna tell you what exactly your sexuality is, you can figure that for yourself but i would say looking into "gray-ace" specifically is a good place to start. If you think it's the best label for you right now and you find another label later on that you think better defines you, good for you! There's no rush to figuring yourself out. And don't listen to all these people telling you what you are, only you can figure that out yourself. Good luck!
@lolymop333
2 жыл бұрын
From my understanding, if you experience 0 sexual attraction and have a neutral attitude towards sex, it simply means you are asexual and sex neutral. Graysexual is where you rarely ever feel sexual attraction, which wouldn't be the case if you don't ever feel sexual attraction. Demisexual is where you only feel sexual attraction once you for some kind of close bond with them, which also doesn't fit if you don't ever feel sexual attraction. Feeling neutral about sex is a completely separate spectrum from the aspec. Same goes for things like libido and whether or not you enjoy sexual media. For instance, you can experience sexual attraction, but not feel a desire to seek out sex. You could also not feel sexual attraction, but still enjoy and actively seek out sex. Some people even experience sexual attraction, but are repulsed by the thought of actually acting on that attraction. It's very complicated. I suggest you check out AVEN.
Asexuality is having little to no sexual attraction to other people, as you know. If you are still fine with doing the deed even though you aren't attracted to anyone in a sexual way, that still falls under the asexual umbrella.
@Hebi_1412
2 жыл бұрын
As for the term, I think it would just be straight up "asexual," as from what it sounds like you don't ever have the attraction, but are fine doing it if a significant other wants to.
Yes, asexuality is when you don't feel sexual attraction. And there are terms like sex-replused and sex-favorable to describe a person's feelings about sex. There is definitely a term to describe what you're describing, and other people who feel the same way. (Also I'm asexual btw)
@eggedsalad
2 жыл бұрын
i *believe* it falls under gray-asexual, if im not mistaken. coming from an asexual with a very complicated sexuality and tie to the asexual community, so i could be remembering my terms wrong
@_ductape_471
2 жыл бұрын
@@eggedsalad the last time I looked, the term gray sexual meant that the person feels some sexual attraction, but not enough to be considered allosexual(so like in the middle of the spectrum). I don't think that a person's opinion towards sex has anything to do with what degree of sexual attraction they feel. I saw someone else in this comment section say the term was sex-neutral. And I think I agree with them, because it goes along with sex-replused and sex-favorable.
@jader2357
2 жыл бұрын
@@_ductape_471 Grey sexual means they only feel sexual attraction under very specific circumstances, like under the influence of alcohol or drugs or in a very specific environment
@_ductape_471
2 жыл бұрын
@@jader2357 ok, that's what I thought. (Idk about the specifics for the drug and alcohol part though)
"Asexual, Neutral" from my understanding. Basically you aren't repulsed or seek it out despite your lack of attraction but you can have it with someone.
As far as I am, yes, you'd still fall under ace spectrum :]
Yes it would! As an asexual myself, there is a wide range from being okay sometimes to being okay never to actually being repulsed by s€x. It only really matters that you are comfortable.
graysexual asexual it has three main categories Sex-repulsed: Someone who is repulsed by or completely disinterested in the idea of sex. Sex-neutral: Someone who isn’t repulsed by sex but also doesn’t actively seek it out. These people may still have sex if, for example, they’re in a relationship and want to please their partner. Sex-positive: Someone who identifies as asexual, meaning they don’t feel sexual attraction to others, but will still have sex for pleasure.
@alexiszielinski1690
2 жыл бұрын
This is still asexual, greysexual means there is sexual attraction. But other wise, this is correct.
@moldy_grandpa7867
2 жыл бұрын
Gray asexual
@emilierekdal5118
2 жыл бұрын
Oh! So someone who likes to have sex for the pleasure but is never actually sexually attracted to anyone could also count as asexual? Never knew that! Aight!
@TheTiredGhost
2 жыл бұрын
this applies to asexuals too, graysexuality is when you feel sexual attraction on occasion, where it's kind of the gray area between sexual and asexual This person is saying they feel no desire to have sex, so they wouldn't be graysexual
@willows_abyss
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheTiredGhost oh, thank you for the knowledge. Nice to understand more ^^
Yep, you still fall underneath the asexual umbrella! And the label kinda depends on what you feel is most accurate for you. If you feel like you need a more specific label, go buck wild! I know there's terms like "graysexual" (where you experience very little sexual attraction and have no desire to act on it), or "demisexual" (where you only experience sexual attraction with a deep emotional bond), and lots more! Or, if you're like me, the general term "asexual" is a comfortable space to exist in while you figure out the finer details. But if you experience no sexual attraction at all but you're still okay with having sex with a partner, then that may just mean you're asexual who is sex-indifferent. There's also aces who are sex-repulsed (who don't want sex at all) or sex-favorable (who are more open to it!). And at the end of the day, you'd still be underneath the asexual umbrella. Sometimes that's just how it is! I'd recommend checking out AVEN if you're wanting a good resource for some of the other definitions and questions! I know it helped me a lot.
as an asexual, I say yes! not all asexual people are completely repulsed by the idea of sex
From what I know, being asexual and consuming ace content on the internet, Yes. You are asexual. Congrats! Being ace means feeling no sexual attraction and/or desire. Being ok with the activity of sex does not change ur orientation at all, nor does enjoying it if you do engage with ur partner one day. At least that’s what I know. Hope this helped!
as an ace person, yes! if you're looking for a term for it, maybe sex-neutral ace would work ^^ there are sex favoriable, netural, and repulsed aces out there
Yep, as someone who is one the ace spectrum that would be completely accurate. Being ace simply just means that you don’t feel the desire to do that; however, some aces still do it’s all up to preferences!
yes, you would still fall under the spectrum! based on what you said i believe you may be demisexual - meaning that you would only feel sexual attraction if an individual has a close emotional bond with you. asexuality isn’t inherently only feeling no sexual attraction at all!
Absolutely. Asexuality only means you do not feel sexual attraction- but there are asexual people who are favourable, neutral, or averse to sex. And there are also things like greysexual (sexual attraction is weak or rare) and demisexual (only develop attraction to people you form a close connection with) that fall under the spectrum I’m not ace myself but I am Aro and it works in pretty much the same way (only for romantic attraction instead)
yes!! greysexual sounds like what you're describing, so i'd implore you to look into that!! it's what i personally identify with, too!! so welcome to the ace family
Sometimes in a relationship, a person is willing to do something that they might not like to do or not care much about themselves because it makes their partner happy and they love their partner. Sex is sometimes included in that.
Yes, pretty sure it's still asexual, just sex positive, but u should do some research if u want to find a label that suits u!
Yup! As many have said in these comments, sounds like you're asexual sex neutral. One of my QPPs is sex neutral, meaning if she ever for whatever reason ended up in a situation where someone she has a close bond with wanted to have sex, she would be okay with having sex, but she doesn't experience sexual attraction and it isn't something she would ever actively seek out. One of my other QPPs is sex favorable. This means bee never feels sexually attracted to anyone, but still enjoys the act of sex and actively seeks it out. I am sex repulsed. That means I am not ever sexually attracted to anyone and the whole concept of sex grosses me out and I don't want to partake in it. It is, like many other things regarding attraction, a spectrum! My other QPP is also asexual, but I don't know where he falls in this particular spectrum.
Absolutely! There are lots of subcategories that come with being asexual, one of which is being fine with sex with your significant other. Asexuality is when you don’t feel sexual attraction to other people.
I'm the same way, personally I tend to find the label sex-positive or neutral asexual fitting for myself
Yes, I’m the same way. I’ve s3xted / got on facetime yknow with / sent voicenotes to someone before (my ex-partner, over long distance, who was terrible but regardless) but didn’t really get anything out of it. I eventually realized that I didn’t really like the idea of having s3x with anyone, even if I think about it with fictional characters. Any time I think about it with real people (or real people cast as fictional characters) I get disgusted and uncomfortable.
honestly there's a lot of different answers to this, it mostly comes down to what you feel comfortable with. you could just call yourself ace/asexual and elaborate by saying that, you could say that you're gray asexual (occasionally experiences attraction) or demisexual (only experiences attraction to those they already have an intimate connection with), you could also just say you're sex repulsed/neutral/positive asexual. sex repulsed meaning that you dislike the idea and do not plan on, sex neutral meaning that you don't necessarily feel positively or negatively about the idea and may or may not plan on, and sex positive meaning that you feel more open to it and may plan on doing it, whether that be with an s/o or someone else. you don't even have to identify as an asexual person at all, really. I find it's more about the journey and the self-discovery that comes with these things than the end result, when it comes to questioning. honestly, I prefer to just call myself ace. I spent so many years trying to find the perfect label and never finding anything that really fit, and it got really uncomfortable for a while. I think I might've felt more comfortable calling myself demisexual or gray asexual if not for how insistent I was on microlabeling myself to the smallest detail. or maybe not, but either way, my point is to not stress about it. you can choose whether or not you want to label yourself, and you can choose what that label means for you. there's so many different sexualities on there that sometimes, it's nice to take a step back and look at what you feel objectively instead of comparing it to what everyone else feels. because at the end of the day, you can just explain who you are without the need for a label. but it's always a good feeling to find something that really fits how you feel, too, so just whatever feels good :)
This sounds similar to demisexual to me, but you can always use whatever term you feel most comfortable with! Also don't feel pressured to even use a label! Hope this helps!
hello, ofc u don’t need to change ur label if u don’t want to but what ur describing is called cupioseuxal, its a microlabel describing someone who experiences little/to no sexual attraction but would still be interested in a sexual relationship (and their is also graysexual which is a gray area of sexual) so i hope those might help, have a fantastic day
thats a pretty textbook form of asexuality right there
As someone whos demisexual themselves im def. Sure youll fall under the ace umbrella unfortunately i am not sure if you're either graysexual or demisexual those are the two things im goin on
I think this is more of a tolerance for sex than a microlabel. So, you could be sex-positive or sex-neutral in this case. Asexuality is just a lack of sexual attraction not necessarily desire though.
Yes, absolutely! Asexual means “little to no sexual attraction” willingness to experiment doesn’t take you out of that!
My answer would be demisexual. Its when you only feel sexual attraction for someone you have a close emotional bond to. I dont want to say this in the only answer since there are a TON of terms under the asexual umbrella, and I'm not very educated in them. But I was questioning the same thing a few years ago and came to the conclusion that my feelings aligned with this term the most. This is the best answer I can give so I hope it helps :)
yup this could mean you fall under the ace-spec umbrella, yeah! when it comes to specific labels that's something personal and every person experiences different labels differently, but if you're trying to figure out in general if you might be or not ace-spec, i would say this could be potentially a sign that you are. a lot of ace(spec) people can have s3x even if they don't feel attraction for multiple reasons, and having a partner is a pretty common one! if you're looking for a label that is a bit more open and not "i-dont-feel-attraction-at-all" grays3xual is being somewhere between allo and ace, and demis3xual is only feeling attraction when you have an emotional connection with that person before hand. there are other sublabels that might be might specific to what you're looking for, son feel free to explore! remember not to be too stressed over finding a PERFECT label. you can identify as ace and have s3x, no more explanations needed :)
@wheretheduckswent
2 жыл бұрын
so* not son lol
Yea as an asexual myself, it basically falls under having no sexual attraction, tho there are some people who would still be ok with it. like greysexual- it means like you would only be ok having s3x with someone you’re comfortable with(if you want to) like if you see a stranger and you wouldn’t want to do it because you don’t have any connection with them/don’t know them (I hope that makes sense) you also could be asexual neutral, meaning you don’t desire to have s3x but could still do it with somebody- it’s kinda like greysexual but a but different. If you want more understanding I suggest you search it up.
You just have Bodily Dysphoria. I have it too, but I soldiered through it and trained myself. Plus, I was super aware of it, so I was able to articulate within my head what was happening and how I may address it. Just gotta be REEEAL observant of yourself. Hope this helps.
@FallenEyes
2 жыл бұрын
I highly doubt that's what they have, but I'm happy you could get through your own situation :D
Not all asexuals are sex repulsed. Being asexual means you don't feel sexual attraction, meaning that when you see a person you like, you wouldn't think to ask to have sex with them. (I couldn't really put it any other way, so I hope that made sense.) So yes, you are asexual, and if you want to find a fitting label there are loads of videos and articles available on the internet and all you'd have to do is search. Good luck to you!
Yes it does fall under the ace spectrum. A pretty common occurence in couples with an ace person in them actually. It all comes down to you being comfortable with the compromise. Sexual activity does not define an ace person but your true feelings about sex
Yes, asexuality is a spectrum but regardless feeling the attraction and wanting to try it don’t always correlate. You could not feel any attraction at all but enjoy doing the do and you’d still be a valid asexual. It’s all about how you experience your sexuality. I hope this helped, good luck and have a lovely day! :3
it’s quite literally just called being asexual! im glad and proud that you asked :D
yo i feel this same way- i wasn't sure about this either
I know many people have commented already but I figured since I’ve done research on the Asexual spectrum I could try my best to help you(I’m also asexual too so there’s that) So to answer your first two questions yes and yes asexuality doesn’t always mean being absolutely repulsed by sex as a whole and with that being said as some other commenters have said there are a variety of different types of aces such as sex repulsed, sex neutral, and sex positive and they are exactly what they sound like so keep that in mind, not every Ace person is the same. There is one label I thought of when you described what you felt and it’s called Cupiosexual, defined by someone who feels no or little sexual attraction but still desires a sexual relationship and possibly Demisexual which is defined by someone who doesn’t feel sexual attraction until establishing a deep emotional connection with someone. With all of that being said I suggest doing research into the Ace spectrum and use whatever label you feel comfortable with, being Ace isn’t just one cookie cutter experience. Have a good day or night!
Being on the ace spectrum means you feel little to no sexual attraction, some don't have the desire or want of doing the deed with anybody or their partner while others do. You still are asexual even if your alright with doing the deed, communication is key if you believe you are ready for it or if you partner wants to have it with you.
As an ace person myself, I would like to say that you are ace, for me I hate anything sexual but there is many types of aces
I'm glad this isn't saying something negative about asexuality because I would have been sad if you were that kind of person.
Its just kinda the difference between sex-repulsed aces and non sex-repulsed aces. But yes absolutely you would fit under the umbrella
Yes, definitely. Asexuality is little to no attraction, and there are many ace identities. Some descriptors used by aces are Sex repulsed sex neutral and sex positive. Sex repulsed aces are repulsed by sexual activity. Sex neutral aces don't have a particular hate or positive view of sexual activity. Sex positive aces have a positive view of sexual activity, and may indulge in it for their partner. I'd recommend going to the LGBTA Wiki on Miraheze under the a-spec identities category. You may find a label that fits you. Alternatively, you could avoid specific labels and say you're under the asexual umbrella. Note: being allosexual is a term to describe people who do not fall under the asexual umbrella, and experience attraction. It is the same with alloromantic, except with describing romantic attraction. You must note, that sexual attraction and romantic attraction are seperate. Someone may be asexual but alloromantic, or someone may be allosexual but aromantic. My friend, for example, is heterosexual and biromantic(+alloallo, which means you're allosexual and alloromantic). She is repulsed to sexual activity with women, but experiences romantic attraction towards them.
Yes. It falls under the umbrella and is usually referred to as greysexuaity.
I'm not ace but my freind so I do believe that that is still under the asexual spectrum
I used to identify as ace myself and I know some stuff about it. (Turns out I was just a repressed lesbian oops) You can be ace if you'd do it to satisfy your partner, you can be ace if you have solo devil's tango for the feeling/the serotonin. Theres more specific labels like the other comments have mentioned, like sex repulsed, but it's all acespec (dont let others convince ya otherwise, you're valid) Labels for sexuality describe only what you're attracted to, nothing more. (Eg. One can still be completely straight even if they never want to date or have sex)
from what i've gathered over the years, that's referred to as gray-asexual, and it is just as valid as any other asexual!
That should be either Asexual or Demisexual (Asexual - the lack of sexual attraction) (Demisexual - the lack of sexual attraction UNLESS you have a close emotional bond with the person)
Around there, maybe around Demisexual too. (Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person.)
You would be considered either sex-positive asexual or sex-indifferent asexual depending on how you feel about it.
this is referred to as sex-positive or sex-neutral asexuality. to be asexual is to not have a want to participate in sex; there is no attraction. this does not necessarily equate repulsion.
Yeah, you would still be ace. This is a possibility for nearly all asexual identities, so there really isn’t a specific sexuality for it. Hope that helps :)
As a s*x-neutral asexual, yes, you are asexual! Not all aces are completely repulsed by the idea of s*x, there's a huge spectrum and I definitely think you fall somewhere on the ace-spectrum. Based on what little you said here, I believe you may be demisexual, but I absolutely have no right to choose a label for you and I recommend you look into it yourself to find a label that fits you best- I personally identify as demiromantic aegosexual
Yeah of course, your identity doesn't have to be specified as one sexuality under the asexuality umbrella in particular, but I would say that if you're comfortable, grayasexual would fit. ( I'm grayace btw :)
Oh I happen to be asexual! And the answer is yes! You can be asexual but still be wanting to have/partake in intimate relationships for other reasons. Asexuality just means that you feel little to no sexual attraction. People experience asexuality differently and there are micro labels for this! Here are some you might possibly relate to!/pos -Cupiosexuality! The definition is as follows Cupiosexuals are people who don’t experience sexual attraction but still desire to be in a sexual relationship or engage in intimacy. This does not necessarily mean that the person is sex favourable though (can be, doesn’t have to be) -Graysexuality/Grayasexuality! The definition is as follows Grayasexual is a label that’s intermediate between sexual and asexual, meaning you may sometimes, not usually, experience sexual and/our desire. -Demisexuality! The definition is as follows Demisexuality means that you will (usually) only feel sexual attraction if an individual has a close emotional bond with you. You can search up other micro labels! You can still just identify as asexual or anything you are comfy with, but then use one of 3 common labels “sex repulsed” “sex-neutral” and “sex-favorable” I saw a good comment explaining what these mean here, I’m guessing you have probably seen it I hope this helped!! If you have any other questions feel free to reply to this comment and I’ll try my best to help
Yes and I’m not sure what the official term is cause there’s graysexual and demisexual, and there’s aces of all kinds. Saying you’re ace is still valid, you don’t need the exact specific word for it. Some aces masturbate, some don’t, some have sex, some don’t. It’s about you and your sexual attraction. If you don’t have sexual attention, your ace. That’s the core idea.
yes, that does. If you want to do it for your partner that is a-ok. your partner might have sexual desires and if you want to help out with that, that doesnt change you being asexual. Asexual just means you arnt attracted to people sexually. like you dont look at someone and be like, 'dang i wanna have seggs with them". Its stil Asexual. though if you feel sexual attraction after being with them for a long time or getting to know them well, that is called Demisexual. I hope this helps :) - and i say this as an asexual myself :)
Yeah, some asexuals wouldn’t want to have sex, but the definition of asexual is not experiencing sexual attraction, not hating sex
Yes, that’s still asexuality! This is what you are, not what your partner is. If you felt okay with doing it so that your partner is happy, but it isn’t something you yourself would feel a desire for, then you’re ace. it’s called asexual neutral.
If you enjoy having sex/don’t mind having sex with your partner that falls under sexual attraction. Asexuality is defined as not wanting to have sex, someone whose asexual wouldn’t want sex same as someone whose gay wouldn’t want to have sex with a person of the opposite sex even if they didn’t mind it.
I also have a question would I be aromantic or asexual if I didn’t want to be in a relationship but still have some s3xual/romantic attractions. Can some pls tell me bc I don’t know if I fall under either of the umbrellas
yup this is still under the aspec umbrella ! to me the closest might be demisexual (no sexual attraction unless theres an emotional bond) however do take my words fewer than others as im not on the ace spectrum ^^""
Yes it does make you and asexual since asexuals can be: sex-repulsed, sex-neutral (someone who is like meh with sex), and sex-favorible (someone who is ok with having sex). The first step on discovering you are asexual is falling into some of these categories, then if you want to go more in deep you could search the categories that are in the asexual umbrella. since you chose to not put any specifics (and is understandable, its the internet afterall) in how you feel then we cant just shove you into something you are not, thats something you have to find out yourself. I hope it didnt sound rude or weird (english isnt my first lenguage) but good luck and remember to not stress out in this things since it leads to spiraling if you think put too much importance in it. You dont have to have a laber if you want too, you could just call yourself asexual or queer if you are not sure.
yeah, you’re still asexual. the basis of asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction/desire. being okay with doing sexual stuff for a partner even tho it doesn’t do much for you doesn’t make you not ace. asexuality can also be a spectrum. it’s up to you to define what you are.
Yes, that would mean you are on the Asexuality spectrum. I'm unsure what the exact name is, but try looking into 'Grey Asexuality' as a starting point
It would either be a lesser standerd for demi sexual (not wanting to snogg unless you really love them), im not sure what gray sexual is but it may be one of those to or downgraded demi sexual
That’s kind of how I feel about myself tbh. I think we are asexual
yes, I think that would fall under ‘sex indifferent asexual’
you would be ace still, this is common and many other asexual people still have sex with their significant others, its usually in a way of expressing love in a Romantic sense (since sex is often not solely just for sexual pleasure, especially in a relationship context where it also has an important romantic meaning too) you arent "less" asexual for having sex, its just means you aren't a *sex-repulsed* ace! be proud of yourself! :D
I would say yes. You may also be demisexual if you only are open to sex with someone you already feel close to. Personally, I fall more under the demisexual category, which is a subcategory of asexual. Basically, I don't have any desire to have sex with anyone who I am not already super close to, preferring to choose sexual partners very carefully. And even then, I usually wouldn't instigate it, but would be open to it.
mhm!! you can still be asexual if you do have sex. Lots of terms to find to describe your feelings and situation but thats def on the asexual umbrella :D
Yes, asexual people aren't always repulsed by the idea of sexual intimacy - some are, but some are more neutral on the subject, and might have sex for various reasons (such as the example in your question) As for what it's called, I'd call it sex-neutral asexuality, but I don't believe there's an official term for it
some asexuals will still do _it_ every now and then if they want, yes
You're still defo in the asexuality umbrella because at the end of the day you feel no attraction, and are doing it for the sake of another person and/or because you only feel attracted to that person.
Sounds pretty ace to me -an aroace
Sex indifferent asexual or neutral asexual, you can just say your asexual if you want. Also a possibility of demisexual.
yes - it falls under that umbrella. I think you could potentially fall under being cupiosexual. "Cupiosexual: Referring to people who don't experience sexual attraction but still desire to be in a sexual relationship or engage in sexual behavior."
@nessa-parmentier
2 жыл бұрын
I had never seen that word before. I'm not certain how attraction and desire are separated in that case (maybe because I don't experience either), but wouldn't that fall under demi/grey ? Or do those mean sexual attraction under specific circumstances ? Couldn't that just be called sex-positive asexuality ? (I personally prefer grouping things under the Ace umbrella and adding details, it's easier to explain to people imo)
ya, you're ace!
Yes! :)
That can be called demi-sexual, you only would do it if your SO wanted to, but naturally if you were asked if you wanted to have seggs youd say no. Demi-sexual is when you only wat to have the devil's tango with your SO after quite a bit of time of being together.
yes but idk what it’s called
Yeah I'd say so as a fellow ace, I'm pretty sure this is demisexual a term that falls under the ace umbrella :)
demi or grey ace probably!
I believe this is demisexuality, which I also believe falls under the ace spectrum
If you think you’re somewhere on the asexual spectrum but you’re not sure where exactly you can use the term graysexual!
yep!
You do, asexuality has a large spectrum. I feel the same as you and classify myself as just asexual. I'm pretty sure some people use sex neutral as well?
Shagnostic. I'll see myself out
No sexual attracttion = ace. You just aren't sex-repulsed. People can even *enjoy* sex and be asexual. I'm sure there's a more accurate micro-label if you want to put a specific name on it, but it would still be under the ace umbrella.
Umbrella? Is that a term that's used in English? I never heard that before, but I'm not native English speaker.
I would feel if you needed a strong emotional bond, i'd say demisexual
its called aromantic actually! and sometimes its both asexual and aromantic this is what ace means, Asexual people - also known as “Ace” or “Aces” - may have little interest in having sex, even though most desire emotionally intimate relationships. Within the ace community there are many ways for people to identify. and this is what aromantic means: A person who identifies as aromantic is someone who may experience sexual attraction, but doesn't experience romantic attraction. They are often uninterested in having romantic relationships, but may be potentially interested in having sexual relationships. im both, meaning i dont want to do S3gg's, or have a relationship.
@buggydoezgacha9396
2 жыл бұрын
Well I was mainly just curious about the asexual thing cause I already know I'm not aromantic
@-aromantic-4041
2 жыл бұрын
kkk
@chambers4676
2 жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t call them aromantic, and I don’t know why you would say that, seeing as in their video was them saying that they would be open to having an SO. This is a question about sex, not romantic attraction. (I’m aroace btw, but this response really confused me as I don’t think being aro has anything to do with this question)
@-aromantic-4041
2 жыл бұрын
@@chambers4676 ik, just if they wanted to know about aro to. (and those response are literally what google said)
asexuality just means you experience little to no sexual attraction, if you choose to have sex for your self or for others you can still be asexual :)
yes. asexuality comes in many forms and this is one. welcome!
ik this has already been answered but I'm commenting anyways Yes, asexuality is based on the feelings not the act, if you have little to no feelings of sexual attraction you are asexual Some asexuals like the act, but no desire to do it with anyone in specific if that makes sense I'm not sure if it has any specific microlabel or anything, but it is asexuality
While I do know that you fall under the ace umbrella, I do forget what it’s called… apologies💦
I do belief there is one but I don't remember what it is called
Asexuality is little to no sexual attraction to others. But you can have sex and still be asexual. Many asexuals do so for there partners. Asexuality is a big spectrum. I'm Asexual but I'm also sex repulsed so I wouldn't be able to. But my friend whose also Asexual can do so with some partners.
@LyllaLilly
2 жыл бұрын
Specifically me and that friend are Aegosexual. (We still run on different sides of sex positive, neutral, and negative.) We generally use Asexuality as the term for simplicity. Honestly if I were you I'd look into the different terms and come to your own conclusions.
@LyllaLilly
2 жыл бұрын
kzread.info/dash/bejne/nJqGuLmFZqWzpdY.html This person has a great video about some of the Asexual categories. I don't know if it'll be of help to you but it's something.
could be, most would call that demisexual and it falls under the umbrella of asexual, but honestly just do whatever you want. you don't have to pick a label or tell anyone anything unless ur dating them
@localdumpsterdiver6962
2 жыл бұрын
No, demisexual is when you only feel a sexual attraction after a certain level of emotional connection is met This person says they feel no sexual attraction but would be willing to do it to please their partner even tho they personally aren't into it, which would fit more under the sex neutral acesexual spectrum (I really hope this didn't come off as aggressive, I just wanted to correct the misconception as a demisexual myself)
@snailcheeseyoutube
2 жыл бұрын
@@localdumpsterdiver6962 I'm demisexual and it can also mean what I said ! :) happy to inform :)
@snailcheeseyoutube
2 жыл бұрын
@@localdumpsterdiver6962 also its asexual and demisexual IS under the asexual spectrum. please don't spread misinformation
@snailcheeseyoutube
2 жыл бұрын
@@localdumpsterdiver6962 asexuality is fluid. I need an emotional connection and I don't always like to define myself, same with my sexuality (queer). but it is extremely unhelpful to only accept a simplified defintion of something as the only defintion. this person can identify as demisexual if they want OR LIKE I SAID they can not, or identify as anything else on the spectrum. hence the COULD
@snailcheeseyoutube
2 жыл бұрын
about half of the comments are saying the same thing. I'm not the only one thinking this yet I'm the only one you've replied too...(despite it being a popular opinion)...
yes ! if i remember correctly, there's actually a label for that which is "cupiosexual," but i might be wrong abt that !! either way, yes, that does fall on the asexual spectrum.
@iSmartMan1
2 жыл бұрын
Close, but not quite. Cupiosexual is a person who wants to be in a sexual relationship but doesn't experience sexual attraction. I would agree with the other commenters and say that "sex-indifferent" or "sex-favorable" would probably be a better fit.