This was really interesting. I've only lived one undertaking in my life, after my grandfather's death, and we decided that the ceremony would be lead only by the grandchildren (my siblings, cousins, and me). So we said to the man whitch was supposed to be the leader of the ceremony to say nothing, we were the only ones who could talk: the ones who knew him. We didn't wanted anyminut of silence,or any sad black and white photo, or any pre-writed text from an unknown man. My brother gave the flowers to put on the grave, my other siblings, the older ones, spoke, I changed the musics, we gave the lyrics so everyone could sing. And it was sad, because he was dead, but not that sad, because during that moment, we showed that he was a great man who had a great life. I liked this moment.

I absolutely love this talk, thank you for becoming one of the awesome “change agents” that society so desperately needs to reclaim this important time for families 💜

Wonderful talk. We just pulled off an almost totally DIY funeral for our beloved Mum - even during lockdown. I can tell you it is the best possible way to send someone off. With your own hands, your own coffin, your own rhythms, your own care & words. Emotionally & spiritually it is the best thing you can do as a family. In our case the whole process took less than two days & left us physically exhausted but totally at peace. We only needed a funeral director for transport & thankfully we found one who was willing to do it at a very reasonable cost. Thank you Fiona for supporting this - most of the FDs out there are using lockdown as an opportunity to price gouge & rip off ordinary folk in their time of need. I don't know how they can sleep at night.

A+++ talk. This is really worth listing to. Opens , or rather re-opens, a whole new world of thinking about funerals.