My sister was a surrogate mother for 3 times. Her husband had a cancer, so she had to earn money for his treatment. Also she had two little children, and there were no money to pay for their studying at school. Unfortunately husband`s treatment was senseless and he died. In a few month she there was a labor. She carried two babies and unfortunately there began an internal bleeding. She died. Parents of children refused to give money for operation. There`re no laws in India protecting miserable surrogate mothers, when there would appear problems with their health during the pregnancy or after the birth of child.. Now her children are orphans.

@tracetrace2147

6 жыл бұрын

Victoria Baldwin India must regulating commercial surrogacy to make it safer for the babies, surrogate woman, and the babies's parents

@Beldemandis

4 жыл бұрын

She had to earn money for his treatment, well, to get a job was an option?...

@krumble8327

4 жыл бұрын

This is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. Surrogacy is exploitation of women's bodies.

@krumble8327

4 жыл бұрын

@@Beldemandis you clearly don't understand poverty.

@justynawisniewska1213

3 жыл бұрын

I do believe that women's rights when it comes to surrogacy should be in the centre of discussion around this topic. This story is incredibly sad!

Making payments in installments throughout the pregnancy is the same as putting something on layby at KMart. Clearly it is a commercial transaction.

Surogacy should stay as a criminal offence. Women's bodies ARE NOT commodities.

@Jolora1257

3 жыл бұрын

No one is forcing them to do it.

@bobaGogo

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jolora1257 for many poorer women there isn't much choice. Either go hungry or earn a large amount of money

@olliedwards8069

2 жыл бұрын

What if they want their bodies to be commodities?

@Jolora1257

2 жыл бұрын

@@bobaGogo you act like surrogacy is the ONLY option to make money. Not to mention you have to be in good health to even be consider a surrogate. Poor people are more likely disqualified for poor health.

@shilk4301

2 жыл бұрын

They chose to be surrogate . I would understand if someone forced them into it . Why do ppl have to judge everything. I understand it needs to be done case but case to prevent any criminal activities but other than that it gives couple the hope they are looking for

If I was the child of a surrogate mother, I would feel sad that my life began as a result of my mother accepting money rather than a loving act between committed partners. Life should begin as an act of love, not greed or need for money. I support adopting through adoption a loving couple can give love to a child who may have otherwise never experienced that in their childhood.

@cheekygrin6258

3 жыл бұрын

Well said.

@tatjanakane503

2 жыл бұрын

That's such an insensitive thing to say, Beatrix. Do you understand that some woman have uterine cancers, no uterus, Asherman syndromes, all sorts of medical issues that means they can't carry a child. It is not their choice to use surrogate, surrogacy is the only solution for them to become mother. Surrogates help such women by allowing them to have family. Don't be judgey. It is easy to judge infertility when you have never experienced it. If you are feeling so strong, please go ahead and be an altruistic surrogate for someone. Otherwise your comment as good as "let them eat cake" comment.

@awisniowska

2 жыл бұрын

Have you gone through what it takes to even be considered to be an adoptive parent? Do you know that adoption costs as well and it's not free if you go private? Try $40,000.

@brittasings

2 жыл бұрын

@@tatjanakane503 so just because a woman is infertile, she should pay another woman to obliterate the fetal-maternal bond rather than adopting or fostering an already existing child? I think it’s obvious who’s selfish here: the moms that force children to come into the world adopted.

@jess7142

2 жыл бұрын

@@tatjanakane503 Surrogacy is not their only option to become a mother, they could adopt. I will be judging people when they are exploiting women, especially those in financially desperate situations, just so that they could have a baby with their genetics.

I live in the United States and I was just rejected by a surrogacy agency to be a surrogate. There were a couple of reasons why they denied me: one being that my BMI is apparently too “low”, another that I have a history of being treated for anxiety and depression. I guess maybe it’s for the best. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@possumfriend2335

2 жыл бұрын

It is. You don't want to be a womb for hire for a eugenics project.

Government trying to solve problems with regulations created by government regulations. The circular logic is astonishing.

@kenthedude2758

4 жыл бұрын

Isn't making the claim that "no one has a right to reproduction" just a clever way of rewording eugenics? Sure seems like it.

Surrogacy is only for rich people, the "elite". That's also an issue, I think. I mean, life is not only about your own reproduction (that would actually be a very sad perspective). I think, receiving family can be fullfilling and everything, but wouldn't it make more sense to concentrate on other things like helping (for example) already existing children in the world than focussing desperatly on "spreading your own seed"? Common, that's really pathetic

@rak2762

3 жыл бұрын

What you said applies exactly the same way for people that can have their own children.

@rak2762

3 жыл бұрын

@Natalia Facury ?? You are bringing somebody to this world knowing that there’s children who don’t have a family. Seems the same to me. The truth is adoption is not only for people unable to have children by their owm methods, but it’s a society’s duty. If you preach about adoption please be the one who adopts and don’t be selfish having your own kids.

@godslittlegirl

2 жыл бұрын

@@rak2762 PREACH! That's why I despise surrogacy.

@brittasings

2 жыл бұрын

Surrogacy is literally forcing a child to come into the world via adoption and that just seems so off to me when there are so many to be adopted or fostered

@godslittlegirl

2 жыл бұрын

@@brittasings right?? it seems a way for the rick to get biological children, and for a way for the celebrity women to get them without harming their bodies (which is silly). there literally are so many children that are borne, but they aren't being taken care of. :(

REPECT to the nations who refuses to judicially bend to the human trafficking ! The "Parents" (BUYERS ) IS AT FAULT for not even CONSIDERING the legality of their TRANSACTION of a human being!

@tatjanakane503

2 жыл бұрын

How old are you? Are you a teenager? You have an anime profile. Oh dear, don’t share your naive views on grownup forums.

@mariokokkinos2539

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry Tatjana but your being barren does not negate the fact that surrogacy is exploitative and dehumanizing

@divulgatrice

Жыл бұрын

they r the first to put these babies in a bad situation, what kind of parent does that

@eliannahankin2971

2 ай бұрын

@@tatjanakane503you’re very rude to her. She stated the obvious truth about surrogacy: it is buying and selling children.

I could never imagine being pregnant with a child that’s not mine.

@tatjanakane503

2 жыл бұрын

I would have no problem carrying for someone else, but we are all different. Not everyone has an empathy for childless couples.

@laura9266

2 жыл бұрын

@@tatjanakane503 no one has empathy for that kid who will develope so mamy issues after being harshly separated from his/her birthmum

@tatjanakane503

2 жыл бұрын

@@laura9266 A surrogate is a not a "mum" as she is not genetically related to a child. Sorry to say, but you are wrong, psychological studies have shown that kids who are born through surrogacy are completely normal. You get more psychological issues with kids with parents who do alcohol or physical or emotional abuse, those are issues we need to worry about, not surrogacy.

@laura9266

2 жыл бұрын

@@tatjanakane503 saying that she is not the mum just becausr she is not genetically related is the most sexist thing I've ever heard. You ignore all the processes involved in both the mum and the baby, in their brains and bodies. Separating a baby from someone who they've been with for 9 months, who knows their smell and voice, is just unfair and cruel. But hey, adults desires go first

@mariegreenlife

2 жыл бұрын

@@tatjanakane503 Yes a surrogate will be the baby's mother in some way. Because guess who will breastfeed the baby? The surrogate. And what's in breasmilk? The surrogate mothers dna which the baby drinks and so he will be related to the surrogate mother if blood test is done.

The head-spinning social and political complications - not only for the parents but also for the child himself -- should give one pause about the entire moral legitimacy of surrogacy.

@tatjanakane503

2 жыл бұрын

You’re a man so shut up. You have no right to give your opinions on what women do with their bodies.

@DanCarollo

2 жыл бұрын

@@tatjanakane503 “You’re a man so shut up” is not an argument - it’s basically an ad hominem. I wonder why you think intentionally creating “fatherless embryos” is NOT relevant to the resulting child? The one who never had a choice in the matter? What about their lives? Now it is true that I’ll never be able to have first hand experience being pregnant, but that is irrelevant to the ethical question here. However, considering that I was once an “unwanted pregnancy” myself, who never had the chance to know my own biological mother and father for nearly 50 years - makes this issue at least *personally* relevant to me.

@tatjanakane503

2 жыл бұрын

@@DanCarollo my problem with your comment is that you doubted “moral legitimacy of surrogacy” based on nothing. Your reply also leads me to believe you don’t know much about surrogacy. Fatherless embryos? Lol 😂 what is the definition of a father? Is it someone who wanked into the tube or someone who took child to football games, spent his life raising him, loved him. Do you think because I had to use donor eggs that my son is “motherless”? lol 😆 Honestly, change your thinking or more people will tell you to shut up. Times are changing. Surrogacy is becoming a norm. Do you think that because I can’t carry a child, that I am never allowed to have surrogate help me become a mother? Do you think it is ok to let my surrogate take all the risk of pregnancy (and as a man you don’t get at all what that means), and that she should not be compensated for it? Surrogate has all the right to ask for compensation. It’s easy for you to give your judgments from your sofa as those things are not happening to you. It’s so easy to be moralistic and judgmental when someone else needs to suffer so you can feel good in your high moral chair for five minutes.

@DanCarollo

2 жыл бұрын

@@tatjanakane503 why is that moralistic? There are actually several serious ethical issues involved here. Someone else (who that child will never know) is yanking himself to make someone else pregnant. Basically it puts the desires of the adults (who want to conceive at all costs) above the rights of children, who have a basic right to their own mother and father. And what happens when the couple’s desire for a so called “perfect baby” is screened for Down Syndrome and they decide to abort?. It makes children essentially a commodity to be produced for someone else’s desires. Moral concerns “based on nothing”? See: New York Times article, April 18, 2020: “Surrogacy Is Complicated. Just Ask New York.” BBC News, April 26, 2019: “Surrogacy: Why the world needs rules for ‘selling’ babies” Deccan Chronicle, Feb 4, 2016: “Parents often won’t take surrogate kids with defects”

@ankymrn

2 жыл бұрын

@@tatjanakane503 maybe he identifies as woman, lol

Paula has done a great job. Apart from her books and publications this video is also a great contribution. Surrogacy has always been criticised by the people. There are legal, moral, social and emotional perspectives of this controversy. Paula has tried her best to tell the people that what is surrogacy. It might not completely resolve the apprehensions but to some extent it would be really helpful. Good going Paula, it is absolutely amazing to watch this detailed video.

Very helpful and informative. Thank you Dr Paula

This is so sad that a child has to suffer the delima. These children who are stuck between families. It is true that human rights need to be reformed within the laws. It is so disturbing. Globaly it has such a huge impact.

thank you for this lecture, Dr. Paula Gerber

Commercial surrogacy must be stopped! I totally agree with the speaker. Today the main disaster for commercial surrogacy is Ukraine. There are a number of people who visit this place for their babies! My heart aches for Ukrainian woman! They like a product in the supermarket! I don’t understand why infertile couples don’t want to take a baby from an orphan house! These children are amazing and they also deserve to have a loving family! They must try to adopt a child instead of paying 30,000 euros in Ukraine for the surrogacy! We must take care about those babies who have already live among us!

@elisamayer8833

5 жыл бұрын

@Roxane Desmarais No, I haven’t because luckily I have my own children. I know that the adoption process is hard and challenging. But if you failed then you must keep going with this idea. Life isn`t predictable and there are many difficulties. People shouldn’t give up. Surrogacy damages people`s life. I believe you haven’t known that one of the powerful Ukrainian clinics for human reproduction is involved in a scandal. Moreover, how do people can trust their health in the third world country? It is obvious that Ukraine hasn’t quality medicine. Please, don’t break the commandments thus surrogacy is a big sin. It is business and nothing more.

@ann8654

3 жыл бұрын

@@elisamayer8833 I agree with you. In fact, they don't like children, they just like perfect children with their gene.

@ritaruchlin9661

Жыл бұрын

It’s a choice, the parents has a right what options they have and what they can do. If someone can have a baba through surrogate mother. God Bless everyone in that process. If someone wants to adopt a child, God Bless them too. But adoption shouldn’t be the only option, because someone for them will decide for them that they are not allowed to have a surrogate mother, and the only option to take someone else’s child.

Of course no doubt it is important to look and observe what people say about it. Its really helpful to observe the human nature in order to take further decisions. many studies have shown this fact too. This could be really helpful. Good effort. I am happy to watch the video.

I totally agree with the speaker. How do some authorities allow exploitation in their countries? Surrogacy is not natural which brings only negative to the potential surrogate mother, unborn baby. Moreover, surrogate babies are so weak. Mostly, these babies are delivered earlier to the term. Like any traditional pregnancy, a surrogate pregnancy comes with possible surrogate mother side effects and risks. The right surrogacy professional will take detailed steps to help prevent these risks, but the possibility will always exist. Therefore, any woman considering surrogacy should seriously think about how these potential risks and complications could affect her life. And I don’t get those women who agree to be involved in this risky procedure for money issue. I know that Ukraine is welcome commercial surrogacy and there are many women who are ready to be surrogate mothers. People must understand that surrogacy is an exploitation of poor women. And moreover, babies aren’t goods which you can so easily buy!

@gretabona5063

5 жыл бұрын

I agree that Ukraine has become a mecca for the surrogacy journey. But I can`t agree more that surrogacy is exploitation in Ukraine. Firstly, surrogacy mothers receive monetary compensation for the process. Secondly, nobody forced them to be involved in the process. It was their decision to help the infertile couple or earn some money. And finally, there are some couples who can`t succeed with the adoption process. What should then be done? You don’t understand that surrogacy is the last stage for someone to become happy parents. I believe you don’t know how it is hard to take a child from an orphan house. Every loving couple deserves to have at least one baby. And these couples aren`t guilty that they can`t have children naturally.

@shilk4301

2 жыл бұрын

Such a conservative mindset . Don’t understand how it feels when you learn you can’t have your own child

Surrogacy is a topic that has multiple ethical aspects to consider. Dr. Paula Gerber in this Ted Talk does a great job at looking at the topic of surrogacy through a view of human rights. At the start of her talk, she discusses a few well known causes of surrogacy “gone wrong.” These cases left babies stranded without home, babies abandoned by their parents, and visa and citizen complications from international surrogacy programs. As Dr. Gerber demonstrated, surrogacy can be viewed through many different lenses, such as the human rights perspective. I think it is important to consider this through a lens of medical ethics. Medical ethics is founded on four pillars of autonomy, non-maleficence, beneficence, and justice. The two pillars I think needs to be considered when discussing surrogacy are autonomy and justice. Autonomy is the right patients have to make decisions about their medical care. It is imperative to consider the rights of the surrogate mother. In an ideal situation, a surrogate would be compensated properly for her services of carrying and growing a baby. It can become quite tricky when considering international surrogacy. The question arises? Are international surrogate women being exploited for their services? If a woman has limited career options and turns to be a surrogate mother, is her autonomy really respected? Justice is the concept of fair and equitable distribution of healthcare recourses. Do surrogate women in international countries have access to proper and necessary healthcare during their time as a surrogate? I believe there are many ethical considerations when it comes to discussing and considering surrogacy. A lot of these questions arise when considering international surrogacy organizations.

Excellent. Well orated.

A chinese celebrity named Zhengshuang had two surrogacy babies with her ex-husband, which invokes the topic of surrogacy to a wide discussion. most people in China do not support surrogacy. First, the children's interests and rights cannot be well guranteed under present legal and social environment once the biological parents abandon the babies. Second, both the surrogate and the babies are actually treated as commodities, which is against the basic concept of human rights. Third, when we say one policy is not applied or one technology shall not be carried out, because if it just solves the problems of a small amount of population, not most of the people, namely, it is not good for the public interest, or at under present circumstances, compared to the problems it may solve, it actually can bring more social problems and challenges which beyond of our ability.

If there's no child in the end of the process, the payment is different. So the payment is for the child.

@sleeplesshead602

2 жыл бұрын

It's all about business.

good talk

The legislation in India and Cambodia has changed, they prohibited it for foreign couples … When my cousin needed surrogacy, she was ready to visit India as it was popular 5 years ago, but eventually she went to Ukraine for treatment. I don’t know why, but Ukraine is the most popular direction somehow. Maybe, cos the other popular direction such as Vietnam, Laos, Nigeria and Kenya are completely unregulated.

I support surrogacy. I believe it is a good alternative. For me it became real rescue from longtime depression. As I couldn’t have a child for a long time, I started looking for proper clinic. I chose Ukraine, where everything is legal. After short consultation with stuff, my husband and I had flight to Ukraine. We were positively surprised by the prices there. After 2 attempts I became pregnant. There work very good doctors. They are professional. I would never have thought that medicine in Ukraine can be on such level. I can advise this clinic to everybody who have the same problem. You will not be sorry. I had a son now and it became possible only thank to this clinic. Their work deserves an award.

@ZONE-fj8ly

5 жыл бұрын

Longtime depression is harder on orphans than grown adults who could look after themselves. Didn't it ever cross your mind to look into orphanges than some clinics? At least you'll be doing a child's favor to offer them a home and advise people to adopt parentless children. There was probably an orphan out there whom you could have adopted but instead you wanted someone who is biological related to you than the concern of children who have no families.

@jorgeriveramx

2 жыл бұрын

@@ZONE-fj8ly You have no right to ask another person to adopt a child. You don't know the reasons and don't understand the situations another person is facing. If you want to save an orphan from depression adopt it yourself, and don't judge people for not doing it.

If you are not allowed to sell your organs, you should not be allowed to sell or rent your womb, surely. On top of this, there is a baby involved who starts life off with a loss when they never needed to. Go adopt a baby who doesn’t have a better option, stop asking women (especially desperate women) to have a baby for you.

@revoroad1789

5 ай бұрын

Every adopted child starts off with a massive loss that lasts all life long. Better promote contraception or abortion so the 'child' need never feel loss. At least the surrogate baby has parents who really want it.

I disagree. You are paying for the child. You can say it’s the “service but at the end you want the child.

mental gymnastics here to somehow justify surrogacy

A well-thought video on a controversial topic that is gaining coin. As surrogacy is becoming popular the controversy is also increasing. Role of the surrogate mothers also calls for attention. I think this happens with every emerging technology and concept. If you are seeking some real information it is better to search yourself. This video is helpful for those who have concerns about the commercial aspect of the surrogacy. If anyone watching this video is planning to go for surrogacy, it is better to decide on your own.

@tatjanakane503

2 жыл бұрын

That’s true. We decided to go for it and our lovely and kind surrogate is now pregnant. Can’t tell you how happy we are after 5 years of trying, after 3 IVF failed cycles, and we decided on surrogacy after our son died as I couldn’t carry him full term. Thank God for surrogate women who want to help couples like us and we don’t mind paying whatever she needs.

Well, this is new. They should talk about it more. It's not just good for them. It's good for us as well. We must know about it. It's going to be alright. We must take good care.

It is good to see both the sides of the topics are discussed. A light has been shed to both the aspects. I think it should not be banned. All those wishing to have their own biological baby should be given the opportunity. Many couples across the globe have been benefitted this way. They have fulfilled their dream this way. Indeed, it is a wonderful process.

Hi there. Hope you are doing fine. I am so happy for them. Such surprises are amazing. Surrogacy is really a blessing. I hope their kid brings them lots of joy and happiness. Take care. God bless.

Miscarriages are very hard to face for a woman. I have been through this and i know how it feels to lose your unborn baby. I had a lot of complications while getting pregnant. First i was not able to conceive. After sometime i conceived for the first time but i miscarried at 8 weeks. Than i tried again and again i lost my 2 babies. Now i am 43 years old i know this is not the right age to be pregnant again as already i had many complications so i will go for surrogacy now to have a baby.

hey there. I hope you are great. I really love TED talks. and how it is supporting broader things. surrogacy ois definitely a topic that needs to be talked about. and supported. obviously, a lot of countries call it controversial and have banned it.

@moniikeshneider6964

4 жыл бұрын

I'm just thankful we have this option nowadays. Though when undergoing surrogacy route we’ve got entirely different emotions. When we went for 12 weeks scan it was fabulous! We could see her face and everything. We got a scan pic of her profile and it was so clear we could see her nose and mouth!! My 21 week scan was also fab seeing every little detail of my little girl was just amazing. And it brought it home that our surrogate was carrying a small person of ours in her body! Scans are a wonderful thing either when you are or your surrogate is pregnant. It puts you so in touch with your baby! The whole world changes when a tiny one is placed into your hands..

2 mil subs but 90 views. And this is the first post

Really impressive video. I have heard about surrogacy a lot. My aunt opted it. The surrogate mother she has was not poor or needy. She was very nice and educated lady. That is why I totally support this. I hope this helps others too. This is really a wise option.

Surrogacy has been a touchy medical subject within the United States over the last several years. The United States has seen highly increased rates of surrogacy after celebrities such as the Kardashians have made such procedures rather mainstream for those who can afford it. The services of surrogates have moreover become a convenience to the wealthy wishing to spare their body the labor of pregnancy rather than as a last-resort for couples struggling to birth children. As Dr. Gerber has stated in her video, the United States is indeed a country that has very loose regulations when it comes to the matter of surrogacy, opening the door for several potential breeches of medical ethics. For starters, virtually all surrogate pregnancies are performed in conjunction with in vitro fertilization. In vitro fertilization already carries several ethical burdens with it and some have equated it with abortion due to the fact that there are often several fertilized embryos that are discarded following the procedure. As such fertilized embryos have the potential for life, many would argue that in vitro fertilization and therefore surrogacy are unethical on these grounds alone. In terms of the issues unique to surrogacy, my biggest concern would involve human trafficking. If babies are simply developed and birthed for the highest bidder without regulation, then they could be sent to environments where their wellbeing would be put into jeopardy. The surrogates are no exception to this either, and I fear that they could potentially be exploited in a similar manner, which is a concern that Dr. Gerber briefly mentioned as well. The public seems not to want to consider the effects that surrogacy may have on a child, as it can cause conflicting emotions about their origin. There is a myriad of other specific issues within surrogacy that also seem to degrade the sanctity of human life, such as the case referenced in this video where a baby was abandoned by its genetic parents once they discovered it had Down Syndrome. With more surrogate pregnancies happening out of convenience and with no regulation in the United States, such practice may become more widespread. I feel that the United States is at a crossroads regarding the issue of commercial surrogacy and action is required, additional regulation is needed for this practice if it is to be pursued ethically.

NO!

I like the ideas presented here for regulating surrogacy, if it must happen. But I am not really sure about surrogacy itself. Are there really many women who would want to be a surrogate mother if they were not desperate for money or doing it for family members/close friends? I doubt it. I am going to have to look into the ethical aspect of it all.

@helenn6061

10 ай бұрын

I'm completely against surrogacy

Why not just adopt?

@tatjanakane503

2 жыл бұрын

Because people want their children to be genetically theirs.

@awisniowska

2 жыл бұрын

Classic. Those who have not gone through infertility always say this. Why is the burden on people who have infertility issues to adopt? If someone who had their children naturally has anyone turned around and said, why don't you adopt? Why have children naturally? Why don't you adopt? Adoption needs to be the first option NOT a fallback plan. Adoption the whole situation is started off as a trauma. "giving away a child" instead of giving back.

@shilk4301

2 жыл бұрын

It should be mandatory for healthy parnets to adopt too. Infertile ppl or mothers with health conditions can’t have their own kids ? I am sure either you are a teenager or someone who judges ppl all their life .

It is very annoying that an Ukrainian surrogacy clinic uses this talk for self-advertizing in every second comment below! They should stop it because it has the opposite effect. Apart from this, the talk gives food for thought. The perspective of human rights is trully the best to make one's mind about the problem. Indeed, child rights have priority, followed by sorrogates' rights. But since the surrogacy is driven by the intended parents and their money, the rights of the latter are usualy the best protected, which may be very unfortunate for the baby.

Commercial Surrogacy should be legalised and should be allowed for everyone, couples AND single men,women. Everyone has the right to be parent.

8:20

Hey, dear! You look so nice. Thanks for sharing such a nice video with us. I really liked it. It's good to know that many people are talking about surrogacy. This process has been spreading all over the world, which is amazing. This is a great process that we can use to overcome infertility issues. People must be aware of it.

@ZONE-fj8ly

5 жыл бұрын

Actually the real issue is the number of unadopted children who should be taken care by suitable foster families to look after them.

Surrogacy is helping people a lot. Now people are really discussing to legalize in the whole world. Surrogacy is really a wonder for mankind. We all should appreciate it.

@ZONE-fj8ly

5 жыл бұрын

You mean helping adults, not the children who have no families. Money is better spent on helping these orphans connect to foster families who are willingly to adopt them.

爽子来的

Yes, you are right. I totally agree with you. Surrogate mothers deserve massive respect. I think that it is strange and has no reasonable background. Unfortunately, the problem of the infertility is highly common nowadays. And it seems that nobody can even imagine how many couples are trying to fight this problem! Some countries are not so highly developed as others, but their government supports the future. Best of luck to all of you. May God bless you

Hey! I just watched this video. I think surrogacy should be appreciated. We cannot feel the emotions and feelings what childless couples feel. A great thing came for them and we are degrading it and snatching their happiness. Every couple wants to have a child. So what is wrong in this if someone is going to have a baby through some artificial way. It's a great thing and people should adopt it to make their dreams come true

@ZONE-fj8ly

5 жыл бұрын

Being parentless is much worse than being childless, at least they are grown adults who can fend themselves. Instead of spending so much money on these clinics, it is should spent on orphanages to provide a worldwide connection to these children with families who would adopt them.

I do agree with your point. I cant understand why some people go against surrogate mothers. Like they have the right to live a happy family. We should see surrogate mothers with positive words in society. There is nothing wrong for an infertile couple to have a baby of their own. I do wish a good luck. Yeah, especially those who are in the treatment of surrogacy and who are thinking to have surrogacy.

Very right. Surrogacy is becoming common in many areas. Also, it is getting controversial with the passage of time. There are countries that still frown upon surrogacy. I think this should not happen. This process has guaranteed success everywhere. Couples have been able to find their rainbows this way.

hello there! I hope you are doing fine. Surrogate mothers are just like angels. Especially for people like us who were having difficulties TTC. I can't imagine what I would do if a surrogate mother wouldn't have helped me in getting my baby boy. Lots of love. Cheers!

6:44

Surrogacy is a blessing. Today there are many people who finally have become parents via surrogacy. And I totally support this way of treatment thus kids are the gift of God. Unfortunately, today 1 of the 5th couple has difficulties to birth a child. Someone can`t conceive and someone succeeds with the delivery. Thus modern society needs surrogacy. It is a possibility of medicine which must be used if the couple can`t complete their family naturally. That’s why I am sure that we should have such treatment. Maybe people haven’t such problems in previous times. But now the statistic of infertility looks dramatically. And society must understand that nobody forced those women to be surrogate mothers. It is their decision to help infertile couples. Moreover, I appreciate that such women receive money for being surrogate mothers. Pregnancy is challenging and they have a right to receive compensation!

It should be legal everywhere. If a mother wants to have a kid but doesn’t want to raze it because of her career she should have a option to help others while she is at it. (If she is a high Judge, Prosecutor or wants to give her life to Politics, she should have the option to do so) I know professional women who have given there whole lives to such professions. In history there where many men who couldn’t have children it’s becoming more common for women to do so as well.

Having a baby for money is a business transaction. Plain and simple! Money and "product" of human life are exchanged.

@shilk4301

2 жыл бұрын

It can be viewed that way or it can be viewed as helping each other. It should be regulated thiugh . Not for everyone . Don’t see any harm why mothers who want their one biological kids but with health conditions can’t have one if surrogates are willing to .

We all have different opinions regarding surrogacy. Some are controversial while some are not. I think the bad views are based on limited information only. However, now the surrogacy process has become a lot more different. In the clinic, I am visiting, which is situated in Ukraine the things are being done in a very systematic manner. They make sure that there is no confusion. I am honestly having a wonderful time. The surrogate mother is also so caring and loving.

That was a nice debate indeed. I totally favor surrogacy. And it is though not a right of anybody to have a child. It is still a privilege to have children. Infact we are going to Ukraine for our surrogacy process to start. I think, with the passage of time, people will understand the concept more. And, eventually, start to support it.

I would disagree on some points. As a lot of arguments have just been based on mere generalisations and on few examples more like inductive. However, being in the journey of surrogacy my experience has been a lot more different. I feel like if you choose the right clinic and your research about the legal structure. The process becomes a lot easier and wonderful. The clinic I opted for had legal documents for the child prepared so that the couple doesn't face any issues. It is ensured that surrogates are doing the process with their own will and are not being forced. My experience has so far been great as I get to meet the surrogate and we are connected at a very strong level. The clinic to ensures that surrogate is being taken care of as they call her for regular checkups and ensure her diet is healthy.

11:06 Is she saying that some countries do not allow women to be surrogates?

I don't know! I think surrogacy should not be seen in such a negative manner. I had to go through surrogacy to start my family. Nothing else worked for me. I had to go to Ukraine for the procedure just because surrogacy is banned in my country. I don't regret going there tho, Ukraine has some of the best clinics for such procedures.

I am totally agreed with you. I want to share the story with my relatives. They are well settled and good financially. But they don’t have any baby. The doctors called her an infertile lady. then she went to a clinic in Ukraine named as biotexcom. And after a few cycles, all her tests are positive. Now her surrogate is 2 months pregnant. From my story, I want to clarify that if a man has all the things but doesn’t have his own child, then all his things are irrational.

I don't understand this hate. I actually liked the video. I'm pro surrogacy. I liked how it works and how good it is. It's creating families for infertile people. I like the fact that this created an argument and people got to learn about both sides of the story. Good job uploading the video.

It hurts to know that exploitation of surrogates happen. As far as I've read and watched a lot, these cases mostly happened in India and some poor European countries? But my hope is surrogacy now as I am going to be IP, and I am searching for the details of the whole process in different countries where it is legal. I can tell you that not everybody can understand me well, only people who went through a long process of infertility treatment can realize the level of despair having a family without children.

this is an interesting video. This is true that surrogates don't die of hunger. Sometimes they are well off. some surrogates do this to help other couples. well, It is still misunderstood, a lot of people don't understand it and a lot of people don't like it. When I went for surrogacy my in-laws were against this. But I wanted a baby at any cost.The clinic where I went is in Europe. They provide healthily surrogates. I would recommend that the couple who cannot conceive should choose this process instead of wasting time.

Well, I will be very open minded in this regard. I don't think it should remain controversial anymore. Surrogacy is a blessing. And it should not be banned anywhere. Assisted methods to have kids should be promoted. Surrogacy is a source of happiness for millions of people. We all should start opening up to it.

I am for surrogacy treatment because there are so many people out there who want children more than anything, and they would be great parents, and they have so much love and opportunities to give, and it wouldn't be fair to tell them that they aren't allowed to have one of their own, when so many women just have one after another and push them aside, and let welfare take care of them, or the system, not even really caring about them, and when so many women go out and get one abortion after another. it just wouldn`t be fair to tell a woman who can't carry a baby of her own that she will never have her dream of being a mother to her own biological baby. The infertility rate is increasing every year and it is great that today infertile couples have a chance to overcome their fertility problems with surrogacy treatment. Surrogacy is one more advantage of modern medicine.

@notaweeb2850

2 жыл бұрын

Those people should adopt. If they are so good people they'd be happy to help to kids in terrible situations instead of being preoccupied with spreading their genes . Also planet is overpopulated already.

I am convinced that surrogacy is a survivor to the hopeless couples. I have struggled for 9 years to conceive naturally, and then I could only see hope in pursuing surrogacy. Europe has happened to be my perfect destination for surrogacy journey.

@ZONE-fj8ly

5 жыл бұрын

But not for the orphans who have no one to look after them. The way I see it is that you people look at orphans as broken used up toys that you would rather have shiny new ones instead. Being parentless is much worse than being childless, at least you're grown adults who can fend themselves.

In USA a child with ONE National Citizen parent has USA Citizen. If the father is an American the child is an American. the USA laws cover the general elements of the treaty thus does not need a UN organization to regulate US law.

@katjamihelic9368

4 жыл бұрын

In the US it is also legal to execute a minor.

@healthandwealthdiva

3 жыл бұрын

Katja Mihelić They don’t execute minors in the US

Kelly, fully agree with you. I have passed my surrogacy program in ukarinian clinic biotexcom. Actually there were a lot of surrogates inside the clinic and all of them didn’t look like poor) hey were dressed well, some of them even better than me)) And talking with my surrogate I asked her about the reason why she decided to carry a baby for unknown people and she told me that she wanted to make renovation of her house. So I guess she didn’t die of hunger)

@SiRasputin

6 жыл бұрын

So I guess a large transaction makes commercial surrogacy ok as opposed to a small one

@tracetrace2147

6 жыл бұрын

Many women want biological child but can't get pregnant, surrogacy is the only thing that can help and it's okay as long the woman is well-paid

Hi, How are you? Thanks for sharing this video. Surrogacy is a blessing. We all should support surrogacy. It is helping many infertile couples. Thanks for talking on this topic. Good luck to all.

Thankyou for uploading this. It shows a different side of what people think of surrogacy. I didn't know so many people were against it. And about the surrogate mother, she becomes the surrogate with her own will. She gets paid for it. So I don't know how that isn't justified. Anyways, everybody is entitled to have their own opinion so I guess I'll leave it there. Peace out.

Surrogacy should not be banned. It should be legal worldwide. I don't know why people don't see it's importance. I am okay with it. I personally think that this is great. It's really very helpful for us. I like this method.

@ZONE-fj8ly

5 жыл бұрын

Giving children away like they are a commodity or some hand-me-down is immoral. Yes it is hard on adults who have no children but it is a lot worse for children who have no parents to look after them. There are a lot of problems on adopting children and money is better off spent on solving them by connecting these children worldwide to families who are willingly to take care of them. This surrogacy is just another problem on the way they make orphanages look like they were giving away used up toys.

Hey there. How are you doing? I hope its all great. One of my reasons to be happy today is due to surrogacy. It has helped me so much. Not everyone can understand the feeling. not everyone can have children. The feeling of motherhood is not something to miss. Good luck to all take care.

See, this is the problem. You never tell the stories of the Surrogate women! It's as if they don't exist! You cannot contribute genuinely to this conversation unless those stories are told and heard!

Hey there Paula! I agree with most of the points you mentioned. Surrogacy shouldn't be as controversial as it has been. Infertile couples have the right to become parents. Methods like surrogacy are just helping them fulfill their dreams. Women who chose to be surrogates do this out of love. They feel pride ion doing this job. Thank you for this video!

Hi there. Its not always about money. There are some who do it for kindness only. But even if surrogate mothers have money in mind the outcome is beneficial for both the parties. So it should not be frowned upon. The clinics like Biotexcom who provide top of the class facilities and services are turning around peoples mind. We need more people like them.

Surrogacy is not less than a boon for infertile couples. Infertility is a curse in our society these days. And surrogacy gives such couples a chance to get their own biological child. There are a lot of moral and social questions raised on it, like when there are so many homeless children, why can't couples adopt them? In some religions, it's equal to sin. In my opinion, there should be an ethical and legal guideline for surrogacy. One more important thing, it is becoming a mean of easy money for women in poor countries like in Ukraine. But at the same time, it is a place where infertile couples can finally receive their babies. To my great surprise, today more and more people are having their surrogacy process in that country. And I believe the popularity of Ukraine in surrogate issue was emerged because of the prices on surrogacy procedure there.

@hannguyen6095

3 жыл бұрын

Don't ever think all infertility couples are rich . A lot of people also very poor and they are bad luck to get the baby. They also work a lot n never enjoy some people never go shopping n vacation as you are. because they have to save money for expensive IV in America.. Many countries gave Free IVF to poor couples. If you want to ban surrogate or egg donation . I meant you are a selfish . You have no problem with infertility, but you never know if your children or grandchildren have problem in the future n need doctors to help. At that time you can ask why didn't they adoption the baby. You think you have no money. You can adoption a baby. Why don't you guys open the heart to help infertility couples. Most women infertility problems they have tumors in the ovaries n they get painful in the period. N many women have ovaries cancer . Did you know many insurance didn't pay instil they get cancer. ,.if not said they have problem infertility. Nobody wants to see doctor infertility.nobody wants to married late or have babies late in life. My country call these women bad luck star and many rich people donation money to help them and people in my country said they deserve a treatment .they also deserve a 😊.

I see there are many people who are against surrogacy. We need to spread more positive and better side of surrogacy so society can be convinced. It is a blessing for an infertile couple. You need a biological connection with your child. Moreover, surrogate mothers are selfless. They do not just do this for money. Instead, they are angels who are ready to complete families of the infertile couple. They know the happiness of motherhood. The happiness that every woman deserves to feel.

Today 1 out of 5 couples have difficulties getting pregnant. For couples who dream of having their own children, infertility is frustrating and stressful. Having children and fulfilling the wish for a family with the help of a surrogate mother is, therefore, the possibility of living out that dream. And it is great that today modern medicine gives an opportunity for having children to everyone. No one chooses their infertility status and we can`t blame those who are dealing with the surrogacy process. Maybe someone opposes my opinion but still, I think that surrogacy must be allowed in every country. We are living in democratic times thus people are willing to choose whether they want to adopt or undergo surrogacy process.

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 5 years. I had multiple miscarriages. Eventually, I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We chose surrogacy as a way out of it. We went abroad as a surrogacy process is very complicated here in the UK. Despite our worries, we found a nice clinic. Our Dr. was extremely meticulous, thorough, kind, warm, smart, and accessible. She took the time to answer all of our questions. She was very honest about setting realistic expectations. Having myself multiple miscarriages, Dr. was very straight forward, but sensitive. She felt surrogacy was the best option for us. Her guidance helped us to make some heart-wrenching decisions which ultimately led us to have our miracle baby! We are very grateful to our clinic, our Dr. and our surrogate. We will be starting on a sibling surrogacy journey with the same clinic again soon. Good luck to everyone out there who is thinking about surrogacy! There are no reasons to hesitate. Believe me, you won't regret this decision.

@noraanderson3503

2 жыл бұрын

Not one word about the surrogate mother.

Congrats on your journey and for having a baby. Everyone wants a baby like me. But someone can have it naturally and some can't have like me. I have been TTC from 10 years but no luck. Now i have decided for surrogacy. As the doctors can't decide weather i will conceive or not. So i have decided to go for surrogacy now. It is ban in Bulgaria but i will have to move for it. Surrogacy is the only solution to my problem now.

I hope all your problems get solved. I know this time will pass. Surrogacy has helped many people in our society. I hope you get your problems solved.

@ZONE-fj8ly

5 жыл бұрын

Not for the orphanage thats for sure considering how surrogacy make them look like they were giving away broken up used toys that grown adults pass over for shiny new ones. I get that it is lonely to have no children but it is much worse for children to be parentless where funding should be spent on getting them connected to suitable families who would adopt them.

"How a child is conceived and birthed, in the scheme of things is largely irrelevant". Given psychological and physical research, along with the moral, spiritual and ethical impact on individuals, societies, generations and humanity's trajectory as a whole, of ANY action, the ignorance and disrespect of this statement, especially in relation to a child, is stunning. I'm sorry, such a lost talk.

@ishi0001

2 күн бұрын

1000 percent agree

No one force women to become a surrogate mothers, It's their own choice. I agree, sometimes this decisions can be made under the influence of their economy level of life. But we keep forgetting about the women who become surrogate mother to their sisters and close friends, they are not paid for the 9 month when they carry some ones child, they do this to help people whom they love.

Hi there. I don't understand why it's controversial until today. I mean people are having happiness. They completing lives. A lot of people are against it. But some of us can't have this happiness naturally. Wish luck to everyone. Thanks for being open up about it.

@nati3914

3 жыл бұрын

Women’s reproductive exploitation, that’s why many people (like me) are against it. In this society we are getting used to get what we want (clothes, cars, food, kids) by the exploitation of other beings. That doesn’t make it ok.

Surrogacy is definitely a controversial topic. And controversial things usually put a division between people. I stand with surrogacy. I don't care if it's unnatural or unethical, I just know that it gives happiness. It should be legalized around the world so that the problems with children like baby Manjie won't arise. Anyway, this is a really emotional video. Thukbs up!

@ashsqx3246

5 жыл бұрын

samantha collins "i dont care if its unethical as long as it gives others happiness" ... lady, you are sick. there's a good reason why god didnt give you children.

Well for me it’s literally impossible to understand why somebody still could be against of such thing as surrogate mothers and the surrogate motherhood in general. Surrogate mothers deserve massive respect. I think that it is strange and has no reasonable background. Unfortunately, the problem of the infertility is highly common nowadays. And it seems that nobody can even imagine how many couples are trying to fight this problem! Some countries are not so highly developed as others, but their government supports the future.

Playing God. What could go wrong?:

That’s Thomas Beattie, one of the first trans men to give birth. Damn, lady, do your research.

It is immoral for anyone or government to regulate who can and can not have kids.

@ZONE-fj8ly

5 жыл бұрын

Its immoral to sell children or give them away like they are just objects. To me it is a cheap way to get away from paying child support. I heard of donating to the children but never donating the children.

No way....nope not a good ideal

No one force women to become a surrogate mothers, It's their own choice. I agree, sometimes this decisions can be made under the influence of their economy level of life. But we keep forgetting about the women who become surrogate mother to their sisters and close friends, they are not paid for the 9 month when they carry some ones child, they do this to help people whom they love. Infertility becomes a very common problem nowadays, so what all this women should do? Never enjoy the pleasure of motherhood? It's not fare/ I'm one of these women, I been infertile for many years and surrogacy is my only option. I never hide it from anyone and all my family and friends support me. I just can't understand why do we except any kind of treatment for the cancer and being so stick to infertility

@ZONE-fj8ly

6 жыл бұрын

But adopting a child isn't an option? You say they are not being forced but it isn't much of a choice especially those who live in poverty or were greedy just to make enough payment to have their house renovated or to buy useless expensive stuff.

@tracetrace2147

6 жыл бұрын

Many woman wants biological children because they want pass their genetic trait (genetic can also affect phsycological trait), but some of them can't get pregnant because of health reason, that's why surrogacy is needed

@karenlacey4549

6 жыл бұрын

They just closed down a hospital home in India this WEEK that was keeping teenage girls prisoner's to be used as unwilling surrogates! I do not care if you can't have children ! But I will not agree with keeping other women as tools to provide babies for the childless.

@oananichifor7934

5 жыл бұрын

ZONE13 haw old are you? Do you have your own child? Haw many years of infertility do you have? Do you have any idea what mean to try to have your baby for 10 years (because you and your husband are healthy not any cause of infertility) and every month you hope that could be the right month ?!. When you talk about adoption you know what are you talking about? Adoption takes years ,I know a couple that they wait 3 years ,they do the request internally in Italy and also outside Italy after 3 years the only response that they had it was from the outside ,from China and they paid 30000€ + the ticket for the flight that cost another 5000€.So as you can see the adoption is not a very easy option, a lot of couples after years of not response for adoption they think to surrogacy.

@sugarfairy5595

5 жыл бұрын

@@oananichifor7934 surrogacy cost a lot more than that, also altruistic surrogacy is only like 1% of what's really happening in the real life.

No one force women to become surrogate mothers, It's their own choice. I agree, sometimes this decisions can be made under the influence of their economy level of life. But we keep forgetting about the women who become a surrogate mother to their sisters and close friends, they are not paid for the 9 months when they carry someone's child, they do this to help people whom they love.

Well, yes! It really must be understood. We are also undergoing surrogacy later this August at Biotexcom center in Kiev. So, yeah! People should really understand it first. I personally think it's really a great way for those who can't have it the natural way.

I don’t find anything wrong with surrogacy. I don’t think that it is against human laws. Nobody is forced to go for surrogacy. It is one own personal choice. Some people might be doing for the sake of money. They might not be educated enough for some other job. I am in the favor or surrogacy.

@ZONE-fj8ly

6 жыл бұрын

It is called an ultimatum, this kind of thing is promoting human trafficking and making children into some market product. No child is made for someone's benefit, it should be the other way around. I don't understand why people don't just adopt children? Orphans didn't choose to lose their family or become abandoned, they would always need a someone to look after them and people who already have children should consider adopting them too.

@stasstas4701

6 жыл бұрын

ZONE13 Surrogacy not human trafficking it is nanny job. Parents pay money for another woman take care about kid for 40 weeks. I am from Ukraine and we have good surrogacy law, that help many childless people.

@ZONE-fj8ly

6 жыл бұрын

+Stas Stas, That sounds insulting to nannies but my point is that surrogacy isn't marriage but a formulated divorce. People are separating themselves from others than to help in a community to ease each other lives and this isn't any different. You say 40 weeks but many parents who truly love their children would say a life time. You say your country helps childless people but telling them that having a child as the best solution for their anxiety is an ultimatum. However, if you tell them otherwise then it would be bad for business because industries like those would lose profits to keep their company going. Another problem for them would be if people found better ways to earn money then they would lose a lot of surrogates. For me, I would say that it is okay to be childless couples or singles and they shouldn't be ashamed on how other parents have their own. Helping to be part of a community is like forming a family bound with both young and old. Making children as a commodity would make more people become surrogates because of their poverty or just greedy for money. Finance and industrialism should never take charge over mother nature for granted. People should just adopt children but if they couldn't, it is not the end of the world and there are always other ways to make themselves happy.

@stasstas4701

6 жыл бұрын

ZONE13 Many people want have their biological kids, every person have right became a biological parent of children and medicine help people live their dream life. Cancer or infertility influence human life and it is bad to say that society help people with cancer and does not help people with infertility. Surrogacy it is good, respectfull job, that give people happiness and love. Farmers grow food because people love food, doctors create babies because people love babies. Many people have dream became a biological parent of kids, this is their biggest dream.

surrogacy does not always define as an exploitation of women. I know that some countries don’t regulate surrogacy in a proper way. but this fact doesn’t represent the condition of surrogacy all over the world. so stop judging people who choose it as a way out of infertility! maybe you don't understand, but some couples just don't have another option! how can you be so mean? you have no compassion at all. I'm so grateful to all those ladies, who carry babies for infertile women like me. thanks to our sm, we're parents now! I'm sorry for those, who are so narrow-minded.

IDK why are people so weird. Surrogacy gives people happiness. I know it better than anyone else. IDK when will people think about other's happiness? It really makes me mad.

@ZONE-fj8ly

5 жыл бұрын

Well I don't know why people never thought to adopt children? Adoption gives children the chance to have a family of their own. Giving children away like they are a commodity or some hand-me-down really makes me sick.

Well, I agree! Many of these are facts! I'm still opted for my procedure later this year in Ukraine. I'm having it from a center for reproduction...So, yeah! There are women who want it at their own... I don't think that there is something wrong in commercial surrogacy! I think people should start embracing this fact!

Well, I agree! Many of these are facts! Surrogacy should not be banned. In my opinion, surrogacy is a blessing. It is eradicating infertility from this world. It is not like we chose infertility for ourselves. So we should not be dissed by the choices we make.

I don't think we can say that surrogacy is bad just on the basis of a few examples. Ther are so many good success stories that are revolving all around the internet. I find it strange that the media never highlights those stories. I am opting for surrogacy as well and that too from Ukraine. Not every clinic nor every surrogate mote or IP are like that. Some are caring, considerate and loving as well. The clinic I am visiting fulfills all my requirements.

Well, I have a very broad view on this topic. I don't think it should remain controversial anymore. Surrogacy is a blessing. And it should not be banned anywhere. Every couple has the right to go for any treatment that they want to have kids. Surrogacy is a source of happiness for millions of people. The society should start opening up to it.