I'm so glad you done this video. I think there is such a stigma around men and miscarriages and often men don't want to be perceived as selfish and share their feelings, rather to suppress them. It's not that. Men grieve too. I'm so happy you've had that conversation with Charlotte. You both are incredible role models ✨💛

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Kaia❤️

I just lost my son and I found this as I sit here and cry alone so I can be strong for my wife and daughter. I needed this brother thank you. Today has been the hardest day of my life , and you made it seem ok.

I've buried it for 20 years. Even when I've brought it up to therapists, they've brushed over it. My first thoughts were with my ex when it happened also. I just remember feeling crushed and empty, but I still went in to work that day. It took me over three years before I finally cried about it. Like you said, men are planners and problem solvers so often times there isn't a space for us to grieve, especially in the moment. I've kinda come to accept the fact that there will probably be no outlet for me as a Black man to grieve about anything, so hearing others share their stories and commenting will have to suffice.

Ced Know that our sweet LORD has you all in his hands and he is in control! Blessings and prayers!

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Carmen❤️

i wish you guys all the strength in the world, take your time, everyone deals different with lost. every human is unique. Find the strength in eachother and the girls, God will guide you. big hug from Belgium

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Kurt- we are leaning into each other and God

One of the most difficult things for a loving couple to go through. It takes time to heal. My cousin recently gave birth to a 17 week baby. Sadly baby Marlena could not survive. Such a deep loss to suffer. 🙏 as you go through this healing process.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Blessings and prayers to you and to Marlena’s parents❤️

Amen, sir. And to be a great dad you need healthy emotions. Bless you and all dad's who suffer. Boys DO cry. 💔

I love that you all are healing on your own in your own way but still recognize that you MUST. Heal together as well. That is so insightful and unfortunately something that so many forget. You cannot be good for others in your life if you are good to yourself. The world needs more role models like you and Charlotte.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the love Melonie. Much love to you

Yes reset my brother. My husband and I had to deal with a miscarriage 12 years ago, we were in a bad place with each and when the miscarriage happened it brought us closer and we held each other and cried together for a very long time. God bless you guys.

This video really helped me deal with some confusing emotions I experienced today. It is just a happenstance occurrence that I am watching this video right now but I’m really grateful for the wisdom that I’m hearing. Thanks for your vulnerability and real-ness addressing dealing with your emotions. You’ve obviously put a lot into knowing yourself and that’s gotta be one of the reasons you’re such a good role model. Feeling good is real work so thanks for modeling that. Strength is a responsibility. You are not just strong.. you use your strength for good. #respect

I’m sorry for your loss, we just learned that my wife is in the process of miscarriage (8 weeks) . It is the hardest thing I have ever been through. Thank you for sharing your experience, it meant a lot to hear it from another father.

Thankyou for this video. My partner and I found out we’ve had a miscarriage yesterday and I’m trying to be strong for her but she knows it’s killing me inside too. It’s good to hear it from another man going through the same things.

Praying for y’all 🙏🏽 ❤️ sending you both a big virtual hug🥺

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

We appreciate the love Yessenia❤️

Ced, it will take time to heal and GOD HAS YOU AND CHARLOTTE. I'm praying 🙏 for you both. Blessings. Sending much 💘 love and hugs to both of you.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the love and prayers Debra❤️

Love to you both. There’s grace for you, through every and anything ❤️

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

My heart and love goes out to you guys. We are here to support you n embrace you in love n understanding. Take the necessary time we continue to pray and have your family in our thoughts and prayers.❤🙏🏽

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Much love Jennifer❤️

Thank you so much for being authentic. And being willing to even verbalize what it's often not even words for.

This was so emotional to watch. God be with you guys stay strong.❤️❤️

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Appreciate the love

So I just started watching your videos and I subscribed. You made me laugh when you put the goggles on to chop the 🧅 for the chicken salad for your wife. And now I’m hooked because I am just blown away by how much you love your family. I had no idea such men exist. I am very proud of you and happy for you all.

Thank you for sharing. You life's journey is truly making an impact. This was very therapeutic 🙏🙏

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your saying that!

Thank you for posting this. We men need to talk about these things and not only support each other but learn how to support our spouses.

Praying for strength, peace, and understanding for you and your family.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Praying for you guys everyday ❤️

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

We appreciate the prayers ❤️

you seriously deserve so much more subscribers /viewers. i hope it comes one day! i know views or followers ain't the most important but it's just the message you give off in your videos and editing that's just amazing and so many ppl need to see! i'm currently watching this video on the big screen! i love y'all so much ! praying for your guys mental & relationship & family all together! ❤️😇

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the love and support!❤️

Appreciate you always keeping it 💯 bro, as men we are learning daily what hasn’t been taught to us. You definitely encouraged me to understand that it’s okay to not be okay and to take a break so that you can be in tune with your emotions and where they are coming from🙏🏽

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for taking the time to write! Your thoughts inspire me to continue on my path

Praying for strength and healing for you and family 💪🏽 🙏🏽 👪 ❤

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

Thank you for making such a heartfelt video. Sending much love and strength!😘👏🌻

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your comment Cindy!

Ced I'm praying for y'all's strength I understand you're taking a break but please don't stay away too long love y'all✌🏽💋till next time.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

I’ll be back soon!❤️

Processing together is huge. Struggles in relationships, especially marriages, can either strengthen or weaken the bond. Understanding that both parties are hurting and hurting in a different way, allows the grieving process to be shared rather than individualized. At least that is my opinion.

We are with u in our prayers losing loved once is not easy at all.I can imagine what u and ure family are going through and Wish God can give u strength and happiness. Never loose hope ❤

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your love and support Shirley!

Praying for you all. Time together will refresh, and reset you all. Take the time you need, glad you and Charlotte are leaning on each other. 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Emily! Much love

Thank you for your transparency, Ced!! God is keeping you all covered in His grace, love, mercy & peace. We love you guys so much❤

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

Wow, this video just brought tears 2 my eyes. I'm so glad u made it💯. When I had two miscarriages before having my rainbow baby, every1 asked me was I ok & how was I doing but not so much my husband💔😪 He like you put my recovery & feelings before his own. It wasn't until I walked in on him crying alone in the room that it hit me that he was being so strong 4 me & suppressing his emotions. I sat, held him & told him "thank u" but we loss our babies not just me, so please express ya feelings & lean on me just as I lean on you. I'm sending prayers to you & Charlotte✨Trust me God will see you through this. Be Blessed💖your rainbow baby🌈👣will come in his time.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Such an important message Tyasha. Of course it’s important to check in on mom, but dad is feelin the loss of the baby and tryin to be there for his partner. I’m sorry for the pain you both have gone through and happy for your baby joy

So glad you communicated with your wife about how you were and are feeling. Praying for you and your families healing. God bless

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Open communication is key- thanks for your support!

Grief is real- take your time as a family to do what you need to grieve the loss of your baby sending love ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment- it’s a good reminder to take this slow❤️

It's not easy for anyone to go through something very special and to lose a gift that God gives you, but you guys will have to take time and grieve as a family and know that you are there for each other and overcome it together and you will see the beauty in your healing as one body mind and soul. We love you guys and keep God in everything.❤️❤️❤️❤️🇻🇮🇻🇮🇻🇮🇻🇮

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

We will Carlene- appreciate the love❤️

I really truly am soooo sorry for your loss!! Love ❤, hugs and prayers to all of you!! You're an amazing and close family, I have full faith God has you close in his heart and will pull you ALL through this sad time. There are more beautiful babies in the future for your family, I have faith in that. Please let us know how we can help. . . We love you all very much❣❤💯

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

I believe you are right, Nicole. Leaning into our faith right now❤️

You described exactly how I felt brother! sometimes its hard and lonely being the man and dad in that situation! all you wanna do is support your girl but also feeling helpless and trying to be a "Man" when inside your not okay yourself

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

So glad we have this space to support each other!

Love u guys!! Sending prayers your way!!

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

We appreciate you Laura!

Ah BLESSINGS BLESSING BLESSINGS is what I am sending to you and your family. Thank you for your vulnerability and transparency because you have no clue who is healing from viewing you all 🤎

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!❤️

Praying for you guys. Heal and communicate. It will get better in time. ❤🙏🙏

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

We trust it will. Thanks Evelyn!

I just found your channel after searching about Dads and miscarriage. Thank you so much for this and even the video before... i am so sorry for your loss. This video helped me understand my husband more during this time. We also have living children and just suffered our second loss. I shared the link with my husband who is a huge NFL fan (49ers lol) so I think he will benefit it so thank you. I also subscribed. I look very forward to your channel. You have a beautiful family and I love how you weave football into your videos. So cute with replays, pop ups etc. thank you for bringing a smile to my face. God bless!

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I hope your husband finds my stories to be helpful. We are sorry for your losses and send much love

@theskinnyonus8837

2 жыл бұрын

@@Cedthompson thank you so much

Thank you so much for sharing your experience, I’ve just found out me and my partner have miscarried today on Fathers Day and I’m really struggling coming to terms with things so thank you for this video and being open ❤

You are an awesome dad. Really like how you realize what the problems are with you and the way you go by finding a solution to better yourself and a real man for your family. “I love me some y’all “❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Shretta for your kind words. I really appreciate the observations about me you share here!

Your the best keep up the good love and work and thanks for putting in overtime and sharing with us,y'all's family so awesome and inspiring to all us,we 💕 y'all.may God continue to bless yall 💪🏾🙏🏾💙💚❤️💕

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Appreciate it!

You are stronger than you think...God is with you and your family luv to you all.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your message Kassandra!

I can relate with you and Charlotte with what you guys are going through right now on so many levels. Its an extremely hard thing to go through and will always stay with you both. Sending you both love, healing prayers and comfort. Thank you for sharing. You guys aren't alone in this. 🙏💜 P.S. Thank you for my Fam Bam card! Made my day🥰

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

So glad you got the card Lisa! Your support means so much❤️

@lisafaucher9455

2 жыл бұрын

@@Cedthompson Thank you so much Ced! It made my day. You're so very welcome, love you guys!

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

The love is mutual

Just went through this. Really appreciate the video

I love my wife more than words and I would always trade her pain for my well being. Thank you for the videos ❤️

It is so refreshing to hear the way you speak about your wife and children. You are very in tune with your feelings and others, I love that. I think you are very special Ced, God bless you all.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Sharon. I appreciate your kind words so much.

God bless you & Charlotte! Praying for you both & the Lord to comfort you & help you heal.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your prayers

much needed videos from Men. Thank you for your honesty,❤

Day by day emotional breakthrough❤ sending healing vibes

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

We appreciate the love and supportive

Praying for you all. So sorry to hear this🙏🙏🙏💔😥😢😭

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your prayers

You are doing a great job being supportive of Charlotte, but you do need to take care and allow yourself to feel your pain. Thank you for taking some time off to reset. God's embrace to you and your family. You are loved.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much❤️

Losing a baby is a process it's hard and sad, your idea of a get away is a great idea. Love you guys.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your support Connie!

Prayers for healing ❤️‍🩹

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your prayers Leann❤️

Sadly, you are experiencing grief for your loss. I don't think men are taught by society that they are allowed to experience sadness and a bit of helplessness. I commend your desire to communicate with Charlotte. Suffering in silence defeats why we have partners when we are married. Hopefully, your days that you are away from social media and present with your family, will enable you to see how very blessed you are and that bad things happen to good people. Sadness will still come and go, but your marriage will be stronger by keeping the communication open when you are hurting. May God provide you with comfort and peace.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Communication is key- being vulnerable gives strength- we simultaneously feel grief and realize our numerous blessings. Thanks for the love Bev!

@valeriesmith8335

2 жыл бұрын

Following a miscarriage; the male (father) in the relationship is rarely considered. It usually all about the female (mother).When he hurts and feels loss and grief also.

I’m praying for you guys always. I can only speak for me but I’m glad that you guys decided to film this process of grieving through a miscarriage. I haven’t gone through this but have friends that have. I want to send love and my sincere prayer for you guys. Much love ❤️

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Sadly miscarriages are something so many people experience. I pray that by sharing it does help others too

@cedniv26

2 жыл бұрын

@@Cedthompson yeah that’s true. It will.

The joy of the Lord is our strength. May the strength of the Lord be yours causing you to have the peace that makes no sense In the midts of your circumstances. You all have given so much love to the Fam Bam. May the degree of love given be multiplied back to you and your family in abundance. Sending virtual hugs. Thanks for your transparency. You don’t know how much you’ve helped me as well. I believe fasting is what I need to do as well. Thanks again continued blessings

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Wanda- thank you so much for your kind and supportive message!

Stay strong Ced and fam.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Wishing you all the best. Be calm its happens God is there. You always another chance.. Hopping to be in good health. This is from Africa in Tanzania.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the love ❤️

I am so very sorry for you and your family's loss. My husband and I had a miscarriage 7 years ago. My husband never spoke about his feelings about our loss. I always just assumed he didn't feel it as much as I did. Hearing what your going through makes me wonder if he just didn't know how to express his feeling about it.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your sharing your story. I am also sorry for your loss and your pain.

You all remain in my prayers of healing!!!

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Just found out about 3 hours ago man, not an easy ordeal. Much love and prayers, God bless.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the support Brandon

Hello Family, i'm so sorry you are struggling, we are Your Fambam Family, we will be here for you, take all the time you need, you are a good father and husband, The Fambam Family love you!!!

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

And we are so thankful for all our fambam Vanessa❤️

Ssssoooo freaking proud of you!!!!

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

God Bless you Guys!! don’t worry God Will bless you soon with another beautiful child!! Lots of women have miscarriages at first …so it will happen just try to move forward positively & have faith that God has a plan & so everything happens for a reason, and he has your backs!🙏🙏🙏

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

God’s timing❤️

Cried while watching this bro. I never want to question god or the higher power, but the questions can’t help but run rampant….

BLESSINGS to you all

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

And to you

God got you'll through this hard emotions ,

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

He does indeed

You’re experiencing the stages of grief.❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Grief is a process for sure. Thanks for checking in

🙏🏽 #AndImPrayingAndBelievingForHealing 🙏🏾

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

Youre a great person, good communication..which isnt a trait all people have. I hope you guys heal in Gods name. I experienced a loss of a child i cant really get into detail, but i get so very sad over the situation. Like flash backs even occur of the day or the emotions i felt in those very moments. At those moments my partner at the time (ex husband) was not thoughtful, did not give me a secure feeling after losing that baby or didnt give communication so much so that i held i grudge and a negative cloud over him due to the anger i felt he gave me for convincing me we werent ready for that child. When in reality good people lose children everyday, good people experience trauma. Why would i feel that it wasnt a time to bring my child into the world? So i had to leave my significant other all the way around. Just my experience and im ashamed and guilty infront of Jesus for not keeping my baby. God really places his hand over your heart and puts distractions infront of you to occupy the mind. I have been reading a book on the subconscious mind and a lot of it includes God and how my thought process really affects my daily life and health. I know you will both heal.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you so much love Jazlyn❤️

@jazlynulani7903

2 жыл бұрын

@@Cedthompson thank you! 🙏🏼

Baby was only here for such a short time before returning to be with Jesus. But thought you so much already. Thank you for sharing what you learn.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly- we start dreaming of their future as soon as we find out we are pregnant.

Cling to The LORD, HE has you both in HIS hands.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely we will❤️

I feel it man, my wife and I just suffered a miscarriage. I am just lost for words now, I just don't understand why it happened

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry Will! And I get how hard this is- you want to be there for your wife, but you are also feeling the loss. Take it easy and allow yourself to feel it all. Take care

I wish i could make up for not being there sometimes, we now on seperate terms and she saying she dont wanna continue the relationship.We had some past issues like we both have kids from previous relationships and not found a house to live together.We lost the baby our first born son at 25 weeks after complications with the placenta.Since then it went down the hill , i had to keep going to arrange the burial, talk with people, being there for her daughter and being there for my girlfriend.

November 11th 2020 we lost our 20 week old baby boy. We went in for an ultrasound and found out the bad news. Unfortunately, we had to spend 2 days in the hospital until she was actually able to give birth. The hard part is when all the condolences stop and your still dealing with the pain. We had a complete stranger reach out to us after she heard what were we going through after she went through the same thing. I find myself so angry sometimes because life just isn’t fair. You guys WILL be ok. Not the same, but ok. We still haven’t talked to our 4 and 7 year old about what happened. It kills me inside when they ask about their brother. I could not believe I was in a funeral home picking out an urn for my baby boy. It’s definitely a parents worst nightmare that I wish nobody would have to go through. You are in my thoughts….

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

So terribly sorry for the loss of your baby boy and foe the pain and suffering you experience. I have been told that what you are experiencing is so intense- the condolences stop but our grieving does not. Much love to you!

@MaisonVR24

2 жыл бұрын

@@Cedthompson Thank you. If I could give you both a hug I would. I’m very quiet and usually don’t talk to many people about my struggles, but talking about our son has 100% helped me deal with it. I know it’s so cliche to say this, but your family is in my prayers. For real.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much. I’m glad that sharing about your son has helped you- I know how important it is to feel that others share an understanding and compassion for us- knowing that has helped me too. Much love ❤️

Hey Ced and Char, your love for each other is unparalleled. You are still becoming one. Ced, you hit the nail on the head about "burying the emotions," cause it's the "manly thing to do" - that cliched thought worded towards our men in particular. Sometimes, people tend to not realize that we are emotional beings as well. When all is said, we lock up everything and throw away the key and there is still no resolve!! I applaud both of y'all continuing to address the hard stuff even while going through it/them. I just want you both to know that you are loved unconditionally. I pray that while you reset, clarity and peace will issue forth from God's throne in Jesus's name!! Much love.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Kamaria! A powerful message❤️

@kamariamcclure3108

2 жыл бұрын

@@Cedthompson Glory to God. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Keep trusting in Him with all of your heart, even when it's hard bro. Be encouraged - Proverbs 3:5-6. Say and speak to your soul "It is well!"

I dont know what to do i cant stop crying

It might do you some good to let your babies stay a full 2-4 day weekend with grandparents and just stay home with each other to grieve. You will miss them, but you can spend some time processing those emotions and then be really joyful and relieved when your babies are back home.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

What a great plan❤️

@grcarie

2 жыл бұрын

@@Cedthompson thanks. Glad I could offer some helpful thoughts. Right now I have two girls under two, and I know how hard it is to take care of yourself and let your mind rest, even connect with your spouse, when every minute of the day, your brain is in a hyper attentive state. But taking that rest and being your best is just so important.

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

I will try to always remember that!

🙏🏾 💖 🕯️

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

I’m 18 I was so excited to be dad but then it got ripped out from under me. I don’t know how to deal with it my gf is always asking why we can’t have our baby back and I want to be strong for her but I’m struggling so hard I don’t know what to do with myself

You got to go through the 5 stages of grief

I had my fourth miscarriage yesterday 😢😢 my husband and I so depressed 😢😢😢😢

Your daughter look so beautiful😍

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you- they are treasures❤️

Wish I can do that but I can’t forgive my girl she went out w her friends and her friends told her to kill my baby 😔💔😞

I'm glad you made this video. The world doesn't normally hear men's side of how they dealt with a miscarriage. It's always how the woman feels because fathers are normally seen as "deadbeat" Dads. The world doesn't seem to care about men's feelings. Jesus loves you and your family. Get to know him. Knowing Jesus will greatly bless and enhance your family on a spiritual level ❤. Be blessed by these words.

God is able to heal and trust in him God 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

We do!

God is still in control

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Always

It's been 8 years since my girl left this world. Stay strong man! I became a racist, alcoholic prick. And went on a self destructive path. Please let your emotions out and definitely TALK! To you wife

@Cedthompson

2 жыл бұрын

Hope you are doing well now John. Appreciate your transparency. Loss is hard FR.

@JohnDoe-gj5es

2 жыл бұрын

@@Cedthompson I'm alive, still coming to terms with my emotions. Getting close to God and nature. Love from Alaska

Men are usually not taken into consideration in this topic