I have that mom, I was Daniel, and I was told I have an old soul, and I still feel like I'm taking care of my mother. I hold so much resentment toward her. It took her til I was 21 to say sorry. If you're going to have kids, don't be selfish. Daniel is a great kid. I feel awful for him.

Yes. Ugh ehhhhhhrrrrrrgh. I can’t stand it. I hope Daniel will see this as validation that he was parentified when he is an adult. May help him in recovering from this abuse

I'm not sure when it became ok or Normal to ask children for advice? Or for therapy. I've seen this first hand, literally couldn't be around it. It's heartbreaking to see this, Daniel has been through a lot in his small life.

That shirt is fire Dr H!!!

Ignorance is bliss as a child and that's how it should be with adult issues until they're old enough. I'm grateful my parents never made their worries mine.

I'd like to see Dr. Honda explore the enmeshment between Kim and her son Jamal. You can tell by their interaction Jamal also grew up parenting his mother.💯

Concern for me was this little guy called Ronald dad, they just met! And stayed for a dysfunctional 2 months ...2 people with no ability to communicate then bring their children along for the ride 🤔😰🙄

Her smile infuriated me. With her track record to smile at her son like that when she knows what her dating has put him through. No self-awareness. I felt his worries through the screen.

Thank you so much! I was parentified and your empathetic words really validated my experience. Because I wasn't overtly abused, I sometimes feel like I don’t have the "right" to be upset about my childhood.

This situation angers me to no end. That poor boy HAS to be an old soul. From the beginning of them being on the show, her choices have been so irresponsible when there are children involved she has to do better.

"it's not just me anymore."

The anxiety on his face when he says are you dating ugh 💔💔💔 it’s gonna be ok Daniel!

I was parentified as a young child into my teenage years. My mom died when I was 17 from illness. I had that overwhelming feeling that I needed to help or “save” her growing up. Also she had borderline and additionally was abusive to my dad.. It’s all sort of surreal 20 years later.. but I appreciate Dr Honda’s commentary about parentification. It’s helpful in my journey in understanding myself.

thank you for this expressive reaction how you are empathasing with Daniel and expressing how you are sorry for the damage that is being done. When i was 26 my psychiatrist told me i was parentified and she is sorry for my struggles and i was shocked! because everyone was proud of me how i was mature and independent and helping ADULTS with our traumatic situations… while being ignored. I was that comfrting copedendent kid, and still am… but trying to work with it + therapy… but thank you again for expressing this big grief over him… I needed that… because its just 2 years i am grieving my childhood and it feels good to feel validated… and it hurt but in good way how deeply you feel sorry for him

Poor Daniel, he looks like he just got off of a 12 hour shift from an amazon warehouse. He looks so drained

This one hit so hard! I felt his panic immediately when they started talking about her dating.

Seeing Daniel on the verge of tears devastated me. Is there anything I could do to help him?

I see my self in this child like so many people do as well. Seeing you demonstrate anger on behalf of him is really healing for me personally. I wish I had had the ability to protect myself from my family dysfunction or more specifically that some one would have been able to advocate for me. Thank you so much for doing this work Dr. Kirk Honda. Thank you!

I'm not sure if you know, Dr. Honda - Tiffany had Daniel when she was really young. I think she always let him in on too much info because they're closer in age than most parents/children (and perhaps she was not emotionally mature at the time that she had him). Not saying that excuses her behavior, but that might explain some of it.

¡Gracias!