Im only confident when im not interested in the girl.

The problem is that you can be confident, can easily strike a conversation with unfamiliar women, but when it is the one you have a real crush on... you suddenly forget how to express yourself in even basic words. :(

legit advice. women don't go for guys who are insecure about themselves, tho a lot of women are insecure about themselves.

Just treat the girl like she’s one of your dude friends and it will be easy. She’s just another human being not some goddess sent from heaven and sex is over rated just chill out and be relaxed and be grounded in yourself

I'm 29 & never had a girlfriend, which is so depressing to me.

With number 4, being unable to communicate is not only a turn-off to women but is also counterproductive to any relationship. Most marriages end because the couple can’t communicate.

I plead guilty on all counts.

Great tips, only if I were 25 years younger.. My story is: I was the only boy in family, with two sisters (one younger, other older), father always out of town for business, lack of a strong father figure makes sisters undisciplined and feminist, hence a lonely insecure mother reflecting all her support needs onto her son... I ended up a disaster in any relationship with women, chronically exhibiting all the signs (and more) mentioned in this video. I had a friend just like me and his track record was no better. So, *be warned* , this family picture: sister+boy+sister, no brother, absence of strong father figure, no close relatives around to remind the boy and girls of their roles in family and life and a lonely insecure mother might be a sure recipe to disaster for the boy. If you fit the boy in this picture, say No to always condescending sisters and the insecure mother sucking you in. GET OUT OF THAT HOUSE, spend time with guys and learn to be a guy.

Very few women have ever shown interest in me. If they have they lost it very fast.

it seems as if confidence is related to the level of attraction you have towards her..the more attracted you feel towards her, the more likely you are to fumble it up..

My favorite line is "you would be the most attractive person in this room if I weren't here." Shows confidence , lets them know you dont think they're "too good for you" and almost always makes them laugh.

@DanBacon_

7 жыл бұрын

Nice one! That's awesome. It would work for sure. Recommended.

I just suck at everything.

@MrDeath5300

6 жыл бұрын

Trey Stephens off to a great start

@Very_hot_tea

6 жыл бұрын

Trey Stephens Same here. I was meant to be a loner my whole life.

@jaysilva5854

6 жыл бұрын

That's life get over it!

@mitchu1433

6 жыл бұрын

No you don't. I was afraid this girl I liked was out of my league. Just asked her out and we could keep conversations going the whole time. Just be yourself and the person you like will open up to you

@charleslott1584

6 жыл бұрын

Be confident my friend...you are a man of value.

Eye contact, lowering my voice, and hesitation are my downfalls fo sho

Now I know, why I am 58 years old and never ever had success with women. I have all the behaviour mentioned in this video that turns women off. I made a test recently and found out that I have all the physical attributes that women find unattractive, too. Altogether I am the total anti-persona for women. When I was younger that almost killed me, because I had such a longing for love and a partner (not so much sex). Fortunately nowadays I don`t care anymore, I have given up on women, but I do not miss anything anymore. By the way I have two Chihuahuas, who love me unconditionally and that is so great!!

Wish I knew this when I was growing up, I had such a narrow mind. Everything revolves around confidence and not putting a girl on a pedestal to look down at you. Life is a mind game.

Since moving back home, I haven’t been dating, and lost my confidence a bit, but saying that seeing these points here has made me feel a bit better cause, I’ve got all my social skills still and you don’t realise how far you’ve come until you see these older paradigms. Don’t get me wrong I still get nervous but you can ‘flow’ through it, and be non needy. One of the best tips, is just own it. If you’re unemployed and smoke weed all day and love Japanese cartoons or something, just speak about it confidently. Also don’t get put off by pretty girls, ask them questions you, and search for traits in them you like, you will soon realise they are just ordinary people who get anxious too. Ignore her looks, look at her vibe, her soul. Sounds really wet, but gets you out your head maybe

I just went on a date with a woman who seemed enthusiastic for the date but she suddenly let me do all the talking. I kept talking for about 15 minutes when I realized she wasn't asking anything. I didn't read her silence as a confidence test, I read it as "Rude". So I felt like I was wasting my time buying this woman dinner.

Wow... I need to learn this. I'm 24 and never had a girlfriend. They all lose interest and I get way to nervous to attempt anything beyond friends.

@BarfyMan_362

7 жыл бұрын

Boaz Clark same man, however they just ghost me and don't even consider being friends 🙃

@arminiusthecherusker8308

7 жыл бұрын

Boaz Clark Never give up, man. There's an alpha male inside you somewhere

@oceanwavesandcocaine1129

7 жыл бұрын

thats sad

"Emotional weakness" well said . My problem, also no intresting conversation, " lost of words"

i stumbled upon this video, the first I've seen off you and it convinced me immediately to subscribe.

Wish I knew this in high school,lol

Wish I knew this in my 20's. Wow. I will change some things I do to improve my longterm relationship starting with not taking things personally, being less emotionally needy, less reactive and more self confident. Interesting stuff, complete 180* turn on my belief system of women!

Just in time. Now I can fix myself before I go to college this fall.

Reminds me when I was dating my wife. I told her there are no other guys she needs to look out for because from this day on I'm her man!. She gave me that look as if I'm crazy then later on she said yes. In my head. I could not believe that worked because deep down I was like holy shit! Im about to commit suicide but o welll sink or swim. Lol

Im 32 and never been laid

This man is 100% correct on everything! I know because in my time I have made all of those mistakes by not being confident.....But once I learned to relax, be my self, AND NOT TRY TO HARD ! It made women curious about why I'm so confident ? And it's been smooth sailing since then..

For me, if the girl shows interest first then it’s easy for me to do everything confidently. However if it’s me trying to make a move then I’m a nervous wreck.

Wake up call for me.

I watched this with my wife and she agrees with every step :)

I feel as if many times in the beginning women are attracted/curious about me, but after a while it just fades...

Man this dude has some great advice 👍👍, I’m struggling with self confidence. I’m unsure what to do if a pretty girl smiles at me. Watching these videos has given me a chance to break out of this lonely spell. Thanks man and keep the great advice flowing

I would just like to point out this video is useful for married guys too. Never too late to improve! Thanks Dan. Your videos are extremely helpful.

So this is how i have been screwing up so much...

Omgoodness, you are spot on on all of your points!! It is true on all accounts. As a woman, I could never be attracted to someone less than me or beneath me. I need a strong and confident partner who understands my worth and his own. Someone who knows what they want and he must be able to remain focused on getting it. One of those things, must include finding the person who they see walking together with on this road called life. Someone unafraid of commitment and someone in it for the long haul. Someone with a sense of humor and definitely someone with common sense. A man who knows how to make me laugh and knows when he has gone too far. Anyways, thanks for sharing.

Great advice. I'm definitely subscribing.

This is gold dust, indispensable advice. Subbed.

1:02 this guys is outrageously brilliant with his sarcasm and how he control his laughter hahahahah ! this guy is awesome man! Straight talk ! You have my subscription sir.

Well, I think my core problem is, I'm bad at talking to people IN GENERAL - let alone girls. (Years of body image issues deep rooted into my subconscious that have made me try to avoid people in attempt to not be teased) So it always perplexed me how people would say "and we talked for hours" and I'm like "how?". I can barely hold a convo for 15 mins let alone hours. (I spend ALOT of time by myself) Also, I'm very closed-up, as in I assume people won't like my personality once they really get to know me and the stuff I like, I people will think is weird, so I try not to talk about anything other than small talk.

Those who are afraid of potential harm should not go to battle.

good tips, need to watch it often and regularly.

This video is GOLD!! Thank you!!

You nailed it! Great video!

Not even going to lie, but I'm 6'3 230 And I have this problem from time to time. I notice tons women looking at me all the time but I still get nervous around them. By the way, I'm 25. Hopefully I get off the problem

@CamerOneiric

6 жыл бұрын

Hayward Martin If they’re looking at you, go talk to them bro. Just cold approach them. If they’re caught off guard, they are more likely to talk to you because it intrigues them and shows confidence.

@tigerwest4748

6 жыл бұрын

But you are tall man. Why so timid?

@hotfella4659

6 жыл бұрын

Hayward Martin they only lookin at u cause u tall

@xDukii

6 жыл бұрын

bruh thats the shit when they look at you

@jalonjt

6 жыл бұрын

Are you more muscular or average size? I’m the exact same height and weight as you lol

absolutly excellent video. I naturally display much of these qualities

your channel is so great

Well said sir! Formal way of saying “be gangster “

Great video.very accurate and to the point x

wow that made the most sense of any of the vids I’ve ever seen

Wow nice factors & examples i actually watched this for my friend which i will show great vid👏

#6 is EXTREMELY true and EXTREMELY powerful. This should be closer to #1 in my opinion. Power surrendered is power lost, possibly forever.

Great video, Dan. And your beard game here is on point.

Yeah man I live in the friend zone. Been messing up for years. Too many compliments to women.

The best tip i can give to guys that feel uncomfortable around girls is to start looking for flaws in order for you to take them down from that pedistal. However gorgeous she might be she will have some and by taking her down to your "level" i generally feel alot more confident interacting with them.

@DanBacon_

7 жыл бұрын

Imagine her without make up and she will be on your level: www.themodernman.com/blog/beating-women-at-their-own-game.html

Dan Bacon, I failed the confidence test with this girl that I just met and am really interested in, what do I do now!?

Thanks man great lesson

I need to apply this to all aspects of my life, because my insecurities dumbed me down throughout the years when I’m actually a very intelligent individual. Like what’s the point of being smart when you never try to learn or finish anything because you’re concerned of how you look in the process? I remember excelling in math till I complimented the teachers butt and then it was back to questioning my existence and not learning.

Great video!

i appreciate your videos!

Yooooooo!!!! This vid is dead on. My situation is EXACTLY like this on both sides. There was a time when I consistently displayed the opposite of the 9 signs....and I got the girls I went after. I was confident, cool, aggressive and I kept good company too. But somewhere along the line I lost it all and now I find myself displaying all 9 steps! Its damaging My life and I cant seem too find my way back to the experiences that flow naturally anymore. I feel like I've lost the closest ones I had emotionally to me. And this goes outside of dating....it affects the ties I have to friends and family too....#Loner

"Hopefully there are only a few I need to work on..." (hears the 9 signs) "well, fuck"

This Is pure gold!!!

NEW SUBSCRIBER HERE....! YOU MAKE LOT OF SENSE....💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾👍😘😘👊🏾

Thank you, Dan.

You and me both man. I’ve carried this with me for so long but I’m knuckling down now to overcome it.

Great video Dan but sadly i made all these mistakes ☹️

Would being fatherless affect any of these factors? Just wondering.

Hey Dan, I just wanted to let you know that I purchased your program. I started it, not yet finished. But already, I feel confident in myself and I know I'm a better father, person, and I will get my Ex back! In your videos, you say that you talk with some of your clients, I'd love to have an opportunity for that!

For me It's eye contact and afraid of being myself

Well it's going to be awhile before I get laid 😁😞

@Very_hot_tea

6 жыл бұрын

ULTRA INSTINCT GOKU : At least you have a chance of getting laid.

Nice job mate 😊

Nice one, Subscribed. Please keep'em comin....

All good point you’ve made. These tips not only will help in dating and getting laid. They’ll help in life as well. A man’s ability to connect and pull not just women but men as well is great for leadership.

My only problem is the loss of words, I hate that. It's not just the girls, it sometimes happens while I'm with my friends. I'm not shy or anything, it's just like that..

As a woman, I can confirm that all of these are 100% true.

My big problem is that I have a very loud, deep voice and every time I'm in a conversation it always scares them away. I'm 17 and 6'2 and 250lbs. So every time I talk to a girl they kinda step backwards because they seem kind of uneasy about this big guy talking to them, even though I'm often complemented on how nice and polite I am.

Very informative no nonsense lessons.

Alot of good info.

So im fucked.. Well ok

So what about a guy who has no emotion (me) at all since I was 5 now 21 wouldn’t they just lose interest because I can’t show any emotion back

Great video

nice indeed...very helpful

All 9! Ugh 😑

I love this channel

hey man i want to read your book the flow how can i get it? Is there a link? Just curious to read it since i am naturally shy around women so would be nice to learn some tips!

Hey dan, ive got 2 questions. in what video did you talk about geting a girl which insecure with herself and how to deal with that ? also, that girl im talking about recently didnt dare to ask me for a favor (a really small one, she didnt dare asking me to buy something from the gasstation for her) and made a coworker ask him for her ^^. Is that a good or bad sign cheers

Holy shit dude, I have problems with almost all of these but eye contact. There is one girl that I'm absolutely crazy about. I'm so nervous around her and I can tell that she doesn't like it. Any advice?

I freakin love you mate

what advice that you can give to one that from depression? That is why i have those issues! Im also an introvert because of it

Very good advice

You are so true. You are great.

it's rare you meet a woman who shows you her true self right off as well. I've also noticed when you meet a woman and she says she has only had sex with 3 guys then she is a liar. I don't know why 3 is always the magic number but they tend to stick with that number and explain away other guys they had sex with as not really sex for this reason or that.

@theterranceharvey

6 жыл бұрын

MoeSlislack women screw more than men do. They just don't tell you how many. 2 or 3 men? BS! More like 8,9 or 10!!!

@thebizness5596

6 жыл бұрын

MoeSlislack you multiply it by 3 then add 2.

@meeks4004

6 жыл бұрын

MoeSlislack i love you! I had a girl who told me 5 guys..by the end of our four year relationship she admitted to 23 guys..

RIP due to my ADHD 😂

I can really relate to this video, I went on a couple of dates lately with a girl who seemed to good to be true, I tried to hard,came across as unconfident, and even asked why a girl as top notch as her see in me.

This guy is smart

Good advice

well im all 9 out of 9. guess im fucked and gonna haave to keep resorting to prostitution. ahh wth, never cared much for relationships.

my question what happens when insecurities come out!? what happens when your in a relationship and just have down moments or days or months? it happens to the best of us. What if we have a a full blown mental breakdown? what then?

Dan Bacon I believe to some extent its the level of confidence as well quality of self discipline too their own insecure core beliefs that a male has and how at ease he is about it especially him even using the word confidence in a sentence it can at moments make that bit more of a difference. No matter who the individual is and their being one specific out of all core beliefs that is respect the entitlement that someone chooses.

Wow. I do them all. 🤨 Any advice?

This video is SPOT ON!!