"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Jidu Krishnamurti Thank you for your work.

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

9 ай бұрын

LOVE IT

And when you find someone, and then it doesn't work out, the pain is totally blinding because it's so hard to find someone.

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

9 ай бұрын

That’s true but that may not be a reason to give up entirely

@legalfictionnaturalfact3969

9 ай бұрын

​@@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching i didn't imply that, nor did i think it.

How about a video on such problems in non-intimate relationships, like friendships, etc.?

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

4 ай бұрын

Suggestion taken!! Thank you 🙏

I feel that I absolutly can't build a relationship with someone, which mean the risk of the entire collapse of my world if I get used to that person and if she leaves. It could be impossible to survive the pain. I protect myself from it, staying well away, alone, safe. Grounded alone. Thank you so much for your work Imi Lo, you have such a just and profound comprehension and word it so well. You are a bright light in the dark. You bring a balm to my heart ♥

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

6 ай бұрын

Whilst it’s a deeply painful experience you are describing you said it so eloquently and clearly. Thank you for your kind words!! 🫶🏻

I just often feel like I have dumb down. And always want more.

This is describes my entire life sadly.

@Blacktiinkerbell

11 ай бұрын

Me too

I was wondering for a long time I’m a great guy and why it’s so hard to find someone and others are also surprised I’m single for a long time. Now tgat I realized I’m gifted, now I better understand why this is happening. Which solves a big puzzle and I already have long ago adjusted to being alone and it’s not that bad. Now I want to know what else I may have to look forward to or make more sense of the other things that may come with ppl. that are gifted and intense.

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

3 ай бұрын

That is wonderful! I am so glad for you 🙂👊🏻

You say don’t shield.. life is worth loving? How is that when every time I attempt to love people I’m treated like shit, dismissed and rejected. I’d rather be cold and shielded than to keep hurting like this.

You pick up that the person someone lies to the most is themselves. This goes for most people. Other people either dont notice or dont bother to confront the person with the lie they tell themselves. I observe a lot of things. See patterns in behavior. Predict behavior. I have been diagnosed with autism. Maybe I put up walls around me because I picked up unresolved trauma around me in adults a could not do anything about it except shut it out. I went into my body to evoke the emotions stired in my body and break out.

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

9 ай бұрын

It's perceptive of you.. Many people are either unaware of this self-deception or opt not to address it. Your diagnosis of autism may have influenced the way you interact with the world. Building emotional walls could be a coping mechanism, especially if you sensed unresolved trauma in adults around you. I hope you find the support an information you need!

I'm at the last step of an NPD abuse relationship. Being stuck in an "abandonment" state, being neglected, my reputation got damaged, and losing my moral control... In my head, I have pretty clear visions of my death, when and how. Only depends on what comes next to trigger the system. I'm glad that this article, not only reversed my suicidal system, but also taught me how to love to full, for myself.

I have been forced to accept that I'm a weirdo and will experience life alone. Society seems to suggest that we have personality problems. Maybe that is true but maybe it is more complicated. We just don't have much in common with others.

@upwardthought

6 ай бұрын

Don't give up. Remember that anyone not a weirdo in the world's eyes would never work for you. The fact that you exist is sufficient proof that someone complementary does, too. The only way you'll find them is to keep shining your light. It only takes one.

Thank you whole heartedly for this video! 🖤

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

8 күн бұрын

You are so welcome!🤗 thank you wholeheartedly for stopping by!!

Thank you so much for this video. It really helps me understand myself better.

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

10 ай бұрын

I am very glad to know that!

Thank you so much for this content. You have an amazing gift of instantiating deep experience into words.

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

6 ай бұрын

Aww thank you so much for your kind words!!!!

Kinda wish I could just make a transcript of this my dating profile

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

3 ай бұрын

Haha you can . Not that I suggest it 🤞😄

I like this in general, but the idea of settling for a life partner who is not also a soulmate makes me physically ill. I don’t even see how that’s possible, let alone desirable. I couldn’t even experience initial attraction. I feel that a partner ought to be a passion, not in a “silly” limerent way, but in a deep-soul-resonance way, much like my intellectual passions. I understand that I’ll potentially be single forever.

I am grateful to have my wife, although it is difficult to completely synergize, she keeps the loneliness at bay. Group dynamics are an entirely different beast, I can manage but feel so exhausted towards the end. It hurst because I love people and each one has a unique essence but after a certain time at a "dinner party" I start to feel overwhelmed; I try to self-coach and it works for a while, but the inevitable flight is already in motion. Is there a suggested regimen for planned isolation and socialization that Imi or anyone here has discovered?

Any resources out there for two gifted adults in a romantic relationship?

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

2 ай бұрын

Not that I can readily think of but I think there should be a demand!

Is there advice for people who are gifted and have issues of intimacy due to childhood trauma?

@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching

6 ай бұрын

Of course. But too big to be contained in the comment space… there are not a lot of resources for gifted adults out there but most resources on complex trauma would also to a degree be helpful

@ThunderSen

6 ай бұрын

@@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching Yes, thank you.

He goes on about someones partner. Loneliness is not having a partner.

Dating? Hahahaha!