You are all amazing and I am so thankful for your support. xoxo What are some of the things people have said that you found helpful? Or other ways people could offer support? Let's keep sharing what's helpful! xoxo

I lost my husband of 20 years last year. I have two small kids so they lost their amazing dad. It’s been nonstop stress. Hardest thing I have ever gone through in my life. Missing my best friend every single day.

When I lost my father a friend said to me: "I'm sorry you're going through this. It will get worse for a little while but it will get better after. I promise." He was right and it helped me a lot.

My Dad died suddenly when I was 4 yrs old and an aunt said to me ‘God needs your father more then you’. That planted a feeling of being abandoned that took me decades to shed. Be very careful to what is said to a child.

A woman told me that her 100 year old mother passed away...and her neighbor said..."Oh, she finally died?" I told her I was sorry she made that insensitive comment...and that we are NEVER ready to say goodbye and I was sorry for her loss......

I was 32 when my husband died. The comment I heard most from people was, "You're young. You'll get married again." It was like a knife going into my broken heart.

I’ve been grieving the loss of my best friend so thank you for this. She was 92 and my next door neighbor, but she was my best friend I loved her more than anyone.

While spiritually people try to override mourning, the Bible even acknowledges grief and mourning, while the phrase “they’re in a better place” in Matthew it states “bless those who mourn for they will be comforted” I just feel like people want to try and be uplifting without allowing others to go through their grieving time

"Anyone who has lost a love one knows that you don't recover. Instead you learn to incorporate their absence and memories into your life and channel your emotional energy toward others and eventually, your grief will walk beside you instead of consuming you." Rashida Rowe

I have heard this said to me when my mother died: "You're an adult, get over it." That is one of the worst things you can tell anyone who has lost a parent. It doesn't matter if the son or daughter is a child, teenager or adult. We feel the loss of our parents. Terrible thing to say.

I would have taken any of the first 7 examples of what not to say over what I was told: "you need to get over it" and "you can't cry every day".

When my brother was diagnosed recently with stage 4 lung cancer, a pastor friend said that this is really a good thing because it will bring the family closer to God. He also said that this will give us all a deeper understanding of the death experience. I was horrified and not sure I will ever get over that lack of understanding and compassion.

My husband died a year ago. I so agreed with your list of "what not to say." It still brings comfort to me when some says "I'm sorry for your loss." One statement I don't care for at all is "Life will get better". I still can't imagine my future without him so how in the world will my life be better without him?

A year after my mom passed away, someone told me I should be over the grieving. I wasn't, and that was really hurtful to put an expiration date on my grief. It took me years to start to feel ok about it, but I'm still grieving.

Thanks for this. I’m 20 and my dad died from a motorcycle accident in September, my cats died soon after, and so did my grandmother. My older brother also passed away three years ago and it’s always so strange dealing with others. People often don’t know what say and they’re trying. But often, the comments can feel empty.

When my father died, many people would tell me how much they loved and appreciated him. It was a testimony to him and a kind way of support.

my therapist who was like a family member to me died a few weeks ago, and i miss her so much. i’m still grieving, and i feel so lost without her, but your videos give me so much comfort. so i just wanted to say thank you for your videos, your kind voice and amazing personality always bring me a little peace.❤️

"Grief is an expression of love". Grants permission to feel and express that grief.

My dad has died recently and my family still in grieving time. Thank you for this video ❤

Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all. Just be present and utterly available.