7 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact

What is the narcissists most likely to do when you go no contact?
DO they miss you?
Will they get in contact with you?
Will they try to hurt you?
After suffering two narcissistic relationships and personally aiding thousands of people through this critical stage of the recovery journey, I’ve witnessed time and time again the behavior that narcissists exert when people go No Contact with them.
In this Thriver TV episode I'm going to explain the 7 most common behaviours a narcissists exerts when you go no contact and I'm going to explain exactly what you need to do in each situation, for your own health, safety and to bring about the greatest opportunity for you to heal for real from abuse - once and for all.
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  • @liberatingmymind5945
    @liberatingmymind59454 жыл бұрын

    Pain of leaving is nothing compare to pain of staying..

  • @aaronk3788

    @aaronk3788

    4 жыл бұрын

    spot on

  • @keyanna2633

    @keyanna2633

    4 жыл бұрын

    Agreed.

  • @brendaedgehill7761

    @brendaedgehill7761

    4 жыл бұрын

    Facts

  • @wayneirvine4392

    @wayneirvine4392

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sometimes in a weak moment I wish things could've been different. But they never would cos he did NEVER own up to his mistakes. It was ALL MY FAULT. Bet he's sorry now. 👻👈😊😊😀

  • @solsticio3

    @solsticio3

    4 жыл бұрын

    You're completely right. I needed to hear thos so badly. You summed it up perfectly!

  • @kelliwhittaker7502
    @kelliwhittaker75023 жыл бұрын

    A Russian proverb: The more quietly you go, the further you’ll get.

  • @Vrin137

    @Vrin137

    3 жыл бұрын

    So true!

  • @vernondelancy6281

    @vernondelancy6281

    3 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely

  • @vernondelancy6281

    @vernondelancy6281

    3 жыл бұрын

    Good info

  • @johnnyhalla7245

    @johnnyhalla7245

    3 жыл бұрын

    My new Russian friend, Simon, is helping me see the light in my relationship. He's a good kid.

  • @myrahouse2368

    @myrahouse2368

    3 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant...

  • @judyanne3563
    @judyanne35634 жыл бұрын

    They move on to the next "victim"......they never look back.......they dont miss us...they miss what we gave them

  • @Ninja-id3vc

    @Ninja-id3vc

    4 жыл бұрын

    You think.

  • @ladennayoung2939

    @ladennayoung2939

    4 жыл бұрын

    They don't move on completely for the most part unfortunately. They will love bomb you again. As an attempt to get close to you again. Just so they can control and manipulate you all over again. So when you hear them say they miss you or what have you. That is what they are speaking of. They know that they don't miss you in the healthy way of a healthy person. So to speak.

  • @ULYUNZ

    @ULYUNZ

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hi judy. I'd argue that the Narcissist is way worse off the actual victims. The victims are able to get wise and move on when they had enough abuse. However, the narcissist has a looong track history of failed relationships and are famously known to check on older supply. They stalk social media, send out offensive texts like "hi, how are you doing?" regardless how much they have hurt their victims. They are practically incapable of doing the hard work to self reflect and stop themselves from being what they are. They look back constantly to see if they can sneak back into people's lives. Think about that. That is the definition of insanity to keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. They are in a living hell that constantly repeats itself.

  • @dritanstojanovic4576

    @dritanstojanovic4576

    4 жыл бұрын

    The first thing that the narcissist will do when we go no contact they will immediately go for the next supply cuz they're terrified of being alone abandoned. My ex narcissist girlfriend was my worst nightmare ever

  • @charlesadams4487

    @charlesadams4487

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@ladennayoung2939 Unlike you'd having blocked me all together, how come she keeps it I can still leave message on voicemail and I can still text her? That's because I did nothing bad enough she to complain to those handful of my relatives she already knows. She's hoping I'm there when she decides to come back.

  • @amenlongkumer7297
    @amenlongkumer72973 жыл бұрын

    Only a victim can understand the pain of narcissistic abuse. You become numb, just totally numb.

  • @Lanika1979

    @Lanika1979

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes. Im numb

  • @julienromera7916

    @julienromera7916

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Lanika1979 Stay strong

  • @Lanika1979

    @Lanika1979

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@julienromera7916 thank you

  • @shaniecegullison

    @shaniecegullison

    2 жыл бұрын

    So true

  • @Shyrden1

    @Shyrden1

    2 жыл бұрын

    Three years out - it gets better! 😊

  • @andiandi1942
    @andiandi19425 жыл бұрын

    I'm praying for all of us (the manipulated) to heal.

  • @rachealarichard858

    @rachealarichard858

    5 жыл бұрын

    Amen

  • @fatimaruivoteles

    @fatimaruivoteles

    5 жыл бұрын

    🙏💜

  • @estheradao

    @estheradao

    5 жыл бұрын

    Amen. Thank you

  • @kirstysewell367

    @kirstysewell367

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same to you xx

  • @haleymakenna9293

    @haleymakenna9293

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. Same to you too!

  • @narcfree1106
    @narcfree11063 жыл бұрын

    They do not like it when we take our power back and go no contact. They know that they’ve lost at the little game they were playing with us. Stay strong, never go back to the vomit.

  • @user-lc2zi4dl2o

    @user-lc2zi4dl2o

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, my sister accused me of being a narcissist. I started to believe it after receiving NO CONTACT. I went in therapy for two years but neither my psychologist, neither my psychiatrist. gave me this diagnose. Meanwhile my sister is doing the smear campagne against me towards my own family. So when i ask them how my sister is doing, they treat me like a psychopath or a stalker...I mean hello??? And i have developed a Pure OCD because of that. So basically i convinced myself i am a monster. Everything i do or say i doubt. Just wanna say that this NO CONTACT can also be abused and can be very damaging if used to easily. Don't get me wrong: i don't know your personal experience so please don't take it personal.

  • @harveymalice

    @harveymalice

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@user-lc2zi4dl2oif you’re worried that you may be a narcissist, and you’re worried that your family thinks you’re a narcissist, then you’re not a narcissist. It seems like your sister may be one, though.

  • @medic173

    @medic173

    2 жыл бұрын

    I like that comment 😁

  • @abhishekpawar3845

    @abhishekpawar3845

    2 жыл бұрын

    Can you help further... About going no contact..!!

  • @marisanozot2962
    @marisanozot29623 жыл бұрын

    The narcissist has the ability to make the most solid, secure, confident person into a person who is insecure, beat down, and utterly completely devestated. They are that good at manipulation and what's worse, they enjoy that. Time and learning on this topic as well as NO CONTACT heals wounds.

  • @mkwlukas9241

    @mkwlukas9241

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yup happened to me. Had 0 self doubts before but I had to deal with a bunch of trauma because of a narcissist. Luckily I'm back at like 95% fuctionality if that makes sense.

  • @marisanozot2962

    @marisanozot2962

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@mkwlukas9241 keep rocking :)

  • @rogerd3051

    @rogerd3051

    2 жыл бұрын

    I totally agree

  • @thiagogregory1

    @thiagogregory1

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yup. I can attest to this comment.

  • @alphafemale4019

    @alphafemale4019

    2 жыл бұрын

    This is what I feel right now, I was full of life before with my nex and now I am just an empty soul with no purpose of living

  • @jabbermocky4520
    @jabbermocky45204 жыл бұрын

    Narcissists never love you. They can't. They only miss the control they had over you when you get away. They never miss you. They can't. You will be replaced by another source of narcissistic supply. Guaranteed. Even if you can live alone and be OK with that, they can't. Don't look back. It's not worth it.

  • @charlesadams4487

    @charlesadams4487

    4 жыл бұрын

    The perfect evidence of female narcissist vs. real woman. The real lady talks and she's rational in your face why she gives you the silent treatment. The female narcissist gives you the silent treatment with no explanation. It's also strange the female narcissist does not delete your phone number.

  • @nancylasavath5992

    @nancylasavath5992

    4 жыл бұрын

    So true

  • @ms.aquarius4854

    @ms.aquarius4854

    3 жыл бұрын

    💯💯💯💯

  • @bernardbeaudreau7330

    @bernardbeaudreau7330

    3 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely.....they have no soul.......I compare mine to Asimo, the Honda robot.......don't miss her.....as there was nothing but a proto-human being to miss.

  • @lizfavela4420

    @lizfavela4420

    3 жыл бұрын

    Do the narcs ever get that lonely feeling even if they always have new supply ?

  • @kerriannanderson962
    @kerriannanderson9625 жыл бұрын

    When you finally free yourself of a narcissist it is the most liberating feeling in the world!!!!

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    5 жыл бұрын

    It certainly is Kerri!! Keep thriving sweetheart xoxox

  • @williamheinsinger7390

    @williamheinsinger7390

    5 жыл бұрын

    Agreed

  • @ybkbased1466

    @ybkbased1466

    5 жыл бұрын

    Kerri Ann Anderson geah the menatl damage takes a while

  • @karleerankmore363

    @karleerankmore363

    5 жыл бұрын

    So true

  • @karleerankmore363

    @karleerankmore363

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@ybkbased1466 agreed i went from beening heart broken to beening angry not just at him but at the whole world n mostly myself

  • @BellaZella3000
    @BellaZella30005 жыл бұрын

    My narc ex would never ask what he did wrong. he doesn't self reflect at all. everything is always the other persons fault.

  • @itzshawt

    @itzshawt

    5 жыл бұрын

    Bella Zella yeah this was my story. She would always blame everyone else and if she did recognize what she did wrong, she would justify it by saying “I had good reason to do/say whatever I did so get over it.”

  • @rania9590

    @rania9590

    5 жыл бұрын

    Bella Zella this is literally me I’m so sick of it 😡 its always my fault never self reflects always calling me names and tries to hurt me. When i call him out on it he tries to blame me for other uncany shit. Ridiculous

  • @rania9590

    @rania9590

    5 жыл бұрын

    dangboof Ass hole at its finest. Fuck him🖕🏼 you deserve better

  • @raypadmaja1980

    @raypadmaja1980

    5 жыл бұрын

    Correct they have never done any mistake..yeah he used to msg I m sick when I call back he replies I will call later n disconnects my call

  • @MrJayman2828

    @MrJayman2828

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yep! Like what the fuck?

  • @metroguest7385
    @metroguest73853 жыл бұрын

    People like them will grow old by themselves because the people they hurt will no longer be around always remember what goes around comes back around

  • @starsstripes2393

    @starsstripes2393

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yup! It's TRUE I work in a nursing home,the ones that are stubborn and nasty,are the ones with no visitors..and clearly states in their file estranged from family.

  • @michellesam5348

    @michellesam5348

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Jennifer Turi GOD LOVES YOU AND YOUR HEART WILL HEAL. SENDING LOVE PEACE HAPPINESS AND PROSPERITY TO YOU. GET BACK TO DOING THE THINGS YOU ONCE LOVED TO DO LIKE HOBBIES GO OUT SIDE GET SUN LIGHT GO TO A PARK BEST WISHES.

  • @susanmcguire4664

    @susanmcguire4664

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Jennifer Turi seek professional counselling and spend time doing all the things that make you feel happy. I find that spending time outdoors in the beauty of Mother Nature helps me and also listening to a lot of music relaxes me too. Wishing you all the best. Things can and will improve, it just takes time xxoo

  • @joro3038

    @joro3038

    3 жыл бұрын

    Exactly.

  • @mirelladlima5278

    @mirelladlima5278

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Jennifer Turi - you took the words out of my mouth. However we have to forgive them to heal our own broken selves. Because unforgiveness leads to feelings of resentment and hatred which like acid corrode the vessel which contain it.🙏

  • @justyourlittlestar
    @justyourlittlestar2 жыл бұрын

    7 things narcissists do summarized: 1. may express that they’ve already ended the relationship 2. make contact with you about random things 3. may appear to take full responsibility and be accountable and rectify all the things that you continually bring to their attention that were unlivable for you 4. may use other people by proxy to deliver their message of redemption to you 5. may have a tragedy or an issue that they try to get you back with through sympathy or guilt 6. may do terrible things to trigger you and get your attention 7. move on and replace you with new supply

  • @lebraviouswilliamsthe3rd305

    @lebraviouswilliamsthe3rd305

    2 жыл бұрын

    This really worries me, I think I might be narcissistic I dont want to be like this what should i do??

  • @justyourlittlestar

    @justyourlittlestar

    2 жыл бұрын

    ​@@lebraviouswilliamsthe3rd305 hey, if you become self aware and are willing to better yourself, you don't have a lot to worry about. while i'm no kind of expert, therapy could do you good. also, if you look up dr. ramani's channel, it could help you since she's an expert on narcissim and i'm pretty sure she's made content to help narcissits who want to change/be better. best of luck!

  • @lebraviouswilliamsthe3rd305

    @lebraviouswilliamsthe3rd305

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@justyourlittlestar I really appreciate it.

  • @muneyidenis1567

    @muneyidenis1567

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@lebraviouswilliamsthe3rd305 it’s rare fir a narcissist to admit who they are. If you truly are, then I congratulate you for noticing! That’s the first step, next look for a therapist! Good luck

  • @thehulk8099

    @thehulk8099

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks

  • @KO-qo4uq
    @KO-qo4uq5 жыл бұрын

    I’m only 23 days into this ‘No Contact’ I’ve been in this mess off and on for 3 years. I swear this is like counting days from your last drink

  • @lllagasse

    @lllagasse

    5 жыл бұрын

    K O'Conner I absolutely relate!

  • @abhishekbamanna4413

    @abhishekbamanna4413

    5 жыл бұрын

    @lucillelagasse Are narcissistic people bad?

  • @lllagasse

    @lllagasse

    5 жыл бұрын

    Abhishek Bamanna I dont believe they are-they are going through something to that they might not be able to face/deal with.

  • @marshaymarshayy274

    @marshaymarshayy274

    5 жыл бұрын

    Lol frfr

  • @michellef.solomon6245

    @michellef.solomon6245

    5 жыл бұрын

    K O'Conner I feel the same way

  • @catherinetodd
    @catherinetodd5 жыл бұрын

    "Stop trying to fix and heal crazy people... Heal any triggers that come up within you!"

  • @pointsbeingmade7996

    @pointsbeingmade7996

    4 жыл бұрын

    Well Said.

  • @LollieVox

    @LollieVox

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for saying that, that is exactly is the issue

  • @ednaevans2025

    @ednaevans2025

    3 жыл бұрын

    Right

  • @gionagrace6279
    @gionagrace62793 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! Narcs HATE to be in their homes ALONE. I've seen it over and over. They are petrified of seeing their "true self" in the mirror. They always have to be on the go..talking n boo hooing to ANYONE who is willing to listen. Just awful! Stay strong! Praying for all of you.

  • @nathanhatchservices1460

    @nathanhatchservices1460

    3 жыл бұрын

    I got a couple videos of it. Terrifying...

  • @soundtv2220

    @soundtv2220

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@nathanhatchservices1460 what's ur email

  • @melodyleiber8562

    @melodyleiber8562

    2 жыл бұрын

    Narcs hate themselves

  • @tylerdurden2626

    @tylerdurden2626

    2 жыл бұрын

    To your point. My ex a 46 mother and teacher sent me a text the first day last summer in which her kids were with the dad and she had a month off it read.... The kids are gone you can call whenever you want. I though it was so strange at the time. I mean she's saying things I already knew. Anyway she calls an hour latter drunk and talks for 3 hours about nothing. It's true even a little time be herself drove her nuts. When she got the kids back she didn't act as needy.

  • @gionagrace6279

    @gionagrace6279

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@tylerdurden2626 Absolute truth! 💯

  • @luptonwell
    @luptonwell3 жыл бұрын

    After 8 years my narcissistic wife left me for a man 10 years younger thsn her, he was using her for sex and distanced himself when she wanted more, she came back to me but i had moved on, the next decade was spent dealing with her extreme behaviour as she tried to destroy me. Today i celebrate 14 years with my wonderful 2nd wife while my narcissistic ex is still alone and unloved..... karma.

  • @ViralVids-Hub

    @ViralVids-Hub

    3 жыл бұрын

    That's nice to hear man, karma is taking a good care of such situations

  • @gionagrace6279

    @gionagrace6279

    3 жыл бұрын

    Good for you, Dave!! 😍

  • @staciemarie5859

    @staciemarie5859

    3 жыл бұрын

    Mine too...7 years ended with the most gorgeous child. He left us for a woman he married. He signed the marriage agreement along with signing off his parental rights. 9 years later when the wife left him he came back to meet HIS DAUGHTER and start again where we'd left off 🤣 NOT today sir! I have a birth certificate that says my daughter has no father and you don't get to play daddy when it fits your mood. She's 16 now he's snuck behind my back and tried to befriend her on Facebook where she quickly told him he was a bigger disappointment today than ever before in her life and she blocked him. He also sits alone in the misery he's created for himself and I like you sit with so much love and happiness giving my best friend Karma a big high five!!! Karma is incredible and always gets it so right!!! Enjoy that beautiful marriage you deserve ❤

  • @luptonwell

    @luptonwell

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@staciemarie5859 lovely words, thank you.

  • @staciemarie5859

    @staciemarie5859

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@luptonwell Your welcome Dave.

  • @JFairhart
    @JFairhart5 жыл бұрын

    “Free at last, Free at last, Thank God Almighty, I am Free at last.” Being a slave to trying to please a narcissist, is an inner prison. I finally got a prison break....not going back there.

  • @businesslady7840

    @businesslady7840

    5 жыл бұрын

    😆😆😆😆😆

  • @shawngantt5170

    @shawngantt5170

    5 жыл бұрын

    I said the exact same thing when I was finally able to come up for air.lol I still refuse to date five years later.

  • @jamesmuthiani5680

    @jamesmuthiani5680

    5 жыл бұрын

    That's me right now bruv!

  • @dwilloughby13

    @dwilloughby13

    4 жыл бұрын

    Great way of putting it, it is emotional slavery

  • @teebrown9889

    @teebrown9889

    4 жыл бұрын

    JFairhart 😂😂😂😂😂 I felt that

  • @USNBLUE
    @USNBLUE5 жыл бұрын

    Bottom line: Cut contact. Best revenge is BE HAPPY. They hate that. Literally.😂

  • @C3yl0

    @C3yl0

    5 жыл бұрын

    Orphan ye. I just blocked him then he came with stories and then once again went back in his Fucker mode. I just sent him the last loving message and the last black widow kiss and blocked again. 😂 he will have to crawl 5 continents

  • @USNBLUE

    @USNBLUE

    5 жыл бұрын

    C. Huseyin Good for you. Utilize situational awareness because he could become a stalker.

  • @emmagatewood3898

    @emmagatewood3898

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes!

  • @juancarrera657

    @juancarrera657

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yeah when I cut mine off she got more violent ! I went to court the other day and I smiled at her ! And I got women all over the place I got 100,000 girlfriends here in LA I got a girlfriend in the Philippines I got a really nice girl in the Philippines. I had wondered about how to hurt my ex the best way and I think you’re right no contact be quiet because she sure got pissed ! She got so mad she attacked me and I got put in jail for defending myself California laws are government sucks! But in time I won the game! This is good information though because you know it really hurt me deep down inside me and I was really fucked up it’s been almost 2 years and I’m still having emotional problems that’s the truth but you know I’ll never show you that I was on my smiling face

  • @hotmama3172

    @hotmama3172

    5 жыл бұрын

    I just obtained a Permanent restraining order against him cuz he assaulted and harrassed me. Ill certainly be moving tf on👌👌

  • @YGb-127
    @YGb-1273 жыл бұрын

    No contact, silence, dignity = saved my sanity, rebuild life

  • @komalsaraf250

    @komalsaraf250

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes, that should be done. We should try to save ourselves. These narcs can go to any cheaper levels. Best is no response!!! May God help kind people. May God saves us n bless us.

  • @Angel_dragon68
    @Angel_dragon683 жыл бұрын

    This is so true ! Never go back it never gets better the sad part about these videos are most of us only see this after the damage is done

  • @jayedaley2291

    @jayedaley2291

    2 жыл бұрын

    So true

  • @foreveryactionthereisacons1683

    @foreveryactionthereisacons1683

    2 жыл бұрын

    You can say that again. Thank goodness the universe has law's absolutely nobody is above.

  • @brittthecancerqueenempress9137

    @brittthecancerqueenempress9137

    Жыл бұрын

    Right very true ‼️💯

  • @janedoh123

    @janedoh123

    Жыл бұрын

    if i had a super power it would be hindsight

  • @navigategoodluck9069
    @navigategoodluck90695 жыл бұрын

    All these youtube vids about narcissists have been so important to me in this healing process

  • @Noemie291

    @Noemie291

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yet you still look confuse on your pic lol

  • @navigategoodluck9069

    @navigategoodluck9069

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@Noemie291 lol

  • @grichkabogdanoff6244

    @grichkabogdanoff6244

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me too. KZread was my therapy. 200th like.

  • @redherronrecords

    @redherronrecords

    3 жыл бұрын

    For realsies though :)

  • @trishm4613

    @trishm4613

    3 жыл бұрын

    Saved my life

  • @LoverofLife863
    @LoverofLife8635 жыл бұрын

    When the Narc replaced me, I immediately prayed for the new supply. Then, I screamed Hallelujah! 🤸🏾‍♂️

  • @arxsyn

    @arxsyn

    4 жыл бұрын

    Amourex de la vie Muah don't worry, people do see through the Narc... They do leave. My ex... He's getting older and older. His destiny is to die alone, no kids no, future. He wants to live forever. That's fine. He'll be FOREVER ALONE

  • @fabianabenites61

    @fabianabenites61

    4 жыл бұрын

    👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 right? How about when they try to “rub” the new girl on your face to provoke jealousy 🤣

  • @khairunishakhetikheti3273

    @khairunishakhetikheti3273

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@arxsyn serme koi moni nthi magti aapne hmna byhane psisa ne video ditho teni vat karu chi te mne nthi aapiyo bthne mli gyo srr me aapne mar vise bthu lkhi ne aapiyu 6 aavo bnnjna mulkat thya me jya sku tem nthi elsesepachho khoyu boli mne bhu chid mara pasn no jvab naapiyo okser thankyo

  • @jennifs6868

    @jennifs6868

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@arxsyn yes! Mine told me he needs to conserve his energy. Lives with my much younger friend now, (who he had been grooming for years) and considers his passion to be like the embers of the fire; dying, but still super hot. He actually told me this! while telling me that i am still his favorite person, and maybe we can go on vacation together! Time for this 'friendship' to end. Contact ZERO.

  • @siehop88

    @siehop88

    4 жыл бұрын

    I’m currently Waiting to be replaced ... helpppppp 😅😂 he’s driving me nuts

  • @brownjovi
    @brownjovi3 жыл бұрын

    When i met my narc i thought that she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Now... i realize that actually, NO CONTACT is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Freedom.

  • @DailyBootCampLLCFayetteville

    @DailyBootCampLLCFayetteville

    2 жыл бұрын

    Mine have our four month old daughter. Makes me sick I got her pregnant now

  • @tylerdurden2626

    @tylerdurden2626

    2 жыл бұрын

    Female covert narcs are dangerous. After going through it 21 years ago with my son's mom I met another on eharmony who I dated for 4 months. I walked before the discard, her behavior when she thought she had me under control didn't pass my bullshit meter. Pathetic little bitch.

  • @tylerdurden2626

    @tylerdurden2626

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@DailyBootCampLLCFayetteville be prepared-shell use your kid to get at you. Hope for your sanity she finds and marries someone else. Mine did and cheats on him. He has no clue.

  • @DailyBootCampLLCFayetteville

    @DailyBootCampLLCFayetteville

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@tylerdurden2626 ouch

  • @abrom004
    @abrom0042 жыл бұрын

    As someone who sees a lot of these narcissistic tendencies in myself. I ask that you all pray for my true healing. I don’t want to continue to be this way. Thank you for this eye opening video 🙏🏾

  • @nancythornton2947

    @nancythornton2947

    2 жыл бұрын

    Some ofnit can be you mirroring there behavior. Just questioning yourself if your a narc usually means your not.

  • @jayc342009

    @jayc342009

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@nancythornton2947 i hope so, i came out of a relationship with a girl who would often use fear tacticts to get me to "behave" and withhold sex from me too. One night i accidentally nudged her and she woke up and shouted cuss words at me...i did question if i was the narcisist because i felt do beat down and numb.

  • @julielongthorp5848

    @julielongthorp5848

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thankyou for your honesty.

  • @Fexghadi

    @Fexghadi

    2 жыл бұрын

    We all have *some* narcissistic tendencies. It's... normal. Who doesn't like their ego to be stroked, or to be validated? Nothing wrong with that, UNTIL you start manipulating people for your own benefits. That, and of course, narcissists don't give anything back either. It's a one-way street situation and you are walking against incoming traffic permanently. There is no end to the pain... except leaving.

  • @40cclay
    @40cclay5 жыл бұрын

    Hell no. .being with a narcissist is so bad when I left I didn't miss anything, wasn't curious about anything. .I ran and never looked back.

  • @yeahthatsme921

    @yeahthatsme921

    4 жыл бұрын

    Amen

  • @haitiantonice2722

    @haitiantonice2722

    4 жыл бұрын

    Crystal Wilson well said.

  • @saysHotdogs

    @saysHotdogs

    4 жыл бұрын

    You’re a strong woman, probably raised up right.

  • @saysHotdogs

    @saysHotdogs

    4 жыл бұрын

    Holographic Multiverse hey what’s a not true victim to you? You the narcissistic abuse victim gatekeeper? Seriously fuck you

  • @IBeLady

    @IBeLady

    4 жыл бұрын

    @Holographic Multiverse 😂 "Might turn into a block of salt" 😂

  • @serene5345
    @serene53456 жыл бұрын

    Finding out they were a narcissist was extremely painful and devastating. My whole reality changed and suddenly everything made sense. It was very painful to find out there was a reason for all those sad/confused feelings I had whenever I dealt with them. I always thought it was me doing something wrong. It was painful and devastating, but liberating at the same time.

  • @michellerain8221

    @michellerain8221

    5 жыл бұрын

    dangboof same. i never knew about narcissists or this kind of abuse. then i started dating a guy who did all this to me and it fucked me up so bad i even attempted suicide and ended up in a psych ward and it was only then that i realized i was not the problem and as soon as i got out, i immediately cut him out of my life and i feel sooo much better. i can’t believe a person can do things like that to push people to such suffering, but now i know.

  • @CobaltLobo

    @CobaltLobo

    5 жыл бұрын

    Serene dude that's EXACTLY what I'm feeling in this moment

  • @marketaburgetova6061

    @marketaburgetova6061

    5 жыл бұрын

    The revelation was painful and devastating for me too. As you wrote everything suddenly made sense. The constant confusion and questioning myself stopped.

  • @marketaburgetova6061

    @marketaburgetova6061

    5 жыл бұрын

    @dangboof I also had a misunderstending what narcissism is. Lately I heard there are more kinds but I always thought narcissism is more visible even for people who haven't met narcissist before. By the time I recognizd that my ex's beheviour was bad but I was already in it under control and I excused it with his difficult past. I had no idea that all that was a manifestation of a narcissist or sociopath.

  • @darlalong3097

    @darlalong3097

    5 жыл бұрын

    dangboof could

  • @Theshadythrifter
    @Theshadythrifter4 жыл бұрын

    I met my first Narc about 4 months ago... whew! I never knew anything like this even existed! this guy is a text book Narcissist, he literally did everything in the exact order that the professionals suggested. I thought I was crazy at first, like "what the heck is wrong with this dude?", but after careful review and lots of research, I confirmed that he is a Narc. he would literally wait until during sex and ask questions like "are you cheating on me", "are you seeing other men?", I would say no and ask him the same and he would yell "DONT ASK ME ANY QUESTIONS!!!" , or if I asked him anything he would tell me that I don't have the right to ask him anything. I waited to one day after we had sex and he thought we were in a good place and I was so sweet to him then I went home and BLOCKED HIM FROM EVERYTHING! I'm pretty sure he is trying to contact me or maybe not! either way I don't care! best decision ever. I can't imagine anyone putting up with this behavior for years. 4 months drained the shit out of me. I pray for anyone not strong enough to break free. May God protect your state of mind! Amen!

  • @charlesadams4487

    @charlesadams4487

    4 жыл бұрын

    I also went through this in just several months. Now I believe I'm lucky not having sex with crazy female narcissist. Six months ago she said she loves me. Six months later it's what's the meaning of love.

  • @CydonianKnights11

    @CydonianKnights11

    4 жыл бұрын

    I was dumb but she was good at hiding her tail. I was with her for 2 years. When i kicked the leach out she punched me and put me in a headlock because i grabbed the garage opener. I just smiled as she called the cops saying im mentally and physically abusing her because i call her out on her bullshit. She said Im killing people on the streets she said. The cops laughed and asked who has he killed.

  • @lamulata1azuquita128

    @lamulata1azuquita128

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeap glad I found this channel. Dated this guy for almost 6 months this past weekend while he was sleeping I took his phone and checked all his text messages from different women he was talking to smh then on top of that I found naked pics of his ex wife who he had sex with. I confronted him and he said he did cause he felt that he owed her something. He was sending pics to a bunch of women talking about how he wanted to get with them telling them he was horny. He even got with one girl that was his friend. I was so disgusted specially after seeing naked pics of his ex on the phone. He was into his looks lying, cheating you name it. Then he has the audacity to get on his knees to apologize acting like he was crying with one fake ass tear. I told his ass leave don’t call me or text me. It hurt but I’m glad God opened my eyes. He deceived me but I learned my lesson. Not stressing cause God got my back and what goes around comes around!!!

  • @cubistisimo

    @cubistisimo

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@charlesadams4487 I’ve read your other comments. None of them contain a single, tangible thought or idea. The name Charles Adams suggests that you are an Anglophone, but your English is a is abysmal. My guess is that English is not your first language. If it is, life must be a struggle. You either a cretin that enjoys trolling people who are seeking information and support, or you are simply just sick in the head. Either way, that makes you sick in the head. I’ll offer a Hail Mary third option which describes you as someone that might need to go back and try to comprehend what a narcissist actually is/is not.

  • @legalservices8856

    @legalservices8856

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@cubistisimo kinda harsh but I get ur frustration with people who cannot form a cohesive sentence. It's everywhere these days!

  • @celestedemalo1791
    @celestedemalo17913 жыл бұрын

    Married one..and I just found out that I’m not crazy for feeling how I feel and this is truly a thing!

  • @addamstt4941

    @addamstt4941

    3 жыл бұрын

    Trust me.....my family just told me I saved myself from marrying one! Im sorry

  • @davidoaikhena4380

    @davidoaikhena4380

    3 жыл бұрын

    Why will you be! You are not Crazy! Don’t buy it! Don’t think it! They are the ones that are CRAZY

  • @claudiafalcon4915

    @claudiafalcon4915

    3 жыл бұрын

    I married 2 the las one was worse (“better at it”) recently I stop contact is been a couple of weeks since he’s last text trying to make me feel “crazy “. (We have a child together 😩) I’m waiting 😒 for the storm, I hope not because it won’t end up good for him NO MORE😘

  • @teyondamurphy6198

    @teyondamurphy6198

    2 жыл бұрын

    Girl me too! I left his narcissistic ass! It took me almost 3 years of marriage to fully see is narc ways. He hid it and brought it into our marriage little by little over time. It’s such a sad thing for a person to be that way……::::

  • @robertcampbell9946

    @robertcampbell9946

    2 жыл бұрын

    Celeste Delano. My best advice is to get out A.S.A.P because they get worse overtime .

  • @ThetennisDr
    @ThetennisDr5 жыл бұрын

    Sometimes narcs think others are narcs

  • @darlalong3097

    @darlalong3097

    5 жыл бұрын

    juan oleee! So TRUE! and declare themselves to be "empaths" !

  • @SOliveira2010

    @SOliveira2010

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@darlalong3097 my ex husband to T.

  • @SOliveira2010

    @SOliveira2010

    4 жыл бұрын

    Me X husband spot on

  • @nikkik3263

    @nikkik3263

    4 жыл бұрын

    Lol true

  • @linaazmiin7479

    @linaazmiin7479

    4 жыл бұрын

    haha

  • @missq1999
    @missq19996 жыл бұрын

    I'm almost 2 years no contact with a permanent restraining order. I've never been happier!! I have a new man in my life who loves & respects me & my kids. Life is wonderful!

  • @natyamar4615

    @natyamar4615

    5 жыл бұрын

    I would do anything to say those words

  • @LetsTalkGodPod

    @LetsTalkGodPod

    5 жыл бұрын

    What made you get a restraining order ? What was he doing ? Whatever he did You think every narcissist does the same thing after leaving & going no contact ?

  • @TheBkflorida

    @TheBkflorida

    5 жыл бұрын

    Congrats.. hope i can do that someday..

  • @johnna123

    @johnna123

    5 жыл бұрын

    I envy your court system! 3 years after leaving him (15 years of hell marriage), we share kids that he abandoned but court is constantly “looming” so the 2 weeks prior to yet another court date or when his life sucks, he contacts again (and current court orders are in effect so I’m stuck gray rocking- which has been traumatic and triggering-so I have no choice at the point to truly go no-contact, yet). 2019- my health has been damaged bc of his abuse and I’m standing up and ending it. Jan 7 is a big day~ the judge is going to see if he paid up support as well as change our orders. If he didn’t pay, he goes to jail. When the court orders get changed- I’m filing for no contact to me and solely supervised visits for him. Prayers please! His abuse is physically mentally and financially killing me and our two kids (such he is charged with criminal abandonment of). If on Jan 7 (3 YEARS after the kids and I left), if the judge fails us again I’m requesting a change in judge AND state venue (since we live in another state now). The state our case is in absolutely should have marked this as domestic violence but they have ignored it. The state I’m in now doesn’t recognize DV other than physical DV- so DV charges are a loss anyway. 3rd time is the charm- meaning the 3rd year is our END. It’s time.

  • @emilyknight5412

    @emilyknight5412

    5 жыл бұрын

    That’s amazing 🙌

  • @Shlongmaster689
    @Shlongmaster6893 жыл бұрын

    I’m in so much pain. I hope all is well with everyone.

  • @sofumer4124

    @sofumer4124

    3 жыл бұрын

    I hope your doing good now

  • @doomguy4321

    @doomguy4321

    3 жыл бұрын

    It's the first time for me I didn't even know what a narc was until now

  • @susanmcguire4664

    @susanmcguire4664

    3 жыл бұрын

    Sina I encourage you to ask your friends and family members for their support. Take good care of yourself xxoo

  • @whatdhillanwhat

    @whatdhillanwhat

    3 жыл бұрын

    I hope you’re doing better now 💛

  • @doomguy4321

    @doomguy4321

    3 жыл бұрын

    I got love bombed like a mofo, got discarded, then after all that she comes back and hoovers 2 days later 👀 and I had to run her off it was weird while she was gone she was sleeping with other men so she left for 2 days haveing sex with other men then tried to come back wtf lol I wouldn't take her back I deleted my Facebook account cut all ties blocked all numbers the day she left I feel like im going threw withdraws from being with her 😔 Well at least I know what a narc is now this is my first one and it only lasted 6 weeks she had me fooled but never again I will see the red flags next time

  • @asmrmusic1676
    @asmrmusic16763 жыл бұрын

    "If I take care of other people who are sick and broken, they will have the resources to love me." WOW what a lightbulb moment this was for me

  • @rudhisundar

    @rudhisundar

    2 жыл бұрын

    The most under-rated comment on the youtube!

  • @nrgbunni.
    @nrgbunni.5 жыл бұрын

    I’m 135 days no contact. Thank you for the video

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    5 жыл бұрын

    My pleasure Nrg, you are doing great!! xoxox

  • @kimora7964

    @kimora7964

    5 жыл бұрын

    Good well done

  • @lendrury2771

    @lendrury2771

    5 жыл бұрын

    Continued success to you stay strong and focused

  • @lovemecom3832
    @lovemecom38326 жыл бұрын

    Narcissistic behavior of one's partner has somewhat scared the hell out of me because they don't care about our feelings. They are only thinking of themselves and what hurts the most is you're the one to take all the blame even if you haven't done anything wrong in the relationship.

  • @brokenlibrary2591

    @brokenlibrary2591

    5 жыл бұрын

    When a person truly loves you, they put your happiness and well being above all else. Narcy's are chameleons. They can only IMITATE intimacy, caring and emotions but never actually FEEL or CARE about anyone else. If you are into fake love, fake partnership and never having a soulful connection with a partner, stay with your narcy and feed them all your real love and watch it being sucked into the black hole where their heart should be.

  • @juancarrera657

    @juancarrera657

    5 жыл бұрын

    LoveMe,com how did you know about my relationship with my ex partner And Lacie Elizabeth Newell She tried to turn it all back on me it was all my fault what a joke I was terribly hurt by these two people both of them bad news but on the brighter side there is a really great side to the story you’re kind of cute too !

  • @johnlarson727

    @johnlarson727

    5 жыл бұрын

    LoveMe,com I hope everything gets bigger better what a trip this is been I gave so much love and it got spun around and I'm the worst thing since sliced bread I thought I was at fault I thought I was the bad guy till I started doing these forms and listening I'm going no contact day one can't do this no more they're in discard and give me a little bit s in pieces you go right out of your mind you think it's your fault but it doesn't got to move on I've learned so much in these forms thank you too keep moving on for the right person what a tough life is turned out to be but I have faith God bless you

  • @juancarrera657

    @juancarrera657

    5 жыл бұрын

    John Larson Same thing happened to me ! It got really dark for a while I actually thought of suicide I never understood suicide before but I do now. There was one day of clarity when I saw a dark tunnel and a bright light at the end of the tunnel . Today I’m clearheaded and I’m stepping through the light at the end of the tunnel and everything is wonderful and I met a beautiful girl I think is the most beautiful girl in the world actually and she is not narcissistic I went through hundreds of girls to find the one all of a sudden it just happened dating on the Internet really sucks and you never know who you’re going to meet up in a real life either ! Keep going forward thank positive put sticky notes up of what you think a relationship is supposed to be and how you wanna live your life ! Remember other people or pulling for you to recover and live the life that you dreamed that you should live ‘

  • @lorrenaelliott161

    @lorrenaelliott161

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@brokenlibrary2591 and yet I can't but feel sorry for them ... they were not born, they were made... that is why empaths like me seem to attract them I guess...

  • @carolseniours9437
    @carolseniours94373 жыл бұрын

    I left and never looked back...absolutely no contact and my life is so much better now.

  • @elizabethh1815
    @elizabethh18152 жыл бұрын

    I went no contact with my whole family 16 years ago. My mother was the narcissist and the whole dynamic was toxic. I’ve felt pretty much nothing but relief! My only fear was that she could show up again. Never heard a word thank God!

  • @AV-th7uy
    @AV-th7uy6 жыл бұрын

    I couldnt WAIT until my ex-narcissist found a replacement...cause then he would leave me alone. 7yrs later he still hasnt CONNECTED with anyone (go fig) and still pops up in my texts every once in awhile. The key for me has been: 1. Call him out and tell him about his TRUE self ("I know you are insecure and teying to bait me with sob stories...") 2. I moved on, got help, grew emotionally, and am in a healthy stable relationship 3. I did research on narcissism and how to spot it and protect myself from it 4. Forgave HIM and MYSELF. He had a crazy upbringing and a fragile ego, I got that. It doesn't excuse his actions towards me but it gave me insight into him. And as for myself...i had to forgive ME for allowing that fool in my heart. For believing what hebsaid and not what did/didnt do.

  • @nunnayrbznez7745

    @nunnayrbznez7745

    6 жыл бұрын

    he wins any time he gets a reaction out of you good or bad

  • @tanya4485

    @tanya4485

    6 жыл бұрын

    Mine found two replacements and still kept harassing me. At first I was relieved thinking I would be free. It took so much for me to learn how to protect my own freedom. Then I felt bad for the people he replaced me with.

  • @makreacts3494

    @makreacts3494

    6 жыл бұрын

    Or...change your number

  • @michaelcooper9894

    @michaelcooper9894

    6 жыл бұрын

    Bravo to you and your clarity ..... forgiveness can be the single most difficult aspect to confront after experiencing this evil abuse. By educating yourself about the intricacies of NPD, it is possible to arrive at a point of empathy for someone that must have endured such childhood cruelty that created the adult monster we all came in contact with out of what we thought was truth. Moreover, forgiving yourself for not recognizing this in the beginning is a testament to your true being and that you are not afraid to show vulnerability or fear intimacy. Self forgiveness is one of the very last steps anyone can take towards complete healing. By your comment, you've done well. If I may, I'll leave you with a response I've used when the hoovering events come my way and that is to respond to those text messages with "Not today Satan" or "No thanks, I'm not signing up for another trip to Crazy Town, feel free to invite someone else, bye bye". If you feel compelled to respond at all, its best to try using any number of GREY ROCK methods so as to provide absolutely nothing of interest to fuel the narc's tank when they are running low on supply. By doing this, you will arrive at a point where it can become a little game for you to win at each time it occurs. God bless you and remember you are worthy of a better life so make one for yourself by keeping your head high and your story will improve along the way!

  • @meenie007

    @meenie007

    5 жыл бұрын

    A V sounds like my ex. Still healing from it.

  • @original1stmother
    @original1stmother5 жыл бұрын

    I ran and never looked back. He was the shepherd of Satan.

  • @sheilamartin8263

    @sheilamartin8263

    5 жыл бұрын

    I did no contact. I sold my condo to get away than moved into a security building for a year. I met a good caring man and I'm getting married at 42 this Valentine's day. I can't believe I wasted 9 years on a narc

  • @original1stmother

    @original1stmother

    5 жыл бұрын

    Sheila Martin Congratulations to you and yours! 🌈♥️ I’m so happy for you.

  • @notavailable708

    @notavailable708

    5 жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂😂

  • @GameChanger597

    @GameChanger597

    5 жыл бұрын

    That's bc they're literally possessed. Yes they are.

  • @alexvensel5730

    @alexvensel5730

    4 жыл бұрын

    Ain't the the truth. Stay blessed. 🕊❤🌈☄

  • @alex124241
    @alex1242414 жыл бұрын

    Not always true. Some narcs will never look back especially if they know the damage they did was too severe.

  • @supermcfly3103

    @supermcfly3103

    3 жыл бұрын

    agree. I know of my Ex Narc that he NEVER tried to reconcile with his ex or tried to hoover her. He just went on looking for new supply.

  • @ms.aquarius4854

    @ms.aquarius4854

    3 жыл бұрын

    Facts. To walk away from someone after treating them like that and witnessing the damage u caused is evil. God sees it all karma is something u never want to entertain.

  • @phillipumstead7979

    @phillipumstead7979

    3 жыл бұрын

    I believe I did a good job delivering the replacement message. I do believe she sabotaged one of my old associates then triangulated me as the side piece. Regardless I'm safe now and comfortable with peace. I'm doing the work of cutting them off with boundaries and consequences.

  • @maddy4690

    @maddy4690

    2 жыл бұрын

    No. Some don't even know what they have done. They never look back becoz they never cared for you.

  • @dr.swetaparimita1977
    @dr.swetaparimita19773 жыл бұрын

    Going through the comment section is so much healing ❤️ I am not the only one, I feel sorry for so many of us who had to go through this. For everyone, we are all in this together. We'll overcome and find our true love in FREEDOM ❤️

  • @goodprofitf1632

    @goodprofitf1632

    3 жыл бұрын

    I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever you want to manifest within two-day❤️❤️❤️...

  • @goodprofitf1632

    @goodprofitf1632

    3 жыл бұрын

    He is a great and powerful man who helped me manifest my ex three days ago without delay 💯💯💯...

  • @goodprofitf1632

    @goodprofitf1632

    3 жыл бұрын

    WhatsApp him...

  • @goodprofitf1632

    @goodprofitf1632

    3 жыл бұрын

    +2 3 4 8 1 2 2 5 1 1 9 2 2...

  • @Chaysethedream
    @Chaysethedream6 жыл бұрын

    1 year of no contact and life has been amazingly peaceful and stress free for the first time in 6 years. Videos like this are wonderful reminders for me to stay away. I love myself too much now to fall again. Thank you.

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    6 жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome Natasha. I am so glad these videos help. Love and continued blessings dear lady. xoxox

  • @missmaddy4024
    @missmaddy40245 жыл бұрын

    I woke up at 3:30 in the morning to listen to this...did not know what led me here but i believe it is my spirit guide 🌹

  • @neobailey5268

    @neobailey5268

    4 жыл бұрын

    If you wake up at 3:00 a.m. repeatedly, God is trying to get your attention ...... research.

  • @mohicanmowl

    @mohicanmowl

    4 жыл бұрын

    Your brain Is fucked up, stop saying things you don't even know. Jeez.

  • @Tati_Cap

    @Tati_Cap

    3 жыл бұрын

    May they protect you! ❤️💯

  • @nic.d7821

    @nic.d7821

    3 жыл бұрын

    It's witching hour also. I'm the same. I believe my guide was waking me up to tell me that it's now I needed to watch this. Wer on this path to get onto a better one as rough as it is. We will get there ❤️

  • @adimeter

    @adimeter

    2 жыл бұрын

    The Holy Spirit led me here also🙏🏿🙏🏿

  • @loverofthelostnarc
    @loverofthelostnarc4 жыл бұрын

    They don't know what is love, even after loving them so dearly, help them financially, working for them is of no good. Only God can heal them

  • @loverofthelostnarc

    @loverofthelostnarc

    4 жыл бұрын

    @Aish Zahida Rightly said, they have waged a war against God and they are till today waging a war without any remorse, against his creation, whom he made in his image and likeness. I can discern on their behaviour, whenever I see them.

  • @rochelleong3339

    @rochelleong3339

    3 жыл бұрын

    I guess its true. Thats my ex husband😢

  • @bernardbeaudreau7330

    @bernardbeaudreau7330

    3 жыл бұрын

    Well, God made them that way..........not clear he will heal them!!!

  • @debbiedavis6990

    @debbiedavis6990

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@bernardbeaudreau7330 No God did not make them that way. They turned themselves into a narcissist as a child, they went inside themselves, and made themselves a false person, no God had absolutely nothing to do, with turning them into demons, straight from the pits of Hell! Please don’t blame God, for these horrible creatures.

  • @dirisurrezione365

    @dirisurrezione365

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Lovers of the lost narc Some of most nasty narcs I’ve encountered actually proclaim they Love God and are religious. When in reality they don’t... they just use that religious mask to justify themselves. I’m so glad I caught that in 3 months with guys I was dating they are so self absorbed and passive aggressive in the name of Jesus.... lol

  • @hollybauer8439
    @hollybauer84395 жыл бұрын

    When my narc returned and took full responsibility...it only lasted 3 weeks! I endured many more months of arguing and a ridiculous behavior.

  • @dorinat.4182
    @dorinat.41825 жыл бұрын

    Each time I broke the No Contact, within less hours I got back to the battle grounds. And was each time coming out in a worse state of mind, emotions and health!

  • @dorinat.4182

    @dorinat.4182

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much for your great videos! 💞

  • @dorinat.4182

    @dorinat.4182

    5 жыл бұрын

    There were numerous signs (open hand!) what he would do to me like slander, gossip, destroying my reputation etc etc from the very first weeks on!

  • @dorinat.4182

    @dorinat.4182

    5 жыл бұрын

    One question: is it so that the longer one has been in narcissist' relationships, the longer is the healing process to last? I guess so as the formations of the synapsis is a whole lot different over time, yes?

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    5 жыл бұрын

    Hi Dorina, I'm so glad to help love. The answer is, not necessarily. Someone who has been exposed to a narcissist for a longer period of time has taken significant damage but they also might also become aware of a lot of what those relationships are really about. It really is a matter of self-awareness. You are right, the patterns of behaviour and in the interactions between the two really show what it is we are trying to source through the other in the relationship. When we stop trying to get the other person to give us what we need and learn to give this to ourselves then we can detach from the narcissist and move forward in our lives. This does require teaching ourselves new things and changing our patterns. But it's not actually not hard to do and it doesn't need to take a long time to do it. Love and blessings xoxox

  • @nemobard

    @nemobard

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes, I can understand. Still in a relationship with him, still so in line, still hurting every day. And he keeps asking 'what's happened for you to be upset about? ' I don't know why I am unable to walk away. I really thought I was strong.

  • @carmentherese5706
    @carmentherese57066 жыл бұрын

    “To a narcissist you are an object performing a role. There is no one home to really, genuinely love themselves, let alone another. You are simply the being who offers up enough energy to take them away / self medicate them from their own traumas” * *Approximately 16:30-16:49 This is brilliant. Thanks :)

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Carmen, I am so pleased this resonated and helps. xoxox

  • @Ruhelin

    @Ruhelin

    5 жыл бұрын

    That resonated here, too!

  • @elizabethherndon1814

    @elizabethherndon1814

    5 жыл бұрын

    "There is no one home," is the most elegant summary of the whole deal. If a narcissist leaves you for someone else, it's not only not about you, it's not even about their new "love" of choice -- it's all about them. It always is. Everything. Always.

  • @BBGshop7
    @BBGshop73 жыл бұрын

    I'm actually thankful for the comment sections of all these narcissist videos on KZread. This community teaches me a lot. I have cried so much before this awareness.. now I don't cry as much. Thank you. *virtual hug*

  • @caterine4604
    @caterine46043 жыл бұрын

    I decided to give up on him after 8 months. He is really an empty person. Something that has helped me tremendously is keeping a list of the things he did to hurt me. So, whenever I would feel the urges to go back , I would just revisit that list to remind myself once more that there is nothing for me in this relationship. Maybe this tip could help you also. Stay safe.

  • @julienromera7916

    @julienromera7916

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm doing the same thing

  • @julienromera7916

    @julienromera7916

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Nonew Paige Only time will tell

  • @caterine4604

    @caterine4604

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Nonew Paige I really don't think I'll want to do it to myself. Life goes on.

  • @187onamudafuckincop

    @187onamudafuckincop

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ura it does because I always try to make excuses and forget the hurt

  • @Esarubii

    @Esarubii

    2 жыл бұрын

    thank you ! i needed this

  • @tannopk
    @tannopk5 жыл бұрын

    When they ghost you, it’s sort of makes you do crazy things that they would usually do, you really have to snap out of it

  • @macancela

    @macancela

    5 жыл бұрын

    Wow! I'm glad you shared that because I felt the same way. He ghosted after telling me he didn't want to be with me anymore because he just didn't feel like it (after 4 years). I did things that I normally don't do like spam texted him one night and got so mad (i typically don't let myself get so mad). He ended things by telling me that he felt I was restrictive (I'm a strong believer in independence) and I had crossed a line by spam texting him that night (he has spam CALLED me several times in the past). I now feel like he was projecting his actions onto me to make me feel guilty. I know I have flaws but he was rarely willing to talk about our issues in order to find a resolution. I miss him still but I know it was toxic for me. I had broken up with him several times throughout the years but I always took him back after his apologies. This was his first and final break up towards me and he didn't forgive me despite having humiliated myself by practically begging him to not end things. Perhaps it was for the best though. It's hard to let go

  • @libralove2471

    @libralove2471

    4 жыл бұрын

    Moxiegirl what did you do? It’s been almost 2 months and I cry daily! No one understands so I cry in my car or cry myself to bed... it hurts

  • @trudy333

    @trudy333

    4 жыл бұрын

    Libra Nish ....I’m sorry hun same here

  • @dwilloughby13

    @dwilloughby13

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@libralove2471 so sorry, good days bad days hun..I get it

  • @valerinana7338

    @valerinana7338

    4 жыл бұрын

    dwilloughby13 its been 2 months here to, i have never felt so sad and lonley. Why do i miss him.. why :( i almost wanted to call him Today but i didnt ..i hate this feeling.

  • @karishort7561
    @karishort75616 жыл бұрын

    It took 50 years to realize my mother was a narcissist. As a child I knew something wasn't right but wasn't sure what. She wasn't like the other kid's moms...As far back as I could remember, that woman tortured me/ignored me, called me ugly, you name it. I guess I blocked it out. Now, I am in a relationship with a narcissist 😢 I wonder if most women raised by a narc end up with one....Imagine that 😵😵😵

  • @amberclemons5247

    @amberclemons5247

    6 жыл бұрын

    Kari Short I know exactly what you're saying, such a mind fk... hugs to you!!!!

  • @norekoescada3202

    @norekoescada3202

    6 жыл бұрын

    Kari Short yup

  • @ntrottie

    @ntrottie

    6 жыл бұрын

    Kari Short yes, we tend to gravitate in relationships to narcs or vice verse. It’s a learned behavior that we attract that feels oddly right because it’s what we know. When the heavy lifting of healing is complete, you’ll spot a narc before they say “hello”

  • @aliciameeks

    @aliciameeks

    6 жыл бұрын

    Kari Short Same here. I used to believe that I was “making my boyfriends act that way.” A belief my Mother was all too keen to validate. 🤮 After reading “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents,” it was as if my burden of guilt had finally been lifted. I have zero desire to be sucked back into the world of cognitive dissonance, the controlling, the chaos through lies, fantasy and identity/reputation destruction. I have never been more grateful to be AWAY.

  • @karishort7561

    @karishort7561

    6 жыл бұрын

    Alicia Meeks I am on my way back across the map tomorrow. I left him once bc of his tantrums. He talked me into coming back and it was the worst mistake of my life! I can literally feel my skin ripping off tonight as I just now experienced the final discard him telling me to leave and he'll give me $500 to go. I am so mad at my dumb ass self I can't even see straight! Omg. Ugh. I'm in hell all over again!

  • @wowsie1715
    @wowsie17153 жыл бұрын

    They need us more than we need them.

  • @adimeter

    @adimeter

    2 жыл бұрын

    I never would have thought that…they need us more than…

  • @trishakirby4160
    @trishakirby41604 жыл бұрын

    I'm just ready to leave. No matter how much it hurts. It can't be worse than it is now.

  • @aynot2011

    @aynot2011

    4 жыл бұрын

    Trisha Kirby I just left mine hours ago. Known them since 2015, and had a month romantic relationship with them. I choose I’m going to block them on everything soon. You got this. 💕

  • @aprils.9726

    @aprils.9726

    3 жыл бұрын

    SAME!!💯

  • @davidmorgan2863

    @davidmorgan2863

    2 жыл бұрын

    Get out now they Suck gave her a Promised ring and all the fights and disrespect never ends I had bad Asthma wouldn't even call me an Ambulance just laughed. In your face with rage..they are scum male or female and the Demon in there eyes is so unreal keep them away from weapons

  • @Josh-ct6ue
    @Josh-ct6ue5 жыл бұрын

    I just want to be happy

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    5 жыл бұрын

    Hi Josh, please consider signing up for my free resources hun, they are the first step to inner transformation - so within so without www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse Love and blessings to you xoxox

  • @laura-jaynemullins8307
    @laura-jaynemullins83076 жыл бұрын

    Out of all the videos I've watched , books I've read, counselling I've had you have just made me realise my deep rooted problem is I want some one to love me and fight for me . Maybe it's time I start loving me and fighting for myself x

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    6 жыл бұрын

    Spot on Laura!! blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-unconditional-love-is-the-key-to-a-fulfilling-and-joyful-life/ xoxox

  • @tatianahornbeak7185

    @tatianahornbeak7185

    6 жыл бұрын

    Laura Jayne Mullins omg me to

  • @sierranevada531

    @sierranevada531

    6 жыл бұрын

    Laura Mullins thank you for your conclusion....I am facing the same step in life. I think it will be not easy but....it is possible! You are beautiful...whatever they say! you are beautiful in every way.....Wishing you a long happy and healty life...... Jim.

  • @LilianRathmann

    @LilianRathmann

    6 жыл бұрын

    Laura Mullins Amen

  • @michaelcooper9894

    @michaelcooper9894

    6 жыл бұрын

    Amen sister!

  • @MAM-rv3jt
    @MAM-rv3jt4 жыл бұрын

    Feel like a heroin addict right now.... It's the worst feeling in the world

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    4 жыл бұрын

    It is MA M, please consider joining me in the free healing workshop so you can find some relief from all of this ... www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar Love and blessings to you xoxo

  • @Jessica_BR

    @Jessica_BR

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same here

  • @fariwari1

    @fariwari1

    4 жыл бұрын

    How are you feeling now xx

  • @537Chr1s

    @537Chr1s

    3 жыл бұрын

    Same on day 2 of no contact I feel sick. I miss who he portrayed to be but have to face the reality that he doesn’t exist.

  • @tacobelle69

    @tacobelle69

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, same..it’s the same feeling only worse...

  • @tooday1365
    @tooday13653 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. You have greatly helped an old guy of 57, leaving a marriage of 22 years. Too many lies, too many affairs, too many days of fogged thought, losing weight etc. I was either going to go crazy or kill myself. Again thank you.

  • @juiicii1

    @juiicii1

    3 жыл бұрын

    And it’s a totally new world out here. I was with my ex for years and a narcissist found me. It took his bad behavior for 15 months and now I trust no one. My narsacisst knew I had almost no experience in the dating world and exploited me. It hurts so bad. I’m healing from the divorce and from the first many I dated being a narcissist. No contact

  • @rusa4231
    @rusa42315 жыл бұрын

    Empaths and Narcs are like magnets. A deadly combo until one sucks the life out of the other. I haven’t experienced such a mindf#*k in my life! And we all have inner trauma of some sort to fix (however big or small). I agree that work needs to be done to heal our own needs from within. For me, I recognize through life’s beatings that as an empath, either I need to walk away from someone who has inner demons that will deplete me (if they project that on to others) or set up firm boundaries. Narcs do not make the ideal partners in relationships.. but they do teach us lessons about ourselves. I feel sorry for the narc I met in my last relationship. He built his intimate relationships up on lies to hide behind masks.. he did have trauma and there was some psychological issues there for sure but when someone can’t love themself enough, sadly it can be taken out on others. I wish him healing on his own spiritual journey. He is not for me to fix but I hope he learns that he can’t hurt multiple others along the way. Wish your narcs find empathy for others and let them be on their own journey to self discovery and healing.. when your light shines bright, you’ll attract a few moths... shine a little brighter and they might just sizzle!

  • @ladyt_ismyname6643
    @ladyt_ismyname66435 жыл бұрын

    NARCs: I love you = I love that you love me, and they operate on I-HATE-YOU-DON’T-LEAVE-ME!

  • @magicalmaattarotllc

    @magicalmaattarotllc

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sick`! ¥

  • @sacariasears9259

    @sacariasears9259

    4 жыл бұрын

    So true

  • @khairunishakhetikheti3273

    @khairunishakhetikheti3273

    4 жыл бұрын

    Tme btha gmeochhu pasachu vat lkhi6 ma6varsthi karbla gyagti tya gi pen kilyar leti tema maro khorak bnth thyo maro kkhasi oathrs thgya me bhu levigya ne drpar aavi dva kati to chkryhyagya pagma gthnma jga6 temDni dvani alrjo lagi to aepag maro rhi gyao mr sado seda chhu nehvenpagthi chlu vokarthi bhthroom ma javchu ne aekli nthi nikartti sathe hhhhelp joya riksa drpase bive mari bhu6 tene pasgma fechr thy gyu6 te maana drpar6 maadrna kam matr kjeti hti te bthu mara jivvnma vrsothi tha gyu teloko jetpur nnemanu dr vankaner hu hti sicndrbad to maji halt tej hurestr chhu maru plngpa aae6 kem aavu tmara dre jejoya6 tej mukhy nthi jojo mne chhodi ndeta sabnth rakhjo majne yadi mari oanmrthi nkhbr pade pan kam jemate mane joy6 tetne mlvu joya tema koi khel nkrya mne aap bnne maf kajo thnakyo

  • @mywater6796

    @mywater6796

    4 жыл бұрын

    this is true

  • @user-vs4ik3ce4s

    @user-vs4ik3ce4s

    4 жыл бұрын

    Exactly

  • @jenla7242
    @jenla72424 жыл бұрын

    oh my god i relate so so hard to this. Currently going through narc detox - the pain is unbearable. They discard you like you are nothing and its mind boggling. Going through no contact and its so hard, thank you for this amazing video

  • @sunnyd4965

    @sunnyd4965

    2 жыл бұрын

    Does it get better after a year Going thru it now?

  • @jamiemcinerney3287

    @jamiemcinerney3287

    2 жыл бұрын

    If you go back, they will discard you over and over. It is not you. It's them.

  • @DailyBootCampLLCFayetteville

    @DailyBootCampLLCFayetteville

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jamiemcinerney3287 tried so hard because I love her and our daughter. This time I'm not going back.

  • @mitchdee4114
    @mitchdee41144 жыл бұрын

    The best blessing is when you free yourself from a narcissist, you will realize that you have the freedom to be yourself as much as you please. Make new friends and you discover who you truly are as a person that the people who love you always saw you as

  • @catherinetodd
    @catherinetodd5 жыл бұрын

    This is exactly what has happened to me, over and over again, for more than 40 YEARS when I have left the Passive-Aggressive Narcissistic Self-centered, Selfish person in my life, and he always convinced me to go back, and then it starts the cycle all over again. And again. And again. Word for word. I MUST STAY STRONG! And stay away from everyone who always defends and excuses his bad behavior. They've got to go, TOO! 40 years of this s*it and I am almost dead. Paralyzed and trying to remove the strangling vines and cut the tumor out. God Give Me Strength. Gracias, Amen.

  • @tobifreeman4142

    @tobifreeman4142

    5 жыл бұрын

    God bless you, I hope you managed to go no contact still and heal yourself :)

  • @georgeroberts3766

    @georgeroberts3766

    5 жыл бұрын

    I’m in this now 39 years and I just realized she sucks me in beats me up then I run the sucks me back it’s like I’m thinking I’m the narcissist I’m so mixed up she did take her wedding ring off took every pic of me off of her FB and tells me all my kids hate me I have made every one leave me because I teach the word of God she puts me down so bad it’s confusion to the max

  • @georgeroberts3766

    @georgeroberts3766

    5 жыл бұрын

    How do I heal my God

  • @JR-uo4ep

    @JR-uo4ep

    5 жыл бұрын

    Holy shit you don't need that. Surely you don't feel enticed to go back to him.....NO find a counselor. Don't do it! It will end in tears. Don't waste your life like that.

  • @212ministry6

    @212ministry6

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@georgeroberts3766 jesus christ

  • @catweasle5737
    @catweasle57376 жыл бұрын

    Video starts @4:15

  • @Vbanks83

    @Vbanks83

    6 жыл бұрын

    thanks! :)

  • @asj7732

    @asj7732

    6 жыл бұрын

    Good looking out

  • @Kaye_Venice

    @Kaye_Venice

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!!! Also the vid says 7 Things, but it's actually 6; she skipped number 4. Thing 2 @6:03 Thing 3 @8:26 Thing 5 @11:19 Thing 6 @13:41 Thing 7 @16:00

  • @PamelaNotAnderson

    @PamelaNotAnderson

    6 жыл бұрын

    Catweasle thank goodness. She can talk forever about nothing. Defriending wtf?!

  • @DustyinBFE

    @DustyinBFE

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @MrPavySRK
    @MrPavySRK3 жыл бұрын

    Never thought I'd find myself on a youtube video like this but I'm glad I did. I AIN'T FALLING FOR YOUR MIND GAMES KYRA!

  • @jessierex2148
    @jessierex21483 жыл бұрын

    My mother is a narcissist; and I had my 3rd and last child with one. I realized that nothing I say or do will ever make a difference to them. Narcissists have their own reality. It's delusional. My desire to"set them straight" was useless. Really tough when it's your mother, but it was killing me. I was fortunate to get away from both of them. Love the comments.

  • @saramacmillan5364
    @saramacmillan53645 жыл бұрын

    The best way to deal with narcissists is to go no contact and cut them off. Don't engage with them on any level, if you can. Don't engage in the games they play to try to get you to respond. Get up and walk out of the room, like you haven't heard them or saw them.

  • @poisonousgirl7177

    @poisonousgirl7177

    3 жыл бұрын

    best comment

  • @salliegallegos918

    @salliegallegos918

    3 жыл бұрын

    Lol! I did this at work and lost my job, but it was a blessing!

  • @hippiegypsygirl

    @hippiegypsygirl

    3 жыл бұрын

    What if you have a no contact order with them but they got you pregnant during the order and it’s still in place? I want to keep him out of my life forever and fear what he would tell my daughter about me. But is it right to do that to my daughter? It seems like a piece of trash like this doesn’t deserve to know her but I’m afraid she will be mad at me for keeping her safe from his manipulative ways. He was even physically violent and a recovered alcoholic that began drinking again and going crazy on me

  • @MooMooMilk789
    @MooMooMilk7895 жыл бұрын

    I fell in love with someone that I had no clue was a narcissist. The charm that they show you at first, how much fun they can be, it totally distracts you from what is really going on. Of course i picked up signs along the way that she had issues and needed to look inward. I am dealing with my own co dependent issues that have been hard wired into me since i was a child. So for my experience, i went back and forth with this one person trying to get them to look inward so that she could learn to love me again. They play games, they manipulate, they know it hurts you and they get some kind of sick enjoyment from it. From experience, if you are in this cycle, stop making excuses and get out. You can not change how they act, and you also cant take it personally and blame them. As hard as that sounds because they constantly hurt you. But you need to realize they are acting and behaving based off of the only way they know how to act at THIS POINT IN TIME. It is possible that one day they will go through an experience that will humble them more and make them look back and realize how much pain they cause to people. But it is not for you to figure out, and not your responsibility. It is theirs. Good luck everyone, next focus: BEING HAPPY.

  • @shielabonifacio7757

    @shielabonifacio7757

    5 жыл бұрын

    Me also. Sadly because we were engaged when he dumped me like a trash. Now he's coming back like nothing happened. And he even told me his problems with his new girlfriends 😱.. now I really did my best to go no contact .. Thanks God.

  • @Shadow-runner939

    @Shadow-runner939

    5 жыл бұрын

    Ian Brown so true, thank you for sharing.

  • @eddiezacarias433

    @eddiezacarias433

    4 жыл бұрын

    Ian Brown going through the same thing right now

  • @joemanansala6828

    @joemanansala6828

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thanks ian!

  • @deserteagle7704

    @deserteagle7704

    4 жыл бұрын

    Went thru something very similar well after being cheated on beaten & sexually violated & after he stole from me our relationship ended on a horribly sour note & he did irreversible damage this was nearly 4 years ago & it changed me in ways Im not comfortable explaining but yeah Narcs tend to Charm Thee Holy Hell outta you before they abuse, use & violate you!!

  • @user-gm2hv7bw4k
    @user-gm2hv7bw4k3 жыл бұрын

    Its absolutely the worst thing ive ever experienced

  • @lush1276
    @lush12763 жыл бұрын

    So sad im 41 and only have just been seeking advice after briefly dating a guy with inner trauma. He loved bomb me.. Then let his mask slip. A vicious circle of leaving and coming back. Using childhood issues for his behaviour. Of course i tried to help.. But i can't no more. He is right we do have a connection. But i cant be around somone that takes his pain out on me. I no longer want to supply his energy. Im mentally drained and hurting as i detox from him.. I won't change who i am. And i wont allow him to make me doubt myself. 😭 Im now in no contact and i know he has already replaced me.. I meant nothing to him that's the truth. And i cant even describe the pain.. I pray that god will help me to heal.. I pray for us all.. 🙏😭

  • @sunita3062
    @sunita30626 жыл бұрын

    Only one mantra with Narcs: "Maintain" No contact. Dont act on your 'urges' instead listen n follow own inner voice.

  • @achatwithgoitse

    @achatwithgoitse

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thanks a lot! Really.

  • @dashaunajoseph7491
    @dashaunajoseph74916 жыл бұрын

    I'm going to watch this video everyday to keep myself strong 💖💔

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    6 жыл бұрын

    I am happy it resonates with your Shauna xoxox

  • @artisticexpressions8500

    @artisticexpressions8500

    6 жыл бұрын

    That's what I was thinking!

  • @voiceovers7080

    @voiceovers7080

    5 жыл бұрын

    Life With Heaven you’re ok girl

  • @jodiekelly4595

    @jodiekelly4595

    5 жыл бұрын

    I just realised this comment was 7 months ago.... I hope your in a happier place now :). I am you 7 months ago.....pregnant and alone, abused and fearful of the future. It is extremely hard to let go of someone you love because of the pain they can't see they are bringing you. Makes you feel like you're crazy and youre the one who is causing pain so along comes the guilt and then you start speaking and then you get back but then things get worse. argggghhh....... so for now i am going to watch this video daily to keep myself strong also.

  • @joyasmith5358

    @joyasmith5358

    5 жыл бұрын

    Word

  • @dhrubajyoti14
    @dhrubajyoti143 жыл бұрын

    In Narcissistic relationship there's always someone else ready to replace you.

  • @dorathypam526

    @dorathypam526

    2 жыл бұрын

    He is the best when it comes to restoring relationship

  • @dorathypam526

    @dorathypam526

    2 жыл бұрын

    + 2 3 4 9 0 6 3 7 3 1 6 5 0.. .

  • @dhrubajyoti14

    @dhrubajyoti14

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@dorathypam526 i dont want a narc back. she doesnt deserve me. and u stop spamming here

  • @reneef.874

    @reneef.874

    2 жыл бұрын

    Very true, and what that eager person doesn't realize yet is that they're next to receive the same damage. Let them learn the hard way like I did.

  • @PacificNWGrl
    @PacificNWGrl4 жыл бұрын

    Three days no contact and I am shocked at the amount of peace I’m feeling. He went really crazy in the end and I found out a lot of things I’d always had a feeling about. Now I’m free.

  • @myfreedom4959

    @myfreedom4959

    4 жыл бұрын

    how it feels now?

  • @flashmburu907

    @flashmburu907

    2 жыл бұрын

    Oh Jenny, that's soo cool. Don't you dare relapse. You'll regret, trust me. . Keep it up.

  • @adimeter

    @adimeter

    2 жыл бұрын

    Peace pEace PEACE!!!!!

  • @sjparker_nz
    @sjparker_nz6 жыл бұрын

    You know you've just had an interesting life experience when you find yourself in this corner of the internet :) Thank you Melanie, you're giving hope and saving souls with your work.

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Stephen and you are spot on!! Thrive on Dear One xoxox

  • @HanztbhX
    @HanztbhX5 жыл бұрын

    This video made me so emotional. So much of this resonates directly to my experience. I spent so long in emotional turmoil not understanding what I was doing wrong and why I wasn’t enough. I believed that he was hurt and damaged and needed me. All the while he was a pathological and malignant narcissist... I fell for every trick and went through the entire cycle and manipulation. Then once I discovered videos explaining the nature of a narcissist it literally mirrored all the behaviours he showed and all the trauma I went through. It isn’t easy trying to move on, but it’s such a weight off my shoulders to know that I can stop blaming myself, that I can stop asking why I wasn’t enough and why he did the things he did, that I can stop thinking it’s possible to love him better, that I can stop dreaming every night about him, thinking everyday about him and what’s he doing, that I can realise what I thought was true unconditional love, is actually just psychological manipulation, it’s horrible and it hurts but now I know the truth and i can start to heal my broken heart, confidence and Spirit .

  • @karleerankmore363

    @karleerankmore363

    5 жыл бұрын

    Everything you said was my life down to a T i used to think it was me but once we got back to second time n he was worse that's when i found out it was never me with the problem it was always him n my heart goes out to he's next victim it's been 8 months since i left n even now I'm still angry at myself for putting me n my daughter in the position for 2 years of hell

  • @carolellamuch9571

    @carolellamuch9571

    5 жыл бұрын

    I pray that you heal I went through the same you are enough. You're more than enough I hope you find true love

  • @McKenzieRain151

    @McKenzieRain151

    5 жыл бұрын

    Hannah what you wrote about is all I been feeling the last 7 months. I am thankful for this video and your detailed post. Yes, it is great we have these videos and comments. This makes us feel that we are not alone and that we deserve happiness.

  • @adriennegaskin5621

    @adriennegaskin5621

    5 жыл бұрын

    Your story mirrors my story. Stay strong.

  • @angelamcneal533

    @angelamcneal533

    5 жыл бұрын

    Amen!!!! I'm right with you!!!! You can do it and i can to🤩🤩🤩

  • @kaybee1025
    @kaybee10253 жыл бұрын

    When I went no contact 6 years ago from my narc mother and sister; it went from "who gives a shit about you....don't think people are going to chase you down...keep thinking you are that important". ...then "if you don't forgive people, God will never forgive you. ...I will pray for you..." To "I think someone is keeping you hostage....contact us asap...whatever you are going through please let us know".... Won't be fooled again ....not it this lifetime 🙄

  • @westernalliance796
    @westernalliance7964 жыл бұрын

    More than a million views. This is seriously an underestimated problem and it's only getting worse. The world is getting more and more narcissists, we're screwed!

  • @adimeter

    @adimeter

    2 жыл бұрын

    No I don’t believe we’re screwed. That’s why we’re here.

  • @annatiernan9906
    @annatiernan99066 жыл бұрын

    Wow! I did absolutely everything you mentioned, obsessing about the ex, wondering who he was with, stalking his facebook page, etc. And I did feel like I was going completely crazy! It's all I thought about, 24/7. Now, after 19 months, it's a lot better, and I am almost to the point of indifference toward him, and no longer care who he is with or what he is doing. But boy, what a long, difficult journey it has been. BTW, great video as always!

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    6 жыл бұрын

    That's wonderful to read Anna and thank you sweetheart xoxox

  • @cathynycgirl329

    @cathynycgirl329

    6 жыл бұрын

    me too! I even drove past his house to see if another car was there :(

  • @annatiernan9906

    @annatiernan9906

    6 жыл бұрын

    Cathy Ruotolo - Driving past the ex's house was the one thing I didn't do, even though I wanted to, I didn't do it because I was afraid of what I would see. It's fascinating how so many of us do the very same things once we are out of the relationship.

  • @annatiernan9906

    @annatiernan9906

    6 жыл бұрын

    d campbell - Yep, the ex was like that too, I understand how you feel. It really hurts, and they could care less, which makes it even more painful. You will get through it, just take it one day at a time.

  • @352stephanie

    @352stephanie

    6 жыл бұрын

    Anna Tiernan I still can't believe anything he says so supposedly he's been seeing this girl for over 2 months and two other girls but yet every single day at my house and all this craziness time he loves me little ball Super Bowl s*** who cares but we have a kid together and he says he's a better parent than me but yet he won't even watch a son at all when the girl is over and you wanted to do something because I first you said they were friends I'm like well as a friend you know your friends are my friends right nope so obviously I made him basically just admit it and they hate that they really do he pushed me almost show me the ground they are gets Obamacare like freaking big kids their stupid ignorant self-absorbed scumbags they don't care about anything it's disgusting

  • @jojozepofthejungle2655
    @jojozepofthejungle26556 жыл бұрын

    I say narcissists are like having a pet tiger without a cage.

  • @ariahsavagesavage

    @ariahsavagesavage

    6 жыл бұрын

    JoJoZep ofthejungle well put!

  • @yourmomdisapproves7122

    @yourmomdisapproves7122

    6 жыл бұрын

    Most narcs don't eat humans. You know some really scary narcs.

  • @night2102

    @night2102

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thats an insult to Tigers

  • @anajohnson5922

    @anajohnson5922

    5 жыл бұрын

    WOW!!! Very well said.

  • @moroderhead

    @moroderhead

    5 жыл бұрын

    Tigers are loving and gentle and don’t eat or attack their loved ones. Narcissists are evidence that vampires are real.

  • @karlaoates3833
    @karlaoates38333 жыл бұрын

    Everything your saying is so true 36 years married with narcissistic behavior, never knew what narcissistic was till I went to woman shelter! They explained it to me! If your Dating, Married to one, LEAVE! no matter how you feel, LEAVE!, and don't look back! It been 5 years and still healing! Don't try to figure it out! You deserve to be happy!

  • @bluebelle7672

    @bluebelle7672

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hello dear getting your lover back shouldn't be a problem| just got my ex back

  • @bluebelle7672

    @bluebelle7672

    3 жыл бұрын

    Wh@tsp Him

  • @bluebelle7672

    @bluebelle7672

    3 жыл бұрын

    +2::34::80::73::31::74::60

  • @mariodelossantos2798
    @mariodelossantos27984 жыл бұрын

    Im just getting started i havent talked to my ex narc in 5 days im trying its hard but i can do it

  • @J.W1180

    @J.W1180

    4 жыл бұрын

    mario delossantos it’s been a month. I hope your are still going strong, friend.

  • @mariodelossantos2798

    @mariodelossantos2798

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@J.W1180 yes im ok thank u friend

  • @New-jb1tc

    @New-jb1tc

    3 жыл бұрын

    Update?

  • @MidnightSky1821
    @MidnightSky18215 жыл бұрын

    My ex got me to look like I was a narrcist. Twisted everything around to where i did not know who i was and fully belived I was the problem. I then realized there are no satisfying her and she used her high expectations to dangle for me to meet. i hit her up hurt because i was lonely still giving into her ways. Now i am 3 days strong moving forward the best i can in life.

  • @tracysedman9007

    @tracysedman9007

    5 жыл бұрын

    3 days strong myself. I see it all now.

  • @MidnightSky1821

    @MidnightSky1821

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@tracysedman9007 Keep it going Tracy. Best to jusy stay away and know one day you will be loved by someone who truly loves you.

  • @zshanoorani

    @zshanoorani

    5 жыл бұрын

    It’s hard, I am facing it right now. Narcissistic feeds from the information we provide as in we open up to them about ourselves. We give in, we are only objects to them. My ex was full of shit. At one point I stop giving in the relationship. I questioned myself what the heck is going on ?? Why isn’t she sharing anything from her past to me. This was the reason why the relationship ended it. So please don’t call your ex at all. Last time, she told me she needed a nice guy where he does everything for her then she love bombs with manipulative tactics. Plus my ex was so insecure and jealous. I’m glad I started therapy right away. It hurts but it gets better. Keep on moving, work on yourself be the best for you. Some how she will contact you eventually then you will make the right choice.

  • @lis3563

    @lis3563

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@zshanoorani You are so right about them refusing to share ANYTHING from their pasts! My current boyfriend is a narc, I'm in the process of distancing and cutting all ties, and in the beginning he would expect me to tell him EVERYTHING about my past. He's asked weird questions about my past sexual encounters and everything. Then I realized why, so he could throw these things in my face any chance he gets. I'm a recovering addict with FOUR+ YEARS clean and I thought I could trust him and told him things that I've never told anyone and it hurts so deep when he throws it in my face. That shit isn't love. 💔💯 He's a MAJOR Narcissist. Ticks every single box! Huge on gaslighting.

  • @austin31697

    @austin31697

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@zshanoorani me to!!! I stopped giving and helping period. me and her dated then WE MOVED IN TOGETHER,note we both came into the relationship with kids. but she was under this impression that I was going to handle all of the financials while she got to keep hers then I stopped. I was like hell naw,then tried to make me care more for her and her kid and just wanted me to discard mine. these demons are a trip,then she had the nerve to tell me what to do with my kid and how to parent my kid. my kid was 7 at the time while hers was literally 2months old. so yea she was looking for some dude to take her in and cater to her stankin ass. pssh! not I, I rather be by my lonesome. I've spent so much time with me that it doesn't bother me to be alone. I mastered alone time unlike narcs. run from one person to the next. she told me her baby dad was 💩 so I reached out to him on fb and gave him our address and he came to see his son even took him sometimes. the bxtch got mad at me. you made his dad look like shit and the dad was nothing like she described,then it dawned on me that me and her was just her trying to punish him. bxtch dont use me as a pawn in your childish games. get a life you no life low life. & nothing she had she obtained on her own. her grandparents did everything for her got her a car and a job and this itch was high on a pedestal like she was better than others.

  • @toyhaulsandmore4708
    @toyhaulsandmore47085 жыл бұрын

    I blocked mine today on everything and blocked his number

  • @haitiantonice2722

    @haitiantonice2722

    4 жыл бұрын

    Toy Hauls And More well said.

  • @killerwhale5

    @killerwhale5

    4 жыл бұрын

    I blocked him on whats app

  • @StatsPro

    @StatsPro

    4 жыл бұрын

    She’s trying to get to me from various fake calls like internet calls calling me 50 times at night when I call her back to say stop calling me she’s trying to abuse and threatens me with various things I can’t take this anymore what should I do !!

  • @naidzasky5748

    @naidzasky5748

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Aces Do not engage in their sick twisted game. Tell your friends and family to block your ex narcissist

  • @appleunicorn2927

    @appleunicorn2927

    3 жыл бұрын

    How is it going a year later?

  • @shadowlight4711
    @shadowlight47113 жыл бұрын

    I am detoxing this plague I got myself into.. I forgave my ex more than 6 times... never again!!

  • @joycejnn
    @joycejnn4 жыл бұрын

    I am so proud of myself. 2 days ago I told him it was over. He was still wanting to play me and to keep me hanging on for him . I took the power away from him . He hasn’t contact me .

  • @007Fusiion

    @007Fusiion

    3 жыл бұрын

    He might be watching you though...

  • @johnjcc9884

    @johnjcc9884

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@007Fusiion why do they watch

  • @christianpulisic7784

    @christianpulisic7784

    2 жыл бұрын

    joyce jennings,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

  • @jamesarmstrong4179

    @jamesarmstrong4179

    2 жыл бұрын

    joyce jennings,You deserve better

  • @magnolia2
    @magnolia26 жыл бұрын

    🤣 All of these are so true! My ex even got hit by a car & made other people contact me telling me to have sympathy for him. I was just thinking “was it caught on video?!” I’d pay to see that!!! I don’t know nor give a shit about the last one! I do pray for the safety of the next person he’s ever involved with.

  • @pietownprod1031

    @pietownprod1031

    6 жыл бұрын

    Don't do this to me! 😅😅😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @nordiamcfarquhar2850

    @nordiamcfarquhar2850

    6 жыл бұрын

    Beauty Mar the levels 🤣🤣 but I've been there too

  • @nanareyes7691

    @nanareyes7691

    5 жыл бұрын

    I’m dead af 😂

  • @memehall7709

    @memehall7709

    5 жыл бұрын

    lmao

  • @jo_oi1364

    @jo_oi1364

    5 жыл бұрын

    Beauty Mar Were you driving the car?

  • @rebelfoodnurse7743
    @rebelfoodnurse77436 жыл бұрын

    She is just amazing. It all makes crazy sense. What a nightmare these relationships are. The WORST relational pain someone can endure.

  • @bhavikpadia7051

    @bhavikpadia7051

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes these relationships are a night mare... I don't know how to come out of it.they will leave no trial or evidence

  • @darlalong3097

    @darlalong3097

    5 жыл бұрын

    bhavik padia t Yes! Not how I envisioned my later years (72) and not from my own flesh and blood.. insanity!

  • @27boof
    @27boof4 жыл бұрын

    "It's like a crocodile keeping lumps of meat under a rock for a chew later on" LOL!!! :D Love it!! ;) :D

  • @paulpiatt6887

    @paulpiatt6887

    4 жыл бұрын

    27boof lol the Aussie girl would say that lol

  • @27boof

    @27boof

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@paulpiatt6887 Yes! ;)

  • @verdadhurts8497
    @verdadhurts84973 жыл бұрын

    When I found out that the a-hole I spent all week out of town having a good time had moved a girl in with him, When I found out I wanted to die and I almost did, thanks to my family coming to my place and taking me to the hospital, I'm still here. I'm still hurting and cry almost every day. People, please don't hurt others like this..it hurts.

  • @187onamudafuckincop

    @187onamudafuckincop

    2 жыл бұрын

    And they laugh in your face it's so horrible be strong I cry everyday too

  • @carimauk9084
    @carimauk90845 жыл бұрын

    I’m finally starting to realize what/who I was dealing with all these years... it’s like coming out of a bad dream but I was living it. I spent forever trying to figure out what was happening, all the times he cheated and thought I didn’t know and I never said a word.. when I started realizing what was really going on, I wanted so bad to just get away. He said I was the narcissist and that terrified me, he said I was the manipulator and even though I knew all the things he’d been doing behind my back for years, I still tried to see his point of view, his past, on and on I made excuses and I never told him what I knew or how I knew.. he said no wasn’t him, he said photos of him with other women were photoshopped, strip clubs... you name it. I stayed for almost 13 years and this last year was just pure hell. I thank God for divine intervention and showing me what is really going on. I’ve gone no contact and it’s the most peace I’ve felt in years. I’m excited about life again and learning to love who I am, flaws mistakes and all. I just hope he stays away because now I can no longer make excuses for him. He disgusts me. We have a 10 year old child together and I would die before I let him ruin his life any longer and I won’t feel guilty for keeping him away. He’s traumatized both of us for far too long. His other women can have him and his friends, he only uses and abuses them too and I refuse to be a part of any of it anymore, and I don’t care if it takes me 100 years to put my life back together. 100 years in peace is worth everything to me. Life is good again and I can see the light again finally, God is opening doors for me that I thought I didn’t deserve or even recognize. Thank you for these videos and thank you God for saving me before I slipped over the edge and never came back. I thank my parents for loving me, my friends, my children, when I wasn’t able to love myself. To anyone fighting this battle, just know there is hope and a lot of it. Pull yourself away from the lies long enough and hope and peace come flooding back quicker than you can imagine. Forgive them and be happy again and don’t hold onto any of it. Learn from it, grow from it, love yourself enough and release it to God. That is the true freedom. Kevin I forgive you wholeheartedly and I truly wish you the best. I may not understand it all yet but I refuse to hold onto your poison for you any longer. I give it to God. Love to everyone fighting this battle, don’t give up hope. ✌🏼 ♥️ ☺️ I promise you can find it again. Keep your faith and be strong.

  • @mostthegames3723

    @mostthegames3723

    4 жыл бұрын

    Lovely message. Thank you

  • @haitiantonice2722

    @haitiantonice2722

    4 жыл бұрын

    Cari Mauk sorry, now you just have to trust God Only.

  • @themetamorphosisofgipsy

    @themetamorphosisofgipsy

    4 жыл бұрын

    @Sara Allison What a dumb question!

  • @tcbcmoto4895

    @tcbcmoto4895

    3 жыл бұрын

    Well said God bless you and your boy to 🙏👍

  • @Ela.715

    @Ela.715

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Sara leave the child out..

  • @sula1529
    @sula15295 жыл бұрын

    yes their is no one home, they are empty shells , its strange and weird

  • @user-hx2rs4re8y

    @user-hx2rs4re8y

    5 жыл бұрын

    Can't wait till I'm old enough to legally leave my narc parents :/ Already imagining them being empty shells lol

  • @mrmopar8939

    @mrmopar8939

    4 жыл бұрын

    That's true, I don't understand it, I grew up with a brother like that. It is impossible to talk to them and get through to them. The light is on but no one is home.

  • @kathleenlastname9171

    @kathleenlastname9171

    4 жыл бұрын

    Long before I realized this person in my life was a narcissist, I remember coming to the realization that he was an empty shell, just like you say.

  • @arxsyn

    @arxsyn

    4 жыл бұрын

    no to me it's more like looking and talking at a distorted mirror

  • @barbarajohnson1442

    @barbarajohnson1442

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@kathleenlastname9171 I used to think she had a head injury!!!!

  • @SpiralMoss
    @SpiralMoss2 жыл бұрын

    Watching two narcs having a row is absolutely epic, especially in the work place. The absolute lies and manipulation is like something out of a skyfi movie. You couldn't write the script

  • @zubieM

    @zubieM

    2 жыл бұрын

    😹

  • @LOVEPREETSINGH-lk7el
    @LOVEPREETSINGH-lk7el4 жыл бұрын

    I have been no contact with narcissist friend for about 20 days after being with him almost 2 years. He did not talk to me from the last 5 to 6 months. But now I received many calls and text from him in these 20 days but I never reply him. He sent me a voicemail and after listening that I feel like his voice hears like he is in misery and submissive like he used to be in starting. But I'm trying to maintain no contact with him

  • @tallguy8937
    @tallguy89376 жыл бұрын

    Narcissist Abuse is very real. I wish I knew this information 35 years ago. I felt something was wrong with me for not liking my birthgiver. Narcs are sick and it’s mental abuse on an epic scale. You nailed this video. Healing is so hard. Get out ASAP is my advice. Nothing gets better trying to work with a narc, only worse.

  • @kathyramos2924
    @kathyramos29245 жыл бұрын

    I feel bad so bad for him..he needs help but he couldnt control me ..and he hates it.

  • @haitiantonice2722

    @haitiantonice2722

    4 жыл бұрын

    Kathy Ramos they hates it, when they cannot control you.

  • @TheShackbully
    @TheShackbully2 жыл бұрын

    Finally told my narcissist, "I'm done". She replied, "OK".

  • @traincfm

    @traincfm

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lol same… Don’t say nothing back and she will be contacting within a week.

  • @Dandre3172
    @Dandre31724 жыл бұрын

    WOW! Why didn't I see this a month ago? #3 is EXACTLY What happened to me. She came to me and confess all the wrong doings over the 8 years we were together. She told me her childhood trauma. I took her back with boundaries and controls in place. She then begin to become unhinged, started getting depressed, and began to devalue me. Then she became very angry at the end before she started the discard. I then caught her and an old supply together, whom she left to come back to me stating she wanted to change. This is Day 3 of no contact. I am in this for the long haul, especially after seeing how she just did EXACTLY what you described. Just WOW! This just made me furious!

  • @garyweston3269
    @garyweston32695 жыл бұрын

    No contact. Cold turkey, as the saying goes. Awesomest thing ever is to get away. Be happy. The peace is fantastic! Block block block. I could care less what she does. She is toxic, aggressive and heartless.. and I don't need that in my life. Is it easy? No. The peptide addiction is real. Your body and mind are out of sync. Go slow. Work through. Mindfulness. Self love. Be free. Be happy :)

  • @allangraczyk5936

    @allangraczyk5936

    5 жыл бұрын

    What strikes as funny is they can still Love or show affection to their family and portray themselves very well in public. However now I know it may be more than just a NARC, but other BPD disorders she suffers from. I wanted to heal and help her but she cannot control the inner demons

  • @michaelmarquez8213

    @michaelmarquez8213

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Gary Weston

  • @gojohngo106

    @gojohngo106

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thanks.

  • @einarclausen219

    @einarclausen219

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @deveshisingh5510

    @deveshisingh5510

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@allangraczyk5936 I just don't know why I want to help him so bad even after knowing whatever he did, he knew he was hurting me and still did that. I know he can't care about anyone or anything else other than himself but I still want to help him. How to stop caring for them? How much time will it take?? 😭

  • @ME-jw3br
    @ME-jw3br6 жыл бұрын

    I broke no contact after 18 months, thinking he loved me and wanted us to work. I began speaking with him regularly, keeping my guard up and after another year and 6 months of courting I made the mistake of moving back in with him. Biggest mistake of my life. He showed me that I had only had a TASTE of who he really was. After one week of living together he unleashed. Needless to say I got out and I thank God everyday. I have been no contact for three weeks now and pray for strength.

  • @MelanieToniaEvans

    @MelanieToniaEvans

    6 жыл бұрын

    Keep strong Tanya. If you would like to know more about how to heal from the Narcissistic abuse I would love you to connect to my free resources to help you hun www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse You will receive a daily email full of support and information, two free ebooks one on How to do No Contact and an invitation to the webinar, in which you will get to experience a Quanta Freedom Healing for yourself. Love and blessings to you xoxox

  • @ME-jw3br

    @ME-jw3br

    6 жыл бұрын

    Melanie Tonia Evans Thank you so much for all that you do to help people get better after the ordeal. The narc will do a number on you but it's always helpful when we get the support of others who have been there before. Thank you and please keep putting your message out there! You are saving lives! God bless you!!

  • @briannairene185

    @briannairene185

    6 жыл бұрын

    Tanya Eatmon i am reading this three weeks out from your comment, and i hope its been another 3 weeks of no contact! Stay strong lovely :)

  • @TBL727

    @TBL727

    6 жыл бұрын

    Tanya Eatmon: You go girl!!!! I mean it too... go out on the town, go get your hair done, go on vacation or just to the theater or wherever!!!! You keep YOU too busy for the likes of HIM, and you will find a strength you never new you had! Start doing all the things that YOU LOVE and HE HATES. Especially change your hairstyle to one he can't stand, and change your clothing style. As you become happier being you again, girl, you will forget about him. The trick here is for you to deliberately become a woman he would never accept, and to always remember that fact!!! Men are terrified of change, even little ones, women grab the bull by the horns and shake the shit out of it at a moment's notice! Pick about three HUGE, LIFE CHANGING things that you've always wanted to do, preferably things he hates, and just add them to your life a little more each day, until finally, they are as much a part of your daily routine as breathing is. Make damn sure his friends know about it and tell him all about you. Let him squirm, not having control over your choices anymore!!!! Enjoy the no contact as you become your own self. I've been where you are. Believe me, he doesn't love you, he loves controlling you, berating and belittling you, embarrassing you... As he helplessly watches you get over him from the side lines, unable to wipe the smile off your face and make you cry again, owning you, he will blow a gasket every time someone name drops you. Yours is to make sure that your friends do that constantly, and laugh at him like giddy school girls as he throws his hissy fits. Hell have them video it, put it up on several social sites and then make sure he gets the links!!!! Good luck to you!!!!

  • @ME-jw3br

    @ME-jw3br

    6 жыл бұрын

    Brianna Irene thank you so much for your encouragement! Still no contact, Praise God!! I have thought about it because he started his smear campaign but I'm not letting him win. I have my life back and I am happy again and I am SAFE!

  • @nycrawgirl
    @nycrawgirl4 жыл бұрын

    Almost five years of no contact and I am just now free from the trauma. I was slandered; I stopped communicating with all of our mutual “friends;” and I am so grateful to be free. Everything in this video is dead on. All of the comments could have been written by me. Best wishes to everyone. The addiction to the narc is real but you can get through it. You’ll be so happy you came out the other side.

  • @kadielent4436
    @kadielent44363 жыл бұрын

    I used to watch her videos when dealing with this a few years ago. Now, I’m going through this with my roommate and I must say I’m really proud of the way I’m handling this situation. It’s incredibly tough, but I’m tougher 🙌🏼 thank you for all of your help 💚