Point 2. I've dated 4 woman who had terrible communication skills. The one girl actually got mad at me when I was communicating something to her. Instead of getting upset and reacting to her actions. I just communicated like an adult. And it sent her over the edge. I realized she was toxic. When you find a female who can't communicate gents. Run. She still has lots of healing or growing to do.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

@taga912

11 ай бұрын

Been through that too. She couldn't hold a conversation for anything so she didn't talk at all..can't do it..

@Dj-qi2we

11 ай бұрын

I don’t blame any of these women because your better off now then later if that’s how she is imagine you in a relationship or having kids too ,pack up and leave no love lost there because what make you happy is what the other woman have the same mind not making problems and promises for some one who is not gone be happy

@zacktyler2810

11 ай бұрын

If you are handsome, smart, and mature, and the female is STILL worried about height/penis size, she is an immature s*ut who doesn't need love but just wants attention.

@zacktyler2810

11 ай бұрын

​@@Dj-qi2weThat makes EXCELLENT sense. Especially after the first part. 😏

I'm a woman in Australia, and it's interesting to see this list. It's very American. Women in different cultures value different things. For me and many other women, good manners comes high on the list of attributes wanted in a man. It's interesting that it's not even mentioned here.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

@idakt

11 ай бұрын

Now that's real.

@velwear

11 ай бұрын

You’re absolutely correct. It’s more of an American thing when dating the women here. It’s just a different upbringing and totally different mindset in the US. More people here in America are more materialistic of shiny things and objects than countries outside the US… unfortunately.

@heathergrahame9647

11 ай бұрын

@@velwear Yes! How much money a guy has just isn't a major factor for me, yet Stephan talks about it A LOT.

@Thriving_in_Exile

11 ай бұрын

I've been wondering about that recently, actually... different standards across different cultures, I mean. So what's on your list, as an Australian?

I can confirm the Ambition point is true. I have literally been told by women that I'm an ambitious man and it's attractive.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

@danielaragao9696

11 ай бұрын

And I have been critiqued by women for lack of ambition, so it stands true

What attracted me to my husband the most was his character, especially his sense of justice/fairness and his military background. His character as a very moral person and holding himself to a very high standard was extremely attractive to me. After I fell in love with him I began to see him as physically attractive.

It's so refreshing & inspiring to confirm that strong, masculine, intelligent, spiritual men are the ones that seek advice, self-reflect, and do the self-work necessary to be able to have a great marriage/relationship. These are the men women really want.

@Cee_Eff

10 күн бұрын

But constantly reject them because they are "boring" "have dignity" " don't play games " and most importantly no instant "hot chemistry "

In terms of low testosterone, a key factor is a man's use of artificial fragrances (deodorants, aftershaves, etc). Artificial fragrances have a dramatic effect on the hormone system of both men and women. There was one instance I saw where a man who worked in the perfume section of a department store developed breasts and had to have them surgically removed. Although artificial fragrances (chemical fragrances) have a negative effect on health, people use them because the chemicals give a person a "high", a bit like smelling glue or petrol or paint (all these products are made from petrochemicals). That high gives the person a short-term boost to their energy levels and confidence, but, alas it has very detrimental effects silently. These products also contain chemicals which are very addictive (specifically designed to be addictive so you buy more of the product) and cause brain cell damage.

#1 is truth for me. He can't just look like he has money, but am ambitious/successful man carries energy that matches. It makes me feel safe and secure. I don't actuality care for "flashy", but it's his energy and grooming that give me what I'm looking for.

I am struggling with finances but i put it in God's hands and i continue to walk by faith thank you for your videos helping God's people Stephan

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

Excellent observations!! Wise men...Take heed! 😉

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

Love this video Stephan! I agree with everything! Especially the part about confidence and assertiveness! YESSSSS! I am not into men at all that lack confidence or assertiveness. I get turned off by men who cannot be confident or assertive. I love masculine energy and I feel that’s just natural. It’s not natural to me for a man to be a pushover or a doormat or someone who cannot go after what he wants in his life. I don’t like being in my masculine energy. I like having a masculine man and me being the feminine woman. That’s just how I feel it’s supposed to be.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

I'm a woman and I agree 100%. Thanks for the advice for our brothers.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

My pleasure ❤️

Male or female - everything really comes down to self care - self respect - self improvement and consideration of others.. Then you can be great in all areas of your life.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

I agree that confidence is huge! But you should talk about the difference between confidence and arrogance. The line betweem the two id very thin.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

I love this video too. I agree. No goof ball, just us laughing together.😂

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

Money can’t make a bad man a good man

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right!

I’m glad I watched this because my relationship with my fiancée is good but I could always improve as a man

You are an amazing teacher, thank you.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

My pleasure ❤️

Some others are missing from the list.. some guys have good sense how to touch or care woman. Another sense of romantic stuff, creativity, another to be spontanous, not only in bed, but about making programs, thank u make great videos!

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

Another great gem drop 🙌🩷

There was a time when I tought not caring about a man's money was ok, made me a good woman somewhat, wrong! A woman who wants to marry, and a family its very important! And if you as woman want to be a homemaker, even more important! Ofc living frugal is part of the plan, but the man should be provider!

Keep dropping them jewels brobro

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

🙌❤

@thehitmaster102

Жыл бұрын

Makes a lot of since honestly I see all kinds of people in relationships all over the place that do not belong together. Makes me happy that I'm on the road to success I'm hurting financially but I'm striving for more hope and faith will guide me to higher success

The thing I like most in some men is how considerate, helpful, and thoughtful they are. My Dad is that kind of guy. I definitely look for that in men. It's not as hard to find as a lot of people say it is. I think you get what you give.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

Thumbs up to you bro and all brothers

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

❤ 🙌

watching the video now. let me reassure you guys, i know i’m not the only woman who doesn’t even know what he’s talking about in the first point about the appearance of wealth…that’s a requirement for some, but i don’t think that’s the average woman’s expectation, although we appreciate your effort to look nice & cleaned up, some effort made, the whole “does he look wealthy?” question isn’t even a thing for most of us. he goes into more detail & honestly, i’ve never even thought of the things he’s discussing. so, perhaps he’s describing certain wealthy women or gold diggers. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@blossombrown5408

Жыл бұрын

If a person do not know you, they will treat you, the way you dress. I don't know if it's a subconscious or conscious thing, but it's the truth.

@queenkristine9590

Жыл бұрын

@@blossombrown5408 that’s different than wanting your man to look wealthy. or someone specifically looking for the “appearance of wealth”, that is not normal.

@lukas4016

Жыл бұрын

Ok, let's conduct an experiment: Set up two male Tinder accounts. The first one of a lawyer or a CEO in an expensive suit in from of a luxurious house or driving a luxurious car. The other one of a truck-driver or warehouse operator having a regular car and living in a tiny appartment. Let's see how this goes... Good luck with the second one!

@blackshadexl

11 ай бұрын

@@lukas4016we already know the results of that 😂

@lukas4016

11 ай бұрын

@@blackshadexl Why is that? Why a regular nice guy won't even get a chance to talk to a woman on tinder?

Yeah my last gf gave me the silent treatment, would unfriend me on social media, remove me from the security app on the house, she drank, gambled....I need to choose better *sigh*

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

For me, whoever God has for my future, he will be a godly man. 💯 Great video!💯

#2 is 🔥👏🏽

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

2 and 3. Yes and YES ❤

Im a woman and this lets me know my standards have been standard.

I respect you👍

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

I appreciate that ❤ 🙏

I don't agree with the first point. I'd prefer a man who dresses like he's broke and actually has money. His nice clothes aren't going to pay the bills. Take his first point with a grain of salt fellas.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

Thanks alot Stephan.. your contents have been a great inspiration for me as I love to venture into relationship talks also.. Do you think I'd succeed sir?.. I'd be so happy if you respond 😊

I said Money exactly when you did in the opener. It’s allllll about those Benjamin’s. 🙏🏼🌴🐈🐈🐈🌴🏴‍☠️

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

@Jeremiah_29

11 ай бұрын

I assure you that for good women, money is not enough. I have turned down a handsome, multi-millionaire that other women throw themselves at because his character is lacking to me.

To Stephan's audience who watch his videos and say that he missed including one thing or another: Understand, the point of anything he discusses is his superlative ability to teach and disseminate valuable information for those that truly are interested in learning from it. It can be compared to an excellent chef, for example, one who serves a delicious meal. The chef doesn't serve every single food option there is in the entire world at the same time. Instead, the best foods are served with complementing items, each in its own time, based upon the theme of the meal. So, to all of you out there listening, understand, he is not going to be able to hit every single point there is on any particular topic and/or at any particular time. But, for those inclined, our mission as positivity seeking continuous learners is to identify the "golden nuggets" that could work in our lives and learn from them.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

❤ 🙏

I don't agree with number 1. I like simple man and for me it matters when the man can manage money in a healthy way.

@StephanSpeaksforMen

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

For those calling these American values & upbringing….. it shouldn’t have to be stated because, obviously, he’s American and speaking from an American culture. If you can relate then relate. If it resonates then appreciate it!

So I’m not trying to disrespect you in anyway. I enjoy listening to your advice. But the video title is about looks, but I’m supposed to look like I have money????? I only make this point because looks are looks. Looking like you have money still falls under the category of looks. Am I wrong? Or misguided? Again, no disrespect. I watch your content to learn something about healthy relationships. I watch your videos for men and women. I want a healthy romantic relationship. I know most people will assume I bring this up because I am broke, or unattractive. However I am not broke, I have a successful business, my own house, I drive a high end car, I dress in nice clothes, my bills are paid. I have money to pay my bills for several months. However to maintain the success I have, dose require me to think, plan, and forecast for potential economic changes. On a scale of 1-10, I am a 7-8. I’m 5’11”, 130 Lbs. You make a lot of other great points in this video. I can make jokes and be funny, but maintaining the success I have, brings out my serious side. I am confident, however I am human. And that confidence takes serious hits from time to time. And I believe it takes time to build it back. ? I also would say that I am ambitious. My situation is my situation. The big misunderstanding I have is the title of this video, is looks. But looking like you have money!!! ??? Again no disrespect, you make a lot of good general points. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

@joykorshiwor699

11 ай бұрын

Looks is more like physique. His point is talking about appearance or how you present yourself as a person

@TomikaKelly

11 ай бұрын

Collectively, humans are trash. They judge each other based on looks, thus, presentation and appearance is important. Even if you don't look wealthy you must look well put together. P.S. You're so skinny!

Its only looks my guy!...

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

Looking rich and successful is called working the gimmick. You have to know how to act rich, to appear as such. I know several women who are good at this.😂

After watching this I think it’s safe to say sometimes creators miss the mark, and this was definitely one of those times. A quality man focuses on the intangibles, and likewise a quality woman looks for and values those intangibles. A great example of this is Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively (yes, I know they’re celebrities but stay with me). Blake praises Ryan not for his money, status or even ambition-outside of being an A-lister he owns several big brands-but she praises his humility, his incredible discipline and sacrificial spirit as he does a lot of charity work to little fanfare, and has pulled all-nighters and flown across the country at a moments notice to still show up for their children’s milestones, even if it meant coming home from a shoot still in makeup. I wouldn’t care to appease a woman who looks for anything as trivial as money or the appearance of it.

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The appearance of success 😮? SMH

@StephanSpeaksforMen

11 ай бұрын

❤ 🙏

Lol...like you wouldn't want to take someone like Joe Biden to a party...oh lord have mercy!!!!

@StephanSpeaksforMen

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

😣 'Promo SM'

I won't date a woman that's not financially stable so why should I expect any different from them? I have no problem with women expecting a decent amount of "financial stability". If a chick doesn't have a job, car, her own crib and is paying her own bills I don't care if she's a 9 or 10, I'll pass.