I've always been a list maker. If I have a lot of boring, mundane things to do at least I feel I've achieved something at the end of the day!!

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Me too

my Darling husband seems to be progressing so quickly...he is nearly non verbal except for a sentence or two and short sentences. seeing his beautiful smile and him crying are lesser and lesser...we listen to his favourite songs and he used to cry and now, his eyes just seems empty of emotions but I know, he is listening...I tell him...how much I love him and I would never leave him...that was his fear when he was still more lucid...he would say...to never leave him and I assured him...I never will...I am with him daily at the Care center daily...travelling 3 bus rides each way...I love him soooo much and pray that he would not suffer in the end...looking back over the 15 yrs...he has had the symptoms and this last 4 yrs....I knew something was not right...but he refused to see a Specialist until the day, he had to be rushed to emergency...I pray for all patients suffering with this illness as well as their loved ones grieving the loss of a beautiful mind and soul....Thank you for this video.

This was very helpful as my husband has gone from Stage 3 to 5 in less than a year and sleep especially has increased. He also has Parkinson's which exacerbates all the symptoms. The VA has given me 40 hours/week or home assistance which has been invaluable. When a memory care facility is required, he will be going to the Delaware Veteran's Home because at only 75 currently the civilian facilities are generally women in the 80s and 90s. Thanks for your informative video and God bless your work.

i have also notice that the person is sleeping longer hours

This really helped me understand the stages so much better.

Vicky, these videos are priceless. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and your thoughts! Listening to you is like listening to a trusted friend! Thank you!🥰

I know this video is old but I have just found you. I've already learned so much from you. My brother has dementia & I've been devouring info & videos. Thank you so very much for your expertise & great info.

You are saving my life. Thank you very much.

Nana is currently stage 6. She does have some “spark💥” moments when she’s able to tell stories and talk to you functionally in great detail or sing, and other days she can’t talk in complete sentences or even eat properly/use bathroom without help.

Beautiful job again; love you Vicki!

Hi Vicky, Patty Ahalt suggested I look at your video on youtube.. thank you, as always, for all you do for caregivers.

Thank you so much for your videos...they are so helpful to me.

Thank you for your videos, they are so helpful.

Very informative video, thank you so much for the info. 😊

This video helped me understand better what my aunt is going through. She stopped eating a few days ago and is no longer alert or speaking. 😢💔 Thank you for sharing the info on the different stages.

Good, clear description of the various stages.

Thank you for your vlog. I like that you talk in every day terms. Not medical jargon. I look forward to more info. My husband is in between 2-3.

Knowledge is power. This is so helpful.

Thank you for the info.

Wonderful, thank you!

Very helpful, thank you

You are wonderful. We are in the process of getting my little momma in a nursing home. I think it's topped as one of the worse things I've experienced, along with the loss of my Dad last year. My mom it's in stage 5/ showing signs of stage 6. Keep your videos coming they help

@DementiaWithGrace

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! I have been having some health problems, too, so hopefully I am on he road to recovery and will be back at video making soon! Come join the group! I'm inside there every day! Link in comments! Vicky

Thank you. I love the way you explain things. I believe my momma is in stage 6 although she is having trouble finishing her sentences and gets choked 3 or 4 times a month.

Subscribed and I want to tell you that I enjoyed hearing your explanations of the stages. I have a friend who has been diagnosed I don’t remember what stage it’s early but knowing all this makes it easier for the caregiver I think to know what’s coming and how to prepare for it. I myself about lol maybe a year year and a half ago. I started noticing things about myself and so I’m not in denial. I know things are coming. Probably that I don’t want to have happen But. i’m eating years old now and I’m going to try to hang on as long as I can keep my mind safe. But I know life takes its toll but thank you so much for making these videos. They’re very informative and helpful. Thank you again.

Very helpful.I love your attitude . Thanks for sharing your knowledge it helps me stay sane when dealing with my mother

@DementiaWithGrace

3 жыл бұрын

I’m glad it helps you! Come over to the group and find loads of support from me and everyone else!! Link in video description!! Hang in there!! I’m rooting for you!! ❤️❤️❤️ Vicky

I so appreciate your videos

Thank you for this video.

Your video at tonight was very helpful. I’m here taking care of my mom now & Trying to understand her changes.

@DementiaWithGrace

3 жыл бұрын

Let me know if I can help any further. ❤️ Vicky

Your examples are so spot on!😅

The Grace videos are GREAT WONDERFUL HELPFUL 😮AND HARD😢.THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH FOR LETTING US KNOW EVERYTHING THAT WE NEED TO TO KNOW GOD IS USEING YOU IN GREAT WAY.😊

I am going crazy!! from the time I moved in with my mom her disease has progressed, she becomes so mean and hurtful she had me in tears a few times. i don't know what to do anymore, I am desperate in need of help. she does not trust me and makes up all these lies hides her bank cards, she doesn't understand that she has medical bills that need to be paid and for her personal use. she hides everything and doesn't know where she put it.

@DementiaWithGrace

4 жыл бұрын

Lorraine Siri come on over to the Facebook Group!!!!!! So much help over there. Hundred of ACTIVE caregivers to help in real time! Link in video description! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

@lorrainesiri5720

4 жыл бұрын

@@DementiaWithGrace how do i link in video

@lorrainesiri5720

4 жыл бұрын

@@DementiaWithGrace Do you mean click on your videos

Super helpful! Thank you.

Thank you for this. I feel like my mom is in mixed stages. Short term is most clearly impacted. But sporadically she loses the sequence of things that happened in the past. Or she will be confused if I have siblings (I have 3 older sisters, she is our step mom but helped raise us for 40 years). The concept of what is safe and isn't is clearly not there! But I can still see some of her actual personality come out still.

Excellent video

I just found your channel and appreciate you so much. My husband has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease and I didn’t know anything. His symptoms are all over the board but I believe that he is in early to mid stage. His neurologist is not very encouraging at all so I am looking for support from others. I am not on Facebook so not able to join your support group. I really appreciate all you’re doing and will follow you on KZread. I live in Alabama so I instantly connected with you. Thanks again

Thank you, like your videos

Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. My mom was just diagnosed but is obviously in stage 6. She is having tons of hallucinations & paranoia. I am trying to gain strength for the future by arming myself with information.

@DementiaWithGrace

5 жыл бұрын

Connie Pavey I’m glad you found these!! Come on over to FB and join the Support Group. It’s a great group of people who offer help to each other! Link is in every video description. ~Vicky

@Lisa-xf5uf

Жыл бұрын

You aren't alone. It's hard. ❤

Thank you so much. I learned so much. I needed to find support as I'm pretty alone in this situation.My Dad is in stage 6. I was able to get him in memory care. I'm so very thankful I found your videos. ❤💙

@DementiaWithGrace

2 жыл бұрын

Big love! ❤️

@cindypatrick785

9 ай бұрын

I can relate to your situation.I was able to have my daddy live in a mobile home on our property for the last 7 yrs and we enjoyed many good times together .We both love gardening,vegetables and flowers,we played board games as long as his mind allowed him to,we watched travelogues of places in Wyoming where he worked on ranches as a 13 yr old. Unfortunately my daddy’s mixed dementia escalated quite rapidly after he had an ischemic stroke in 2020 and he demanded more of my time than I could physically and mentally give him.(I also have my 74 yr old husband that has disabilities himself and my 88 yr old momma that lives near me too( parents divorced 27 yrs ago). Daddy got pneumonia aug 12 and after just 1 week of hospitalization his dementia escalated to the point that he needed 24/7 care. Daddy was extremely lonely and told me “ I don’t want to live alone w just my dog anymore,I wish I had died before it came to this😢” So he is now living in an Alzheimer’s unit at a nursing home 5 minutes from me and he is much happier being w the 16 other residents just like himself. It is hard on me , I miss seeing him around my house, but I take solace in the fact that he is happy and feels secure there. I am able to take time now to build my health back up after feeling so exhausted from my caregiver role most of my adult life. Wish you the best w your dad🙂❤️ 9:35

You are the very BEST ❤

My loved one started to hide 'valuable' things about nine-ten years ago. She didn't put them in a lockbox--she hid them. I put it down to her usual paranoia, but now I'm wondering if it was a sign... especially since she would forget where she hid them sometimes.

Hi Grace..Great Job

Hello Grace. I appreciate your videos very much. My wife and I are currently going through these processes with my Mother in Law. Although she has not been officially diagnosed by a doctor, we are relatively certain that my wife's mom is in stage 5-6. We see overlapping of the stages as she displays behaviors of both 5 and 6 tbh. She is currently 95 years old. I just subscribed to your channel. :)

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful!

Thank you!

Thank you for the videos, my MIL is at the end of stage six and enterig stage 7 and unfortunately she has vascular dementia and as you know that is very aggressive, her doctor said she probably only has a year left.

@DementiaWithGrace

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for your journey. Consider joining the group...link in description...so much support and advice there...Vicky

Thank you for sharing

@DementiaWithGrace

2 ай бұрын

My pleasure!

Thank you so much for taking the time to help those of us who are caregivers

Thank you for a description of the stages Dementia x

@DementiaWithGrace

10 ай бұрын

Come join the group for more support! m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace

You were brilliant

Thank you for this great dementia video!

Thank You so much! What 'stage' is Paranoid? They accuse you of stealing when they actually misplace. Accuse everyone of stealing.

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

Susan, it can be in for but more commonly in five. I have a video here in the channel about false accusations. Maybe look for that one for help

i love your videos please give me some advice!

Thank you for your video I can learn what stage my husband now he is dementia

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

You are welcome! Prayers for you and your husband…

Is my mom between phase 5 and six? She's confused where she is (nursing home). She still seems to have good memory, but can't do things for herself any more. She just sits there all the time. She is very demanding, calls and messages several times a day. Constantly has demands about seeing doctors, needing medicines, certain foods, this goes on all the time. We are far from her and busy with our lives and cannot cater to her every whim. She on and off forgets to use her phone, will then swear at me, not realizing I can hear her, even when she can't hear me. I'm having a tough time. We were never close. I was physically abused by her my entire childhood.

Excellent

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😀

Well, I make list. I have my whole life so I guess I’m in stage three …I’ve never heard of such a thing being a thing… I’ve made a list my entire life.

Thanks for the info. I believe my friend is bridging 5&6. He can still eat, he is hanging in to dressing himself. He’ll put different shoe on but will put them on the right feet. He get aggressive at times. Hates and I mean hates bathing, love to play with the toilet love to see the water go down. He’ll throw thing it to watch them disappear 😂. Live in his youth. We tell him his age and he say there is no way he is that age. He says he is 30. He recognizes himself when he was in his early twenties but not anymore. He remembers my friend but not anyone’s else. He feeds himself and dresses himself and will straighten out/ make his bed. He is always saying he is going home referring to his home when he was a kid. He is always looking for his parents. It’s absolutely 💔!!!. But he is with friends and we give him 24/7 care. He is with use because his family didn’t want the responsibility of caring for him. But he is safe and healthy!! Oh and he love to dine out everyday. He always has. That’s one thing he hasn’t forgotten eating out

Where can I find a website to find these stages? I was a dementia care nurse and never heard of stages. Thank you.

Can you speak to those with vascular dementia? Thank you.

do you know anything about Posterior cortical atrophy. my wife was 54 when she found out and now she 58 and I think she is in stage 6

Very True the 3rd stage very true.i never realized I just thought it was Mom getting older Mom would even tell me that. My Mom calls the residents at nursing home Sisters. Mom calls me.Ur my husband.

I kept waiting to see the 7 stages. Took at least five minutes to even get to stage 1. Should have shown it up front.

@DementiaWithGrace

3 жыл бұрын

This was one of my early videos. Please look at the other stages video on the playlist. I have a video just on 6/7. Thanks for the feedback.

I have mci, but it is progressing in my opinion. I have a lost day in August of last year. I have hallucinations. Going to Dr in May for testing.

@DementiaWithGrace

5 жыл бұрын

Jaci Rogers all my love, Jaci Rogers. ♥️♥️♥️ How brave you must be. If I can help in ANY way, say the word.

@beckymelton5968

5 жыл бұрын

Prayers for you!

With my mother I would put her at stage 6 or 7 but quite good physically. 92 but nobody can believe it because she has got such good skin and still good muscle. Its vascular dementia and thinks she is back at school age 6 or 7. Not able to communicate very well any more and most of the other signs of someone at the late stages but every 2 weeks she will have 2 consequtive days where she is in great form where she'll walk off down to the sitting room herself and a little bit more responsive than usual..... this has been happening for the last 4 to 5 months

Can you help tell me your guess of what stage my mom is in? She must be helped from bed into a chair or toilet seat but a few times she's been able to walk to the restroom which is a few feet from her bed! She has hallucinations and babble talks at times but sometimes she can carry on short conversations with me. She sees people who have been dead and speaks with them. Sometimes she knows me (her only daughter) and sometimes she doesnt. She must be fed pureed food. She has a very good appetite. When in her wheelchair she feels the need to use her legs and feet to pull herself around the whole locked unit at her nursing home. I have to hold her still to get her to stop and sit and talk with me. She falls alot. She isn't aware of what she's wearing or how she looks at all. (she was a very vain and beautiful woman and cared how she looked before) She isn't able to do puzzles or any activity that requires thinking. Her caregivers at the nursing home tell me they think she is in end stage dementia. Her neurologist diagnosed her with Alzheimers. I just dont know what stage she is in and how long this will last! She cries almost all the time and seems so afraid. It's all heartbreaking. Can you help?

Stage 5 or 6, but husband can shower but makes a list, I keep his medication and times are off.

Whats the time lune once in stage 7

I make lists every day as I am a teacher with 5 preps and live by myself. Lists = stage 3? I'm screwed 😢.

@DementiaWithGrace

3 ай бұрын

DONT WORRY!!! Your life requires lists!!! As most of our lives do. This is outside the usuals. For instance, I have temporal lobe epilepsy and have short term memory loss. When I start a load of laundry I set an alarm to move the clothes from wash to dry, then set another alarm to remind myself to get out of dryer. Now any of us might forget we started a load of clothes, etc. and need a cue. But if *I* don’t set those alarms, I LOSE the load. Does that make sense?? Its lists at a whole other level!! Don’t despair!!!

I am housekeeping for a man..I thought he was narcissist but after listening to this I think maybe he has dementia....how can I tell difference?. He's alone in the world...me too...how can I help him?😢

My father is probably at stage 4-5 and his doctor will not help us. He does not believe it is as bad as it is. My father is denying everything and will not cooperate. If we get an attorney, my father will not agree to anything and his doctor will not help us. What do we do if nobody will cooperate and my father's life is falling apart? I've tried calling the Veteran's Administration and they will not call us back. I'm at a loss of what to do other than let him get in a bad situation where he sees that something is majorly wrong.

@j.c.469

3 жыл бұрын

Jen C...having same problems with my husband. Three years ago I phoned 2 of his doctors to express my concerns. Doctors offices called my husband to tell him I called them and wanted permission. Past Sept husband hospitalized for 3 weeks severe kidney issues, before they released did testing etc told me he had moderate Vascular. Husband denies it, tells everyone he passed cognitive testing with flying colors. He also has white matter on brain. I hate all this.

@DementiaWithGrace

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, that is usually what happens. Something major (hopefully not tragic) happens and it wakes people up to the truth. I would suggest calling your local Area Agency of Aging and asking for help in your area. N4a.org

❤

My dad was diagnosed as stage 5-6 vascular dementia 4 months ago following an MRI. He has lived with me for 12 years and I can now connect the dots as to why he has had certain behaviours over the years. I don’t know how long it will be before he needs full time care. Does anyone have an idea how long this could be? He is still very verbal and can cook, tidy up etc but has recently stopped showering and changing clothes as regularly as he was two months ago. Any help is appreciated xx

@DementiaWithGrace

3 ай бұрын

Hey! Thanks for the question…the ballpark is 2 years, but everyone is different. I hope that helps

@ChilledOut

3 ай бұрын

@@DementiaWithGrace thank you for your reply

There is a person here trying to market a video that says that Dementia can be identified early through certain speech patterns that are manifest as early as 3 years prior to an official diagnosis. He specifically states that the over usage of 3 words by the individual in particular will point out the key to knowing that a dementia diagnosis is inevitable. Of course you watch the video and you never hear what the words are, you need to pay money to get that information. Just wondering if you have ever heard of anything like this in terms of early detection for Dementia??

@DementiaWithGrace

6 жыл бұрын

George Klassen thanks for the question! There seem to be some indicators, that if you KNEW what to watch for, in restrospect , would have clued you into a problem earlier. However, there is not consensus. I don’t know of any “three words”. One of the things that people talk about the most is the “clock test”, and there are researchers that believe if we started that simple test early, we would see some interesting changes early on. Unfortunately, there are people who take advantage of desperate families trying to find a “cure” or something to help. Thanks again for the question!

@onthehill3381

8 ай бұрын

My mom is 89 and has dementia. When she was about 60 she constantly repeated the same five stories over and over again but otherwise functioned normally and was still working, etc. She still does this of course. I wonder if this is a precursor.

After my mom cannot swallow anymore how would I feed her ?

❤ty

You missed passwords!

i think i am change 2

Jeez according to this I am in at least stage 3 or 4 😂🙈

How much time passes between each stage usually?

@DementiaWithGrace

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the question. It is very individual. The generally reported guidelines are from 2-4 years, but the MOST ACCURATE predictor of how fast each stage will move , is how fast each stage HAS moved. Hope that make sense!

@cindypatrick785

3 жыл бұрын

My daddy is just entering stage 5 and the progression of his Alzheimer’s seems to be speeding up . His hearing aid “dr” says due to the fact that my dad has severe hearing loss and doesn’t wear his hearing aids as much as he should, that that is speeding up his mental decline too. So I think his Alzheimer’s will progress faster than usual.

My Mother is in a home, but she's in a hospital, a motel, or an apartment...

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

The brain seeks patterns . For ex: when we look at clouds, the brain may see a teddy bear. Intact brains, and mid dementia brains. So her brain is trying to make sense of her environment. She may see something she has recognized before, and apply it to her current environment. It’s fascinating really. Sad, yes. But also a peek into the brain. All my love as you navigate the journey. Vicky

And...what are you supposed to do with them when THEY expect you to do everything? I am a single childfree lady and I am NOT a caretaker. Mom was always a narcissistic mother diagnosed. The other siblings went no contact bc of her abuse and neglect over the years. I am working 3 jobs, she refuses to let me get her a helper yet expects me to do everything. News flash...I CANT.

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

Bless your heart. I see your other comment too. Dementia is a cruel, catastrophic disease and it lands in a family like a bomb. It leaves no one untouched. I’m sorry the onus fell on you to care for her. I have a couple of other videos that I will post here. One on narcissists and one on caring for someone who you don’t “love”…other people label folks as your “loved one” with dementia. I know that’s not true in all cases. That’s why I use the term “person with dementia”. I will post those other videos. Below. Take care of yourself!

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/c6WnpMh9lMisaMY.html

@PS27760

Жыл бұрын

@Dementia With Grace thank you for being g so understanding. Many say "but THATS your mother." Well they need to see the real person behind that front door. I now video the bratty behavior. A man at senior services told me to "Document EVERYTHING, COVER YOUR A$$"...(his words, not mine). I am videoing everything

My grandma had dementia not because she was old because she had to wear a mask when she was sleeping dont know what its called she was close to 75 when she got dementia.

@DementiaWithGrace

5 жыл бұрын

Ghosthunter775 thanks for your comment!

@ghosthunter7757

5 жыл бұрын

The mask was called a cpap I know what its called

@beckymelton5968

5 жыл бұрын

I wear a c-pap. I’ve never heard that it causes dementia.

Some of these things happen to people when they’re teenagers. A lot of organized people or people with OCD make lists, it does not mean they’re in any stage of dementia. I could go on and on. This list I don’t know where it came from but my God don’t ever put your family member in that hospital. Wow

@DementiaWithGrace

4 жыл бұрын

Of course you consider these things in context! If I can answer anything more specific, I would be happy to help!

could they also be able to bathe themself use a bank card but dont know that they are living in their own home

@DementiaWithGrace

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, if they are suffering with delusions AND dementia. Come join the group and ask questions there! More people than me can answer!! Link in description

Medical doctor explains how to improve Alzheimer's: @

She always yells, shouts, flips me off when I leave...cause she's 86 and says she wants a job. Omfg. She's mad that I have a job and she doesnt. Wth.

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

Here’s the other video. I shared one under your other comment too! kzread.info/dash/bejne/c6N7u6-Bcqupdbw.html

@onthehill3381

8 ай бұрын

I caregive for my mom. She is 89. Every morning she thinks she has a job to go to. She’s thrown a bar of soap at me, attacked me with a wrench and a stick. I feel like she’s pulling me into a grave with her. Two years ago she blurted out that she put a baby girl up for adoption. Something she’s kept from us. Turns out it’s true and wish she kept it to herself. My sister lives two hours away. She calls her to tell her I’m “incarcerating” her.

Work on saying um less

@DementiaWithGrace

5 жыл бұрын

Jeff Shipp thanks for the comment! Have you watched some of my newer videos? I THINK I am getting better. 🥰 Done is better than perfect!! Be well! Love and Joy! Vicky

@DementiaWithGrace

5 жыл бұрын

Jeff, check out this one. Less um’s! kzread.info/dash/bejne/mp-GuqqSlc7RfMY.html How did you find me? Do you have a connection with dementia? I just do my best to get the info out there!!!

@shiptastic

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Grace. You are blessed to take criticism well. I am impressed. I will watch your next video for sure. I am suffering a good deal and doctors are trying to figure it out. I hate comparing symptoms on the internet to self diagnose but there is something cathartic about. You were a top result from searching early signs of dementia.

@DementiaWithGrace

5 жыл бұрын

Jeff Shipp Bless you. Watch this one. It is about my journey with my chronic illness, and why I do what I do and how! I will link it. Hold on!

@DementiaWithGrace

5 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/mp-GuqqSlc7RfMY.html love and joy! Vicky

I watched this to learn more about Joe Biden.

♥️

@DementiaWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

All my love, Cindy